when I was a boy there was a word my dad would use with me that left me
would use with me that left me
would use with me that left me disappointed confused sometimes even
disappointed confused sometimes even
disappointed confused sometimes even angry that word check mate and I love to
angry that word check mate and I love to
angry that word check mate and I love to play chess with my dad but I hated to
play chess with my dad but I hated to
play chess with my dad but I hated to lose but lose I did 347 straight times
lose but lose I did 347 straight times
lose but lose I did 347 straight times between the ages of 7 and 9 not that I
between the ages of 7 and 9 not that I
between the ages of 7 and 9 not that I was keeping track
was keeping track
was keeping track I finally got so upset
I finally got so upset
I finally got so upset I took desperate measures and I went to
I took desperate measures and I went to
I took desperate measures and I went to the library and found a secret weapon
the library and found a secret weapon
the library and found a secret weapon Bobby Fischer teaches chess don’t worry
Bobby Fischer teaches chess don’t worry
Bobby Fischer teaches chess don’t worry this is not that copy 300 pages filled
this is not that copy 300 pages filled
this is not that copy 300 pages filled with exercises designed to make me into
with exercises designed to make me into
with exercises designed to make me into an international chess grandmaster three
an international chess grandmaster three
an international chess grandmaster three months later and I turned the tables
months later and I turned the tables
months later and I turned the tables haha dad sorry
haha dad sorry
haha dad sorry checkmate alright I might be a little
checkmate alright I might be a little
checkmate alright I might be a little too competitive that might be hereditary
too competitive that might be hereditary
too competitive that might be hereditary or it might just be the fact that you
or it might just be the fact that you
or it might just be the fact that you and I live in a very competitive world
and I live in a very competitive world
and I live in a very competitive world it starts when we’re born we don’t even
it starts when we’re born we don’t even
it starts when we’re born we don’t even know what our parents are bragging about
know what our parents are bragging about
know what our parents are bragging about how long it took us to roll over look
how long it took us to roll over look
how long it took us to roll over look look at Billy next door he’s just laying
look at Billy next door he’s just laying
look at Billy next door he’s just laying there how quick sadly managed to pull up
there how quick sadly managed to pull up
there how quick sadly managed to pull up or oh how fast you learn to walk yeah my
or oh how fast you learn to walk yeah my
or oh how fast you learn to walk yeah my mom’s still waiting to brag about that
mom’s still waiting to brag about that
mom’s still waiting to brag about that one
you get older and teachers grade you and
you get older and teachers grade you and peers judge you even the lunch lady
peers judge you even the lunch lady
peers judge you even the lunch lady gives you that evil eye you sure you
gives you that evil eye you sure you
gives you that evil eye you sure you need that but then you grow up you get a
need that but then you grow up you get a
need that but then you grow up you get a job and you end up in a performance
job and you end up in a performance
job and you end up in a performance review not again you know much of our
review not again you know much of our
review not again you know much of our world is built on the fact that they
world is built on the fact that they
world is built on the fact that they think they win when they make you feel
think they win when they make you feel
think they win when they make you feel you’ve lost they tell us what winning
you’ve lost they tell us what winning
you’ve lost they tell us what winning and losing is and wealth power beauty
and losing is and wealth power beauty
and losing is and wealth power beauty they even tell us whether we smell like
they even tell us whether we smell like
they even tell us whether we smell like a winner or a loser well I guess they
a winner or a loser well I guess they
a winner or a loser well I guess they can fix that eat here wear this drive
can fix that eat here wear this drive
can fix that eat here wear this drive that we’re exposed to thousands of
that we’re exposed to thousands of
that we’re exposed to thousands of messages every day that either imply or
messages every day that either imply or
messages every day that either imply or outright declare that we are losers
outright declare that we are losers
outright declare that we are losers unless we do think and purchase what
unless we do think and purchase what
unless we do think and purchase what they tell us to do think and purchase
ask yourself are you who you always
ask yourself are you who you always wanted to be or who the world has told
wanted to be or who the world has told
wanted to be or who the world has told you to become now here’s the truth life
you to become now here’s the truth life
you to become now here’s the truth life is not a competition I want to hear you
is not a competition I want to hear you
is not a competition I want to hear you say that life is not a competition life
say that life is not a competition life
say that life is not a competition life is not a competition I know we’re
