the question that I have been posing to everybody that I meet is if you knew the
everybody that I meet is if you knew the
everybody that I meet is if you knew the exact day of your death how would you
exact day of your death how would you
exact day of your death how would you change the blueprint of your life for
change the blueprint of your life for
change the blueprint of your life for most of us in our lives we walk along
most of us in our lives we walk along
most of us in our lives we walk along the path and we never think about a
the path and we never think about a
the path and we never think about a question like this believe me I have I
question like this believe me I have I
question like this believe me I have I wouldn’t have done this either until
wouldn’t have done this either until
wouldn’t have done this either until August the 4th 2016 at 4:23 p.m. my
August the 4th 2016 at 4:23 p.m. my
August the 4th 2016 at 4:23 p.m. my beautiful young son and my only child
beautiful young son and my only child
beautiful young son and my only child died
for most of my life I’ve been a very
for most of my life I’ve been a very ordinary person wasn’t a really deep
ordinary person wasn’t a really deep
ordinary person wasn’t a really deep thinker I came from England and I was
thinker I came from England and I was
thinker I came from England and I was raised in a an environment of probably
raised in a an environment of probably
raised in a an environment of probably not a lot of positivity my mom raised
not a lot of positivity my mom raised
not a lot of positivity my mom raised nine children by herself and I was the
nine children by herself and I was the
nine children by herself and I was the eldest of the third I was never seen for
eldest of the third I was never seen for
eldest of the third I was never seen for most of my life
most of my life
most of my life I was always probably invisible and for
I was always probably invisible and for
I was always probably invisible and for most of my life I would say I was on two
most of my life I would say I was on two
most of my life I would say I was on two paths one path was this path of
paths one path was this path of
paths one path was this path of shuffling emotionally through life I
shuffling emotionally through life I
shuffling emotionally through life I didn’t know who I was
didn’t know who I was
didn’t know who I was the other path was on the path of
the other path was on the path of
the other path was on the path of wanting more materialistically now one
wanting more materialistically now one
wanting more materialistically now one of the things raised it being raised in
of the things raised it being raised in
of the things raised it being raised in poverty and being raised on welfare you
poverty and being raised on welfare you
poverty and being raised on welfare you were told at a very young age that
were told at a very young age that
were told at a very young age that you’re not enough not by someone
you’re not enough not by someone
you’re not enough not by someone verbally telling you that you’re not
verbally telling you that you’re not
verbally telling you that you’re not enough but you the way you are
enough but you the way you are
enough but you the way you are we’re the way you are treated always
we’re the way you are treated always
we’re the way you are treated always saying you go over there in that line if
saying you go over there in that line if
saying you go over there in that line if you’re going to go ahead and get free
you’re going to go ahead and get free
you’re going to go ahead and get free lunches free uniforms and the one thing
lunches free uniforms and the one thing
lunches free uniforms and the one thing in my mind I always said that when I get
in my mind I always said that when I get
in my mind I always said that when I get older I’m going to go ahead and I’m
older I’m going to go ahead and I’m
older I’m going to go ahead and I’m going to make money so I can pass it on
going to make money so I can pass it on
going to make money so I can pass it on to my family because I always thought
to my family because I always thought
to my family because I always thought the bigger the house the bigger the car
the bigger the house the bigger the car
the bigger the house the bigger the car that you had were arrived so I came to
that you had were arrived so I came to
that you had were arrived so I came to America over I think it’s 30 years ago I
America over I think it’s 30 years ago I
America over I think it’s 30 years ago I met my husband in UK and we moved over
met my husband in UK and we moved over
met my husband in UK and we moved over to Africa we got married in Africa and
to Africa we got married in Africa and
to Africa we got married in Africa and we came over here and because I always
we came over here and because I always
we came over here and because I always wanted to go ahead and follow the path
wanted to go ahead and follow the path
wanted to go ahead and follow the path of
materialistic things I just I decided
materialistic things I just I decided with my husband we were going to go
with my husband we were going to go
with my husband we were going to go ahead and open a business to businesses
ahead and open a business to businesses
ahead and open a business to businesses were available at that time
were available at that time
were available at that time one business was the ice cream store can
one business was the ice cream store can
one business was the ice cream store can you imagine the other business was a
you imagine the other business was a
you imagine the other business was a childcare and I’ll have to tell you at
childcare and I’ll have to tell you at
