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so bullying is a big problem and we have
so bullying is a big problem and we have way too much of it here in the United
way too much of it here in the United
way too much of it here in the United States and and yet being bullied as a
States and and yet being bullied as a
States and and yet being bullied as a teenager launched my career the fists
teenager launched my career the fists
teenager launched my career the fists the humiliations the threats started a
the humiliations the threats started a
the humiliations the threats started a domino effect I started studying
domino effect I started studying
domino effect I started studying Brazilian Jiu Jitsu wrestling boxing and
Brazilian Jiu Jitsu wrestling boxing and
Brazilian Jiu Jitsu wrestling boxing and it led me to Las Vegas the fight capital
it led me to Las Vegas the fight capital
it led me to Las Vegas the fight capital the world where I worked for the
the world where I worked for the
the world where I worked for the Ultimate Fighting Championship
Ultimate Fighting Championship
Ultimate Fighting Championship I was the Ultimate Fighting Championship
I was the Ultimate Fighting Championship
I was the Ultimate Fighting Championship I got to interview hundreds of elite
I got to interview hundreds of elite
I got to interview hundreds of elite cage fighters Raw on you know filtered
cage fighters Raw on you know filtered
cage fighters Raw on you know filtered fascinating minds and the more I picked
fascinating minds and the more I picked
fascinating minds and the more I picked their brains the more one pearl of
their brains the more one pearl of
their brains the more one pearl of wisdom surfaced again and again fighting
wisdom surfaced again and again fighting
wisdom surfaced again and again fighting is 90% mental now the fighting gene is
is 90% mental now the fighting gene is
is 90% mental now the fighting gene is wired into each of us we all have fights
wired into each of us we all have fights
wired into each of us we all have fights and at some point life’s gonna try to
and at some point life’s gonna try to
and at some point life’s gonna try to hit you upside the head with a steel
hit you upside the head with a steel
hit you upside the head with a steel chair it’s gonna poke you in the eye
chair it’s gonna poke you in the eye
chair it’s gonna poke you in the eye he’s gonna try to bust you in the mouth
he’s gonna try to bust you in the mouth
he’s gonna try to bust you in the mouth and the best solution that usually is
and the best solution that usually is
and the best solution that usually is from the neck up and so we might all ask
from the neck up and so we might all ask
from the neck up and so we might all ask ourselves what am i doing on a daily
ourselves what am i doing on a daily
ourselves what am i doing on a daily basis to exercise my mind tool and it
basis to exercise my mind tool and it
basis to exercise my mind tool and it reminds me a few years back there was a
reminds me a few years back there was a
reminds me a few years back there was a gentleman named Immanuel Stewart
gentleman named Immanuel Stewart
gentleman named Immanuel Stewart Emmanuel Stewart was a legendary boxing
Emmanuel Stewart was a legendary boxing
Emmanuel Stewart was a legendary boxing trainer he’s dead now legendary boxing
trainer he’s dead now legendary boxing
trainer he’s dead now legendary boxing trainer 40 plus world champions I’d
trainer 40 plus world champions I’d
trainer 40 plus world champions I’d waited a long time to get him I’ve got
waited a long time to get him I’ve got
waited a long time to get him I’ve got him on the phone
him on the phone
him on the phone 20 minutes in I asked him the most
20 minutes in I asked him the most
20 minutes in I asked him the most important question all the world
important question all the world
important question all the world champions are worked with what’s the one
champions are worked with what’s the one
champions are worked with what’s the one trait the one characteristic they all
trait the one characteristic they all
trait the one characteristic they all had and Stuart’s a lot more soft-spoken
had and Stuart’s a lot more soft-spoken
had and Stuart’s a lot more soft-spoken than I am real soft-spoken guy he said
than I am real soft-spoken guy he said
than I am real soft-spoken guy he said palsy said uh a big ego they all had a
palsy said uh a big ego they all had a
palsy said uh a big ego they all had a big ego and I wanted to leap out of my
big ego and I wanted to leap out of my
big ego and I wanted to leap out of my chair I’m in the UFC offices by myself
chair I’m in the UFC offices by myself
chair I’m in the UFC offices by myself when to leap out because it it confirmed
when to leap out because it it confirmed
when to leap out because it it confirmed a conviction I had for years I trained
