I am here for you and I’m here for you because I believe there is greatness in
because I believe there is greatness in
because I believe there is greatness in you and I know you feel it don’t you you
you and I know you feel it don’t you you
you and I know you feel it don’t you you feel that there is more you feel that
feel that there is more you feel that
feel that there is more you feel that there is there is something to do and
there is there is something to do and
there is there is something to do and there is and so I am here to teach you
there is and so I am here to teach you
there is and so I am here to teach you how to push that greatness to the
how to push that greatness to the
how to push that greatness to the surface how to use one simple tool one
surface how to use one simple tool one
surface how to use one simple tool one simple tool to find the clarity to
simple tool to find the clarity to
simple tool to find the clarity to listen to your inner wisdom and the
listen to your inner wisdom and the
listen to your inner wisdom and the courage to take action and the
courage to take action and the
courage to take action and the confidence to keep going to keep going
confidence to keep going to keep going
confidence to keep going to keep going despite what goes on because what I’m
despite what goes on because what I’m
despite what goes on because what I’m about to show you I’m gonna prove it to
about to show you I’m gonna prove it to
about to show you I’m gonna prove it to you is that you can change anything in
you is that you can change anything in
you is that you can change anything in five seconds and that fact will change
five seconds and that fact will change
five seconds and that fact will change everything about your life everything
everything about your life everything
everything about your life everything now this what I’m about to talk about it
now this what I’m about to talk about it
now this what I’m about to talk about it this was my secret weapon for a long
this was my secret weapon for a long
this was my secret weapon for a long time and I never intended on sharing it
time and I never intended on sharing it
time and I never intended on sharing it with anybody because it sounds kind of
with anybody because it sounds kind of
with anybody because it sounds kind of stupid when you talk about it hey you
stupid when you talk about it hey you
stupid when you talk about it hey you can change your legs for five seconds
can change your legs for five seconds
can change your legs for five seconds you know just count the fudge yeah right
you know just count the fudge yeah right
you know just count the fudge yeah right Mel uh-huh you’re trying to sell a book
Mel uh-huh you’re trying to sell a book
Mel uh-huh you’re trying to sell a book I know seriously I don’t want you to
I know seriously I don’t want you to
I know seriously I don’t want you to dismiss the power in the ideas that I’m
dismiss the power in the ideas that I’m
dismiss the power in the ideas that I’m about to share with you because they’re
about to share with you because they’re
about to share with you because they’re so simple and what’s funny is I never
so simple and what’s funny is I never
so simple and what’s funny is I never intended on talking about this I never
intended on talking about this I never
intended on talking about this I never intended on talking about it because I
intended on talking about it because I
intended on talking about it because I discovered it by mistake seriously about
discovered it by mistake seriously about
discovered it by mistake seriously about eight years ago my life looked totally
eight years ago my life looked totally
eight years ago my life looked totally different than it does today I was
different than it does today I was
different than it does today I was unemployed
unemployed
unemployed my husband had a small business that was
my husband had a small business that was
my husband had a small business that was that was failing and failing miserably
that was failing and failing miserably
that was failing and failing miserably and it took our home equity line and the
and it took our home equity line and the
and it took our home equity line and the kids college savings and our 401k plans
kids college savings and our 401k plans
kids college savings and our 401k plans right down the drain with it and we have
right down the drain with it and we have
right down the drain with it and we have the liens hitting the house we of course
the liens hitting the house we of course
the liens hitting the house we of course were fighting like crazy because you
were fighting like crazy because you
were fighting like crazy because you know when life blows what do you do you
know when life blows what do you do you
know when life blows what do you do you point the finger you say oh it’s your
point the finger you say oh it’s your
point the finger you say oh it’s your fault though it’s my boss’s fault it’s
fault though it’s my boss’s fault it’s
fault though it’s my boss’s fault it’s the economy’s fault
the economy’s fault
the economy’s fault oh this isn’t fair you know what’s
oh this isn’t fair you know what’s
oh this isn’t fair you know what’s interesting about the way that human
interesting about the way that human
interesting about the way that human beings are designed have you ever
beings are designed have you ever
beings are designed have you ever noticed that when you blame somebody
noticed that when you blame somebody
noticed that when you blame somebody else and you point the finger there’s
else and you point the finger there’s
else and you point the finger there’s three fingers pointing right back at you
three fingers pointing right back at you
three fingers pointing right back at you it’s a big reminder that the power is in
it’s a big reminder that the power is in
it’s a big reminder that the power is in you
you
you but waking up every morning unemployed I
but waking up every morning unemployed I
but waking up every morning unemployed I certainly didn’t feel powerful you know
certainly didn’t feel powerful you know
certainly didn’t feel powerful you know what I needed I needed confidence that
what I needed I needed confidence that
what I needed I needed confidence that was tapped out
was tapped out
was tapped out I needed courage move nope didn’t have
I needed courage move nope didn’t have
I needed courage move nope didn’t have any of that when the alarm rang this is
any of that when the alarm rang this is
any of that when the alarm rang this is what I felt like doing with the clock
what I felt like doing with the clock
what I felt like doing with the clock have you ever had one of those mornings
have you ever had one of those mornings
have you ever had one of those mornings right where you’re like not today no not
right where you’re like not today no not
right where you’re like not today no not today I do not want to get out of bed
today I do not want to get out of bed
today I do not want to get out of bed today I would lie in bed the alarm would
today I would lie in bed the alarm would
today I would lie in bed the alarm would go off and I would start thinking about
go off and I would start thinking about
go off and I would start thinking about the day ahead and I would start feeling
the day ahead and I would start feeling
the day ahead and I would start feeling overwhelmed and I would feel this sense
overwhelmed and I would feel this sense
overwhelmed and I would feel this sense of dread and I would feel like such a
of dread and I would feel like such a
of dread and I would feel like such a failure you know I remember this period
failure you know I remember this period
failure you know I remember this period of our life and I remember having those
of our life and I remember having those
of our life and I remember having those moments where I’d be at the grocery
moments where I’d be at the grocery
moments where I’d be at the grocery store and the items would be scanning
store and the items would be scanning
store and the items would be scanning and I would feel the fear rising up
