good morning believe nation today we’re going to talk about how you can make new
going to talk about how you can make new
going to talk about how you can make new friends probably that’s maybe the
friends probably that’s maybe the
friends probably that’s maybe the sweetest word to a kid friends as we get
sweetest word to a kid friends as we get
sweetest word to a kid friends as we get a little older and we have our friends
a little older and we have our friends
a little older and we have our friends they become very close to us and and
they become very close to us and and
they become very close to us and and sometimes they become almost
sometimes they become almost
sometimes they become almost all-consuming they are everything to us
all-consuming they are everything to us
all-consuming they are everything to us I can remember as a parent as my
I can remember as a parent as my
I can remember as a parent as my children got to a certain age and where
children got to a certain age and where
children got to a certain age and where they look to me for influence I can
they look to me for influence I can
they look to me for influence I can remember very well when I saw the
remember very well when I saw the
remember very well when I saw the beginning to go to their friends and
beginning to go to their friends and
beginning to go to their friends and that’s where their influence began and
that’s where their influence began and
that’s where their influence began and that’s where their influence began to
that’s where their influence began to
that’s where their influence began to increase as a parent that got a little
increase as a parent that got a little
increase as a parent that got a little scary for me because I could I could see
scary for me because I could I could see
scary for me because I could I could see I was having a little less influence
I was having a little less influence
I was having a little less influence than the friends were having a little
than the friends were having a little
than the friends were having a little bit more well my parents were very wise
bit more well my parents were very wise
bit more well my parents were very wise my parents understood that who my
my parents understood that who my
my parents understood that who my friends were would determine who I was
friends were would determine who I was
friends were would determine who I was going to become birds of a feather flock
going to become birds of a feather flock
going to become birds of a feather flock together and in their wisdom they
together and in their wisdom they
together and in their wisdom they decided that they wanted to know my
decided that they wanted to know my
decided that they wanted to know my friends and they wanted to see my
friends and they wanted to see my
friends and they wanted to see my friends so therefore they provided a lot
friends so therefore they provided a lot
friends so therefore they provided a lot of wonderful things at her home so we
of wonderful things at her home so we
of wonderful things at her home so we would have our friends at our house so
would have our friends at our house so
would have our friends at our house so that my parents could observe and watch
that my parents could observe and watch
that my parents could observe and watch the kind of kids I ran around with and
the kind of kids I ran around with and
the kind of kids I ran around with and what I learned as a kid growing up is
what I learned as a kid growing up is
what I learned as a kid growing up is very simple there are some friends that
very simple there are some friends that
very simple there are some friends that were positive for me and there were some
were positive for me and there were some
were positive for me and there were some friends that were negative for me and my
friends that were negative for me and my
friends that were negative for me and my determination of which friends I was
determination of which friends I was
determination of which friends I was going to let influence me basically
going to let influence me basically
going to let influence me basically determined whether I was gonna have a
determined whether I was gonna have a
determined whether I was gonna have a positive or a negative life fortunately
positive or a negative life fortunately
positive or a negative life fortunately because of good parental advice and
because of good parental advice and
because of good parental advice and guidance
guidance
guidance I chose good friends which really did
I chose good friends which really did
I chose good friends which really did make a difference because you see
make a difference because you see
make a difference because you see friends are wonderful they give us
friends are wonderful they give us
friends are wonderful they give us support they give us strength they’re
support they give us strength they’re
support they give us strength they’re either though a real asset or real
either though a real asset or real
either though a real asset or real liability so I would just want to
liability so I would just want to
liability so I would just want to encourage you choose your friends wisely
encourage you choose your friends wisely
encourage you choose your friends wisely you don’t need a lot but you need some
you don’t need a lot but you need some
you don’t need a lot but you need some good ones
the first tip I want to give you guys
