so it’s not selfish to put yourself first so it’s self full it’s self full
first so it’s self full it’s self full
first so it’s self full it’s self full self full to be first to be as good as
self full to be first to be as good as
self full to be first to be as good as possible to you to take care of you be
possible to you to take care of you be
possible to you to take care of you be willing to do a new thing in a new way
willing to do a new thing in a new way
willing to do a new thing in a new way and sometimes you’re gonna have to piss
and sometimes you’re gonna have to piss
and sometimes you’re gonna have to piss people off in the process I give all
people off in the process I give all
people off in the process I give all meaning to everything I see if I see
meaning to everything I see if I see
meaning to everything I see if I see myself as broken wounded damaged crazy
myself as broken wounded damaged crazy
myself as broken wounded damaged crazy stupid whatever I guess meeting two that
need motivation watching top 10 with
need motivation watching top 10 with belief nation what’s up at seven my one
belief nation what’s up at seven my one
belief nation what’s up at seven my one word is believe and I believe in you I
word is believe and I believe in you I
word is believe and I believe in you I believe you have an amazing gift inside
believe you have an amazing gift inside
believe you have an amazing gift inside you that I wanna see explode out onto
you that I wanna see explode out onto
you that I wanna see explode out onto the world so let’s get your motivation
the world so let’s get your motivation
the world so let’s get your motivation to attend and get you believing in you
to attend and get you believing in you
to attend and get you believing in you grab a snack and chew in today’s lessons
grab a snack and chew in today’s lessons
grab a snack and chew in today’s lessons from a woman who was born in the back of
from a woman who was born in the back of
from a woman who was born in the back of a taxicab in Brooklyn New York had a
a taxicab in Brooklyn New York had a
a taxicab in Brooklyn New York had a petty criminal for a father who was
petty criminal for a father who was
petty criminal for a father who was absent from her life and had a mother
absent from her life and had a mother
absent from her life and had a mother who died from breast cancer while she
who died from breast cancer while she
who died from breast cancer while she was four years old to becoming an
was four years old to becoming an
was four years old to becoming an inspirational speaker author and TV
inspirational speaker author and TV
inspirational speaker author and TV personality she’s iyanla Vanzant and
personality she’s iyanla Vanzant and
personality she’s iyanla Vanzant and here’s my take on her top ten roses
here’s my take on her top ten roses
here’s my take on her top ten roses success vol 2 joy
success vol 2 joy
success vol 2 joy [Music]
let’s kick things off with rule number
let’s kick things off with rule number one know who you are you must know who
one know who you are you must know who
one know who you are you must know who you are I’m not talking about your name
you are I’m not talking about your name
you are I’m not talking about your name or your occupation and they’re talking
or your occupation and they’re talking
or your occupation and they’re talking about what people say about you on
about what people say about you on
about what people say about you on Facebook I’m not talking about your PIN
Facebook I’m not talking about your PIN
Facebook I’m not talking about your PIN number I’m talking about who you are at
number I’m talking about who you are at
number I’m talking about who you are at the core and the essence in the root of
the core and the essence in the root of
the core and the essence in the root of your being spiritual code of conduct
your being spiritual code of conduct
your being spiritual code of conduct says you have to know who you are
says you have to know who you are
says you have to know who you are and that your behavior cannot make
and that your behavior cannot make
and that your behavior cannot make testimony about you that is not the
testimony about you that is not the
testimony about you that is not the truth of who you are when you have a
truth of who you are when you have a
truth of who you are when you have a spiritual code of conduct and when you
spiritual code of conduct and when you
spiritual code of conduct and when you know who you are if you ain’t know how
know who you are if you ain’t know how
know who you are if you ain’t know how you don’t act like a ho if you ain’t a
you don’t act like a ho if you ain’t a
you don’t act like a ho if you ain’t a deadbeat daddy you don’t act like a
deadbeat daddy you don’t act like a
deadbeat daddy you don’t act like a deadbeat daddy
deadbeat daddy
deadbeat daddy if you ain’t not gonna you know act like
if you ain’t not gonna you know act like
if you ain’t not gonna you know act like a guttersnipe come on now you know who
a guttersnipe come on now you know who
a guttersnipe come on now you know who you are
you are
you are from the inside to the outside and your
from the inside to the outside and your
from the inside to the outside and your behavior is the demonstration of what
behavior is the demonstration of what
behavior is the demonstration of what you believe to be true about you special
you believe to be true about you special
you believe to be true about you special code of conduct
code of conduct
code of conduct says know who you are when somebody
says know who you are when somebody
says know who you are when somebody calls you out your name in your face
calls you out your name in your face
calls you out your name in your face rule number two my personal favorite put
rule number two my personal favorite put
rule number two my personal favorite put yourself first so it’s not selfish to
