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be a leader I was told be confident and

be a leader I was told be confident and assertive prove yourself and win respect

assertive prove yourself and win respect

assertive prove yourself and win respect strong teams depend on strong leadership

strong teams depend on strong leadership

strong teams depend on strong leadership so if you want to make a difference be

so if you want to make a difference be

so if you want to make a difference be an independent leader for others to

an independent leader for others to

an independent leader for others to follow at least that’s what I always

follow at least that’s what I always

follow at least that’s what I always thought

thought

thought but what if following is actually the

but what if following is actually the

but what if following is actually the more difficult role what if the best way

more difficult role what if the best way

more difficult role what if the best way to lead is to first be a follower

to lead is to first be a follower

to lead is to first be a follower yourself

yourself

yourself this realization set me on a path to the

this realization set me on a path to the

this realization set me on a path to the Olympics but it didn’t come easily

Olympics but it didn’t come easily

Olympics but it didn’t come easily through high school I was an average

through high school I was an average

through high school I was an average gymnast and runner so I was thrilled to

gymnast and runner so I was thrilled to

gymnast and runner so I was thrilled to find natural talent as a rower when I

find natural talent as a rower when I

find natural talent as a rower when I walked on to the Purdue University crew

walked on to the Purdue University crew

walked on to the Purdue University crew team in 2009 I immediately loved rowing

team in 2009 I immediately loved rowing

team in 2009 I immediately loved rowing I loved being outside exerting myself

I loved being outside exerting myself

I loved being outside exerting myself racing and constantly improving

racing and constantly improving

racing and constantly improving I loved the strength endurance mental

I loved the strength endurance mental

I loved the strength endurance mental toughness and technical skill required I

toughness and technical skill required I

toughness and technical skill required I loved it and I was good at it I couldn’t

loved it and I was good at it I couldn’t

loved it and I was good at it I couldn’t believe it

believe it

believe it less than four months after my first day

less than four months after my first day

less than four months after my first day in a boat and I was beating everyone on

in a boat and I was beating everyone on

in a boat and I was beating everyone on the team

the team

the team this talent made me confident and I

this talent made me confident and I

this talent made me confident and I quickly became a team leader

quickly became a team leader

quickly became a team leader I worked hard and hoped other people

I worked hard and hoped other people

I worked hard and hoped other people would follow me I tried to be perfect I

would follow me I tried to be perfect I

would follow me I tried to be perfect I raced myself and focused on my

raced myself and focused on my

raced myself and focused on my individual journey and eventually my

individual journey and eventually my

individual journey and eventually my individual goals turned to the elite

individual goals turned to the elite

individual goals turned to the elite level in 2014 while I was in graduate

level in 2014 while I was in graduate

level in 2014 while I was in graduate school at the University of Michigan I

school at the University of Michigan I

school at the University of Michigan I got an email invitation to train at the

got an email invitation to train at the

got an email invitation to train at the Olympic team training center in

Olympic team training center in

Olympic team training center in Princeton New Jersey I had to accept

Princeton New Jersey I had to accept

Princeton New Jersey I had to accept this prestigious group of about 30 women

this prestigious group of about 30 women

this prestigious group of about 30 women is where the national team big boats are

is where the national team big boats are

is where the national team big boats are chosen in the past ten years the u.s.

chosen in the past ten years the u.s.

chosen in the past ten years the u.s. women had earned Olympic silver and two

women had earned Olympic silver and two

women had earned Olympic silver and two Olympic gold medals in the 8th Olympic

Olympic gold medals in the 8th Olympic

Olympic gold medals in the 8th Olympic bronze in the quad and many World

bronze in the quad and many World

bronze in the quad and many World Championship medals in fact the u.s.

Championship medals in fact the u.s.

