good morning believe nation today’s episode of believe life is going to
episode of believe life is going to
episode of believe life is going to focus on how you can improve your
focus on how you can improve your
focus on how you can improve your relationships the line date I was 22
relationships the line date I was 22
relationships the line date I was 22 just 22 he was just 23 I thought I got a
just 22 he was just 23 I thought I got a
just 22 he was just 23 I thought I got a hold on to this marriage she proposed we
hold on to this marriage she proposed we
hold on to this marriage she proposed we talked about it and we got engaged
we’ve been married for 50 years and both
we’ve been married for 50 years and both or should imagine secure in the marriage
or should imagine secure in the marriage
or should imagine secure in the marriage not afraid of losing the other one but
at this stage of our lives do you worry
at this stage of our lives do you worry about losing your mate by yourself
about losing your mate by yourself
about losing your mate by yourself that’s it it’s a hard thing you get so
that’s it it’s a hard thing you get so
that’s it it’s a hard thing you get so used to somebody be merriment and in one
used to somebody be merriment and in one
used to somebody be merriment and in one day one of us is not gonna be there you
day one of us is not gonna be there you
day one of us is not gonna be there you messed up just
sometimes thinking of that the upside
sometimes thinking of that the upside glove bracelets at the downside it’s
glove bracelets at the downside it’s
glove bracelets at the downside it’s still worth it
how to be great in a relationship begins
how to be great in a relationship begins with having the intention to be great I
with having the intention to be great I
with having the intention to be great I know that sounds so simple but you meet
know that sounds so simple but you meet
know that sounds so simple but you meet so many people who who they jump into a
so many people who who they jump into a
so many people who who they jump into a relationship that is so excited to find
relationship that is so excited to find
relationship that is so excited to find their girlfriend their boyfriend to get
their girlfriend their boyfriend to get
their girlfriend their boyfriend to get married to have that husband to that
married to have that husband to that
married to have that husband to that wife that partner and they’re so excited
wife that partner and they’re so excited
wife that partner and they’re so excited about it and then over a period of time
about it and then over a period of time
about it and then over a period of time when it’s been happening they get caught
when it’s been happening they get caught
when it’s been happening they get caught in a routine they get to know the person
in a routine they get to know the person
in a routine they get to know the person better they develop you know habits and
better they develop you know habits and
better they develop you know habits and responses and pet peeves and all of a
responses and pet peeves and all of a
responses and pet peeves and all of a sudden they stop seeing the magic and
sudden they stop seeing the magic and
sudden they stop seeing the magic and the very person they met with and
the very person they met with and
the very person they met with and intentionally had this idea to grow this
intentionally had this idea to grow this
intentionally had this idea to grow this great relationship you know we’re gonna
great relationship you know we’re gonna
great relationship you know we’re gonna be amazing together and people stop
be amazing together and people stop
be amazing together and people stop putting great intention and great
putting great intention and great
putting great intention and great efforts into their relationships and
efforts into their relationships and
efforts into their relationships and over a period of time they feel ho-hum
over a period of time they feel ho-hum
over a period of time they feel ho-hum and they start to die and you and I both
and they start to die and you and I both
and they start to die and you and I both know that so the challenge is this if
know that so the challenge is this if
know that so the challenge is this if you want to have a great relationship
you want to have a great relationship
you want to have a great relationship your intention must be to be great to
your intention must be to be great to
your intention must be to be great to make the other person feel great and to
make the other person feel great and to
make the other person feel great and to build a great life together
build a great life together
build a great life together if you need to place restrictions on
if you need to place restrictions on
if you need to place restrictions on people in your life something is wrong
people in your life something is wrong
people in your life something is wrong for example if you’re a girl and you
for example if you’re a girl and you
for example if you’re a girl and you need to tell your boyfriend hey you
need to tell your boyfriend hey you
need to tell your boyfriend hey you can’t go to that party because that
can’t go to that party because that
can’t go to that party because that certain girl is gonna be there and I
certain girl is gonna be there and I
certain girl is gonna be there and I don’t trust that situation that should
don’t trust that situation that should
