of the people who are there right away
unpleasant at first sight do not have
still started talking is already there
they are unpleasant or otherwise
there are some people that we like
immediately wonderfully or al
contrary to the people we have
fear for some issues that just
we can not understand these well
other questions are questions that
question the psychology of the mind from
a long time and what they start to
to explain to us that there are neurons
called the mirror neurons that yes
turn on the moment when
we simply observe someone
so we do not do that does not speak but that
is doing an action that in ours
mind recalls the need us there
our brain turns on exactly
how you turn on the other’s brain
person
even there are times when
we position ourselves in the same way in
where we place the person we are
observing what happens this
because it actually happens these are
innate behaviors you have present the
primitive men those for a long time
time ago well try to imagine
being there where there were very few
food resources of places of
protection the caves were few were
small and they were dangerous
the compensation there were many dangers
everywhere food hazards because the
things that were eaten were not always
safe dangers that came from
rest of the world from other human beings
who lived on that same territory
dangers from animals was
necessary for man to safeguard himself
how could he do it as he could
do it by building a thought that could
protect only those belonging
to its reference group at
own close family circle
thus begins to consider the concept
of yin group that is all those people
that are part of our circle
familiar and that we recognize similar
all of us are dangerous to us
because they can take us away
resources because they can come and
kill us because they can arrive e
looting our territory is the
our out group
now the problem is that by dint of living
in the group big trouble happens
try to imagine what it means
proliferate in environments where we are
all always being parts of the same
family
unfortunately born of the opprobriums that is
the genetic mutation is dangerous and
detrimental to the human being and then think about it
food is depleted more and more
because there is no possibility of grafts
new of new contaminations for
human being this predisposition
innate these behaviors are in
realities that seem protective are in
harmful realities
then man must decide in some
way to evolve to be where
we are today to change strategy must
decide by force that here the
innate propensities are actually more
harmful than those that appear to be if
we really want to include we must
starting from this assumption
naturally there is the propensity of
to say that we protect ourselves from
people belonging to another group
from an out group and we try to
protect our close circle
familiar for this is behavior
that we all do
daily in our history
even all those who believe they are good
good beautiful non-racist ready to
welcome everyone else we do it
we all do it all because it’s part of it
of our history
then the first concept that I ask you
about who I ask you to at
pay attention and this does not
we deny we do not deny ours
difficulties do not deny ours
concepts not shops do not deny them
we are aware of our ideas
of what we are
we are aware of our structures
of our history of the place from which
we arrive we do not deny the difference of the
our outlook will tell you an episode
I am a woman who I consider energetic
I do a lot of things alone
I drive in the car above all
around for at least for the piedmont
I make wedge formations part of the
morning at 5 and a half
I drive my car quietly and
calm up to 220 km 230 km
I’m my training actor and
I go back I never asked for my own
husband to accompany me I never have
asked my mother to come with me far
I do this thing by myself
being a good driver one day I have
even thought to challenge mine
husband and I told him you know that if you and me
we would have a race I would win
surely of course after a sound
laughter of him told me before marta
that a woman beats a man on the rail
it takes a lot of time
I remain of my idea he remains
of his idea about two weeks ago
he was in the car with my daughter and I went
in novara a person in front of me has
made a maneuver to what is incorrect
putting me in trouble
the first thing that came to my mind
when I turned to this one
person has been watching you’ll be
definitely a woman but like me that
I think I’m a good woman to drive
these categorisations belong to
all of us because each of us
consider what in your own
family history as the own in
group and that does not put it in
discussion I belong to one
generation in which the mothers of mine
classmates were women who
they worked very little often they worked
at home they were certainly not far away
of its territory
it was normal for me to imagine or feel myself
to say that they were the Pope who were leading with
the car
I grew up with that idea and today even
being a woman driving the car
keeps thinking and saying that i
men drive the car better for
which the first thing we need to do
pay attention we do not deny not