Championship medals in fact the u.s. women’s eight hadn’t lost a single

women’s eight hadn’t lost a single

women’s eight hadn’t lost a single race since 2005 these tall strong

race since 2005 these tall strong

race since 2005 these tall strong naturally talented fiercely competitive

naturally talented fiercely competitive

naturally talented fiercely competitive and intimidating women were perfect to

and intimidating women were perfect to

and intimidating women were perfect to me I wanted to be them this was exactly

me I wanted to be them this was exactly

me I wanted to be them this was exactly what I’d always wanted I was thrown

what I’d always wanted I was thrown

what I’d always wanted I was thrown right into the mix racing with and

right into the mix racing with and

right into the mix racing with and against Olympic medalist my idols and

against Olympic medalist my idols and

against Olympic medalist my idols and heroes I pushed hard every day trying to

heroes I pushed hard every day trying to

heroes I pushed hard every day trying to impress them I was beyond excited but I

impress them I was beyond excited but I

impress them I was beyond excited but I quickly realized I was struggling before

quickly realized I was struggling before

quickly realized I was struggling before I had relied on my natural talent but

I had relied on my natural talent but

I had relied on my natural talent but now athletes with talent and experience

now athletes with talent and experience

now athletes with talent and experience surrounded me I pretended to know what I

surrounded me I pretended to know what I

surrounded me I pretended to know what I was doing

was doing

was doing but my boats weren’t going fast I was

but my boats weren’t going fast I was

but my boats weren’t going fast I was exhausted it seemed we rode more in a

exhausted it seemed we rode more in a

exhausted it seemed we rode more in a day than I had in a week in college

day than I had in a week in college

day than I had in a week in college after our first Fitness Test I finished

after our first Fitness Test I finished

after our first Fitness Test I finished last I kept pushing desperate to improve

last I kept pushing desperate to improve

last I kept pushing desperate to improve but eventually the exhaustion and

but eventually the exhaustion and

but eventually the exhaustion and nagging pain caught up to me and one

nagging pain caught up to me and one

nagging pain caught up to me and one morning I woke up with back spasms so

morning I woke up with back spasms so

morning I woke up with back spasms so bad I couldn’t stand up I was devastated

bad I couldn’t stand up I was devastated

bad I couldn’t stand up I was devastated I thought it was over my work ethic and

I thought it was over my work ethic and

I thought it was over my work ethic and talent had failed me I needed a new

talent had failed me I needed a new

talent had failed me I needed a new strategy my injury that summer was

strategy my injury that summer was

strategy my injury that summer was probably the best thing that could have

probably the best thing that could have

probably the best thing that could have happened to me I got a chance to restart

happened to me I got a chance to restart

happened to me I got a chance to restart and it started with observation I

and it started with observation I

and it started with observation I watched my teammates I observed them

watched my teammates I observed them

watched my teammates I observed them rowing warming up what they ate what

rowing warming up what they ate what

rowing warming up what they ate what they said in the locker room how they

they said in the locker room how they

they said in the locker room how they handled injuries how they spoke to each

handled injuries how they spoke to each

handled injuries how they spoke to each other coaches how they raced I saw their

other coaches how they raced I saw their

other coaches how they raced I saw their unique strengths christine communicated

unique strengths christine communicated

unique strengths christine communicated clearly moose had incredible

clearly moose had incredible

clearly moose had incredible self-discipline Adrienne always held a

self-discipline Adrienne always held a

self-discipline Adrienne always held a clear and consistent rhythm police had

clear and consistent rhythm police had

clear and consistent rhythm police had amazing core strength Lauren always

amazing core strength Lauren always

amazing core strength Lauren always stood in extra workouts Tessa

stood in extra workouts Tessa

stood in extra workouts Tessa put her head down got the work done

put her head down got the work done

put her head down got the work done Mollie can make anyone laugh Aaron would

Mollie can make anyone laugh Aaron would

Mollie can make anyone laugh Aaron would laugh at anything and al the great

laugh at anything and al the great

laugh at anything and al the great Eleanor Logan was calm in the most

Eleanor Logan was calm in the most

Eleanor Logan was calm in the most stressful situations but I also realized