a conviction I had for years I trained
a conviction I had for years I trained in Brazilian jiu-jitsu nine years 3000
in Brazilian jiu-jitsu nine years 3000
in Brazilian jiu-jitsu nine years 3000 plus hours to get a black belt I
plus hours to get a black belt I
plus hours to get a black belt I interview 20,000 plus people as a
interview 20,000 plus people as a
interview 20,000 plus people as a journalist as a writer and kept all
journalist as a writer and kept all
journalist as a writer and kept all these high performers I kept seeing man
these high performers I kept seeing man
these high performers I kept seeing man could it be that a big ego gets a bad
could it be that a big ego gets a bad
could it be that a big ego gets a bad rap right could it be and so I have kind
rap right could it be and so I have kind
rap right could it be and so I have kind of a soft spot I’ve competed hundreds of
of a soft spot I’ve competed hundreds of
of a soft spot I’ve competed hundreds of tournaments I know what it takes I know
tournaments I know what it takes I know
tournaments I know what it takes I know what it takes mentally and I have a soft
what it takes mentally and I have a soft
what it takes mentally and I have a soft spot for say someone like Ronda Rousey
spot for say someone like Ronda Rousey
spot for say someone like Ronda Rousey career didn’t end that well a lot of
career didn’t end that well a lot of
career didn’t end that well a lot of people laughed and mocked her but I get
people laughed and mocked her but I get
people laughed and mocked her but I get it I get why she said you know she had
it I get why she said you know she had
it I get why she said you know she had this angry swag persona I get why she
this angry swag persona I get why she
this angry swag persona I get why she faced the reports and look you guys call
faced the reports and look you guys call
faced the reports and look you guys call me cocky you call me arrogant but the
me cocky you call me arrogant but the
me cocky you call me arrogant but the thing is how dare you think I should
thing is how dare you think I should
thing is how dare you think I should think less of myself do you know what it
think less of myself do you know what it
think less of myself do you know what it takes to go out there Cristiano Ronaldo
takes to go out there Cristiano Ronaldo
takes to go out there Cristiano Ronaldo reporters ask them are you the best
reporters ask them are you the best
reporters ask them are you the best soccer player in the world said I’m not
soccer player in the world said I’m not
soccer player in the world said I’m not the best now I’m the best ever Dan Gable
the best now I’m the best ever Dan Gable
the best now I’m the best ever Dan Gable mr. intensity mister I cut wrestling
mr. intensity mister I cut wrestling
mr. intensity mister I cut wrestling icon
icon
icon you know hardest sport in the world
you know hardest sport in the world
you know hardest sport in the world arguably wrestling he said some wrestle
arguably wrestling he said some wrestle
arguably wrestling he said some wrestle without great skill none wrestle without
without great skill none wrestle without
without great skill none wrestle without pride ESPN ranks number one athlete of
pride ESPN ranks number one athlete of
pride ESPN ranks number one athlete of all time in any sport and it’s the guy
all time in any sport and it’s the guy
all time in any sport and it’s the guy with the biggest mouth and the biggest
with the biggest mouth and the biggest
with the biggest mouth and the biggest ego
ego
ego Muhammad Ali maybe a connection there so
Muhammad Ali maybe a connection there so
Muhammad Ali maybe a connection there so you think I know that we have to be
you think I know that we have to be
you think I know that we have to be careful that you have this big ego
careful that you have this big ego
careful that you have this big ego fright train and it’s destined to crash
fright train and it’s destined to crash
fright train and it’s destined to crash and burn and we all see that that’s in
and burn and we all see that that’s in
and burn and we all see that that’s in our head right so obviously it’s wise to
our head right so obviously it’s wise to
our head right so obviously it’s wise to hedge that ego with humility and the
hedge that ego with humility and the
hedge that ego with humility and the problem with humility is we’ve done a
problem with humility is we’ve done a
problem with humility is we’ve done a poor job defining what humility is how
poor job defining what humility is how
poor job defining what humility is how do you aim for something how do you do
do you aim for something how do you do
do you aim for something how do you do something that’s so poorly defined
something that’s so poorly defined
something that’s so poorly defined humility you know being introverted no
humility you know being introverted no
