Your Emotional Success | Boris Cherniak | TEDxChathamKent

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do you listen to the voices in your head

do you listen to the voices in your head have you ever called yourself stupid

have you ever called yourself stupid

have you ever called yourself stupid patting yourself on the back for a job

patting yourself on the back for a job

patting yourself on the back for a job well done or looked into the mirror and

well done or looked into the mirror and

well done or looked into the mirror and said I look fantastic

my name is Boris Turner and I’m your

my name is Boris Turner and I’m your motivational hypnotist and I’m here to

motivational hypnotist and I’m here to

motivational hypnotist and I’m here to tell you that your mind that would be me

tell you that your mind that would be me

tell you that your mind that would be me and I’m here to tell you that your mind

and I’m here to tell you that your mind

and I’m here to tell you that your mind is such a marvelous thing we all live in

is such a marvelous thing we all live in

is such a marvelous thing we all live in a wonderful world because hypnosis is

a wonderful world because hypnosis is

a wonderful world because hypnosis is almost like you’ll go a bird game of

almost like you’ll go a bird game of

almost like you’ll go a bird game of Simon Says except my name is Boris but

Simon Says except my name is Boris but

Simon Says except my name is Boris but the fact there’s two parts of the mind

the fact there’s two parts of the mind

the fact there’s two parts of the mind there’s the conscious and then there’s

there’s the conscious and then there’s

there’s the conscious and then there’s the subconscious and the conscious is

the subconscious and the conscious is

the subconscious and the conscious is the reasoning the filter that all the

the reasoning the filter that all the

the reasoning the filter that all the suggestions are coming through they let

suggestions are coming through they let

suggestions are coming through they let them pass or they don’t let them pass

them pass or they don’t let them pass

them pass or they don’t let them pass and the subconscious or something that I

and the subconscious or something that I

and the subconscious or something that I will refer to as a trance that is always

will refer to as a trance that is always

will refer to as a trance that is always there you all live in a trance

there you all live in a trance

there you all live in a trance guided by negativity and even fears now

guided by negativity and even fears now

guided by negativity and even fears now hypnosis starts long before you hear a

hypnosis starts long before you hear a

hypnosis starts long before you hear a hypnotist mentioned the word sleep it’s

hypnotist mentioned the word sleep it’s

hypnotist mentioned the word sleep it’s an interesting process because what

an interesting process because what

an interesting process because what actually happens is people focus so well

actually happens is people focus so well

actually happens is people focus so well they’re really focused so well that they

they’re really focused so well that they

they’re really focused so well that they concentrate on something so well that it

concentrate on something so well that it

concentrate on something so well that it becomes reality to them and you live

becomes reality to them and you live

becomes reality to them and you live that way all of your life James Randi

that way all of your life James Randi

that way all of your life James Randi describes hypnosis as an agreement

describes hypnosis as an agreement

describes hypnosis as an agreement between two people to fantasize together

between two people to fantasize together

between two people to fantasize together well let’s get into the fantasy part of

well let’s get into the fantasy part of

well let’s get into the fantasy part of it both of you wide awake we have with

it both of you wide awake we have with

it both of you wide awake we have with that Sir Michael and Elora we got a

that Sir Michael and Elora we got a

that Sir Michael and Elora we got a chance to spend a little bit of time

chance to spend a little bit of time

chance to spend a little bit of time together beforehand and speaking about

together beforehand and speaking about

together beforehand and speaking about imagination

imagination

imagination imagine very vividly that in my hand I’m

imagine very vividly that in my hand I’m

imagine very vividly that in my hand I’m holding a string to that string there’s

holding a string to that string there’s

holding a string to that string there’s a large helium balloon

a large helium balloon

a large helium balloon and what color do you like Michael you

and what color do you like Michael you

and what color do you like Michael you like blue here’s a blue balloon for you

like blue here’s a blue balloon for you

like blue here’s a blue balloon for you it’s a helium balloon so it’ll take your

it’s a helium balloon so it’ll take your

it’s a helium balloon so it’ll take your hand right up towards the ceiling all by