and I would feel the fear rising up
and I would feel the fear rising up because I didn’t know if the check card
because I didn’t know if the check card
because I didn’t know if the check card was going to go through because I didn’t
was going to go through because I didn’t
was going to go through because I didn’t have the courage to look at the bank
have the courage to look at the bank
have the courage to look at the bank account and so as I would lie in bed in
account and so as I would lie in bed in
account and so as I would lie in bed in the morning and I would know by the way
the morning and I would know by the way
the morning and I would know by the way my inner wisdom was there and your inner
my inner wisdom was there and your inner
my inner wisdom was there and your inner wisdom is always there it’s always there
wisdom is always there it’s always there
wisdom is always there it’s always there kind of nudging you pushing you begging
kind of nudging you pushing you begging
kind of nudging you pushing you begging you to go forward my heroism was like
you to go forward my heroism was like
you to go forward my heroism was like mal you need to get up and I’d be like
mal you need to get up and I’d be like
mal you need to get up and I’d be like yeah I don’t feel like it I developed
yeah I don’t feel like it I developed
yeah I don’t feel like it I developed this habit of hitting the snooze button
this habit of hitting the snooze button
this habit of hitting the snooze button over and over and over again every
over and over and over again every
over and over and over again every morning I became one of those those
morning I became one of those those
morning I became one of those those parents where the kids were always late
parents where the kids were always late
parents where the kids were always late and and you know here’s the thing about
and and you know here’s the thing about
and and you know here’s the thing about life we don’t we don’t do this we don’t
life we don’t we don’t do this we don’t
life we don’t we don’t do this we don’t ever kind of go to wake up in the
ever kind of go to wake up in the
ever kind of go to wake up in the morning go go you know what I’m gonna do
morning go go you know what I’m gonna do
morning go go you know what I’m gonna do today today today I’m going to screw up
today today today I’m going to screw up
today today today I’m going to screw up my life today I’m gonna hit the snooze
my life today I’m gonna hit the snooze
my life today I’m gonna hit the snooze button four times I’m gonna blow off
button four times I’m gonna blow off
button four times I’m gonna blow off exercise I’m gonna eat that whole tray
exercise I’m gonna eat that whole tray
exercise I’m gonna eat that whole tray of doughnuts then I’m gonna go to work
of doughnuts then I’m gonna go to work
of doughnuts then I’m gonna go to work and snap at people I’m gonna blow off
and snap at people I’m gonna blow off
and snap at people I’m gonna blow off working at my business I’m gonna come
working at my business I’m gonna come
working at my business I’m gonna come home and be mean to my spouse and
home and be mean to my spouse and
home and be mean to my spouse and patient with my kids then I’m gonna
patient with my kids then I’m gonna
patient with my kids then I’m gonna drink a ton it’s gonna be amazing
drink a ton it’s gonna be amazing
drink a ton it’s gonna be amazing right you know we don’t do that what
right you know we don’t do that what
right you know we don’t do that what happens is when you’re not paying
happens is when you’re not paying
happens is when you’re not paying attention when you’re not really focused
attention when you’re not really focused
attention when you’re not really focused on what you want when you’re not clear
on what you want when you’re not clear
on what you want when you’re not clear you make these small decisions all day
you make these small decisions all day
you make these small decisions all day long that slowly take you off course
long that slowly take you off course
long that slowly take you off course decisions based and self-doubt decisions
decisions based and self-doubt decisions
decisions based and self-doubt decisions based in fear decisions based in in
based in fear decisions based in in
based in fear decisions based in in panic decisions based in resignation and
panic decisions based in resignation and
panic decisions based in resignation and suddenly you wake up one morning like I
suddenly you wake up one morning like I
suddenly you wake up one morning like I didn’t you’re like wait a minute wait
didn’t you’re like wait a minute wait
didn’t you’re like wait a minute wait how did I get over there and more
how did I get over there and more
how did I get over there and more importantly how do I get over here
importantly how do I get over here
importantly how do I get over here you know we all know we need to change
you know we all know we need to change
you know we all know we need to change but change is hard it’s hard when you
but change is hard it’s hard when you
but change is hard it’s hard when you don’t feel confident it’s hard when you
don’t feel confident it’s hard when you
don’t feel confident it’s hard when you don’t feel certain and that’s exactly
don’t feel certain and that’s exactly
don’t feel certain and that’s exactly how I felt and I struggled and I
how I felt and I struggled and I
how I felt and I struggled and I struggled and then one night it’s a
struggled and then one night it’s a
struggled and then one night it’s a really stupid story I saw this rocket
really stupid story I saw this rocket
really stupid story I saw this rocket launching and you know we’re gonna talk
launching and you know we’re gonna talk
launching and you know we’re gonna talk about this word courage now when you
about this word courage now when you
about this word courage now when you hear the word courage you think about
hear the word courage you think about
hear the word courage you think about the big stuff don’t you you think about
the big stuff don’t you you think about
the big stuff don’t you you think about a life-or-death moment you think about
a life-or-death moment you think about
a life-or-death moment you think about your heroes I want you to consider that
your heroes I want you to consider that
your heroes I want you to consider that courage is what you need every day that
courage is what you need every day that
courage is what you need every day that there are conversations you have to have
there are conversations you have to have
there are conversations you have to have that require courage
for me I need a courage to get out of
for me I need a courage to get out of bed because our problems just felt so
bed because our problems just felt so
bed because our problems just felt so big so I struggled and struggled because
big so I struggled and struggled because
big so I struggled and struggled because I knew what to do but I couldn’t make
I knew what to do but I couldn’t make
I knew what to do but I couldn’t make myself do it if you ever felt that way
myself do it if you ever felt that way
myself do it if you ever felt that way like so frustrated with yourself you
like so frustrated with yourself you
like so frustrated with yourself you knew you need to exercise but you don’t
knew you need to exercise but you don’t
knew you need to exercise but you don’t do it you know you need to drink less
do it you know you need to drink less
do it you know you need to drink less but you don’t do it you know you need to
but you don’t do it you know you need to
but you don’t do it you know you need to stop procrastinating but you don’t do it
stop procrastinating but you don’t do it
stop procrastinating but you don’t do it you know you need to have the tough
you know you need to have the tough
you know you need to have the tough conversations but you don’t do it you’re
conversations but you don’t do it you’re
conversations but you don’t do it you’re stuck that’s how I was and then one
stuck that’s how I was and then one