yourself first so it’s not selfish to
yourself first so it’s not selfish to put yourself first so it’s self full
put yourself first so it’s self full
put yourself first so it’s self full itself full self old to be first to be
itself full self old to be first to be
itself full self old to be first to be as good as possible to you to take care
as good as possible to you to take care
as good as possible to you to take care of you to keep you whole and healthy
of you to keep you whole and healthy
of you to keep you whole and healthy that doesn’t mean that you disregard
that doesn’t mean that you disregard
that doesn’t mean that you disregard everything and everyone but you want to
everything and everyone but you want to
everything and everyone but you want to come with your cup full you know my cup
come with your cup full you know my cup
come with your cup full you know my cup runneth over what comes out of the cup
runneth over what comes out of the cup
runneth over what comes out of the cup is for y’all what’s in the cup is mine
is for y’all what’s in the cup is mine
is for y’all what’s in the cup is mine but I got it
but I got it
but I got it don’t we do that don’t we take on other
don’t we do that don’t we take on other
don’t we do that don’t we take on other people’s stuff and make it about us when
people’s stuff and make it about us when
people’s stuff and make it about us when we don’t know that we matter when you
we don’t know that we matter when you
we don’t know that we matter when you don’t know you matter you will make
don’t know you matter you will make
don’t know you matter you will make somebody else’s crazy about you you got
somebody else’s crazy about you you got
somebody else’s crazy about you you got your own stuff to handle you don’t have
your own stuff to handle you don’t have
your own stuff to handle you don’t have to take on anybody else people violate
to take on anybody else people violate
to take on anybody else people violate you when you don’t have clear boundaries
you when you don’t have clear boundaries
you when you don’t have clear boundaries because you don’t tell them how to
because you don’t tell them how to
because you don’t tell them how to behave in your life and they run amok
behave in your life and they run amok
behave in your life and they run amok they run amok because you don’t have
they run amok because you don’t have
they run amok because you don’t have clear boundaries rule number three is
clear boundaries rule number three is
clear boundaries rule number three is know your worth real self knows the
know your worth real self knows the
know your worth real self knows the truth
truth
truth no matter what mask or what face you
no matter what mask or what face you
no matter what mask or what face you wear in the world your real self knows
wear in the world your real self knows
wear in the world your real self knows the truth and there was a time in my
the truth and there was a time in my
the truth and there was a time in my life when I acted like I knew a truth
life when I acted like I knew a truth
life when I acted like I knew a truth that I didn’t know and the truth I
that I didn’t know and the truth I
that I didn’t know and the truth I didn’t know was the depth of my value
didn’t know was the depth of my value
didn’t know was the depth of my value and my worth you see I had already been
and my worth you see I had already been
and my worth you see I had already been an author that had sold over six million
an author that had sold over six million
an author that had sold over six million books fourteen different titles I had
books fourteen different titles I had
books fourteen different titles I had already been on my own television show I
already been on my own television show I
already been on my own television show I had traveled around the world I had
had traveled around the world I had
had traveled around the world I had spoken to hundreds of thousands of
spoken to hundreds of thousands of
spoken to hundreds of thousands of people and still I did not know or value
people and still I did not know or value
people and still I did not know or value my own worth so and a very big
my own worth so and a very big
my own worth so and a very big opportunity to go forward and to beyond
opportunity to go forward and to beyond
opportunity to go forward and to beyond what was once called The Oprah Winfrey
what was once called The Oprah Winfrey
what was once called The Oprah Winfrey Show yes and I went on The Oprah Winfrey
Show yes and I went on The Oprah Winfrey
Show yes and I went on The Oprah Winfrey Show and Miss Winfrey asked me back
Show and Miss Winfrey asked me back
Show and Miss Winfrey asked me back again and again and again and eventually
again and again and again and eventually
again and again and again and eventually I became part of her change your life
I became part of her change your life
I became part of her change your life faculty and it was all good I had
faculty and it was all good I had
faculty and it was all good I had written 13 books I had traveled all over
written 13 books I had traveled all over
written 13 books I had traveled all over the country I had done her show
the country I had done her show
the country I had done her show repeatedly but I didn’t know my own
repeatedly but I didn’t know my own
repeatedly but I didn’t know my own sense of worth so what happened I tried
sense of worth so what happened I tried
sense of worth so what happened I tried to live in a place that I didn’t believe
to live in a place that I didn’t believe
to live in a place that I didn’t believe was true for me and eventually I crashed
was true for me and eventually I crashed
was true for me and eventually I crashed and burned crashed and burned by leaving
and burned crashed and burned by leaving
and burned crashed and burned by leaving The Oprah Winfrey Show and going on to