hand right up towards the ceiling all by

hand right up towards the ceiling all by itself what color would you like you

itself what color would you like you

itself what color would you like you would like blue as well maybe orange

would like blue as well maybe orange

would like blue as well maybe orange yellow

yellow

yellow I’d pick any color what’s a red balloon

I’d pick any color what’s a red balloon

I’d pick any color what’s a red balloon here we go here’s a red balloon right

here we go here’s a red balloon right

here we go here’s a red balloon right here and hang on to this one and they

here and hang on to this one and they

here and hang on to this one and they will take your hands right up towards

will take your hands right up towards

will take your hands right up towards the ceiling all by themselves and not

the ceiling all by themselves and not

the ceiling all by themselves and not only the imagination is so wonderful you

only the imagination is so wonderful you

only the imagination is so wonderful you can actually visualize and control your

can actually visualize and control your

can actually visualize and control your own destiny your own every day and then

own destiny your own every day and then

own destiny your own every day and then just put it right down it’s got a neat

just put it right down it’s got a neat

just put it right down it’s got a neat that it’s funny to what extent we can

that it’s funny to what extent we can

that it’s funny to what extent we can actually imagine the things and they

actually imagine the things and they

actually imagine the things and they focus so well that they actually

focus so well that they actually

focus so well that they actually completely bypass reasoning and anything

completely bypass reasoning and anything

completely bypass reasoning and anything else and they focus so well I can even

else and they focus so well I can even

else and they focus so well I can even talk in front of them that’s how well

talk in front of them that’s how well

talk in front of them that’s how well they focus now you are all imprinted

they focus now you are all imprinted

they focus now you are all imprinted from the day you were born because your

from the day you were born because your

from the day you were born because your mind is a computer you not only are

mind is a computer you not only are

mind is a computer you not only are aware of what’s going on but you’re

aware of what’s going on but you’re

aware of what’s going on but you’re actually imprinted with the information

actually imprinted with the information

actually imprinted with the information my background in psychology and

my background in psychology and

my background in psychology and computers so what it is literally the

computers so what it is literally the

computers so what it is literally the two don’t seem related but they are your

two don’t seem related but they are your

two don’t seem related but they are your mind works

mind works

mind works you blink you everything is being

you blink you everything is being

you blink you everything is being controlled from one source and it’s

controlled from one source and it’s

controlled from one source and it’s controlled to the point where I

controlled to the point where I

controlled to the point where I you aren’t printed with the information

you aren’t printed with the information

you aren’t printed with the information that will make it very difficult for you

that will make it very difficult for you

that will make it very difficult for you to read there to read this sign which

to read there to read this sign which

to read there to read this sign which actually is a neon sign with different

actually is a neon sign with different

actually is a neon sign with different colors from the Science Center in

colors from the Science Center in

colors from the Science Center in Toronto or better yet this one simply

Toronto or better yet this one simply

Toronto or better yet this one simply your mind is readjusting your own

your mind is readjusting your own

your mind is readjusting your own programming and you are controlling it

programming and you are controlling it

programming and you are controlling it and reprogramming it right on this spot

and reprogramming it right on this spot

and reprogramming it right on this spot and and both feet

and and both feet

and and both feet in both feet deep asleep now deepest

in both feet deep asleep now deepest

in both feet deep asleep now deepest level asleep now now the only thing that

level asleep now now the only thing that

level asleep now now the only thing that I’m here to tell you that the trance

I’m here to tell you that the trance

I’m here to tell you that the trance it’s always there the trance will always

it’s always there the trance will always

it’s always there the trance will always be there the only thing that’s an add on

