FIND YOUR WHY – Simon Sinek On Success In Life | MOTIVATIONAL SPEECH!

let me tell you how I find myself here

let me tell you how I find myself here today my pursuit is a personal one that

today my pursuit is a personal one that

today my pursuit is a personal one that is not an academic one nor has it ever

is not an academic one nor has it ever

is not an academic one nor has it ever been a commercial one my pursuit began a

been a commercial one my pursuit began a

been a commercial one my pursuit began a few years ago when I lost my passion for

few years ago when I lost my passion for

few years ago when I lost my passion for what I was doing I ran my own small

what I was doing I ran my own small

what I was doing I ran my own small business and after a few years of doing

business and after a few years of doing

business and after a few years of doing that my passion went away I can’t

that my passion went away I can’t

that my passion went away I can’t explain it I kind of put it any other

explain it I kind of put it any other

explain it I kind of put it any other way

way

way I didn’t enjoy get out of bed anymore

I didn’t enjoy get out of bed anymore

I didn’t enjoy get out of bed anymore people gave me silly advice like do what

people gave me silly advice like do what

people gave me silly advice like do what you love I was doing the same thing I

you love I was doing the same thing I

you love I was doing the same thing I didn’t love it anymore you know follow

didn’t love it anymore you know follow

didn’t love it anymore you know follow your passion yet we all know that but

your passion yet we all know that but

your passion yet we all know that but how do you do that these are not helpful

how do you do that these are not helpful

how do you do that these are not helpful and so I can I enter droite can best be

and so I can I enter droite can best be

and so I can I enter droite can best be described as a depression where being

described as a depression where being

described as a depression where being the leader of an organization where

the leader of an organization where

the leader of an organization where people relied on me for direction and

people relied on me for direction and

people relied on me for direction and intent and salaries and everything else

intent and salaries and everything else

intent and salaries and everything else I doubted my capacity for leadership and

I doubted my capacity for leadership and

I doubted my capacity for leadership and the biggest mistake I made that I

the biggest mistake I made that I

the biggest mistake I made that I learned the hard way is as a leader I

learned the hard way is as a leader I

learned the hard way is as a leader I did not have to know all the answers and

did not have to know all the answers and

did not have to know all the answers and if I didn’t I didn’t have to pretend

if I didn’t I didn’t have to pretend

if I didn’t I didn’t have to pretend that I did that was the biggest mistake

that I did that was the biggest mistake

that I did that was the biggest mistake that I made I always thought I had to

that I made I always thought I had to

that I made I always thought I had to know the answers and I thought that if I

know the answers and I thought that if I

know the answers and I thought that if I didn’t I had to pretend that I did and

didn’t I had to pretend that I did and

didn’t I had to pretend that I did and the more that I pretended that I had all

the more that I pretended that I had all

the more that I pretended that I had all the answers or the the harder my the

the answers or the the harder my the

the answers or the the harder my the harder getting out of bed every morning

harder getting out of bed every morning

harder getting out of bed every morning became to the point where I became

became to the point where I became

became to the point where I became depressed and it was a discovery that I

depressed and it was a discovery that I

depressed and it was a discovery that I made that every single organization on

made that every single organization on

made that every single organization on the planet even our own careers always

the planet even our own careers always

the planet even our own careers always functions on the same three levels what

functions on the same three levels what

functions on the same three levels what we do how we do it why we do it those

we do how we do it why we do it those

we do how we do it why we do it those three must be in balance we all know

three must be in balance we all know

three must be in balance we all know what we do that’s the job we perform the

what we do that’s the job we perform the

what we do that’s the job we perform the actions we take our MOS whatever the

actions we take our MOS whatever the

actions we take our MOS whatever the functional things you do what do you do

functional things you do what do you do

functional things you do what do you do I am a student what do you do I’m a

I am a student what do you do I’m a

I am a student what do you do I’m a teacher whatever it is right some of us

teacher whatever it is right some of us

teacher whatever it is right some of us know how we do what we do these are the

know how we do what we do these are the

know how we do what we do these are the things that we think make us different

things that we think make us different

things that we think make us different or special or stand out from the crowd

or special or stand out from the crowd

or special or stand out from the crowd the reason we think we deserve the job

the reason we think we deserve the job

the reason we think we deserve the job or the promotion of the recognition what

or the promotion of the recognition what

or the promotion of the recognition what makes us better than everyone else right

makes us better than everyone else right

makes us better than everyone else right what what’s your unique ability but very

what what’s your unique ability but very

what what’s your unique ability but very few of us can clearly articulate why we

few of us can clearly articulate why we

few of us can clearly articulate why we do it we do and by why I don’t mean to

do it we do and by why I don’t mean to

do it we do and by why I don’t mean to make money I don’t mean to protect the

make money I don’t mean to protect the

make money I don’t mean to protect the nation those are results if you do your

nation those are results if you do your

nation those are results if you do your job well the nation will be protected

job well the nation will be protected

job well the nation will be protected they’re not the reason that we get out

they’re not the reason that we get out

they’re not the reason that we get out of bed in the morning philosophically

of bed in the morning philosophically

of bed in the morning philosophically they may be but nobody jumps out of the

they may be but nobody jumps out of the

they may be but nobody jumps out of the bed and in the morning going another day

bed and in the morning going another day

bed and in the morning going another day to protect the country it’s just not

to protect the country it’s just not

to protect the country it’s just not happening and so realizing that I didn’t

happening and so realizing that I didn’t

happening and so realizing that I didn’t know my why I became obsessed with it

know my why I became obsessed with it

know my why I became obsessed with it and I figured out how to find my why and

and I figured out how to find my why and

and I figured out how to find my why and more importantly I figured out how to

more importantly I figured out how to

more importantly I figured out how to help others find theirs and not

help others find theirs and not

help others find theirs and not surprisingly as we do when we discover

surprisingly as we do when we discover

surprisingly as we do when we discover something beautiful we share it with the

something beautiful we share it with the

something beautiful we share it with the people we love you see a great movie you

people we love you see a great movie you

people we love you see a great movie you tell your friends go see the great movie

tell your friends go see the great movie

tell your friends go see the great movie you know we do that all the time and so

you know we do that all the time and so

you know we do that all the time and so having restored my passion to levels

having restored my passion to levels

having restored my passion to levels that I had never experienced before the

that I had never experienced before the

that I had never experienced before the first thing I did was tell all my

first thing I did was tell all my

first thing I did was tell all my friends I told my friend about this

friends I told my friend about this

friends I told my friend about this thing called why they had to learn there

thing called why they had to learn there

thing called why they had to learn there why and I my friends started making

why and I my friends started making

why and I my friends started making crazy life changes changing jobs

crazy life changes changing jobs

crazy life changes changing jobs changing careers feeling the effects

changing careers feeling the effects

changing careers feeling the effects that I had felt their passion restored

that I had felt their passion restored

that I had felt their passion restored to levels they too had never experienced

to levels they too had never experienced

to levels they too had never experienced prior they invited me to their homes to

prior they invited me to their homes to

prior they invited me to their homes to share it with their friends I would

share it with their friends I would

share it with their friends I would literally show up in someone’s apartment

literally show up in someone’s apartment

literally show up in someone’s apartment and tell their friends about this thing

and tell their friends about this thing

and tell their friends about this thing that I had discovered called the why

that I had discovered called the why

that I had discovered called the why that’s how it began and people just kept

that’s how it began and people just kept

that’s how it began and people just kept inviting me and I just kept saying yes

inviting me and I just kept saying yes

inviting me and I just kept saying yes and somebody I said you should write a

and somebody I said you should write a

and somebody I said you should write a book about it I said okay somebody

book about it I said okay somebody

book about it I said okay somebody introduced me to the God and business

introduced me to the God and business

introduced me to the God and business publishing a man by the name of Adrian

publishing a man by the name of Adrian

publishing a man by the name of Adrian Zach Haim is the original publisher from

Zach Haim is the original publisher from

Zach Haim is the original publisher from good to great publishers all have codons

good to great publishers all have codons

good to great publishers all have codons books and so the folklore goes I had a

books and so the folklore goes I had a

books and so the folklore goes I had a 29 minute meeting with him in 3 days

29 minute meeting with him in 3 days

29 minute meeting with him in 3 days later I had a book deal

later I had a book deal

later I had a book deal so I don’t know what it takes to get a

so I don’t know what it takes to get a

so I don’t know what it takes to get a book deal because I didn’t follow with

book deal because I didn’t follow with

book deal because I didn’t follow with the process and he sat in a room with an

the process and he sat in a room with an

the process and he sat in a room with an unknown guy I mean I was total unknown

unknown guy I mean I was total unknown

unknown guy I mean I was total unknown the only thing I had was my sense of

the only thing I had was my sense of

the only thing I had was my sense of purpose and my idealism that’s all I had

purpose and my idealism that’s all I had

purpose and my idealism that’s all I had and I sat in his office for 29 minutes

and I sat in his office for 29 minutes

and I sat in his office for 29 minutes and told him what I believed not what I

and told him what I believed not what I

and told him what I believed not what I did not what made me qualified but what

did not what made me qualified but what

did not what made me qualified but what I believed and the world that I imagined

I believed and the world that I imagined

I believed and the world that I imagined and he was inspired enough to take the

and he was inspired enough to take the

and he was inspired enough to take the risk on me which I’m immensely grateful

risk on me which I’m immensely grateful

risk on me which I’m immensely grateful for and the more I became a student of

for and the more I became a student of

for and the more I became a student of this thing called the why the more it

this thing called the why the more it

this thing called the why the more it worked and the more others were

worked and the more others were

worked and the more others were interested and I started to attract

interested and I started to attract

interested and I started to attract people who believe what I believe who

people who believe what I believe who

people who believe what I believe who wanted to build the world that I

wanted to build the world that I

wanted to build the world that I imagined I imagined a world in which the

imagined I imagined a world in which the

imagined I imagined a world in which the vast majority of us wake up every single