is not a competition I know we’re
is not a competition I know we’re programmed to think otherwise we think
programmed to think otherwise we think
programmed to think otherwise we think in terms of winning and losing and what
in terms of winning and losing and what
in terms of winning and losing and what the standards are in rankings and
the standards are in rankings and
the standards are in rankings and comparing ourselves to the thoughts of
comparing ourselves to the thoughts of
comparing ourselves to the thoughts of others but I don’t want to live in a
others but I don’t want to live in a
others but I don’t want to live in a world like that and you don’t need to
world like that and you don’t need to
world like that and you don’t need to either you could deserve better you
either you could deserve better you
either you could deserve better you deserve to be able to define your own
deserve to be able to define your own
deserve to be able to define your own victories to live a self-defined life to
victories to live a self-defined life to
victories to live a self-defined life to win anyway but what does that
win anyway but what does that
win anyway but what does that like let me take you back when I was
like let me take you back when I was
like let me take you back when I was nine years old my friend Jeff and I used
nine years old my friend Jeff and I used
nine years old my friend Jeff and I used to play superheroes
to play superheroes
to play superheroes I was always Batman and Jeff was always
I was always Batman and Jeff was always
I was always Batman and Jeff was always Superman because as he’s magically
Superman because as he’s magically
Superman because as he’s magically appeared has the glasses the saran shirt
appeared has the glasses the saran shirt
appeared has the glasses the saran shirt and the wonderful black hair to go with
and the wonderful black hair to go with
and the wonderful black hair to go with it when we weren’t playing superhero he
it when we weren’t playing superhero he
it when we weren’t playing superhero he was playing director his dad had bought
was playing director his dad had bought
was playing director his dad had bought him a super 8 movie camera that’s a
him a super 8 movie camera that’s a
him a super 8 movie camera that’s a really old movie camera that actually
really old movie camera that actually
really old movie camera that actually used film and he would make superhero
used film and he would make superhero
used film and he would make superhero movies not Superman or Batman but
movies not Superman or Batman but
movies not Superman or Batman but spider-man movies because his mom had
spider-man movies because his mom had
spider-man movies because his mom had made a spider-man outfit there you go on
made a spider-man outfit there you go on
made a spider-man outfit there you go on the roof believe it or not his friend
the roof believe it or not his friend
the roof believe it or not his friend Mike would pick play the superhero and I
Mike would pick play the superhero and I
Mike would pick play the superhero and I was always the villain supervillainess
was always the villain supervillainess
was always the villain supervillainess great smile I guess the limping guy
great smile I guess the limping guy
great smile I guess the limping guy always gets to be the bad guy I think it
always gets to be the bad guy I think it
always gets to be the bad guy I think it was profiling Jeff knew exactly what he
was profiling Jeff knew exactly what he
was profiling Jeff knew exactly what he wanted to be at 9 years old he carried
wanted to be at 9 years old he carried
wanted to be at 9 years old he carried his dream with him all the way to the
his dream with him all the way to the
his dream with him all the way to the University of Southern California where
University of Southern California where
University of Southern California where he went to the film school getting out
he went to the film school getting out
he went to the film school getting out of the film school even though but they
of the film school even though but they
of the film school even though but they say the odds are of actually becoming a
say the odds are of actually becoming a
say the odds are of actually becoming a director out of film school are slim to
director out of film school are slim to
director out of film school are slim to none he charged forward he worked on
none he charged forward he worked on
none he charged forward he worked on small films like things to do in Denver
small films like things to do in Denver
small films like things to do in Denver when you’re dead you got a break working
when you’re dead you got a break working
when you’re dead you got a break working on the film editing crew for as good as
on the film editing crew for as good as
on the film editing crew for as good as it gets with Jack Nicholson Helen Hunt
it gets with Jack Nicholson Helen Hunt
it gets with Jack Nicholson Helen Hunt then after years paying his dues he got
then after years paying his dues he got
then after years paying his dues he got a head honcho job as a film editor for a
a head honcho job as a film editor for a
a head honcho job as a film editor for a film nobody was really sure was going to
film nobody was really sure was going to
film nobody was really sure was going to work or not that movie Captain America
work or not that movie Captain America
work or not that movie Captain America 370 million dollars world