The Oprah Winfrey Show and going on to
The Oprah Winfrey Show and going on to another network and doing another show
another network and doing another show
another network and doing another show that didn’t even survive a season all
that didn’t even survive a season all
that didn’t even survive a season all because I didn’t know my worth now it
because I didn’t know my worth now it
because I didn’t know my worth now it would have looked like all sorts of
would have looked like all sorts of
would have looked like all sorts of external circumstances oh there was a
external circumstances oh there was a
external circumstances oh there was a miscommunication
miscommunication
miscommunication between me and miss Winfrey and the
between me and miss Winfrey and the
between me and miss Winfrey and the other network was offering me a lot of
other network was offering me a lot of
other network was offering me a lot of money and why shouldn’t I take a big
money and why shouldn’t I take a big
money and why shouldn’t I take a big business deal no it was about me not
business deal no it was about me not
business deal no it was about me not knowing my own words me not being able
knowing my own words me not being able
knowing my own words me not being able to stand in the miracle of being on The
to stand in the miracle of being on The
to stand in the miracle of being on The Oprah Winfrey Show repeatedly among
Oprah Winfrey Show repeatedly among
Oprah Winfrey Show repeatedly among honored teachers without having to work
honored teachers without having to work
honored teachers without having to work hard for it because that was what I had
hard for it because that was what I had
hard for it because that was what I had been taught the matter with me was that
been taught the matter with me was that
been taught the matter with me was that I didn’t know how to receive a gift a
I didn’t know how to receive a gift a
I didn’t know how to receive a gift a blessing without working hard for it
blessing without working hard for it
blessing without working hard for it so when things came to me easily I blew
so when things came to me easily I blew
so when things came to me easily I blew him up it’s self sabotage or
him up it’s self sabotage or
him up it’s self sabotage or procrastination or forgetting or
procrastination or forgetting or
procrastination or forgetting or whatever it is that opportunity went
whatever it is that opportunity went
whatever it is that opportunity went away because I didn’t know my worth
away because I didn’t know my worth
away because I didn’t know my worth that’s the kind of truth we have to tell
that’s the kind of truth we have to tell
that’s the kind of truth we have to tell each other we have to be aware of it we
each other we have to be aware of it we
each other we have to be aware of it we have to acknowledge it and we have to
have to acknowledge it and we have to
have to acknowledge it and we have to accept it
accept it
accept it rule number four do not accept the
rule number four do not accept the
rule number four do not accept the unacceptable you don’t have to be broke
unacceptable you don’t have to be broke
unacceptable you don’t have to be broke you don’t have to struggle you don’t
you don’t have to struggle you don’t
you don’t have to struggle you don’t have to be sad and sorry you don’t have
have to be sad and sorry you don’t have
have to be sad and sorry you don’t have to take care of everybody just because
to take care of everybody just because
to take care of everybody just because you’ve always done it be willing to do a
you’ve always done it be willing to do a
you’ve always done it be willing to do a new thing in a new way and sometimes
new thing in a new way and sometimes
new thing in a new way and sometimes you’re gonna have to piss people off in
you’re gonna have to piss people off in
you’re gonna have to piss people off in the process sometimes those people will
the process sometimes those people will
the process sometimes those people will hold you to your limitations they will
hold you to your limitations they will
hold you to your limitations they will hold you to what they believe to be true
hold you to what they believe to be true
hold you to what they believe to be true about you
about you
about you spiritual code of conduct says do not
spiritual code of conduct says do not
spiritual code of conduct says do not believe that because it hasn’t happened
believe that because it hasn’t happened
believe that because it hasn’t happened it won’t happen renew recharged your
it won’t happen renew recharged your
it won’t happen renew recharged your vision and do not be tricked into
vision and do not be tricked into
vision and do not be tricked into thinking that because it’s always
thinking that because it’s always
thinking that because it’s always happened it has to continue to happen
happened it has to continue to happen
happened it has to continue to happen spiritual code of conduct says do not
spiritual code of conduct says do not
spiritual code of conduct says do not accept the unacceptable do not
accept the unacceptable do not
accept the unacceptable do not accommodate and tolerate what doesn’t
accommodate and tolerate what doesn’t
accommodate and tolerate what doesn’t honor you rule number five is change
honor you rule number five is change
honor you rule number five is change your thoughts close your eyes for me for
your thoughts close your eyes for me for
your thoughts close your eyes for me for a moment
a moment
a moment and I want you to hear this I give all
and I want you to hear this I give all
and I want you to hear this I give all me to everything I see breathe I want
me to everything I see breathe I want
me to everything I see breathe I want you to take that thought out of here
you to take that thought out of here
you to take that thought out of here with you so that as you go back into