stressful situations but I also realized

stressful situations but I also realized these women I idolized weren’t perfect

these women I idolized weren’t perfect

these women I idolized weren’t perfect they had injuries bad workouts and

they had injuries bad workouts and

they had injuries bad workouts and insecurities too when you spend six

insecurities too when you spend six

insecurities too when you spend six hours a day training together you see

hours a day training together you see

hours a day training together you see everything I reflected on all this I

everything I reflected on all this I

everything I reflected on all this I thought what is she doing to be

thought what is she doing to be

thought what is she doing to be successful is it working and then I

successful is it working and then I

successful is it working and then I thought do I have the capacity to do

thought do I have the capacity to do

thought do I have the capacity to do that to would mimicking her help me the

that to would mimicking her help me the

that to would mimicking her help me the last part was the hardest changing I

last part was the hardest changing I

last part was the hardest changing I adapted I found humility I realized that

adapted I found humility I realized that

adapted I found humility I realized that I wasn’t perfect either but I couldn’t

I wasn’t perfect either but I couldn’t

I wasn’t perfect either but I couldn’t prove and finally after about a year of

prove and finally after about a year of

prove and finally after about a year of following my teammates I wasn’t proving

following my teammates I wasn’t proving

following my teammates I wasn’t proving more than when I had just relied on

more than when I had just relied on

more than when I had just relied on coaches or figuring it out on my own I

coaches or figuring it out on my own I

coaches or figuring it out on my own I was getting stronger my boats were

was getting stronger my boats were

was getting stronger my boats were moving faster but great you may be

moving faster but great you may be

moving faster but great you may be thinking

thinking

thinking identifying role models learning by

identifying role models learning by

identifying role models learning by example that’s not anything new most

example that’s not anything new most

example that’s not anything new most people already do that what I had

people already do that what I had

people already do that what I had discovered was more than a learning

discovered was more than a learning

discovered was more than a learning style by following my teammates by

style by following my teammates by

style by following my teammates by observing reflecting and adapting I was

observing reflecting and adapting I was

observing reflecting and adapting I was more in tune to the team than I had been

more in tune to the team than I had been

more in tune to the team than I had been to just myself I found the value of

to just myself I found the value of

to just myself I found the value of following in building a stronger team I

following in building a stronger team I

following in building a stronger team I found that following is support everyone

found that following is support everyone

found that following is support everyone has something good to offer by matching

has something good to offer by matching

has something good to offer by matching people strengths instead of criticizing

people strengths instead of criticizing

people strengths instead of criticizing their weaknesses we’re more effective

their weaknesses we’re more effective

their weaknesses we’re more effective following is trust and respect people

following is trust and respect people

following is trust and respect people liked rowing with me because they could

liked rowing with me because they could

liked rowing with me because they could tell I respected them and I genuinely

tell I respected them and I genuinely

tell I respected them and I genuinely did following its confidence I realized

did following its confidence I realized

did following its confidence I realized that I didn’t always have to prove I was

that I didn’t always have to prove I was

that I didn’t always have to prove I was the best I didn’t always have to speak

the best I didn’t always have to speak

the best I didn’t always have to speak up things didn’t have to be done my way

up things didn’t have to be done my way

up things didn’t have to be done my way I gave up control and individuality

I gave up control and individuality

I gave up control and individuality for the good of the team instead of

for the good of the team instead of

for the good of the team instead of leading I followed instead of waiting

leading I followed instead of waiting

leading I followed instead of waiting for people to match me I matched them

for people to match me I matched them

for people to match me I matched them instead of feeling jealous when I lost I

instead of feeling jealous when I lost I

instead of feeling jealous when I lost I thought about how they did it instead of