370 million dollars world
370 million dollars world and it launched the Avengers franchise
and it launched the Avengers franchise
and it launched the Avengers franchise in combination with Iron Man when I
in combination with Iron Man when I
in combination with Iron Man when I talked to him last week he was in
talked to him last week he was in
talked to him last week he was in Atlanta currently working on the new
Atlanta currently working on the new
Atlanta currently working on the new Avengers film but if he talked to the
Avengers film but if he talked to the
Avengers film but if he talked to the world Jeff is a loser remember he didn’t
world Jeff is a loser remember he didn’t
world Jeff is a loser remember he didn’t want to be a film editor he wanted to be
want to be a film editor he wanted to be
want to be a film editor he wanted to be a director he had devoted his entire
a director he had devoted his entire
a director he had devoted his entire life to one goal and fallen short
life to one goal and fallen short
life to one goal and fallen short checkmate but if you talk to him he
checkmate but if you talk to him he
checkmate but if you talk to him he doesn’t think he’s a loser huh Jeff when
doesn’t think he’s a loser huh Jeff when
doesn’t think he’s a loser huh Jeff when I asked him are you upset that you
I asked him are you upset that you
I asked him are you upset that you didn’t ever become a director he said no
didn’t ever become a director he said no
didn’t ever become a director he said no not really rich I get to do what I
not really rich I get to do what I
not really rich I get to do what I always thought I’d be getting to do as a
always thought I’d be getting to do as a
always thought I’d be getting to do as a director I get to make sure that the
director I get to make sure that the
director I get to make sure that the actors appear in the film in the best
actors appear in the film in the best
actors appear in the film in the best way possible I get to help control the
way possible I get to help control the
way possible I get to help control the shots and the flow of the movie and the
shots and the flow of the movie and the
shots and the flow of the movie and the energy I’m responsible and time in fact
energy I’m responsible and time in fact
energy I’m responsible and time in fact for the plot lines to a degree to get
for the plot lines to a degree to get
for the plot lines to a degree to get some input and I’m responsible for what
some input and I’m responsible for what
some input and I’m responsible for what finally ends up on the screen I’m having
finally ends up on the screen I’m having
finally ends up on the screen I’m having the time of my life I get to travel all
the time of my life I get to travel all
the time of my life I get to travel all over the world work with the best people
over the world work with the best people
over the world work with the best people and yet I don’t have to have all the
and yet I don’t have to have all the
and yet I don’t have to have all the responsibilities of a director Jeff in
responsibilities of a director Jeff in
responsibilities of a director Jeff in his own way without even realizing it
his own way without even realizing it
his own way without even realizing it was winning anyway is winning anyway
was winning anyway is winning anyway
was winning anyway is winning anyway now when you deconstruct what Jeff
now when you deconstruct what Jeff
now when you deconstruct what Jeff intuitively did you end up with a
intuitively did you end up with a
intuitively did you end up with a motivational speakers dream that is a
motivational speakers dream that is a
motivational speakers dream that is a magical formula for success yes a
magical formula for success yes a
magical formula for success yes a process for winning anyway first review
process for winning anyway first review
process for winning anyway first review where am I what have I done
where am I what have I done
where am I what have I done where am I in comparison to the goal
where am I in comparison to the goal
where am I in comparison to the goal that i said ii acknowledge i have
that i said ii acknowledge i have
that i said ii acknowledge i have achieved this i’ve fallen short here but
achieved this i’ve fallen short here but
achieved this i’ve fallen short here but i’ve managed to accomplish this this and
i’ve managed to accomplish this this and
i’ve managed to accomplish this this and this
this
this and then celebrate that celebrate what
and then celebrate that celebrate what
and then celebrate that celebrate what you’ve gotten to do how far you have
you’ve gotten to do how far you have
you’ve gotten to do how far you have come because you’re gonna need to
come because you’re gonna need to
come because you’re gonna need to celebrate to build up your energy and
celebrate to build up your energy and
celebrate to build up your energy and your self-esteem to move on to step
your self-esteem to move on to step
your self-esteem to move on to step three which is reset either figure out a
three which is reset either figure out a
three which is reset either figure out a new way to go after the same goal that
new way to go after the same goal that
new way to go after the same goal that you want to keep going after or like
you want to keep going after or like
you want to keep going after or like Jeff reformulate what you’re gonna do
Jeff reformulate what you’re gonna do
Jeff reformulate what you’re gonna do and go after a new goal and then fourth
