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YOUR CHILD’S MOST ANNOYING TRAIT MAY JUST REVEAL THEIR GREATEST STRENGTHS | Josh Shipp | TEDxMarin


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an exasperated father asked his son’s

an exasperated father asked his son’s high school principal what career his

high school principal what career his

high school principal what career his son should consider in the future

son should consider in the future

son should consider in the future now his son was described by many of his

now his son was described by many of his

now his son was described by many of his teachers as lazy distracted and that he

teachers as lazy distracted and that he

teachers as lazy distracted and that he couldn’t remember anything so the

couldn’t remember anything so the

couldn’t remember anything so the principal replied to the father and he

principal replied to the father and he

principal replied to the father and he said it doesn’t matter what he does he

said it doesn’t matter what he does he

said it doesn’t matter what he does he will never amount to anything the

will never amount to anything the

will never amount to anything the father’s name was Herman and that

father’s name was Herman and that

father’s name was Herman and that student who wouldn’t amount to anything

student who wouldn’t amount to anything

student who wouldn’t amount to anything that was his son Albert Einstein now

that was his son Albert Einstein now

that was his son Albert Einstein now before you and i started thinking poorly

before you and i started thinking poorly

before you and i started thinking poorly of that principal from 1895 we have to

of that principal from 1895 we have to

of that principal from 1895 we have to admit something we’ve all been that

admit something we’ve all been that

admit something we’ve all been that principal we unintentionally overlooked

principal we unintentionally overlooked

principal we unintentionally overlooked a kid’s raw and unrefined talent because

a kid’s raw and unrefined talent because

a kid’s raw and unrefined talent because that very talent tends to first bubbled

that very talent tends to first bubbled

that very talent tends to first bubbled to the surface as an annoyance and as a

to the surface as an annoyance and as a

to the surface as an annoyance and as a dad I’m guilty of this myself a hundred

dad I’m guilty of this myself a hundred

dad I’m guilty of this myself a hundred percent my son will be like hey Dad do

percent my son will be like hey Dad do

percent my son will be like hey Dad do you want to play Legos and I’m like yeah

you want to play Legos and I’m like yeah

you want to play Legos and I’m like yeah just a minute

just a minute

just a minute and then he goes and sets a 60-second

and then he goes and sets a 60-second

and then he goes and sets a 60-second timer and like stands there staring at

timer and like stands there staring at

timer and like stands there staring at me

me

me the entire time I’m glad you find his

the entire time I’m glad you find his

the entire time I’m glad you find his persistence amusing I find it annoying

persistence amusing I find it annoying

persistence amusing I find it annoying but here’s my question what if a kid’s

but here’s my question what if a kid’s

but here’s my question what if a kid’s most annoying trait is actually their

most annoying trait is actually their

most annoying trait is actually their biggest talent in disguise

biggest talent in disguise

biggest talent in disguise meaning what if a kid’s greatest asset

meaning what if a kid’s greatest asset

meaning what if a kid’s greatest asset first presents itself as a giant pain in

first presents itself as a giant pain in

first presents itself as a giant pain in your hmm asset

your hmm asset

your hmm asset and if that is true how do we not make

and if that is true how do we not make

and if that is true how do we not make the same mistake as Einstein’s principle

the same mistake as Einstein’s principle

the same mistake as Einstein’s principle and unintentionally overlooked genius

and unintentionally overlooked genius

and unintentionally overlooked genius simply because it first says hello as an

simply because it first says hello as an

simply because it first says hello as an annoyance well over the last 40 years

annoyance well over the last 40 years

annoyance well over the last 40 years the Gallup research organization has

the Gallup research organization has

the Gallup research organization has conducted more than two million

conducted more than two million

conducted more than two million interviews with successful people and an

interviews with successful people and an

interviews with successful people and an interesting commonality emerged amongst

interesting commonality emerged amongst

interesting commonality emerged amongst these interviews they found that

these interviews they found that

these interviews they found that successful people identify and refine

