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hi guys my name is Emma Emma Murphy this
hi guys my name is Emma Emma Murphy this is a door behind me I have two children
is a door behind me I have two children
is a door behind me I have two children saver and Arabella she’s settlements and
saver and Arabella she’s settlements and
saver and Arabella she’s settlements and I’ve been thinking long and hard and
I’ve been thinking long and hard and
I’ve been thinking long and hard and contemplating whether to post this video
contemplating whether to post this video
contemplating whether to post this video and I was and I wasn’t and I wasn’t I
and I was and I wasn’t and I wasn’t I
and I was and I wasn’t and I wasn’t I wasn’t I finally decided after a lot
wasn’t I finally decided after a lot
wasn’t I finally decided after a lot thinking that yeah I need to do this for
thinking that yeah I need to do this for
thinking that yeah I need to do this for me and my children I need to raise
me and my children I need to raise
me and my children I need to raise awareness to order women out there yeah
awareness to order women out there yeah
awareness to order women out there yeah I’m 26 something we don’t like to
I’m 26 something we don’t like to
I’m 26 something we don’t like to children I’ve been in a relationship for
children I’ve been in a relationship for
children I’ve been in a relationship for three and a half years what a guy who I
three and a half years what a guy who I
three and a half years what a guy who I thought was the love of my life
thought was the love of my life
thought was the love of my life he was a look like him
hello camera all right we’ve had ups and
hello camera all right we’ve had ups and down I cherished the hopes I want mr.
down I cherished the hopes I want mr.
down I cherished the hopes I want mr. dance yeah unfortunately last year I
dance yeah unfortunately last year I
dance yeah unfortunately last year I found out he cheated on me what one of
found out he cheated on me what one of
found out he cheated on me what one of his clients
his clients
his clients um find out in June but he denied it
um find out in June but he denied it
um find out in June but he denied it she contacted me in November and told me
she contacted me in November and told me
she contacted me in November and told me she was pregnant so with the stress I
she was pregnant so with the stress I
she was pregnant so with the stress I went into labor early my world was
went into labor early my world was
went into labor early my world was turned upside down as you can imagine
you think you know somebody you know I
you think you know somebody you know I am and it was the time for me that I
am and it was the time for me that I
am and it was the time for me that I just I loved him so much that I tried to
just I loved him so much that I tried to
just I loved him so much that I tried to forgive him and I gave him another
forgive him and I gave him another
forgive him and I gave him another chance and I took him back and
unfortunately I found out he did it
unfortunately I found out he did it again father’s weekend he didn’t see us
again father’s weekend he didn’t see us
again father’s weekend he didn’t see us he spent his time with somebody else
he spent his time with somebody else
he spent his time with somebody else and I found out on Friday so I went to
and I found out on Friday so I went to
and I found out on Friday so I went to the gym when I confronted him and he
the gym when I confronted him and he
the gym when I confronted him and he denied it of course and through when I
denied it of course and through when I
denied it of course and through when I tore his phone he punched me in the face
tore his phone he punched me in the face
tore his phone he punched me in the face and it wasn’t the first time last year
and it wasn’t the first time last year
and it wasn’t the first time last year he split my head open at an event and
he split my head open at an event and
he split my head open at an event and prior to that he punched me as well and
prior to that he punched me as well and
prior to that he punched me as well and I had a black eye and for the last year
I had a black eye and for the last year
I had a black eye and for the last year and a half I’ve been told that I’m
and a half I’ve been told that I’m
and a half I’ve been told that I’m paranoid I’m a psycho
paranoid I’m a psycho
paranoid I’m a psycho I’m not my insecurities will kill me one
I’m not my insecurities will kill me one
I’m not my insecurities will kill me one day even up until now he tells me that
day even up until now he tells me that
day even up until now he tells me that my insecurities gotta kill me yeah and
my insecurities gotta kill me yeah and
my insecurities gotta kill me yeah and you know after Friday’s events I finally
you know after Friday’s events I finally
you know after Friday’s events I finally realized that no this is not acceptable
realized that no this is not acceptable
realized that no this is not acceptable no man has any white spots I’ve done a
no man has any white spots I’ve done a
no man has any white spots I’ve done a woman no man is torn I’m a healthy I’m
woman no man is torn I’m a healthy I’m
woman no man is torn I’m a healthy I’m small no matter where you’re from it is
small no matter where you’re from it is
small no matter where you’re from it is not right to raise a hand to a woman and
not right to raise a hand to a woman and
not right to raise a hand to a woman and it’s only now that I’ve realized that
it’s only now that I’ve realized that