childcare and I’ll have to tell you at the time I did not have any children I
the time I did not have any children I
the time I did not have any children I thought I wasn’t gonna have any children
thought I wasn’t gonna have any children
thought I wasn’t gonna have any children it’d been married almost 17 years
it’d been married almost 17 years
it’d been married almost 17 years without having a child so I thought that
without having a child so I thought that
without having a child so I thought that would be perfect but I have to tell you
would be perfect but I have to tell you
would be perfect but I have to tell you children I love them I have been taking
children I love them I have been taking
children I love them I have been taking care of almost I think it’s over 15,000
care of almost I think it’s over 15,000
care of almost I think it’s over 15,000 children most of my life and it’s been
children most of my life and it’s been
children most of my life and it’s been the biggest privilege that anyone could
the biggest privilege that anyone could
the biggest privilege that anyone could give me and I’m honored every day when a
give me and I’m honored every day when a
give me and I’m honored every day when a mother or a father brings their children
mother or a father brings their children
mother or a father brings their children into my school children connect with you
into my school children connect with you
into my school children connect with you whether you like it or not this one
whether you like it or not this one
whether you like it or not this one little girl the other day well probably
little girl the other day well probably
little girl the other day well probably a couple of months ago they look at you
a couple of months ago they look at you
a couple of months ago they look at you for everything they connect with you
for everything they connect with you
for everything they connect with you just by when you walk in the room this
just by when you walk in the room this
just by when you walk in the room this one little girl came up to me four years
one little girl came up to me four years
one little girl came up to me four years old and said Miss Sharon can I ask you a
old and said Miss Sharon can I ask you a
old and said Miss Sharon can I ask you a question I said sure she said are you
question I said sure she said are you
question I said sure she said are you poor and I said why would you say that
poor and I said why would you say that
poor and I said why would you say that should because you wear that same dress
should because you wear that same dress
should because you wear that same dress over and over again
over and over again
over and over again and I said to her no honey I’m not poor
and I said to her no honey I’m not poor
and I said to her no honey I’m not poor but I’m just lazy because I don’t get my
but I’m just lazy because I don’t get my
but I’m just lazy because I don’t get my clothes out the night before
clothes out the night before
clothes out the night before anyway fast-forwarding fast-forwarding –
anyway fast-forwarding fast-forwarding –
anyway fast-forwarding fast-forwarding – why the question if you knew the exact
why the question if you knew the exact
why the question if you knew the exact day of your your your death how would
day of your your your death how would
day of your your your death how would you change the blueprint of your life in
you change the blueprint of your life in
you change the blueprint of your life in August of 2004 – – excuse me 2016 when
August of 2004 – – excuse me 2016 when
August of 2004 – – excuse me 2016 when my son died I just come I just come back
my son died I just come I just come back
my son died I just come I just come back from a two-week event and I had been
from a two-week event and I had been
from a two-week event and I had been told or I should say I’d been told
told or I should say I’d been told
told or I should say I’d been told people were saying that you know you’re
people were saying that you know you’re
people were saying that you know you’re gonna find your tribe to get your vibe
gonna find your tribe to get your vibe
gonna find your tribe to get your vibe and I was at that age thinking well
and I was at that age thinking well
and I was at that age thinking well maybe I should so I went rolling two
maybe I should so I went rolling two
maybe I should so I went rolling two programs one was called the enlightened
programs one was called the enlightened
programs one was called the enlightened warrior camp the other camp was the
warrior camp the other camp was the
warrior camp the other camp was the ultimate leadership the enlightened
ultimate leadership the enlightened
ultimate leadership the enlightened warrior camp was climbing up 27 foot
warrior camp was climbing up 27 foot
warrior camp was climbing up 27 foot trees jumping off platforms walking
trees jumping off platforms walking
trees jumping off platforms walking across hot coals 32 foot hot coals and
across hot coals 32 foot hot coals and
across hot coals 32 foot hot coals and the whole time I’m there I’m thinking to
the whole time I’m there I’m thinking to
the whole time I’m there I’m thinking to myself hmm where’s my vibe here I I mean
myself hmm where’s my vibe here I I mean
myself hmm where’s my vibe here I I mean I’m standing in line ready to go ahead
I’m standing in line ready to go ahead
I’m standing in line ready to go ahead and walk the hot coals and I’m thinking
and walk the hot coals and I’m thinking
and walk the hot coals and I’m thinking if the person comes and pours those hot
if the person comes and pours those hot
if the person comes and pours those hot coals on there when I’m ready to get up
coals on there when I’m ready to get up