stuck that’s how I was and then one night I see this rocket launch and I say
night I see this rocket launch and I say
night I see this rocket launch and I say oh oh my gosh that that’s it that’s it
oh oh my gosh that that’s it that’s it
oh oh my gosh that that’s it that’s it I’m gonna launch myself out of bed like
I’m gonna launch myself out of bed like
I’m gonna launch myself out of bed like a rocket ship tomorrow morning it is
a rocket ship tomorrow morning it is
a rocket ship tomorrow morning it is gonna be amazing I’m gonna move so fast
gonna be amazing I’m gonna move so fast
gonna be amazing I’m gonna move so fast that my mind cannot talk me out of this
that my mind cannot talk me out of this
that my mind cannot talk me out of this now it could have been the four
now it could have been the four
now it could have been the four manhattan’s talking you know that gave
manhattan’s talking you know that gave
manhattan’s talking you know that gave me that idea because I had a drinking
me that idea because I had a drinking
me that idea because I had a drinking problem that’s one of the things you do
problem that’s one of the things you do
problem that’s one of the things you do you get emotional you reach for the
you get emotional you reach for the
you get emotional you reach for the booze well for whatever reason the very
booze well for whatever reason the very
booze well for whatever reason the very next morning I woke up I still had all
next morning I woke up I still had all
next morning I woke up I still had all the same problems liens on the house
the same problems liens on the house
the same problems liens on the house talking divorce with my husband of now
talking divorce with my husband of now
talking divorce with my husband of now 20 years just felt like such a loser I
20 years just felt like such a loser I
20 years just felt like such a loser I did not feel like getting up I will
did not feel like getting up I will
did not feel like getting up I will never forget this morning it was a cold
never forget this morning it was a cold
never forget this morning it was a cold dark winter morning in February outside
dark winter morning in February outside
dark winter morning in February outside of Boston Massachusetts and I just did
of Boston Massachusetts and I just did
of Boston Massachusetts and I just did not feel like doing anything different
not feel like doing anything different
not feel like doing anything different but I did one thing one thing that
but I did one thing one thing that
but I did one thing one thing that changed everything I started counting
changed everything I started counting
changed everything I started counting backwards five four three two one and
backwards five four three two one and
backwards five four three two one and then all of a sudden I stood up and I
then all of a sudden I stood up and I
then all of a sudden I stood up and I was like what the hell just happened and
was like what the hell just happened and
was like what the hell just happened and the next morning five four three two one
the next morning five four three two one
the next morning five four three two one I did it again and it worked five four
I did it again and it worked five four
I did it again and it worked five four three two one I did it again and it
three two one I did it again and it
three two one I did it again and it worked I couldn’t believe it and now
worked I couldn’t believe it and now
worked I couldn’t believe it and now that I’m almost 50 I still use it at
that I’m almost 50 I still use it at
that I’m almost 50 I still use it at 2:30 in the morning when I wake up and I
2:30 in the morning when I wake up and I
2:30 in the morning when I wake up and I have to go the bathroom it you know like
have to go the bathroom it you know like
have to go the bathroom it you know like instead of like you know trying to go
instead of like you know trying to go
instead of like you know trying to go back to bed five four three two one and
back to bed five four three two one and
back to bed five four three two one and eat it here’s what I noticed I noticed
eat it here’s what I noticed I noticed
eat it here’s what I noticed I noticed something that when I say this to you
something that when I say this to you
something that when I say this to you you’re gonna be like oh my god she’s
you’re gonna be like oh my god she’s
you’re gonna be like oh my god she’s right there is a five-second window
right there is a five-second window
right there is a five-second window between the moment that your inner
between the moment that your inner
between the moment that your inner wisdom tells you you need to speak up
wisdom tells you you need to speak up
wisdom tells you you need to speak up you need to get to the gym you need to
you need to get to the gym you need to
you need to get to the gym you need to say something you need to get to work
say something you need to get to work
say something you need to get to work and your mind killing it
and your mind killing it
and your mind killing it and if you start counting backwards five
and if you start counting backwards five
and if you start counting backwards five four three two one you can close the gap
four three two one you can close the gap
four three two one you can close the gap between the greatness and you that’s
between the greatness and you that’s
between the greatness and you that’s dying to come to the surface and the
dying to come to the surface and the
dying to come to the surface and the excuses that keep snuffing it down now I
excuses that keep snuffing it down now I
excuses that keep snuffing it down now I never intended to tell anybody about
never intended to tell anybody about
never intended to tell anybody about this because I started use this to get
this because I started use this to get
this because I started use this to get up on time it started use it to
up on time it started use it to
up on time it started use it to self-monitor so I didn’t snap the Kris
self-monitor so I didn’t snap the Kris
self-monitor so I didn’t snap the Kris so I stopped drinking so much I started
so I stopped drinking so much I started
so I stopped drinking so much I started to use it to go on job interviews and it
to use it to go on job interviews and it
to use it to go on job interviews and it literally changed everything because I
literally changed everything because I
literally changed everything because I started to change I stopped being the
started to change I stopped being the
started to change I stopped being the kind of person that would think about
kind of person that would think about
kind of person that would think about everything and I five four three two one
everything and I five four three two one
everything and I five four three two one became the kind of person that started
became the kind of person that started
became the kind of person that started acting and every time I took action I
acting and every time I took action I
acting and every time I took action I started to build confidence now I gave
started to build confidence now I gave
started to build confidence now I gave this talk a couple years ago about how
this talk a couple years ago about how
this talk a couple years ago about how it changed my career so many times and
it changed my career so many times and
it changed my career so many times and again I wasn’t gonna talk about the
again I wasn’t gonna talk about the
again I wasn’t gonna talk about the five-second rule cuz it sounds stupid
five-second rule cuz it sounds stupid
five-second rule cuz it sounds stupid and in full disclosure I didn’t know why
and in full disclosure I didn’t know why
and in full disclosure I didn’t know why it worked and plus I didn’t want you to
it worked and plus I didn’t want you to
it worked and plus I didn’t want you to have it this was working for me so why
have it this was working for me so why
have it this was working for me so why would I want you to have it right so at
would I want you to have it right so at
would I want you to have it right so at the end of this talk this was the spurge