don’t trust that situation that should be a huge red flag like straight up red
be a huge red flag like straight up red
be a huge red flag like straight up red flag so huge
flag so huge
flag so huge using China there is no way you can
using China there is no way you can
using China there is no way you can justify that you have to place
justify that you have to place
justify that you have to place restrictions on your partner for them to
restrictions on your partner for them to
restrictions on your partner for them to remain loyal to you because here’s a
remain loyal to you because here’s a
remain loyal to you because here’s a question why would you want to be in
question why would you want to be in
question why would you want to be in that situation why would you want to be
that situation why would you want to be
that situation why would you want to be with someone that you can’t trust in the
with someone that you can’t trust in the
with someone that you can’t trust in the first place because why don’t you want
first place because why don’t you want
first place because why don’t you want to be with someone who goes to the party
to be with someone who goes to the party
to be with someone who goes to the party looks damn fine at the party has a blast
looks damn fine at the party has a blast
looks damn fine at the party has a blast at the party
at the party
at the party remains loyal at the party and then
remains loyal at the party and then
remains loyal at the party and then comes back home to you after the party
comes back home to you after the party
comes back home to you after the party and I’m sorry to be so blunt but you
and I’m sorry to be so blunt but you
and I’m sorry to be so blunt but you know I like to keep it real all right
know I like to keep it real all right
know I like to keep it real all right you can place any amount of restrictions
you can place any amount of restrictions
you can place any amount of restrictions on someone but if they want to cheat on
on someone but if they want to cheat on
on someone but if they want to cheat on you they’re going to cheat on you well
you they’re going to cheat on you well
you they’re going to cheat on you well goal is not to place restrictions around
goal is not to place restrictions around
goal is not to place restrictions around the person so they don’t the goal is to
the person so they don’t the goal is to
the person so they don’t the goal is to be with someone that won’t you have to
be with someone that won’t you have to
be with someone that won’t you have to adore people if you don’t adore the
adore people if you don’t adore the
adore people if you don’t adore the person that you are with right now you
person that you are with right now you
person that you are with right now you have to Risa man that up
have to Risa man that up
have to Risa man that up you have to look for the things in them
you have to look for the things in them
you have to look for the things in them that will help you do that and the way
that will help you do that and the way
that will help you do that and the way to do that give them more attention show
to do that give them more attention show
to do that give them more attention show them more appreciation when they receive
them more appreciation when they receive
them more appreciation when they receive more attention and more appreciation
more attention and more appreciation
more attention and more appreciation from you there there be an energetic
from you there there be an energetic
from you there there be an energetic change in the relationship it will turn
change in the relationship it will turn
change in the relationship it will turn more vibrant more they’ll be more pop in
more vibrant more they’ll be more pop in
more vibrant more they’ll be more pop in it and all of a sudden you’ll start to
it and all of a sudden you’ll start to
it and all of a sudden you’ll start to notice that person they come a little
notice that person they come a little
notice that person they come a little more alive around you and it’ll be
more alive around you and it’ll be
more alive around you and it’ll be easier to adore them because you’re like
easier to adore them because you’re like
easier to adore them because you’re like oh look I never even noticed they do
oh look I never even noticed they do
oh look I never even noticed they do these things that’s funny or all gosh I
these things that’s funny or all gosh I
these things that’s funny or all gosh I never noticed they did all these things
never noticed they did all these things
never noticed they did all these things for me I have attention to that now and
for me I have attention to that now and
for me I have attention to that now and I appreciate that now you’ll start to
I appreciate that now you’ll start to
I appreciate that now you’ll start to adore them more when you adore the
adore them more when you adore the
adore them more when you adore the person with you with more you do things
person with you with more you do things
person with you with more you do things for them you do more things for them you
for them you do more things for them you
for them you do more things for them you want to see them light up you start
want to see them light up you start
want to see them light up you start supporting their dreams more how are you
supporting their dreams more how are you
supporting their dreams more how are you doing that because real adoration is