thought about how they did it instead of

thought about how they did it instead of talking i listened instead of

talking i listened instead of

talking i listened instead of criticizing I supported instead of being

criticizing I supported instead of being

criticizing I supported instead of being stubborn I adapted I followed this

stubborn I adapted I followed this

stubborn I adapted I followed this subtle change in mindset made all the

subtle change in mindset made all the

subtle change in mindset made all the difference and last June I was named to

difference and last June I was named to

difference and last June I was named to the u.s. Olympic women’s eighth for all

the u.s. Olympic women’s eighth for all

the u.s. Olympic women’s eighth for all of us it was a dream come true so here

of us it was a dream come true so here

of us it was a dream come true so here we are rowing on Lake Carnegie and

we are rowing on Lake Carnegie and

we are rowing on Lake Carnegie and Princeton so what is the eight so there

Princeton so what is the eight so there

Princeton so what is the eight so there actually pay attention nine athletes in

actually pay attention nine athletes in

actually pay attention nine athletes in the eight so one athlete the Coxon sits

the eight so one athlete the Coxon sits

the eight so one athlete the Coxon sits in the back of the boat facing forwards

in the back of the boat facing forwards

in the back of the boat facing forwards to steer and encourage her eight rowers

to steer and encourage her eight rowers

to steer and encourage her eight rowers who are facing backwards generally

who are facing backwards generally

who are facing backwards generally speaking the most technical rowers sit

speaking the most technical rowers sit

speaking the most technical rowers sit in the front of the boat the most

in the front of the boat the most

in the front of the boat the most powerful and strongest sit in the middle

powerful and strongest sit in the middle

powerful and strongest sit in the middle and the most consistent and rhythmic sit