coals on there when I’m ready to get up I’m gonna get really really upset so
I’m gonna get really really upset so
I’m gonna get really really upset so there I was the hot coals came on and
there I was the hot coals came on and
there I was the hot coals came on and I’m thinking I’ve got to say something
I’m thinking I’ve got to say something
I’m thinking I’ve got to say something really amazing when I walk across there
really amazing when I walk across there
really amazing when I walk across there so I’m standing there and I’m thinking
so I’m standing there and I’m thinking
so I’m standing there and I’m thinking okay everybody’s saying all these you
okay everybody’s saying all these you
okay everybody’s saying all these you know wonderful things about how they’re
know wonderful things about how they’re
know wonderful things about how they’re gonna change their life and as I’m
gonna change their life and as I’m
gonna change their life and as I’m running across I’m going please please
running across I’m going please please
running across I’m going please please as my feet are burning I want to stop
as my feet are burning I want to stop
as my feet are burning I want to stop procrastination I want to have the
procrastination I want to have the
procrastination I want to have the tiniest bedroom in in Texas and then I
tiniest bedroom in in Texas and then I
tiniest bedroom in in Texas and then I went like this came back and and then
went like this came back and and then
went like this came back and and then the next camp a week later was about the
the next camp a week later was about the
the next camp a week later was about the ultimate leadership and one of the
ultimate leadership and one of the
ultimate leadership and one of the things that I had to do was a
things that I had to do was a
things that I had to do was a paintballing camp and you had to capture
paintballing camp and you had to capture
paintballing camp and you had to capture the flag it was to do with leadership
the flag it was to do with leadership
the flag it was to do with leadership anyway I was right there
anyway I was right there
anyway I was right there and I’m going as as I’m going down here
and I’m going as as I’m going down here
and I’m going as as I’m going down here and I’m going oh my god it’s hurting me
and I’m going oh my god it’s hurting me
and I’m going oh my god it’s hurting me anyway eventually I captured the flag
anyway eventually I captured the flag
anyway eventually I captured the flag eventually I went ahead and just said to
eventually I went ahead and just said to
eventually I went ahead and just said to my colleagues as because when I was the
my colleagues as because when I was the
my colleagues as because when I was the leader I said I don’t care two hoots
leader I said I don’t care two hoots
leader I said I don’t care two hoots who’s gonna go ahead and be the leader
who’s gonna go ahead and be the leader
who’s gonna go ahead and be the leader because I’m gonna go ahead and stand
because I’m gonna go ahead and stand
because I’m gonna go ahead and stand behind that little rock because I’m
behind that little rock because I’m
behind that little rock because I’m getting bruised everywhere so that night
getting bruised everywhere so that night
getting bruised everywhere so that night we all got together and we all decided
we all got together and we all decided
we all got together and we all decided to talk about our experience I got up
to talk about our experience I got up
to talk about our experience I got up there and I said that I thought it was
there and I said that I thought it was
there and I said that I thought it was the most stupidest thing I don’t care if
the most stupidest thing I don’t care if
the most stupidest thing I don’t care if I’m ever gonna be a leader so and and I
I’m ever gonna be a leader so and and I
I’m ever gonna be a leader so and and I remember at that point thinking to
remember at that point thinking to
remember at that point thinking to myself you know what I’ve got a lot to
myself you know what I’ve got a lot to
myself you know what I’ve got a lot to learn about leadership however that
learn about leadership however that
learn about leadership however that night the next day we were closing this
night the next day we were closing this
night the next day we were closing this closing ceremony there was an event and
closing ceremony there was an event and
closing ceremony there was an event and it was a song by Rod Stewart which was
it was a song by Rod Stewart which was
it was a song by Rod Stewart which was amazing
amazing
amazing Rod Stewart’s song called the first time
Rod Stewart’s song called the first time
Rod Stewart’s song called the first time it’s been said there’s no such thing as
it’s been said there’s no such thing as
it’s been said there’s no such thing as random events in your life did what
random events in your life did what
random events in your life did what little did I know that that random event
little did I know that that random event
little did I know that that random event would be pivotal in my life in changing
would be pivotal in my life in changing
would be pivotal in my life in changing my life because as we’re walking around
my life because as we’re walking around
my life because as we’re walking around the room and just this song and you’re
the room and just this song and you’re
the room and just this song and you’re looking at another human being you’re
looking at another human being you’re
looking at another human being you’re looking at them in their eyes and
looking at them in their eyes and
looking at them in their eyes and there’s a line in that song which says
there’s a line in that song which says