the end of this talk this was the spurge
the end of this talk this was the spurge first speech I had ever given so if you
first speech I had ever given so if you
first speech I had ever given so if you ever want to see somebody have a 21
ever want to see somebody have a 21
ever want to see somebody have a 21 minute long panic attack this is what it
minute long panic attack this is what it
minute long panic attack this is what it looks like I get off stage and I’m like
looks like I get off stage and I’m like
looks like I get off stage and I’m like I’m never doing that again
I’m never doing that again
I’m never doing that again and somebody puts the talk online and
and somebody puts the talk online and
and somebody puts the talk online and something crazy started to happen people
something crazy started to happen people
something crazy started to happen people from around the world started to write
from around the world started to write
from around the world started to write and they were all writing about this
and they were all writing about this
and they were all writing about this stupid simple very powerful five-second
stupid simple very powerful five-second
stupid simple very powerful five-second rule they were using it to find the
rule they were using it to find the
rule they were using it to find the courage to reach out to people they were
courage to reach out to people they were
courage to reach out to people they were using it to become number one in sales
using it to become number one in sales
using it to become number one in sales they were sharing it with their teams we
they were sharing it with their teams we
they were sharing it with their teams we know of 13 people that have stopped
know of 13 people that have stopped
know of 13 people that have stopped themselves from committing suicide using
themselves from committing suicide using
themselves from committing suicide using this rule this gentleman was a veteran
this rule this gentleman was a veteran
this rule this gentleman was a veteran and he boarded the ferry with the
and he boarded the ferry with the
and he boarded the ferry with the intention of jumping over he gets to the
intention of jumping over he gets to the
intention of jumping over he gets to the railing and his inner wisdom kicks in
railing and his inner wisdom kicks in
railing and his inner wisdom kicks in I’m sure how low you get I don’t care
I’m sure how low you get I don’t care
I’m sure how low you get I don’t care how high you get your inner wisdom is
how high you get your inner wisdom is
how high you get your inner wisdom is always there and when you hear it it is
always there and when you hear it it is
always there and when you hear it it is magic when you listen to it it changes
magic when you listen to it it changes
magic when you listen to it it changes everything is inner wisdom said this is
everything is inner wisdom said this is
everything is inner wisdom said this is not the answer he went 5 4 3 2 1 and he
not the answer he went 5 4 3 2 1 and he
not the answer he went 5 4 3 2 1 and he turned and he walked away we hear from
turned and he walked away we hear from
turned and he walked away we hear from people all over the world people that
people all over the world people that
people all over the world people that are using it to be more productive to
are using it to be more productive to
are using it to be more productive to quit smoking after 20
quit smoking after 20
quit smoking after 20 three years license plates tattoos for
three years license plates tattoos for
three years license plates tattoos for crying out loud look when people start
crying out loud look when people start
crying out loud look when people start tattooing this thing on their body like
tattooing this thing on their body like
tattooing this thing on their body like I started to feel a moral obligation to
I started to feel a moral obligation to
I started to feel a moral obligation to figure out why it worked so I’m gonna
figure out why it worked so I’m gonna
figure out why it worked so I’m gonna tell you some of the science behind this
tell you some of the science behind this
tell you some of the science behind this I’m gonna explain how you can use it and
I’m gonna explain how you can use it and
I’m gonna explain how you can use it and then I’m going to show you how five
then I’m going to show you how five
then I’m going to show you how five second decisions change everything so we
second decisions change everything so we
second decisions change everything so we all hear this just do it right most
all hear this just do it right most
all hear this just do it right most famous tagline in the world what’s the
famous tagline in the world what’s the
famous tagline in the world what’s the difference between just do it and the
difference between just do it and the
difference between just do it and the five-second rule this is a concept
five-second rule this is a concept
five-second rule this is a concept concepts make you go upstairs I don’t
concepts make you go upstairs I don’t
concepts make you go upstairs I don’t want you upstairs
want you upstairs
want you upstairs this is behind enemy lines you’re not
this is behind enemy lines you’re not
this is behind enemy lines you’re not gonna grow your business grow yourself
gonna grow your business grow yourself
gonna grow your business grow yourself by thinking you got to take action right
by thinking you got to take action right
by thinking you got to take action right before you’re about to do anything even
before you’re about to do anything even
before you’re about to do anything even if you’re an Olympic athlete what do you
if you’re an Olympic athlete what do you
if you’re an Olympic athlete what do you do you stop and you think and that’s the
do you stop and you think and that’s the
do you stop and you think and that’s the kiss of death now stop and think if
kiss of death now stop and think if
kiss of death now stop and think if you’re gonna get tattoo or sign a
you’re gonna get tattoo or sign a
you’re gonna get tattoo or sign a contract but on the little stuff do not
contract but on the little stuff do not
contract but on the little stuff do not stop and think because what happens when
stop and think because what happens when
stop and think because what happens when your feelings of failure kick in and
your feelings of failure kick in and
your feelings of failure kick in and they will you start to think and that
they will you start to think and that
they will you start to think and that leads you to doubting yourself doesn’t
leads you to doubting yourself doesn’t
leads you to doubting yourself doesn’t it and the same thing happens when you
it and the same thing happens when you
it and the same thing happens when you feel nervous same thing happens when you
feel nervous same thing happens when you
feel nervous same thing happens when you feel unsure the same thing happens when
feel unsure the same thing happens when
feel unsure the same thing happens when you feel like you’re a fake the same
you feel like you’re a fake the same
you feel like you’re a fake the same thing happens when you feel overwhelmed
thing happens when you feel overwhelmed
thing happens when you feel overwhelmed look at all these feelings they’re
look at all these feelings they’re
look at all these feelings they’re triggering you to think that’s the last
triggering you to think that’s the last
triggering you to think that’s the last thing you should do this is what we call
thing you should do this is what we call
thing you should do this is what we call a habit loop any pattern that you repeat
a habit loop any pattern that you repeat
a habit loop any pattern that you repeat becomes a habit something you do without
becomes a habit something you do without
becomes a habit something you do without even thinking so how do you break it you
even thinking so how do you break it you
even thinking so how do you break it you train yourself to take action you train
train yourself to take action you train
