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[Applause] hi so I’m going to start my talk today
hi so I’m going to start my talk today
hi so I’m going to start my talk today by telling all of you that my biggest
by telling all of you that my biggest
by telling all of you that my biggest fear is that I will never be loved for
fear is that I will never be loved for
fear is that I will never be loved for who I am in a romantic relationship
who I am in a romantic relationship
who I am in a romantic relationship now some of you already going obviously
now some of you already going obviously
now some of you already going obviously you are morbidly obese some of you can
you are morbidly obese some of you can
you are morbidly obese some of you can see that I’m not wearing makeup
see that I’m not wearing makeup
see that I’m not wearing makeup some of you can see that I have a bit of
some of you can see that I have a bit of
some of you can see that I have a bit of a strange sense of style anyone who
a strange sense of style anyone who
a strange sense of style anyone who knows anything about African hair is
knows anything about African hair is
knows anything about African hair is wondering why haven’t you covered it up
wondering why haven’t you covered it up
wondering why haven’t you covered it up with a weave or with braids or
with a weave or with braids or
with a weave or with braids or straightened it with the same ingredient
straightened it with the same ingredient
straightened it with the same ingredient that we use to unblock the shower drain
that we use to unblock the shower drain
that we use to unblock the shower drain and I’m here to tell you that this is
and I’m here to tell you that this is
and I’m here to tell you that this is not a superficial problem so I went and
not a superficial problem so I went and
not a superficial problem so I went and searched on Google and I found out that
searched on Google and I found out that
searched on Google and I found out that when people look at me they expect me to
when people look at me they expect me to
when people look at me they expect me to be good at relationships because I’m a
be good at relationships because I’m a
be good at relationships because I’m a woman even worse they think I’m supposed
woman even worse they think I’m supposed
woman even worse they think I’m supposed to be nurturing and have nesting
to be nurturing and have nesting
to be nurturing and have nesting instincts right and I’m here to tell you
instincts right and I’m here to tell you
instincts right and I’m here to tell you I am terrible at relationships and
I am terrible at relationships and
I am terrible at relationships and managing relationships I find
managing relationships I find
managing relationships I find interacting with people in real life
interacting with people in real life
interacting with people in real life inefficient and exhausting also I’m also
inefficient and exhausting also I’m also
inefficient and exhausting also I’m also totally under masticated it takes me a
totally under masticated it takes me a
totally under masticated it takes me a month to do the same cause that other
month to do the same cause that other
month to do the same cause that other people get done in a week and when I was
people get done in a week and when I was
people get done in a week and when I was in medical school I learned that we each
in medical school I learned that we each
in medical school I learned that we each only get one biological mother and when
only get one biological mother and when
only get one biological mother and when she stops cooking cleaning doing your
she stops cooking cleaning doing your
she stops cooking cleaning doing your laundry and nagging you to look after
laundry and nagging you to look after
laundry and nagging you to look after yourself that’s it it doesn’t become my
yourself that’s it it doesn’t become my
yourself that’s it it doesn’t become my job because I’m a woman and anyway I
job because I’m a woman and anyway I
job because I’m a woman and anyway I don’t like doing that stuff for myself
don’t like doing that stuff for myself
don’t like doing that stuff for myself so why should I do it for someone else
so why should I do it for someone else
so why should I do it for someone else when I could be playing the late
when I could be playing the late
when I could be playing the late just call of duty I’m also I also find
just call of duty I’m also I also find
just call of duty I’m also I also find the idea of living with someone a bit
the idea of living with someone a bit
the idea of living with someone a bit ridiculous because I mean if Superman
ridiculous because I mean if Superman
ridiculous because I mean if Superman had a fortress of solitude surely
had a fortress of solitude surely
had a fortress of solitude surely everyone can understand that I need one
I have what used to be called Asperger’s
I have what used to be called Asperger’s syndrome which is just a
syndrome which is just a
syndrome which is just a high-functioning form of autism and you
high-functioning form of autism and you
high-functioning form of autism and you can read up some of the specifics after
can read up some of the specifics after
can read up some of the specifics after this talk but I think the main point is
this talk but I think the main point is
this talk but I think the main point is that I’m great at learning information
that I’m great at learning information
that I’m great at learning information that’s presented in a logical way like
that’s presented in a logical way like
that’s presented in a logical way like human physiology but I’m terrible at
human physiology but I’m terrible at
human physiology but I’m terrible at creating systems in the real world like
creating systems in the real world like
creating systems in the real world like putting objects correctly into a