there’s a line in that song which says for the first time as I look at you it’s
for the first time as I look at you it’s
for the first time as I look at you it’s the first time I’ve seen you forever
the first time I’ve seen you forever
the first time I’ve seen you forever fast-forwarding – when I got back home
fast-forwarding – when I got back home
fast-forwarding – when I got back home on the Saturday on the Sunday my son had
on the Saturday on the Sunday my son had
on the Saturday on the Sunday my son had a fever he was taken into the hospital
a fever he was taken into the hospital
a fever he was taken into the hospital with sepsis and four days later he died
with sepsis and four days later he died
with sepsis and four days later he died and I want to tell you something my
and I want to tell you something my
and I want to tell you something my husband and I were I’d never experienced
husband and I were I’d never experienced
husband and I were I’d never experienced that we’ve never been in hospitals and
that we’ve never been in hospitals and
that we’ve never been in hospitals and when the doctor comes in and said
when the doctor comes in and said
when the doctor comes in and said there’s nothing else we can do and you
there’s nothing else we can do and you
there’s nothing else we can do and you have to make that decision to take him
have to make that decision to take him
have to make that decision to take him off his breathing machine we are asking
off his breathing machine we are asking
off his breathing machine we are asking each other what should we do after his
each other what should we do after his
each other what should we do after his death the doctor came in and said to us
you may have some time and I want to
you may have some time and I want to tell you for the very first time in my
tell you for the very first time in my
tell you for the very first time in my life as I was watching my son looking at
life as I was watching my son looking at
life as I was watching my son looking at this six-foot 28-year old young man I
this six-foot 28-year old young man I
this six-foot 28-year old young man I realized I’d never connected to him in
realized I’d never connected to him in
realized I’d never connected to him in the way I connected as he was dying or
the way I connected as he was dying or
the way I connected as he was dying or had he died he had his gifts and his
had he died he had his gifts and his
had he died he had his gifts and his gift that he gave to me was the gift of
gift that he gave to me was the gift of
gift that he gave to me was the gift of connection and for the first time in my
connection and for the first time in my
connection and for the first time in my life I connected with in my son’s death
life I connected with in my son’s death
life I connected with in my son’s death at that time it’s something you cannot
at that time it’s something you cannot
at that time it’s something you cannot describe I remember standing in his
describe I remember standing in his
describe I remember standing in his hospital room and I’m thinking to myself
hospital room and I’m thinking to myself
hospital room and I’m thinking to myself I can either leave this room and fall
I can either leave this room and fall
I can either leave this room and fall into the abyss or I can leave this room
into the abyss or I can leave this room
into the abyss or I can leave this room and continue his legacy what was his
and continue his legacy what was his
and continue his legacy what was his legacy this is another thing I did not
legacy this is another thing I did not
legacy this is another thing I did not have that I didn’t realize when you are
have that I didn’t realize when you are
have that I didn’t realize when you are on that path of wanting more and because
on that path of wanting more and because
on that path of wanting more and because that’s the way I felt life should be and
that’s the way I felt life should be and
that’s the way I felt life should be and I’ve been taking care of everybody
I’ve been taking care of everybody
I’ve been taking care of everybody else’s children I never took the time to
else’s children I never took the time to
else’s children I never took the time to really look at my son and I never took
really look at my son and I never took
really look at my son and I never took the time to tell him that my son was
the time to tell him that my son was
the time to tell him that my son was enough just to where he was one of the
enough just to where he was one of the
enough just to where he was one of the things about death is that you have to
things about death is that you have to
things about death is that you have to go through all their personal belongings
go through all their personal belongings
go through all their personal belongings and I never realized that my son was had
and I never realized that my son was had
and I never realized that my son was had such deep feelings about another human
such deep feelings about another human
such deep feelings about another human being
being
being he was always told but I never would
he was always told but I never would
he was always told but I never would always used to tell me that he was a
always used to tell me that he was a
always used to tell me that he was a very kind young man and I would say
very kind young man and I would say
very kind young man and I would say along my life there’s one thing I’ve
along my life there’s one thing I’ve
along my life there’s one thing I’ve been I’ve always tried to be kind to
been I’ve always tried to be kind to
been I’ve always tried to be kind to another human being I was going through
another human being I was going through