the first tip I want to give you guys when it comes to making new friends is
when it comes to making new friends is
when it comes to making new friends is having a common interest with someone
having a common interest with someone
having a common interest with someone there’s so many people in this world and
there’s so many people in this world and
there’s so many people in this world and I’m pretty sure you guys walk past
I’m pretty sure you guys walk past
I’m pretty sure you guys walk past hundreds of people all the time how do
hundreds of people all the time how do
hundreds of people all the time how do you know that you have something in
you know that you have something in
you know that you have something in common with them how do you know if that
common with them how do you know if that
common with them how do you know if that person is gonna be your friend you don’t
person is gonna be your friend you don’t
person is gonna be your friend you don’t that’s kind of the whole point of life
that’s kind of the whole point of life
that’s kind of the whole point of life is not knowing what’s gonna happen and
is not knowing what’s gonna happen and
is not knowing what’s gonna happen and not knowing who you’re gonna meet but I
not knowing who you’re gonna meet but I
not knowing who you’re gonna meet but I think if you open yourself up to it and
think if you open yourself up to it and
think if you open yourself up to it and you are showing people that you have a
you are showing people that you have a
you are showing people that you have a certain interest that you like there’s
certain interest that you like there’s
certain interest that you like there’s gonna be certain people who are very
gonna be certain people who are very
gonna be certain people who are very like-minded like yourself that’s gonna
like-minded like yourself that’s gonna
like-minded like yourself that’s gonna pick up on it don’t underestimate the
pick up on it don’t underestimate the
pick up on it don’t underestimate the power of having a sense of common
power of having a sense of common
power of having a sense of common interest because it really does bring
interest because it really does bring
interest because it really does bring people together doesn’t necessarily mean
people together doesn’t necessarily mean
people together doesn’t necessarily mean you have to have everything in common if
you have to have everything in common if
you have to have everything in common if they’re speaking to you if they’re
they’re speaking to you if they’re
they’re speaking to you if they’re making a comment like oh my gosh I love
making a comment like oh my gosh I love
making a comment like oh my gosh I love that song oh my gosh I love your shirt
that song oh my gosh I love your shirt
that song oh my gosh I love your shirt tell them where you got it I love your
tell them where you got it I love your
tell them where you got it I love your jeans – where did you get that BAM
jeans – where did you get that BAM
jeans – where did you get that BAM already right there you have common
already right there you have common
already right there you have common interests with that person so what do
interests with that person so what do
interests with that person so what do you do from there you engage and that’s
you do from there you engage and that’s
you do from there you engage and that’s the next step you’re not gonna be able
the next step you’re not gonna be able
the next step you’re not gonna be able to make friends if you’re not the one
to make friends if you’re not the one
to make friends if you’re not the one actively engaging with them to ask them
actively engaging with them to ask them
actively engaging with them to ask them questions I mean if you’re actively
questions I mean if you’re actively
questions I mean if you’re actively engaging with them they’re gonna engage
engaging with them they’re gonna engage
engaging with them they’re gonna engage back with you and that’s when you can
back with you and that’s when you can
back with you and that’s when you can really make that connection and that’s
really make that connection and that’s
really make that connection and that’s step number three connect with that
step number three connect with that
step number three connect with that person you can add them on Instagram or
person you can add them on Instagram or
person you can add them on Instagram or Facebook and that’s when you will know
Facebook and that’s when you will know
Facebook and that’s when you will know if this is someone that really wants you
if this is someone that really wants you
if this is someone that really wants you in their life or vice versa give them an
in their life or vice versa give them an
in their life or vice versa give them an email I mean you don’t really need to
email I mean you don’t really need to
email I mean you don’t really need to exchange numbers right away can just be
exchange numbers right away can just be
exchange numbers right away can just be as simple as hey you have Instagram can
as simple as hey you have Instagram can
as simple as hey you have Instagram can I follow you is that cool I think it’s
I follow you is that cool I think it’s
I follow you is that cool I think it’s polite to show that you know you’re
polite to show that you know you’re
polite to show that you know you’re asking to follow them
asking to follow them
asking to follow them friendship is not just one thing there’s