putting objects correctly into a
putting objects correctly into a cupboard because there’s no formula for
cupboard because there’s no formula for
cupboard because there’s no formula for that and I need a formula all right
that and I need a formula all right
that and I need a formula all right this for me is wouldn’t be so bad but as
this for me is wouldn’t be so bad but as
this for me is wouldn’t be so bad but as a woman with autism the problem that I
a woman with autism the problem that I
a woman with autism the problem that I find with the rest of the world is when
find with the rest of the world is when
find with the rest of the world is when people talk about people who are nerdy
people talk about people who are nerdy
people talk about people who are nerdy intelligent socio qward socially
intelligent socio qward socially
intelligent socio qward socially isolated and who are obsessed with
isolated and who are obsessed with
isolated and who are obsessed with computer games but who can’t look after
computer games but who can’t look after
computer games but who can’t look after themselves they’re always talking about
themselves they’re always talking about
themselves they’re always talking about men so even if I’m honest about it
men so even if I’m honest about it
men so even if I’m honest about it people just don’t get it so I thought
people just don’t get it so I thought
people just don’t get it so I thought the best way to talk about being a woman
the best way to talk about being a woman
the best way to talk about being a woman with autism is to talk about dating
with autism is to talk about dating
with autism is to talk about dating right let’s go back to how I started all
right let’s go back to how I started all
right let’s go back to how I started all right let’s go back to my biggest fear
right let’s go back to my biggest fear
right let’s go back to my biggest fear and where it came from so I was about 12
and where it came from so I was about 12
and where it came from so I was about 12 when I started noticing that people form
when I started noticing that people form
when I started noticing that people form these you know primitive sort of pea
these you know primitive sort of pea
these you know primitive sort of pea bonds you know they would somehow do to
bonds you know they would somehow do to
bonds you know they would somehow do to some magic series of events a boy and a
some magic series of events a boy and a
some magic series of events a boy and a girl
girl
girl would come into school and announce that
would come into school and announce that
would come into school and announce that they were now boyfriend and girlfriend
they were now boyfriend and girlfriend
they were now boyfriend and girlfriend they would you know exchange letters
they would you know exchange letters
they would you know exchange letters they would be seen together between
they would be seen together between
they would be seen together between classes and it seemed like a like a
classes and it seemed like a like a
classes and it seemed like a like a great arrangement because when they were
great arrangement because when they were
great arrangement because when they were in this you know relationship then they
in this you know relationship then they
in this you know relationship then they were happy but
were happy but
were happy but when they you know went through what was
when they you know went through what was
when they you know went through what was called a breakup then they were sad and
called a breakup then they were sad and
called a breakup then they were sad and even cruel to each other so I thought
even cruel to each other so I thought
even cruel to each other so I thought yeah totally want some of this boyfriend
yeah totally want some of this boyfriend
yeah totally want some of this boyfriend and girlfriend action so I sat down and
and girlfriend action so I sat down and
and girlfriend action so I sat down and I cataloged all the boys in my class and
I cataloged all the boys in my class and
I cataloged all the boys in my class and I looked for the ones who looked like
I looked for the ones who looked like
I looked for the ones who looked like the lead singer of extreme they’re the
the lead singer of extreme they’re the
the lead singer of extreme they’re the band who sang more than words if anyone
band who sang more than words if anyone
band who sang more than words if anyone knows him because this this seemed like
knows him because this this seemed like
knows him because this this seemed like a good criteria at the time so I
a good criteria at the time so I
a good criteria at the time so I selected a test subject who met the
selected a test subject who met the
selected a test subject who met the eligibility criteria and then observed
eligibility criteria and then observed
eligibility criteria and then observed them in formal and informal settings and
them in formal and informal settings and
them in formal and informal settings and I would shut down my observations and
I would shut down my observations and
I would shut down my observations and you know after a few weeks I’d review
you know after a few weeks I’d review
you know after a few weeks I’d review them write them up in a form of a report
them write them up in a form of a report
them write them up in a form of a report and then deliver that to the test
and then deliver that to the test
and then deliver that to the test subject with the obvious conclusion that
subject with the obvious conclusion that
subject with the obvious conclusion that based on my excellent observations we
based on my excellent observations we
based on my excellent observations we would make a great boyfriend and
would make a great boyfriend and
would make a great boyfriend and girlfriend partnership and for the life
girlfriend partnership and for the life