another human being I was going through his journals and on his one of his
his journals and on his one of his
his journals and on his one of his journals it’s he I found it said the
journals it’s he I found it said the
journals it’s he I found it said the first words were I’m 16 years old and
first words were I’m 16 years old and
first words were I’m 16 years old and I’m sitting here in front of the
I’m sitting here in front of the
I’m sitting here in front of the computer at 3 a.m. 3 a.m. in the morning
computer at 3 a.m. 3 a.m. in the morning
computer at 3 a.m. 3 a.m. in the morning and I’m wondering why is it
and I’m wondering why is it
and I’m wondering why is it that some people in this world have so
that some people in this world have so
that some people in this world have so much and other people don’t
much and other people don’t
much and other people don’t I wonder why is it that the person who
I wonder why is it that the person who
I wonder why is it that the person who is an homeless person on the street is
is an homeless person on the street is
is an homeless person on the street is that we walk right past them we don’t
that we walk right past them we don’t
that we walk right past them we don’t look at them we don’t connect to them
look at them we don’t connect to them
look at them we don’t connect to them however if a person drives up in their
however if a person drives up in their
however if a person drives up in their brand-new spanking Ferrari everybody
brand-new spanking Ferrari everybody
brand-new spanking Ferrari everybody stops everybody runs over and say and
stops everybody runs over and say and
stops everybody runs over and say and and we’ll go ahead and talk about how
and we’ll go ahead and talk about how
and we’ll go ahead and talk about how magnificent this Ferrari is and at that
magnificent this Ferrari is and at that
magnificent this Ferrari is and at that point in time my son was already
point in time my son was already
point in time my son was already thinking about the meaning of life and
thinking about the meaning of life and
thinking about the meaning of life and it just brought me to tears and I again
it just brought me to tears and I again
it just brought me to tears and I again just so many thoughts about I didn’t
just so many thoughts about I didn’t
just so many thoughts about I didn’t know what my son’s goals and aspirations
know what my son’s goals and aspirations
know what my son’s goals and aspirations were another thing as I was going
were another thing as I was going
were another thing as I was going through his paperwork I I found his
through his paperwork I I found his
through his paperwork I I found his goals his one-year goal his five-year
goals his one-year goal his five-year
goals his one-year goal his five-year goal his 10-year goal one of the things
goal his 10-year goal one of the things
goal his 10-year goal one of the things going back to his journal the last words
going back to his journal the last words
going back to his journal the last words he said how are we at the end of your
he said how are we at the end of your
he said how are we at the end of your life he said who is going to remember
life he said who is going to remember
life he said who is going to remember you who’s gonna be at your bedside
you who’s gonna be at your bedside
you who’s gonna be at your bedside because at the end of the day is
because at the end of the day is
because at the end of the day is somebody gonna go ahead and say Blake
somebody gonna go ahead and say Blake
somebody gonna go ahead and say Blake hunter wildin beloved owner of a Ferrari
hunter wildin beloved owner of a Ferrari
hunter wildin beloved owner of a Ferrari or is it gonna be Blake Hunter welding
or is it gonna be Blake Hunter welding
or is it gonna be Blake Hunter welding the beloved the beloved son of zone so
the beloved the beloved son of zone so
the beloved the beloved son of zone so so at that point I went my god my
so at that point I went my god my
so at that point I went my god my beautiful son gave me the gift of
beautiful son gave me the gift of
beautiful son gave me the gift of connection and I will tell you right now
connection and I will tell you right now
connection and I will tell you right now I connect with everyone one of the
I connect with everyone one of the
I connect with everyone one of the things that I have realized in life is
things that I have realized in life is
things that I have realized in life is that for everybody who’s sitting here
that for everybody who’s sitting here
that for everybody who’s sitting here you don’t have to go through a personal
you don’t have to go through a personal
you don’t have to go through a personal tragedy in your life to go ahead and
tragedy in your life to go ahead and
tragedy in your life to go ahead and change the blueprint of your life you
change the blueprint of your life you
change the blueprint of your life you need to kind of look with inside you and
need to kind of look with inside you and
need to kind of look with inside you and you need to start thinking about that
you need to start thinking about that
you need to start thinking about that question
my life right now is about connecting to
my life right now is about connecting to others a couple of months after my son
others a couple of months after my son
others a couple of months after my son had died I went into Walmart and as I
had died I went into Walmart and as I
had died I went into Walmart and as I was standing in the checkout counter I
was standing in the checkout counter I
was standing in the checkout counter I saw this magnificent young lady who was
saw this magnificent young lady who was
saw this magnificent young lady who was standing there smiling interacting with