with you so that as you go back into
with you so that as you go back into your life that you remember I give all
your life that you remember I give all
your life that you remember I give all meaning to everything I see if I see
meaning to everything I see if I see
meaning to everything I see if I see myself as broken wounded damaged crazy
myself as broken wounded damaged crazy
myself as broken wounded damaged crazy stupid whatever I give meaning to that
stupid whatever I give meaning to that
stupid whatever I give meaning to that so if I want my life to have a new
so if I want my life to have a new
so if I want my life to have a new meaning let me pick thoughts and images
meaning let me pick thoughts and images
meaning let me pick thoughts and images that support Who I am
that support Who I am
that support Who I am rule number six unpack that baggage when
rule number six unpack that baggage when
rule number six unpack that baggage when something happens with a partner or
something happens with a partner or
something happens with a partner or friend and even a co-worker or or
friend and even a co-worker or or
friend and even a co-worker or or supervisor and you’re bringing up all
supervisor and you’re bringing up all
supervisor and you’re bringing up all the other times that you’ve experienced
the other times that you’ve experienced
the other times that you’ve experienced that in the past
that in the past
that in the past that’s baggage when you start your
that’s baggage when you start your
that’s baggage when you start your statements about why you do something a
statements about why you do something a
statements about why you do something a certain way or what you’re not gonna do
certain way or what you’re not gonna do
certain way or what you’re not gonna do because of a certain experience that’s
because of a certain experience that’s
because of a certain experience that’s baggage and these are just common
baggage and these are just common
baggage and these are just common everyday things this isn’t even the hard
everyday things this isn’t even the hard
everyday things this isn’t even the hard stuff so I want to give you some
stuff so I want to give you some
stuff so I want to give you some unpacking skills for just the common
unpacking skills for just the common
unpacking skills for just the common everyday normal baggage that we walk
everyday normal baggage that we walk
everyday normal baggage that we walk around with these human beings if one
around with these human beings if one
around with these human beings if one person tells you you’re a horse you
person tells you you’re a horse you
person tells you you’re a horse you don’t have to believe that if two people
don’t have to believe that if two people
don’t have to believe that if two people tell you your horse you you may want to
tell you your horse you you may want to
tell you your horse you you may want to listen but by the time three people tell
listen but by the time three people tell
listen but by the time three people tell you that your horse you need to check
you that your horse you need to check
you that your horse you need to check yourself because I bet you got hay
yourself because I bet you got hay
yourself because I bet you got hay hanging out your mouth and your tail is
hanging out your mouth and your tail is
hanging out your mouth and your tail is wagging in other words if you keep
wagging in other words if you keep
wagging in other words if you keep hearing the same thing from different
hearing the same thing from different
hearing the same thing from different people at different times about you you
people at different times about you you
people at different times about you you need to unpack that package and don’t
need to unpack that package and don’t
need to unpack that package and don’t hear it as criticism or make people
hear it as criticism or make people
hear it as criticism or make people wrong or bad
wrong or bad
wrong or bad ask them what they mean I remember when
ask them what they mean I remember when
ask them what they mean I remember when my my grandson told me that I was mean
my my grandson told me that I was mean
my my grandson told me that I was mean and I had heard that but I never paid
and I had heard that but I never paid
and I had heard that but I never paid attention to it because moi I me on the
attention to it because moi I me on the
attention to it because moi I me on the VIN said I can’t be mean but when I sat
VIN said I can’t be mean but when I sat
VIN said I can’t be mean but when I sat and I listened to him and I realized
and I listened to him and I realized
and I listened to him and I realized wait a minute he’s not the only one
wait a minute he’s not the only one
wait a minute he’s not the only one saying that to me I had to hear it and I
saying that to me I had to hear it and I
saying that to me I had to hear it and I had to unpack it so when you hear one or
had to unpack it so when you hear one or
had to unpack it so when you hear one or two or three unrelated people telling
two or three unrelated people telling
two or three unrelated people telling you the same thing don’t dismiss that
you the same thing don’t dismiss that
you the same thing don’t dismiss that aspect tell me more about that because
aspect tell me more about that because
aspect tell me more about that because there may be some baggage that I have to
there may be some baggage that I have to
there may be some baggage that I have to unpack rule number seven ask for what
unpack rule number seven ask for what
unpack rule number seven ask for what you want you have to ask for what you
you want you have to ask for what you
you want you have to ask for what you want and don’t settle for what’s
want and don’t settle for what’s
want and don’t settle for what’s available or what you think you can get
say it again they told me say it again a
say it again they told me say it again a spiritual code of conduct says that you