girlfriend partnership and for the life of me I could not understand why this
of me I could not understand why this
of me I could not understand why this rational approach always failed
rational approach always failed
rational approach always failed ok ok to be fair to be fair they were
ok ok to be fair to be fair they were
ok ok to be fair to be fair they were other issues I was a black and native
other issues I was a black and native
other issues I was a black and native english-speaking girl growing up in
english-speaking girl growing up in
english-speaking girl growing up in South Africa in the mid to late 1990s so
South Africa in the mid to late 1990s so
South Africa in the mid to late 1990s so the South African black people called me
the South African black people called me
the South African black people called me horrible names like coconut which means
horrible names like coconut which means
horrible names like coconut which means you’re brown on the outside and white on
you’re brown on the outside and white on
you’re brown on the outside and white on the inside or they said I was too
the inside or they said I was too
the inside or they said I was too masculine or they said I was too
masculine or they said I was too
masculine or they said I was too intelligent right but then on the other
intelligent right but then on the other
intelligent right but then on the other hand you had white people who thought
hand you had white people who thought
hand you had white people who thought that dating me was immoral or disgusting
that dating me was immoral or disgusting
that dating me was immoral or disgusting or embarrassing right and then you had
or embarrassing right and then you had
or embarrassing right and then you had all these people in between who were
all these people in between who were
all these people in between who were like I just leave us out of it please we
like I just leave us out of it please we
like I just leave us out of it please we don’t want to be involved you know and
don’t want to be involved you know and
don’t want to be involved you know and even after coming to Germany where I’ve
even after coming to Germany where I’ve
even after coming to Germany where I’ve had the benefit of meeting very educated
had the benefit of meeting very educated
had the benefit of meeting very educated and very liberal people things have
and very liberal people things have
and very liberal people things have gotten better but the autism related
gotten better but the autism related
gotten better but the autism related difficulties are still there
difficulties are still there
difficulties are still there so anyway for about 20 years I tried
so anyway for about 20 years I tried
so anyway for about 20 years I tried many different things to try and achieve
many different things to try and achieve
many different things to try and achieve this boyfriend and girlfriend status
this boyfriend and girlfriend status
this boyfriend and girlfriend status right one of the most ambitious things I
right one of the most ambitious things I
right one of the most ambitious things I did was learning how to code because I
did was learning how to code because I
did was learning how to code because I really believed but the guy that I liked
really believed but the guy that I liked
really believed but the guy that I liked was gonna walk into the computer labs
was gonna walk into the computer labs
was gonna walk into the computer labs and he was gonna go you’ve got going
and he was gonna go you’ve got going
and he was gonna go you’ve got going [Applause]
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[Laughter] obviously he was gonna sweep me into his
obviously he was gonna sweep me into his
obviously he was gonna sweep me into his arms and say I’ve never met anyone like
arms and say I’ve never met anyone like
arms and say I’ve never met anyone like you you know I would feel faint you know
you you know I would feel faint you know
you you know I would feel faint you know the light would shine down from heaven
the light would shine down from heaven
the light would shine down from heaven angels would start singing and of course
angels would start singing and of course
angels would start singing and of course we would live happily ever after I did
we would live happily ever after I did
we would live happily ever after I did get more practical as time went on one
get more practical as time went on one
get more practical as time went on one thing another thing I did was to study
thing another thing I did was to study
thing another thing I did was to study you know dating self-help books for like
you know dating self-help books for like
you know dating self-help books for like four years because now dating was a
four years because now dating was a
four years because now dating was a degree and I was trying to you know pass
degree and I was trying to you know pass
degree and I was trying to you know pass the course and this this was actually
the course and this this was actually
the course and this this was actually useful because I learned that as a woman
useful because I learned that as a woman
useful because I learned that as a woman with autism eye contact is unbearable
with autism eye contact is unbearable
with autism eye contact is unbearable for me but this eye contact thing is
for me but this eye contact thing is
for me but this eye contact thing is where this whole boyfriend and
where this whole boyfriend and
where this whole boyfriend and girlfriend thing starts in the first
girlfriend thing starts in the first
girlfriend thing starts in the first place
place
place unfortunately failing over and over
unfortunately failing over and over
unfortunately failing over and over again was really difficult for me so in
again was really difficult for me so in
again was really difficult for me so in the end I would end up going and and I