humility you know being introverted no offense if you’re introverted it’s not
offense if you’re introverted it’s not
offense if you’re introverted it’s not humility being shy is not humility being
humility being shy is not humility being
humility being shy is not humility being not doing something because you’re
not doing something because you’re
not doing something because you’re scared what do other people think is not
scared what do other people think is not
scared what do other people think is not humility feigning humility faking it
humility feigning humility faking it
humility feigning humility faking it repressing it is not humility humility
repressing it is not humility humility
repressing it is not humility humility requires the presence of I know my power
requires the presence of I know my power
requires the presence of I know my power I’m aware of the power half I’m
I’m aware of the power half I’m
I’m aware of the power half I’m confidence that’s human you know that’s
confidence that’s human you know that’s
confidence that’s human you know that’s a start
a start
a start point four humility humility is when
point four humility humility is when
point four humility humility is when you’re in a fight and you’re the nail
you’re in a fight and you’re the nail
you’re in a fight and you’re the nail and you fight as hard as you do as you
and you fight as hard as you do as you
and you fight as hard as you do as you can well you would if you were the
can well you would if you were the
can well you would if you were the hammer so humility is you’re a black
hammer so humility is you’re a black
hammer so humility is you’re a black belt you’re an expert and you humble
belt you’re an expert and you humble
belt you’re an expert and you humble yourself you look at things through a
yourself you look at things through a
yourself you look at things through a white belt rookies eyes and you see you
white belt rookies eyes and you see you
white belt rookies eyes and you see you realize how many things you don’t know
realize how many things you don’t know
realize how many things you don’t know in the universe
in the universe
in the universe humility is this incredible freedom it
humility is this incredible freedom it
humility is this incredible freedom it is this it’s it’s not being concerned
is this it’s it’s not being concerned
is this it’s it’s not being concerned with what people think so you’re just
with what people think so you’re just
with what people think so you’re just free to be and humility to me I think
free to be and humility to me I think
free to be and humility to me I think nobody gets to pick their parents nobody
nobody gets to pick their parents nobody
nobody gets to pick their parents nobody gets to pick the zip code right nobody
gets to pick the zip code right nobody
gets to pick the zip code right nobody gets to pick I want to live in Beverly
gets to pick I want to live in Beverly
gets to pick I want to live in Beverly Hills or versus the war zone in Iraq or
Hills or versus the war zone in Iraq or
Hills or versus the war zone in Iraq or Syria nobody gets to pick that humility
Syria nobody gets to pick that humility
Syria nobody gets to pick that humility is an awareness of a oneness that I see
is an awareness of a oneness that I see
is an awareness of a oneness that I see other people and I recognize you know
other people and I recognize you know
other people and I recognize you know that would be me if that would be me if
that would be me if that would be me if
that would be me if that would be me if I was born the same birth date to the
I was born the same birth date to the
I was born the same birth date to the same parents in the same zip code in the
same parents in the same zip code in the
same parents in the same zip code in the same environment with the same genes you
same environment with the same genes you
same environment with the same genes you connect more people you read that would
connect more people you read that would
connect more people you read that would be me if there but for the grace of God
be me if there but for the grace of God
be me if there but for the grace of God go I and so I think with this with this
go I and so I think with this with this
go I and so I think with this with this ego spectrum this ego continuum I have a
ego spectrum this ego continuum I have a
ego spectrum this ego continuum I have a mathematical equation for it and it’s C
mathematical equation for it and it’s C
mathematical equation for it and it’s C equals b e+ h u confidence equals big
equals b e+ h u confidence equals big
equals b e+ h u confidence equals big ego plus humility and you’re constantly
ego plus humility and you’re constantly
ego plus humility and you’re constantly if you’re doing it right it’s like this
if you’re doing it right it’s like this
if you’re doing it right it’s like this serf thing i have where you’re