be there the only thing that’s an add on

be there the only thing that’s an add on is the consciousness though the

is the consciousness though the

is the consciousness though the conscious is likely the add-on that is

conscious is likely the add-on that is

conscious is likely the add-on that is either turned on or off now when I wake

either turned on or off now when I wake

either turned on or off now when I wake you up when I wake you up in just a

you up when I wake you up in just a

you up when I wake you up in just a second

let’s give us something to do we have

let’s give us something to do we have Michael and Elora Michael wanna wake you

Michael and Elora Michael wanna wake you

Michael and Elora Michael wanna wake you up when I wake you up in just a second

up when I wake you up in just a second

up when I wake you up in just a second for one reason or another your right

for one reason or another your right

for one reason or another your right shoe has become a cell phone that you

shoe has become a cell phone that you

shoe has become a cell phone that you can take selfies with and boy do you

can take selfies with and boy do you

can take selfies with and boy do you ever like selfies for one reason or

ever like selfies for one reason or

ever like selfies for one reason or another you will love to take a selfie

another you will love to take a selfie

another you will love to take a selfie especially when my back is turned you

especially when my back is turned you

especially when my back is turned you want to get one in and Ellora when I

want to get one in and Ellora when I

want to get one in and Ellora when I wake you up

wake you up

wake you up you are the safety person for this

you are the safety person for this

you are the safety person for this theater so you always make sure that

theater so you always make sure that

theater so you always make sure that everything is safe and if any chance

everything is safe and if any chance

everything is safe and if any chance it’s not you let us know there’s a

it’s not you let us know there’s a

it’s not you let us know there’s a microphone on the side on your left so

microphone on the side on your left so

microphone on the side on your left so you’ll be able to let the audience know

you’ll be able to let the audience know

you’ll be able to let the audience know if anything is not up to par now we

if anything is not up to par now we

if anything is not up to par now we guide ourselves all day long through

guide ourselves all day long through

guide ourselves all day long through repetition and we repeat things

repetition and we repeat things

repetition and we repeat things constantly it works on it if

constantly it works on it if

constantly it works on it if if-then-else just like a computer

if-then-else just like a computer

if-then-else just like a computer principle what you are able to take

principle what you are able to take

principle what you are able to take whatever it is there and at some point

whatever it is there and at some point

whatever it is there and at some point in times you may have wanted to work on

in times you may have wanted to work on

in times you may have wanted to work on something overnight there do you have a

something overnight there do you have a

something overnight there do you have a gut feeling about stuff so I’m telling

gut feeling about stuff so I’m telling

gut feeling about stuff so I’m telling you that everything is working

you that everything is working

you that everything is working constantly at all times

constantly at all times

constantly at all times there’s stimuli that are coming in at

there’s stimuli that are coming in at

there’s stimuli that are coming in at you and your brain is processing those

you and your brain is processing those

you and your brain is processing those stimuli so this is exactly why when you

stimuli so this is exactly why when you

stimuli so this is exactly why when you leave a problem overnight often you wake

leave a problem overnight often you wake

leave a problem overnight often you wake up with a solution and both of you wide

up with a solution and both of you wide

up with a solution and both of you wide awake is a safety person and the shoe

awake is a safety person and the shoe

awake is a safety person and the shoe selfie phone no I’m sorry what’s going

selfie phone no I’m sorry what’s going

selfie phone no I’m sorry what’s going let me just grab a microphone now to

let me just grab a microphone now to

let me just grab a microphone now to make sure what is going on here I need

make sure what is going on here I need

make sure what is going on here I need to check and make sure there’s no

to check and make sure there’s no

to check and make sure there’s no trapdoors under here I’m the safety

trapdoors under here I’m the safety

trapdoors under here I’m the safety person Oh

person Oh

person Oh yes I haven’t be sure but I kind of move

yes I haven’t be sure but I kind of move

yes I haven’t be sure but I kind of move on so is that okay Michael wide-awake

it’s all right there’s no trapdoors I

it’s all right there’s no trapdoors I garden certain then go ahead and please

garden certain then go ahead and please

garden certain then go ahead and please sit down I’m just trying to move on with

sit down I’m just trying to move on with

sit down I’m just trying to move on with this clicker thing and all I’m here to

this clicker thing and all I’m here to

this clicker thing and all I’m here to tell you that when you program yourself

tell you that when you program yourself

tell you that when you program yourself yeah why don’t you hold on to this I

yeah why don’t you hold on to this I

yeah why don’t you hold on to this I have a mic oh and I’m here to tell you

have a mic oh and I’m here to tell you

have a mic oh and I’m here to tell you that not only do you program yourself

that not only do you program yourself

that not only do you program yourself but you actually do it with constant

but you actually do it with constant

but you actually do it with constant repetition

repetition

repetition that’s why daily lists make such a

that’s why daily lists make such a

that’s why daily lists make such a wonderful thing to motivate each one and

wonderful thing to motivate each one and

wonderful thing to motivate each one and every one of you you have some

every one of you you have some

every one of you you have some commercials and the repetition of those

commercials and the repetition of those

commercials and the repetition of those commercials gets you to get acquainted

commercials gets you to get acquainted

commercials gets you to get acquainted with a product and constant repetition

with a product and constant repetition

with a product and constant repetition you walk up to a counter I have this

you walk up to a counter I have this

you walk up to a counter I have this Anna whatever that the product might be

Anna whatever that the product might be

Anna whatever that the product might be and by repetition you’re able to

and by repetition you’re able to

and by repetition you’re able to constantly convince yourself so the

constantly convince yourself so the

constantly convince yourself so the answer to when somebody asks you how are

answer to when somebody asks you how are

answer to when somebody asks you how are you should always be fantastic

you should always be fantastic

you should always be fantastic everything good into the microphone yes

everything good into the microphone yes

everything good into the microphone yes I’m not sure that everything’s safe it’s

I’m not sure that everything’s safe it’s

I’m not sure that everything’s safe it’s my job here as the safety person to make

my job here as the safety person to make

my job here as the safety person to make sure that everything is sealed off right

sure that everything is sealed off right

sure that everything is sealed off right and Michael I like that you did you take

