00:00:10yourself and in your most genuine
00:00:15possible way and are completely unafraid
00:00:18that’s when everything starts to fall
00:00:20into place and that takes a while like
00:00:23you know rumors and opinions you know
00:00:26what I mean it’s like yeah you get
00:00:27scared and you want to hold back a
00:00:28little but then I was like you don’t let
00:00:29like none of this would be happening if
00:00:31I just show like just was like who’s
00:00:33myself and I went out and I was my silly
00:00:34self and then it go and it all goes away
00:00:36and then they’re like yeah when you let
00:00:38go and you’re like here you go
00:00:39take it or leave it what do you wanna
00:00:41let the can be like why hold back you
00:00:44get you can help you one life just have
00:00:46fun and be yourself and don’t worry
00:00:47about the rest and all falls in a place
00:00:49I was a victim masquerading as a
00:00:58survivor I used to revel in gossip and
00:01:03rumors and I and I lived for the
00:01:07negativity inflicted upon my sister
00:01:11actresses or anyone who I felt who shine
00:01:15diminished my own I think what saved me
00:01:20is me being honest and I think I somehow
00:01:23had the courage to do something and say
00:01:27something that I knew would would
00:01:30possibly end my career
00:01:31and instead of making business more
00:01:35important
00:01:36I made my soul and my my life more
00:01:40important and I think by by being
00:01:42truthful and by being honest that saved
00:01:45me and then I was given the opportunity
00:01:47to do something where I could actually
00:01:49just be myself and people can see who I
00:01:52am and if they respond to it great and
00:01:54if they don’t great and they’ve
00:01:55responded you don’t have to be born into
00:01:59a situation you don’t have to come from
00:02:00something or possess
00:02:02something you can just be you and have a
00:02:05dream and plant the seed and water the
00:02:07root ways
00:02:11go do it act now and really accepting we
00:02:16need you we need you we need you you are
00:02:18the 1% you’re the percent that says I’m
00:02:21gonna wake up
00:02:22you are the light workers you are the
00:02:24ones that have accepted this call in
00:02:26this lifetime at this time you have
00:02:28decided to wake up and chosen to say yes
00:02:30I’m here to be of greater service than
00:02:32just to feed myself right I’m here to
00:02:34feed the world I’m here to give love I’m
00:02:36here to be an expression of that truth
00:02:37don’t hold that back don’t play small we
00:02:45can’t we need you and so really if you
00:02:48are anyone in this room who has been
00:02:50sitting on that book idea waiting a
00:02:54little bit longer before you start that
00:02:55teacher training or doing 10 more
00:02:58teacher trainings before you actually
00:03:00teach if that’s you guys start and the
00:03:04pressure will be off I can’t begin to
00:03:06tell you I could cry just saying this
00:03:08the mo the day I taught Eagle Eradicator
00:03:11I was two weeks into my teacher training
00:03:13and I said f it let’s go and I just went
00:03:17and I felt so much pressure off I felt
00:03:19so much lift because I just knew I felt
00:03:23this technology must be shared I can’t
00:03:25hold it I can’t keep it for myself I
00:03:27can’t just sit in my apartment by myself
00:03:28like this I gotta give this and sharing
00:03:34it the pressure this just lifted it was
00:03:36like oh thank you thank you thank you
00:03:39and I wasn’t the perfect teacher and I
00:03:41looked back and I was teaching Eagle
00:03:43Eradicator wrong everyone’s arms were
00:03:44like this everyone was breathing
00:03:46backwards it was a mess but I did it and
00:03:47I started
00:03:49and in those moments when we just get to
00:03:51go just go the pressure is off and then
00:03:54we clear the path and we are guided to
00:03:57the next right action and that is the
00:03:59most magnificent thing we could do right
00:04:01now I think I’ve been doing this long
00:04:07enough to realize that no matter what
00:04:10people perceive of me
00:04:11I always shine through at the end of the
00:04:13day so I’ve had a lot of people try to
00:04:17tear me down but I’m here and I have
00:04:20always been myself and I’ve always
00:04:22wanted that and I’ve been graceful and
00:04:25I’ve tried to handle myself with this
00:04:26much class and it’s only because I know
00:04:29how hard I work and I’m not gonna let
00:04:31him get back into
00:04:32[Music]
00:04:35I shut it all off and I’m I’m in an
00:04:38other than this interview Oprah I do not
00:04:41intend to speak to anyone for a very
00:04:43long time this is my moment for me to
00:04:49experience a rebirth with my own music I
00:04:52have to shut it all out there no weights
00:04:56you know the noise the noise it’s loud
00:05:00you have to cancel out the noise and
00:05:03remember that it’s your thoughts that
00:05:06matter I just like try to always push
00:05:13myself more than I push myself before
00:05:15and you know I wasn’t trained what
00:05:18dancing or anything like that so I’m
00:05:20always trying to learn as much as I can
00:05:21from my choreographer and my dancers and
00:05:24I’m around I just try to have fun though
00:05:27you know I really love what I do
00:05:29and I think I would be doing myself a
00:05:31terrible disservice if I didn’t push and
00:05:33try to reach for more and I would be
00:05:35doing my fans a terrible disservice to
00:05:37so that’s my inspiration my fans and
00:05:39just wanting to be as great as I
00:05:41possibly can
00:05:45you know I grew up in Colombia and
00:05:47Colombia is a developing country where a
00:05:51lot of people don’t have access to the
00:05:54most basic needs and where education is
00:05:57considered a luxury unfortunately
00:06:00because we all know that education is a
00:06:02birthright and and I just grew up
00:06:05frustrated seeing seeing how many people
00:06:09weren’t able to to realize their own
00:06:13dreams you know when I was eight years
00:06:15old my dad underwent an economic crisis
00:06:19the financial crisis you know he lost
00:06:20his business and we struggled
00:06:22economically for many years we lost our
00:06:27car we lost our furniture and I remember
00:06:32vividly the day I walked in my house and
00:06:34all the furniture was gone because my
00:06:35head my dad had to pay his debt and it
00:06:38was quite well shocking for me you know
00:06:42I was 8 7 8 years old and and when I saw
00:06:46this I was so frustrated I my dad I so
00:06:48upset with my parents cuz I couldn’t
00:06:49understand how they did so poorly in
00:06:52business you know I’m like why why you
00:06:55know I couldn’t I couldn’t get it and my
00:06:57dad and my mom took me to the park where
00:07:00they showed me other kids my age
00:07:02sniffing glue they were orphans they had
00:07:04no one to watch after them and they were
00:07:08barefoot and they were abandoned to
00:07:11their unlock and it probably left such
00:07:16an impression in my impressionable mind
00:07:18at that age that I remember that day and
00:07:22I remember that I made myself a promise
00:07:24I said
00:07:26I said to myself Shakira you have to
00:07:28succeed because you have to you have to
00:07:33ride in a car again one day you know you
00:07:36have to get your own car someday yeah
00:07:39and and I wanted to bring the cake my
00:07:42parents socially and economically and I
00:07:45also wanted to someday do something for
00:07:47those kids who I saw that day in the
00:07:49park so as soon as I had my first big
00:07:53success with PS Descalzos
00:07:55which was my third album I decided to
00:07:58establish my own Foundation and do my
00:08:00own contribution to to the change even
00:08:03if it was going to be a small one but I
00:08:05wanted to be active and that’s how it
00:08:08all started you know going through my
00:08:10own a financial struggle and the
00:08:12struggle of my family and understanding
00:08:15that the one thing that I never lacked
00:08:18was care protection and an education and
00:08:22that’s probably what made me thrive in
00:08:24life