standing there smiling interacting with
standing there smiling interacting with everyone and as I came up to the the
everyone and as I came up to the the
everyone and as I came up to the the checkout I said to her may I say
checkout I said to her may I say
checkout I said to her may I say something to you she said of course I
something to you she said of course I
something to you she said of course I said you have a magnificent smile I said
said you have a magnificent smile I said
said you have a magnificent smile I said but I cannot I’m overcome with how much
but I cannot I’m overcome with how much
but I cannot I’m overcome with how much you are connecting to everybody that
you are connecting to everybody that
you are connecting to everybody that comes in here and she said for most
comes in here and she said for most
comes in here and she said for most people they may think being a cashier at
people they may think being a cashier at
people they may think being a cashier at Walmart day in and day out
Walmart day in and day out
Walmart day in and day out means nothing she’s bought what I think
means nothing she’s bought what I think
means nothing she’s bought what I think of is that I want to have everybody to
of is that I want to have everybody to
of is that I want to have everybody to have an experience I want someone to
have an experience I want someone to
have an experience I want someone to feel good so when they come in to
feel good so when they come in to
feel good so when they come in to Walmart and I’m talking to them I want
Walmart and I’m talking to them I want
Walmart and I’m talking to them I want them to go out to that car and I want
them to go out to that car and I want
them to go out to that car and I want them to remember me the other experience
them to remember me the other experience
them to remember me the other experience I had when I was on another train just
I had when I was on another train just
I had when I was on another train just recently in London and there was a lady
recently in London and there was a lady
recently in London and there was a lady it was in rush hour traffic and she was
it was in rush hour traffic and she was
it was in rush hour traffic and she was reading her book and as she was she was
reading her book and as she was she was
reading her book and as she was she was reading her book I decided to ask her a
reading her book I decided to ask her a
reading her book I decided to ask her a question and I said Oh what is the name
question and I said Oh what is the name
question and I said Oh what is the name of your book and she told me and as we
of your book and she told me and as we
of your book and she told me and as we started talking about different things
started talking about different things
started talking about different things and the journey is about 45 minutes she
and the journey is about 45 minutes she
and the journey is about 45 minutes she said to me can I say something to you
said to me can I say something to you
said to me can I say something to you and I said of course she does you know
and I said of course she does you know
and I said of course she does you know that I’ve been doing this journey for
that I’ve been doing this journey for
that I’ve been doing this journey for three years and no one ever talks to you
three years and no one ever talks to you
three years and no one ever talks to you you have your head down so I said well
you have your head down so I said well
you have your head down so I said well today is different and she thanked me
today is different and she thanked me
today is different and she thanked me so that gift of connection that gift of
so that gift of connection that gift of
so that gift of connection that gift of self connection the gift of my son’s
self connection the gift of my son’s
self connection the gift of my son’s life has also given me the the urgency
life has also given me the the urgency
life has also given me the the urgency about living for all intense purposes my
about living for all intense purposes my
about living for all intense purposes my son who was 28 years old thought he had
son who was 28 years old thought he had
son who was 28 years old thought he had his whole life ahead of him you’re
his whole life ahead of him you’re
his whole life ahead of him you’re looking at me and I’m approaching I’m
looking at me and I’m approaching I’m
looking at me and I’m approaching I’m closer to 70 than I am to 60 so now my
closer to 70 than I am to 60 so now my
closer to 70 than I am to 60 so now my life is all about can
life is all about can
life is all about can neck ting and being connected to another
neck ting and being connected to another
neck ting and being connected to another human being one of the things I decided
human being one of the things I decided
human being one of the things I decided after my son died that I was going to
after my son died that I was going to
after my son died that I was going to start this foundation the beautiful
start this foundation the beautiful
start this foundation the beautiful human way the beautiful human way is
human way the beautiful human way is
human way the beautiful human way is about connecting what’s going on on the
about connecting what’s going on on the
about connecting what’s going on on the inside and manifesting it on the outside
inside and manifesting it on the outside
inside and manifesting it on the outside and I want to tell each and every one of
and I want to tell each and every one of
and I want to tell each and every one of you each and every one of you were here
you each and every one of you were here
you each and every one of you were here today you probably have any you may have