successful people identify and refine

successful people identify and refine their talents so that their talents

their talents so that their talents

their talents so that their talents become their strengths now good for

become their strengths now good for

become their strengths now good for those people but the question is then

those people but the question is then

those people but the question is then how does a kid move from Annoying trait

how does a kid move from Annoying trait

how does a kid move from Annoying trait to talent to strength to success well

to talent to strength to success well

to talent to strength to success well I’m going to argue it’s because that kid

I’m going to argue it’s because that kid

I’m going to argue it’s because that kid has at least one caring adult in their

has at least one caring adult in their

has at least one caring adult in their life who does the following who

life who does the following who

life who does the following who redirects the annoyance and cultivates

redirects the annoyance and cultivates

redirects the annoyance and cultivates the talent Lonnie’s mother was excellent

the talent Lonnie’s mother was excellent

the talent Lonnie’s mother was excellent at this Lonnie was meddlesome and

at this Lonnie was meddlesome and

at this Lonnie was meddlesome and mischievous always getting into things

mischievous always getting into things

mischievous always getting into things as a kid he almost burned down his

as a kid he almost burned down his

as a kid he almost burned down his family’s home because he attempted to

family’s home because he attempted to

family’s home because he attempted to cook a rocket fuel on the stove as you

cook a rocket fuel on the stove as you

cook a rocket fuel on the stove as you do

Lonnie’s mother bless her she didn’t

Lonnie’s mother bless her she didn’t lose her cool as you might think she had

lose her cool as you might think she had

lose her cool as you might think she had the patience or the wherewithal or the

the patience or the wherewithal or the

the patience or the wherewithal or the blood-alcohol level to see past this

blood-alcohol level to see past this

blood-alcohol level to see past this notice that her son had a scientific

notice that her son had a scientific

notice that her son had a scientific curiosity she redirected him say it’s

curiosity she redirected him say it’s

curiosity she redirected him say it’s good let’s get you a hot plate would you

good let’s get you a hot plate would you

good let’s get you a hot plate would you take this outside somewhere more safe

take this outside somewhere more safe

take this outside somewhere more safe Lonnie Johnson holds more than 80

Lonnie Johnson holds more than 80

Lonnie Johnson holds more than 80 patents and is the inventor of the

patents and is the inventor of the

patents and is the inventor of the national treasure the super soaker

which is amazingly approaching 1 billion

which is amazingly approaching 1 billion dollars in sales and with Lonnie’s cut

dollars in sales and with Lonnie’s cut

dollars in sales and with Lonnie’s cut of those proceeds he founded his own

of those proceeds he founded his own

of those proceeds he founded his own research firm which works on inventions

research firm which works on inventions

research firm which works on inventions related to clean energy now Nancy had a

related to clean energy now Nancy had a

related to clean energy now Nancy had a teacher who did this for her Nancy as a

teacher who did this for her Nancy as a

teacher who did this for her Nancy as a kid was described as loud opinionated

kid was described as loud opinionated

kid was described as loud opinionated overzealous she once hijacked the

overzealous she once hijacked the

overzealous she once hijacked the microphone at a school assembly in order

microphone at a school assembly in order

microphone at a school assembly in order to advertise this new student club that

to advertise this new student club that

to advertise this new student club that she was starting a student Club which

she was starting a student Club which

she was starting a student Club which sought to convince world leaders to

sought to convince world leaders to

sought to convince world leaders to participate in nuclear disarmament not

participate in nuclear disarmament not

participate in nuclear disarmament not surprisingly no random high school kids

surprisingly no random high school kids

surprisingly no random high school kids showed up to that club but a teacher

showed up to that club but a teacher

showed up to that club but a teacher took notice of this that Nancy was a

took notice of this that Nancy was a

took notice of this that Nancy was a leader I’ll be it a bit overzealous Todd

leader I’ll be it a bit overzealous Todd

leader I’ll be it a bit overzealous Todd Nancy hey here’s how you get people on

Nancy hey here’s how you get people on