00:08:28you know I can tech I can tell them all
00:08:30I want be yourself it doesn’t matter if
00:08:33people think you’re sexy or edgy or cool
00:08:35but if I don’t lead by example then I
00:08:38I’m not actually conveying that message
00:08:40fully so with this video like it’s not a
00:08:42sexy video but it conveys a message I
00:08:46really want to get across to girls that
00:08:47like if that’s not your thing you don’t
00:08:49have to try to be like everyone else
00:08:51from day one I just I never tried to
00:08:56hide that I was the girl in my apartment
00:08:58with the red backpack it’s like this is
00:09:01who I am and I find that people end up
00:09:05rooting for you and opening more doors
00:09:07if you’re really honest early on some
00:09:09people start businesses and try to come
00:09:12across that they’re much bigger than
00:09:13they are because they feel like that’s
00:09:15the only way they’re going to be taken
00:09:16seriously but if you know your products
00:09:18great and you know why you made it you
00:09:20don’t have to apologize for being out of
00:09:22your home or your apartment or being
00:09:24small
00:09:30what fear is stopping you in your tracks
00:09:33and burning the soles of your feet
00:09:36what if conquering that fear whatever it
00:09:39is that keeps you from being what the
00:09:41Creator intended for you what if you
00:09:43could unleash everything great in your
00:09:47life would you do it would you say yes
00:09:50to that you’ve got to find a way of no
00:09:59longer doing that thing you do that
00:10:01keeps you from getting the things you
00:10:02want and how do you know when you’re
00:10:05doing the thing that you do that is
00:10:06keeping you from getting the things that
00:10:07you want you feel negative emotion
00:10:10you don’t feel satisfaction and how do
00:10:12you know when you are allowing your
00:10:14thoughts to turn to things how do you
00:10:16know when you’re in a vibrational state
00:10:18of being where you are allowing a
00:10:20vibration to be received by you in
00:10:22thought form how do you know that you’re
00:10:25there and ready how do you know that
00:10:26you’re ready you feel satisfied where
00:10:29you are and what keeps you from being
00:10:31satisfied getting ahead of yourself and
00:10:33demanding that it be ready before you’re
00:10:35ready for it to be ready it would be
00:10:37like putting a seed of corn in the
00:10:40ground and waiting for 10 or 15 minutes
00:10:43squirt a little water on it and then
00:10:47feel disappointed that the corn hasn’t
00:10:50come up out of the ground and yielded an
00:10:51ear to you
00:10:54and if you’re like most jimin’s after
00:10:56about a wake of that you just dig it up
00:10:58and eat it or call it a failed
00:11:02experience you sometimes refuse to be
00:11:06satisfied in the process as it is coming
00:11:08and so there are some things that we
00:11:11want to call to your attention today we
00:11:13want you to leave this gathering
00:11:15understanding the value and the
00:11:18satisfaction of being willing to be
00:11:20ready to be ready you got to get ready
00:11:22to be ready to get ready to be ready to
00:11:25be ready to be ready to be ready and you
00:11:26have to be satisfied in that getting
00:11:29ready part and not need to jump all the
00:11:31way over to the fully manifested part
00:11:33that really is all that is required
00:11:35because if you could understand and
00:11:38sometimes you do that your desire in all
00:11:42of its fullness is in the process of
00:11:44becoming and that it is yielding itself
00:11:47to you sometimes even though you don’t
00:11:49know that it is sometimes even though
00:11:52you don’t know that it is sometimes
00:11:54things look like they are going wrong
00:11:56when they’re not going wrong they’re
00:11:59going into a point of clarity for you
00:12:02it’s a way for you to reevaluate
00:12:04something it’s a way for you to come to
00:12:06a new conclusion about something
00:12:08[Music]
00:12:13now if you’re if things are upsetting
00:12:14you make sure that your intention is
00:12:17corrected why is this thing bothering me
00:12:18am i giving in to my ego or is this
00:12:20actually a real problem to witness it to
00:12:24be to be the non-judgmental witness of
00:12:27it to look at it and say something’s got
00:12:30to give right so so if you’re unwilling
00:12:34to look at your fear head-on and honor
00:12:37it and and witness I always say if you
00:12:40don’t show up for what’s up it will keep
00:12:41showing up so looking and saying you
00:12:43know I witness my resistance and you see
00:12:45that fear as resistance it’s right it’s
00:12:47fear as a resistance to what it is that
00:12:50you desire and in the absence of
00:12:52resistance you become a magnet for what
00:12:54you desire now when you let go of that
00:12:56fear and you transcend that fear that’s
00:12:58when you start to become a super
00:13:00attractor that’s when you start to let
00:13:02what is truly of essence for you into
00:13:06your life what is truly of service for
00:13:08you into your life what is true
00:13:09happiness into your life and so looking
00:13:12at the fear witnessing it calling it by
00:13:13its name and even if you don’t have the
00:13:16tools yet what happens is is when you
00:13:18look at the fear and you’re like oh I
00:13:19see this fear I see this resistance I
00:13:21see how it’s blocking my life and I
00:13:23choose to see it differently
00:13:24that’s when you’re listening to an audio
00:13:26like this that’s when a book like yours
00:13:28will fall off the shelf a catalyst yeah
00:13:29you know exactly you open up your
00:13:31consciousness pretty much you crack open
00:13:33your consciousness to find solutions
00:13:34rather than find problems and so when
00:13:36you’re not looking at the fear you’re
00:13:37just living in the fear and you’re
00:13:39believing in the problem but when you
00:13:40witness the fear and you’re willing to
00:13:41see it differently you start living in
00:13:43the solution as I commit to happiness
00:13:46fully exactly what I need is coming
00:13:49towards me because I become a magnet I
00:13:51become an energy field that is so
00:13:53magnetizing that is so excited that’s so
00:13:56inspired that other people want to
00:13:59support and work with that energy and so
00:14:02when we dwell in the energy of joy and
00:14:05happiness we become a magnet for that
00:14:07which we desire so my hope for you all
00:14:10is to start to think about the things
00:14:11that you want to succeed in whether it’s
00:14:14succeeding in romantic relationships are
00:14:16succeeding in your career or succeeding
00:14:18in your health goals and make a
00:14:20commitment today to bring more joy to
00:14:22that area of your life
00:14:25rather than seeing it as a struggle
00:14:27rather than pushing forward with all
00:14:29this angst and negativity and neediness
00:14:32and control just bring joy to it your
00:14:35successes will come when you commit to
00:14:38joy when you commit to happiness
00:14:40so find more joy in that physical
00:14:42exercise
00:14:43I’ve been going to SoulCycle I
00:14:45absolutely love it it’s so joyful for me
00:14:47and that’s helping me raise my butt
00:14:49because that was one of my goals and
00:14:50success and and then we have these
00:14:53moments where we want to really bring
00:14:54joy into our career well if you’re
00:14:56having a hard time in the office just
00:14:58find ways to have more fun and as we
00:15:01start to elevate that presence of joy we
00:15:03will begin to magnetize the successes in
00:15:05our life and so take this very seriously
00:15:07bring this practice into your day-to-day
00:15:09experiences and make joy and happiness
00:15:11your number one priority and recognize
00:15:14how your successes will be brought to
00:15:17you in a form far greater than you could
00:15:19ever imagine
00:15:20when your primary focus is happiness
00:15:24you
00:15:27you know when you’re new when you all of
00:15:29a sudden are like you know I just felt
00:15:32like I was and it was my own fault I
00:15:35kind of felt like I was stuck you know