the end I would end up going and and I
the end I would end up going and and I would and I would eat to relieve my
would and I would eat to relieve my
would and I would eat to relieve my frustration I mean at one stage my
frustration I mean at one stage my
frustration I mean at one stage my comfort food was an entire apple pie
comfort food was an entire apple pie
comfort food was an entire apple pie with you know cream and now that I have
with you know cream and now that I have
with you know cream and now that I have and now that I have tried to live with
and now that I have tried to live with
and now that I have tried to live with the diagnosis openly I understand the
the diagnosis openly I understand the
the diagnosis openly I understand the problem
problem
problem if I want to develop emotional intimacy
if I want to develop emotional intimacy
if I want to develop emotional intimacy with people and have them know me for
with people and have them know me for
with people and have them know me for who I am I have to be honest
who I am I have to be honest
who I am I have to be honest and this means saying things like
and this means saying things like
and this means saying things like actually I don’t
actually I don’t
actually I don’t I find physical stimulation unpleasant
I find physical stimulation unpleasant
I find physical stimulation unpleasant or say I can’t go to a restaurant
or say I can’t go to a restaurant
or say I can’t go to a restaurant because that the way cutlery goes makes
because that the way cutlery goes makes
because that the way cutlery goes makes me feel like my eardrums are bleeding
me feel like my eardrums are bleeding
me feel like my eardrums are bleeding and saying things like this to people
and saying things like this to people
and saying things like this to people you know being honest about it makes
you know being honest about it makes
you know being honest about it makes people think oh well I mean clearly you
people think oh well I mean clearly you
people think oh well I mean clearly you you don’t want a serious relationship
you don’t want a serious relationship
you don’t want a serious relationship which is sad because as a woman with
which is sad because as a woman with
which is sad because as a woman with autism instead of learning that dating
autism instead of learning that dating
autism instead of learning that dating is fun exciting leads to long-term
is fun exciting leads to long-term
is fun exciting leads to long-term partnership I learnt that dating leads
partnership I learnt that dating leads
partnership I learnt that dating leads to rejection coercion arguments abuse
to rejection coercion arguments abuse
to rejection coercion arguments abuse sadness and at the end of the day
sadness and at the end of the day
sadness and at the end of the day everyone else made me feel like I was
everyone else made me feel like I was
everyone else made me feel like I was unworthy of love just because I was too
unworthy of love just because I was too
unworthy of love just because I was too different and on the other hand I
different and on the other hand I
different and on the other hand I couldn’t find a rational argument to
couldn’t find a rational argument to
couldn’t find a rational argument to explain away this feeling of wanting to
explain away this feeling of wanting to
explain away this feeling of wanting to connect intimately with people because I
connect intimately with people because I
connect intimately with people because I mean wanting love is something that’s
mean wanting love is something that’s
mean wanting love is something that’s common to all of us whether you have
common to all of us whether you have
common to all of us whether you have autism or not so I’m really very glad
autism or not so I’m really very glad
autism or not so I’m really very glad that I’ve had this opportunity to say
that I’ve had this opportunity to say
that I’ve had this opportunity to say this talk to all of you today because
this talk to all of you today because
this talk to all of you today because it’s been so therapeutic
it’s been so therapeutic
it’s been so therapeutic I even even medical professionals and
I even even medical professionals and
I even even medical professionals and psychologists will cut me off when I try
psychologists will cut me off when I try
psychologists will cut me off when I try and talk about this stuff and say don’t
and talk about this stuff and say don’t
and talk about this stuff and say don’t worry don’t worry you’ll figure it out
worry don’t worry you’ll figure it out
worry don’t worry you’ll figure it out right and I mean I’m 35 now when exactly
right and I mean I’m 35 now when exactly
right and I mean I’m 35 now when exactly you know so let’s talk about some ways
you know so let’s talk about some ways
you know so let’s talk about some ways that people can meet me in the middle
that people can meet me in the middle
that people can meet me in the middle because I know that I am not the only
because I know that I am not the only
because I know that I am not the only woman who struggles with this but the
woman who struggles with this but the
woman who struggles with this but the problem is other women don’t want to
problem is other women don’t want to
problem is other women don’t want to talk about it because it’s embarrassing
talk about it because it’s embarrassing
talk about it because it’s embarrassing to suck so badly at something that
to suck so badly at something that
to suck so badly at something that everybody else around you thinks is
everybody else around you thinks is
everybody else around you thinks is completely natural you know
completely natural you know
completely natural you know so one I mean the first thing I have to
so one I mean the first thing I have to