friendship is not just one thing there’s
friendship is not just one thing there’s different levels of friendship how do
different levels of friendship how do
different levels of friendship how do you know if this person is more than an
you know if this person is more than an
you know if this person is more than an acquaintance is when you’re constantly
acquaintance is when you’re constantly
acquaintance is when you’re constantly texting them or you’re chatting with
texting them or you’re chatting with
texting them or you’re chatting with them online your video chatting with
them online your video chatting with
them online your video chatting with them you’re sending them links and
them you’re sending them links and
them you’re sending them links and messages if you’re honestly dialoguing
messages if you’re honestly dialoguing
messages if you’re honestly dialoguing all the time that’s when you know that
all the time that’s when you know that
all the time that’s when you know that hey you know what this person might be a
hey you know what this person might be a
hey you know what this person might be a cool friend accept every invitation true
cool friend accept every invitation true
cool friend accept every invitation true story I have a good friend her name is
story I have a good friend her name is
story I have a good friend her name is Amy Amy went through a messy divorce and
Amy Amy went through a messy divorce and
Amy Amy went through a messy divorce and the process lost a lot of her good
the process lost a lot of her good
the process lost a lot of her good friends and so what she decided when she
friends and so what she decided when she
friends and so what she decided when she was sort of bummed out right she’s like
was sort of bummed out right she’s like
was sort of bummed out right she’s like yo I don’t have all these friends
yo I don’t have all these friends
yo I don’t have all these friends anymore
anymore
anymore I’m sort of a little bit lonely I’m not
I’m sort of a little bit lonely I’m not
I’m sort of a little bit lonely I’m not being as social as I’d like to be what
being as social as I’d like to be what
being as social as I’d like to be what she decided for one year was to accept
she decided for one year was to accept
she decided for one year was to accept every invitation that people offered and
every invitation that people offered and
every invitation that people offered and what she found is that she had the best
what she found is that she had the best
what she found is that she had the best year of her life by the end of it she
year of her life by the end of it she
year of her life by the end of it she had some friends that she loved that
had some friends that she loved that
had some friends that she loved that were incredible that she never would
were incredible that she never would
were incredible that she never would have met if she stayed isolated and
have met if she stayed isolated and
have met if she stayed isolated and didn’t say yes gentlemen accept
didn’t say yes gentlemen accept
didn’t say yes gentlemen accept invitations say yes do not be Precious
invitations say yes do not be Precious
invitations say yes do not be Precious about who you hang out with in the
about who you hang out with in the
about who you hang out with in the beginning okay don’t go hang out with
beginning okay don’t go hang out with
beginning okay don’t go hang out with the crackhead on the corner who is gonna
the crackhead on the corner who is gonna
the crackhead on the corner who is gonna bring your life down if you start
bring your life down if you start
bring your life down if you start hanging out with them but hang out with
hanging out with them but hang out with
hanging out with them but hang out with whoever you want be chill about it you
whoever you want be chill about it you
whoever you want be chill about it you don’t have to find this person that
don’t have to find this person that
don’t have to find this person that connects with you in every single way
connects with you in every single way
connects with you in every single way and becomes this best friend for life
and becomes this best friend for life
and becomes this best friend for life immediately some people you’ll go out
immediately some people you’ll go out
immediately some people you’ll go out and watch football with some people
and watch football with some people
and watch football with some people you’ll go out shopping with other people
you’ll go out shopping with other people
you’ll go out shopping with other people you’ll have good intellectual
you’ll have good intellectual
you’ll have good intellectual conversations with but you don’t have to
conversations with but you don’t have to
conversations with but you don’t have to find everything in one person you know
find everything in one person you know
find everything in one person you know I’d go to a party and I’d come with this
I’d go to a party and I’d come with this
I’d go to a party and I’d come with this person but I’d end up meeting five more
person but I’d end up meeting five more
person but I’d end up meeting five more people that they didn’t even know and
people that they didn’t even know and
people that they didn’t even know and one of those five people ended up being
one of those five people ended up being
one of those five people ended up being the person I still know today the point