00:15:37living my life the way and then if I if
00:15:40I you know how dare they not like me
00:15:43anymore just because I suddenly revealed
00:15:45the truth of you know who I am in one
00:15:48aspect of my life not you know it’s just
00:15:50I’m just saying I’m gay that’s all I was
00:15:51saying and and I was so mad I was so mad
00:15:56that I lost you know my show I lost not
00:15:58not just my show but like nobody wanted
00:16:00to hire me for three years I didn’t have
00:16:02any offers no and I mean literally the
00:16:05phone did not ring for three three years
00:16:07and and I had no money I was out of
00:16:10money I was just so that tends to make
00:16:12people cranky and and then you know I
00:16:15just kind of and it was good it was a it
00:16:17was actually I’m very grateful for that
00:16:19time I’m very grateful that I got to
00:16:20experience it gave me more compassion I
00:16:23know what it feels like to be out of
00:16:25money I know what it feels like to be up
00:16:27and high and like you know I was in a
00:16:29top-rated sitcom and very successful and
00:16:32people treated me very well and then all
00:16:34of a sudden just because of one
00:16:36revelation I just was I was the joke
00:16:40every puppy and I was a punchline of
00:16:42every late-night talk show I was made
00:16:44fun of in magazines I was it was and it
00:16:47felt horrible at the time and now I look
00:16:49back and I’m so grateful for it because
00:16:51it it really gave me a chance to examine
00:16:53myself and say who are you without Fame
00:16:55who are you without success who are you
00:16:57without money and I kind of found
00:17:00different parts of me that would not
00:17:02have grown had I not experienced that
00:17:05[Music]
00:17:07once you make that willingness to change
00:17:09the book falls off the shelf or the
00:17:12teacher shows up in a form that you
00:17:14could have never imagined or or you hear
00:17:17something on the radio or you meet a cab
00:17:20driver or some enlightened conversation
00:17:22comes into your realm that all of a
00:17:24sudden is that shift that you needed to
00:17:26make that change and create that
00:17:27catalyst that becomes your greatest
00:17:30accomplishment your greatest shift and
00:17:32so that’s all we need at first is that
00:17:34slight willingness that willingness that
00:17:37I had that desire to change that moment
00:17:39to shift was all I needed to become the
00:17:43woman I am today to live that life
00:17:46beyond my wildest dreams
00:17:48and so when I became ready I opened up
00:17:52and I said okay I’m ready for change but
00:17:54what’s beautiful and was the main
00:17:56purpose of what I teach is that once you
00:17:57make that decision to change you do not
00:18:00have to do it by yourself you cannot be
00:18:02expected to make these changes on your
00:18:04own all you need is that slight
00:18:07willingness it’s about time to really
00:18:13embrace my individuality and my freedom
00:18:16as a woman as a person and that’s a
00:18:19message that I encourage to other women
00:18:22and that doesn’t mean necessarily
00:18:24letting yourself being objectified
00:18:26because that means satisfying the
00:18:28desires of other people you know I say
00:18:30satisfy your own desires you know and
00:18:32live your life to the fullest because is
00:18:34short hard work and discipline and
00:18:41rehearsal and that’s always the most
00:18:43thrilling way to earn applause and
00:18:45everything that you’ve seen me do I’ve
00:18:48always rehearsed a lot for it so there’s
00:18:52um there’s a lot of passion that goes
00:18:54behind it
00:18:55[Music]
00:18:56when I was 11 I had a casting director
00:18:59tell me that I wasn’t strong enough to
00:19:01carry my own show
00:19:03and I’m sure all of you have been told
00:19:07that you don’t have what it takes and
00:19:09that you may not be good enough and you
00:19:10don’t have enough people supporting you
00:19:12and you’re being told all of these
00:19:14things when deep down it’s all you want
00:19:15to do you want to be a part of something
00:19:17great you want to make something great
00:19:19and it does more than knock the wind out
00:19:22of you it crushes you when people tried
00:19:24to tell you that you’re not good enough
00:19:26and it almost did from me but there was
00:19:29my mom next to me stronger than ever and
00:19:32she said the most important thing is to
00:19:36always trust in myself if I have if I’m
00:19:40doing something because I love it I
00:19:42should do it because I love it and I
00:19:44believe I can do it so she told me to
00:19:48keep going she told me and she taught me
00:19:54to turn the other cheek and let the
00:19:56credits burn like the critics be critics
00:19:59and let us just trust ourselves so for
00:20:03me two years later I got my own show and
00:20:09the first thought the first thought
00:20:12wasn’t oh man that girl when I was 11
00:20:15said I wouldn’t carry my own show and I
00:20:18did I mean I thought about that for a
00:20:20little bit but I thought about what my
00:20:21mom said my mom was like you have to
00:20:23trust yourself and I realized if I
00:20:24didn’t believe that I could do it I
00:20:26wouldn’t be able to be here
00:20:32presenting somebody else you’re really
00:20:34just unconsciously resenting yourself so
00:20:36witnessing very quickly who do I need to
00:20:39forgive is it me is it somebody else
00:20:41and very quickly turning it back on to
00:20:43you and choosing the pathway of
00:20:45forgiveness forgiving yourself for
00:20:47having a judgemental thought forgiving
00:20:49yourself for being an attack forgiving
00:20:51yourself for having a feeling that is
00:20:54unkind forgiving yourself for being
00:20:57judgmental towards yourself or attacking
00:21:00towards yourself whatever is up for you
00:21:02in the moment just practice the f-word
00:21:04and if you can’t get to the feeling of
00:21:07forgiving yourself say that you are
00:21:09willing to forgive yourself just saying
00:21:12in that moment I am willing to forgive
00:21:14myself for X Y Z I’m willing to forgive
00:21:17myself for being in this bad mood I’m
00:21:19willing to forgive myself for what I
00:21:21just said I’m willing to forgive myself
00:21:23for what I’m holding on to and just
00:21:25opening yourself up to the practice of
00:21:27self forgiveness will change your mood
00:21:29and your energy in a minute or less I
00:21:32swear by this this is probably the key
00:21:35to my freedom my happiness my successes
00:21:38is my willingness to forgive myself so
00:21:41take that in and really own that for you
00:21:44and practice the f-word all the time so
00:21:47the next time you notice yourself in a
00:21:48bad mood it might just be right in this
00:21:50moment right now just say I’m willing to
00:21:52forgive myself and and see what unfolds
00:21:55see how your energy changes see how your
00:21:57your feelings begin to shift and see
00:22:00that bad mood just dissipate instantly
00:22:04in in life and in in any career you’re
00:22:08gonna have your journey you’re gonna
00:22:09have your ups and your downs and you
00:22:11know when it’s rough it’s rough it’s not
00:22:13no I don’t think any person that wants
00:22:15to win like spelling or likes having
00:22:17those moments but those moments to me
00:22:19happen for a reason they happen to make
00:22:21you better and stronger and since I say
00:22:23that to say that it does feel good to to
00:22:26receive love because I know the passion
00:22:28that I’ve put into the product this
00:22:29project and I know my journey prior to
00:22:32this and it feels good you know I can’t
00:22:35lie and say that
00:22:38there are no idle thoughts so if you
00:22:41want to live a mindful life you have to
00:22:44recognize the magnitude of your thinking
00:22:48if you’re sitting here and you’re you
00:22:50know you’re judging your your loved ones
00:22:52you’re judging a friend you’re weakening
00:22:55your own energy and you’re weakening
00:22:57there’s every being around you in some
00:22:59way is picking up the frequency of your
00:23:01thoughts some people are looking