and Michael I like that you did you take

and Michael I like that you did you take enough

now we can even control our moods to the

now we can even control our moods to the point where you can switch instantly

point where you can switch instantly

point where you can switch instantly on-the-fly sometimes you feel depressed

on-the-fly sometimes you feel depressed

on-the-fly sometimes you feel depressed at those times you can actually change

at those times you can actually change

at those times you can actually change absolutely everything that happens in

absolutely everything that happens in

absolutely everything that happens in your life from the feeling down to

your life from the feeling down to

your life from the feeling down to feeling up for example right here the

feeling up for example right here the

feeling up for example right here the both of you let us think and everything

both of you let us think and everything

both of you let us think and everything is starting to become absolutely

is starting to become absolutely

is starting to become absolutely hilarious starting now and you know that

hilarious starting now and you know that

hilarious starting now and you know that laughter is contagious inspect from one

laughter is contagious inspect from one

laughter is contagious inspect from one person to another and the only thing

person to another and the only thing

person to another and the only thing that you do is when you concentrate you

that you do is when you concentrate you

that you do is when you concentrate you concentrates so well the same way

concentrates so well the same way

concentrates so well the same way everything is absolutely serious now

everything is absolutely serious now

everything is absolutely serious now that’s exactly how things work now I’m

that’s exactly how things work now I’m

that’s exactly how things work now I’m sure some of you may recognize this

sure some of you may recognize this

sure some of you may recognize this sound within this theater and it’s

sound within this theater and it’s

sound within this theater and it’s really imperative that you get towards

really imperative that you get towards

really imperative that you get towards the exit right now you’re gonna have to

the exit right now you’re gonna have to

the exit right now you’re gonna have to start moving excuse me serious danger

start moving excuse me serious danger

start moving excuse me serious danger there’s been a shark sighting and we

there’s been a shark sighting and we

there’s been a shark sighting and we need to go to the exit to the shark

need to go to the exit to the shark

need to go to the exit to the shark attack records and Mashable’s you

attack records and Mashable’s you

attack records and Mashable’s you actually have a better chance of getting

actually have a better chance of getting

actually have a better chance of getting killed well for the theater there are

killed well for the theater there are

killed well for the theater there are two exits three exit there’s really no

two exits three exit there’s really no

two exits three exit there’s really no alarm and please go ahead and sit what

alarm and please go ahead and sit what

alarm and please go ahead and sit what are you doing I see well put your shoe

are you doing I see well put your shoe

are you doing I see well put your shoe back on the end please both of you

back on the end please both of you

back on the end please both of you freeze but not only can you

freeze but not only can you

freeze but not only can you literally freeze the moment but this is

literally freeze the moment but this is

literally freeze the moment but this is the coolest part in the whole

the coolest part in the whole

the coolest part in the whole presentation you could actually wave a

presentation you could actually wave a

presentation you could actually wave a hand in front of their face and the eyes

hand in front of their face and the eyes

hand in front of their face and the eyes won’t even move to swatch isn’t that

won’t even move to swatch isn’t that

won’t even move to swatch isn’t that neat

neat

neat in both of you deep asleep now in deep

in both of you deep asleep now in deep

in both of you deep asleep now in deep asleep now for quite a few years I had a

asleep now for quite a few years I had a

asleep now for quite a few years I had a chance of being a regular guest expert