vast majority of us wake up every single

vast majority of us wake up every single day inspired to go to work and return

day inspired to go to work and return

day inspired to go to work and return home at the end of the day fulfilled by

home at the end of the day fulfilled by

home at the end of the day fulfilled by the work that we do

the work that we do

the work that we do that doesn’t mean that you have to like

that doesn’t mean that you have to like

that doesn’t mean that you have to like every day we don’t like our children

every day we don’t like our children

every day we don’t like our children every day but we love them every day

every day but we love them every day

every day but we love them every day right you don’t have to like your job

right you don’t have to like your job

right you don’t have to like your job every day you do get to love it every

every day you do get to love it every

every day you do get to love it every day and those who believed what I

day and those who believed what I

day and those who believed what I believed as predicted by this magical

believed as predicted by this magical

believed as predicted by this magical little formula called the Golden Circle

little formula called the Golden Circle

little formula called the Golden Circle raised their hand and said how can we

raised their hand and said how can we

raised their hand and said how can we help build this world and we became

help build this world and we became

help build this world and we became compatriots in this noble pursuit but

compatriots in this noble pursuit but

compatriots in this noble pursuit but another problem emerged sometimes it’s

another problem emerged sometimes it’s

another problem emerged sometimes it’s so attractive and sometimes it’s so

so attractive and sometimes it’s so

so attractive and sometimes it’s so inspiring that so many people show up

inspiring that so many people show up

inspiring that so many people show up and you don’t know who shows up

and you don’t know who shows up

and you don’t know who shows up selflessly and who’s showing up

selflessly and who’s showing up

selflessly and who’s showing up selfishly and I had a few experiences in

selfishly and I had a few experiences in

selfishly and I had a few experiences in my own life that caught me by surprise

my own life that caught me by surprise

my own life that caught me by surprise because I kept meeting people who said

because I kept meeting people who said

because I kept meeting people who said all the right things they said they

all the right things they said they

all the right things they said they believe what I believe they said they

believe what I believe they said they

believe what I believe they said they wanted to do what I believed and then

wanted to do what I believed and then

wanted to do what I believed and then help me and when push came to shove when

help me and when push came to shove when

help me and when push came to shove when problems emerged they disappeared I’d

problems emerged they disappeared I’d

problems emerged they disappeared I’d exposed myself made myself vulnerable

exposed myself made myself vulnerable

exposed myself made myself vulnerable shared all of my everything I knew all

shared all of my everything I knew all

shared all of my everything I knew all the people I knew because I believed it

the people I knew because I believed it

the people I knew because I believed it was the noble pursuit they were joining

was the noble pursuit they were joining

was the noble pursuit they were joining me and only to find out they wanted to

me and only to find out they wanted to

me and only to find out they wanted to take not to give and so now I didn’t

take not to give and so now I didn’t

take not to give and so now I didn’t know who to trust and the question is

know who to trust and the question is

know who to trust and the question is what happens when you when somebody

what happens when you when somebody

what happens when you when somebody violates your trust you completely pull

violates your trust you completely pull

violates your trust you completely pull back do you put the walls up so high

back do you put the walls up so high

back do you put the walls up so high that you don’t let anyone in

that you don’t let anyone in

that you don’t let anyone in simultaneously I’ve been given many

simultaneously I’ve been given many

simultaneously I’ve been given many invitations to visit with various

invitations to visit with various

invitations to visit with various branches the military and spent a lot of

branches the military and spent a lot of

branches the military and spent a lot of time with the Air Force spent some time

time with the Air Force spent some time

time with the Air Force spent some time with the Marines and kept meeting people

with the Marines and kept meeting people

with the Marines and kept meeting people who believed in sacrifice who believed

who believed in sacrifice who believed

who believed in sacrifice who believed in service I’d met people who’d risk

in service I’d met people who’d risk

in service I’d met people who’d risk their lives for others and I couldn’t

their lives for others and I couldn’t

their lives for others and I couldn’t understand how all of these people that

understand how all of these people that

understand how all of these people that I was meeting in the military was so

I was meeting in the military was so

I was meeting in the military was so different than the people that I

different than the people that I

different than the people that I interacted with in private sector in the

interacted with in private sector in the

interacted with in private sector in the military you give medals to people who

military you give medals to people who

military you give medals to people who were willing to sacrifice themselves so

were willing to sacrifice themselves so

were willing to sacrifice themselves so that others may gain in business they

that others may gain in business they

that others may gain in business they give bonuses to people who willing to

give bonuses to people who willing to

give bonuses to people who willing to sacrifice others so we may gain it’s

sacrifice others so we may gain it’s

sacrifice others so we may gain it’s backwards and so the best assessment I

backwards and so the best assessment I

backwards and so the best assessment I could make is they’re just better people

could make is they’re just better people

could make is they’re just better people they’re just better human beings and

they’re just better human beings and

they’re just better human beings and because they’re better human beings

because they’re better human beings

because they’re better human beings they’re attracted to this concept of

they’re attracted to this concept of

they’re attracted to this concept of military service and that’s why you find

military service and that’s why you find

military service and that’s why you find a disproportionately high number of

a disproportionately high number of

a disproportionately high number of these better people in these

these better people in these

these better people in these organizations that was my assessment

organizations that was my assessment

organizations that was my assessment but I was wrong because I’m not

but I was wrong because I’m not

but I was wrong because I’m not satisfied with that answer and so I set

satisfied with that answer and so I set

satisfied with that answer and so I set out to understand why are they better

out to understand why are they better

out to understand why are they better what is in their genetic code that makes

what is in their genetic code that makes

what is in their genetic code that makes these people better

these people better

these people better like what breakfast are their parents

like what breakfast are their parents

like what breakfast are their parents eating that would produce these children

eating that would produce these children

eating that would produce these children and so as is my nature I go backwards

and so as is my nature I go backwards

and so as is my nature I go backwards and I went as far back as I could go to

and I went as far back as I could go to

and I went as far back as I could go to the origins of man Paleolithic 50,000

the origins of man Paleolithic 50,000

the origins of man Paleolithic 50,000 years ago and what I started to learn

years ago and what I started to learn

years ago and what I started to learn was that it’s not the Pete that’s not

was that it’s not the Pete that’s not

was that it’s not the Pete that’s not the people it’s the environment if the

the people it’s the environment if the

the people it’s the environment if the environment is right the natural

environment is right the natural

environment is right the natural inclination of the human being is to

inclination of the human being is to

inclination of the human being is to serve and to sacrifice if the

serve and to sacrifice if the

serve and to sacrifice if the environment is wrong the natural

environment is wrong the natural

environment is wrong the natural inclination of the human being is to

inclination of the human being is to

inclination of the human being is to protect oneself even at the expense of

protect oneself even at the expense of

protect oneself even at the expense of others and if you look at the highest

others and if you look at the highest

others and if you look at the highest functioning branches of the military if

functioning branches of the military if

functioning branches of the military if you look at the highest functioning

you look at the highest functioning

you look at the highest functioning organizations in the private sector the

organizations in the private sector the

organizations in the private sector the environments in which they had created

environments in which they had created

environments in which they had created sometimes by accident the environments

sometimes by accident the environments

sometimes by accident the environments in which they created almost identically

in which they created almost identically

in which they created almost identically mimic the environments that existed in

mimic the environments that existed in

mimic the environments that existed in the Paleolithic era in other words we

the Paleolithic era in other words we

the Paleolithic era in other words we are working the way we’re supposed to

are working the way we’re supposed to

are working the way we’re supposed to work we are not the strongest animals in

work we are not the strongest animals in

work we are not the strongest animals in the world and we are not the fastest

the world and we are not the fastest

the world and we are not the fastest animals in the world but we are the most

animals in the world but we are the most

animals in the world but we are the most successful animals in the world and the

successful animals in the world and the

successful animals in the world and the reason we are so successful is not just

reason we are so successful is not just

reason we are so successful is not just because of our advanced problem-solving

because of our advanced problem-solving

because of our advanced problem-solving brains sometimes that causes more

brains sometimes that causes more

brains sometimes that causes more problems than it’s worth

problems than it’s worth

problems than it’s worth right but it’s our ability to cooperate

right but it’s our ability to cooperate

right but it’s our ability to cooperate we are naturally social naturally

we are naturally social naturally

we are naturally social naturally cooperative animals with a natural

cooperative animals with a natural

cooperative animals with a natural inclination to trust and cooperate and

inclination to trust and cooperate and

inclination to trust and cooperate and when we are put in the environment the

when we are put in the environment the

when we are put in the environment the right environment that is exactly what

right environment that is exactly what

right environment that is exactly what happens it is not an instruction I can’t

happens it is not an instruction I can’t

happens it is not an instruction I can’t tell you to trust me trust me I know

tell you to trust me trust me I know

tell you to trust me trust me I know what I’m doing it doesn’t work that way

what I’m doing it doesn’t work that way

what I’m doing it doesn’t work that way you can’t put two people in a room and

you can’t put two people in a room and

you can’t put two people in a room and say I want you two to cooperate on this

say I want you two to cooperate on this

say I want you two to cooperate on this project it’s not an instruction it’s a

project it’s not an instruction it’s a

project it’s not an instruction it’s a feeling and a reaction it’s a result

feeling and a reaction it’s a result

feeling and a reaction it’s a result trust and cooperation are result right

trust and cooperation are result right

trust and cooperation are result right so here’s what I learned in caveman

so here’s what I learned in caveman

so here’s what I learned in caveman times the world was filled with danger

times the world was filled with danger

times the world was filled with danger right whether it was the weather whether

right whether it was the weather whether

right whether it was the weather whether it was the lack of reefs

it was the lack of reefs

it was the lack of reefs horses and food whether it was a

horses and food whether it was a

horses and food whether it was a saber-toothed tiger there were all leave

saber-toothed tiger there were all leave

saber-toothed tiger there were all leave these things out there with no

these things out there with no

these things out there with no conscience trying to kill you

conscience trying to kill you

conscience trying to kill you nothing personal the only way in which

nothing personal the only way in which

nothing personal the only way in which we frail slow not very strong animals

we frail slow not very strong animals

we frail slow not very strong animals could confront and survive all of these

could confront and survive all of these

could confront and survive all of these things with a predisposition to kill us

things with a predisposition to kill us

things with a predisposition to kill us was to work together and create cultures

was to work together and create cultures

was to work together and create cultures to live in tribes to help each other

to live in tribes to help each other

to live in tribes to help each other there’s a natural and inherent benefit

there’s a natural and inherent benefit

there’s a natural and inherent benefit to group living it means that if I trust

to group living it means that if I trust

to group living it means that if I trust you I can fall asleep at night with the

you I can fall asleep at night with the

you I can fall asleep at night with the confidence that if danger shows you will

confidence that if danger shows you will

confidence that if danger shows you will wake me if I do not trust you I can’t

wake me if I do not trust you I can’t

wake me if I do not trust you I can’t fall asleep at night it’s exactly the

fall asleep at night it’s exactly the

fall asleep at night it’s exactly the same in our modern day and age the goal

same in our modern day and age the goal

same in our modern day and age the goal is to feel safe in the environments in

is to feel safe in the environments in

is to feel safe in the environments in which we live and work to feel like we

which we live and work to feel like we

which we live and work to feel like we belong the dangers around us and outside

belong the dangers around us and outside

belong the dangers around us and outside us are a constant they’re never going to

us are a constant they’re never going to

us are a constant they’re never going to go away and they’re never going to

go away and they’re never going to

go away and they’re never going to change the variable are the cultures in

change the variable are the cultures in

change the variable are the cultures in which we live and work that is a

which we live and work that is a

which we live and work that is a variable and that is then the control

variable and that is then the control

variable and that is then the control and it is the responsibility of leaders

and it is the responsibility of leaders

and it is the responsibility of leaders in the modern world at the same way in

in the modern world at the same way in

in the modern world at the same way in the private sector dangers may be

the private sector dangers may be

the private sector dangers may be defined as the ups and downs of the

defined as the ups and downs of the

defined as the ups and downs of the economy the uncertainty of the stock

economy the uncertainty of the stock

economy the uncertainty of the stock market an emerging technology that

market an emerging technology that

market an emerging technology that overnight renders your business model

overnight renders your business model

overnight renders your business model obsolete your competition that may or

obsolete your competition that may or

obsolete your competition that may or may not be trying to kill you but they

may not be trying to kill you but they

may not be trying to kill you but they definitely are trying to frustrate your

definitely are trying to frustrate your

definitely are trying to frustrate your growth and steal your customers in

growth and steal your customers in

growth and steal your customers in combat this is obvious in times that are

combat this is obvious in times that are

combat this is obvious in times that are not combat the the the in peace times

not combat the the the in peace times

not combat the the the in peace times the the the challenges are the same you

the the the challenges are the same you

the the the challenges are the same you know the the warring tribes that are the

know the the warring tribes that are the

know the the warring tribes that are the Pentagon all fighting for money all

Pentagon all fighting for money all

Pentagon all fighting for money all trying to outdo each other the the ups

trying to outdo each other the the ups

trying to outdo each other the the ups and downs of some political rhetoric or

and downs of some political rhetoric or

and downs of some political rhetoric or you know bad decisions that are made for

you know bad decisions that are made for

you know bad decisions that are made for all the wrong reasons

all the wrong reasons

all the wrong reasons all these things that frustrate our

all these things that frustrate our

all these things that frustrate our growth frustrate our success nothing

growth frustrate our success nothing

growth frustrate our success nothing personal the only way in which we

personal the only way in which we

personal the only way in which we survive these dangers and more

survive these dangers and more

survive these dangers and more importantly seize the opportunities that

importantly seize the opportunities that

importantly seize the opportunities that exist is when we feel safe amongst the

exist is when we feel safe amongst the

exist is when we feel safe amongst the people with whom we live and work if we

people with whom we live and work if we

people with whom we live and work if we do not feel safe with the people with

do not feel safe with the people with

do not feel safe with the people with whom we live and work we are forced to

whom we live and work we are forced to

whom we live and work we are forced to invest our own time and our own energy

invest our own time and our own energy

invest our own time and our own energy to protect ourselves from each other

to protect ourselves from each other

to protect ourselves from each other which then inherently makes the entire

which then inherently makes the entire

which then inherently makes the entire organization weaker and exposes us to

organization weaker and exposes us to

organization weaker and exposes us to the dangers outside a sub as in Aesop’s

the dangers outside a sub as in Aesop’s

the dangers outside a sub as in Aesop’s fables 5000 BC said it better than I can

fables 5000 BC said it better than I can

fables 5000 BC said it better than I can he talked about four oxen that stood

he talked about four oxen that stood

he talked about four oxen that stood tail to tail and no matter from which

tail to tail and no matter from which

tail to tail and no matter from which angle the lion attacked he was always

angle the lion attacked he was always

angle the lion attacked he was always met with horns

met with horns

met with horns however due to infighting and

however due to infighting and

however due to infighting and disagreements the option decided to

disagreements the option decided to

disagreements the option decided to separate and graze in different parts of

separate and graze in different parts of

separate and graze in different parts of the field and one by one the oxen that

the field and one by one the oxen that

the field and one by one the oxen that lion ate them all when we are when we do

lion ate them all when we are when we do

lion ate them all when we are when we do not fear each other we survive very well

not fear each other we survive very well

not fear each other we survive very well when we have to protect ourselves from

when we have to protect ourselves from

when we have to protect ourselves from each other we don’t do very well at all

each other we don’t do very well at all

each other we don’t do very well at all so then the question said the question

so then the question said the question

so then the question said the question arises how on earth do we build a circle

arises how on earth do we build a circle

arises how on earth do we build a circle of safety how do we do it how do we keep

of safety how do we do it how do we keep

of safety how do we do it how do we keep ourselves safe from each other how do we

