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More than quiet: observations of a teenage introvert | Cholpon Emil | TEDxYouth@ISPrague


in ninth grade I moved to a new school I

in ninth grade I moved to a new school I started classes found my group of

started classes found my group of

started classes found my group of friends and everything was going great

friends and everything was going great

friends and everything was going great then around October came the time of

then around October came the time of

then around October came the time of parent-teacher conferences now I wasn’t

parent-teacher conferences now I wasn’t

parent-teacher conferences now I wasn’t worried as I had been doing pretty well

worried as I had been doing pretty well

worried as I had been doing pretty well in all of my classes so my mom and I we

in all of my classes so my mom and I we

in all of my classes so my mom and I we meet with my first teacher and it’s

meet with my first teacher and it’s

meet with my first teacher and it’s nothing unusual grades assignments

nothing unusual grades assignments

nothing unusual grades assignments homework until he goes one thing I would

homework until he goes one thing I would

homework until he goes one thing I would like for children is to be more loud in

like for children is to be more loud in

like for children is to be more loud in class she is a bit quiet quiet okay well

class she is a bit quiet quiet okay well

class she is a bit quiet quiet okay well I guess I haven’t been participating a

I guess I haven’t been participating a

I guess I haven’t been participating a lot in this class either way I didn’t

lot in this class either way I didn’t

lot in this class either way I didn’t think much of it so we move on to the

think much of it so we move on to the

think much of it so we move on to the next teacher and we continue talking

next teacher and we continue talking

next teacher and we continue talking until she goes Toland is a bit quiet in

until she goes Toland is a bit quiet in

until she goes Toland is a bit quiet in class I wish she spoke up more quiet

class I wish she spoke up more quiet

class I wish she spoke up more quiet there it was again we move on to the

there it was again we move on to the

there it was again we move on to the third teacher the fourth the fifth the

third teacher the fourth the fifth the

third teacher the fourth the fifth the last one of the day and all I kept

last one of the day and all I kept

last one of the day and all I kept hearing was quiet needs to speak up more

hearing was quiet needs to speak up more

hearing was quiet needs to speak up more doesn’t participate enough I think at

doesn’t participate enough I think at

doesn’t participate enough I think at this point it is safe for you to assume

this point it is safe for you to assume

this point it is safe for you to assume that I did not talk much in school I

that I did not talk much in school I

that I did not talk much in school I would maybe ask a question here or there

would maybe ask a question here or there

would maybe ask a question here or there but overall I kept to myself it wasn’t

but overall I kept to myself it wasn’t

but overall I kept to myself it wasn’t on purpose it’s just something that came

on purpose it’s just something that came

on purpose it’s just something that came naturally to me but teachers noticed and

