thought
I can hear you from the people in the room
here sometimes has to do with suicide
making suicide is another
great taboo atmosphere
they do not like to talk about it
the Netherlands a prosperous country
how health
nobody needs 100 to lead many reasons
to be happy
happiness depends on a lot
factors in this are social capital
and if we can believe all the studies
then we are happier more often
if we have more frequent contact with family
with neighbors with friends and if they
have confidence in the
society netherlands
we belong to one of the richest countries
of the world
any idea which tops
qatar is an idea of the Netherlands
number 13 on the list of all of the
we have kept all the scariest countries
naked
the accident number we later Germany
france england behind us and all
European countries are only
luxembourg switzerland and norway above
US
how happy we are now follows is all
to investigate
we give ourselves a Netherlands
figure 7 comes no when it comes to how
luckily we are according to the world
database of happiness
this figure is even time
the independence hey rod and the
youth
better and more contacts do this figure
self- rising how about it
and 7.9 that also falls under the category
well what about our children
how happy are our children
the Netherlands are mumps according to
researches from UNICEF are ours
children are happiest
for a while in the world exist
number 1
we Dutch are the happiest
europeans on the shop floor
76 percent are satisfied with his or her
work
that looks like one
incredibly beautiful picture
hello everyone I am paulus with and me
have an attempted suicide
survived but let’s do the other
take a good look at the madalina runs
the Netherlands has more than 17 million
people a million people in the Netherlands
used antidepressants
but we still almost give ourselves
and 8 so lucky we are one in 17
there are about 600 people here
hall
that means 35 people here in the
hall
antidepressants and then I
it is not about the many others
addictions such as alcohol and drugs
why do we use antidepressants
if they are so happy there is an old one
strongly rising and this figure is so
text among young adults between 15 and
25 years
but exist number 1 in the ranking
that we are satisfied with our work
he is only one in five in the Netherlands
households have problematic
debt
how many people in the Netherlands
think of suicide per year in this
idea when I say 400,000
if you are shocked then 400,000 people think that
a 25% that we actually convert to
in an attempt
So 100,000 people think at that moment
that they do not want to live anymore are these
figures are expected to be correct
are on piece
on this subject is a very heavy one
taboo
One thing we know for sure is five people
in the Netherlands per day commit suicide
almost every 5 hours a
that means today during this
event two people in the Netherlands
commit suicide
worldwide more than yearly
one million people commit suicide
according to UNICEF our children are
happiest and good luck
suicide cause of death number one
under the age category of 15 to
25 years and unfortunately strongly rise
I often encounter young people
me in practice and I’m making myself there
really worried about bullying
uncertainty
future expectations loneliness and still
many more reasons
With whom young people struggle I keep these
conflicting figures to stay anyway
but hans krikke
are we so happy and unhappy?
at the same time if we compare this
with traffic accidents
also insanely sad then that is
number
around 600 per year government can here
take measures and set goals
because for example to bring back to
500 per year also 500 too many
but what can we do what we can do
what can they do to reduce it
of suicide
and taboos where another incredible
great veil over a close
what can we do in case of suicide?
suicide
you can even do something even the
denomination is difficult
suicide suicide and is allowed if
I can not live with myself anymore like
I experience that myself
and I really had everything
my dear husband 2 children a nice job
in care
a beautiful house a very unhappy in every
meaning of the word
I felt inferior had great
shame and guilt and I had
incredibly much fear that I am not good
often enough would I have sometimes
used more often but I do not really explain
understood
I had everything
my parents were always there
me at cake that is the most important thing
is
always change to take care of
but not of myself I was just
caring for others that I do
myself completely lost
thereby I got even more stress that
I sleep worse and I feel
not worth anything anymore and the shame
only became bigger and bigger
that I can be unhappy
soften with a layer
a glass of many more lockers
until I really air alcoholic
every morning you wake up and you
still accident hours and
with a hangover that is predominantly grinding
thoughts
everyone would be better off without me
what are they supposed to do with my
truth
I can no longer stop the thought
even though I wanted so like what
dating the people to be a little too short
people have wanted to talk to me
but I wanted to finish it all
painful too much shame and too much
feelings of guilt
while I was actually crying out for help
and the isolation
became bigger and bigger
and then the famous drop comes my husband
it was no longer possible
I saw them in there is sadness too
of the kindle and I could really do it myself
no longer
at that time I made a decision
and all I literally and figuratively
the toad I was the way to
station need to ask while I do that
really knew but at that moment it is
light
I can not remember anything anymore
just station
only bike and then suddenly
how are you on those rails?
and then you hear that 3 energy that train
arrive
and of course you all think and
now machinist, I understand the
I did not think about it anymore and I wanted to
stopping was enough
it was completely on that same day
I woke up in the hospital and I knew
then not that my left foot and mine
right leg were amputated
when body was numb
only thing I felt was even more
shame and even more guilt
the attempt failed, you wake up
with an even bigger nightmare and me
still wanted to die
I only had a thought how can I do this
finish up
The period that followed was very heavy so
I can not handle that in words
view
people avoid you checking out of your way
living in a village
it does not really make it any easier
because everyone knows
fear and shame really have me
crippling
this is really not an easy process
been
I naturally lost my job I was
handicap and I have it all myself
caused many people will and can
my never understand that you do something like that
and I understand that and I sincerely hope that
you will never understand me because if you
to understand then you are just as far
if that’s what I do
yet I dare to say that that is one
turning point has been in my life
I came to a rehabilitation center
rightly true or imagine with people who
all were disabled like one
paraplegia or and all sided
paralysis
I did not feel like that for minutes
alone and was also in any case understanding
for each other
and finally I came to a very deep
realize that I have to take care of myself
I am responsible for my own
life
How can I care for another as I
can not even take care of myself
how can I love someone else like me?
not one of the sofa with that me
I have been disabled for eleven years
uneducated see psychotherapist
adam coach for years I have a good
current practice and I can quite quite
mean a lot of people
and then I am happy with it
I also support people bereaved by
suicide or people who make an attempt
have done
the personal situations that I experience
in my practice we realize that
will kill much more
then life makes me think
the shame is ever with people, so we are
want it very difficult to get over the
to talk about it
I have two sons, my beautiful son
Alexander
preferably at the age of 32 itself
yourself from life distanced from
his life or said goodbye to his
life
I did not see that coming
there were problems but they were
I have all the job I have with him
spoken of course
alexandra meant for us to be
family everything and that’s my big one
sadness
I know from experience that things are good
can come and that sometimes in your life
by a difficult process cold but there
also comes a day that you first
be aware that life is unique to me
beautiful son alexander is not going to do this
experience more
but the only thing I want to ask you all
is when people struggle
glass please do not shy away from it
do not shy away from the conversation
do not open the small set either
questions like for example you can do this
only dragons or walk around with
I can not take it anymore
or what is your fear
please do not come with judging or with
opinions
please if you can give meaning
do something to that
I often heard people say to me
you have everything
whether you do not do crazy things
people also said to me
I myself would never do such a thing
I did not want to die at all
I just wanted to hang on shame
my fault carol
from my loneliness I still feel
less than my message remains
to those who get stuck in their lives
stay
please do not just walk around anymore
it can happen to anyone
and I continue to repeat
please do not just walk around anymore
you can certainly take someone against them
want to listen and that you come across
the environment can just that last push
to give
let’s really see each other again
then we are wise with me it is good
past
I want to be without
my dark period I had needed
to become who I am now
happy thanks
[Applause]
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