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she is a cyber jana
because if it’s a bitch because he has done is
a phrase that can be funny
but it’s also very cruel and it turns out that
this is the kind of thing we say to ourselves
women to other women
when something bothers us or we ‘re not
according to some behavior and
it turns out that that kind of phrases and this
type of supports is what they have given me
made life impossible since I was
very small
I have had a number of nicknames
that have made me suffer a lot and here
is going to tell you some because if I do not
I could stay here for three hours
the first of them that made my life
impossible was pallet delay of the
medium strawberries and because my skin
it looked exactly the same as the wait
the paddles had acne on my face and it was
very hard for me because I said like
be I have a mirror in my house I know
how I look I know that the skin is ugly and
out of having to face the penalty
leave my house here people would see me
with the skin like that at school
they pointed and they told me pallets delay of
let’s say it may seem like a
very harmless support but for me it gave me
even they are going to tell you something when
I was preparing this talk the end of
week Saturday the presentation and a
nothing thing again fill me
acne I looked a little similar and I think
that was for the mere fact of remembering
this episode of my trip was so hard
but let’s say that they overcome it
I will not say that I developed because
obviously I do not feel like it much but
it grows a little and I went from being a pamela
ramela castle ramela bone cap
it has to do with romera castle is of
flirtatious and they put that support
because every 15 days I got myself a
different boyfriend
let’s say my friends did not pass them
same and it was not enough for them to take me out
that nickname but they took me out of the group
because I was not worthy to be with
they were not worthy to sit on the
rest with them
then at this time of my day I
He was appointed and I felt there
I was doing normal behavior
of adolescence but he was
acting wrong trip everything was
doing wrong
I felt like it was the worst
prostitute of all because it is every 15
days he gave me kisses with the different boy
and I felt that the behavior was wrong
but super this stage as all are
they surpass but then they said bitch and this
nickname was simply because I took a
decision to take nude photos
but do not think that they are the photos
explicit were not some pictures
fenders were the photos very like
the soybean type holes and in the body of the
women declare in sopó but they told me
bitch because how are we in such a world
modern and everything is watered these photos are
they spread throughout the internet, including
chain that said is called pamela is
publicist and is in doubt
everyone pointed me even the
girlfriends of my friends started to
ban half of them with me and today
in day I still suffer from that but in that
moment I felt judged by all the
world felt that all eyes were
about me and that was a very hard episode
it took me several years to overcome it
today they still tell me how aip and your
nude photos on the internet you have like ok
I know that there is low and after that
let’s say that it has already passed from the stage in
that judged me by my behaviors
and there was a word that hurt me a lot
they told me in incapable and that was when
I went to find a job in a company
I really wanted to work there and the
person who interviewed me said that I did not
I was going to be able to have five
people because he had an appearance of
less age
that has nothing to do with it
have to see that he does not have the number of
wrinkles indicated to be able to lead a
group
I think my resume and in my
behaviors of my abilities where
you see things and at that moment I
judge by appearance and for
women we have always wanted to see
younger but at this moment for me
it was an obstacle and they have their
argument was always that with my face already
I was not going to be able to lead a
team be for me this hurt me
very much but let’s say that in life
there is a bad thing that does not come afterwards
I got a much better job but it’s
very sad that they do not give you a charge to
who is fully trained by the
way you light up and make it a something
a judgment that is a woman
after that they told me cheating
I was in a company I got a woman
Boss who is a lesbian and I want to clarify
because now we see from now on
we made them very friends I liked very much
and the rumors that they started to say in
that era was that I was unfaithful to me
boyfriend with her even when in my
record is never high with a woman
he has never had a girlfriend woman I do not have
nothing against this but not only in
the company but outside the world
he started to say that I was being
unfaithful to my boyfriend and simply because
I became a friend of lage and it turns out that
minus my boyfriend’s time was very
understanding he knew who I was and knew
that this was a rumor and nothing else
and by my type of concepts and my type of
props I see myself faced many times
and very sad because they are things that I do not
I am nothing are things that do not have to do
with what I have for me that I have here
so I always asked my
mom who is the one who got all the
queries that she is sitting and she called them
me to me because this happens to me because the
women say things about me that not only
because women attack me because the
women judge me and their response always
it was you are envious but it always gives
envy that are already prettier have
more silver are more successful
they envy me or they give or they do not have
nothing to envy me that answer to me
He never convinced me and he did not solve
the problem but let’s say what to
one does not destroy it makes it stronger
then to me it has always been a
very fair person and got into the
head that I did not want any
woman without land is what she was
feeling that she felt judged
signaled by subjection to at no time
I wanted a woman to feel like me
then I started to pay attention to a
phrase that we all know from the book very
famous that is called the bible and to put
the other cheek
so every time a woman
attacked what he started to do
I praise to tell you something positive to have
something nice in it to see the light that
was inside her and obviously so
if we are today we have to have two fingers of
front to know that if one is told
he imputes him and does not tell you I admire you
obviously they will not have how to respond
to that then from that moment I was
very young ago I started admiring the
women in a sincere way not for the
currency not for having a profit of their own
but for making her feel good because she is
the way I ‘ve always wanted
make me feel and then after
of this and how they see a moment so that
this is happening to me alone phrase I am
I ‘m the only one or I’m taking things
personally
then an experiment in which my
facebook asked the women if
Some other woman had done them the
impossible life
sadly the answers were the
The worst enemy of a woman is another woman
women understand each other and
They hate me this happens to me a lot of the
women love hurting others
women
and this struck me a lot because I did not
it was something that is only happening to me
me but they are happening many
women and that was also evident between
the men
I believe that here we all know that
we are the first to say