ourselves safe from each other how do we

ourselves safe from each other how do we learn to trust each other especially if

learn to trust each other especially if

learn to trust each other especially if Trust as a result and not something you

Trust as a result and not something you

Trust as a result and not something you can just do as it turns out the human

can just do as it turns out the human

can just do as it turns out the human body works exactly the same way as any

body works exactly the same way as any

body works exactly the same way as any organization we have internal incentive

organization we have internal incentive

organization we have internal incentive systems that are working very very hard

systems that are working very very hard

systems that are working very very hard to get us to repeat behaviors that are

to get us to repeat behaviors that are

to get us to repeat behaviors that are in our best interest right so if you

in our best interest right so if you

in our best interest right so if you think about how any incentive system

think about how any incentive system

think about how any incentive system works I want you to achieve a goal I’m

works I want you to achieve a goal I’m

works I want you to achieve a goal I’m gonna tell you what that goal is if you

gonna tell you what that goal is if you

gonna tell you what that goal is if you hit that goal I will give you a bonus

hit that goal I will give you a bonus

hit that goal I will give you a bonus guess what you do what I want you to do

guess what you do what I want you to do

guess what you do what I want you to do you will achieve the goal that I set my

you will achieve the goal that I set my

you will achieve the goal that I set my intent my mission my goal whatever it is

intent my mission my goal whatever it is

intent my mission my goal whatever it is and because there’s certain incentives

and because there’s certain incentives

and because there’s certain incentives and rewards on the other side you will

and rewards on the other side you will

and rewards on the other side you will do them the human body does exactly the

do them the human body does exactly the

do them the human body does exactly the same thing if you’ve ever had a feeling

same thing if you’ve ever had a feeling

same thing if you’ve ever had a feeling of happiness joy pride status

of happiness joy pride status

of happiness joy pride status fulfillment love friendship any of these

fulfillment love friendship any of these

fulfillment love friendship any of these feelings are chemically produced and all

feelings are chemically produced and all

feelings are chemically produced and all of these feelings that I will

of these feelings that I will

of these feelings that I will generically call happiness are born out

generically call happiness are born out

generically call happiness are born out of basically the four chemicals they are

of basically the four chemicals they are

of basically the four chemicals they are endorphins dopamine serotonin and

endorphins dopamine serotonin and

endorphins dopamine serotonin and oxytocin Ed so let me go through them

oxytocin Ed so let me go through them

oxytocin Ed so let me go through them really quickly endorphins the purpose of

really quickly endorphins the purpose of

really quickly endorphins the purpose of endorphins is one thing of one thing

endorphins is one thing of one thing

endorphins is one thing of one thing only to mask physical pain that’s it

only to mask physical pain that’s it

only to mask physical pain that’s it that’s what endorphins do we all know

that’s what endorphins do we all know

that’s what endorphins do we all know what an endorphin rush

what an endorphin rush

what an endorphin rush or a runner’s high you go out there for

or a runner’s high you go out there for

or a runner’s high you go out there for a run you’re pushing your body harder

a run you’re pushing your body harder

a run you’re pushing your body harder than you’ve ever pushed your body before

than you’ve ever pushed your body before

than you’ve ever pushed your body before and it feels good and so you keep going

and it feels good and so you keep going

and it feels good and so you keep going and you keep going and at the end of

and you keep going and at the end of

and you keep going and at the end of your run you still feel awesome those

your run you still feel awesome those

your run you still feel awesome those endorphins are still surging through

endorphins are still surging through

endorphins are still surging through your bloodstream and about an hour later

your bloodstream and about an hour later

your bloodstream and about an hour later you are now in pain for damage you

you are now in pain for damage you

you are now in pain for damage you caused to your muscles about an hour

caused to your muscles about an hour

caused to your muscles about an hour before because the endorphins have now

before because the endorphins have now

before because the endorphins have now run out endorphins served a very

run out endorphins served a very

run out endorphins served a very practical purpose back in caveman days

practical purpose back in caveman days

practical purpose back in caveman days we’re neither the strongest animals nor

we’re neither the strongest animals nor

we’re neither the strongest animals nor the fastest animals how are we going to

the fastest animals how are we going to

the fastest animals how are we going to eat how are we gonna get food the human

eat how are we gonna get food the human

eat how are we gonna get food the human animal is made for endurance we can

animal is made for endurance we can

animal is made for endurance we can track an animal we can go in a search

track an animal we can go in a search

track an animal we can go in a search for something for hours and hours and

for something for hours and hours and

for something for hours and hours and hours and miles and miles and miles and

hours and miles and miles and miles and

hours and miles and miles and miles and we will wear out any gazelle on the

we will wear out any gazelle on the

we will wear out any gazelle on the planet that’s what we’re made for and

planet that’s what we’re made for and

planet that’s what we’re made for and when we’re out there and we’re tired we

when we’re out there and we’re tired we

when we’re out there and we’re tired we don’t give up we feel good and we keep

don’t give up we feel good and we keep

don’t give up we feel good and we keep pushing and maybe if we find food and we

pushing and maybe if we find food and we

pushing and maybe if we find food and we have to carry something heavy back to

have to carry something heavy back to

have to carry something heavy back to the tribe if we were tired we would give

the tribe if we were tired we would give

the tribe if we were tired we would give up not a good system for survival and so

up not a good system for survival and so

up not a good system for survival and so it feels good and so we keep going until

it feels good and so we keep going until

it feels good and so we keep going until we get there a good system for survival

we get there a good system for survival

we get there a good system for survival and it feels so good sometimes we crave

and it feels so good sometimes we crave

and it feels so good sometimes we crave that feeling oh my god I had so much fun

that feeling oh my god I had so much fun

that feeling oh my god I had so much fun hunting yesterday I will volunteer to go

hunting yesterday I will volunteer to go

hunting yesterday I will volunteer to go tomorrow good system for survival we

tomorrow good system for survival we

tomorrow good system for survival we often hear about endorphins for survival

often hear about endorphins for survival

often hear about endorphins for survival in combat situations but for most of us

in combat situations but for most of us

in combat situations but for most of us back home you know with supermarkets and

back home you know with supermarkets and

back home you know with supermarkets and cars and whatnot it was pretty much no

cars and whatnot it was pretty much no

cars and whatnot it was pretty much no survival need for endorphins whatsoever

survival need for endorphins whatsoever

survival need for endorphins whatsoever and they pretty much the way we get them

and they pretty much the way we get them

and they pretty much the way we get them is from heavy exercise and exerting our

is from heavy exercise and exerting our

is from heavy exercise and exerting our bodies that’s pretty much it dopamine Oh

bodies that’s pretty much it dopamine Oh

bodies that’s pretty much it dopamine Oh just a little kick a little side it’s

just a little kick a little side it’s

just a little kick a little side it’s because of endorphins that laughing

because of endorphins that laughing

because of endorphins that laughing feels good by the way when you laugh

feels good by the way when you laugh

feels good by the way when you laugh you’re actually convulsing your internal

you’re actually convulsing your internal

you’re actually convulsing your internal organs and so to hide that pain the body

organs and so to hide that pain the body

organs and so to hide that pain the body makes us feel good we’ve all had the

makes us feel good we’ve all had the

makes us feel good we’ve all had the experience where you laugh so hard you

experience where you laugh so hard you

experience where you laugh so hard you say stop stop it hurts it’s cause the

say stop stop it hurts it’s cause the

say stop stop it hurts it’s cause the endorphins are brunet dopamine dopamine

endorphins are brunet dopamine dopamine

endorphins are brunet dopamine dopamine is the feeling you get when you find

is the feeling you get when you find

is the feeling you get when you find something you’re looking for or you

something you’re looking for or you

something you’re looking for or you accomplish something yet so you set out

accomplish something yet so you set out

accomplish something yet so you set out to accomplish right so you know that

to accomplish right so you know that

to accomplish right so you know that feeling you get when you cross something

feeling you get when you cross something

feeling you get when you cross something off your to-do list how good does that

off your to-do list how good does that

off your to-do list how good does that feel that’s dopamine right when you set

feel that’s dopamine right when you set

feel that’s dopamine right when you set out to achieve one of your goals yes you

out to achieve one of your goals yes you

out to achieve one of your goals yes you win the race yes you crossed the finish

win the race yes you crossed the finish

win the race yes you crossed the finish line that amazing sense of I have won I

line that amazing sense of I have won I

line that amazing sense of I have won I have found it you know that pair of

have found it you know that pair of

have found it you know that pair of shoes that you want desperate and you

shoes that you want desperate and you

shoes that you want desperate and you find them on sale

find them on sale

find them on sale yes you

yes you

yes you Google and you you put the thing and

Google and you you put the thing and

Google and you you put the thing and that you’re looking for it comes up and

that you’re looking for it comes up and

that you’re looking for it comes up and it feels so good because you wait for

it feels so good because you wait for

it feels so good because you wait for the feeling you wait for the feeling try

the feeling you wait for the feeling try

the feeling you wait for the feeling try new search to try new sit there it is

new search to try new sit there it is

new search to try new sit there it is this is why we’re genetically

this is why we’re genetically

this is why we’re genetically predisposed to collect stuff like you

predisposed to collect stuff like you

predisposed to collect stuff like you don’t need another little figurine of an

don’t need another little figurine of an

don’t need another little figurine of an elephant right

elephant right

elephant right we like Queens and stamps and cards and

we like Queens and stamps and cards and

we like Queens and stamps and cards and things because we love the feeling of

things because we love the feeling of

things because we love the feeling of finding the thing we were looking for

finding the thing we were looking for

finding the thing we were looking for we’re genetically predisposed for the

we’re genetically predisposed for the

we’re genetically predisposed for the reason we have dopamine is more

reason we have dopamine is more

reason we have dopamine is more practical than that it’s because if we

practical than that it’s because if we

practical than that it’s because if we only went to look for food and we were

only went to look for food and we were

only went to look for food and we were hungry and there was no guarantee that

hungry and there was no guarantee that

hungry and there was no guarantee that we would find food not a good system for

we would find food not a good system for

we would find food not a good system for survival and so mother nature has imbued

survival and so mother nature has imbued

survival and so mother nature has imbued us with this wonderful chemical so that

us with this wonderful chemical so that

us with this wonderful chemical so that we will go looking for food even when we

we will go looking for food even when we

we will go looking for food even when we don’t need it

don’t need it

don’t need it you get dopamine when you eat it’s why

you get dopamine when you eat it’s why

you get dopamine when you eat it’s why we enjoy eating right because we get a

we enjoy eating right because we get a

we enjoy eating right because we get a dopamine hit when we eat so to try and

dopamine hit when we eat so to try and

dopamine hit when we eat so to try and get more of that feeling we will repeat

get more of that feeling we will repeat

get more of that feeling we will repeat behavior that gets us the thing that

behavior that gets us the thing that

behavior that gets us the thing that makes us feel good right so for example

makes us feel good right so for example

makes us feel good right so for example you’re out for a wonder and in the

you’re out for a wonder and in the

you’re out for a wonder and in the distance you see a little apple tree

distance you see a little apple tree

distance you see a little apple tree shot a dopamine and what dopamine does

shot a dopamine and what dopamine does

shot a dopamine and what dopamine does is it makes us focused on our goals

is it makes us focused on our goals

is it makes us focused on our goals keeps us free from distraction fixated

keeps us free from distraction fixated

keeps us free from distraction fixated on the goal we want to get and so we

on the goal we want to get and so we

on the goal we want to get and so we start walking towards the apple tree

start walking towards the apple tree

start walking towards the apple tree because we want the dopamine and as it

because we want the dopamine and as it

because we want the dopamine and as it gets a little bigger we can sense that

gets a little bigger we can sense that

gets a little bigger we can sense that we’re making progress

we’re making progress

we’re making progress that’s what metrics are supposed to do

that’s what metrics are supposed to do

that’s what metrics are supposed to do that they’re supposed to indicate that

that they’re supposed to indicate that

that they’re supposed to indicate that we’re making progress towards some other

we’re making progress towards some other

we’re making progress towards some other goal right it’s not the metrics itself

goal right it’s not the metrics itself

goal right it’s not the metrics itself and so we sense that that we see the

and so we sense that that we see the

and so we sense that that we see the tree get a little bigger we can another

tree get a little bigger we can another

tree get a little bigger we can another little shot of dopamine and it keeps us

little shot of dopamine and it keeps us

little shot of dopamine and it keeps us even more focused and we get it gets

even more focused and we get it gets

even more focused and we get it gets bigger and another little shot of

bigger and another little shot of

bigger and another little shot of dopamine right or the gazelle we lose

dopamine right or the gazelle we lose

dopamine right or the gazelle we lose the gazelle we find them again shot a

the gazelle we find them again shot a

the gazelle we find them again shot a dopamine keeps us focused on we’re gonna

dopamine keeps us focused on we’re gonna

dopamine keeps us focused on we’re gonna get the gazelle right and then you

get the gazelle right and then you

get the gazelle right and then you finally get the gazelle you finally get

finally get the gazelle you finally get

finally get the gazelle you finally get to the apple tree yes immense sense of

to the apple tree yes immense sense of

to the apple tree yes immense sense of dopamine right it’s like when you’re out

dopamine right it’s like when you’re out

dopamine right it’s like when you’re out doing a run if you do a long run you you