train yourself to take action you train yourself at the moment you feel nervous
yourself at the moment you feel nervous
yourself at the moment you feel nervous you move why because when you take
you move why because when you take
you move why because when you take action you actually build confidence
action you actually build confidence
action you actually build confidence when you feel unsure and you move
when you feel unsure and you move
when you feel unsure and you move forward anyway 5 4 3 2 1 you are
forward anyway 5 4 3 2 1 you are
forward anyway 5 4 3 2 1 you are building the skill of confidence you are
building the skill of confidence you are
building the skill of confidence you are bringing that greatness to the surface
bringing that greatness to the surface
bringing that greatness to the surface now look south that’s normal feeling
now look south that’s normal feeling
now look south that’s normal feeling overwhelmed is normal the people we
overwhelmed is normal the people we
overwhelmed is normal the people we admire the most felt the same way you
admire the most felt the same way you
admire the most felt the same way you ever heard the story of Michelangelo so
ever heard the story of Michelangelo so
ever heard the story of Michelangelo so in the late and early 1500s he had never
in the late and early 1500s he had never
in the late and early 1500s he had never painted a thing the Pope goes over to
painted a thing the Pope goes over to
painted a thing the Pope goes over to see him and in his studio as he’s
see him and in his studio as he’s
see him and in his studio as he’s carving a statue in the Pope Julius the
carving a statue in the Pope Julius the
carving a statue in the Pope Julius the second turns to Michelangelo and says
second turns to Michelangelo and says
second turns to Michelangelo and says hey Michelangelo I got some frescoes I
hey Michelangelo I got some frescoes I
hey Michelangelo I got some frescoes I want you to paint in Vatican City
want you to paint in Vatican City
want you to paint in Vatican City you know what Michelangelo felt totally
you know what Michelangelo felt totally
you know what Michelangelo felt totally unsure do you know what he did he left
unsure do you know what he did he left
unsure do you know what he did he left town
town
town he hid from the Pope for two years
he hid from the Pope for two years
he hid from the Pope for two years that’s how unsure he was you know what
that’s how unsure he was you know what
that’s how unsure he was you know what the Pope that he stalked him for two
the Pope that he stalked him for two
the Pope that he stalked him for two years
years
years pushed him until he actually painted
pushed him until he actually painted
pushed him until he actually painted those frescoes how about a more recent
those frescoes how about a more recent
those frescoes how about a more recent one how many of you heard of Hamilton
one how many of you heard of Hamilton
one how many of you heard of Hamilton yeah
yeah
yeah Hamilton hit musical guess what three
Hamilton hit musical guess what three
Hamilton hit musical guess what three and a half years ago it wasn’t even
and a half years ago it wasn’t even
and a half years ago it wasn’t even finished
finished
finished lin-manuel the guy that wrote it was
lin-manuel the guy that wrote it was
lin-manuel the guy that wrote it was busy messaging with his wife Vanessa
busy messaging with his wife Vanessa
busy messaging with his wife Vanessa what was he saying he was saying
what was he saying he was saying
what was he saying he was saying something you and I can relate to when
something you and I can relate to when
something you and I can relate to when it doesn’t happen as fast as I’d like it
it doesn’t happen as fast as I’d like it
it doesn’t happen as fast as I’d like it to I have a hard time finding the
to I have a hard time finding the
to I have a hard time finding the balance between not beating myself up
balance between not beating myself up
balance between not beating myself up and not wasting time can’t you relate to
and not wasting time can’t you relate to
and not wasting time can’t you relate to that she’s like you’re not unique dude
that she’s like you’re not unique dude
that she’s like you’re not unique dude we all struggle with this we all all all
we all struggle with this we all all all
we all struggle with this we all all all need the encouragement and the push you
need the encouragement and the push you
need the encouragement and the push you know in this MIT this photo makes me sad
know in this MIT this photo makes me sad
know in this MIT this photo makes me sad because when I think about this kid
because when I think about this kid
because when I think about this kid right and standing there the longer he
right and standing there the longer he
right and standing there the longer he looks the more he thinks about it the
looks the more he thinks about it the
looks the more he thinks about it the less likely he’s going imagine the
less likely he’s going imagine the
less likely he’s going imagine the difference that a push makes imagine a
difference that a push makes imagine a
difference that a push makes imagine a coach behind him right right a coach a
coach behind him right right a coach a
coach behind him right right a coach a coach going come on Sammy you got this
coach going come on Sammy you got this
coach going come on Sammy you got this buddy you got this or an older brother
buddy you got this or an older brother
buddy you got this or an older brother the problem is in life usually there’s
the problem is in life usually there’s
the problem is in life usually there’s nobody there to push you it’s up to you
nobody there to push you it’s up to you
nobody there to push you it’s up to you that’s why the five-second rule is your
that’s why the five-second rule is your
that’s why the five-second rule is your new best friend this is what you’re
new best friend this is what you’re
new best friend this is what you’re gonna use to push yourself the moment
gonna use to push yourself the moment
gonna use to push yourself the moment you have an instinct to act on a goal
you have an instinct to act on a goal
you have an instinct to act on a goal you know you should do some but you
you know you should do some but you
you know you should do some but you don’t feel like getting out of bed I
don’t feel like getting out of bed I
don’t feel like getting out of bed I don’t care 5 4 3 2 1 you don’t feel like
don’t care 5 4 3 2 1 you don’t feel like
don’t care 5 4 3 2 1 you don’t feel like being nice to your spouse I don’t care 5
being nice to your spouse I don’t care 5
being nice to your spouse I don’t care 5 4 3 2 1 use this for behaviors that you
4 3 2 1 use this for behaviors that you
4 3 2 1 use this for behaviors that you need to do and for those things that are
need to do and for those things that are
need to do and for those things that are emotional that are killing you drinking
emotional that are killing you drinking
emotional that are killing you drinking too much eating a bunch of garbage
too much eating a bunch of garbage
too much eating a bunch of garbage smoking gambling addiction when you feel
smoking gambling addiction when you feel
smoking gambling addiction when you feel the emotion drawing you towards it 5 4 3
the emotion drawing you towards it 5 4 3
the emotion drawing you towards it 5 4 3 2 1 physically move away from it what is
2 1 physically move away from it what is
2 1 physically move away from it what is this actually doing in your mind when
this actually doing in your mind when
this actually doing in your mind when you count backwards it’s pretty
you count backwards it’s pretty
you count backwards it’s pretty remarkable how such a simple thing does
remarkable how such a simple thing does
remarkable how such a simple thing does something extraordinary when you start
something extraordinary when you start
something extraordinary when you start counting backwards it is an action when
counting backwards it is an action when