the person I still know today the point
the person I still know today the point is don’t get so picky that you cut
is don’t get so picky that you cut
is don’t get so picky that you cut yourself off before you’ve even started
yourself off before you’ve even started
yourself off before you’ve even started you need to be understanding we all like
you need to be understanding we all like
you need to be understanding we all like I said have bad days we have bad weeks
I said have bad days we have bad weeks
I said have bad days we have bad weeks we have bad months friendship is going
we have bad months friendship is going
we have bad months friendship is going to be hard especially when you’ve known
to be hard especially when you’ve known
to be hard especially when you’ve known each other for a really long time or
each other for a really long time or
each other for a really long time or know someone like everyone is raised
know someone like everyone is raised
know someone like everyone is raised differently every family does things
differently every family does things
differently every family does things differently I think you know for me I
differently I think you know for me I
differently I think you know for me I try to be really forgiving I try to be
try to be really forgiving I try to be
try to be really forgiving I try to be the first person to apologize but you
the first person to apologize but you
the first person to apologize but you know I try to be understanding
know I try to be understanding
know I try to be understanding try to see things from other people’s
try to see things from other people’s
try to see things from other people’s perspectives I’m not perfect
perspectives I’m not perfect
perspectives I’m not perfect but at the end of the day it really is
but at the end of the day it really is
but at the end of the day it really is up to you I like how deep of friendships
up to you I like how deep of friendships
up to you I like how deep of friendships that you want to have with people
that you want to have with people
that you want to have with people because you are going to get invites
because you are going to get invites
because you are going to get invites with really close friends and you have
with really close friends and you have
with really close friends and you have to decide do you want this person in
to decide do you want this person in
to decide do you want this person in your life or do you not want this person
your life or do you not want this person
your life or do you not want this person in your life and it’s really up to you
in your life and it’s really up to you
in your life and it’s really up to you and if you’re gonna have like deep
and if you’re gonna have like deep
and if you’re gonna have like deep lifelong friendships there’s gonna be
lifelong friendships there’s gonna be
lifelong friendships there’s gonna be rough moments and you have to learn to
rough moments and you have to learn to
rough moments and you have to learn to forgive and not necessarily forget
forgive and not necessarily forget
forgive and not necessarily forget because people are not allowed to abuse
because people are not allowed to abuse
because people are not allowed to abuse you but you do need to learn to forgive
you but you do need to learn to forgive
you but you do need to learn to forgive and move on or that person isn’t around
and move on or that person isn’t around
and move on or that person isn’t around and then everyone loses I think that for
and then everyone loses I think that for
and then everyone loses I think that for most people that they’re really having
most people that they’re really having
most people that they’re really having trouble making friends or have zero
trouble making friends or have zero
trouble making friends or have zero friends at all it’s really because of
friends at all it’s really because of
friends at all it’s really because of point number one you’re not actually
point number one you’re not actually
point number one you’re not actually going out and being around people you
going out and being around people you
going out and being around people you need some ideas for how to do that see
need some ideas for how to do that see
need some ideas for how to do that see your life right now it’s like this this
your life right now it’s like this this
your life right now it’s like this this pattern this habit of just going to work
pattern this habit of just going to work
pattern this habit of just going to work or going to home or doing doing stuff
or going to home or doing doing stuff
or going to home or doing doing stuff that’s very isolated and insulating
that’s very isolated and insulating
that’s very isolated and insulating instead you want to open that up that
instead you want to open that up that
instead you want to open that up that means you need to do what you need to go
means you need to do what you need to go
means you need to do what you need to go join some new group join a club join an
join some new group join a club join an
join some new group join a club join an organization go hang out with the people
organization go hang out with the people
organization go hang out with the people that are at work you know organize a
that are at work you know organize a
that are at work you know organize a work event where you’re going off out
work event where you’re going off out