and go after a new goal and then fourth
and go after a new goal and then fourth axe take action if you learn nothing
axe take action if you learn nothing
axe take action if you learn nothing from what all these other speakers do
from what all these other speakers do
from what all these other speakers do they have talked about you have to take
they have talked about you have to take
they have talked about you have to take action you can’t just think about it you
action you can’t just think about it you
action you can’t just think about it you have to do something but you’re thinking
have to do something but you’re thinking
have to do something but you’re thinking to yourself I know rich that’s great
to yourself I know rich that’s great
to yourself I know rich that’s great that’s great for somebody who’s worried
that’s great for somebody who’s worried
that’s great for somebody who’s worried about a career or money but I don’t care
about a career or money but I don’t care
about a career or money but I don’t care I don’t need to compare myself to
I don’t need to compare myself to
I don’t need to compare myself to anything I don’t care what the world
anything I don’t care what the world
anything I don’t care what the world thinks in my life still is bad my life
thinks in my life still is bad my life
thinks in my life still is bad my life has bad things happening you don’t
has bad things happening you don’t
has bad things happening you don’t understand me but I do bad things happen
understand me but I do bad things happen
understand me but I do bad things happen in my life bad things happen to my
in my life bad things happen to my
in my life bad things happen to my family bad things happen to my daughter
family bad things happen to my daughter
family bad things happen to my daughter Bailey Bailey was born with
Bailey Bailey was born with
Bailey Bailey was born with neurofibromatosis I don’t know how many
neurofibromatosis I don’t know how many
neurofibromatosis I don’t know how many of you in here have heard of that but
of you in here have heard of that but
of you in here have heard of that but I’m willing to bet it’s a very small
I’m willing to bet it’s a very small
I’m willing to bet it’s a very small percentage it is the least known most
percentage it is the least known most
percentage it is the least known most common genetic disorder there is it
common genetic disorder there is it
common genetic disorder there is it affects 1 in 3,000 people more than
affects 1 in 3,000 people more than
affects 1 in 3,000 people more than multiple sclerosis muscular dystrophy or
multiple sclerosis muscular dystrophy or
multiple sclerosis muscular dystrophy or cystic fibrosis but you’ve heard of all
cystic fibrosis but you’ve heard of all
cystic fibrosis but you’ve heard of all those it creates tumors at the end of
those it creates tumors at the end of
those it creates tumors at the end of your nerve endings that can be inside or
your nerve endings that can be inside or
your nerve endings that can be inside or they can be outside sometimes they’re
they can be outside sometimes they’re
they can be outside sometimes they’re just cosmetic sometimes they can be
just cosmetic sometimes they can be
just cosmetic sometimes they can be life-threatening and NF is a progressive
life-threatening and NF is a progressive
life-threatening and NF is a progressive disorder so no matter how you’re doing
disorder so no matter how you’re doing
disorder so no matter how you’re doing today you’re always waiting for tomorrow
today you’re always waiting for tomorrow
today you’re always waiting for tomorrow and next year to see where it takes you
and next year to see where it takes you
and next year to see where it takes you neurofibromatosis usually comes with
neurofibromatosis usually comes with
neurofibromatosis usually comes with Asperger’s or
Asperger’s or
Asperger’s or and autism somewhere on the autism
and autism somewhere on the autism
and autism somewhere on the autism spectrum sometimes with mental delays
spectrum sometimes with mental delays
spectrum sometimes with mental delays and other challenges Bayley suffers from
and other challenges Bayley suffers from
and other challenges Bayley suffers from those as well while she has no external
those as well while she has no external
those as well while she has no external tumors if she walked in the room right
tumors if she walked in the room right
tumors if she walked in the room right now you wouldn’t think anything was
now you wouldn’t think anything was
now you wouldn’t think anything was wrong with her when she was 15 we found
wrong with her when she was 15 we found
wrong with her when she was 15 we found out that she had an internal tumor right
out that she had an internal tumor right
out that she had an internal tumor right in the middle of her brain and it’s non
in the middle of her brain and it’s non
in the middle of her brain and it’s non cancerous but I can still grow and if it
cancerous but I can still grow and if it
cancerous but I can still grow and if it grows too much in that spot our mom and
grows too much in that spot our mom and
grows too much in that spot our mom and I took mediate action we knew we had to
I took mediate action we knew we had to
I took mediate action we knew we had to be aggressive with this and so we opted
be aggressive with this and so we opted
be aggressive with this and so we opted for chemotherapy after three months of