it’s only now that I’ve realized that but I’ve had the courage to walk away
but I’ve had the courage to walk away
but I’ve had the courage to walk away and go straight to my family and friends
and go straight to my family and friends
and go straight to my family and friends and people who love me and I have the
and people who love me and I have the
and people who love me and I have the courage to actually do something about
courage to actually do something about
courage to actually do something about this time because even once it’s
this time because even once it’s
this time because even once it’s unacceptable but to me made feel that it
unacceptable but to me made feel that it
unacceptable but to me made feel that it is acceptable is even worse to be
is acceptable is even worse to be
is acceptable is even worse to be mentally tortured and told you’re
mentally tortured and told you’re
mentally tortured and told you’re paranoid insecure that’s mental torture
paranoid insecure that’s mental torture
paranoid insecure that’s mental torture and no man should do that to any woman
and no man should do that to any woman
and no man should do that to any woman so now I’m a single mother of two two
so now I’m a single mother of two two
so now I’m a single mother of two two gorgeous children and unfortunately when
gorgeous children and unfortunately when
gorgeous children and unfortunately when they ask where there’s ideas he’s not
they ask where there’s ideas he’s not
they ask where there’s ideas he’s not gonna be around he’s not gonna be here
gonna be around he’s not gonna be here
gonna be around he’s not gonna be here for them anymore
for them anymore
for them anymore I’ll eyes are completely torn apart and
I’ll eyes are completely torn apart and
I’ll eyes are completely torn apart and they’re gonna know that their daddy here
they’re gonna know that their daddy here
they’re gonna know that their daddy here their mommy
their mommy
their mommy mmm and that’s not something that
mmm and that’s not something that
mmm and that’s not something that children should see
so if anyone out there has gone through
so if anyone out there has gone through something similar what I’ve gone through
something similar what I’ve gone through
something similar what I’ve gone through you know you need to find the courage
you know you need to find the courage
you know you need to find the courage and get away from anything that’s as
and get away from anything that’s as
and get away from anything that’s as unhealthy as violence go to your friends
unhealthy as violence go to your friends
unhealthy as violence go to your friends and family people I talk to them but
and family people I talk to them but
and family people I talk to them but especially if you have children it’s not
especially if you have children it’s not
especially if you have children it’s not a good environment for your children to
a good environment for your children to
a good environment for your children to be around no children should see that my
be around no children should see that my
be around no children should see that my little fellow is in the back of the car
little fellow is in the back of the car
little fellow is in the back of the car and he’s screaming and I looked at him
and he’s screaming and I looked at him
and he’s screaming and I looked at him and I broke my hurt although he’s only
and I broke my hurt although he’s only
and I broke my hurt although he’s only 18 months
18 months
18 months you shouldn’t have to say that and so if
you shouldn’t have to say that and so if
you shouldn’t have to say that and so if there is any will of you who feel that
there is any will of you who feel that
there is any will of you who feel that they kind of get out of relationship
they kind of get out of relationship
they kind of get out of relationship where they can’t walk away if it’s not
where they can’t walk away if it’s not
where they can’t walk away if it’s not safe you have to and if you are arguing
safe you have to and if you are arguing
safe you have to and if you are arguing and if your guy or your man does hit you
and if your guy or your man does hit you
and if your guy or your man does hit you a razor hunt to you you have to walk
a razor hunt to you you have to walk
a razor hunt to you you have to walk away because more often than not that
away because more often than not that
away because more often than not that happens once it would happen again so I
happens once it would happen again so I
happens once it would happen again so I hope I’ve raised awareness to some women
hope I’ve raised awareness to some women
hope I’ve raised awareness to some women and if I had hit anyone’s heart maybe
and if I had hit anyone’s heart maybe
and if I had hit anyone’s heart maybe shared a video to them thanks
shared a video to them thanks
shared a video to them thanks [Applause]
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[Applause] in 2015 my life change dramatically I
in 2015 my life change dramatically I
in 2015 my life change dramatically I said on my stairs weeping crying lost
said on my stairs weeping crying lost
said on my stairs weeping crying lost confused and terrified as I said on my
confused and terrified as I said on my
confused and terrified as I said on my stairs I began recording recording my
stairs I began recording recording my
stairs I began recording recording my thoughts I was looking for an escape an
thoughts I was looking for an escape an
thoughts I was looking for an escape an escape to stop me from going back to the