work event where you’re going off out after work and socializing in some way
after work and socializing in some way
after work and socializing in some way to a bar or a club or restaurant or some
to a bar or a club or restaurant or some
to a bar or a club or restaurant or some some sort of event that you’re doing
some sort of event that you’re doing
some sort of event that you’re doing together you got to do that maybe join
together you got to do that maybe join
together you got to do that maybe join some sort of sports team or sports
some sort of sports team or sports
some sort of sports team or sports league you can go to meetup calm there’s
league you can go to meetup calm there’s
league you can go to meetup calm there’s tons of meetup groups that you can
tons of meetup groups that you can
tons of meetup groups that you can basically find a meetup group on any
basically find a meetup group on any
basically find a meetup group on any topic in the entire world that you want
topic in the entire world that you want
topic in the entire world that you want to and and and join that so you got to
to and and and join that so you got to
to and and and join that so you got to do a little bit of research and figure
do a little bit of research and figure
do a little bit of research and figure out where you can place yourself where
out where you can place yourself where
out where you can place yourself where you’re literally surrounded by more
you’re literally surrounded by more
you’re literally surrounded by more people this is probably the biggest
people this is probably the biggest
people this is probably the biggest thing because if you do this the other
thing because if you do this the other
thing because if you do this the other points they’ll tend to autocorrect
points they’ll tend to autocorrect
points they’ll tend to autocorrect right this idea about being shy and fake
right this idea about being shy and fake
right this idea about being shy and fake well if you’re around a lot of people
well if you’re around a lot of people
well if you’re around a lot of people all the time then this shy and fake
all the time then this shy and fake
all the time then this shy and fake thing it will eventually dissolve
thing it will eventually dissolve
thing it will eventually dissolve eventually you’ll just kind of you know
eventually you’ll just kind of you know
eventually you’ll just kind of you know you’ll break through it it’ll bust out
you’ll break through it it’ll bust out
you’ll break through it it’ll bust out of your comfort comfort zone if you’re
of your comfort comfort zone if you’re
of your comfort comfort zone if you’re around a lot of people but if you’re
around a lot of people but if you’re
around a lot of people but if you’re never around a lot of people then some
never around a lot of people then some
never around a lot of people then some are going to happen you’re gonna remain
are going to happen you’re gonna remain
are going to happen you’re gonna remain shy and fake and if you’re always
shy and fake and if you’re always
shy and fake and if you’re always judgmental about people that – if you’re
judgmental about people that – if you’re
judgmental about people that – if you’re always around a lot of people then
always around a lot of people then
always around a lot of people then you’re not going to be able to maintain
you’re not going to be able to maintain
you’re not going to be able to maintain that judgmental attitude so the reason
that judgmental attitude so the reason
that judgmental attitude so the reason you’re very judgmental is probably
you’re very judgmental is probably
you’re very judgmental is probably because you’re already very isolated
because you’re already very isolated
because you’re already very isolated and living in your own little bubble be
and living in your own little bubble be
and living in your own little bubble be around a lot of people be around a lot
around a lot of people be around a lot
around a lot of people be around a lot of diverse people and then your judgment
of diverse people and then your judgment
of diverse people and then your judgment it’ll it’ll also dissipate because your
it’ll it’ll also dissipate because your
it’ll it’ll also dissipate because your mind will open up people will open up
mind will open up people will open up
mind will open up people will open up your mind as you’re interacting with
your mind as you’re interacting with
your mind as you’re interacting with them and also if you don’t have the time
them and also if you don’t have the time
them and also if you don’t have the time and energy right now then that too might
and energy right now then that too might
and energy right now then that too might change after you go out and join one of
change after you go out and join one of
change after you go out and join one of these groups that start to socialize
these groups that start to socialize
these groups that start to socialize more because as you’re socializing
more because as you’re socializing
more because as you’re socializing you’re seeing little difficult to
you’re seeing little difficult to
you’re seeing little difficult to describe the benefits that you get from
describe the benefits that you get from
describe the benefits that you get from friends a lot of the benefits you get
friends a lot of the benefits you get
friends a lot of the benefits you get from friends are very subtle and small
from friends are very subtle and small
