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Resilencia en Acción | Montserrat Alberdi | TEDxSanPedroSula


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and

what would happen in you and suddenly

everything you consider safe

stable at this time will stay by

very painful that a process can do

exchange

I have the full conviction to tell you

that you will be fine

sooner or later it will be fine if

you decide so

I know people who have been paralyzed

psychologically spiritually and

even physically by an event

sets of events that marked them

as well as people who have surpassed

problems have brought out the best in them and

they have left walking in one piece

increasingly stronger

the difference between one case and another is the

application of certain concepts the

personal decision to be well

connect spiritually with the source

with the divine source is what gives us the

force and that leads us to take the

actions to support the decision that

we have taken is also our

ability to adapt to changes and

the law of detachment from the law of

detachment is the one that allows us

to advance is the one that allows us to see

the reality of what is happening does not

what we would like there to be

past and that is what allows us

receive all the positive things that are

situation is willing to give by

very hard it seems but how to apply

this our daily life how to apply it

life really there are two ways to

do it or as a level of consciousness

quite high spiritual with the

practice

I have a certain fascination for what

difficult therefore I specialized

in practice this is me when

I was five years old

this photo has followed me all my life and

I kept it as close as I can

because it reminds me that since I was very

little girl had a lot of fighting temper

goes for the things that I believed in and

above all he was very happy and happiness

something natural

I was born in Barcelona , Spain by

my dad’s decision and opportunities

job

we moved to Central America I grew up in

A beautiful country

however being very tiny the

country convulsed politically and

we live a war something I do not want

nobody when I was four years old I went

kidnapped with my mom when you

kidnap you are completely

vulnerable to the circumstances there is no

nothing under your control but what

is under your control is to connect

connect with divine grace to

draw strength and is stable

the war passed and we passed all the

consequences of the rationing war

water light rationing

food rationing

however in my house always

we were happy my dad took the

decision that I wanted a better future

for us and better opportunities

so we moved country again

Starting from scratch is not always easy

when we were able to stabilize ourselves in this

second country

another political upheaval in 24 hours

we had to leave again to start from

zero leave everything we had

built in each place back and without

But we were happy

in my house there were always laughs

in my house they always saw books

there was always painting or gatherings

there was always a poem we spoke three languages

since I was born and the most important

of all the language the sense of humor

we understood each other very well always in

every situation there was a reason to

make fun of us

there came a moment in my life that

I really thought about how much we

we moved war and convulsions that the

we are the problem

and I said that they are going to put pictures of

we at the airport border do not

let them in because every time they come

something happens something convulsive but with the

years I realized that not really

is that we were not us is that being

human has a certain tendency to look

the conflict instead of the

reconciliation because it depends on many

interests before the 17 areas had

lived a war that they had

kidnapped had moved from the country three

times and I was happy

I started again in this beautiful country

that opened the doors for me

I started working from very young

because that’s what I needed more in my

family and everything will be for everyone and the

it was truly spectacular to work and

study I imagine that many of

you touched them too is very heavy

but it is very rewarding

my first job was in January line and

I had to work in the department of

baggage claim in that department

where everyone arrives angry and

where everyone thinks that I was the

physically responsible for having

lost his suitcase and that I was the

Physically responsible for not wanting

find it on the entire planet die

every day I went to love work

who lived a war and now wives

however twenty years later that

experience helped me create one of the

projects that you love more than my project

comprehensive customer service that is

where what we most worry about in

have happy employees to have

happy companies therefore that everything

on the beam it joins at some point to

22 years old my dad dies as they say

out there he was given by Maurice

nothing else for me was very hard

obviously my dad was the captain of the

boat in a strange country my dad we

He taught that when you are an immigrant

you must adapt to the culture of a country

because that’s the way to thank him

to the country that welcomed you

therefore we always adapt to the

culture to music and food what

which as you see has never had problems

to adapt but at that moment the

Captain of this ship was gone and

what happened to me

I had a moment of serenity my dad

died of a heart attack in front of me in

my arms for a second had a

moment of serenity and I approached him and

I said dad thank you for everything

it tells us an intense wonderful life

I promise you that we will be fine and as

I keep my promises

today I am of all these things

they prepared me for what was coming

so it’s still missing more in the year

2007

I was 29 years old and married

stable will see better stages of my life

I had a beautiful daughter nerea

two years old and life is always looking for

way to give us a balm for some

side of sending us sweetness and sweetness

medium through my daughter

at that time I was pregnant with my

second son of jose antonio had

six months of pregnancy when a

call changed my style by talking

phone with a friend was alone in

my house when I fainted convulsed

my friend who is talking to me is

he realized that something had happened called