today you probably have any you may have
today you probably have any you may have done but a lot of you probably haven’t
done but a lot of you probably haven’t
done but a lot of you probably haven’t even looked at the person next to you
even looked at the person next to you
even looked at the person next to you looked at the person behind you and
looked at the person behind you and
looked at the person behind you and you’ve not you know we don’t do that and
you’ve not you know we don’t do that and
you’ve not you know we don’t do that and we’re not connecting and the reason why
we’re not connecting and the reason why
we’re not connecting and the reason why I decided to come and do this TED talk
I decided to come and do this TED talk
I decided to come and do this TED talk like is because I felt like time is now
like is because I felt like time is now
like is because I felt like time is now it’s ready – I’m ready to pump up my
it’s ready – I’m ready to pump up my
it’s ready – I’m ready to pump up my volume in my life in every aspect and I
volume in my life in every aspect and I
volume in my life in every aspect and I know that as a result of this I can make
know that as a result of this I can make
know that as a result of this I can make a difference to another human being so I
a difference to another human being so I
a difference to another human being so I may be an ordinary person with an
may be an ordinary person with an
may be an ordinary person with an extraordinary mission to change the
extraordinary mission to change the
extraordinary mission to change the world one person at a time
world one person at a time
world one person at a time one smile at a time one connection at a
one smile at a time one connection at a
one smile at a time one connection at a time because believe me out there there
time because believe me out there there
time because believe me out there there are a lot of people or on that path of
are a lot of people or on that path of
are a lot of people or on that path of collecting things and wanting bigger and
collecting things and wanting bigger and
collecting things and wanting bigger and better but at the end of the day as my
better but at the end of the day as my
better but at the end of the day as my mother used to say Sharon please make
mother used to say Sharon please make
mother used to say Sharon please make sure that people feel better from being
sure that people feel better from being
sure that people feel better from being around you not worse
around you not worse
around you not worse so for each and every one of you here
so for each and every one of you here
so for each and every one of you here today I really would like even if it’s
today I really would like even if it’s
today I really would like even if it’s just one person to take the time and sit
just one person to take the time and sit
just one person to take the time and sit down and really ask yourself if I knew
down and really ask yourself if I knew
down and really ask yourself if I knew the exact day of my death how would I
the exact day of my death how would I
the exact day of my death how would I change the blueprint of my life I will
change the blueprint of my life I will
change the blueprint of my life I will tell you I’m asking everybody I was at
tell you I’m asking everybody I was at
tell you I’m asking everybody I was at the airport recently it came in last
the airport recently it came in last
the airport recently it came in last night my other second favorite person
night my other second favorite person
night my other second favorite person died and
died and
died and had to go to England and I and and I
had to go to England and I and and I
had to go to England and I and and I came in last night and I’m gonna tell
came in last night and I’m gonna tell
came in last night and I’m gonna tell you all so openly and honestly a lot of
you all so openly and honestly a lot of
you all so openly and honestly a lot of the answers are pretty lame and I’m
the answers are pretty lame and I’m
the answers are pretty lame and I’m going to say that not in and I’m not in
going to say that not in and I’m not in
going to say that not in and I’m not in a judgmental manner but what I would say
a judgmental manner but what I would say
a judgmental manner but what I would say is they would say well I don’t know
is they would say well I don’t know
is they would say well I don’t know so I said they said what do you think
so I said they said what do you think
so I said they said what do you think and I said well maybe we need to start
and I said well maybe we need to start
and I said well maybe we need to start connecting to our children maybe we need
connecting to our children maybe we need
connecting to our children maybe we need to start connecting to all the people in
to start connecting to all the people in
to start connecting to all the people in your life that you haven’t connected to
your life that you haven’t connected to
your life that you haven’t connected to one of the things I think is just
one of the things I think is just
one of the things I think is just picking up the phone and asking you your
picking up the phone and asking you your
picking up the phone and asking you your friends being attentive the other gift
friends being attentive the other gift
friends being attentive the other gift that my son gave me was the gift of
that my son gave me was the gift of
that my son gave me was the gift of being able to like I said pump up the
being able to like I said pump up the
being able to like I said pump up the volume in my life each and every one of
volume in my life each and every one of
volume in my life each and every one of us I believe needs a cheerleader or we