so one I mean the first thing I have to say is if you want to date someone with
say is if you want to date someone with
say is if you want to date someone with autism please go and read up about it
autism please go and read up about it
autism please go and read up about it first it it saves so much hassle you’ll
first it it saves so much hassle you’ll
first it it saves so much hassle you’ll react with understanding and sympathy
react with understanding and sympathy
react with understanding and sympathy instead of with rejection and ridicule
instead of with rejection and ridicule
instead of with rejection and ridicule secondly I wish I could meet someone who
secondly I wish I could meet someone who
secondly I wish I could meet someone who would have a no talking date with me so
would have a no talking date with me so
would have a no talking date with me so that means we sit and communicate using
that means we sit and communicate using
that means we sit and communicate using handheld devices but we’re sitting right
handheld devices but we’re sitting right
handheld devices but we’re sitting right next to each other so we still have the
next to each other so we still have the
next to each other so we still have the real-life connection and if you’re
real-life connection and if you’re
real-life connection and if you’re wondering why if you’re wondering why
wondering why if you’re wondering why
wondering why if you’re wondering why this is because for someone with autism
this is because for someone with autism
this is because for someone with autism dealing with conversation is one of the
dealing with conversation is one of the
dealing with conversation is one of the most overwhelming things in the world
most overwhelming things in the world
most overwhelming things in the world because when I’m having a conversation
because when I’m having a conversation
because when I’m having a conversation I’m watching your body language which I
I’m watching your body language which I
I’m watching your body language which I don’t really understand anyway I mean
don’t really understand anyway I mean
don’t really understand anyway I mean facial expressions all confusing right
facial expressions all confusing right
facial expressions all confusing right I’m trying to listen to what you’re
I’m trying to listen to what you’re
I’m trying to listen to what you’re saying but then I’m also trying to block
saying but then I’m also trying to block
saying but then I’m also trying to block out all the sounds and the noise and cut
out all the sounds and the noise and cut
out all the sounds and the noise and cut what’s going on I’m trying to read your
what’s going on I’m trying to read your
what’s going on I’m trying to read your lips because I’m also trying to make
lips because I’m also trying to make
lips because I’m also trying to make sure that I don’t miss what yours if I
sure that I don’t miss what yours if I
sure that I don’t miss what yours if I miss anything that I can’t hear I’ve got
miss anything that I can’t hear I’ve got
miss anything that I can’t hear I’ve got to pick it up from your lips and then
to pick it up from your lips and then
to pick it up from your lips and then I’ve also got to worry about myself I
I’ve also got to worry about myself I
I’ve also got to worry about myself I have to make sure that my own face isn’t
have to make sure that my own face isn’t
have to make sure that my own face isn’t the right configuration to say oh I’m
the right configuration to say oh I’m
the right configuration to say oh I’m having fun but I have to I have to have
having fun but I have to I have to have
having fun but I have to I have to have to edit what I’m saying so that I make
to edit what I’m saying so that I make
to edit what I’m saying so that I make sure that I don’t offend you some you
sure that I don’t offend you some you
sure that I don’t offend you some you know accidentally I have to monitor my
know accidentally I have to monitor my
know accidentally I have to monitor my own body language and and and deal with
own body language and and and deal with
own body language and and and deal with my own discomfort because even things
my own discomfort because even things
my own discomfort because even things even sensory stimulation like having
even sensory stimulation like having
even sensory stimulation like having smart clothes on is unbearable for me
smart clothes on is unbearable for me
smart clothes on is unbearable for me it’s it’s horrible so I would actually
it’s it’s horrible so I would actually
it’s it’s horrible so I would actually truly be rather be in my room
truly be rather be in my room
truly be rather be in my room you know barefoot in front of my
you know barefoot in front of my
you know barefoot in front of my computer but I make the effort to go out
computer but I make the effort to go out
computer but I make the effort to go out and interact with people in person so it
and interact with people in person so it
and interact with people in person so it would be nice if people could meet me
would be nice if people could meet me
would be nice if people could meet me halfway I think the next thing to say is
halfway I think the next thing to say is
halfway I think the next thing to say is please verbalize right it’s I know you
please verbalize right it’s I know you
please verbalize right it’s I know you guys all understand what a what a wink
guys all understand what a what a wink
guys all understand what a what a wink or a head tilt means but we may even
or a head tilt means but we may even
or a head tilt means but we may even notice if we even understand what you’re
notice if we even understand what you’re
notice if we even understand what you’re doing right
doing right
doing right ideally you should say things like I’m
ideally you should say things like I’m
ideally you should say things like I’m having a really good time with you and