to my husband and that call made me

arriving on time at the hospital had

preclaimsia the request is a syndrome

that I read from 3 to 7 percent of the

women is a high pressure rise

until convulsing and dying

both mom and baby

illusion is to try to stabilize the

mother in getting the baby out faster

possible and thus receives the life of my son

to jose antonio weighing free and a half and

I had a free and a half child with

75 percent chance of having

brain damage from being blind from being deaf

of being mute and not walking when

pregnant woman what she is waiting for is that

the child takes out each of the virtues

and emotional physical attributes and

mental characteristics of each of the members of

your family and you choose from each one what

you like it better and that’s how your son will be

at that moment I what is waiting

is that my son was alive was all

what I wanted because what happened

I will pass lady and I did not care who was

it seemed like nobody is prepared for a

change like that without embargo

you have to adapt to the change

immediately and do your best and

apply detachment in full not what

what you thought was not what is supposed

that was going to be the child is what it is in

that moment and based on what it is going to

have the clarity to know what to do me

they delivered my son with less than 2

pounds and they told me you’re going to be mom

kangaroo kangaroo mom is to have the child

in your chest for three months 24 hours

because you have the incubator effect

video and listening to your heart

feel your heartbeat and your heat ends

grow out of the uterus but on your page

that is, it grows in your heart

at that moment it was that he and I

we fell in love we spent three months together

three months fighting over all the

closed to life and managed to get out of that

at that time also discover the

importance of what a hug is

I discovered an incredible force that is

the force that moves the world that the

strength of love

at that moment

I thought ‘I have to embrace everyone who

look, I have to share this if

you see someone sad if someone

who loves

If someone in trouble in Brazil

that is giving you life and allow yourself

receive hugs that that synergy of giving

and receive

is the one that makes a balanced way

that made me three months later is my

hand so imagine the little one

that was but was already out of danger

now came the next stage all

the collateral damage that the child

could have

however, we focus and achieve

some way do all the therapies

that he needed any therapy that

you imagine he did it to him

I never cry I never complained and it was a

child very happy to the sun today

he does not know he had a problem now

you will know how to spend on youtube

put on youtube but I did not know and what

that I can if the mother is

happens now

but the truth was the change was not

easy for us to work we do not leave

work we could not stop

to work

we had to take care of my daughter because she is

a girl of three was a girl of three

years and he deserved his attention and I

she said she felt loved we also have

to take the child to therapy and over

of that being spouses children of someone

cousin of someone someone’s brothers and

continue with life now we turn to see

that, like luis gimeno , we did not say so

we focus we adapt to change

we remove the attachment and we move forward

this is my son the day completely

healthy and me as I am the mom polo

handsome

and if it looked like everything I

dreamed that he was going to appear in life

if I

He spent a year because it’s getting thrown me

short recovery periods

I said good one year passed and here

I’m back in a routine exam

where a doctor telling me that I have

an aneurysm arteries planicka and that

I have zero probability of life in the

next months

0 with 30 years old and one child of one year and

a girl of three and a child in therapies

it’s hard

the only option for survival was

a surgery that was 50% of

survive is not ready for a change

yes I arrived at my house we broke everything

I believe that even eleven little dog

They broke all we were chaos in

my house at that time because it is the worst

news that they can tell you are going to

die I had planned to die in

those days and I really hope that

you have not planned that either

they got it

then we really talked about what I decided

grab my car go drive and say

why

and I cried and got angry and complained because

that is also a right that we have

to get angry from crying to claim like this

because everything has happened to me

ie I know that a sense of humor

but it’s already

good after so much anger and so much

pain and so much deep pain and I asked

so many times because while driving

as fast and furious

there came a moment that something told me soul

to adversity calm and the one that is

Attentive listens but when we do

questions we really have to be

willing to listen to the answer and the

answer was because I can I can

I said I can not because I always could

because I will be able to and I have to go back

to build my house and my family is what

I have to do

the action because I decide to be well

when the answer arrived

it seems lie for life always happens

that when the answer arrives what

change the question the thing that we are

in that

over the years I learned that the question

it was no longer because if not for what happened

life I came to my house

I spoke with my family I sat all

and I told them they know that here it has not

killed anyone but nobody die

let’s be fine let’s go to take

I will do that surgery because if not

I do, I have zero percent to see

my children grow up and if I do I have a

50 and 50 I take mine is mine and I’m going to

survive

the surgery had to be done in 48

hours left to be well- eaten children

charged to be in 48 hours about to

leaving at that moment can not be well

you needed pints of blood and how

I know what I said at the beginning

I have a certain fascination for what

difficult there I understood why I wear it

in the blood of my blood is negative

it is not a common blood therefore

you had to look for blood now

let’s add another problem to the situation

for a change

I remember ten years before

there had been an accident in the

catarino rivas in the public hospital

from san pedro and I went to donate and never