from friends are very subtle and small maybe your friend will just tell you
maybe your friend will just tell you
maybe your friend will just tell you about a book that they read that they
about a book that they read that they
about a book that they read that they really liked or they’ll tell you about a
really liked or they’ll tell you about a
really liked or they’ll tell you about a new cool restaurant that’s opening or
new cool restaurant that’s opening or
new cool restaurant that’s opening or they’ll invite you to go with them on
they’ll invite you to go with them on
they’ll invite you to go with them on some some trip next weekend and just
some some trip next weekend and just
some some trip next weekend and just like very simple little things like that
like very simple little things like that
like very simple little things like that which can lead to actually pretty
which can lead to actually pretty
which can lead to actually pretty extraordinary profound changes in your
extraordinary profound changes in your
extraordinary profound changes in your life because maybe then you go to to
life because maybe then you go to to
life because maybe then you go to to that restaurant and you meet your dream
that restaurant and you meet your dream
that restaurant and you meet your dream spouse there or maybe you go read that
spouse there or maybe you go read that
spouse there or maybe you go read that book that they recommended and that
book that they recommended and that
book that they recommended and that turned out to be a life-changing book
turned out to be a life-changing book
turned out to be a life-changing book for you so friends are nice because they
for you so friends are nice because they
for you so friends are nice because they open you up to all sorts of new ideas
open you up to all sorts of new ideas
open you up to all sorts of new ideas this is why having diverse friends is
this is why having diverse friends is
this is why having diverse friends is important
important
important don’t just be friends with people that
don’t just be friends with people that
don’t just be friends with people that are identical to you you’re not getting
are identical to you you’re not getting
are identical to you you’re not getting you’re not getting that
you’re not getting that
you’re not getting that cross-pollination that you will get when
cross-pollination that you will get when
cross-pollination that you will get when you’re interacting with people who are
you’re interacting with people who are
you’re interacting with people who are very different than you I love having
very different than you I love having
very different than you I love having friends that are very very different for
friends that are very very different for
friends that are very very different for me I learned so much from them to me
me I learned so much from them to me
me I learned so much from them to me those are some of the most rewarding and
those are some of the most rewarding and
those are some of the most rewarding and interesting friends thank you guys so
interesting friends thank you guys so
interesting friends thank you guys so much for watching I made this video
much for watching I made this video
much for watching I made this video because my videographer Jason asked me
because my videographer Jason asked me
because my videographer Jason asked me to so there’s a topic you want me to
to so there’s a topic you want me to
to so there’s a topic you want me to cover in the next edition of believe
cover in the next edition of believe
cover in the next edition of believe life leave it in the comments below and
life leave it in the comments below and
life leave it in the comments below and we’ll see what we can do it’s also
we’ll see what we can do it’s also
we’ll see what we can do it’s also really interesting topic and I’m curious
really interesting topic and I’m curious
really interesting topic and I’m curious to hear your thoughts on making new
to hear your thoughts on making new
to hear your thoughts on making new friends if you have trouble doing it how
friends if you have trouble doing it how
friends if you have trouble doing it how you do it and if you’ve learned anything
you do it and if you’ve learned anything
you do it and if you’ve learned anything from this clip this video and what
from this clip this video and what
from this clip this video and what you’ve learned and how that might impact
you’ve learned and how that might impact
you’ve learned and how that might impact how you go about your day to day life
how you go about your day to day life
how you go about your day to day life I’m really curious to find out and I
I’m really curious to find out and I
I’m really curious to find out and I think your story could also help inspire
think your story could also help inspire
think your story could also help inspire some change in other people as well so
some change in other people as well so
some change in other people as well so please leave a comment underneath in the
please leave a comment underneath in the
please leave a comment underneath in the video thank you guys so much for
video thank you guys so much for
video thank you guys so much for watching have an amazing day continue to
watching have an amazing day continue to
watching have an amazing day continue to believe and I’ll see you soon
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