and the most consistent and rhythmic sit

and the most consistent and rhythmic sit in the back the athlete sitting closest

in the back the athlete sitting closest

in the back the athlete sitting closest to the Coxon facing away from everyone

to the Coxon facing away from everyone

to the Coxon facing away from everyone so she sets the rhythm as everyone

so she sets the rhythm as everyone

so she sets the rhythm as everyone watches her back following her is the

watches her back following her is the

watches her back following her is the stroke seat that’s me

stroke seat that’s me

stroke seat that’s me I was the stroke seat after all this

I was the stroke seat after all this

I was the stroke seat after all this time I was learning to follow I was

time I was learning to follow I was

time I was learning to follow I was named to the only seat that can’t see

named to the only seat that can’t see

named to the only seat that can’t see anyone now it was objectively a leader

anyone now it was objectively a leader

anyone now it was objectively a leader but I didn’t act like the leader I’d

but I didn’t act like the leader I’d

but I didn’t act like the leader I’d once strived to be I did the same things

once strived to be I did the same things

once strived to be I did the same things I had as a follower I supported my

I had as a follower I supported my

I had as a follower I supported my teammates strengths I trusted the vision

teammates strengths I trusted the vision

teammates strengths I trusted the vision of the boat and I was confident enough

of the boat and I was confident enough

of the boat and I was confident enough to recognize that I wasn’t the best and

to recognize that I wasn’t the best and

to recognize that I wasn’t the best and that was okay because all that mattered

that was okay because all that mattered

that was okay because all that mattered was that the whole boat was the best and

was that the whole boat was the best and

was that the whole boat was the best and we wanted to be the best in the world

we wanted to be the best in the world

we wanted to be the best in the world thanks to audio recorded by Caitlyn our

thanks to audio recorded by Caitlyn our

thanks to audio recorded by Caitlyn our Coxon let me bring you back to the

Coxon let me bring you back to the

Coxon let me bring you back to the olympic

olympic

olympic in Rio de Janeiro Brazil on August 13th

in Rio de Janeiro Brazil on August 13th

in Rio de Janeiro Brazil on August 13th 2016 at the start we are crazy with

2016 at the start we are crazy with

2016 at the start we are crazy with nerves but Caitlyn calms us by telling

nerves but Caitlyn calms us by telling

nerves but Caitlyn calms us by telling us to focus on each other nothing

us to focus on each other nothing

us to focus on each other nothing matters except for the women in our boat

you see line

you see line vengeance

as we start I am aware that ever in the

as we start I am aware that ever in the boat is watching me following my rhythm

boat is watching me following my rhythm

boat is watching me following my rhythm but I am confident because I have been

but I am confident because I have been

but I am confident because I have been following them for years as we crossed

following them for years as we crossed

following them for years as we crossed the 750 meter mark I sneak a glance

the 750 meter mark I sneak a glance

the 750 meter mark I sneak a glance across and I see we’re in third down a

across and I see we’re in third down a

across and I see we’re in third down a second to Canada I focus back in as

second to Canada I focus back in as

second to Canada I focus back in as Caitlin says yc4 Netherland 750 push for

Caitlin says yc4 Netherland 750 push for

Caitlin says yc4 Netherland 750 push for the girl in front to push for the girl

the girl in front to push for the girl

the girl in front to push for the girl in front to follow someone else takes

in front to follow someone else takes

in front to follow someone else takes courage here we are in the Olympic final

courage here we are in the Olympic final

courage here we are in the Olympic final the biggest race of our lives

the biggest race of our lives

the biggest race of our lives nine individuals unique women each

nine individuals unique women each

nine individuals unique women each giving our maximum all-out effort while

giving our maximum all-out effort while

giving our maximum all-out effort while managing to stay perfectly in sync

managing to stay perfectly in sync

managing to stay perfectly in sync flowing with the rhythm committed to

flowing with the rhythm committed to

flowing with the rhythm committed to each other if anyone were to do

each other if anyone were to do

each other if anyone were to do something differently we would lose

something differently we would lose

something differently we would lose momentum but now we’re crossing the

momentum but now we’re crossing the

momentum but now we’re crossing the halfway point and the wind picks up the

halfway point and the wind picks up the

halfway point and the wind picks up the boat rocks our legs burn vision blurs we

boat rocks our legs burn vision blurs we

boat rocks our legs burn vision blurs we don’t think just move we are one unit

ten years of dominance in this event

ten years of dominance in this event even more than following each other we

even more than following each other we

even more than following each other we follow all the women that have trained

follow all the women that have trained

follow all the women that have trained in the system every woman who has beat

in the system every woman who has beat

in the system every woman who has beat us on a workout or sat in front of us in

us on a workout or sat in front of us in

us on a workout or sat in front of us in a boat or said something inspiring in

a boat or said something inspiring in

a boat or said something inspiring in the locker room we are the women of the

the locker room we are the women of the

the locker room we are the women of the USA past and present we follow each

USA past and present we follow each

USA past and present we follow each other

on the dock I stood next to my role

on the dock I stood next to my role models and idols now as teammates and

models and idols now as teammates and

models and idols now as teammates and friends we did it together which is so

friends we did it together which is so

friends we did it together which is so much better than doing it alone learning

much better than doing it alone learning

much better than doing it alone learning how to follow made me a better rower but

how to follow made me a better rower but

how to follow made me a better rower but I think these values apply to the real

I think these values apply to the real

I think these values apply to the real world who can you learn from observe

world who can you learn from observe

world who can you learn from observe what are your teammates colleagues and

what are your teammates colleagues and

what are your teammates colleagues and peers doing to find success reflect can

peers doing to find success reflect can

peers doing to find success reflect can you do that to adapt are you willing to

you do that to adapt are you willing to

you do that to adapt are you willing to make a change that will benefit the team

make a change that will benefit the team

make a change that will benefit the team are you willing to hand the reins over

are you willing to hand the reins over

are you willing to hand the reins over to someone else and then once you truly

to someone else and then once you truly

to someone else and then once you truly know how to follow you may discover that

know how to follow you may discover that

know how to follow you may discover that you were leading all along thank you

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