00:23:02perplexed like what the hell is she
00:23:04talking about right now I can hear your
00:23:06thoughts
00:23:06I know exactly what you’re thinking it’s
00:23:12not that I can hear it it’s that I can
00:23:13feel it think about it you know you
00:23:15could be in those relationships for like
00:23:17you’re your boss and you know you do
00:23:19everything perfectly but in your head
00:23:21you’re like I hate you I hate you I hate
00:23:22you I hate you and they just they don’t
00:23:24want to promote you they don’t want to
00:23:26support you there’s constant tension
00:23:27within the relationship you could say
00:23:29all the right things but if you don’t
00:23:31think it if you don’t transform and
00:23:34clean up your thinking then you’re
00:23:37literally polluting the planet so first
00:23:39and foremost we gotta think about what
00:23:40we’re thinking and so how do we change
00:23:41those thoughts because you have you
00:23:43think okay that sounds great but like
00:23:44I’m down Negative Nancy lein and I don’t
00:23:47know how to change direction how do I
00:23:50make a u-turn alright so some simple
00:23:52tools
00:23:53first and foremost witness it yesterday
00:23:55I was saying this look look at your
00:23:57crazy and call it by its name it’s fear
00:23:59when you see those crazy thoughts show
00:24:02up in your life when you hear those
00:24:03thoughts of I’m not good enough I’m
00:24:05better than that person is terrible I
00:24:08have two choices I can continue down the
00:24:11road and I can continue down that dark
00:24:13path or I can actually pivot I can
00:24:16redirect I can choose again
00:24:20I like I like to stay happy and I like
00:24:22to mom
00:24:23I like to live life light and make the
00:24:25best of life and I think that when you
00:24:28carry a certain kind of energy or if you
00:24:29have like a funky energy that you hold
00:24:31on within yourself you just can’t grow
00:24:33and you can’t really like move how you
00:24:34need to so for me I just like to be
00:24:37happy and cool with pretty much
00:24:38everybody you know and that’s just
00:24:40pretty much it
00:24:44working on my craft and making sure that
00:24:47it was perfect so that you know that
00:24:49when finally I would get that
00:24:52opportunity I’d be ready for it
00:24:55you are who you surround yourself with I
00:24:58know that’s such a cliche quote but it’s
00:25:00true I’ve just witnessed it too much
00:25:02it’s easy to get caught up because of
00:25:04course you’re you’re throwing things
00:25:06you’re given things that are fun and
00:25:08exciting but it’s just at the end of the
00:25:11day success is nothing if you don’t have
00:25:13the right people to share it with you’re
00:25:16just gonna end up lonely isn’t it nice
00:25:22how life keeps presenting more to you so
00:25:26that your idea of what you prefer
00:25:28continues to evolve recognize that you
00:25:33think that you are doing a pretty good
00:25:34job of vibrationally staying up to speed
00:25:38with your desires or are there gaps
00:25:41between what you want and what you
00:25:44expect you know how you can tell two
00:25:47ways how satisfied you are along the way
00:25:51if you are not resisting the evolution
00:25:54of your own desire you feel satisfaction
00:25:56even if it has not manifested and the
00:26:01other way is how long it takes if there
00:26:04are things that you’ve wanted or if
00:26:06there is something that you’ve wanted
00:26:07for a long time and it continues to not
00:26:11manifest in the fullness and the way you
00:26:13want to do well then that is an
00:26:15indication that your habit of thought is
00:26:18contradicting your own desire and it’s
00:26:21easy to understand why that would be so
00:26:23because so often you are giving your
00:26:27fullest attention to what has already
00:26:30manifested to what you want to say what
00:26:33is to the current situation so if you
00:26:37want more money but you don’t have
00:26:38enough and your attention is always upon
00:26:41or usually upon how much you’ve got or
00:26:44how much you haven’t got then
00:26:48you’ve may have a vibrational tendency
00:26:50that is actually pushing against what
00:26:53your desire is so there’s a discord a
00:26:56resistance within your vibration and
00:26:59even though Law of Attraction is
00:27:02responding to your desire as you are
00:27:05emanating it’s through thought Law of
00:27:07Attraction is also responding to your
00:27:10patterns of thought that you would call
00:27:13belief or expectation you do get what
00:27:16you think about whether you want it or
00:27:18not that’s really a simple way of
00:27:20describing how law of attraction works
00:27:23but in order to really fine-tune this
00:27:27business of deliberate creating and
00:27:29after all it’s only deliberate creating
00:27:31that is truly satisfying it’s only when
00:27:34you do it on purpose so that you’re able
00:27:36to pay attention and even measure the
00:27:39satisfaction factor as your desire in
00:27:42its vibrational or what you may want to
00:27:45call thought form evolves into the see
00:27:49it hear it smell it taste it touch
00:27:51aversion in other words there is a
00:27:53gestation process there is a process of
00:27:56becoming and the amount of time that it
00:27:59takes from the inception of an idea you
00:28:02might call it that
00:28:03and its full fruition really is about
00:28:06what you are doing and it is really only
00:28:09about what you are doing with your
00:28:11thoughts now a lot of times you don’t
00:28:14feel that it is fair for you to have to
00:28:17take responsibility for what you are
00:28:19doing with your thoughts in the early
00:28:21stages Esther would say but Abraham it’s
00:28:24true it’s true as if something that is
00:28:28true or something that it’s really
00:28:29happening
00:28:30deserves a lot of attention
00:28:32and we said to her just because it is
00:28:35true would not be our criteria for
00:28:38giving our attention to it because there
00:28:41are a lot of things that are true people
00:28:43have manifested them or are manifested
00:28:45in them even you may be manifesting them
00:28:48that you don’t want to continue to
00:28:50manifest and so if there is something
00:28:52that you want not to experience you must
00:28:55withdraw your attention from it and if
00:28:57there is something that you want to
00:28:58experience you must give your attention
00:29:00to it but what trips you up sometimes is
00:29:03that you think you are thinking about
00:29:05what you want when what’s really going
00:29:07on is you’re thinking about its absence
00:29:09because you think the subject is enough
00:29:12in other words if I want more money and
00:29:14I’m thinking about money then should be
00:29:16more money be coming to me and we say
00:29:18the way you can tell whether you were on
00:29:21the vibrational end of the stick where
00:29:23abundance is or whether you’re on the
00:29:25vibrational end of the stick where lack
00:29:27of abundance is is by the way you feel
00:29:29when you’re having thought if you are
00:29:32feeling discomfort you’re not thinking
00:29:35about abundance you’re thinking about
00:29:36the absence of abundance and the more
00:29:38you do that the more you sort of set
00:29:41into stone it isn’t that way at all but
00:29:43the more you create a habit of salt
00:29:45that’s what a belief is a belief is just
00:29:47a thought that you continue to think and
00:29:49the reason that you continue to think it
00:29:52is because you’ve already been thinking
00:29:54it
00:29:56and the reason that you’ve already been
00:29:58thinking it and you’re continuing to
00:30:00think it is because Law of Attraction is
00:30:03making that thought that you’ve already
00:30:05been thinking that you continue to think
00:30:07more accessible to you to think really
00:30:12really feel what it would feel like to
00:30:14be in the action of what it is that you
00:30:17are dreaming of and what does that feel
00:30:19like to be the on the career path that
00:30:22is your dream or what does it feel like
00:30:23to be doing the work in the world that