doing that because real adoration is
doing that because real adoration is getting out of your own way and asking
getting out of your own way and asking
getting out of your own way and asking what is it about this person’s life that
what is it about this person’s life that
what is it about this person’s life that I can support that they love to do
I can support that they love to do
I can support that they love to do because showing real adoration is
because showing real adoration is
because showing real adoration is showing support real adoration is not
showing support real adoration is not
showing support real adoration is not just doting on somebody with flowers and
just doting on somebody with flowers and
just doting on somebody with flowers and gifts though you should do that too it’s
gifts though you should do that too it’s
gifts though you should do that too it’s about wanting to support their bigger
about wanting to support their bigger
about wanting to support their bigger life goals their bigger dreams when you
life goals their bigger dreams when you
life goals their bigger dreams when you truly adore somebody you want so
truly adore somebody you want so
truly adore somebody you want so desperately to see them happy and
desperately to see them happy and
desperately to see them happy and passionate engage living their own fully
passionate engage living their own fully
passionate engage living their own fully charged life when you really adore
charged life when you really adore
charged life when you really adore someone you go out of your way out of
someone you go out of your way out of
someone you go out of your way out of your way to brag about them in front of
your way to brag about them in front of
your way to brag about them in front of them right when they’re there and you’re
them right when they’re there and you’re
them right when they’re there and you’re in a social situation you compliment
in a social situation you compliment
in a social situation you compliment them you’ll you’ll brag about them and
them you’ll you’ll brag about them and
them you’ll you’ll brag about them and you make them like if you haven’t made
you make them like if you haven’t made
you make them like if you haven’t made your partner your spouse your lover your
your partner your spouse your lover your
your partner your spouse your lover your husband your wife blush for a while with
husband your wife blush for a while with
husband your wife blush for a while with a good compliment in front of other
a good compliment in front of other
a good compliment in front of other people what are you doing right I’m
people what are you doing right I’m
people what are you doing right I’m always trying to embarrass my poor lady
always trying to embarrass my poor lady
always trying to embarrass my poor lady you know and in a positive way because
you know and in a positive way because
you know and in a positive way because I’ll compliment her in front of other
I’ll compliment her in front of other
I’ll compliment her in front of other people and like I really appreciate
people and like I really appreciate
people and like I really appreciate you said that about me because I want
you said that about me because I want
you said that about me because I want her to feel adored I want everybody in
her to feel adored I want everybody in
her to feel adored I want everybody in the community I want everybody in my
the community I want everybody in my
the community I want everybody in my life know how much I adore my lady so do
life know how much I adore my lady so do
life know how much I adore my lady so do you have that intention for yours for
you have that intention for yours for
you have that intention for yours for the person who’s you’re with does
the person who’s you’re with does
the person who’s you’re with does everybody know how much you adore them
everybody know how much you adore them
everybody know how much you adore them are you bragging them up
are you bragging them up
are you bragging them up are you really adoring them personally
are you really adoring them personally
are you really adoring them personally and publicly when you do that you’ll
and publicly when you do that you’ll
and publicly when you do that you’ll notice a different level of engagement
notice a different level of engagement
notice a different level of engagement in that relationship too and everything
in that relationship too and everything
in that relationship too and everything will change because they will feel
will change because they will feel
will change because they will feel adored appreciated and feel like you’re
adored appreciated and feel like you’re
adored appreciated and feel like you’re giving them attention so they’ll turn it
giving them attention so they’ll turn it
giving them attention so they’ll turn it around now though they give you more
around now though they give you more
around now though they give you more attention
attention
attention more appreciation more endorsing or an
more appreciation more endorsing or an
more appreciation more endorsing or an addition and there’ll be this spark and
addition and there’ll be this spark and
addition and there’ll be this spark and it happens between the two of you that
it happens between the two of you that
it happens between the two of you that you never imagined that you could have
you never imagined that you could have
you never imagined that you could have that is what it feels like to live the
