It was winter in Boston and
For the first time in three months. You’ve hit the habit of hitting the snooze button
There are so many people in the world and you know that you may see this right now
And you have these incredible ideas and what you think is missing is motivation
This is not true because the way our minds are wired is
The fact about humans is that we are not designed to do things that are uncomfortable
Or designed scary or difficult our brains
To protect us from those things because our brains are trying to keep us alive and to change in order to build
Work for the best parents to have the best spouse to do all those things that you know you want to do with your
Life in your business with your dreams You may work to do things that are difficult
Uncertain or scary that puts this problem for all of us. You’ll never gonna feel like that
Garbage drives you feel just motivated to do things that are easy, right?
What do you think what is oh I know exactly why this?
Because I had studied this a lot because for me one of the hardest things to know was why it was as well?
it is difficult to
Do small things that will improve my life and
What I have come to realize and what we will talk a lot about today
But the way our minds are designed is?
Our minds are designed to stop you at all costs of doing any business?
It hurt you and the way that that happens to all this is that everything starts with something super subtle
That none of us ever catch this is with the habit that we all have that nobody is talking about
We all have a habit
hesitant
I have the idea that you are sitting in a meeting you have this incredible idea instead of just
You know saying that you’ll stop and you should take it now
Does not one of us realize that when I was only hesitating that moment that tiny minute moment?
The frequency sends a pressure signal to the brain
Alert your brain and your mind suddenly goes. Oh, wait a moment to wait. Why is hesitant?
He did not hesitate when he put on his killer sneakers. Did not hesitate with the track pants really wonderful
Did not hesitate with NASA T-shirt now
He hesitates to talk something that must arrive, until then your mind goes to work to protect you
It has a million different ways to protect you and one of them is so-called light effect
It’s a well-known phenomenon where your mind grows y risk of pulling you away from something that he realizes is having a problem
And therefore
You really can
Trace every single problem or complaint in your life to silence and hesitation
These are decisions, what I do and what has changed. My life awakens and realizes that garbage drives
I’m never gonna feel like things that are difficult to hard or uncertain or scary or not
So I need to stop waiting until I feel it and number two
I am one decision away from completely different from marriage
Completely different life completely different function completely different income completely different
Relationship with my children do not like one decision
I divorce you in the example of marriage, but one decision on
You know you can have a conversation with your wife and you feel your emotions go up and
Within a small window those feelings
Can it take more and can affect how your marriage goes or you?
Learn how to master that minute moment and
Make a decision to act in such a way that the transformations in fact your marriage and your life come to your decisions
And if you change your decisions, will everything change?
I was 41 years old and I was unemployed
my husband
The restaurant started working. It was his dream that
This is actually a funny story when the laid-off got a big job in high technology
I think he feels really relieved you know a lot of us waiting to leave our work and we get put in early
He said: I’m not gonna find a job
I’m gonna go into the restaurant business
I think I told lines months of our marriage at that point. I looked at him and I said listening friends
Inspiration for strangers gets your butt to this business and pays it off
The small moment is back where I’m being jerk rather than being a supportive wife
But this is an example of where he said he was not gonna. Go for a job, but it was a wonderful start up business
First there was fear and even fear and decision making for me. I love that
You can share this even though this is very powerful
OK
So what happened was that it was the first restaurant on its territory and of course what to do when things worked out?
You grow really big, so they decided to collect some money and
We threw in the equity line of our savings university students?
They tried to open a second and a third and at the same point a grocery chain encouraged them to go wholesale
I got that ground base way very big very quickly and the wheels started out of the stadium and they came out that badly
The second restaurant failed
Which they occupied in the very long period like so many of us do it another trick our brains play we called the costs sunk
When you throw tons of time and a ton of money into something really hard to give up on it, if you are
They have not done so in business. We all have a relationship
In our past stay way too long. That was the trick of your brain player
Even at the time they closed the second restaurant. I have been losing $ 800,000. I
I do not mean that means we have a full right home equity line that means
Call the kids I get throttle just so just think about how
So terrifying was I found myself at the age of 41 just like feeling full
Failure did, even Chris and
To make things worse not only did we lose all our savings
But many friends and family members have invested
So there was this real tension between what was happening and what I had to do in public places
Because it was a public business shame not embarrassment and began a franchise to hit the house
The phone started to ring and it was not only collection calls, I just remember the feeling
This is a huge shame and at some point
I think we all hit that moment in life where things are not just going
How I thought it would go and what is amazing about those moments is that we are all
Responded very differently, so my husband had a spring out of bed
And that he will go right until it is at six in the morning
And he will go meet his partner
They will go to the bank and they dig right in and they will face their problems face to face
I am also an intelligent man
I mean, he does not want to be at home when you will. I woke up because I was
Raging bitch at that point in our lives and the reason is that when you are scared
I was scared and I was jealous, and I was soaked with emotion
It is much easier to point the finger at other people
This decision by the way certainly one might not be aware that you are making but you are still making it
So what could happen to me is what Chris would have ended up completely opposite
The alarm goes off at 6:00 in the morning
I would lie there, I would think of a franchise on home, I would think about
The bankruptcy we were facing I would think about how much we fought the night before
I would like to think about the fact that I was unemployed and
I would like
It’s news about
And why do you get up when your life is like that?