Nancy hey here’s how you get people on board with your ideas how you work how

board with your ideas how you work how

board with your ideas how you work how you recruit people towards your ideas

you recruit people towards your ideas

you recruit people towards your ideas Nancy Lublin went on to recruit

Nancy Lublin went on to recruit

Nancy Lublin went on to recruit thousands of volunteers for the crisis

thousands of volunteers for the crisis

thousands of volunteers for the crisis text line which provides 24/7

text line which provides 24/7

text line which provides 24/7 crisis intervention for young people who

crisis intervention for young people who

crisis intervention for young people who are deeply distressed and even suicidal

are deeply distressed and even suicidal

are deeply distressed and even suicidal they processed more than 28 million text

they processed more than 28 million text

they processed more than 28 million text messages and saved countless lives and

messages and saved countless lives and

messages and saved countless lives and then there’s mrs. Wilhite she had this

then there’s mrs. Wilhite she had this

then there’s mrs. Wilhite she had this kid in her class

loud constantly disrupting constantly

loud constantly disrupting constantly talking making everything a joke the

talking making everything a joke the

talking making everything a joke the class clown kid one day mrs. Wilhite

class clown kid one day mrs. Wilhite

class clown kid one day mrs. Wilhite pulls him aside says hey you should sign

pulls him aside says hey you should sign

pulls him aside says hey you should sign up for speech and debate cuz I don’t

up for speech and debate cuz I don’t

up for speech and debate cuz I don’t know if you ever thought about this but

know if you ever thought about this but

know if you ever thought about this but I think you could be a gifted

I think you could be a gifted

I think you could be a gifted communicator and I will never forget

communicator and I will never forget

communicator and I will never forget when mrs. Wilhite said those words to me

when mrs. Wilhite said those words to me

when mrs. Wilhite said those words to me and you are listening to me speak today

and you are listening to me speak today

and you are listening to me speak today because she did she didn’t get annoyed

because she did she didn’t get annoyed

because she did she didn’t get annoyed by me though she had every right to be I

by me though she had every right to be I

by me though she had every right to be I was incredibly immature and sophomoric

was incredibly immature and sophomoric

was incredibly immature and sophomoric as a kid in her Spanish class I would do

as a kid in her Spanish class I would do

as a kid in her Spanish class I would do annoying things like I would ask her hey

annoying things like I would ask her hey

annoying things like I would ask her hey mrs. Wilhite how do you say the phrase I

mrs. Wilhite how do you say the phrase I

mrs. Wilhite how do you say the phrase I would earn in Spanish knowing full well

would earn in Spanish knowing full well

would earn in Spanish knowing full well this would force her to say aloud

this would force her to say aloud

this would force her to say aloud yo gonorrhea

yet despite my finely tuned immaturity

yet despite my finely tuned immaturity she looked past it

she looked past it

she looked past it she redirected the annoyance and she

she redirected the annoyance and she

she redirected the annoyance and she cultivated the talent you see every kid

cultivated the talent you see every kid

cultivated the talent you see every kid needs one caring adult like mrs. Wilhite

needs one caring adult like mrs. Wilhite

needs one caring adult like mrs. Wilhite in their life an adult to be patient

in their life an adult to be patient

in their life an adult to be patient where others might be pestered so when

where others might be pestered so when

where others might be pestered so when that kid in your life

that kid in your life

that kid in your life inevitably annoys you let’s be honest

inevitably annoys you let’s be honest

inevitably annoys you let’s be honest likely in the next 24 hours because

likely in the next 24 hours because

likely in the next 24 hours because they’re constantly getting into stuff or

they’re constantly getting into stuff or

they’re constantly getting into stuff or they’re argumentative or they’re

they’re argumentative or they’re

they’re argumentative or they’re annoying

annoying

annoying take a deep breath and consider in that

take a deep breath and consider in that

take a deep breath and consider in that moment that you too might just have your

moment that you too might just have your

moment that you too might just have your very own genius sitting right in front

very own genius sitting right in front

very own genius sitting right in front of you thank you very much

of you thank you very much

of you thank you very much [Applause]

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