we deny ourselves
we do not deny our conceptions the
second idea on which I want to ask
your attention we extend ours
social circle we compel c ad
enlarge our social circle
let’s make a long list of people
that we know of the people who
we attend the things we are
used to seeing always and people
with which we are used to
compare almost daily
always a bit of years ago always in
I had to go for a car
intervention with school children
superior to arona and I needed it though
of a cultural mediator
of course as I am always that one
that goes by car
I can take Marian and let’s go together
towards arona in the car I know maria
I have been watching her for a while
maria but I see you tired there is some
thing that does not go rimi says but no marta
I did not just sleep much
well this night you’re sure because there
let’s stop having a coffee I do not have
need only five minutes and time
a bit of silence and I put myself
to drive without turning on the car
then I saw her really a little tired and
re-elected marian sure that everything goes
good
marta I can ask you a courtesy but
sure always I always is the one that you
I think it’s always open, always curious, I’m curious
but sure seas also proof is tell me that
what you need I can put the veil
because I know that when I arrive from
guys , I have to remove the veil because
creates a barrier because they do not
they understand the meaning but me this
morning I did not pray as I should
I still do not feel right with mine
conscience and without the veil I feel myself a
naked I need that veil, but sure
Maria but figured but it was enough for me
he asked why in my mind yes
he began to open a concept for which
that veil was not merely overpowering
or a legal obligation or
something that one had to do because
so it was written but it started to
become a personal need
individual exactly like that of
a patient of mine who must every evening
pray to his loved ones who have been missing
including his mother
very early paper in the exact order in
where they died and if she fails
to do it in that order he hears them not
be able to fall asleep calm because not
he greeted him correctly he did not
lent them a piece of thought
nothing changes, only change
the expression but the intimate need
deep is the same sin that I
that of marian as I do not
it belongs
I did not know how to recognize it instead
that of my patient was more to me
comfortable easier to see understand
meeting we enlarge our circle
social we coerce to talk with
like-minded people
different from us living situations
different from us who have experiences
different from us otherwise there
it will happen as I have to admit it is
happened to me in these last periods
to wake up one day sure you sure
an electoral victory and then
mind blowing mind that this
it was not true because my reference
it was always only the environment that voted for it
same thing I wanted
third point we say what we see
let’s say it with honesty let’s say it to everyone
to the people we love
especially because it will also happen to you
you to be at the table with yours
parents with your friends with yours
children and hear those phrases
wonderful that we use all of us
full of absolute ones that are part
of the Italian language
all never always how many homosexuals there
I’m in Milan is full now there are
just them but you do not see how many landings
there are more foreigners in the world
what Italians what happens then
let’s stop we have the courage to say a
Those people
look, maybe it’s not always all right
so maybe the homosexuals are there but
because now we can see him there
we can look have a name and a
surname can go to the bar
quietly not because they are more
it happened to me once mine
grandma told me to
these young people of today who are gods
lazy and irreverent and I have it
looked not those young people of today are
I’m the coletto, you said but that’s enough
marta work is not possible
you come back so late that you are questioning
small are the same are we want
just give me this thing here and ea
all the others decide that it’s not good
So let’s stop and tell the others
people not aggressively but with
courage when we see things that
they do not go that absolute ones do not do
part of an inclusive world because
you know what the truth is
you know who was in the car with me two
weeks ago on that road between
trecate novara there was my daughter at the
as I said, women do not know
drive I’m already delivering a
model in with which she will grow and
if we respect them
future generations we must start to
think that words to attitudes
that we use they reach their own
them and those who would like to deliver to her a
more inclusive world more capable of
look at the ability to be
different without that in this
difference see only the
overwhelm the danger but also the
wealth is true the behaviors of
included in groups are based on
innate propensities but I’m not one
obstacle should only be addressed
directed to make the world that
that today
let us remember that the meeting takes place between
foreigners would otherwise be kinship
thank you
[Applause]
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