naturally to me but teachers noticed and

naturally to me but teachers noticed and they noticed that it was different it

they noticed that it was different it

they noticed that it was different it was different because the image we have

was different because the image we have

was different because the image we have of a typical high schooler is non-stop

of a typical high schooler is non-stop

of a typical high schooler is non-stop talking we think about high school and

talking we think about high school and

talking we think about high school and see crowded classrooms with the roar of

see crowded classrooms with the roar of

see crowded classrooms with the roar of overlapping voices and laughter I didn’t

overlapping voices and laughter I didn’t

overlapping voices and laughter I didn’t fit the norm and was called out on it

fit the norm and was called out on it

fit the norm and was called out on it eventually I was left wondering is being

eventually I was left wondering is being

eventually I was left wondering is being quiet bad is me not talking for hours

quiet bad is me not talking for hours

quiet bad is me not talking for hours and unacceptable do I have to change the

and unacceptable do I have to change the

and unacceptable do I have to change the way I am in order to stop being called

way I am in order to stop being called

way I am in order to stop being called out by teachers for something that comes

out by teachers for something that comes

out by teachers for something that comes so naturally to me as a confused ninth

so naturally to me as a confused ninth

so naturally to me as a confused ninth grader I took those thoughts away and

grader I took those thoughts away and

grader I took those thoughts away and almost forgot about them until I had to

almost forgot about them until I had to

almost forgot about them until I had to move again to a new school to another

move again to a new school to another

move again to a new school to another parent-teacher conference now this time

parent-teacher conference now this time

parent-teacher conference now this time I didn’t hear the word quiet I heard an

I didn’t hear the word quiet I heard an

I didn’t hear the word quiet I heard an encouraging speak up and not from the

encouraging speak up and not from the

encouraging speak up and not from the teachers but from myself I don’t talk

teachers but from myself I don’t talk

teachers but from myself I don’t talk for hours on end

for hours on end

for hours on end I don’t usually raise my hand in class

I don’t usually raise my hand in class

I don’t usually raise my hand in class and I don’t constantly make jokes in the

and I don’t constantly make jokes in the

and I don’t constantly make jokes in the hallway I am quiet in school I am not

hallway I am quiet in school I am not

hallway I am quiet in school I am not the first to speak I like to keep

the first to speak I like to keep

the first to speak I like to keep thoughts to myself I’m an introvert an

thoughts to myself I’m an introvert an

thoughts to myself I’m an introvert an introvert on a TEDx stage nonetheless

introvert on a TEDx stage nonetheless

introvert on a TEDx stage nonetheless and today I am speaking up for all the

and today I am speaking up for all the

and today I am speaking up for all the quiet boys and girls who have been

quiet boys and girls who have been

quiet boys and girls who have been labeled into shyness labeled as

labeled into shyness labeled as

labeled into shyness labeled as inadequate labeled into being too quiet

inadequate labeled into being too quiet

inadequate labeled into being too quiet I am speaking up for all the students in

I am speaking up for all the students in

I am speaking up for all the students in a classroom who have been overlooked by

a classroom who have been overlooked by

a classroom who have been overlooked by teachers simply because they did not

teachers simply because they did not

teachers simply because they did not talk as much in class and finally I am

talk as much in class and finally I am

talk as much in class and finally I am speaking up for everyone who have heard

speaking up for everyone who have heard

speaking up for everyone who have heard the word quiet address to them one too

the word quiet address to them one too

the word quiet address to them one too many times people like this people like

many times people like this people like

many times people like this people like me introverts we’re often regarded to as

me introverts we’re often regarded to as

me introverts we’re often regarded to as the shy ones the calm ones the quiet

the shy ones the calm ones the quiet

the shy ones the calm ones the quiet ones Susan Cain the author of the book

ones Susan Cain the author of the book

ones Susan Cain the author of the book quiet the power of introverts in a world

quiet the power of introverts in a world

quiet the power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking states in her

that can’t stop talking states in her

that can’t stop talking states in her official TED talk that introverts make

official TED talk that introverts make

official TED talk that introverts make up a third to a half of the world’s

up a third to a half of the world’s

up a third to a half of the world’s population that’s the same amount of

population that’s the same amount of

population that’s the same amount of people as the populations of China India

people as the populations of China India

people as the populations of China India and the United States combined and

and the United States combined and

and the United States combined and despite our lar

despite our lar

despite our lar presents introverts are not being

presents introverts are not being

presents introverts are not being acknowledged enough teenagers as a whole

acknowledged enough teenagers as a whole

acknowledged enough teenagers as a whole have been boxed into this one category

have been boxed into this one category

have been boxed into this one category of loud for way too long and despite

of loud for way too long and despite

of loud for way too long and despite changing technologies and teaching

changing technologies and teaching

changing technologies and teaching methods some students were left behind

methods some students were left behind

methods some students were left behind by overlooking the fact that introverts

by overlooking the fact that introverts

by overlooking the fact that introverts exist

exist

exist schools suppress such individuals

schools suppress such individuals

schools suppress such individuals causing them to feel even more isolated

causing them to feel even more isolated

causing them to feel even more isolated schools should be encouraging introverts

schools should be encouraging introverts

schools should be encouraging introverts to embrace who they are while also

to embrace who they are while also

to embrace who they are while also helping them navigate such a talkative

helping them navigate such a talkative

helping them navigate such a talkative world modern companies are already

world modern companies are already

world modern companies are already realizing the potential introverts have

realizing the potential introverts have

realizing the potential introverts have and the power they bring to the

and the power they bring to the

and the power they bring to the workspace they are changing the way they

workspace they are changing the way they

workspace they are changing the way they are structured in order to become more

are structured in order to become more

are structured in order to become more welcoming to their introverted employees

welcoming to their introverted employees

welcoming to their introverted employees major corporations such as Google have

major corporations such as Google have

major corporations such as Google have already put less significance into job

already put less significance into job

already put less significance into job interviews when recruiting new employees

interviews when recruiting new employees

interviews when recruiting new employees while Amazon now begins each meeting in

while Amazon now begins each meeting in

while Amazon now begins each meeting in silence with attendees reading a memo on

silence with attendees reading a memo on

silence with attendees reading a memo on the topics needing to be discussed

the topics needing to be discussed

the topics needing to be discussed however schools are still hesitant to

however schools are still hesitant to

however schools are still hesitant to make concrete changes towards introverts

make concrete changes towards introverts

make concrete changes towards introverts they have for years been focusing on

they have for years been focusing on

they have for years been focusing on catering to the different learning types

catering to the different learning types

catering to the different learning types whether it be visual auditory verbal or

whether it be visual auditory verbal or

whether it be visual auditory verbal or physical teachers have been taught to

physical teachers have been taught to

physical teachers have been taught to diversify their lesson plans in order to

diversify their lesson plans in order to

diversify their lesson plans in order to cater to the different types of learners