counting backwards it is an action when you start counting backwards it requires
you start counting backwards it requires
you start counting backwards it requires focus when you start counting
focus when you start counting
focus when you start counting backwards you are manually switching the
backwards you are manually switching the
backwards you are manually switching the part of the brain that you’re using
part of the brain that you’re using
part of the brain that you’re using you’re activating your prefrontal cortex
you’re activating your prefrontal cortex
you’re activating your prefrontal cortex you’re interrupting the habit loops of
you’re interrupting the habit loops of
you’re interrupting the habit loops of self-doubt of procrastination of fear of
self-doubt of procrastination of fear of
self-doubt of procrastination of fear of anxiety and you are taking control one
anxiety and you are taking control one
anxiety and you are taking control one five-second decision at a time it truly
five-second decision at a time it truly
five-second decision at a time it truly is that simple I didn’t say it was easy
is that simple I didn’t say it was easy
is that simple I didn’t say it was easy but it is this simple and it’s not gonna
but it is this simple and it’s not gonna
but it is this simple and it’s not gonna be easy because you’re gonna fight
be easy because you’re gonna fight
be easy because you’re gonna fight yourself now there are three ways that
yourself now there are three ways that
yourself now there are three ways that you can use this we’ve heard of
you can use this we’ve heard of
you can use this we’ve heard of literally hundreds of thousands of waves
literally hundreds of thousands of waves
literally hundreds of thousands of waves we’ve heard of from hundreds of
we’ve heard of from hundreds of
we’ve heard of from hundreds of thousands of people in 90 different
thousands of people in 90 different
thousands of people in 90 different countries that are using this rule and
countries that are using this rule and
countries that are using this rule and they fall into kind of three buckets you
they fall into kind of three buckets you
they fall into kind of three buckets you can use this rule to change any behavior
can use this rule to change any behavior
can use this rule to change any behavior five four three two one push yourself to
five four three two one push yourself to
five four three two one push yourself to do something that you know you need to
do something that you know you need to
do something that you know you need to do five four three two one
do five four three two one
do five four three two one pull yourself away from something that
pull yourself away from something that
pull yourself away from something that you know you should not be doing you can
you know you should not be doing you can
you know you should not be doing you can use it for courage five four three two
use it for courage five four three two
use it for courage five four three two one step into that risk five four three
one step into that risk five four three
one step into that risk five four three two one push yourself outside your
two one push yourself outside your
two one push yourself outside your comfort zone and the most important way
comfort zone and the most important way
comfort zone and the most important way you can use it is you can use it for
you can use it is you can use it for
you can use it is you can use it for mind control this one matters the most
mind control this one matters the most
mind control this one matters the most to me so let me explain to you how to
to me so let me explain to you how to
to me so let me explain to you how to use it so a lot of people see me on
use it so a lot of people see me on
use it so a lot of people see me on stage or on CNN and they’re like ooh
stage or on CNN and they’re like ooh
stage or on CNN and they’re like ooh that chick was just born very confident
that chick was just born very confident
that chick was just born very confident very annoying and I don’t you laugh
very annoying and I don’t you laugh
very annoying and I don’t you laugh because it’s true
because it’s true
because it’s true not true I suffered from panic attacks
not true I suffered from panic attacks
not true I suffered from panic attacks for over 20 years they started when I
for over 20 years they started when I
for over 20 years they started when I was 19 years old they got so bad that I
was 19 years old they got so bad that I
was 19 years old they got so bad that I was on Zoloft it was a miracle drug for
was on Zoloft it was a miracle drug for
was on Zoloft it was a miracle drug for me and as I started to use the
me and as I started to use the
me and as I started to use the five-second rule to literally I mean
five-second rule to literally I mean
five-second rule to literally I mean change everything to go from facing
change everything to go from facing
change everything to go from facing bankruptcy to running multi-million
bankruptcy to running multi-million
bankruptcy to running multi-million dollar companies joining the teams at
dollar companies joining the teams at
dollar companies joining the teams at CNN being a contributor to dr. oz and
CNN being a contributor to dr. oz and
CNN being a contributor to dr. oz and success changing my marriage and how I
success changing my marriage and how I
success changing my marriage and how I behaved changing my health habits
behaved changing my health habits
behaved changing my health habits changing everything because what the
changing everything because what the
changing everything because what the rule does is it gives you control over
rule does is it gives you control over
rule does is it gives you control over your decisions it gives you control over
your decisions it gives you control over
your decisions it gives you control over those five-second moments that change
those five-second moments that change
those five-second moments that change everything for you because in those
everything for you because in those
everything for you because in those five-second moments it’s where all the
five-second moments it’s where all the
five-second moments it’s where all the opportunity and the joy in your life is
opportunity and the joy in your life is
opportunity and the joy in your life is so I wondered about five years ago I
so I wondered about five years ago I
so I wondered about five years ago I wonder if you could use this simple
wonder if you could use this simple
wonder if you could use this simple stupid
stupid
stupid brilliant rule to cure yourself of
brilliant rule to cure yourself of
brilliant rule to cure yourself of anxiety the answer is yes you can so
anxiety the answer is yes you can so
anxiety the answer is yes you can so I’ve been off meds for five years I
I’ve been off meds for five years I
I’ve been off meds for five years I haven’t had a panic attack since hell I
haven’t had a panic attack since hell I
haven’t had a panic attack since hell I don’t even worry about anything yes
don’t even worry about anything yes
don’t even worry about anything yes because I have used this rule to
because I have used this rule to
because I have used this rule to completely rewire how I think you’re
completely rewire how I think you’re
completely rewire how I think you’re gonna hear a lot about mindset today you
gonna hear a lot about mindset today you
gonna hear a lot about mindset today you want to adopt a growth mindset you want
want to adopt a growth mindset you want
want to adopt a growth mindset you want to change your habits this is a starting
to change your habits this is a starting
to change your habits this is a starting ritual that you can use for any of them
ritual that you can use for any of them
ritual that you can use for any of them let me explain how you do it in the
let me explain how you do it in the
let me explain how you do it in the mental game so if you ever noticed how
mental game so if you ever noticed how
mental game so if you ever noticed how your thoughts drift right you’re sitting
your thoughts drift right you’re sitting