00:30:25you’ve been so long and to bring forth
00:30:27or what does it feel like to be
00:30:28spreading an empowering message in a
00:30:31unique and innovative way and in the
00:30:33process of gathering those feelings we
00:30:36do it through meditation sit in your
00:30:38meditation for two to three minutes a
00:30:40day and just allow yourself to cultivate
00:30:42the feeling of what it is that you
00:30:44desire I have had many experiences
00:30:46throughout my life where I’ve just
00:30:48allowed myself to be in the feeling of
00:30:50service or in the feeling of excitement
00:30:52of seeing myself on a stage or in the
00:30:54feeling of seeing myself sitting next to
00:30:56Oprah and doing an interview and all of
00:30:58those emotional feelings that came forth
00:31:00in my meditations became the
00:31:02manifestations of my life
00:31:04[Music]
00:31:07to be honest in the best possible way I
00:31:09really haven’t been able to sleep or eat
00:31:12anything I mean I’m taking care of
00:31:14myself but it’s crazy when you when you
00:31:18really believe in something it’s so
00:31:20different and not to say that I didn’t
00:31:22believe in anything in the past I just
00:31:24didn’t know what I was what my purpose
00:31:27was I didn’t know what I was meant to
00:31:29say how I was supposed to say it and
00:31:31then once I started experiencing so much
00:31:34and I knew people were wanting to know
00:31:36what I felt and I was scared to be
00:31:38honest and now to see it come to life
00:31:42it’s crazy
00:31:44[Music]
00:31:45gonna lie those self-love it I’ve been
00:31:48very fortunate that self-love has just
00:31:50always been something I’ve always known
00:31:51but I think it’s also because of my
00:31:53mother and father like my mother father
00:31:55had been married for thirty years all
00:31:57I’ve seen is my dad loved my mom one way
00:31:59all I’ve seen is my dad loved me one way
00:32:00and I’ve also been I have I’m an
00:32:03independent woman not over independent
00:32:05though I don’t want to be so independent
00:32:06that it’s like I don’t need a man like I
00:32:08want to write the right man in my life
00:32:10but you know I’ve just learned that you
00:32:12know again on my toughest days like when
00:32:15I try to find positive within myself
00:32:17positivity within myself and really
00:32:20think about loving myself like that’s
00:32:22always brought in good energy because
00:32:24you can’t depend on someone else to make
00:32:26you happy right you know everyone to do
00:32:28that you know so I kind of always known
00:32:30things would be that way but I have the
00:32:33more that I get older the more that I
00:32:35really understand it and the more that I
00:32:37can really really work on that you know
00:32:39because you’re like I’m just like you
00:32:41said like you said I’m very comfortable
00:32:42with myself and I feel like I’m gonna
00:32:45only get more and more comfortable which
00:32:46can make me more powerful too so
00:32:48[Music]
00:32:51when asked me once what they or many
00:32:54times I think what I thought it meant to
00:32:56be an artist and I said what I think an
00:32:59artist needs essentially more than
00:33:01discipline or even Talent is a
00:33:05perspective so if you are always
00:33:09changing what you do based on what other
00:33:11people say you completely lose yourself
00:33:13and you become just you know something
00:33:16that’s constantly affected by what’s
00:33:18around you as opposed to stable and your
00:33:21own and like autonomous and your
00:33:24identity we start to shift our
00:33:29perceptions when we start to see things
00:33:32with a better perspective when we start
00:33:33to see our experiences as obstacles
00:33:36turning into opportunities or a
00:33:38resentment as a divine assignment to
00:33:42forgive more or a moment of lack as an
00:33:46opportunity to focus on what we’re
00:33:47grateful for rather than focus on what
00:33:49we don’t have we start to make these
00:33:51shifts within our life what begins to
00:33:54happen is that we begin to have more
00:33:56faith in that way of being and so the
00:33:59neat thing that occurs and this has been
00:34:01my experience the past six years of
00:34:03practicing the life of a spirit junkie
00:34:05is that now my choices my
00:34:08moment-to-moment choices are choosing
00:34:12more of a positive perspective when
00:34:14there’s traffic my first thought is okay
00:34:16I welcome the traffic to go I try to
00:34:18start to think about the weight or if
00:34:20I’m supposed to be late maybe I’m meant
00:34:22to be there late maybe there’s something
00:34:23greater coming or if something doesn’t
00:34:25happen the exact way that I believe it
00:34:27should happen I know and my first
00:34:29thought is there’s something way greater
00:34:31coming so this is just the type the
00:34:33types of miracles that occur in the ways
00:34:35that your mind begins to shift when you
00:34:37start to practice these principles in
00:34:39your every corner of your life
00:34:41[Music]
00:34:45I never understood it when people would
00:34:47say oh you know in your 20s you just
00:34:50need to be alone and I just I never
00:34:52quite got it because they would never
00:34:53explain to me that it’s so important to
00:34:55define yourself on your own terms you
00:34:58think about it when you’re in love that
00:35:00person’s opinion affects your opinions
00:35:03and everything you do goes through this
00:35:05filter of how would they feel about it
00:35:06because if you’re a caring person and
00:35:08you’re in love then that’s what you do
00:35:10but there’s something really wonderful
00:35:12about changing your life if you want to
00:35:15cutting your hair short if you want to
00:35:17move into New York if you want to
00:35:19changing directions of your entire
00:35:22creative outlook if you want to and
00:35:25having it only be on your own terms
00:35:28[Music]
00:35:30very strong effort every second to be
00:35:34the nicest person that I can be but if
00:35:41it weren’t because of my mom I think
00:35:43that I would have never made it because
00:35:45she realized that I was telling the but
00:35:47not only that she supported me she
00:35:50believed in me and and she went ahead
00:35:53and helped me helped me build my
00:35:58confidence you know my own confidence
00:36:00confidence in myself which is a vital
00:36:06tool that you need in order to survive
00:36:09any kind of job
00:36:12I think it’s really valuable for us to
00:36:16recognize that we when we’re on a
00:36:19spiritual path that’s our path but it’s
00:36:21not for everybody and not everyone wants
00:36:24to know every detail of our path we have
00:36:28to trust that our shift in perception
00:36:30are energetic changes are the raising of
00:36:33our own energy will help raise the
00:36:35energy of other people around us and
00:36:36hopefully we’ll start to see how we are
00:36:38no longer an energetic match for the
00:36:41people that don’t think and feel the way
00:36:43that we feel and so slowly we’ll begin
00:36:46to see those folks begin to melt away
00:36:48we’ll see them disappear we’ll see them
00:36:50fall off in our life and we’ll see some
00:36:52of our relationships begin to change and
00:36:54sometimes it’s a little bit alarming for
00:36:56people but it’s actually a good sign
00:36:57it’s a sign that you are not stuck in
00:37:03that pattern anymore it’s a sign that
00:37:05your desire to change has been lifted
00:37:08and that you now are vibrating in a new
00:37:11frequency and those relationships will
00:37:12melt away
00:37:13if those relationships are still coming
00:37:15up for you while you’re in this path of
00:37:17transformation what I often say is
00:37:20rather than pointing the finger at those
00:37:21people saying oh you are ruining my life
00:37:23you’re making things difficult my hope
00:37:26and my intention for you would be that
00:37:29you begin to look at those folks and say
00:37:31what is it about me that is still
00:37:33triggered by their behavior what is it
00:37:36in me that may be attracting this type
00:37:38of person into my life what is it within