doing a run if you do a long run you you

doing a run if you do a long run you you passed

passed

passed they put mile markers up for a reason

they put mile markers up for a reason

they put mile markers up for a reason makes us feel like we’re making progress

makes us feel like we’re making progress

makes us feel like we’re making progress each mile marker you pass it makes you

each mile marker you pass it makes you

each mile marker you pass it makes you want to keep going and when you can see

want to keep going and when you can see

want to keep going and when you can see the finish line even though you’re

the finish line even though you’re

the finish line even though you’re exhausted you run even faster because

exhausted you run even faster because

exhausted you run even faster because you can feel you want the dopamine of

you can feel you want the dopamine of

you can feel you want the dopamine of crossing the finish line right this is

crossing the finish line right this is

crossing the finish line right this is why we are told that our goals must be

why we are told that our goals must be

why we are told that our goals must be tangible we are visual animals

tangible we are visual animals

tangible we are visual animals we do not get dopamine without being

we do not get dopamine without being

we do not get dopamine without being able to see the goal or at least imagine

able to see the goal or at least imagine

able to see the goal or at least imagine it in our minds eye that’s why we call

it in our minds eye that’s why we call

it in our minds eye that’s why we call them vision statements because you have

them vision statements because you have

them vision statements because you have to be able to see them vision right so

to be able to see them vision right so

to be able to see them vision right so that’s why we’re told like I said you

that’s why we’re told like I said you

that’s why we’re told like I said you have to write down your goals we are no

have to write down your goals we are no

have to write down your goals we are no good with Amorphis goals doesn’t work

good with Amorphis goals doesn’t work

good with Amorphis goals doesn’t work we’re no good with the abstract we like

we’re no good with the abstract we like

we’re no good with the abstract we like specific things we can see you will get

specific things we can see you will get

specific things we can see you will get a bonus if you achieve more how much

a bonus if you achieve more how much

a bonus if you achieve more how much more more doesn’t work tell me what I

more more doesn’t work tell me what I

more more doesn’t work tell me what I need to do tell me where I need to get

need to do tell me where I need to get

need to do tell me where I need to get and I’ll do it

and I’ll do it

and I’ll do it dopamine dopamine won’t fire unless we

dopamine dopamine won’t fire unless we

dopamine dopamine won’t fire unless we see the tree go find something on Google

see the tree go find something on Google

see the tree go find something on Google doesn’t work that way what do you me to

doesn’t work that way what do you me to

doesn’t work that way what do you me to find tell me what you want to look for

find tell me what you want to look for

find tell me what you want to look for and then I can get that sense of

and then I can get that sense of

and then I can get that sense of accomplishment right that’s what

accomplishment right that’s what

accomplishment right that’s what dopamine does we were progress machines

dopamine does we were progress machines

dopamine does we were progress machines a good vision must also be specific

a good vision must also be specific

a good vision must also be specific something we can see in our minds eye

something we can see in our minds eye

something we can see in our minds eye most vision statements are useless to be

most vision statements are useless to be

most vision statements are useless to be the biggest to be the most respected to

the biggest to be the most respected to

the biggest to be the most respected to be the most loved right to serve the

be the most loved right to serve the

be the most loved right to serve the country I don’t even know what that

country I don’t even know what that

country I don’t even know what that looks like

looks like

looks like respected by whom your mother there’s no

respected by whom your mother there’s no

respected by whom your mother there’s no metric for that kind of do it useless

metric for that kind of do it useless

metric for that kind of do it useless Martin Luther King he had a good vision

Martin Luther King he had a good vision

Martin Luther King he had a good vision I have a dream that one day little black

I have a dream that one day little black

I have a dream that one day little black children and little white children will

children and little white children will

children and little white children will hold hands together on the playground I

hold hands together on the playground I

hold hands together on the playground I can see that I can imagine that if

can see that I can imagine that if

can see that I can imagine that if that’s the kind of world that inspires

that’s the kind of world that inspires

that’s the kind of world that inspires me that I want to live in I will fixate

me that I want to live in I will fixate

me that I want to live in I will fixate my my target fixate on that target on

my my target fixate on that target on

my my target fixate on that target on that goal and I will do what I need to

that goal and I will do what I need to

that goal and I will do what I need to do to get closer and every milestone

do to get closer and every milestone

do to get closer and every milestone that we reach that makes us feel like

that we reach that makes us feel like

that we reach that makes us feel like we’re making progress inspires us to

we’re making progress inspires us to

we’re making progress inspires us to keep working harder and harder and

keep working harder and harder and

keep working harder and harder and harder to get that goal that’s good

harder to get that goal that’s good

harder to get that goal that’s good vision

vision

vision that’s good vision dopamine comes with a

that’s good vision dopamine comes with a

that’s good vision dopamine comes with a warning

warning

warning however dopamine is highly highly highly

however dopamine is highly highly highly

however dopamine is highly highly highly addictive here are some other things

addictive here are some other things

addictive here are some other things that release dopamine alcohol nicotine

that release dopamine alcohol nicotine

that release dopamine alcohol nicotine gambling your cell phone right

gambling your cell phone right

gambling your cell phone right think about how gambling works we know

think about how gambling works we know

think about how gambling works we know what the tree is three sevens

what the tree is three sevens

what the tree is three sevens you get three 7s it’s very specific you

you get three 7s it’s very specific you

you get three 7s it’s very specific you get rich good pull the handle two sevens

get rich good pull the handle two sevens

get rich good pull the handle two sevens fuel I’ll make a meeting progress

fuel I’ll make a meeting progress

fuel I’ll make a meeting progress pull the handle again one seven so

pull the handle again one seven so

pull the handle again one seven so a still making progress pull handle

a still making progress pull handle

a still making progress pull handle missed it this time but I know I even

missed it this time but I know I even

missed it this time but I know I even coming close cuz I saw it before I saw a

coming close cuz I saw it before I saw a

coming close cuz I saw it before I saw a glimpse to the gazelle pull it again

glimpse to the gazelle pull it again

glimpse to the gazelle pull it again it’s called addiction we get sucked into

it’s called addiction we get sucked into

it’s called addiction we get sucked into it it’s tricking our system and so we

it it’s tricking our system and so we

it it’s tricking our system and so we keep going and going and going and like

keep going and going and going and like

keep going and going and going and like all addictions we will waste money we

all addictions we will waste money we

all addictions we will waste money we will waste time and we will destroy

will waste time and we will destroy

will waste time and we will destroy relationships that’s what addiction does

relationships that’s what addiction does

relationships that’s what addiction does to us they say that if you wake up in

to us they say that if you wake up in

to us they say that if you wake up in the morning and the first thing you do

the morning and the first thing you do

the morning and the first thing you do is crave a drink you might be an

is crave a drink you might be an

is crave a drink you might be an alcoholic if you wake up in the morning

alcoholic if you wake up in the morning

alcoholic if you wake up in the morning the first thing you do is check your

the first thing you do is check your

the first thing you do is check your phone even before you get out of bed you

phone even before you get out of bed you

phone even before you get out of bed you might be an addict

might be an addict

might be an addict if you walk from room to room in your

if you walk from room to room in your

if you walk from room to room in your own home holding your telephone she

own home holding your telephone she

own home holding your telephone she might be an addict right thank you yes

might be an addict right thank you yes

might be an addict right thank you yes look at that doing the demonstration if

look at that doing the demonstration if

look at that doing the demonstration if you’re driving your car and your phone

you’re driving your car and your phone

you’re driving your car and your phone goes Bing right you can’t wait 15

goes Bing right you can’t wait 15

goes Bing right you can’t wait 15 minutes to get to where you’re going you

minutes to get to where you’re going you

minutes to get to where you’re going you got to check it right now pull the

got to check it right now pull the

got to check it right now pull the handle you might be an addict and even

handle you might be an addict and even

handle you might be an addict and even what you do read it do you want to have

what you do read it do you want to have

what you do read it do you want to have dinner next Thursday and you can’t wait

dinner next Thursday and you can’t wait

dinner next Thursday and you can’t wait ten minutes to reply you could reply

ten minutes to reply you could reply

ten minutes to reply you could reply right now odds are very high you have an

right now odds are very high you have an

right now odds are very high you have an addiction yes we all hate all the email

addiction yes we all hate all the email

addiction yes we all hate all the email we get what we love is the Bing the buzz

we get what we love is the Bing the buzz

we get what we love is the Bing the buzz of the flash and the beat oh it feels so

of the flash and the beat oh it feels so

of the flash and the beat oh it feels so good the reason we send so many texts

good the reason we send so many texts

good the reason we send so many texts and emails is because we want replies in

and emails is because we want replies in

and emails is because we want replies in fact when we don’t get a reply we become

fact when we don’t get a reply we become

fact when we don’t get a reply we become unnerved

unnerved

unnerved why haven’t they replied I want to reply

why haven’t they replied I want to reply

why haven’t they replied I want to reply I hate all this email right we want the

I hate all this email right we want the

I hate all this email right we want the current we crave it we’ve become

current we crave it we’ve become

current we crave it we’ve become addicted to it and for all you Gen Y is

addicted to it and for all you Gen Y is

addicted to it and for all you Gen Y is out there who like to think that you’re

out there who like to think that you’re

out there who like to think that you’re better at multitasking because you grew

better at multitasking because you grew

better at multitasking because you grew up with all this technology then why do

up with all this technology then why do

up with all this technology then why do you keep crashing your cars while you’re

you keep crashing your cars while you’re

you keep crashing your cars while you’re texting the fact of the matter is you’re

texting the fact of the matter is you’re

texting the fact of the matter is you’re not better at multitasking you’re better

not better at multitasking you’re better

not better at multitasking you’re better being distracted and it is probable that

being distracted and it is probable that

being distracted and it is probable that an entire generation has grown up with

an entire generation has grown up with

an entire generation has grown up with an addiction to dopamine in the form of

an addiction to dopamine in the form of

an addiction to dopamine in the form of social media it’s highly probable and we

social media it’s highly probable and we

social media it’s highly probable and we see some examples of this the cases of

see some examples of this the cases of

see some examples of this the cases of diagnosed ADHD have risen 66% in the

diagnosed ADHD have risen 66% in the

diagnosed ADHD have risen 66% in the past decade okay now ADHD is a frontal

past decade okay now ADHD is a frontal

past decade okay now ADHD is a frontal lobe issue are you telling me there’s

lobe issue are you telling me there’s

lobe issue are you telling me there’s something in the water that’s making an

something in the water that’s making an

something in the water that’s making an entire generation grew up with a frontal

entire generation grew up with a frontal

entire generation grew up with a frontal lobe disorder probably not there are

lobe disorder probably not there are

lobe disorder probably not there are genuine cases of all these things of

genuine cases of all these things of

genuine cases of all these things of course

course

course but the diagnosis of ADHD eerily looks

but the diagnosis of ADHD eerily looks

but the diagnosis of ADHD eerily looks like an addiction to a distraction as

like an addiction to a distraction as

like an addiction to a distraction as well distractibility unable to focus

well distractibility unable to focus

well distractibility unable to focus etcetera etc etc it’s just an addiction

etcetera etc etc it’s just an addiction

etcetera etc etc it’s just an addiction we can also become addicted to

we can also become addicted to

we can also become addicted to performance in some organizations we

performance in some organizations we

performance in some organizations we where we’re metrics are king we

where we’re metrics are king we

where we’re metrics are king we literally become addicted to making the

literally become addicted to making the

literally become addicted to making the numbers getting the efficiencies driving

numbers getting the efficiencies driving

numbers getting the efficiencies driving the numbers we’re addicted to hitting

the numbers we’re addicted to hitting

the numbers we’re addicted to hitting each goal hitting each goal hitting each

each goal hitting each goal hitting each

each goal hitting each goal hitting each goal because the rewards we get or all

goal because the rewards we get or all

goal because the rewards we get or all dopamine literally our organizations

dopamine literally our organizations

dopamine literally our organizations become addicted to making the numbers

become addicted to making the numbers

become addicted to making the numbers and like all addiction it comes with

and like all addiction it comes with

and like all addiction it comes with expenses time money and relationships

expenses time money and relationships

expenses time money and relationships and when relationships break down we

and when relationships break down we

and when relationships break down we expose ourselves to danger from outside

expose ourselves to danger from outside

expose ourselves to danger from outside that’s why we have these two chemicals

that’s why we have these two chemicals

that’s why we have these two chemicals these are selfish chemicals you don’t

these are selfish chemicals you don’t

these are selfish chemicals you don’t need anybody’s help to get them go for a

need anybody’s help to get them go for a

need anybody’s help to get them go for a run go through your to-do lists meet

run go through your to-do lists meet

run go through your to-do lists meet your goals you’ll get feelings of good

your goals you’ll get feelings of good

your goals you’ll get feelings of good and joy and you’re good to go

and joy and you’re good to go

and joy and you’re good to go right you can do it all by yourself

right you can do it all by yourself

right you can do it all by yourself these chemicals are the selfless

these chemicals are the selfless

these chemicals are the selfless chemicals you can’t get them by yourself

chemicals you can’t get them by yourself

chemicals you can’t get them by yourself and you need other people’s help and

and you need other people’s help and

and you need other people’s help and it’s these chemicals that ensure that we

it’s these chemicals that ensure that we

it’s these chemicals that ensure that we trust each other work together love each

trust each other work together love each

trust each other work together love each other and cooperate when these chemicals

other and cooperate when these chemicals

other and cooperate when these chemicals are out of balance we become addicted to

are out of balance we become addicted to

are out of balance we become addicted to performance we become addicted to social