spiritual code of conduct says that you
spiritual code of conduct says that you have to ask for what you want and do not
have to ask for what you want and do not
have to ask for what you want and do not settle for something because it’s all
settle for something because it’s all
settle for something because it’s all you think you can have or because it’s
you think you can have or because it’s
you think you can have or because it’s what’s available if you want it single
what’s available if you want it single
what’s available if you want it single don’t settle for it if it’s married
let me take a walk if you want it easy
let me take a walk if you want it easy don’t make it hard and if you want it
don’t make it hard and if you want it
don’t make it hard and if you want it hard then you gotta work with it if it’s
hard then you gotta work with it if it’s
hard then you gotta work with it if it’s not
not
not [Applause]
ask for what you want and ask for the
ask for what you want and ask for the things that are gonna up level your
things that are gonna up level your
things that are gonna up level your wattage in life don’t set off the things
wattage in life don’t set off the things
wattage in life don’t set off the things that are going to dim your light
that are going to dim your light
that are going to dim your light I’m level your wattage sometime I like
I’m level your wattage sometime I like
I’m level your wattage sometime I like be bright blinding us your light is so
be bright blinding us your light is so
be bright blinding us your light is so brilliant it blinds you the reflection
brilliant it blinds you the reflection
brilliant it blinds you the reflection of its shiny back in your eye and so you
of its shiny back in your eye and so you
of its shiny back in your eye and so you get confused and you’ll beat a holding
get confused and you’ll beat a holding
get confused and you’ll beat a holding on the things that do not reflect your
on the things that do not reflect your
on the things that do not reflect your own brilliance did you hear what I said
own brilliance did you hear what I said
own brilliance did you hear what I said that’s your light your gift your talent
that’s your light your gift your talent
that’s your light your gift your talent your truth can be so brilliant that it
your truth can be so brilliant that it
your truth can be so brilliant that it blinds you and you end up reaching out
blinds you and you end up reaching out
blinds you and you end up reaching out for holding on to taking on taking care
for holding on to taking on taking care
for holding on to taking on taking care of housing feeding clothing lending
of housing feeding clothing lending
of housing feeding clothing lending money to stuff that only dims your life
money to stuff that only dims your life
money to stuff that only dims your life rule number eight is trust yourself
rule number eight is trust yourself
rule number eight is trust yourself often we teach preach say what we most
often we teach preach say what we most
often we teach preach say what we most need to learn what was it about trust
need to learn what was it about trust
need to learn what was it about trust that you needed to learn for yourself
that you needed to learn for yourself
that you needed to learn for yourself I grew up thinking that a woman was my
I grew up thinking that a woman was my
I grew up thinking that a woman was my mother who was not I grew up thinking
mother who was not I grew up thinking
mother who was not I grew up thinking that there was something wrong with me
that there was something wrong with me
that there was something wrong with me because of god only knows why my life
because of god only knows why my life
because of god only knows why my life will you explain why so well in reading
will you explain why so well in reading
will you explain why so well in reading about your grandmother I think she was
about your grandmother I think she was
about your grandmother I think she was related to my god in all the ways that
related to my god in all the ways that
related to my god in all the ways that you make children feel inadequate yeah I
you make children feel inadequate yeah I
you make children feel inadequate yeah I was bad yeah I was bad yeah I had to
was bad yeah I was bad yeah I had to
was bad yeah I was bad yeah I had to devil in me yeah had the devil in me and
devil in me yeah had the devil in me and
devil in me yeah had the devil in me and she was gonna beat it out because she
she was gonna beat it out because she
she was gonna beat it out because she was a woman who because of the times in
was a woman who because of the times in
was a woman who because of the times in which she was raised and the suppression
which she was raised and the suppression
which she was raised and the suppression and oppression had learned that it was
and oppression had learned that it was
and oppression had learned that it was best to go through the world keeping
best to go through the world keeping
best to go through the world keeping quiet keep quiet
quiet keep quiet
quiet keep quiet be
be
be they want you to be how do i knuckle
they want you to be how do i knuckle
they want you to be how do i knuckle down had I really given in to the
down had I really given in to the
down had I really given in to the restrictions and limitations placed on
restrictions and limitations placed on
restrictions and limitations placed on me I wouldn’t be Who I am today was my
me I wouldn’t be Who I am today was my
me I wouldn’t be Who I am today was my talking that saved me here was the you
talking that saved me here was the you
talking that saved me here was the you know the classic shut up you talk too
know the classic shut up you talk too
know the classic shut up you talk too much
much
much shut up why you talk so much you’ve
shut up why you talk so much you’ve