00:37:40me that is still calling in this kind of
00:37:43experience and so get honest with
00:37:45yourself what is it within me that’s
00:37:46calling this in how am i participating
00:37:48in this and how is this experience
00:37:50coming from a dark corner within my
00:37:53psyche and recognizing that the outside
00:37:55world is always reflecting our internal
00:37:57condition and recognizing the mirror
00:38:00that people are always mirroring back to
00:38:02us what we are feeling so if she has
00:38:05people coming up into her life negative
00:38:06friends people that are jealous she says
00:38:09negative people randomly popping back in
00:38:11and she wants to keep them in a distance
00:38:14well the real work is to just open and
00:38:16rev up your practice
00:38:18pray for them extend light to them and
00:38:21sometimes politely excuse yourself from
00:38:24the experience sometimes we have to
00:38:26remove ourselves from those experiences
00:38:28and then most importantly ask yourself
00:38:30what is it within me that may be
00:38:31attracting some of this behavior get
00:38:33honest with yourself okay
00:38:38I meant to put a goal on your life
00:38:41you’re not meant to say once I get there
00:38:43I’ll have it all I think that that’s the
00:38:46biggest lesson I’ve needed to learn is
00:38:48how to be present in that moment and to
00:38:50know that I’m always going to strive for
00:38:51something I think everybody who’s
00:38:53watched my story they’ve seen that not
00:38:56everything has kind of been handed to me
00:38:58and and I’ve been honest about
00:39:00everything some of the things that
00:39:02haven’t been me in the past and other
00:39:04things I’ve been so passionate about and
00:39:06so spot-on with so if anything that’s
00:39:09what revival represents it’s that I feel
00:39:12the most confident I’ve ever felt and it
00:39:16goes like that like it’s constantly
00:39:19changing and I don’t know I think that’s
00:39:22just that’s what I want it to feel like
00:39:27be about you just be positive man like
00:39:30even on your worst days try to find
00:39:33something positive out of them you know
00:39:34and try to find a way to keep your head
00:39:36up you know I was just saying another
00:39:38young girl I was talking like how you
00:39:40know we go through a lot as women we go
00:39:42through a lot of people and you know
00:39:44there could be something like the days
00:39:45that seem like they’re your darkest days
00:39:46but you have to know there’s a light at
00:39:48the end of the tunnel and the way that
00:39:50you get closer to that light is just by
00:39:51simply opening your eyes looking in a
00:39:54positive direction pushing in a positive
00:39:56direction even when you like if there’s
00:39:58something negative try to find something
00:39:59positive to counteract it like always
00:40:01try to find look on the brighter side of
00:40:03things and love yourself you know
00:40:05self-love is the best love you could
00:40:07give yourself and when you do that
00:40:09you’ll bring in so many great things you
00:40:12know and you’ll bring the things that
00:40:13you want to bring in
00:40:15[Music]
00:40:17a matter what’s up choose to show up
00:40:21with love choose to show up with grace
00:40:24now something really tough is up maybe
00:40:27just choose to show up with self
00:40:28compassion if you’re going through
00:40:30something I’m not gonna sit here and
00:40:32recommend if you’re going through a
00:40:33traumatic period in your life I’m not
00:40:35gonna recommend that you wake up and
00:40:37you’re like it’s rainbows and
00:40:38butterflies and Gabby Bernstein spirit
00:40:40junkie app no that’s not what I’m gonna
00:40:42match that’s not what I’m gonna
00:40:43recommend what I’m gonna recommend is
00:40:45you wake up and you say I’m gonna choose
00:40:47to see myself with love today I’m gonna
00:40:50choose to be compassionate and kind to
00:40:51myself today I’m gonna choose to go slow
00:40:54today but that’s still a very very
00:40:56mindful morning okay so more in the
00:40:59morning is probably the most crucial
00:41:01time to be conscious of your mindfulness
00:41:03and show up with grace and show up with
00:41:05love and bring it bring it bring it
00:41:07bring it in the morning
00:41:12if you believe all your your your praise
00:41:15there’s nowhere to go they’re not going
00:41:17to grow and if you believe you know
00:41:19every negative thing about you you’re
00:41:21not going to get out of bed so I try to
00:41:23be reasonable people whose opinion I
00:41:25respect I listen why lots of hard work
00:41:34lots of determination I consider myself
00:41:36a laborer of what I do
00:41:40an artisan and I think I’ve been
00:41:43building my career putting a break over
00:41:48a break under the Sun with sweat and
00:41:51hard work that’s the way I’ve done it
00:41:53and I haven’t given up not one moment
00:41:56and that must there must be something
00:41:59very abnormal about this because it’s
00:42:00been so many years doing this and I
00:42:03still cares so much and I don’t think
00:42:06that’s normal you know but with every
00:42:08project I feel that I hadn’t
00:42:10accomplished anything that I feel that
00:42:12I’m starting from zero and I care
00:42:15tremendously in a way that sometimes it
00:42:17surprises me so you feel like you proved
00:42:19yourself over and over again yes I think
00:42:23that I have to be that I have to embrace
00:42:27new challenges and and those challenges
00:42:32make me grow and grow and it’s the only
00:42:36way to go and the only way to I can see
00:42:38if life you know so yeah that’s the way
00:42:42I see it the thing for me is if
00:42:48something can be going wrong and I think
00:42:51I don’t realize how crazy this is I
00:42:53always keep thinking to keep pushing
00:42:54forward so I don’t really get a full
00:42:55idea of how bad it is but you realize
00:42:58how tough it is when you’re like moving
00:43:01forward and you look back and you’re
00:43:03like whoa like that was really crazy
00:43:04time like you know so that’s something
00:43:07that’s how I am because it’s like you
00:43:09kind of have to keep you have to when
00:43:11something does not feel right and it
00:43:13feels like it’s not working you don’t
00:43:15know how bad it is you can not dwell in
00:43:16that because that’s how people to me
00:43:18lose their mind a bit go insane I just
00:43:24want to constantly have goals to keep
00:43:26reaching them because I don’t want to
00:43:29stop if I feel settled then I won’t keep
00:43:31going
00:43:32so yes personally there’s a lot of
00:43:34things I’d love to do in my life and
00:43:36professionally I feel like I’ve just
00:43:38begun so there’s a lot
00:43:43I mean that I could go on and on and on
00:43:46like literally feeling like I shrink
00:43:48when a beautiful woman walks in all of
00:43:51that you know you it’s it’s been a
00:43:53journey and you have to make a
00:43:56commitment to to wanting better than
00:43:59functioning and dysfunction we all come
00:44:04to this world with a star with the
00:44:06talent and with a gift and then later
00:44:09dreams are born and no one absolutely no
00:44:13one has the authority to stop those
00:44:15dreams you know when I was seven years
00:44:17old
00:44:18I came to Los Angeles for the first time
00:44:20and I passed by the Walk of Fame with my
00:44:23mother and a friend of hers who’s
00:44:24actually here with us today and I
00:44:29remember that my mom told me Jackie one
00:44:31day you’re gonna have your name on this
00:44:33place it’s not one would have overheard
00:44:38this conversation they would have
00:44:39thought that my mom was delirious but
00:44:41she was not and here we are so I want to
00:44:45say to all of you to dream as big as you
00:44:49can and it’s been the absolute opposite
00:44:55you know going through you know going
00:44:57from sexual assault victim to rape
00:45:00survivor going through a divorce go
00:45:03having career setbacks re-examining why
00:45:05you even are in this business Who am I
00:45:08who do I want to be to the world that’s