performance we become addicted to social

performance we become addicted to social media we become addicted to ourselves

media we become addicted to ourselves

media we become addicted to ourselves when they are in balance we’re committed

when they are in balance we’re committed

when they are in balance we’re committed to service and looking after each other

to service and looking after each other

to service and looking after each other and have the confidence that others will

and have the confidence that others will

and have the confidence that others will look after us let me tell you bout the

look after us let me tell you bout the

look after us let me tell you bout the first chemical serotonin serotonin is

first chemical serotonin serotonin is

first chemical serotonin serotonin is the leadership chemical it is the

the leadership chemical it is the

the leadership chemical it is the feeling of pride it is the feeling of

feeling of pride it is the feeling of

feeling of pride it is the feeling of status there are many ways you can get

status there are many ways you can get

status there are many ways you can get serotonin one way is public recognition

serotonin one way is public recognition

serotonin one way is public recognition right when you are pointed to and say

right when you are pointed to and say

right when you are pointed to and say our tribe values you that’s all we want

our tribe values you that’s all we want

our tribe values you that’s all we want we all want to feel that our tribe

we all want to feel that our tribe

we all want to feel that our tribe values us that our work our opinions

values us that our work our opinions

values us that our work our opinions matter and so when we are called out and

matter and so when we are called out and

matter and so when we are called out and said you’re good it feels good right

said you’re good it feels good right

said you’re good it feels good right that’s why public displays of these

that’s why public displays of these

that’s why public displays of these things are important you have a dinner

things are important you have a dinner

things are important you have a dinner and you say I just like to call out a

and you say I just like to call out a

and you say I just like to call out a couple names if you could please stand

couple names if you could please stand

couple names if you could please stand up you’ve done really well you Judy if

up you’ve done really well you Judy if

up you’ve done really well you Judy if you could stand up Dave if you could

you could stand up Dave if you could

you could stand up Dave if you could stand up and you stand up and somebody

stand up and you stand up and somebody

stand up and you stand up and somebody reads your name and everybody’s like

reads your name and everybody’s like

reads your name and everybody’s like feels awesome

feels awesome

feels awesome that’s serotonin you feel your status

that’s serotonin you feel your status

that’s serotonin you feel your status rise in the community because you

rise in the community because you

rise in the community because you recognize the community values more and

recognize the community values more and

recognize the community values more and it inspires you to work harder for the

it inspires you to work harder for the

it inspires you to work harder for the community that’s what it’s doing right

community that’s what it’s doing right

community that’s what it’s doing right think about it what do you need to

think about it what do you need to

think about it what do you need to graduate college pay your bills

graduate college pay your bills

graduate college pay your bills accomplish enough you know get collect

accomplish enough you know get collect

accomplish enough you know get collect enough credits fulfill your minimum

enough credits fulfill your minimum

enough credits fulfill your minimum requirements tada you’ve graduated it’s

requirements tada you’ve graduated it’s

requirements tada you’ve graduated it’s just a formula right so technically they

just a formula right so technically they

just a formula right so technically they could just send you an email that says

could just send you an email that says

could just send you an email that says congratulations you’ve graduated college

congratulations you’ve graduated college

congratulations you’ve graduated college please enclose find the PDF of your

please enclose find the PDF of your

please enclose find the PDF of your diploma to print out PS magna laude

diploma to print out PS magna laude

diploma to print out PS magna laude nice job babe wouldn’t feel good right

nice job babe wouldn’t feel good right

nice job babe wouldn’t feel good right accomplishment was the same you worked

accomplishment was the same you worked

accomplishment was the same you worked hard wouldn’t feel good so what we have

hard wouldn’t feel good so what we have

hard wouldn’t feel good so what we have is a big ceremony and we fight all of

is a big ceremony and we fight all of

is a big ceremony and we fight all of our friends and our teachers and all of

our friends and our teachers and all of

our friends and our teachers and all of the people who believed in us and

the people who believed in us and

the people who believed in us and trusted us and wanted us to do well and

trusted us and wanted us to do well and

trusted us and wanted us to do well and sacrifice for us and we have a big

sacrifice for us and we have a big

sacrifice for us and we have a big public display where they recognize our

public display where they recognize our

public display where they recognize our accomplishment thanks to their support

accomplishment thanks to their support

accomplishment thanks to their support and we walk up on the stage and that

and we walk up on the stage and that

and we walk up on the stage and that young college graduate who walks up on

young college graduate who walks up on

young college graduate who walks up on the stage at the exact moment she takes

the stage at the exact moment she takes

the stage at the exact moment she takes the diploma she feels the serotonin

the diploma she feels the serotonin

the diploma she feels the serotonin coursing through her veins she feels her

coursing through her veins she feels her

coursing through her veins she feels her status rise she feels her confidence

status rise she feels her confidence

status rise she feels her confidence rise she feels good she feels amazing it

rise she feels good she feels amazing it

rise she feels good she feels amazing it feels incredible and all she wants to do

feels incredible and all she wants to do

feels incredible and all she wants to do is more but here’s the best part about

is more but here’s the best part about

is more but here’s the best part about serotonin at the exact same moment that

serotonin at the exact same moment that

serotonin at the exact same moment that that graduate grabs her diploma her

that graduate grabs her diploma her

that graduate grabs her diploma her parents sitting in the audience also get

parents sitting in the audience also get

parents sitting in the audience also get a surge of serotonin and they feel proud

a surge of serotonin and they feel proud

a surge of serotonin and they feel proud watching their child graduate what

watching their child graduate what

watching their child graduate what serotonin is attempting to do is

serotonin is attempting to do is

serotonin is attempting to do is reinforce the relationship between

reinforce the relationship between

reinforce the relationship between parent and child boss-and-employee coach

parent and child boss-and-employee coach

parent and child boss-and-employee coach and player the one who was giving the

and player the one who was giving the

and player the one who was giving the care and the one who is receiving the

care and the one who is receiving the

care and the one who is receiving the care the supporter and the supported

care the supporter and the supported

care the supporter and the supported because we share the serotonin the more

because we share the serotonin the more

because we share the serotonin the more proud I feel of your accomplishment the

proud I feel of your accomplishment the

proud I feel of your accomplishment the harder I’m gonna work to protect you and

harder I’m gonna work to protect you and

harder I’m gonna work to protect you and offer you education and discipline and

offer you education and discipline and

offer you education and discipline and an opportunity so you’ll continue to do

an opportunity so you’ll continue to do

an opportunity so you’ll continue to do that and what do we do for the people

that and what do we do for the people

that and what do we do for the people who care about us we work hard so as not

who care about us we work hard so as not

who care about us we work hard so as not to let them down because we want to make

to let them down because we want to make

to let them down because we want to make they’re out we want to prove to them

they’re out we want to prove to them

they’re out we want to prove to them that their sacrifice was worth it

that their sacrifice was worth it

that their sacrifice was worth it when we get an award who’s the first

when we get an award who’s the first

when we get an award who’s the first person we thank watch the Oscars what

person we thank watch the Oscars what

person we thank watch the Oscars what who’s the first person they think they

who’s the first person they think they

who’s the first person they think they thank God they thanked their parents or

thank God they thanked their parents or

thank God they thanked their parents or they thanked the director they thanked

they thanked the director they thanked

they thanked the director they thanked whomever they believed was looking over

whomever they believed was looking over

whomever they believed was looking over them and giving them protection and

them and giving them protection and

them and giving them protection and offering them support so that they had

offering them support so that they had

offering them support so that they had the strength to accomplish this

the strength to accomplish this

the strength to accomplish this remarkable thing I could not have done

remarkable thing I could not have done

remarkable thing I could not have done it alone is the first thing they say and

it alone is the first thing they say and

it alone is the first thing they say and if we if we give an award to the coach

if we if we give an award to the coach

if we if we give an award to the coach the coaches I couldn’t have done it

the coaches I couldn’t have done it

the coaches I couldn’t have done it without this amazing team and they go

without this amazing team and they go

without this amazing team and they go serotonin is trying desperately to get

serotonin is trying desperately to get

serotonin is trying desperately to get asked to look after each other and make

asked to look after each other and make

asked to look after each other and make each other proud and feel proud so we’ll

each other proud and feel proud so we’ll

each other proud and feel proud so we’ll push each other harder and look after

push each other harder and look after

push each other harder and look after each other I call it the leadership

each other I call it the leadership

each other I call it the leadership chemical because it is that feeling of

chemical because it is that feeling of

chemical because it is that feeling of Pride and status and the reason it’s the

Pride and status and the reason it’s the

Pride and status and the reason it’s the leadership chemical is again very

leadership chemical is again very

leadership chemical is again very practical why do we have leaders it’s

practical why do we have leaders it’s

practical why do we have leaders it’s all fine and good that we teach

all fine and good that we teach

all fine and good that we teach leadership but why do we have leaders

leadership but why do we have leaders

leadership but why do we have leaders let’s do away with them who needs them

let’s do away with them who needs them

let’s do away with them who needs them we’re all equal how’s that let’s try

we’re all equal how’s that let’s try

we’re all equal how’s that let’s try that doesn’t work for very practical

that doesn’t work for very practical

that doesn’t work for very practical reason

reason

reason back in those Paleolithic days we lived

back in those Paleolithic days we lived

back in those Paleolithic days we lived in populations of about a hundred to 150

in populations of about a hundred to 150

in populations of about a hundred to 150 people we maxed out about 150 right very

people we maxed out about 150 right very

people we maxed out about 150 right very practical problem exists we’re all

practical problem exists we’re all

practical problem exists we’re all hungry somebody brings back a carcass

hungry somebody brings back a carcass

hungry somebody brings back a carcass dumps it on the ground we all rush in to

dumps it on the ground we all rush in to

dumps it on the ground we all rush in to eat if you’re lucky enough to be built

eat if you’re lucky enough to be built

eat if you’re lucky enough to be built like a linebacker you will shove your

like a linebacker you will shove your

like a linebacker you will shove your way to the front of the line if you’re

way to the front of the line if you’re

way to the front of the line if you’re the artist of the family you will get an

the artist of the family you will get an

the artist of the family you will get an elbow in the face not a good system

elbow in the face not a good system

elbow in the face not a good system because the odds are very high that when

because the odds are very high that when

because the odds are very high that when linebackers sleeping the guy who got an

linebackers sleeping the guy who got an

linebackers sleeping the guy who got an elbow in the face is not gonna wake him

elbow in the face is not gonna wake him

elbow in the face is not gonna wake him and alert him to danger bad system not

and alert him to danger bad system not

and alert him to danger bad system not good for the tribe and so we evolved

good for the tribe and so we evolved

good for the tribe and so we evolved into hierarchical animals we are

into hierarchical animals we are

into hierarchical animals we are naturally hierarchical animals we are

naturally hierarchical animals we are

naturally hierarchical animals we are always assessing each other in terms of

always assessing each other in terms of

always assessing each other in terms of alpha and beta who’s stronger than me

alpha and beta who’s stronger than me

alpha and beta who’s stronger than me who’s dominant over me who who can I

who’s dominant over me who who can I

who’s dominant over me who who can I dominate we’re always doing it it’s why

dominate we’re always doing it it’s why

dominate we’re always doing it it’s why guys like to posture when they meet

guys like to posture when they meet

guys like to posture when they meet girls like to show how strong they are

girls like to show how strong they are

girls like to show how strong they are like prove how alpha they are they wear

like prove how alpha they are they wear

like prove how alpha they are they wear nice clothes to demonstrate success

nice clothes to demonstrate success

nice clothes to demonstrate success right because everybody wants to date

right because everybody wants to date

right because everybody wants to date the Alpha right it’s always about

the Alpha right it’s always about

the Alpha right it’s always about demonstration right it’s a variable it’s

demonstration right it’s a variable it’s

demonstration right it’s a variable it’s not a constant in other words

not a constant in other words

not a constant in other words The Criterion audio is the same if

The Criterion audio is the same if

The Criterion audio is the same if you’re a wrestler physical strength

you’re a wrestler physical strength

you’re a wrestler physical strength might be the standard if you’re a

might be the standard if you’re a

might be the standard if you’re a musician talent might be the standard

musician talent might be the standard

musician talent might be the standard right so you might be an alpha in one

right so you might be an alpha in one

right so you might be an alpha in one scenario not in another right that’s why

scenario not in another right that’s why

scenario not in another right that’s why we have insecurities sometimes when

we have insecurities sometimes when

we have insecurities sometimes when we’re out of our element sometimes we’ve

we’re out of our element sometimes we’ve

we’re out of our element sometimes we’ve all had the experience where we’re

all had the experience where we’re

all had the experience where we’re meeting somebody and we’re nervous to

meeting somebody and we’re nervous to

meeting somebody and we’re nervous to meet them you’re not the Alpha we’ve all

meet them you’re not the Alpha we’ve all

meet them you’re not the Alpha we’ve all had the experience where we’re meeting

had the experience where we’re meeting

had the experience where we’re meeting somebody we can sense that they’re

somebody we can sense that they’re

somebody we can sense that they’re nervous meeting us you’re the alpha

nervous meeting us you’re the alpha

nervous meeting us you’re the alpha right

right

right the reason we’re hierarchical is because

the reason we’re hierarchical is because

the reason we’re hierarchical is because once we have assessed who our alphas are