how ha ha
look at that pants but very few
Sometimes we see a man who does that
type of comments
unless it’s a man who has the
feminine side very developed but it is
something totally
then I was very shocked with
this but a friend told me fame
why not make the experiment
opposite because you do not ask anything else
and they ask my time they had
situations where a woman them
he had helped and he had shaken their hands
they will send me many many stories and
story is going to have one of them
It really impacted me and it was a woman who
he lives in chile he met a woman
here in Medellin on some trip
they kept chatting and it’s the chilean
told the country that her husband
I was hitting and this country woman where
he began to give emotional support
unconditional all the time but as
he saw that that was not enough and his
alliance with two other women of
Medellín and at a distance not only supported
emotionally but they paid him the
consultations with the therapist because the
Chili woman did not have what to pay for them
and today that Chilean woman separated
understood that it was she who allowed
these deals and she ‘s a woman
completely happy they changed their lives
of a woman because three women are
allied then I said ok this is nice
we women also do very
pretty and then sorry then I said
as hey I want to know why
then we act badly which is what we
it fails if we can do such good things
because we are acting badly and so look
Many I spoke with psychologists in the city
forest study of sociologists
university research and I
I found that my mom had a bit of
reason if it has to do with envy
but not only with envy has to
see also with when we see a threat
we want to eliminate it because it turns out that
it’s very primitive behaviors
the human being what he does is try to
eliminate any possible competition
but we have a difference for
gender men do to fists
men leave and fight head-on
or the other way that they do it is
boasting
build better houses and better weapons
today they have a yacht one more woman
that everything in a car with better
according to best car and women
precisely because of the instinct of
conservation that we have
we learned to use the brain and
we learned to attack women where
we know that women are hurt and
we do this for the simple fact of
we know that if we go to fists
we are going to suffer damage and very
possibly our raised to suffer
damage then this is something ancestral is
something primitive that we have and it’s called
indirect aggression that is something that
is scientifically studied and the
Indirect aggression consists of doing
damage without a trace and that’s why
when women do not say how I have but
why did I say that as I
never
and it turns out that even the victim
You can doubt they were attacking not
because we
nobody realizes what we are
doing we are so smart and so
capable as capable of attacking without
nobody notices
one of the tasks that I had when I started
to do this talk because they told me in
in front of these women who have
faced and I did it and someone who
they responded
me not for me but you’re imagining it was
it never happen
we women have that ability but
at least today and we already know that it is something
that we have since the primitive age and
as now and names for all that is
llama guarín that is woman more pudding or
woman
massa use and what we do is that
attack us constantly and has four
main points that are the ones
we always make reject is how are we going to
the farm but we do not invite camila
ignore is when walking tells us how
We went to the farm and we do not have it in
account despise them when camila
It takes something super cool for the farm and
we do not use it and where we are
Criticism specialists is when
walks on the farm puts on a dress
bathroom we say
Look how the fat man reads, we are already
specialists in doing that we are
specialists from lugo ding and what
more weight is the hardest thing is that the
govern is not made between enemies is done
between mom and daughter between sisters between
the best offers best friends
it’s something that is done all the time
we women turn our backs and we
we nail the dagger but do not worry
that the studies I found are not all
bad
it turns out that women have a
wiring different from ours
neurons work differently to how
work those of men and women
neurons reward us with pleasure when
we have compassionate and pro behaviors
social when we help someone is
as if we ate a chocolate is
as if he were giving us a kiss that person
what we like so much and we can see that
initiatives like pink rose is a
initiative of the CIA followed several
women to help women with
breast cancer but not only her
act from the prevention collect
funds do a lot of practice to
help eliminate or prevent this that
We affects both women case
not very far
was when the pot was uncovered in which
producer harvey weinstein was
sexually abusing many actresses
and only a few of them started to
talk
the other women started saying to me
it also happened to me already those that had not
past they began to support these
women started sending messages all
time and this became a mass in
love of women for women by
the conservation of women in
women we can do very nice things
And this is not new
if we go to history as I said
natalia now 60 years ago
five hundred women joined to
demand their right to vote and how we are
women we not only obtained the right to
vote
We also obtained an increase in our
larios and actions against their
people who were abusing against
women and women can do
magic when we decided to join
so I said good as a moment
moment if this is scientifically
proven that we can be so bad
as we want or as good as we want
where there is a vaccine or where we can
cure us of this evil in which we
we attack the others one another
in the back and it turns out that
scientifically the only cure is
talking and raising awareness to this
issue as well as we have worked problems
like slavery racism the
homophobia
in the same way the only way in the
that we can fight the word and talking
of this topic and raising awareness of those
we can help each other
and as I am a person who loves
be contrary
I invented a concept here I am
throwing and it’s called working woman more its
woman fortress more support and that’s not only
a word is a reminder in which
we know we can see the strengths
of a woman and support her with our
strengths is a word that we
remember that the only bridge between a
idea or a dream and the magic that we can
do together is between the union of
we
then today here in this crowd so
great I want women to raise
the hand women who want to do
part of what is called there was by team
who want to support each other
others
I love seeing so many hands raised
I really love it fills me with love and
faith that it is not a platform because
break a paradigm that comes from the
story but please the women
we can do what we want and then
that ‘s why it ‘s a chore
the first task something for you the first
task is that they just leave here and
can talk to a woman tell her a
praise
if it’s from something physical or something from your clothes
It’s fine but try to go a little
beyond try to say
I admire you, I like it, I like it
like how you express yourself start elboj
for women who have close though
do not know them much and that is the only
way in which we’re going to start
fight together
the body thank you very much
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