chance of being a regular guest expert

chance of being a regular guest expert on the Maury show helping people with

on the Maury show helping people with

on the Maury show helping people with weird and unusual eye fears and phobias

weird and unusual eye fears and phobias

weird and unusual eye fears and phobias and I got a lot of sight into this

and I got a lot of sight into this

and I got a lot of sight into this because not only did I figure out that

because not only did I figure out that

because not only did I figure out that phobias well let me tell you a little

phobias well let me tell you a little

phobias well let me tell you a little bit about phobias phobias and fears they

bit about phobias phobias and fears they

bit about phobias phobias and fears they trigger a response from each and every

trigger a response from each and every

trigger a response from each and every one of you and that we all have a

one of you and that we all have a

one of you and that we all have a response to whatever it is and on the

response to whatever it is and on the

response to whatever it is and on the show we had two schools of thought there

show we had two schools of thought there

show we had two schools of thought there was one where there were faced with a

was one where there were faced with a

was one where there were faced with a fear is something called flooding and

fear is something called flooding and

fear is something called flooding and then they were given to me to help them

then they were given to me to help them

then they were given to me to help them with the actual fear through hypnosis

with the actual fear through hypnosis

with the actual fear through hypnosis and one thing that I found that there

and one thing that I found that there

and one thing that I found that there was actually quite interesting is that

was actually quite interesting is that

was actually quite interesting is that fear is learned you do not get a fear

fear is learned you do not get a fear

fear is learned you do not get a fear you actually learned to be afraid if as

you actually learned to be afraid if as

you actually learned to be afraid if as a child you touch a hot stove next time

a child you touch a hot stove next time

a child you touch a hot stove next time you think twice about it and we have

you think twice about it and we have

you think twice about it and we have different reasons why we have a fear

different reasons why we have a fear

different reasons why we have a fear weather don’t like or misunderstand

weather don’t like or misunderstand

weather don’t like or misunderstand something we do it for self-preservation

something we do it for self-preservation

something we do it for self-preservation or oddly enough it’s passed down along

or oddly enough it’s passed down along

or oddly enough it’s passed down along from an authority figure and somebody

from an authority figure and somebody

from an authority figure and somebody like your parent or somebody just

like your parent or somebody just

like your parent or somebody just imagine if your mother jumped on top of

imagine if your mother jumped on top of

imagine if your mother jumped on top of a chair when she saw a mouse you would

a chair when she saw a mouse you would

a chair when she saw a mouse you would be doing exactly the same thing and we

be doing exactly the same thing and we

be doing exactly the same thing and we actually had a lady that brought her

actually had a lady that brought her

actually had a lady that brought her mother on the show who literally ended

mother on the show who literally ended

mother on the show who literally ended up being treated for the same thing

up being treated for the same thing

up being treated for the same thing herself where you know it was passed

herself where you know it was passed

herself where you know it was passed along this

along this

along this way we are constantly surrounded also by

way we are constantly surrounded also by

way we are constantly surrounded also by negativity a UCLA study at some point in

negativity a UCLA study at some point in

negativity a UCLA study at some point in time figured out that an average toddler

time figured out that an average toddler

time figured out that an average toddler hears the word no more than four hundred

hears the word no more than four hundred

hears the word no more than four hundred times a day and it’s up to you to change