your thoughts drift right you’re sitting in a meeting and suddenly your thoughts
in a meeting and suddenly your thoughts
in a meeting and suddenly your thoughts are like blah blah blah blah blah
are like blah blah blah blah blah
are like blah blah blah blah blah garbage garbage garbage
garbage garbage garbage
garbage garbage garbage you suck suck suck suck right you know
you suck suck suck suck right you know
you suck suck suck suck right you know whatever it is the second that you get
whatever it is the second that you get
whatever it is the second that you get your thoughts drifting you’re going to
your thoughts drifting you’re going to
your thoughts drifting you’re going to go 5 4 3 2 1 and yank them back here now
go 5 4 3 2 1 and yank them back here now
go 5 4 3 2 1 and yank them back here now the counting backwards is essential it
the counting backwards is essential it
the counting backwards is essential it doesn’t work to just try to change your
doesn’t work to just try to change your
doesn’t work to just try to change your thoughts inserting the
thoughts inserting the
thoughts inserting the five-four-three-two-one interrupts the
five-four-three-two-one interrupts the
five-four-three-two-one interrupts the pattern of bad talk to yourself and self
pattern of bad talk to yourself and self
pattern of bad talk to yourself and self doubt and anxiety it awakens your
doubt and anxiety it awakens your
doubt and anxiety it awakens your prefrontal cortex so your brain is ready
prefrontal cortex so your brain is ready
prefrontal cortex so your brain is ready ready to receive a new thought you know
ready to receive a new thought you know
ready to receive a new thought you know I’m gonna use an example that we can all
I’m gonna use an example that we can all
I’m gonna use an example that we can all relate to to explain specifically how to
relate to to explain specifically how to
relate to to explain specifically how to do this because I think this is so
do this because I think this is so
do this because I think this is so important I used to be a nutcase about
important I used to be a nutcase about
important I used to be a nutcase about flying I would get to the airport and
flying I would get to the airport and
flying I would get to the airport and I’d be in the boarding area and I’d be
I’d be in the boarding area and I’d be
I’d be in the boarding area and I’d be looking for Bishop TD jakes
looking for Bishop TD jakes
looking for Bishop TD jakes and I’d be looking for babies and men
and I’d be looking for babies and men
and I’d be looking for babies and men and women in uniform because I would say
and women in uniform because I would say
and women in uniform because I would say if they’re getting on my plane God is
if they’re getting on my plane God is
if they’re getting on my plane God is not letting this go down so then I I get
not letting this go down so then I I get
not letting this go down so then I I get on the plane and I would buckle up and
on the plane and I would buckle up and
on the plane and I would buckle up and then I’d start to feel the panic rising
then I’d start to feel the panic rising
then I’d start to feel the panic rising and as soon as we take off and the plane
and as soon as we take off and the plane
and as soon as we take off and the plane does that scary thing where you get up
does that scary thing where you get up
does that scary thing where you get up and then all of a sudden it feels like
and then all of a sudden it feels like
and then all of a sudden it feels like it’s like turning off as it’s leveling
it’s like turning off as it’s leveling
it’s like turning off as it’s leveling off then I would start to panic and I
off then I would start to panic and I
off then I would start to panic and I would pull out my phone and I would
would pull out my phone and I would
would pull out my phone and I would start texting my children you know mommy
start texting my children you know mommy
start texting my children you know mommy loves you emoji emoji emoji because if
loves you emoji emoji emoji because if
loves you emoji emoji emoji because if I’m gonna die in a plane crash I want
I’m gonna die in a plane crash I want
I’m gonna die in a plane crash I want the kids to know that at my last act as
the kids to know that at my last act as
the kids to know that at my last act as a human being was to be the best mom on
a human being was to be the best mom on
a human being was to be the best mom on the planet and then plus they’ve got it
the planet and then plus they’ve got it
the planet and then plus they’ve got it for the eulogy when they do the
for the eulogy when they do the
for the eulogy when they do the PowerPoint so they can prove it to
PowerPoint so they can prove it to
PowerPoint so they can prove it to everybody and you giggle you giggle
everybody and you giggle you giggle
everybody and you giggle you giggle because we’re sick human beings we’re
because we’re sick human beings we’re
because we’re sick human beings we’re all sick right if we were to put a
all sick right if we were to put a
all sick right if we were to put a speaker on your head and broadcast the
speaker on your head and broadcast the
speaker on your head and broadcast the garbage you say to yourself you wouldn’t
garbage you say to yourself you wouldn’t
garbage you say to yourself you wouldn’t be at success live you’d be in an insane
be at success live you’d be in an insane
be at success live you’d be in an insane asylum for crying out loud
asylum for crying out loud
asylum for crying out loud but here’s the problem we listen to it
but here’s the problem we listen to it
but here’s the problem we listen to it we listen to it you let it rob you of
we listen to it you let it rob you of
we listen to it you let it rob you of your precious lifetime you let it keep
your precious lifetime you let it keep
your precious lifetime you let it keep you
you
you from stepping into your greatness you
from stepping into your greatness you
from stepping into your greatness you let it stop you from saying what you
let it stop you from saying what you
let it stop you from saying what you really believe you don’t have to second
really believe you don’t have to second
really believe you don’t have to second you catch yourself thinking anything
you catch yourself thinking anything
you catch yourself thinking anything that doesn’t serve you five four three
that doesn’t serve you five four three
that doesn’t serve you five four three two one
two one
two one take control five four three two one
take control five four three two one
take control five four three two one insert a different thought every time I
insert a different thought every time I
insert a different thought every time I talk about this when I fly I step on the
talk about this when I fly I step on the
talk about this when I fly I step on the plane with an anchor thought I think
plane with an anchor thought I think
plane with an anchor thought I think about where I’m gonna go and I flew here
about where I’m gonna go and I flew here
about where I’m gonna go and I flew here you know what I thought about I thought
you know what I thought about I thought
you know what I thought about I thought about you so every time the turbulence
about you so every time the turbulence
about you so every time the turbulence happened I went 5 4 3 2 1 I thought
happened I went 5 4 3 2 1 I thought
happened I went 5 4 3 2 1 I thought about you and my brain went oh she’s not
about you and my brain went oh she’s not
about you and my brain went oh she’s not nervous about the plane she’s so excited
nervous about the plane she’s so excited
nervous about the plane she’s so excited to see everybody at success live this
to see everybody at success live this
to see everybody at success live this makes sense one of you many of you are
makes sense one of you many of you are
makes sense one of you many of you are gonna text me right after this and be
gonna text me right after this and be
gonna text me right after this and be like I can’t believe this mal I use that