escape to stop me from going back to the
escape to stop me from going back to the hell I was living in my home where I was
hell I was living in my home where I was
hell I was living in my home where I was in an abusive relationship that left me
in an abusive relationship that left me
in an abusive relationship that left me with yet another black eye as I began
with yet another black eye as I began
with yet another black eye as I began recording my thoughts there was a
recording my thoughts there was a
recording my thoughts there was a million emotions going around my body my
million emotions going around my body my
million emotions going around my body my legs were shaken ankles banging together
legs were shaken ankles banging together
legs were shaken ankles banging together at the time I’d no idea what day it was
at the time I’d no idea what day it was
at the time I’d no idea what day it was let alone to try and understand why this
let alone to try and understand why this
let alone to try and understand why this video was going so viral the minute I
video was going so viral the minute I
video was going so viral the minute I press post on that video my life changed
within minutes this video was going
within minutes this video was going viral
viral
viral hundreds of views thousands of views and
hundreds of views thousands of views and
hundreds of views thousands of views and within 24 hours there were millions of
within 24 hours there were millions of
within 24 hours there were millions of views on this video sorry a 26 year old
views on this video sorry a 26 year old
views on this video sorry a 26 year old mother of two my babies were aged 7
mother of two my babies were aged 7
mother of two my babies were aged 7 months and 18 months old at the time I
months and 18 months old at the time I
months and 18 months old at the time I knew deep down I didn’t deserve this I
knew deep down I didn’t deserve this I
knew deep down I didn’t deserve this I knew deep down I deserve to be happy I
knew deep down I deserve to be happy I
knew deep down I deserve to be happy I knew deep down that this was not OK that
knew deep down that this was not OK that
knew deep down that this was not OK that this was wrong so I took a stand I
this was wrong so I took a stand I
this was wrong so I took a stand I posted this video on social media a
posted this video on social media a
posted this video on social media a video I had no clue would be so powerful
how could this be happening I asked
how could this be happening I asked myself how could this video be going so
myself how could this video be going so
myself how could this video be going so viral I’m just an ordinary girl and my
viral I’m just an ordinary girl and my
viral I’m just an ordinary girl and my story is just a story to date that video
story is just a story to date that video
story is just a story to date that video has been viewed over 50 million times
has been viewed over 50 million times
has been viewed over 50 million times imagine de I never would have imagined
imagine de I never would have imagined
imagine de I never would have imagined that
if you’re wondering why it’s been viewed
if you’re wondering why it’s been viewed so much so did I I can only imagine that
so much so did I I can only imagine that
so much so did I I can only imagine that people resonated with my story the
people resonated with my story the
people resonated with my story the people identified we all know of
people identified we all know of
people identified we all know of somebody who has been through domestic
somebody who has been through domestic
somebody who has been through domestic violence some of the viewers were
violence some of the viewers were
violence some of the viewers were victims themselves some may have been
victims themselves some may have been
victims themselves some may have been offenders people who claimed they loved
offenders people who claimed they loved
offenders people who claimed they loved and cherish you so much but they
and cherish you so much but they
and cherish you so much but they couldn’t control themselves when it came
couldn’t control themselves when it came
couldn’t control themselves when it came to physical violence that video has now
to physical violence that video has now
to physical violence that video has now been used all around the world as a
been used all around the world as a
been used all around the world as a train until in schools colleges and
train until in schools colleges and
train until in schools colleges and domestic violence organizations it’s
domestic violence organizations it’s
domestic violence organizations it’s used every single day to help women who
used every single day to help women who
used every single day to help women who are suffering the same way I was it’s a
are suffering the same way I was it’s a
are suffering the same way I was it’s a real-life powerful tool that has saved
real-life powerful tool that has saved
real-life powerful tool that has saved lives I never set off to create such a
lives I never set off to create such a
lives I never set off to create such a powerful tool but I am immensely
powerful tool but I am immensely
powerful tool but I am immensely grateful that so much God has come from
grateful that so much God has come from
grateful that so much God has come from so much pain it has shown people the
so much pain it has shown people the
so much pain it has shown people the science and the effects of physical
science and the effects of physical
science and the effects of physical mental and emotional abuse I didn’t