once we have assessed who our alphas are

once we have assessed who our alphas are we voluntarily step back and we allow

we voluntarily step back and we allow

we voluntarily step back and we allow our alpha Steve first alphas get first

our alpha Steve first alphas get first

our alpha Steve first alphas get first choice of meat the first choice of mate

choice of meat the first choice of mate

choice of meat the first choice of mate there are benefits to being the king

there are benefits to being the king

there are benefits to being the king people give you stuff you get stuff for

people give you stuff you get stuff for

people give you stuff you get stuff for free you get looked after people carry

free you get looked after people carry

free you get looked after people carry your bags they call you sir they call

your bags they call you sir they call

your bags they call you sir they call you ma’am it’s good to be the king right

you ma’am it’s good to be the king right

you ma’am it’s good to be the king right that’s why we vie for the King because

that’s why we vie for the King because

that’s why we vie for the King because we get first choice of meat and mate to

we get first choice of meat and mate to

we get first choice of meat and mate to this day we are perfectly comfortable

this day we are perfectly comfortable

this day we are perfectly comfortable with giving advantages to those who

with giving advantages to those who

with giving advantages to those who outrank us in the hierarchy right not a

outrank us in the hierarchy right not a

outrank us in the hierarchy right not a single person here has a problem with

single person here has a problem with

single person here has a problem with somebody more senior than you making

somebody more senior than you making

somebody more senior than you making more money than you you might think

more money than you you might think

more money than you you might think they’re an ass but you’re okay with the

they’re an ass but you’re okay with the

they’re an ass but you’re okay with the fact that they make more money nobody

fact that they make more money nobody

fact that they make more money nobody has a problem with somebody that

has a problem with somebody that

has a problem with somebody that outranks you getting a nicer office

outranks you getting a nicer office

outranks you getting a nicer office better parking does not offend us at all

better parking does not offend us at all

better parking does not offend us at all in fact we almost expect it can you

in fact we almost expect it can you

in fact we almost expect it can you imagine if the President of the United

imagine if the President of the United

imagine if the President of the United States had to carry his own suitcases

States had to carry his own suitcases

States had to carry his own suitcases we’d be like what he’s the president we

we’d be like what he’s the president we

we’d be like what he’s the president we can’t get somebody who carries back I

can’t get somebody who carries back I

can’t get somebody who carries back I will do it it would be an honor

right when we admire our alphas we’re

right when we admire our alphas we’re actually very happy to do menial labor

actually very happy to do menial labor

actually very happy to do menial labor for them check it out

for them check it out

for them check it out carrying the prison’s bags be will

carrying the prison’s bags be will

carrying the prison’s bags be will actually go home and be like you’ll

actually go home and be like you’ll

actually go home and be like you’ll never believe what I did today

never believe what I did today

never believe what I did today I carried luggage for the president

I carried luggage for the president

I carried luggage for the president right it matters in service to our

right it matters in service to our

right it matters in service to our leaders we like to serve our leaders

leaders we like to serve our leaders

leaders we like to serve our leaders however

however

however doesn’t come free it does not come free

doesn’t come free it does not come free

doesn’t come free it does not come free as Lieutenant General Flynn of the

as Lieutenant General Flynn of the

as Lieutenant General Flynn of the United States Marine Corps Academy grad

United States Marine Corps Academy grad

United States Marine Corps Academy grad told me the cost of leadership is

told me the cost of leadership is

told me the cost of leadership is self-interest and he’s right you see the

self-interest and he’s right you see the

self-interest and he’s right you see the group is not stupid yes we gave our

group is not stupid yes we gave our

group is not stupid yes we gave our leader the first choice of meat first

leader the first choice of meat first

leader the first choice of meat first choice of mate they’re better fed than

choice of mate they’re better fed than

choice of mate they’re better fed than we are

we are

we are we gave our leader love and adoration

we gave our leader love and adoration

we gave our leader love and adoration and all the respect we held doors for

and all the respect we held doors for

and all the respect we held doors for them and they feel their status rise and

them and they feel their status rise and

them and they feel their status rise and they use with serotonin we gave that to

they use with serotonin we gave that to

they use with serotonin we gave that to them they’re actually also naturally

them they’re actually also naturally

them they’re actually also naturally stronger because we expect that when

stronger because we expect that when

stronger because we expect that when danger threatens the tribe the person

danger threatens the tribe the person

danger threatens the tribe the person who’s actually stronger better fed

who’s actually stronger better fed

who’s actually stronger better fed animal covenant will rush towards the

animal covenant will rush towards the

animal covenant will rush towards the danger to protect us that’s the cost of

danger to protect us that’s the cost of

danger to protect us that’s the cost of leadership that’s why we gave you first

leadership that’s why we gave you first

leadership that’s why we gave you first choice of meat because you might die

choice of meat because you might die

choice of meat because you might die young and we want your genes in the gene

young and we want your genes in the gene

young and we want your genes in the gene pool we’re not stupid this is the cost

pool we’re not stupid this is the cost

pool we’re not stupid this is the cost of leadership

of leadership

of leadership it’s your willingness to sacrifice

it’s your willingness to sacrifice

it’s your willingness to sacrifice yourself sacrifice your comfort

yourself sacrifice your comfort

yourself sacrifice your comfort sacrifice your perks when it matters for

sacrifice your perks when it matters for

sacrifice your perks when it matters for the good of your people leadership is

the good of your people leadership is

the good of your people leadership is not a rank it is a choice it is a

not a rank it is a choice it is a

not a rank it is a choice it is a responsibility to offer protection to

responsibility to offer protection to

responsibility to offer protection to those to the left and those to the right

those to the left and those to the right

those to the left and those to the right there are some people who have positions

there are some people who have positions

there are some people who have positions of authority who are not leaders and

of authority who are not leaders and

of authority who are not leaders and there are some positions that have no

there are some positions that have no

there are some positions that have no formal Authority who have very much

formal Authority who have very much

formal Authority who have very much leaders and we naturally will put the

leaders and we naturally will put the

leaders and we naturally will put the people at the top of the hierarchy who

people at the top of the hierarchy who

people at the top of the hierarchy who would be willing to sacrifice for us

would be willing to sacrifice for us

would be willing to sacrifice for us this is why it is the law that if you

this is why it is the law that if you

this is why it is the law that if you win the Congressional Medal of Honor a

win the Congressional Medal of Honor a

win the Congressional Medal of Honor a four-star salutes you because the formal

four-star salutes you because the formal

four-star salutes you because the formal rank is secondary to your willingness to

rank is secondary to your willingness to

rank is secondary to your willingness to sacrifice for others that’s natural

sacrifice for others that’s natural

sacrifice for others that’s natural this is why we’re so viscerally offended

this is why we’re so viscerally offended

this is why we’re so viscerally offended by some of the bankers who pay

by some of the bankers who pay

by some of the bankers who pay themselves disproportionately high

themselves disproportionately high

themselves disproportionately high bonuses and has nothing to do with the

bonuses and has nothing to do with the

bonuses and has nothing to do with the numbers it has everything to do with

numbers it has everything to do with

numbers it has everything to do with their violation of the deep-seated

their violation of the deep-seated

their violation of the deep-seated social contract we have with each other

social contract we have with each other

social contract we have with each other and with our leaders because we know

and with our leaders because we know

and with our leaders because we know that not only were they ok watching

that not only were they ok watching

that not only were they ok watching their people get sacrificed they could

their people get sacrificed they could

their people get sacrificed they could get their big bonus

get their big bonus

get their big bonus sometimes they sacrifice their people so

sometimes they sacrifice their people so

sometimes they sacrifice their people so they could get the big bonuses record

they could get the big bonuses record

they could get the big bonuses record high layoffs

high layoffs

high layoffs right that’s what so viscerally offends

right that’s what so viscerally offends

right that’s what so viscerally offends us they’ve actually violated the

us they’ve actually violated the

us they’ve actually violated the deep-seated social contract the very

deep-seated social contract the very

deep-seated social contract the very anthropological definition of what it

anthropological definition of what it

anthropological definition of what it means to be a leader what if I told you

means to be a leader what if I told you

means to be a leader what if I told you were gonna give a hundred and fifty

were gonna give a hundred and fifty

were gonna give a hundred and fifty million dollar bonus to Nelson Mandela

million dollar bonus to Nelson Mandela

million dollar bonus to Nelson Mandela anybody got a problem with that no two

anybody got a problem with that no two

anybody got a problem with that no two hundred and fifty million dollar bonus

hundred and fifty million dollar bonus

hundred and fifty million dollar bonus bonus to mother Teresa got an issue with

bonus to mother Teresa got an issue with

bonus to mother Teresa got an issue with that no it’s not the numbers it’s the

that no it’s not the numbers it’s the

that no it’s not the numbers it’s the social contract the very definition of

social contract the very definition of

social contract the very definition of leadership is not your ability to get

leadership is not your ability to get

leadership is not your ability to get people to do things it’s not your

people to do things it’s not your

people to do things it’s not your ability to get people to do your bidding

ability to get people to do your bidding

ability to get people to do your bidding the very definition of leadership is to

the very definition of leadership is to

the very definition of leadership is to offer safety and protection to those in

offer safety and protection to those in

offer safety and protection to those in your care so they feel so safe in the

your care so they feel so safe in the

your care so they feel so safe in the environment which they live and work

environment which they live and work

environment which they live and work that they would voluntarily offer their

that they would voluntarily offer their

that they would voluntarily offer their blood sweat and tears to see your intent

blood sweat and tears to see your intent

blood sweat and tears to see your intent your vision and your goals advanced they

your vision and your goals advanced they

your vision and your goals advanced they will volunteer to do that because they

will volunteer to do that because they

will volunteer to do that because they know that you would do it to them

know that you would do it to them

know that you would do it to them that’s the deal and that’s why it works

that’s the deal and that’s why it works

that’s the deal and that’s why it works well together

oxytocin oxytocin is the feeling of love

oxytocin oxytocin is the feeling of love friendship loyalty trust it’s all the

friendship loyalty trust it’s all the

friendship loyalty trust it’s all the warm and fuzzies it’s all the unicorns

warm and fuzzies it’s all the unicorns

warm and fuzzies it’s all the unicorns and rainbows right when you sit on it’s

and rainbows right when you sit on it’s

and rainbows right when you sit on it’s like why it’s fun to hang out with our

like why it’s fun to hang out with our

like why it’s fun to hang out with our friend you can sit on a couch and watch

friend you can sit on a couch and watch

friend you can sit on a couch and watch TV for three hours and never exchange a

TV for three hours and never exchange a

TV for three hours and never exchange a word with each other and when they leave

word with each other and when they leave

word with each other and when they leave you be like hey thanks to coming at such

you be like hey thanks to coming at such

you be like hey thanks to coming at such a good time you didn’t do anything you

a good time you didn’t do anything you

a good time you didn’t do anything you watch TV right it’s the company we keep

watch TV right it’s the company we keep

watch TV right it’s the company we keep with people we love that’s oxytocin

with people we love that’s oxytocin

with people we love that’s oxytocin right it’s that deep-seated bond of love

right it’s that deep-seated bond of love

right it’s that deep-seated bond of love and trust it’s not it doesn’t happen

and trust it’s not it doesn’t happen

and trust it’s not it doesn’t happen overnight you can go on one date and get

overnight you can go on one date and get

overnight you can go on one date and get married it takes time builds up

married it takes time builds up

married it takes time builds up sometimes it’s quicker sometimes it’s

sometimes it’s quicker sometimes it’s

sometimes it’s quicker sometimes it’s slower it takes time and effort and it’s

slower it takes time and effort and it’s

slower it takes time and effort and it’s like a dance

like a dance

like a dance vulnerability do things for people pull

vulnerability do things for people pull

vulnerability do things for people pull back you know the organization does it

back you know the organization does it

back you know the organization does it for me we do it for the organization my

for me we do it for the organization my

for me we do it for the organization my boss does it for me we do it for the

boss does it for me we do it for the

boss does it for me we do it for the boss my colleagues do for me I do for my

boss my colleagues do for me I do for my

boss my colleagues do for me I do for my colleagues the other Midshipmen do it

colleagues the other Midshipmen do it

colleagues the other Midshipmen do it for me I do for them and if then

for me I do for them and if then

for me I do for them and if then eventually I mean you know I know from

eventually I mean you know I know from

eventually I mean you know I know from Parris Island right on the first day

Parris Island right on the first day

Parris Island right on the first day that they get there and they’re all

that they get there and they’re all

that they get there and they’re all standing on the yellow footprints right

standing on the yellow footprints right

standing on the yellow footprints right they ain’t thinking about anybody else

they ain’t thinking about anybody else

they ain’t thinking about anybody else but themselves that’s it solo me and the

but themselves that’s it solo me and the

but themselves that’s it solo me and the first thing they’re di will say to them

first thing they’re di will say to them

first thing they’re di will say to them first word they will hear yelled at them

first word they will hear yelled at them

first word they will hear yelled at them are from this day on the words I me my

are from this day on the words I me my

are from this day on the words I me my are no longer in your vocabulary they

are no longer in your vocabulary they

are no longer in your vocabulary they will be replaced by we together in us

will be replaced by we together in us

will be replaced by we together in us now they’re not listening but that is

now they’re not listening but that is

now they’re not listening but that is what will happen and for the first two

what will happen and for the first two

what will happen and for the first two weeks or so of boot camp those young

weeks or so of boot camp those young

weeks or so of boot camp those young recruits care about one thing and one

recruits care about one thing and one

recruits care about one thing and one thing only looking good proving to the

thing only looking good proving to the

thing only looking good proving to the DI that I deserve to be here I’m good

DI that I deserve to be here I’m good

DI that I deserve to be here I’m good enough to be a Marine

enough to be a Marine

enough to be a Marine so the Marines keep putting them in

so the Marines keep putting them in

so the Marines keep putting them in situations that they will fail if they

situations that they will fail if they

situations that they will fail if they try and do things by themselves here are

try and do things by themselves here are

try and do things by themselves here are steps they are 12 feet apart you have to