times a day and it’s up to you to change

times a day and it’s up to you to change all of the nose in your life to the

all of the nose in your life to the

all of the nose in your life to the point where you are changing this nose

point where you are changing this nose

point where you are changing this nose into a yes and I actually call it

into a yes and I actually call it

into a yes and I actually call it prophetic thinking imagine your future

prophetic thinking imagine your future

prophetic thinking imagine your future and watch it materialize so the success

and watch it materialize so the success

and watch it materialize so the success is within your hands it’s always there

is within your hands it’s always there

is within your hands it’s always there you just never actually put it there’s

you just never actually put it there’s

you just never actually put it there’s so much negativity that you’re picking

so much negativity that you’re picking

so much negativity that you’re picking negativity out of the air and calling it

negativity out of the air and calling it

negativity out of the air and calling it your own

your own

your own I live by four simple words it’s a

I live by four simple words it’s a

I live by four simple words it’s a mantra that I actually took into my life

mantra that I actually took into my life

mantra that I actually took into my life and those words are you can do anything

and those words are you can do anything

and those words are you can do anything there’s no such thing as impossible

there’s no such thing as impossible

there’s no such thing as impossible there’s too many suggestions coming from

there’s too many suggestions coming from

there’s too many suggestions coming from the outside world that tell you that you

the outside world that tell you that you

the outside world that tell you that you can’t you can do anything I really mean

can’t you can do anything I really mean

can’t you can do anything I really mean that and the reason I say that is

that and the reason I say that is

that and the reason I say that is because there are fierce you create them

because there are fierce you create them

because there are fierce you create them yourself the more you get caught up in

yourself the more you get caught up in

yourself the more you get caught up in the negativity the more you start

the negativity the more you start

the negativity the more you start spiraling down the same thing is

spiraling down the same thing is

spiraling down the same thing is opposite impossible where you actually

opposite impossible where you actually

opposite impossible where you actually concentrate on the positive in your life

concentrate on the positive in your life

concentrate on the positive in your life because there’s no way for you just like

because there’s no way for you just like

because there’s no way for you just like what I’m gonna do in just a second to be

what I’m gonna do in just a second to be

what I’m gonna do in just a second to be that negative the negativity is what

that negative the negativity is what

that negative the negativity is what drives you all the time if you watch the

drives you all the time if you watch the

drives you all the time if you watch the news it’s not always about good news

news it’s not always about good news

news it’s not always about good news that’s why most of you are here watching

that’s why most of you are here watching

that’s why most of you are here watching the presentation but the TEDx right here

the presentation but the TEDx right here

the presentation but the TEDx right here today and when I wake you up when I wake

today and when I wake you up when I wake

today and when I wake you up when I wake both of you up it’s part of meditation

both of you up it’s part of meditation

both of you up it’s part of meditation part of your internal dialog when I wake

part of your internal dialog when I wake

part of your internal dialog when I wake you up both of you are feeling fantastic

you up both of you are feeling fantastic

you up both of you are feeling fantastic you’re feeling better than you ever have

you’re feeling better than you ever have

you’re feeling better than you ever have before they’re already feeling

before they’re already feeling

before they’re already feeling re-energized this silly suggestions are

re-energized this silly suggestions are

re-energized this silly suggestions are completely removed from your mind and

completely removed from your mind and

completely removed from your mind and you’re feeling great all of the

you’re feeling great all of the

you’re feeling great all of the negatives that you want to change in

negatives that you want to change in

negatives that you want to change in your mind have changed

your mind have changed

your mind have changed two positives becoming more and more

two positives becoming more and more

two positives becoming more and more aware of your surroundings body no

aware of your surroundings body no

aware of your surroundings body no longer heavy feeling great and

longer heavy feeling great and

longer heavy feeling great and absolutely wide awake now why do we now

absolutely wide awake now why do we now

absolutely wide awake now why do we now you have the control the answer is right

you have the control the answer is right

you have the control the answer is right there right in front of you it always

there right in front of you it always

there right in front of you it always has been you just have to see it it’s

has been you just have to see it it’s

has been you just have to see it it’s all about your emotional success