I told nobody and I never knew for whom

it was blood

I simply where because I

blood type that at that time

I knew it was so weird and it turns out that

for me surgery came 33 donors

of blood because that wonderful law of

give and receive is perfect

well then there was another affirmation

to my faith and I said everything is coming out

perfect

I’ll be seeing the surgery and going to

follow

the night before surgery in the

early in the morning hopes that my whole family will

I slept and made a video for my mom and

his video for my husband made a video

for each of my children and for me

brother enrique of I told him what

proud that my life had been me

Duty shared with them have made me

very happy and I just asked each

one of them one thing that will take the

decision to be happy

All I wanted to enter

operating theater

I left 10 hours later with a by pass

in the artery and if I do not know how many

organs – the recovery was everything

bad that could have been

the doctors did a job

extraordinary but my body does not

reacted well I had acute pancreatitis

I had surgery all over my trunk

had a tube in the lung has or

had here had in the head for all

the Monday of this week I was

playing with my children after me

I work and this Saturday I was not

dying this way of life fragile

I was 27 days in intensive care

between connected and disconnected and

I remember that a specific night

they said to my family today does not happen no

there is way

please get out of there started

my family little by little 11 say goodbye

when you are in that situation you can not

see then talk you can not move but

are you hearing when my mom approached

my anger was issued because I said

Mom is , you’re killing me is ,

this woman taught me the faith and in which

is saying goodbye what month by and for

I do not remember what I did they are

letting go how they are leaving me and not

I ‘m not going anywhere

I do not want to live I want to live well

That night I stopped feeling pain no longer

I felt the body

you can call it morphine can

call it sedative can call what I went

to heaven you can call him I had a

spiritual contact interpret it as

hotels that in your heart

I interpreted it my way and that

there was no pain there was nothing

there was no worry despite feeling the

water I opened my eyes and they were by the

official spa press in about to have

known I save all this I did not open the

eyes and I started to touch the water and the work

perfect the cold or hot

simply perfect and in colors that

I can not explain to them why they never

I have seen them and a peace said I died

but I’m fine I’m fine all right

something good did because ‘here I am’

good potato

at that time a light approached me

to the eagle presence I wanted to talk

with you in my heart I wanted to talk

with you for days

they only see for the pac

I said lord divine strength

you want to interpret you have given me

a wonderful life I became the best is

dad of the world same big brothers

you made me happy and if you are in heaven

and it’s my time to come

It’s fine because I did not want to be the

pain and the truth I have nothing that

have marrada why he wanted

I told him why not also not

I have nothing to sustain me

but I want my two children in a

difficult hostile world where I need

that remind me why if I die

right now my daughter is not going to remember me anymore

you have to know how much my

son has to know that he is a

warrior since he was born

I have to teach them how to face a

hostile world and tell them that it does not matter

that they are the center difference that

more I hope it is at that moment

that light began to fill me with peace and

for pipe and I got such a joy

big and started to approach then

it began to be so strong that it no longer

I could have but I was very happy

and in that moment I started to feel a lot

pain and a lot of pain and a lot of color and

I opened my eyes and was back already

it’s over I’m back here they had

spent three days in my dream and today has

been three days in a moment of peace

of silence and a lot of love that love that

force that I tell you that comes from the

source is the greatest strength that I have

known and the strongest hurricanes

as the force of love

before coming I made a pact

I promise you something I promise you that if you

you let come back for x amount of

weather

I promise to be useful

my word and I keep my promises

now I think I would have asked for more

time you are seeing as a negotiator and

is a little bit more time but web

I went out and started to recover

Against all odds

I started to recover I started going out to

the week leave intensive care and

I clung to life with all that

can

a month and a half later I left the

hospital gave me disability two

years however was eight months

Work was taking my daughter rent

and is on the therapies with my son

come down because of those and surgeries and

circumstances that with diabetes had a

tumor a nodule in the thyroid

radiations but that take away the

thyroid which gave me a beautiful

extra pounds

and all those surgeries left me

decoration scars all over me

body

however that does not define me

I’m not the result what happened to me

I am the result what I decided to be like this

that I hope that what I learned by

Pain is the garment for conscience and

I ask you to make three promises of life

the first please be brave because

this is a world di for brave two

be useful

I had the honor of being a director

voluntary association was able to

six years I’ve seen organizations like

the Honduran foundation child with

Cancer

the hope line so many projects

what there is to help and you do not know

how to help

I’ve seen people who silently he has

paid the tuition a child or a

Teen

I have seen people who for their life to

give a kiss and a hug to someone who

you need it

that is to be useful and customized

both useful the synergy of love of

give and receive to be extensive was going to be

balanced and finally please pass

what happens

I believe in this same create your own

force that the force of being creator

force divide and pass what happened to him

up I know why you deserve to be

happy

get up because you remember not

always deserves to be happy and most

important the good is to come

after

to

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