serf thing i have where you’re
serf thing i have where you’re constantly trying to back to tight rope
constantly trying to back to tight rope
constantly trying to back to tight rope you’re going to get tested and i think
you’re going to get tested and i think
you’re going to get tested and i think of the ego as this mansion in your mind
of the ego as this mansion in your mind
of the ego as this mansion in your mind right this big vast mansions got a
right this big vast mansions got a
right this big vast mansions got a hundred rooms in it and so many people
hundred rooms in it and so many people
hundred rooms in it and so many people spend time in three or four or five of
spend time in three or four or five of
spend time in three or four or five of the rooms and the safe i’m humble I’m
the rooms and the safe i’m humble I’m
the rooms and the safe i’m humble I’m here I’ve got a big ego I don’t back it
here I’ve got a big ego I don’t back it
here I’ve got a big ego I don’t back it up with hard work or anything but I’m
up with hard work or anything but I’m
up with hard work or anything but I’m here and yap yap-yap
here and yap yap-yap
here and yap yap-yap instead of getting out and saying i got
instead of getting out and saying i got
instead of getting out and saying i got to go to the whole spectrum i got to
to go to the whole spectrum i got to
to go to the whole spectrum i got to play with this don’t just follow the
play with this don’t just follow the
play with this don’t just follow the narrative big egos bad because I can
narrative big egos bad because I can
narrative big egos bad because I can show you high performers they ain’t
show you high performers they ain’t
show you high performers they ain’t kidding they’re Austin Rivers in the NBA
kidding they’re Austin Rivers in the NBA
kidding they’re Austin Rivers in the NBA said look I’m cocky I got a chip on my
said look I’m cocky I got a chip on my
said look I’m cocky I got a chip on my shoulder and I wouldn’t be in the NBA if
shoulder and I wouldn’t be in the NBA if
shoulder and I wouldn’t be in the NBA if I didn’t have that and he’s probably
I didn’t have that and he’s probably
I didn’t have that and he’s probably right
right
right and I grew up in you know seven
and I grew up in you know seven
and I grew up in you know seven different families eleven schools and
different families eleven schools and
different families eleven schools and when trust me nobody volunteers
when trust me nobody volunteers
when trust me nobody volunteers sometimes to be your biggest cheerleader
sometimes to be your biggest cheerleader
sometimes to be your biggest cheerleader nobody does nobody nobody volunteers
nobody does nobody nobody volunteers
nobody does nobody nobody volunteers guess who it falls on to do that to get
guess who it falls on to do that to get
guess who it falls on to do that to get you out of spots it falls on you so I
you out of spots it falls on you so I
you out of spots it falls on you so I think I understand the fighters the high
think I understand the fighters the high
think I understand the fighters the high performers who say look this vociferous
performers who say look this vociferous
performers who say look this vociferous voice why do I need it if you’re there
voice why do I need it if you’re there
voice why do I need it if you’re there I’ve competed American nationals I
I’ve competed American nationals I
I’ve competed American nationals I compete at World Championships I’ve been
compete at World Championships I’ve been
compete at World Championships I’ve been behind the stage at the UFC and I’ve
behind the stage at the UFC and I’ve
behind the stage at the UFC and I’ve seen the fear that in circles even the
seen the fear that in circles even the
seen the fear that in circles even the best of the best the doubts why am I
best of the best the doubts why am I
best of the best the doubts why am I here what if I lose what if I get hurt
here what if I lose what if I get hurt
here what if I lose what if I get hurt what if this what if that you have all
what if this what if that you have all
what if this what if that you have all these things racing through your head
these things racing through your head
these things racing through your head and you’re like you know one vociferous
and you’re like you know one vociferous
and you’re like you know one vociferous voice you have all these Y knots all
voice you have all these Y knots all
voice you have all these Y knots all these what could go wrong and then you
these what could go wrong and then you
these what could go wrong and then you have this one great why this one great
have this one great why this one great
have this one great why this one great why that says you know to all the ten
why that says you know to all the ten
why that says you know to all the ten thousand why not just goes in there and
thousand why not just goes in there and