steps they are 12 feet apart you have to

steps they are 12 feet apart you have to climb to the top good luck there’s a

climb to the top good luck there’s a

climb to the top good luck there’s a reason it’s called the confidence course

reason it’s called the confidence course

reason it’s called the confidence course it’s because they’re working to build

it’s because they’re working to build

it’s because they’re working to build out their individual confidence the

out their individual confidence the

out their individual confidence the Marines know that people will not serve

Marines know that people will not serve

Marines know that people will not serve the team will not serve the group until

the team will not serve the group until

the team will not serve the group until they believe in their own ability they

they believe in their own ability they

they believe in their own ability they know that I mean think about it there’s

know that I mean think about it there’s

know that I mean think about it there’s only a finite number of people that

only a finite number of people that

only a finite number of people that exhibit personality does exist in the

exhibit personality does exist in the

exhibit personality does exist in the world you can form your own team here

world you can form your own team here

world you can form your own team here you can choose here’s option one

you can choose here’s option one

you can choose here’s option one somebody who does not believe in their

somebody who does not believe in their

somebody who does not believe in their own ability option two somebody who does

own ability option two somebody who does

own ability option two somebody who does believe in their own ability but thinks

believe in their own ability but thinks

believe in their own ability but thinks they’re better than everyone else

they’re better than everyone else

they’re better than everyone else option three someone who does believe in

option three someone who does believe in

option three someone who does believe in their ability but does nothing

their ability but does nothing

their ability but does nothing better than everyone else who do you

better than everyone else who do you

better than everyone else who do you want on your team such an obvious

want on your team such an obvious

want on your team such an obvious question it’s stupid we want the person

question it’s stupid we want the person

question it’s stupid we want the person who believes in themselves and doesn’t

who believes in themselves and doesn’t

who believes in themselves and doesn’t think they’re better than everybody else

think they’re better than everybody else

think they’re better than everybody else okay how do you gonna do that you have

okay how do you gonna do that you have

okay how do you gonna do that you have to train that you have to Train

to train that you have to Train

to train that you have to Train confidence like parents try and teach

confidence like parents try and teach

confidence like parents try and teach their kids to be confidence we put them

their kids to be confidence we put them

their kids to be confidence we put them in situations where they can do more

in situations where they can do more

in situations where they can do more than they thought they could do

than they thought they could do

than they thought they could do but they couldn’t do it without each

but they couldn’t do it without each

but they couldn’t do it without each other Marines think they’re the best oh

other Marines think they’re the best oh

other Marines think they’re the best oh my god they don’t stop talking about but

my god they don’t stop talking about but

my god they don’t stop talking about but they don’t think they’re better than

they don’t think they’re better than

they don’t think they’re better than other Marines that’s what makes it work

other Marines that’s what makes it work

other Marines that’s what makes it work right that’s what makes it work oxytocin

right that’s what makes it work oxytocin

right that’s what makes it work oxytocin is that love is that trust that we can

is that love is that trust that we can

is that love is that trust that we can eat that we can rely on each other there

eat that we can rely on each other there

eat that we can rely on each other there are many ways you can get oxytocin one

are many ways you can get oxytocin one

are many ways you can get oxytocin one is shared adversity shared hardship

is shared adversity shared hardship

is shared adversity shared hardship think about your best day at work think

think about your best day at work think

think about your best day at work think about your best day you’ve ever had it’s

about your best day you’ve ever had it’s

about your best day you’ve ever had it’s not the time where everything went

not the time where everything went

not the time where everything went smoothly came in under budget and

smoothly came in under budget and

smoothly came in under budget and finished on time and you completed the

finished on time and you completed the

finished on time and you completed the mission huge success that sounds like it

mission huge success that sounds like it

mission huge success that sounds like it should be your best day but it’s not

should be your best day but it’s not

should be your best day but it’s not your best days or when everything went

your best days or when everything went

your best days or when everything went wrong you’re up to a three o’clock in

wrong you’re up to a three o’clock in

wrong you’re up to a three o’clock in the morning and even though it wasn’t a

the morning and even though it wasn’t a

the morning and even though it wasn’t a success for some reason you have really

success for some reason you have really

success for some reason you have really fun memories of it it’s because of the

fun memories of it it’s because of the

fun memories of it it’s because of the shared adversity and the relationships

shared adversity and the relationships

shared adversity and the relationships you remember nobody wants to go to

you remember nobody wants to go to

you remember nobody wants to go to combat but people come back from

combat but people come back from

combat but people come back from deployment and they talk about with

deployment and they talk about with

deployment and they talk about with fondness you know they didn’t enjoy it

fondness you know they didn’t enjoy it

fondness you know they didn’t enjoy it but how much they appreciated it and

but how much they appreciated it and

but how much they appreciated it and it’s the bonds that they form suicides

it’s the bonds that they form suicides

it’s the bonds that they form suicides of the military you know slight majority

of the military you know slight majority

of the military you know slight majority of the suicides in military are people

of the suicides in military are people

of the suicides in military are people who do not get deployed it’s not combat

who do not get deployed it’s not combat

who do not get deployed it’s not combat deployment it’s people who stay home

deployment it’s people who stay home

deployment it’s people who stay home where all of their friends go and form

where all of their friends go and form

where all of their friends go and form the relationships in other shared

the relationships in other shared

the relationships in other shared adversity they left back by themselves

adversity they left back by themselves

adversity they left back by themselves lonely it makes us feel uneasy right

lonely it makes us feel uneasy right

lonely it makes us feel uneasy right there’s weird things that start to

there’s weird things that start to

there’s weird things that start to happen where these social and most

happen where these social and most

happen where these social and most shared adversity it releases oxytocin

shared adversity it releases oxytocin

shared adversity it releases oxytocin another thing that releases oxytocin

another thing that releases oxytocin

another thing that releases oxytocin human contact the more people love each

human contact the more people love each

human contact the more people love each other the more they touch each other

other the more they touch each other

other the more they touch each other right high fives

right high fives

right high fives you know slap an athlete’s slap each

you know slap an athlete’s slap each

you know slap an athlete’s slap each other like we hugged the people we love

other like we hugged the people we love

other like we hugged the people we love we hold hands we would get each other

we hold hands we would get each other

we hold hands we would get each other oxytocin when we meet somebody as a sign

oxytocin when we meet somebody as a sign

oxytocin when we meet somebody as a sign of respect what we do is shake hands we

of respect what we do is shake hands we

of respect what we do is shake hands we touch

touch

touch lots of touching right that’s why you

lots of touching right that’s why you

lots of touching right that’s why you have to hold children the more you hold

have to hold children the more you hold

have to hold children the more you hold children they’ve done a wonderful study

children they’ve done a wonderful study

children they’ve done a wonderful study the children who don’t get touched I

the children who don’t get touched I

the children who don’t get touched I think the numbers thirty two times a day

think the numbers thirty two times a day

think the numbers thirty two times a day are more likely to grow up to be

are more likely to grow up to be

are more likely to grow up to be criminals

criminals

criminals that’s because when we have oxytocin in

that’s because when we have oxytocin in

that’s because when we have oxytocin in our butt and our body’s oxytocin gives

our butt and our body’s oxytocin gives

our butt and our body’s oxytocin gives us the capacity for empathy oxytocin

us the capacity for empathy oxytocin

us the capacity for empathy oxytocin gives us the capacity for respect and

gives us the capacity for respect and

gives us the capacity for respect and love and if you lack those things if you

love and if you lack those things if you

love and if you lack those things if you don’t have oxytocin in your system you’d

don’t have oxytocin in your system you’d

don’t have oxytocin in your system you’d be kind of um and but that it can you

be kind of um and but that it can you

be kind of um and but that it can you become incredibly incredibly selfish the

become incredibly incredibly selfish the

become incredibly incredibly selfish the more oxytocin we have in our bodies it

more oxytocin we have in our bodies it

more oxytocin we have in our bodies it also reduces our susceptibility to to

also reduces our susceptibility to to

also reduces our susceptibility to to addiction so the less oxytocin you have

addiction so the less oxytocin you have

addiction so the less oxytocin you have the more addictive personality you have

the more addictive personality you have

the more addictive personality you have it’s love it’s trust here’s another way

it’s love it’s trust here’s another way

it’s love it’s trust here’s another way you get oxytocin acts of kindness backs

you get oxytocin acts of kindness backs

you get oxytocin acts of kindness backs of human generosity an act of human

of human generosity an act of human

of human generosity an act of human generosity is defined as giving of your

generosity is defined as giving of your

generosity is defined as giving of your time and energy with no expectation of

time and energy with no expectation of

time and energy with no expectation of anything in return money doesn’t work if

anything in return money doesn’t work if

anything in return money doesn’t work if I told you that on my way here before I

I told you that on my way here before I

I told you that on my way here before I came here I went online and I gave 500

came here I went online and I gave 500

came here I went online and I gave 500 dollars to charity what would you think

dollars to charity what would you think

dollars to charity what would you think of me he’d be like good for you

of me he’d be like good for you

of me he’d be like good for you right but if I told you that last

right but if I told you that last

right but if I told you that last Saturday I gave up half a day and I went

Saturday I gave up half a day and I went

Saturday I gave up half a day and I went to paintin schools in the inner city

to paintin schools in the inner city

to paintin schools in the inner city then would you think of me like nice

then would you think of me like nice

then would you think of me like nice cool I should do more right we as human

cool I should do more right we as human

cool I should do more right we as human animals put a premium on those who are

animals put a premium on those who are

animals put a premium on those who are willing to spend a non redeemable

willing to spend a non redeemable

willing to spend a non redeemable commodity time energy right we’ve all

commodity time energy right we’ve all

commodity time energy right we’ve all sat in meetings or watched movies and

sat in meetings or watched movies and

sat in meetings or watched movies and thought to ourselves I will never get

thought to ourselves I will never get

thought to ourselves I will never get this time back some of you are sitting

this time back some of you are sitting

this time back some of you are sitting right here right now going I will never

right here right now going I will never

right here right now going I will never get this time back I got nothing for you

get this time back I got nothing for you

get this time back I got nothing for you I got nothing for you

I got nothing for you

I got nothing for you right money you can make back time and

right money you can make back time and

right money you can make back time and energy you do not and so we as human

energy you do not and so we as human

energy you do not and so we as human animals that are constantly looking to

animals that are constantly looking to

animals that are constantly looking to see and learn if we can trust people if

see and learn if we can trust people if

see and learn if we can trust people if they’re willing to give to us we’ll give

they’re willing to give to us we’ll give

they’re willing to give to us we’ll give more trust to those who were willing to

more trust to those who were willing to

more trust to those who were willing to give their non redeemable goal run

give their non redeemable goal run

give their non redeemable goal run non-edible commodity to us this is why

non-edible commodity to us this is why

non-edible commodity to us this is why email doesn’t work right if I come to

email doesn’t work right if I come to

email doesn’t work right if I come to your house for dinner you make me a

your house for dinner you make me a

your house for dinner you make me a lovely dinner the next day I send you a

lovely dinner the next day I send you a

lovely dinner the next day I send you a wonderful email thank you sir what an

wonderful email thank you sir what an

wonderful email thank you sir what an amazing host you are or three days later

amazing host you are or three days later

amazing host you are or three days later you receive a handwritten note from me

you receive a handwritten note from me

you receive a handwritten note from me with the exact same words which would

with the exact same words which would

with the exact same words which would make you feel better

make you feel better

make you feel better handwritten note same words same

handwritten note same words same

handwritten note same words same intention

intention

intention same in same desire the difference is

same in same desire the difference is

same in same desire the difference is you know it took me a little more time

you know it took me a little more time

you know it took me a little more time and a little more energy for the note

and a little more energy for the note

and a little more energy for the note and it makes you feel better

and it makes you feel better

and it makes you feel better email doesn’t work it’s too easy email

email doesn’t work it’s too easy email

email doesn’t work it’s too easy email is great for the exchange of information

is great for the exchange of information

is great for the exchange of information email is great what time’s the meeting

email is great what time’s the meeting

email is great what time’s the meeting four o’clock here is the PowerPoint you

four o’clock here is the PowerPoint you

four o’clock here is the PowerPoint you asked for here it is it is terrible to

asked for here it is it is terrible to

asked for here it is it is terrible to tell people what you think of their

tell people what you think of their

tell people what you think of their ideas it is terrible to tell them what

ideas it is terrible to tell them what

ideas it is terrible to tell them what your ideas are it is terrible to

your ideas are it is terrible to

your ideas are it is terrible to criticize people it is terrible to

criticize people it is terrible to

criticize people it is terrible to compliment people these are emotional

compliment people these are emotional

compliment people these are emotional things these are trust-building

things these are trust-building

things these are trust-building mechanisms and they do not work an email

mechanisms and they do not work an email

mechanisms and they do not work an email get up and walk over and tell them call

get up and walk over and tell them call

get up and walk over and tell them call them hey I got you emails you want to

them hey I got you emails you want to

them hey I got you emails you want to tell you what I thought of your idea

tell you what I thought of your idea

tell you what I thought of your idea sure you know it’s why eyeball

sure you know it’s why eyeball

sure you know it’s why eyeball leadership matters it’s why the senior

leadership matters it’s why the senior

leadership matters it’s why the senior officer who goes to the frontlines

officer who goes to the frontlines

officer who goes to the frontlines simply to say hi to everybody hey thanks

simply to say hi to everybody hey thanks

simply to say hi to everybody hey thanks for your doing hey nice to meet you hey

for your doing hey nice to meet you hey

for your doing hey nice to meet you hey how are you the reason it matters is

how are you the reason it matters is

how are you the reason it matters is because everybody on the front lines

because everybody on the front lines

because everybody on the front lines know that that person is really really

know that that person is really really

know that that person is really really busy and has better things to do in

busy and has better things to do in

busy and has better things to do in their mind and that they would get on a

their mind and that they would get on a

their mind and that they would get on a plane travel for nine and a half hours

plane travel for nine and a half hours

plane travel for nine and a half hours expose themselves to physical danger and

expose themselves to physical danger and

expose themselves to physical danger and walk around simply to say hi to us means