00:45:10what we were like let’s just tell it
00:45:12yeah let the chips fall where they may
00:45:14and I never thought like being honest
00:45:16would have that kind of reaction
00:45:19I love what I do so much and I do want
00:45:23to be successful at it that it’s like I
00:45:25can’t think I cannot like what moments
00:45:28like that happen I cannot like keep I
00:45:30gotta keep pushing be about you just be
00:45:35positive man like even on your worst
00:45:37days try to find something positive out
00:45:39of them you know and try to find a way
00:45:41to keep your head up you know I was just
00:45:43saying another young girl I was talking
00:45:44like how you know we go through a lot as
00:45:47a woman we go through a lot of people
00:45:48and you know there could be something
00:45:50like the days that seem like they’re
00:45:51your darkest days but you have to know
00:45:53there’s a light at the end of the tunnel
00:45:55and the way that you get closer to that
00:45:56light is just by simply opening your
00:45:58eyes looking in a positive direction
00:46:00pushing in a positive direction even
00:46:02when you like if there’s something
00:46:03negative try to find something positive
00:46:05to counteract it like always try to find
00:46:08look on the brighter side of things and
00:46:09love yourself you know self-love is the
00:46:12best love you could give yourself and
00:46:14when you do that you’ll bring in so many
00:46:17great things you know and you bring in
00:46:19the things that you want to bring in if
00:46:23I could leave you with anything is you
00:46:25have to value yourself and it sounds
00:46:28super cliche and everybody says it and
00:46:30if you don’t value yourself you don’t
00:46:31love yourself no one’s gonna love you
00:46:32but seriously like I just realized that
00:46:35at you know it I got divorced my show
00:46:39got canceled that all these terrible
00:46:40things happen and I hit rock bottom and
00:46:43what I realize is I’m an educated
00:46:47amazing vibrant relevant person one bad
00:46:53thing does not define who I am
00:46:56I am so much more than a failed TV show
00:46:59or a failed marriage or what the blog’s
00:47:01say I’m so much more than that how to
00:47:06love myself first and not just in a
00:47:09relationship in my everyday life I give
00:47:12myself so much I let people pull at me
00:47:15in every direction and I want everybody
00:47:17to be happy and eventually I would I
00:47:21mean I would be in my bathroom sobbing
00:47:24right before I’d go on stage and then
00:47:27I’d just put myself on stage and and I’d
00:47:29want though I’d want to be there for
00:47:31those people I never took a moment to
00:47:33just go go away and be myself and figure
00:47:37it out I kept pushing myself and I think
00:47:40the biggest thing I learned is it’s okay
00:47:42I’m gonna stop when I need to stop I’m
00:47:44gonna feel when I need to feel and I
00:47:47don’t care what comes with that or what
00:47:49people want to say it’s normal
00:47:52I’m supposed to keep going and I just
00:47:54wanted that’s all I want to do I’m gonna
00:47:59lie those self love it I’ve been very
00:48:00fortunate that self-love has just always
00:48:02been something I’ve always known but I
00:48:04think it’s also because of my mother and
00:48:06father like my mother father had been
00:48:07married for 30 years all I’ve seen is my
00:48:10dad loved my mom one way all I’ve seen
00:48:11is my dad loved me one way and I’ve also
00:48:14been I have I’m an independent woman not
00:48:16over independent though I don’t want to
00:48:18be so independent that it’s like I don’t
00:48:20need a man like I want to right the
00:48:21right man in my life but you know I’ve
00:48:24just learned that you know again on my
00:48:26toughest days like when I try to find
00:48:28positive within myself positivity within
00:48:31myself and really think about loving
00:48:33myself like that’s always brought in
00:48:35good energy because you can’t depend on
00:48:37someone else to make you happy right you
00:48:40know everyone to do that you know so I
00:48:41kind of always known things to be that
00:48:44way but I have the more that I get older
00:48:47the more that I really understand it and
00:48:49the more that I can really really work
00:48:51on that you know because you’re like I’m
00:48:53just like you said like you said I’m
00:48:54very comfortable with myself and I feel
00:48:57like I’m gonna only get more and more
00:48:58comfortable which can make me more
00:48:59powerful too so
00:49:02[Music]
00:49:04don’t you think that the things that we
00:49:06really want should be more accessible
00:49:08and the things that we don’t want so
00:49:10much should be less access well we said
00:49:13really that’s exactly the way that it is
00:49:16and as I said well then why don’t I know
00:49:18that
00:49:19and we said because you’re not paying
00:49:21attention to how you feel when you’re
00:49:23thinking the thoughts so over time we’ve
00:49:27been breaking it down for you to
00:49:28understand a little more fully by
00:49:30explaining to you that you were Source
00:49:32Energy before you came into this body
00:49:34and the larger part of you still is now
00:49:36if you can accept that then everything
00:49:38else to here today will be easy for you
00:49:40to understand there’s a non-physical
00:49:42part of you sometimes humans have
00:49:44referred to that part of you as your
00:49:45soul but it’s the eternal part of you
00:49:48who was there before you came into this
00:49:50body and is still there even though you
00:49:52are in this body it’s a part of you who
00:49:54is aware of everything that you’re
00:49:56thinking about while you’re in this body
00:49:58so just sit with that for a minute
00:50:00here’s this non-physical you and you are
00:50:02an extension of that so here you are the
00:50:05extended version of you the leading-edge
00:50:08in this time and space version of you
00:50:12and you are doing just what you said you
00:50:14would do you are exploring the variety
00:50:16and as you explore the variety you come
00:50:19to your own preferences whether you’re
00:50:20even consciously aware that you’re doing
00:50:22it or not of what you prefer and what
00:50:24you do not prefer and every time you
00:50:26find importantly your personal
00:50:30preference of something you emanate a
00:50:33vibration we’ve been calling them
00:50:35rockets of desire but you emanate a
00:50:37signal that says I prefer this and your
00:50:40inner being who is always aware of you
00:50:43becomes a vibrational match to that new
00:50:46and amended because of the life you just
00:50:49lived version of your desires so each
00:50:53time you seek and find a new preference
00:50:57for yourself the non-physical part of
00:51:00you the inner beam part of you the soul
00:51:02source energy part of you becomes the
00:51:06expanded amended evolved improved
00:51:11vibrational version of that and that’s
00:51:14what we refer to as your ever-changing
00:51:18and ever growing and ever expanding and
00:51:20ever becoming desires in other words
00:51:22that’s what the evolution of all species
00:51:24is about so you know what you don’t want
00:51:27which causes you to know what you do
00:51:29want and you emanate this rock of a
00:51:30desire and that is what we’ve been
00:51:32referring to as step one of the creative
00:51:34process step two is now that you’ve
00:51:38emanated this rocket of desire your
00:51:39inner being holds that newly-found
00:51:42discovered by you vibration right as you
00:51:45have offered it and law of attraction
00:51:48causes a melding of all that you’ve
00:51:50asked for
00:51:51together in what we are calling a
00:51:53vibrational reality now humans are often
00:51:58a little resistant to this vibrational
00:51:59reality because most of you are not able
00:52:02to translate it at first into anything
00:52:05that feels real to you because you can’t
00:52:07see the vibrations or hear them or smell
00:52:09them or taste them or touch them so you
00:52:10want to call what’s already manifested
00:52:13reality and you want to call this
00:52:15abrahams delusion or something