shut up why you talk so much you’ve always got something to say
always got something to say
always got something to say and today people pay me well hear me
and today people pay me well hear me
and today people pay me well hear me speak yeah if I had shut up as a child
speak yeah if I had shut up as a child
speak yeah if I had shut up as a child that may not have never had so you
that may not have never had so you
that may not have never had so you learned that you needed to learn to
learned that you needed to learn to
learned that you needed to learn to trust yourself rule number nine use
trust yourself rule number nine use
trust yourself rule number nine use feedback to improve even when it doesn’t
feedback to improve even when it doesn’t
feedback to improve even when it doesn’t feel good
feel good
feel good feedback can be a really really good
feedback can be a really really good
feedback can be a really really good thing but first I want us to make a
thing but first I want us to make a
thing but first I want us to make a distinction between feedback and
distinction between feedback and
distinction between feedback and criticism because I think that’s
criticism because I think that’s
criticism because I think that’s important feedback is the energy or the
important feedback is the energy or the
important feedback is the energy or the return energy of what’s put out this
return energy of what’s put out this
return energy of what’s put out this means that feedback is information about
means that feedback is information about
means that feedback is information about or reactions to our state of being and
or reactions to our state of being and
or reactions to our state of being and our performance in our our way of being
our performance in our our way of being
our performance in our our way of being in relationship feedback comes to us as
in relationship feedback comes to us as
in relationship feedback comes to us as a response or a reaction or sometime as
a response or a reaction or sometime as
a response or a reaction or sometime as comments or a review of what we do and
comments or a review of what we do and
comments or a review of what we do and how we show up at any given moment and
how we show up at any given moment and
how we show up at any given moment and feedback has a purpose the purpose of
feedback has a purpose the purpose of
feedback has a purpose the purpose of feedback is to provide us with guidance
feedback is to provide us with guidance
feedback is to provide us with guidance or direction that will serve as the
or direction that will serve as the
or direction that will serve as the influence for modification or change in
influence for modification or change in
influence for modification or change in our behavior and in our energy so in
our behavior and in our energy so in
our behavior and in our energy so in other words feedback is a cue that’s
other words feedback is a cue that’s
other words feedback is a cue that’s something we do or say or how we behave
something we do or say or how we behave
something we do or say or how we behave needs to change that’s all it is now
needs to change that’s all it is now
needs to change that’s all it is now that sounds pretty harmless but but here
that sounds pretty harmless but but here
that sounds pretty harmless but but here comes the challenge most feedback either
comes the challenge most feedback either
comes the challenge most feedback either feels or sounds critical which means
feels or sounds critical which means
feels or sounds critical which means that it’s gonna trigger a toxic memory
that it’s gonna trigger a toxic memory
that it’s gonna trigger a toxic memory or a feeling which then motivates us to
or a feeling which then motivates us to
or a feeling which then motivates us to discount the feedback we’re receiving
discount the feedback we’re receiving
discount the feedback we’re receiving you know we can’t even hear it so so
you know we can’t even hear it so so
you know we can’t even hear it so so what is criticism man
what is criticism man
what is criticism man if feedback is criticism of what is
if feedback is criticism of what is
if feedback is criticism of what is criticism criticism is feedback that
criticism criticism is feedback that
criticism criticism is feedback that demoralizes condemns judges or blames
demoralizes condemns judges or blames
demoralizes condemns judges or blames it’s feedback that is consciously or
it’s feedback that is consciously or
it’s feedback that is consciously or unconsciously offered to manipulate or
unconsciously offered to manipulate or
unconsciously offered to manipulate or control that’s the difference where
control that’s the difference where
control that’s the difference where feedback is offered to motivate
feedback is offered to motivate
feedback is offered to motivate correction or change criticism is
correction or change criticism is
correction or change criticism is offered to manipulate and control and in
offered to manipulate and control and in
offered to manipulate and control and in many many cases while what people offer
many many cases while what people offer
many many cases while what people offer as constructive criticism what they want
as constructive criticism what they want
as constructive criticism what they want to give us it actually criticizes us and
to give us it actually criticizes us and
to give us it actually criticizes us and that’s what leads to a mental or
that’s what leads to a mental or
that’s what leads to a mental or emotional shutdown and we can lose the
emotional shutdown and we can lose the
emotional shutdown and we can lose the value of what’s being offered because
value of what’s being offered because
value of what’s being offered because criticism is our offering now here’s the
criticism is our offering now here’s the
criticism is our offering now here’s the good news all criticism is feedback and