mental and emotional abuse I didn’t
mental and emotional abuse I didn’t realize it at the time but the moment I
realize it at the time but the moment I
realize it at the time but the moment I hit records I found the power of my
hit records I found the power of my
hit records I found the power of my voice and the moment I had post I
voice and the moment I had post I
voice and the moment I had post I discovered the power of social media
discovered the power of social media
discovered the power of social media what started off as a call for help from
what started off as a call for help from
what started off as a call for help from friends and family Facebook made
friends and family Facebook made
friends and family Facebook made available to millions of people
available to millions of people
available to millions of people extending my circle to millions of
extending my circle to millions of
extending my circle to millions of screens all around the world because
screens all around the world because
screens all around the world because without having that platform to voice my
without having that platform to voice my
without having that platform to voice my story I would still be there in that
story I would still be there in that
story I would still be there in that very unhappy place where I wished I was
very unhappy place where I wished I was
very unhappy place where I wished I was dead I may have never found the courage
dead I may have never found the courage
dead I may have never found the courage to walk away I would still be crying
to walk away I would still be crying
to walk away I would still be crying every single day wishing I was dead it
every single day wishing I was dead it
every single day wishing I was dead it sounds weird but my guardian angel came
sounds weird but my guardian angel came
sounds weird but my guardian angel came in from a peril phone network social
in from a peril phone network social
in from a peril phone network social media saved my life
because as I said if it wasn’t for
because as I said if it wasn’t for social media I would probably be dead
social media I would probably be dead
social media I would probably be dead what I’m not gratefully I am very much
what I’m not gratefully I am very much
what I’m not gratefully I am very much alive and very much in action since then
alive and very much in action since then
alive and very much in action since then I used my newly discovered powerful
I used my newly discovered powerful
I used my newly discovered powerful voice to speak on behalf of every woman
voice to speak on behalf of every woman
voice to speak on behalf of every woman and man experienced in domestic violence
and man experienced in domestic violence
and man experienced in domestic violence two years ago I stood on the stage at
two years ago I stood on the stage at
two years ago I stood on the stage at the third world Women’s Conference in
the third world Women’s Conference in
the third world Women’s Conference in The Hague the Netherlands I was looking
The Hague the Netherlands I was looking
The Hague the Netherlands I was looking out over the auditorium of over 1000
out over the auditorium of over 1000
out over the auditorium of over 1000 people 1000 influential people from all
people 1000 influential people from all
people 1000 influential people from all around the world the doubt start kicking
around the world the doubt start kicking
around the world the doubt start kicking in I started really doubting myself my
in I started really doubting myself my
in I started really doubting myself my knees were shaking I asked myself can I
knees were shaking I asked myself can I
knees were shaking I asked myself can I do this can I deliver can I give the
do this can I deliver can I give the
do this can I deliver can I give the people what they want and then I had a
people what they want and then I had a
people what they want and then I had a toss it’s only 1,000 people Emma you’ve
toss it’s only 1,000 people Emma you’ve
toss it’s only 1,000 people Emma you’ve spoke to millions today this is my
spoke to millions today this is my
spoke to millions today this is my message to women if a relationship does
message to women if a relationship does
message to women if a relationship does not work
not work
not work walk away fast unsteady walk away ask
walk away fast unsteady walk away ask
walk away fast unsteady walk away ask for help if you don’t have the Internet
for help if you don’t have the Internet
for help if you don’t have the Internet walk outside your house and scream until
walk outside your house and scream until
walk outside your house and scream until you seek help talk to family talk to
you seek help talk to family talk to
you seek help talk to family talk to friends work colleagues do not shut them
friends work colleagues do not shut them
friends work colleagues do not shut them out and go to the police standing still
out and go to the police standing still
out and go to the police standing still when there is physical violence will
when there is physical violence will
when there is physical violence will only get you killed most importantly
only get you killed most importantly
only get you killed most importantly love yourselves more than anything in
love yourselves more than anything in
love yourselves more than anything in life and teach your children to do the
life and teach your children to do the
life and teach your children to do the same thank you so much
same thank you so much
same thank you so much [Applause]
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