walk around simply to say hi to us means

walk around simply to say hi to us means they care huge impact in how we feel

they care huge impact in how we feel

they care huge impact in how we feel about ourselves and the organization

about ourselves and the organization

about ourselves and the organization with the knowledge that our leaders

with the knowledge that our leaders

with the knowledge that our leaders would sacrifice their time and energy

would sacrifice their time and energy

would sacrifice their time and energy for us I was walking down the streets of

for us I was walking down the streets of

for us I was walking down the streets of New York and person in front of me their

New York and person in front of me their

New York and person in front of me their backpack open and a bunch of paper

backpack open and a bunch of paper

backpack open and a bunch of paper spilled out didn’t think much of it I

spilled out didn’t think much of it I

spilled out didn’t think much of it I bent down gathered up the papers hand

bent down gathered up the papers hand

bent down gathered up the papers hand them back pointed out that his bag had

them back pointed out that his bag had

them back pointed out that his bag had opened up I did a small act of

opened up I did a small act of

opened up I did a small act of generosity I got a small burst of

generosity I got a small burst of

generosity I got a small burst of oxytocin it felt good felt nice the

oxytocin it felt good felt nice the

oxytocin it felt good felt nice the person on the receiving end of the

person on the receiving end of the

person on the receiving end of the generosity also gets a burst of oxytocin

generosity also gets a burst of oxytocin

generosity also gets a burst of oxytocin thank you he said he felt good it’s nice

thank you he said he felt good it’s nice

thank you he said he felt good it’s nice when somebody does something nice for us

when somebody does something nice for us

when somebody does something nice for us Thanks

Thanks

Thanks right both get a burst of oxytocin right

right both get a burst of oxytocin right

right both get a burst of oxytocin right get to the end of the block true story

get to the end of the block true story

get to the end of the block true story get to the end of the block I’m standing

get to the end of the block I’m standing

get to the end of the block I’m standing waiting to cross the street and the guy

waiting to cross the street and the guy

waiting to cross the street and the guy standing in front of me turns around and

standing in front of me turns around and

standing in front of me turns around and says I saw what you did back there

says I saw what you did back there

says I saw what you did back there that was really cool as it turns out

that was really cool as it turns out

that was really cool as it turns out simply witnessing an act of generosity

simply witnessing an act of generosity

simply witnessing an act of generosity releases oxytocin the human body is

releases oxytocin the human body is

releases oxytocin the human body is trying desperately to get us to look

trying desperately to get us to look

trying desperately to get us to look after each other and so it rewards us

after each other and so it rewards us

after each other and so it rewards us with these immense feelings of

with these immense feelings of

with these immense feelings of positivity and fulfillment and joy when

positivity and fulfillment and joy when

positivity and fulfillment and joy when we do nice things for each other when

we do nice things for each other when

we do nice things for each other when others do nice things for us and when we

others do nice things for us and when we

others do nice things for us and when we witness others doing things because the

witness others doing things because the

witness others doing things because the more oxytocin we have in our systems the

more oxytocin we have in our systems the

more oxytocin we have in our systems the more generous we become the more

more generous we become the more

more generous we become the more empathetic we become the healthier we

empathetic we become the healthier we

empathetic we become the healthier we are oxytocin actually boosts your immune

are oxytocin actually boosts your immune

are oxytocin actually boosts your immune system people in relationships live

system people in relationships live

system people in relationships live longer than single people happy people

longer than single people happy people

longer than single people happy people live longer than than unhappy people

live longer than than unhappy people

live longer than than unhappy people right

right

right it actually makes us better problem

it actually makes us better problem

it actually makes us better problem solvers it opens up our brains

solvers it opens up our brains

solvers it opens up our brains biologically I’m talking real biology

biologically I’m talking real biology

biologically I’m talking real biology here right the more oxytocin you have in

here right the more oxytocin you have in

here right the more oxytocin you have in your system the better you are problem

your system the better you are problem

your system the better you are problem solving in other words a team of people

solving in other words a team of people

solving in other words a team of people who care about each other can much

who care about each other can much

who care about each other can much better solve a difficult problem than

better solve a difficult problem than

better solve a difficult problem than teams of people who don’t care about

teams of people who don’t care about

teams of people who don’t care about each other this is the power of this

each other this is the power of this

each other this is the power of this stuff the human body is trying so hard

stuff the human body is trying so hard

stuff the human body is trying so hard to get us to look after each other you

to get us to look after each other you

to get us to look after each other you want to be a leader you have a choice

want to be a leader you have a choice

want to be a leader you have a choice you can stab your way up the knives and

you can stab your way up the knives and

you can stab your way up the knives and someone’s back and achieve Authority and

someone’s back and achieve Authority and

someone’s back and achieve Authority and you will enjoy all the perks afforded to

you will enjoy all the perks afforded to

you will enjoy all the perks afforded to you and in times of stress no one will

you and in times of stress no one will

you and in times of stress no one will come to your aid people will do as you

come to your aid people will do as you

come to your aid people will do as you say because they think they’re required

say because they think they’re required

say because they think they’re required to but they will not give you their all

to but they will not give you their all

to but they will not give you their all they will give you the minimum because

they will give you the minimum because

they will give you the minimum because they don’t trust you or you could be

they don’t trust you or you could be

they don’t trust you or you could be willing to sacrifice your own comfort

willing to sacrifice your own comfort

willing to sacrifice your own comfort your own perks when it matters so that

your own perks when it matters so that

your own perks when it matters so that others may gain and you will earn their

others may gain and you will earn their

others may gain and you will earn their trust their loyalty and their love if

trust their loyalty and their love if

trust their loyalty and their love if someone is struggling with their with

someone is struggling with their with

someone is struggling with their with their studying and you are also studying

their studying and you are also studying

their studying and you are also studying what is the choice you make do you get

what is the choice you make do you get

what is the choice you make do you get up from your desk and you work with them

up from your desk and you work with them

up from your desk and you work with them until the wee hours of the morning until

until the wee hours of the morning until

until the wee hours of the morning until they get it maybe even sacrificing your

they get it maybe even sacrificing your

they get it maybe even sacrificing your ability to study and maybe sacrificing

ability to study and maybe sacrificing

ability to study and maybe sacrificing your own grey

your own grey

your own grey that has significant implications in

that has significant implications in

that has significant implications in your career it absolutely will if you

your career it absolutely will if you

your career it absolutely will if you don’t make the grade that’ll hurt but

don’t make the grade that’ll hurt but

don’t make the grade that’ll hurt but those are the steps it takes to become a

those are the steps it takes to become a

those are the steps it takes to become a leader leadership is a choice that’s all

leader leadership is a choice that’s all

leader leadership is a choice that’s all it is that’s all it is

it is that’s all it is

it is that’s all it is the more you offer

the more you offer

the more you offer this to others the more they offered

this to others the more they offered

this to others the more they offered back

again you’ve heard the stories you’ve

again you’ve heard the stories you’ve met the people you meet people who have

met the people you meet people who have

met the people you meet people who have sacrificed themselves that others may

sacrificed themselves that others may

sacrificed themselves that others may gain they risk their lives Dakota Meyer

gain they risk their lives Dakota Meyer

gain they risk their lives Dakota Meyer who won the Congressional Medal of Honor

who won the Congressional Medal of Honor

who won the Congressional Medal of Honor the president asked him did you think

the president asked him did you think

the president asked him did you think you were going to die to which he

you were going to die to which he

you were going to die to which he replies the president no sir I knew I

replies the president no sir I knew I

replies the president no sir I knew I was gonna die nobody runs into combat

was gonna die nobody runs into combat

was gonna die nobody runs into combat forgotten country it just doesn’t exist

forgotten country it just doesn’t exist

forgotten country it just doesn’t exist they do for the person to the left of

they do for the person to the left of

they do for the person to the left of them and they do for the person to the

them and they do for the person to the

them and they do for the person to the right of them and they do it and if you

right of them and they do it and if you

right of them and they do it and if you ask anybody who did these things why did

ask anybody who did these things why did

ask anybody who did these things why did you do it they all say the same thing

you do it they all say the same thing

you do it they all say the same thing because they would have done it for me

because they would have done it for me

because they would have done it for me that’s called leadership the shootings

that’s called leadership the shootings

that’s called leadership the shootings that just had in Kenya in the mall there

that just had in Kenya in the mall there

that just had in Kenya in the mall there was a photographer inside the mall and

was a photographer inside the mall and

was a photographer inside the mall and captured the scene which we never get to

captured the scene which we never get to

captured the scene which we never get to see we usually see the aftermath and

see we usually see the aftermath and

see we usually see the aftermath and there’s one photograph which I want you

there’s one photograph which I want you

there’s one photograph which I want you to look up and if you can print it out

to look up and if you can print it out

to look up and if you can print it out and hang it on your wall inside your

and hang it on your wall inside your

and hang it on your wall inside your room go to New York Times comm and just

room go to New York Times comm and just

room go to New York Times comm and just look up the photograph of the key the

look up the photograph of the key the

look up the photograph of the key the the photographs on the Kenya shooting

the photographs on the Kenya shooting

the photographs on the Kenya shooting from the terrorist attack and there is a

from the terrorist attack and there is a

from the terrorist attack and there is a photograph that haunts me and inspires

photograph that haunts me and inspires

photograph that haunts me and inspires me every time I see it it is a mother

me every time I see it it is a mother

me every time I see it it is a mother lying on top of her child okay so at the

lying on top of her child okay so at the

lying on top of her child okay so at the sound of gunfire the sound of danger it

sound of gunfire the sound of danger it

sound of gunfire the sound of danger it is the instinct no pros and cons Wade no

is the instinct no pros and cons Wade no

is the instinct no pros and cons Wade no thought to what may happen to her it is

thought to what may happen to her it is

thought to what may happen to her it is the instinct of the mother to throw

the instinct of the mother to throw

the instinct of the mother to throw herself on top of her child that is a

herself on top of her child that is a

herself on top of her child that is a picture of leadership that is the

picture of leadership that is the

picture of leadership that is the personification of leadership if you

personification of leadership if you

personification of leadership if you want to know what it takes to be leader

want to know what it takes to be leader

want to know what it takes to be leader look at that picture every single

look at that picture every single

look at that picture every single morning and think to yourself would I

morning and think to yourself would I

morning and think to yourself would I without even thinking about it throw

without even thinking about it throw

without even thinking about it throw myself on top of my people

myself on top of my people

myself on top of my people intellectually we all think we would

intellectually we all think we would

intellectually we all think we would throw ourselves on top of the grenade

throw ourselves on top of the grenade

throw ourselves on top of the grenade right but it’s not a question of whether

right but it’s not a question of whether

right but it’s not a question of whether you think you would or wouldn’t when the

you think you would or wouldn’t when the

you think you would or wouldn’t when the grenade is thrown the question is to

grenade is thrown the question is to

grenade is thrown the question is to others believe

others believe

others believe when it was thrown and the question is

when it was thrown and the question is

when it was thrown and the question is on a daily basis do I believe that you

on a daily basis do I believe that you

on a daily basis do I believe that you would do that because if I don’t my

would do that because if I don’t my

would do that because if I don’t my guard goes up I will protect myself from

guard goes up I will protect myself from

guard goes up I will protect myself from you if I do

you if I do

you if I do my guard goes down and I will do

my guard goes down and I will do

my guard goes down and I will do whatever it takes to see that your

whatever it takes to see that your

whatever it takes to see that your vision and your intent is followed and I

vision and your intent is followed and I

vision and your intent is followed and I will do so with pride and I want to make

will do so with pride and I want to make

will do so with pride and I want to make you proud because of the sacrifice you

you proud because of the sacrifice you

you proud because of the sacrifice you gave