Why do I mean I need confidence?
I need the courage I was tapped up from the wokent I know it’s in the scheme of life
Pressing the snooze button is not great in reaching an agreement
But here is something about life. None of us wake up and say today is the day that destroys my life
What we do is that we kind of check out for
It is overwhelming feeling or we check because we are afraid or check because we start listening to
Doubt-self and then make these little small decisions
The decision not to get up on time a decision does not eat the right thing a snap decision in your children’s decision
Do not speak at a meeting decision not looking for a job
The decision not to deal with your money decision not to call the doctor
The parrot is
Throughout the day these small decisions are taking you so far
Then wake up as you did not and you look at your life, you think how the hell did not get here?
More importantly, how do I get back there
You have no idea so it was so trapped I know of your story
I felt the same way as if I knew there was more for you
But can not figure out how you can close the gap. How to find power? This is?
How to discover your greatness? How do you solve these problems that feel overwhelming?
When you mean I would go to the grocery store and the items will be cleared
I would be sitting there reading me an excuse for
There was no room that my check company was going to work clear
And therefore
What I got into this conflict with myself is that many of us find ourselves
In this is you get trapped in what I call the Knowledge Work Gap. You know what to do
But can not seem to make yourself do it right I?
All of us mean Google Search is one away from a list of instructions that if you follow any of them
It will change your life
But how can you get out of your head and
Stop thinking about what you need to do and actually do it and in my case this stuff was very easy
Get up on time
Making breakfast for the kids getting on the bus to start looking for a job would be nicer for Chris
Do not drink much instead of isolating yourself pick up the phone and call a friend
Get yourself out to the woods and go for a walk back start up like all these small things that you are capable of
But I could not get out of here
We can not get out of here, and if you’re stuck, that’s the problem the problem is you’re in your head. I was thinking
This is a global problem
It all begins with this knowledge of what to do, and then you hesitate and you think about whether you feel like you are
Do this even for a few months. You really hung up. II would get Chris up at 6:00
I’d hit the snow and then I’d hit the nap and then the nap that the kids miss the bus and then every night I care
Do the same thing you go in bed. Have you ever had one of those nights?
Maybe before you start your own company, but where to go in bed, you’re just fine. Tom. This is
Tomorrow, it’s me new
Tomorrow
Tomorrow
I’m gonna get up on time. I’m gonna go to the gym. I’m gonna search for a job
I’m not gonna drink too much. It will work amazingly
My new future Lee Wow let’s do this right then go to bed and
Wake up after seven hours, you like. I really do not mean it’s the only WHOO
This is stupid in seat motions because it is there when you need it ever
Never ever, and even here is what happened to me, thank you for wearing NASA T-shirt. It’s a really stupid story
It’s a strong story, so
One night Chris went to bed. You may be struggling struggling struggling. We still have all the same problems
We par excellence on a house still facing bankruptcy are still fighting like crazy. I was still unemployed
He still has not yet responded to such a solution yet for business
I was about to turn off the TV and there on
TV. There was this rocket fire, and I thought, my God
Like a rocket ship like NASA here and fired me from that bed, I step will work quickly I do not think
I’m gonna win my mind
Now here is the point I really interesting
We talked a lot about instincts and inner wisdom
And
We can get to it a bit later
But many of us are talking about the fact that you have instinctive feeling but what about this research?
I have done the book and all the talk I do is what I’ve discovered this
Really fantastic when setting goals when you have an intention in what you want to change in your life
Your mind helps you to do what it opens up and bookmark it
Then go your mind to work to try to remind you of the intention that you said
And it really is
Important to develop skills
I say this word purposefully skill knowing how to hear that inner wisdom and that intention of kicking in and
Tends to him quickly. For me saying my mind this is all right there
Move as fast as a melting missile
I want to change my life, I think most people that are miserable
Or that are that are in fact love to die to be great and die to have more we want change we want to
Live a better life. We want to create more for our families. We want to be happier
The desire is there
Again, but about how you can go from knowledge to deeds so the first thing in the story that is important is to realize that answer
It was me and my mind was telling me to pay attention
It could also be perfect
Anyway, the next morning the alarm goes off and I?