00:52:18but what it is it’s a vibrational
00:52:20version it is from our point of view
00:52:22what really is it’s the new and improved
00:52:25asking it’s where Source Energy puts all
00:52:28of its attention it is what is in the
00:52:32state of becoming and if you could find
00:52:33a way and we’ll show you today how to do
00:52:35it if you can find a way to be focused
00:52:38upon this vibrational reality you would
00:52:40feel satisfaction even though it hasn’t
00:52:42fully manifested and in fact unless you
00:52:46find satisfaction in the not yet fully
00:52:50evolved so that you can see it and hear
00:52:52it and smell it and taste it and touch
00:52:53it version of it unless you do find
00:52:56satisfaction in that you are likely to
00:52:58begin in your awareness of the absence
00:53:01yet of what feels like the real reality
00:53:03to you you are likely most of you do it
00:53:06to push against it without even knowing
00:53:08you are by noticing that it hasn’t
00:53:10happened yet because you can’t focus
00:53:12upon the becoming of something and the
00:53:15absence of something at the same time in
00:53:17other words it’s one or the other and so
00:53:19because you are so enamoured and we
00:53:21understand why you would this is a
00:53:23beautiful environment seeing and hearing
00:53:25and smelling and tasting and touching is
00:53:26the leading edge it’s what you have come
00:53:28for it is perfect that you want your
00:53:31thoughts to turn to things it’s perfect
00:53:33that’s what this time-space reality
00:53:34really is all about for you but if you
00:53:38get out there ahead of your vibrational
00:53:42capacity to allow then you often defeat
00:53:45your own purpose by taking score too
00:53:48soon
00:53:49then offering a vibration that slows it
00:53:52down rather than allows it in so step
00:53:55one is you ask step to its source yields
00:53:59it to you in vibrational form and step
00:54:02three is you must be in the receiving
00:54:05mode so that you can be the translator
00:54:07of the vibrational form inches a
00:54:10tangible form that’s how creation works
00:54:13you see so it’s not a difficult thing to
00:54:16understand really you got it just now it
00:54:19is something that you have to practice
00:54:20doing and the only reason that it gives
00:54:23you any difficulty at all is because you
00:54:26are so accustomed to enjoying your
00:54:28reality that you are translating through
00:54:31your physical senses what you see with
00:54:33your eyes is a translation of vibration
00:54:35and we know it’s wonderful Esther said
00:54:37to us the other day Abraham I hear you
00:54:40I’ve been hearing you I’ve been
00:54:41listening to everything that you’ve said
00:54:43from the beginning of the beginning of
00:54:45the beginning I hear you I get this I
00:54:47think I get this is it but I would like
00:54:49you to know that as much as you are
00:54:52excited about my vortex and all of the
00:54:54wonderful things that are in it and as
00:54:56often as you direct me to its content
00:54:58and ask me to be excited like you are
00:55:01about it I really like manifestation
00:55:04more
00:55:05I really like the tangible and we say we
00:55:09know you do that’s why you’re here the
00:55:11tangible is important but you’ve got to
00:55:13figure out how to get there from there
00:55:14sometimes we just want to say you can’t
00:55:16get there from here you can’t get to
00:55:18where you want to be as you are beating
00:55:20the drum of the absence of it you just
00:55:22cannot get there you are defying the
00:55:24laws of the it’s always been interesting
00:55:30to me that when the the monk sits at one
00:55:32point during the rainy season had been
00:55:35in some sort of a jungle and have been
00:55:37encountering all sorts of really nasty
00:55:40spirit entities you know that were
00:55:42making life miserable for them and they
00:55:45ran to the Buddha and said can we just
00:55:46leave that encampment it’s just too much
00:55:48it’s too scary and he said you need to
00:55:51go back but here go back and practice
00:55:54this and he had them practicing
00:55:56loving-kindness that
00:55:58sensing the space of love the field of
00:56:01love as the story goes the field was so
00:56:08powerful that the transform the energy
00:56:10of the tree spirits and creatures and
00:56:12they became allies and you know it’s a
00:56:14happily ever after Buddhist story but it
00:56:18talks about the power of befriending so
00:56:21attend we then feel it the friend offers
00:56:25space say yes some kindness so an
00:56:29example that I’d like to share with you
00:56:31is of one woman I worked with some years
00:56:33back she had gone through a series of
00:56:35really painful relationships and they
00:56:39all ended and they’re all they all she
00:56:41felt were failures that reflected on her
00:56:45undesirability her lack of worth
00:56:49and she had a 10-year hiatus like from
00:56:52like 32 to 42 or something like that and
00:56:56so it’s a long time and then she began
00:56:58dating and as you can imagine in this
00:57:01new round she was terrified of what was
00:57:05going to go wrong I mean she was so set
00:57:08so primed with with fear and
00:57:10fight/flight and her main way of fight
00:57:14fly it was this generating all the
00:57:17stories like she tell us if I really
00:57:19need to be like this because that’s
00:57:21what’s going to show that you know she
00:57:22had all these ways you want to configure
00:57:24herself to be likable and although in
00:57:27her fear was he’d see her fear that was
00:57:30her fear so when we work together you
00:57:34know and I asked her what was going on
00:57:35you know she described the fears I’m
00:57:37gonna blow it he’ll see how afraid I am
00:57:40he’s just being patient right now but
00:57:42who likes insecure people you know I was
00:57:44this stuff that I’m sure many of you can
00:57:47relate to this was a mental for your
00:57:49body okay and then her physical body
00:57:52she’d say so the first step was okay
00:57:55just say to the thoughts thank you very
00:57:58much but not now and come into the body
00:58:00that’s the first step you know just
00:58:02attending contact what’s here in her
00:58:06body as she she named it it was
00:58:08clutching and tightness and pounding so
00:58:12she’d name it and then say yes okay
00:58:15let’s just say agree to let it be there
00:58:17agree to let it be there and then she’d
00:58:19go off into thoughts again as soon as
00:58:21she was settled into it and the thought
00:58:23she was believing these are real this is
00:58:26really what’s gonna happen I said no way
00:58:27you don’t have to believe them thank you
00:58:30very much
00:58:31come back
00:58:32so that was step one recognizing how she
00:58:36left thank you very much come back feel
00:58:39a name and agree to what’s here as she
00:58:43got a little bit of the knack of being
00:58:46with the sensations and it takes
00:58:47something to stay with unpleasant
00:58:49sensations then she began to very
00:58:53intentionally become more gentle and
00:58:56that’s what I mean by befriending it’s
00:58:58in some way there’s a sense just as the
00:59:01gesture of touching your hand on your
00:59:03heart I should use my right hand that
00:59:07just like this gesture in some way she
00:59:09was communicating to the place of fear
00:59:12it’s okay you can be there I’ve done
00:59:16many many sessions with people where if
00:59:20they can get to the point of like
00:59:22sensing well what is the fear most want
00:59:24often the fear just wants us to accept
00:59:27that it’s there it’s a part of us that
00:59:30just needs to be accepted says some ways
00:59:32you’re saying okay you can be here
00:59:34that’s what I mean by befriend the
00:59:38intention to be kind and the more if you
00:59:41became gentle and the more she just let
00:59:44it be there the more she discovered what
00:59:46we call space a kind of tender space and
00:59:49as she described it you know I get it
00:59:52that that fearful insecure person is not
00:59:56who I am
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