that is what it feels like to live the
that is what it feels like to live the charged life I feel like too many people
charged life I feel like too many people
charged life I feel like too many people rely on other people for happiness
rely on other people for happiness
rely on other people for happiness encouragement and motivation oh you’re
encouragement and motivation oh you’re
encouragement and motivation oh you’re upset well I guess that means someone
upset well I guess that means someone
upset well I guess that means someone has to cheer you up
has to cheer you up
has to cheer you up oh you’re slacking well I guess someone
oh you’re slacking well I guess someone
oh you’re slacking well I guess someone needs to tell you to work harder you
needs to tell you to work harder you
needs to tell you to work harder you accomplished something or someone better
accomplished something or someone better
accomplished something or someone better pat you on the back this is not cute and
pat you on the back this is not cute and
pat you on the back this is not cute and okay hold out don’t get me wrong of
okay hold out don’t get me wrong of
okay hold out don’t get me wrong of course sometimes it is nice to rely on
course sometimes it is nice to rely on
course sometimes it is nice to rely on someone else I mean everyone is human I
someone else I mean everyone is human I
someone else I mean everyone is human I mean when I’m sick yeah I want someone
mean when I’m sick yeah I want someone
mean when I’m sick yeah I want someone to make me soup sometimes it’s nice to
to make me soup sometimes it’s nice to
to make me soup sometimes it’s nice to depend on someone sometimes but if you
depend on someone sometimes but if you
depend on someone sometimes but if you constantly need someone to make you feel
constantly need someone to make you feel
constantly need someone to make you feel good then you really need to stop and
good then you really need to stop and
good then you really need to stop and ask yourself why can’t you make yourself
ask yourself why can’t you make yourself
ask yourself why can’t you make yourself feel good one of the things that we
feel good one of the things that we
feel good one of the things that we found is we meet couples and very often
found is we meet couples and very often
found is we meet couples and very often people say you guys seem like you know
people say you guys seem like you know
people say you guys seem like you know you’re newlyweds or they’ll ask us did
you’re newlyweds or they’ll ask us did
you’re newlyweds or they’ll ask us did you guys just get married what you’re
you guys just get married what you’re
you guys just get married what you’re really proud of up to 12 years but it’s
really proud of up to 12 years but it’s
really proud of up to 12 years but it’s not a matter of time that makes that
not a matter of time that makes that
not a matter of time that makes that difference if you’re single one of the
difference if you’re single one of the
difference if you’re single one of the reasons that people find themself in a
reasons that people find themself in a
reasons that people find themself in a relationship that they’re unhappy with
relationship that they’re unhappy with
relationship that they’re unhappy with is they’re filtering today’s
is they’re filtering today’s
is they’re filtering today’s relationship through the past and one of
relationship through the past and one of
relationship through the past and one of the things that we’ve done for anybody
the things that we’ve done for anybody
the things that we’ve done for anybody we’re gonna help is get you to clear the
we’re gonna help is get you to clear the
we’re gonna help is get you to clear the decks of the pass and step into who you
decks of the pass and step into who you
decks of the pass and step into who you with right here and right now that can
with right here and right now that can
with right here and right now that can start to create a difference because in
start to create a difference because in
start to create a difference because in the beginning of a relationship what do
the beginning of a relationship what do
the beginning of a relationship what do you look what were you willing to do for
you look what were you willing to do for
you look what were you willing to do for that person anything anything
that person anything anything
that person anything anything whatever it takes now after a few months
whatever it takes now after a few months
whatever it takes now after a few months or a few weeks or a few years all of a
or a few weeks or a few years all of a
or a few weeks or a few years all of a sudden you’re saying you know would you
sudden you’re saying you know would you
sudden you’re saying you know would you take out the trash in the beginning
take out the trash in the beginning
take out the trash in the beginning you’re like whatever you want the trash
you’re like whatever you want the trash
you’re like whatever you want the trash I’m happy to do it for you now it’s like
I’m happy to do it for you now it’s like
I’m happy to do it for you now it’s like you know what I look like your janitor
you know what I look like your janitor
you know what I look like your janitor so learning how to be able to create
so learning how to be able to create
so learning how to be able to create that aliveness again and not filter your
that aliveness again and not filter your