NASA pretended there was a dumbest story. I literally went 5 4 3 2 1 I counted loudly, then stood up
I will never forget standing in my bedroom. it was dark. It was cool
It was winter in Boston and
For the first time in three months I have been beaten by my habit of pressing the snooze button
I could not believe it, and I thought I’d wait a moment
Countdown which is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard in my whole life well the next morning
I used it again and worked the next morning. I used it again and worked the next morning
I used it again, it worked and then I started to notice something really interesting
There were moments all day long
All day long just like that five second moment in bed
Where did you know what I should do?
If I do not move within five seconds
My mind will intervene and talk to me out of it
Each person may have a second window five shorter for you
You have about the second five window that you can move from idea to action before kicks your mind on full alert
Destroys any change in behavior
Because remember the wired brain to stop you from doing things that are uncomfortable, uncertain or scary
It’s your job to figure out how to move from those ideas that can change everything
To work on in the smallest moment for anyone right now at home. Who’s thinking like this sounds very simple too easy
Talking a bit about your community to read some of their comments is that he is crazy
How many people like the sheer volume of people you quote in your book?
But if you also go online
Just take a look at people that are like direct access to you they are
The sheer number of people that have stories about the base is five seconds
Well one of the reasons why I’m so excited about this book and look do not have to buy the book
This is an idea that you can use it free
Science-supported More than eight million people around the world have discovered this
As you know, you were talking about how many people we heard from more than 100,000 people in 80 countries
They used this rule. We know of eleven people who have stopped themselves from killing themselves
Use this for us. I saw one of those yes. Yes really
There is a guy Steve who wrote to us who is a veteran that he was suffering from PTSD
Take the ferry outside to jump over
He walked into a railroad
His inner wisdom began in
At that moment the base Five seconds Five four Three Two One Countdown moved away from the iron barriers
The request for help saved his life
His story has inspired countless other people who have not heard me in the speeches I give around the world about this one tool
So you know the thing thing that is very cool about this
I would like to tell you the science behind it because I will work to be honest with you
It was stupid that I thought I would find myself after eight years of discovery
Spend my days
Tell people about the five seconds rule above all I would have chosen a different name because it reminds you where one you are?
You love to pick up food within 5 seconds off the floor, right?
It was my secret weapon. This was nothing. I did not intend to tell anyone
Because I went from waking up on time and waking up on time to shake my whole life
Because when we understand the power of the second decision 5
You have to realize that you always have the option of moving from autopilot to decision-maker
Everything in your changed life will be a different negotiator. Sales will be different
You will be unstoppable in the gym because you will realize the amount of trash
Which is set in the way of your dreams of your abilities of your own confidence of your courage
Everything comes to the decisions you make and we all know what to do
Does anyone of us know how to make ourselves so I?
Research began is why nothing stupid work?
Why is not something so silly creating such a powerful and profound change? OK? Here why?
The rule is a form of knowledge
Metacognition is where fancy pants mean a real simple thing
You can overpower your brain
at
In furtherance of the objectives
The tricks that you can use that most of the tricks actually play your mind on you
And in order to promote a higher goal we all know this you can
Restrain yourself if
You are in a situation that calls for it. You can jump into the raging river to save your dog or your son
You can direct yourself in ways
If it is important to you
Thus the rule of what it is doing is that it is nothing really wonderful when you count back five four three three one
What do you actually do?
Did you stop what researchers call custom rings?
Which gets encoded as closed loop patterns in your base, nodes
This is part of the brain where your feelings or emotions are
All the habit that you have which is nothing more than the behavior that you repeat
That you do not even think I’m not referring to it gearbox yes turning your attention
Yes, so when you go 5 4 3 2 1 it cuts, what’s going on here?
This spinning without thinking and moving and awakening
Your frontal lobe crust
So when you hit one
The habit has been interrupted, so you’ve stopped the self-confidence you’ve probably stuck in your kids
You’ve stopped wanting to grab for a drink you’ve stopped
Procrastination I also countdown
Free it’s awake suit and your frontal lobe crust
This is part of the brain you need this awake when you change behavior when you learn new things
When you press one button, it’s also prompt and so in the search language
You will hear people talking about
Ritual start that
However this is something that’s proven to help you learn this new habit
Five Second Judgment When repetition becomes a ritual of beginning you are called to act confidently
Who is running you that this is a moment of courage trick to turn the gears
Because you have also done the manual labor of awakening the part of the brain that you need to change
You have set yourself up for success
It does not work if you count so that you can hold on and counting too it does not require focus
If you count back 5 4 3 2 1 it awakens the frontal cortex again
It prompts you to move when you start using it and then read about it
You’ll see that it’s being used everywhere
They are used in the armed forces to reconcile the soldiers and get them to start exercising
They are used in primary schools
5 4 3 2 1 Great associations for a huge room full of kids stop talking is a simple and interesting example. Yes
Because it requires you to focus. It’s not usually
You will usually become demanding that you have the courage to trust but initially it was
Breaks the patterns of behavior that you did autopilot
It helps you to take control and teaches you how to become the kind of person who moves from thinking of something to reality
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