for chemotherapy after three months of
for chemotherapy after three months of chemo we were actually excited to go
chemo we were actually excited to go
chemo we were actually excited to go into the doctor to find out that we’d
into the doctor to find out that we’d
into the doctor to find out that we’d done the right thing at the tumor had
done the right thing at the tumor had
done the right thing at the tumor had shrunk and the Bailey was gonna get
shrunk and the Bailey was gonna get
shrunk and the Bailey was gonna get better when the doctor came in we could
better when the doctor came in we could
better when the doctor came in we could tell by the look on his face the tumor
tell by the look on his face the tumor
tell by the look on his face the tumor had doubled in size chemotherapy was
had doubled in size chemotherapy was
had doubled in size chemotherapy was going to have to continue I looked at
going to have to continue I looked at
going to have to continue I looked at Bailey do you know what this means she
Bailey do you know what this means she
Bailey do you know what this means she shrugged her shoulders so what do you
shrugged her shoulders so what do you
shrugged her shoulders so what do you want to do and I don’t know on the way
want to do and I don’t know on the way
want to do and I don’t know on the way home can we get a slushie what don’t you
home can we get a slushie what don’t you
home can we get a slushie what don’t you get it don’t you understand I thought
get it don’t you understand I thought
get it don’t you understand I thought this I did not say this because of
this I did not say this because of
this I did not say this because of course she understood she understood
course she understood she understood
course she understood she understood what she could control and what she
what she could control and what she
what she could control and what she couldn’t she could control whether or
couldn’t she could control whether or
couldn’t she could control whether or not we got a slushie on the way home and
not we got a slushie on the way home and
not we got a slushie on the way home and we did and she got a slushie with all
we did and she got a slushie with all
we did and she got a slushie with all the colors of the rainbow a few weeks
the colors of the rainbow a few weeks
the colors of the rainbow a few weeks later we were approaching her sweet 16
later we were approaching her sweet 16
later we were approaching her sweet 16 asked her what she wanted for her
asked her what she wanted for her
asked her what she wanted for her birthday she looked up and said dad I
birthday she looked up and said dad I
birthday she looked up and said dad I just want to know that I’m gonna turn 17
this year she turned 21 Bailey is living
this year she turned 21 Bailey is living life on her terms controlling what she
life on her terms controlling what she
life on her terms controlling what she can control whether it’s making hats for
can control whether it’s making hats for
can control whether it’s making hats for cancer patients cancer kids at
cancer patients cancer kids at
cancer patients cancer kids at Children’s Hospital or making plans with
Children’s Hospital or making plans with
Children’s Hospital or making plans with her boyfriend of 12 months she is
her boyfriend of 12 months she is
her boyfriend of 12 months she is winning anyway by living anyway now
winning anyway by living anyway now
winning anyway by living anyway now let’s go back review acknowledge reset
let’s go back review acknowledge reset
let’s go back review acknowledge reset and act if you think it’s a coincidence
and act if you think it’s a coincidence
and act if you think it’s a coincidence that the first letters of those words
that the first letters of those words
that the first letters of those words are ra ra yes I should do that for you
are ra ra yes I should do that for you
are ra ra yes I should do that for you ra ra rah-rah then you’ve never tried to
ra ra rah-rah then you’ve never tried to
ra ra rah-rah then you’ve never tried to be a motivational speaker before you
be a motivational speaker before you
be a motivational speaker before you need to cheer yourself on to victory
need to cheer yourself on to victory
need to cheer yourself on to victory your victory is your choice no matter
your victory is your choice no matter
your victory is your choice no matter what the world tells you no matter what
what the world tells you no matter what
what the world tells you no matter what they throw at you your goals are your
they throw at you your goals are your
they throw at you your goals are your choice your victories can be defined by
choice your victories can be defined by
choice your victories can be defined by you you can be whoever you want to be in
you you can be whoever you want to be in
you you can be whoever you want to be in life and you can tell the world to go to
life and you can tell the world to go to
life and you can tell the world to go to to go jump in a lake you can laugh
to go jump in a lake you can laugh
to go jump in a lake you can laugh anyway
anyway
anyway you can dance anyway you can live any
you can dance anyway you can live any
you can dance anyway you can live any way you can love anyway you can win
way you can love anyway you can win
way you can love anyway you can win anyway because your victory is just
anyway because your victory is just
anyway because your victory is just around the corner
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