thousand why not just goes in there and just wreck shop and says no no no we’re
just wreck shop and says no no no we’re
just wreck shop and says no no no we’re taking the mountain we’re doing what we
taking the mountain we’re doing what we
taking the mountain we’re doing what we said we’re gonna do and that’s it and
said we’re gonna do and that’s it and
said we’re gonna do and that’s it and you’re communicating that like an inner
you’re communicating that like an inner
you’re communicating that like an inner ollie you’re commanding your cells this
ollie you’re commanding your cells this
ollie you’re commanding your cells this is what you’re gonna do we’re not
is what you’re gonna do we’re not
is what you’re gonna do we’re not turning back now that’s the voice you
turning back now that’s the voice you
turning back now that’s the voice you need that receivers voice and I say to
need that receivers voice and I say to
need that receivers voice and I say to have that voice to have that one great
have that voice to have that one great
have that voice to have that one great why you need to know your purpose that’s
why you need to know your purpose that’s
why you need to know your purpose that’s the root of it what’s your purpose and
the root of it what’s your purpose and
the root of it what’s your purpose and people try to identify their purpose and
people try to identify their purpose and
people try to identify their purpose and they say oh well you know what do I love
they say oh well you know what do I love
they say oh well you know what do I love to do you know what makes me happy what
to do you know what makes me happy what
to do you know what makes me happy what would I do for free that doesn’t work
would I do for free that doesn’t work
would I do for free that doesn’t work for me and I don’t I think in general
for me and I don’t I think in general
for me and I don’t I think in general that’s a bad way to go but I think a
that’s a bad way to go but I think a
that’s a bad way to go but I think a better way to go about it is determining
better way to go about it is determining
better way to go about it is determining your purpose
your purpose
your purpose what would I suffer for what would I
what would I suffer for what would I
what would I suffer for what would I bleed for what would I limp for what
bleed for what would I limp for what
bleed for what would I limp for what would I crawl for what would I die for
would I crawl for what would I die for
would I crawl for what would I die for some people do some people are willing
some people do some people are willing
some people do some people are willing to die or shave years off their life to
to die or shave years off their life to
to die or shave years off their life to I’m gonna do X and they want to do it
I’m gonna do X and they want to do it
I’m gonna do X and they want to do it and humanity benefits from that so
and humanity benefits from that so
and humanity benefits from that so that’s the kind of voice that we’re
that’s the kind of voice that we’re
that’s the kind of voice that we’re talking about needing and a lot of
talking about needing and a lot of
talking about needing and a lot of people you know so many people I I do we
people you know so many people I I do we
people you know so many people I I do we just had a guy a couple weeks ago
just had a guy a couple weeks ago
just had a guy a couple weeks ago committed suicide a famous trainer in
committed suicide a famous trainer in
committed suicide a famous trainer in the fight sports him devastating I was
the fight sports him devastating I was
the fight sports him devastating I was writing my speech I couldn’t you know I
writing my speech I couldn’t you know I
writing my speech I couldn’t you know I could
could
could good right so many people are deflated
good right so many people are deflated
good right so many people are deflated and they’re depressed and they’re lonely
and they’re depressed and they’re lonely
and they’re depressed and they’re lonely and they feel unworthy you’re like what
and they feel unworthy you’re like what
and they feel unworthy you’re like what do you do to someone who feels that
do you do to someone who feels that
do you do to someone who feels that deflated a beautiful person smart person
deflated a beautiful person smart person
deflated a beautiful person smart person talented person what do you do well one
talented person what do you do well one
talented person what do you do well one thing you might do is inflate you might
thing you might do is inflate you might
thing you might do is inflate you might be like let you got pom-pom up got to
be like let you got pom-pom up got to
be like let you got pom-pom up got to build them up right build yourself up
build them up right build yourself up
build them up right build yourself up you build yourself up with the thing
you build yourself up with the thing