like I can’t believe this mal I use that
like I can’t believe this mal I use that stupid simple thing you just talked
stupid simple thing you just talked
stupid simple thing you just talked about and this is the first time I’ve
about and this is the first time I’ve
about and this is the first time I’ve ever been able to get on a plane you can
ever been able to get on a plane you can
ever been able to get on a plane you can change how you think five seconds at a
change how you think five seconds at a
change how you think five seconds at a time
time
time do not ever underestimate your power to
do not ever underestimate your power to
do not ever underestimate your power to change the things that matter most to
change the things that matter most to
change the things that matter most to you this is one of the most shared
you this is one of the most shared
you this is one of the most shared stories in the history of social media a
stories in the history of social media a
stories in the history of social media a lot of you are gonna recognize this is
lot of you are gonna recognize this is
lot of you are gonna recognize this is Brittany and her dad Todd now what you
Brittany and her dad Todd now what you
Brittany and her dad Todd now what you can’t tell from this story is that it’s
can’t tell from this story is that it’s
can’t tell from this story is that it’s been a horrible decade for this family
been a horrible decade for this family
been a horrible decade for this family you see Brittany and Brittany’s dad and
you see Brittany and Brittany’s dad and
you see Brittany and Brittany’s dad and her mom got divorced and it’s been an
her mom got divorced and it’s been an
her mom got divorced and it’s been an ugly divorce you know a lot of fighting
ugly divorce you know a lot of fighting
ugly divorce you know a lot of fighting and the spouses can’t the new spouses
and the spouses can’t the new spouses
and the spouses can’t the new spouses can’t stand each other well today is
can’t stand each other well today is
can’t stand each other well today is Brittany’s wedding day and Todd is
Brittany’s wedding day and Todd is
Brittany’s wedding day and Todd is walking his new wife up the aisle and he
walking his new wife up the aisle and he
walking his new wife up the aisle and he has this inner wisdom kick in and he
has this inner wisdom kick in and he
has this inner wisdom kick in and he says to himself today I’m gonna heal
says to himself today I’m gonna heal
says to himself today I’m gonna heal this family doesn’t stop and think he
this family doesn’t stop and think he
this family doesn’t stop and think he turns he walks back down the aisle and
turns he walks back down the aisle and
turns he walks back down the aisle and instead of grabbing his daughter he
instead of grabbing his daughter he
instead of grabbing his daughter he grabs her stepfather a man he hates I
grabs her stepfather a man he hates I
grabs her stepfather a man he hates I mean look at the expression on the lady
mean look at the expression on the lady
mean look at the expression on the lady next to them for crying out loud
and he invites him to walk their
and he invites him to walk their daughter down the aisle five seconds
daughter down the aisle five seconds
daughter down the aisle five seconds changes everything and I can tell you
changes everything and I can tell you
changes everything and I can tell you firsthand because we interviewed this
firsthand because we interviewed this
firsthand because we interviewed this family for CNN it certainly changed this
family for CNN it certainly changed this
family for CNN it certainly changed this one so whether you are gonna use the
one so whether you are gonna use the
one so whether you are gonna use the rule – five four three two one get out
rule – five four three two one get out
rule – five four three two one get out of your head and start that nonprofit
of your head and start that nonprofit
of your head and start that nonprofit you’ve been thinking about for two
you’ve been thinking about for two
you’ve been thinking about for two decades or you’re just gonna five four
decades or you’re just gonna five four
decades or you’re just gonna five four three two one
three two one
three two one get yourself out of bed because you said
get yourself out of bed because you said
get yourself out of bed because you said you would or you find yourself in one of
you would or you find yourself in one of
you would or you find yourself in one of the darkest places of your life like
the darkest places of your life like
the darkest places of your life like Adam did so on March 1st Adam was over
Adam did so on March 1st Adam was over
Adam did so on March 1st Adam was over in London he’s a lawyer over there and
in London he’s a lawyer over there and
in London he’s a lawyer over there and he was sitting with a bottle of pills
he was sitting with a bottle of pills
he was sitting with a bottle of pills and he was three pills in and his inner
and he was three pills in and his inner
and he was three pills in and his inner wisdom kicked in he knew that this was
wisdom kicked in he knew that this was
wisdom kicked in he knew that this was not the answer and he also knew the
not the answer and he also knew the
not the answer and he also knew the five-second rule anyone five four three
five-second rule anyone five four three
five-second rule anyone five four three two one and he got up and he got in his
two one and he got up and he got in his
two one and he got up and he got in his car and he drove to his doctor’s office
car and he drove to his doctor’s office
car and he drove to his doctor’s office and he had the courage to listen he had
and he had the courage to listen he had
and he had the courage to listen he had the clarity to seek help and he’s been
the clarity to seek help and he’s been
the clarity to seek help and he’s been using it ever since and it’s like he has
using it ever since and it’s like he has
using it ever since and it’s like he has a friend with him and he uses it to not
a friend with him and he uses it to not
a friend with him and he uses it to not interrupt judges when he gets mad and as
interrupt judges when he gets mad and as
interrupt judges when he gets mad and as he writes to us he says it’s not only
he writes to us he says it’s not only
he writes to us he says it’s not only literally saved his life but he’s
literally saved his life but he’s
literally saved his life but he’s actually doing pretty good and I’d like
actually doing pretty good and I’d like
actually doing pretty good and I’d like to introduce you to because he’s flown
to introduce you to because he’s flown
to introduce you to because he’s flown here
here
here [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] I’m so proud of you don’t ever doubt
I’m so proud of you don’t ever doubt
I’m so proud of you don’t ever doubt your ability to change your life to
your ability to change your life to
your ability to change your life to change your life you know you have power
change your life you know you have power
change your life you know you have power in you and now you know thank you it is
in you and now you know thank you it is
in you and now you know thank you it is a privilege to share this with you thank
a privilege to share this with you thank
a privilege to share this with you thank you please please please use it and
you please please please use it and
you please please please use it and please let me know how you use it
please let me know how you use it
please let me know how you use it seriously I I it is such a I feel like
seriously I I it is such a I feel like
seriously I I it is such a I feel like I’m just a messenger for something
I’m just a messenger for something
I’m just a messenger for something that’s making a difference for people
that’s making a difference for people
that’s making a difference for people everywhere so thank you for the
everywhere so thank you for the
everywhere so thank you for the opportunity to share this with you
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