having a really good time with you and
having a really good time with you and I’d like to put my arm around you now so
I’d like to put my arm around you now so
I’d like to put my arm around you now so that we can logically process the
that we can logically process the
that we can logically process the information and prepare for the
information and prepare for the
information and prepare for the stimulation that’s going to come instead
stimulation that’s going to come instead
stimulation that’s going to come instead of going touching and I think the last
of going touching and I think the last
of going touching and I think the last point for me is that you have to
point for me is that you have to
point for me is that you have to remember that someone who’s a woman with
remember that someone who’s a woman with
remember that someone who’s a woman with autism has probably been traumatized by
autism has probably been traumatized by
autism has probably been traumatized by the dating process for me I didn’t even
the dating process for me I didn’t even
the dating process for me I didn’t even know what being hit on was until I was
know what being hit on was until I was
know what being hit on was until I was in my mid-twenties so if someone came up
in my mid-twenties so if someone came up
in my mid-twenties so if someone came up to me in the supermarket or in you know
to me in the supermarket or in you know
to me in the supermarket or in you know in a public place and wouldn’t leave me
in a public place and wouldn’t leave me
in a public place and wouldn’t leave me alone I would you know scream and get
alone I would you know scream and get
alone I would you know scream and get upset because I thought they were trying
upset because I thought they were trying
upset because I thought they were trying to kidnap me or something and on the
to kidnap me or something and on the
to kidnap me or something and on the other hand now that I’m older and I have
other hand now that I’m older and I have
other hand now that I’m older and I have more experience
more experience
more experience I’m afraid whenever someone shows
I’m afraid whenever someone shows
I’m afraid whenever someone shows interest in me because they expect me to
interest in me because they expect me to
interest in me because they expect me to have a huge amount of dating experience
have a huge amount of dating experience
have a huge amount of dating experience that I just don’t have so a good example
that I just don’t have so a good example
that I just don’t have so a good example was recently I was dating someone who
was recently I was dating someone who
was recently I was dating someone who brought up the topic of moving in
brought up the topic of moving in
brought up the topic of moving in together just a few weeks into dating
together just a few weeks into dating
together just a few weeks into dating you know most other woman would be like
you know most other woman would be like
you know most other woman would be like yes score you know and instead I was
yes score you know and instead I was
yes score you know and instead I was like you know and this it’s something
like you know and this it’s something
like you know and this it’s something that you have to accept that these
that you have to accept that these
that you have to accept that these relationship milestones are just going
relationship milestones are just going
relationship milestones are just going to take longer and it’s something that
to take longer and it’s something that
to take longer and it’s something that everyone else has to deal with so after
everyone else has to deal with so after
everyone else has to deal with so after telling you all of this stuff about
telling you all of this stuff about
telling you all of this stuff about women with autism why would you want to
women with autism why would you want to
women with autism why would you want to date them anyway we sound kind of
date them anyway we sound kind of
date them anyway we sound kind of complicated and difficult right well one
complicated and difficult right well one
complicated and difficult right well one good thing I can tell you is that I
good thing I can tell you is that I
good thing I can tell you is that I definitely regard the people that I’m in
definitely regard the people that I’m in
definitely regard the people that I’m in love with with the sense of like
love with with the sense of like
love with with the sense of like childlike admiration and wonder instead
childlike admiration and wonder instead
childlike admiration and wonder instead of checking off you know points on a
of checking off you know points on a
of checking off you know points on a list like is he gonna be a good
list like is he gonna be a good
list like is he gonna be a good breadwinner yeah I I try and use my
breadwinner yeah I I try and use my
breadwinner yeah I I try and use my abilities and my weirdness you know to
abilities and my weirdness you know to
abilities and my weirdness you know to make life better for the other person
make life better for the other person
make life better for the other person because I want to make
because I want to make
because I want to make up for not being a typical girlfriend
up for not being a typical girlfriend
up for not being a typical girlfriend I’m loyal I’m passionate and I’m intense
I’m loyal I’m passionate and I’m intense
I’m loyal I’m passionate and I’m intense I’m a woman with autism and I reward
I’m a woman with autism and I reward
I’m a woman with autism and I reward understanding direct communication and
understanding direct communication and
understanding direct communication and tolerance with unconditional there’s
tolerance with unconditional there’s
tolerance with unconditional there’s thank you
thank you
thank you [Applause]
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