cater to the different types of learners

cater to the different types of learners yet the existence of extroverts and

yet the existence of extroverts and

yet the existence of extroverts and introverts is known but somehow rarely

introverts is known but somehow rarely

introverts is known but somehow rarely addressed my typical school day would

addressed my typical school day would

addressed my typical school day would probably include a lecture a video a

probably include a lecture a video a

probably include a lecture a video a hands-on activity a few worksheets and a

hands-on activity a few worksheets and a

hands-on activity a few worksheets and a lot of discussion teachers balance out

lot of discussion teachers balance out

lot of discussion teachers balance out the amount of time we are listening or

the amount of time we are listening or

the amount of time we are listening or watching they create a healthy balance

watching they create a healthy balance

watching they create a healthy balance of activities there is so much variety

of activities there is so much variety

of activities there is so much variety in the way we comprehend and get

in the way we comprehend and get

in the way we comprehend and get information yet there is only one set

information yet there is only one set

information yet there is only one set way I have ever been told to process it

way I have ever been told to process it

way I have ever been told to process it and it has always been through

and it has always been through

and it has always been through discussion or talking to a partner in

discussion or talking to a partner in

discussion or talking to a partner in fact I could probably easily count the

fact I could probably easily count the

fact I could probably easily count the number of times in my three-and-a-half

number of times in my three-and-a-half

number of times in my three-and-a-half years of high school where I had the

years of high school where I had the

years of high school where I had the time to reflect

time to reflect

time to reflect on a certain topic in class quietly and

on a certain topic in class quietly and

on a certain topic in class quietly and by myself I want to see a balance in the

by myself I want to see a balance in the

by myself I want to see a balance in the way I can learn in a classroom a balance

way I can learn in a classroom a balance

way I can learn in a classroom a balance where I don’t have to force words out of

where I don’t have to force words out of

where I don’t have to force words out of my mouth a classroom where I can learn

my mouth a classroom where I can learn

my mouth a classroom where I can learn new things and not feel incredibly

new things and not feel incredibly

new things and not feel incredibly drained because people might think I’m

drained because people might think I’m

drained because people might think I’m quiet but when I’m not talking I’m

quiet but when I’m not talking I’m

quiet but when I’m not talking I’m looking looking at the colorful posters

looking looking at the colorful posters

looking looking at the colorful posters advertising clubs and activities in

advertising clubs and activities in

advertising clubs and activities in school we’re looking at the hand of the

school we’re looking at the hand of the

school we’re looking at the hand of the clock slowly moving people might think

clock slowly moving people might think

clock slowly moving people might think I’m shy but when I’m not talking I am

I’m shy but when I’m not talking I am

I’m shy but when I’m not talking I am feeling feeling my own heartbeat beating

feeling feeling my own heartbeat beating

feeling feeling my own heartbeat beating in my chest or feeling the breeze of

in my chest or feeling the breeze of

in my chest or feeling the breeze of someone so much taller than me walk

someone so much taller than me walk

someone so much taller than me walk swiftly into the opposite direction

extraversion and introversion occur on a

extraversion and introversion occur on a spectrum so it is hard to completely

spectrum so it is hard to completely

spectrum so it is hard to completely define one type of person versus another

define one type of person versus another

define one type of person versus another there are no hard cut lines to a

there are no hard cut lines to a

there are no hard cut lines to a person’s personality but one personality

person’s personality but one personality

person’s personality but one personality trait cannot be valued over the other

trait cannot be valued over the other

trait cannot be valued over the other introverts deserve to be recognised as

introverts deserve to be recognised as

introverts deserve to be recognised as the essential members of classrooms

the essential members of classrooms

the essential members of classrooms schools and communities we may not

schools and communities we may not

schools and communities we may not boldly stand out but we are important

boldly stand out but we are important

boldly stand out but we are important and deserve to be heard being quiet is

and deserve to be heard being quiet is

and deserve to be heard being quiet is not a disadvantage

not a disadvantage

not a disadvantage it is a trait that makes one significant

it is a trait that makes one significant

it is a trait that makes one significant and important it is a trait worth

and important it is a trait worth

and important it is a trait worth cherishing and praising and not tearing

cherishing and praising and not tearing

cherishing and praising and not tearing down a parent-teacher conferences I hope

down a parent-teacher conferences I hope

down a parent-teacher conferences I hope that one day introverts will be

that one day introverts will be

that one day introverts will be recognized as the valuable community

recognized as the valuable community

recognized as the valuable community members that they are schools will

members that they are schools will

members that they are schools will support them and their way of

support them and their way of

support them and their way of understanding the world their opinions

understanding the world their opinions

understanding the world their opinions will be valued and respected until that

will be valued and respected until that

will be valued and respected until that point in time introverts like myself

point in time introverts like myself

point in time introverts like myself will struggle to speak up and make our

will struggle to speak up and make our

will struggle to speak up and make our voices heard but we will overcome what

voices heard but we will overcome what

voices heard but we will overcome what most people regard as a disadvantage in

most people regard as a disadvantage in

most people regard as a disadvantage in order to allow those who follow us a

order to allow those who follow us a

order to allow those who follow us a chance to make themselves heard in this

chance to make themselves heard in this

chance to make themselves heard in this loud world

loud world

loud world and now let’s take another look I spoke

and now let’s take another look I spoke

and now let’s take another look I spoke up but did you listen thank you

up but did you listen thank you

up but did you listen thank you [Applause]

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