that aliveness again and not filter your partner through an old story is one of
partner through an old story is one of
partner through an old story is one of the most important things you can do to
the most important things you can do to
the most important things you can do to have a passionate relationship I also
have a passionate relationship I also
have a passionate relationship I also think that if you think about it the
think that if you think about it the
think that if you think about it the very beginning of the relationship the
very beginning of the relationship the
very beginning of the relationship the very things you’re most attracted to
very things you’re most attracted to
very things you’re most attracted to very often when the relationship goes
very often when the relationship goes
very often when the relationship goes bad you reject the things that you loved
bad you reject the things that you loved
bad you reject the things that you loved you know in the beginning you may have
you know in the beginning you may have
you know in the beginning you may have been very you know enticed by this
been very you know enticed by this
been very you know enticed by this person because they seemed very
person because they seemed very
person because they seemed very mysterious and quiet and now you’re
mysterious and quiet and now you’re
mysterious and quiet and now you’re pissed off that they’re quiet all this
pissed off that they’re quiet all this
pissed off that they’re quiet all this time or the beginning you thought well I
time or the beginning you thought well I
time or the beginning you thought well I love them cuz they had so much energy
love them cuz they had so much energy
love them cuz they had so much energy and passion they just took over the room
and passion they just took over the room
and passion they just took over the room and how do you like why is it
and how do you like why is it
and how do you like why is it to talk all the damn time you know do
to talk all the damn time you know do
to talk all the damn time you know do they ever shut up one of the things that
they ever shut up one of the things that
they ever shut up one of the things that happens in relationships is if we don’t
happens in relationships is if we don’t
happens in relationships is if we don’t realize that what we’re attracted to and
realize that what we’re attracted to and
realize that what we’re attracted to and the other person that we think is so
the other person that we think is so
the other person that we think is so different than us is just another part
different than us is just another part
different than us is just another part of ourselves that we’re not actively
of ourselves that we’re not actively
of ourselves that we’re not actively utilizing and if you don’t use your
utilizing and if you don’t use your
utilizing and if you don’t use your partner to trigger that awakening inside
partner to trigger that awakening inside
partner to trigger that awakening inside yourself eventually you resent them
yourself eventually you resent them
yourself eventually you resent them because you resent that part of yourself
because you resent that part of yourself
because you resent that part of yourself as being shut down I think you both have
as being shut down I think you both have
as being shut down I think you both have you know certainly we would respect
you know certainly we would respect
you know certainly we would respect there’s little crazy pieces that drive
there’s little crazy pieces that drive
there’s little crazy pieces that drive each other crazy but to shift those to
each other crazy but to shift those to
each other crazy but to shift those to actually appreciations and one of the
actually appreciations and one of the
actually appreciations and one of the gifts we certainly give each other is
gifts we certainly give each other is
gifts we certainly give each other is rather than having that irritation to
rather than having that irritation to
rather than having that irritation to actually be humored and to be playful
actually be humored and to be playful
actually be humored and to be playful about it so it just breaks the pattern
about it so it just breaks the pattern
about it so it just breaks the pattern and creates you know just brings an
and creates you know just brings an
and creates you know just brings an aliveness and a playfulness to the
aliveness and a playfulness to the
aliveness and a playfulness to the relationship you like the fact that my
relationship you like the fact that my
relationship you like the fact that my wife needs to have your nine hours of
wife needs to have your nine hours of
wife needs to have your nine hours of sleep and only needs actually four and I
sleep and only needs actually four and I
sleep and only needs actually four and I beg him to go to bed at night after 12
beg him to go to bed at night after 12
beg him to go to bed at night after 12 years that’s still something that
years that’s still something that
years that’s still something that transpires and others daily life every
transpires and others daily life every
transpires and others daily life every relationship me begging for some food
relationship me begging for some food
relationship me begging for some food anyway here’s our point if you want to
anyway here’s our point if you want to
anyway here’s our point if you want to have an extraordinary relationship it
have an extraordinary relationship it