good news all criticism is feedback and
good news all criticism is feedback and here’s the bad news all criticism is
here’s the bad news all criticism is
here’s the bad news all criticism is feedback what I mean is this whether
feedback what I mean is this whether
feedback what I mean is this whether it’s positive or negative productive or
it’s positive or negative productive or
it’s positive or negative productive or unproductive all feedback is telling you
unproductive all feedback is telling you
unproductive all feedback is telling you something you need to know about
something you need to know about
something you need to know about yourself and what you hear and how you
yourself and what you hear and how you
yourself and what you hear and how you hear it has nothing to do with who’s
hear it has nothing to do with who’s
hear it has nothing to do with who’s saying it all feedback is about who you
saying it all feedback is about who you
saying it all feedback is about who you be and how you be and it’s bringing that
be and how you be and it’s bringing that
be and how you be and it’s bringing that to your awareness there’s something you
to your awareness there’s something you
to your awareness there’s something you need to change beloved whether it is
need to change beloved whether it is
need to change beloved whether it is coming at you from your mother or your
coming at you from your mother or your
coming at you from your mother or your sister or your boss or your coworker or
sister or your boss or your coworker or
sister or your boss or your coworker or your partner feedback is a source of
your partner feedback is a source of
your partner feedback is a source of information for self improvement and it
information for self improvement and it
information for self improvement and it can be received and used as the
can be received and used as the
can be received and used as the foundation for altering and changing
foundation for altering and changing
foundation for altering and changing your way of being or specific course of
your way of being or specific course of
your way of being or specific course of behavior and rule number 10 the last one
behavior and rule number 10 the last one
behavior and rule number 10 the last one before the bonus clips have a morning
before the bonus clips have a morning
before the bonus clips have a morning routine do you have a morning ritual oh
routine do you have a morning ritual oh
routine do you have a morning ritual oh yes
yes
yes absolutely soon as my eyes open 23rd
absolutely soon as my eyes open 23rd
absolutely soon as my eyes open 23rd song as soon as my eyes open I’d do it
song as soon as my eyes open I’d do it
song as soon as my eyes open I’d do it and then I usually go I go sage my house
and then I usually go I go sage my house
and then I usually go I go sage my house out cuz I don’t know what was floating
out cuz I don’t know what was floating
out cuz I don’t know what was floating around in there in the night cuz you
around in there in the night cuz you
around in there in the night cuz you know I live out in the bushes like you
know I live out in the bushes like you
know I live out in the bushes like you then I make my coffee and I do love my
then I make my coffee and I do love my
then I make my coffee and I do love my morning coffee and then I read my my
morning coffee and then I read my my
morning coffee and then I read my my Course in Miracles lesson for the day I
Course in Miracles lesson for the day I
Course in Miracles lesson for the day I read my Jesus calling mmm-hmm and then I
read my Jesus calling mmm-hmm and then I
read my Jesus calling mmm-hmm and then I put my Bible to my head and open it and
put my Bible to my head and open it and
put my Bible to my head and open it and wherever it opens that’s what I mean and
wherever it opens that’s what I mean and
wherever it opens that’s what I mean and then I go downstairs and sometimes I get
then I go downstairs and sometimes I get
then I go downstairs and sometimes I get on the treadmill and sometimes I just
on the treadmill and sometimes I just
on the treadmill and sometimes I just dust it off I always get on my
dust it off I always get on my
dust it off I always get on my trampoline uh-huh and do my 15 minutes
trampoline uh-huh and do my 15 minutes
trampoline uh-huh and do my 15 minutes there uh-huh and then I get on my
there uh-huh and then I get on my
there uh-huh and then I get on my inversion table and I hang upside down
inversion table and I hang upside down
inversion table and I hang upside down yeah yeah because the rust of bloods of
yeah yeah because the rust of bloods of
yeah yeah because the rust of bloods of my head and keep me from getting
my head and keep me from getting
my head and keep me from getting wrinkled and then I’m off for my day
now I’ve got some special Iyanla bonus
now I’ve got some special Iyanla bonus cuts for you but before that my question
cuts for you but before that my question
cuts for you but before that my question of the day for you is what is your
of the day for you is what is your
of the day for you is what is your morning routine what is a single thing
morning routine what is a single thing
morning routine what is a single thing that you have to do every single morning
that you have to do every single morning
that you have to do every single morning leave it down the comments below I’m
leave it down the comments below I’m
leave it down the comments below I’m really curious to find out thank you
really curious to find out thank you
really curious to find out thank you guys so much for watching I believe in
guys so much for watching I believe in
guys so much for watching I believe in you I hope we continue to believe in
you I hope we continue to believe in
you I hope we continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one where it
yourself and whatever your one where it