you build yourself up with the thing it’s free whether you’re broke you’re
it’s free whether you’re broke you’re
it’s free whether you’re broke you’re rich it’s free it’s your voice it’s a
rich it’s free it’s your voice it’s a
rich it’s free it’s your voice it’s a space when yours it’s free man
space when yours it’s free man
space when yours it’s free man so one thing you got no matter
so one thing you got no matter
so one thing you got no matter everything goes wrong around you you got
everything goes wrong around you you got
everything goes wrong around you you got that if you can use those weapons those
that if you can use those weapons those
that if you can use those weapons those mind tools and so I see so much of that
mind tools and so I see so much of that
mind tools and so I see so much of that deflation that is out there right now
deflation that is out there right now
deflation that is out there right now and I think why are people denying and
and I think why are people denying and
and I think why are people denying and depriving themselves there’s weapons
depriving themselves there’s weapons
depriving themselves there’s weapons there there’s mind tools even the ego
there there’s mind tools even the ego
there there’s mind tools even the ego thing reach for it there’s weapons out
thing reach for it there’s weapons out
thing reach for it there’s weapons out there for denying deprive yourself you
there for denying deprive yourself you
there for denying deprive yourself you go to the grave with great music in you
go to the grave with great music in you
go to the grave with great music in you you scratch the surface of your talent
you scratch the surface of your talent
you scratch the surface of your talent and guess what did denying and depriving
and guess what did denying and depriving
and guess what did denying and depriving society of your benefits and your
society of your benefits and your
society of your benefits and your maximum contributions that’s what people
maximum contributions that’s what people
maximum contributions that’s what people do it’s you’re not just the victim when
do it’s you’re not just the victim when
do it’s you’re not just the victim when you deny and deprive society is the
you deny and deprive society is the
you deny and deprive society is the victim and so some of these big ego
victim and so some of these big ego
victim and so some of these big ego people they roam where others dare not
people they roam where others dare not
people they roam where others dare not roam some of these some of them deserve
roam some of these some of them deserve
roam some of these some of them deserve respect and even if they don’t back it
respect and even if they don’t back it
respect and even if they don’t back it up at least they’re trying they’re
up at least they’re trying they’re
up at least they’re trying they’re saying look I want to squeeze everything
saying look I want to squeeze everything
saying look I want to squeeze everything out of me I want to do that so I would
out of me I want to do that so I would
out of me I want to do that so I would say now you know if a person feels
say now you know if a person feels
say now you know if a person feels deflated you might reach for those two
deflated you might reach for those two
deflated you might reach for those two mental superpowers you might reach from
mental superpowers you might reach from
mental superpowers you might reach from you might explore them get out there and
you might explore them get out there and
you might explore them get out there and the dimensions get away from you don’t
the dimensions get away from you don’t
the dimensions get away from you don’t divorce yourself from just the negative
divorce yourself from just the negative
divorce yourself from just the negative spirit size play around with it explore
spirit size play around with it explore
spirit size play around with it explore them exercise them and I hope you’ll
them exercise them and I hope you’ll
them exercise them and I hope you’ll find if you are in that deflated place
find if you are in that deflated place
find if you are in that deflated place and you do dare exaggerate and amplify
and you do dare exaggerate and amplify
and you do dare exaggerate and amplify what I hope you’ll find is that what I
what I hope you’ll find is that what I
what I hope you’ll find is that what I found is that you know doubling down on
found is that you know doubling down on
found is that you know doubling down on humility is always a beautiful thing
humility is always a beautiful thing
humility is always a beautiful thing it’s always a good idea but betting big
it’s always a good idea but betting big
it’s always a good idea but betting big on a big ego can move mountains – thank
on a big ego can move mountains – thank
on a big ego can move mountains – thank you
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