have an extraordinary relationship it really requires you to get outside of
really requires you to get outside of
really requires you to get outside of yourself we all know that when you
yourself we all know that when you
yourself we all know that when you really fall in love with somebody it is
really fall in love with somebody it is
really fall in love with somebody it is really about what can I do for you first
really about what can I do for you first
really about what can I do for you first what are you doing for me the end of a
what are you doing for me the end of a
what are you doing for me the end of a relationship is when you’re evaluating
relationship is when you’re evaluating
relationship is when you’re evaluating what they have done versus what you’ve
what they have done versus what you’ve
what they have done versus what you’ve done if you’ve got a scorecard you’re on
done if you’ve got a scorecard you’re on
done if you’ve got a scorecard you’re on your way out and that doesn’t mean it
your way out and that doesn’t mean it
your way out and that doesn’t mean it can’t be turned around you know the
can’t be turned around you know the
can’t be turned around you know the happy of relationship can be eliminated
happy of relationship can be eliminated
happy of relationship can be eliminated when you step into that mode of giving
when you step into that mode of giving
when you step into that mode of giving and interestingly enough when people are
and interestingly enough when people are
and interestingly enough when people are attracted to each other though you don’t
attracted to each other though you don’t
attracted to each other though you don’t have these problems because when people
have these problems because when people
have these problems because when people have that sense of attraction that
have that sense of attraction that
have that sense of attraction that energy that sensuality that sexuality
energy that sensuality that sexuality
energy that sensuality that sexuality what happens is you have filters you
what happens is you have filters you
what happens is you have filters you laugh about things you’d be upset about
laugh about things you’d be upset about
laugh about things you’d be upset about before so all the research that we found
before so all the research that we found
before so all the research that we found and all in our own lives and the
and all in our own lives and the
and all in our own lives and the literally the hundreds of thousands
literally the hundreds of thousands
literally the hundreds of thousands couples we work with because we can tell
couples we work with because we can tell
couples we work with because we can tell you all these things are talking about
you all these things are talking about
you all these things are talking about but ultimately you need more passion
but ultimately you need more passion
but ultimately you need more passion because lots of couples actually have
because lots of couples actually have
because lots of couples actually have love but they don’t have that level of
love but they don’t have that level of
love but they don’t have that level of passion they want and there’s an
passion they want and there’s an
passion they want and there’s an emptiness there’s a a missing energy in
emptiness there’s a a missing energy in
emptiness there’s a a missing energy in their life and so for us the secret is
their life and so for us the secret is
their life and so for us the secret is really to unleash that again thank you
really to unleash that again thank you
really to unleash that again thank you so much for watching I made this video
so much for watching I made this video
so much for watching I made this video because Ramesh asked me to so if there’s
because Ramesh asked me to so if there’s
because Ramesh asked me to so if there’s another topic that you want me to cover
another topic that you want me to cover
another topic that you want me to cover in the next edition of believed life
in the next edition of believed life
in the next edition of believed life leave in the comments below and I’ll see
leave in the comments below and I’ll see
leave in the comments below and I’ll see what I can do
what I can do
what I can do I’d love to know which of the advice
I’d love to know which of the advice
I’d love to know which of the advice resonated the most with you you’re going
resonated the most with you you’re going
resonated the most with you you’re going to take some action on and what are you
to take some action on and what are you
to take some action on and what are you gonna do to now try to go out and
gonna do to now try to go out and
gonna do to now try to go out and improve your relationship leave in the
improve your relationship leave in the
improve your relationship leave in the comments below I would personally love
comments below I would personally love
comments below I would personally love to hear and I think it might also
to hear and I think it might also
to hear and I think it might also inspire others to take action as well
inspire others to take action as well
inspire others to take action as well thank you so much for watching have an
thank you so much for watching have an
thank you so much for watching have an amazing day
amazing day
amazing day continue to believe and I’ll see you
continue to believe and I’ll see you
continue to believe and I’ll see you soon
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