yourself and whatever your one where it is
is
is much love I’ll see you soon and enjoy
much love I’ll see you soon and enjoy
much love I’ll see you soon and enjoy the bonus clips
do ground yourself spiritually every day
do ground yourself spiritually every day that means when you get up in the
that means when you get up in the
that means when you get up in the morning connect with something bigger
morning connect with something bigger
morning connect with something bigger greater grander than you ground yourself
greater grander than you ground yourself
greater grander than you ground yourself spiritually every day
spiritually every day
spiritually every day that means believe in trust in connect
that means believe in trust in connect
that means believe in trust in connect to something bigger than you something
to something bigger than you something
to something bigger than you something grander something more divine something
grander something more divine something
grander something more divine something that makes your divinity worthwhile if
that makes your divinity worthwhile if
that makes your divinity worthwhile if you don’t you can be knocked off Center
you don’t you can be knocked off Center
you don’t you can be knocked off Center by everything that comes your way we’ve
by everything that comes your way we’ve
by everything that comes your way we’ve all had that experience where it just
all had that experience where it just
all had that experience where it just seems that we’re not moving we’re
seems that we’re not moving we’re
seems that we’re not moving we’re holding on or we’re no matter what we do
holding on or we’re no matter what we do
holding on or we’re no matter what we do it doesn’t seem to be advancing us this
it doesn’t seem to be advancing us this
it doesn’t seem to be advancing us this is what we call the experience of being
is what we call the experience of being
is what we call the experience of being stuck of not being able to move or
stuck of not being able to move or
stuck of not being able to move or manifests or Express or experience that
manifests or Express or experience that
manifests or Express or experience that which we desire to do being stuck is
which we desire to do being stuck is
which we desire to do being stuck is both a mental experience and emotional
both a mental experience and emotional
both a mental experience and emotional experience and sometimes a physical
experience and sometimes a physical
experience and sometimes a physical experience and there are three reasons
experience and there are three reasons
experience and there are three reasons that we get stuck number one we really
that we get stuck number one we really
that we get stuck number one we really don’t know who we are when you don’t
don’t know who we are when you don’t
don’t know who we are when you don’t know who you are you don’t know what you
know who you are you don’t know what you
know who you are you don’t know what you are capable
are capable
are capable and you get stuck in your limited
and you get stuck in your limited
and you get stuck in your limited perceptions of yourself and reality
perceptions of yourself and reality
perceptions of yourself and reality number two when you don’t want to find
number two when you don’t want to find
number two when you don’t want to find out who you are and you won’t take the
out who you are and you won’t take the
out who you are and you won’t take the risk to push yourself beyond what you
risk to push yourself beyond what you
risk to push yourself beyond what you know and when you are stuck on your
know and when you are stuck on your
know and when you are stuck on your story stuck on your sadness just stuck
story stuck on your sadness just stuck
story stuck on your sadness just stuck on being stuck you don’t want to know
on being stuck you don’t want to know
on being stuck you don’t want to know who you are so you won’t push yourself
who you are so you won’t push yourself
who you are so you won’t push yourself you’ll stay where it’s comfortable
you’ll stay where it’s comfortable
you’ll stay where it’s comfortable you’ll stay where it’s familiar boy will
you’ll stay where it’s familiar boy will
you’ll stay where it’s familiar boy will you be stuck and the other reason that
you be stuck and the other reason that
you be stuck and the other reason that we get stuck is because we live down to
we get stuck is because we live down to
we get stuck is because we live down to other people’s expectations of us how
other people’s expectations of us how
other people’s expectations of us how many times have we been told as children
many times have we been told as children
many times have we been told as children you can’t do that don’t do that
you can’t do that don’t do that
you can’t do that don’t do that you can’t do that you won’t do that they
you can’t do that you won’t do that they
you can’t do that you won’t do that they won’t let me and we believe that and we
won’t let me and we believe that and we
won’t let me and we believe that and we stay stuck raise your standard Apple at
stay stuck raise your standard Apple at
stay stuck raise your standard Apple at the core its core value is that that
the core its core value is that that
the core its core value is that that people passion not one drop of my
people passion not one drop of my
people passion not one drop of my self-worth depends on Europe it’s
self-worth depends on Europe it’s
self-worth depends on Europe it’s suppose to mean I don’t ever give up I’d
suppose to mean I don’t ever give up I’d
suppose to mean I don’t ever give up I’d have to be dead or completely
have to be dead or completely
have to be dead or completely incapacitated hey believe nation if you
incapacitated hey believe nation if you
incapacitated hey believe nation if you want to see my all-time favorite top ten
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