us I believe needs a cheerleader or we
us I believe needs a cheerleader or we need those balcony people and my biggest
need those balcony people and my biggest
need those balcony people and my biggest cheerleader was my son my son would
cheerleader was my son my son would
cheerleader was my son my son would always say at the end of the day when I
always say at the end of the day when I
always say at the end of the day when I came in how are you mom always used to
came in how are you mom always used to
came in how are you mom always used to call me hot cuz he said you know and
call me hot cuz he said you know and
call me hot cuz he said you know and also called me vain because he said I
also called me vain because he said I
also called me vain because he said I was always asking how how I looked you
was always asking how how I looked you
was always asking how how I looked you know and one of the things about him but
know and one of the things about him but
know and one of the things about him but I that I really love though is when I
I that I really love though is when I
I that I really love though is when I when I asked him what he thought about
when I asked him what he thought about
when I asked him what he thought about the things I was doing he always said
the things I was doing he always said
the things I was doing he always said mom you can do anything and I feel like
mom you can do anything and I feel like
mom you can do anything and I feel like I now said action what I said to him at
I now said action what I said to him at
I now said action what I said to him at the time as well I said Blake you know
the time as well I said Blake you know
the time as well I said Blake you know I’m thinking about writing a book and he
I’m thinking about writing a book and he
I’m thinking about writing a book and he goes well mom you should do that I never
goes well mom you should do that I never
goes well mom you should do that I never thought about it you say writing a book
thought about it you say writing a book
thought about it you say writing a book again whom I am just an ordinary person
again whom I am just an ordinary person
again whom I am just an ordinary person I take care of children which is an
I take care of children which is an
I take care of children which is an extraordinary gift but I said I’m you
extraordinary gift but I said I’m you
extraordinary gift but I said I’m you know and then after my son’s death and
know and then after my son’s death and
know and then after my son’s death and after I realize there was beautiful
after I realize there was beautiful
after I realize there was beautiful gifts that he had that died with him I
gifts that he had that died with him I
gifts that he had that died with him I realize I’m right this book I’m writing
realize I’m right this book I’m writing
realize I’m right this book I’m writing is called the beautiful human way living
is called the beautiful human way living
is called the beautiful human way living a regret free life as a
a regret free life as a
a regret free life as a parent because it all starts I believe
parent because it all starts I believe
parent because it all starts I believe with our children and that I think those
with our children and that I think those
with our children and that I think those gifts those gifts of being courageous
gifts those gifts of being courageous
gifts those gifts of being courageous those gifts my very first TED talk that
those gifts my very first TED talk that
those gifts my very first TED talk that I’d ever listened to was the one that
I’d ever listened to was the one that
I’d ever listened to was the one that was written that was with brené Brown
was written that was with brené Brown
was written that was with brené Brown who you all know it daring greatly and
who you all know it daring greatly and
who you all know it daring greatly and one of the things she said is courage
one of the things she said is courage
one of the things she said is courage start with showing up and letting
start with showing up and letting
start with showing up and letting ourselves be seen so I’m seeing here
ourselves be seen so I’m seeing here
ourselves be seen so I’m seeing here today I have courage and I will continue
today I have courage and I will continue
today I have courage and I will continue bringing this courage down from my son
bringing this courage down from my son
bringing this courage down from my son and even though I miss my beautiful
and even though I miss my beautiful
and even though I miss my beautiful young man every single day I miss who he
young man every single day I miss who he
young man every single day I miss who he was but you know what I have decided
was but you know what I have decided
was but you know what I have decided that there are so many more people who
that there are so many more people who
that there are so many more people who are alive today who have gifts they
are alive today who have gifts they
are alive today who have gifts they don’t even know about and so in closing
don’t even know about and so in closing
don’t even know about and so in closing I want to say this privilege of me being
I want to say this privilege of me being
I want to say this privilege of me being here today I thank you and I thank you
here today I thank you and I thank you
here today I thank you and I thank you for listening to me and I just want to
for listening to me and I just want to
for listening to me and I just want to say it’s been magnificent thank you as
say it’s been magnificent thank you as
say it’s been magnificent thank you as are you
are you
are you [Applause]
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