what happened to you during this short silence did it bring you more or less in
silence did it bring you more or less in
silence did it bring you more or less in contact with yourself your neighbor the
contact with yourself your neighbor the
contact with yourself your neighbor the whole audience or the space in between
whole audience or the space in between
whole audience or the space in between us I’ll leave that question to you what
us I’ll leave that question to you what
us I’ll leave that question to you what I do know is when we enter the silence
I do know is when we enter the silence
I do know is when we enter the silence we entered yes we we we enter the shared
we entered yes we we we enter the shared
we entered yes we we we enter the shared domain and that share domain has a
domain and that share domain has a
domain and that share domain has a certain quality in that share domain in
certain quality in that share domain in
certain quality in that share domain in that silence were equal we equal in the
that silence were equal we equal in the
that silence were equal we equal in the light of something bigger am I talking
light of something bigger am I talking
light of something bigger am I talking about God or something
about God or something
about God or something no I’m talking about a Hertz
no I’m talking about a Hertz
no I’m talking about a Hertz a herd of horses horses have survived
a herd of horses horses have survived
a herd of horses horses have survived for 65 million years by the wisdom of
for 65 million years by the wisdom of
for 65 million years by the wisdom of the earth horses are prey animals horses
the earth horses are prey animals horses
the earth horses are prey animals horses are probably more a we than a me she it
are probably more a we than a me she it
are probably more a we than a me she it happens always and always on the right
happens always and always on the right
happens always and always on the right moment so what interesting is all the
moment so what interesting is all the
moment so what interesting is all the information of the herd is still present
information of the herd is still present
information of the herd is still present in every single horse you meet every
in every single horse you meet every
in every single horse you meet every single horse you meet you can meet the
single horse you meet you can meet the
single horse you meet you can meet the wisdom of the whole herd you can make
wisdom of the whole herd you can make
wisdom of the whole herd you can make contact with the soul of the herd but
contact with the soul of the herd but
contact with the soul of the herd but for us humans is not so easy to get
for us humans is not so easy to get
for us humans is not so easy to get access to that information and that’s
access to that information and that’s
access to that information and that’s because for the simple reason we are
because for the simple reason we are
because for the simple reason we are predators
predators
predators we are predators because we think in
we are predators because we think in
we are predators because we think in lines they move in circles we think in
lines they move in circles we think in
lines they move in circles we think in goals in focus
goals in focus
goals in focus for her movement in itself is the most
for her movement in itself is the most
for her movement in itself is the most essence element for us dependency is
essence element for us dependency is
essence element for us dependency is something we have we have at least
something we have we have at least
something we have we have at least ambivalent emotion about for her
ambivalent emotion about for her
ambivalent emotion about for her dependency is a blessing but if we can
dependency is a blessing but if we can
dependency is a blessing but if we can connect in a way that she allows us to
connect in a way that she allows us to
connect in a way that she allows us to be part of her hurt then we can get
be part of her hurt then we can get
be part of her hurt then we can get access to vital information about a way
access to vital information about a way
access to vital information about a way we are connected to our own hurt our
we are connected to our own hurt our
we are connected to our own hurt our grandfathers our grandmothers everything
grandfathers our grandmothers everything
grandfathers our grandmothers everything which happens in our history everything
which happens in our history everything
which happens in our history everything which made us what we are right now why
which made us what we are right now why
which made us what we are right now why because she will tell you in a split
because she will tell you in a split
because she will tell you in a split second if you are a reliable member of
second if you are a reliable member of
second if you are a reliable member of the hood and it’s nothing personal it’s
the hood and it’s nothing personal it’s
the hood and it’s nothing personal it’s nothing personal it’s just feedback or
nothing personal it’s just feedback or
nothing personal it’s just feedback or feed-forward whatever you call it from
feed-forward whatever you call it from
feed-forward whatever you call it from with rooted back to the soul of the hood
with rooted back to the soul of the hood
with rooted back to the soul of the hood it’s not personal
first let me introduce you to us now
first let me introduce you to us now this is Kelly and she’s my leading man
this is Kelly and she’s my leading man
this is Kelly and she’s my leading man it touches me when she makes contact in
it touches me when she makes contact in
it touches me when she makes contact in this way yeah
this way yeah
this way yeah she’s 31 years old she’s my leading
she’s 31 years old she’s my leading
she’s 31 years old she’s my leading mayor and my name is whit whit Clara I’m
mayor and my name is whit whit Clara I’m
mayor and my name is whit whit Clara I’m a coach consultant and I work with the
a coach consultant and I work with the
a coach consultant and I work with the wisdom of the hurt in transformation
wisdom of the hurt in transformation
wisdom of the hurt in transformation processes in companies and on a personal
processes in companies and on a personal
processes in companies and on a personal level both when I bought her when I met
level both when I bought her when I met
level both when I bought her when I met her she was given up for dressage
her she was given up for dressage
her she was given up for dressage because she cannot bend because of her
because she cannot bend because of her
because she cannot bend because of her back problems so this horse had no
back problems so this horse had no
back problems so this horse had no future and that was a safe here at the
future and that was a safe here at the
future and that was a safe here at the time I looked at her and I thought I’m
time I looked at her and I thought I’m
time I looked at her and I thought I’m gonna save you but in fact
gonna save you but in fact
gonna save you but in fact she saved me how did this happen again
it’s nice it’s nice that you noticed
it’s nice it’s nice that you noticed that that she first asked me for this
that that she first asked me for this
that that she first asked me for this movement and then I say okay go and she
movement and then I say okay go and she
movement and then I say okay go and she makes it
makes it
makes it I worked for two years every day every
I worked for two years every day every
I worked for two years every day every hour every minute every second and with
hour every minute every second and with
hour every minute every second and with every minute I could get my hands on to
every minute I could get my hands on to
every minute I could get my hands on to get in real contact with her but she
get in real contact with her but she
get in real contact with her but she didn’t allow me
didn’t allow me
didn’t allow me she just didn’t allow me I was totally
she just didn’t allow me I was totally
she just didn’t allow me I was totally obsessed with it two years long till one
obsessed with it two years long till one
obsessed with it two years long till one morning one Saturday morning she was
morning one Saturday morning she was
morning one Saturday morning she was standing in a paddock in the corner and
standing in a paddock in the corner and
standing in a paddock in the corner and the session ended the same as all the
the session ended the same as all the
the session ended the same as all the sessions before
sessions before
sessions before carolien standing in the corner her back
carolien standing in the corner her back
carolien standing in the corner her back towards me stiff no options to move and
towards me stiff no options to move and
towards me stiff no options to move and I was waiting in the middle waiting for
I was waiting in the middle waiting for
I was waiting in the middle waiting for something to happened but she could not
something to happened but she could not
something to happened but she could not escape there was so much pressure and
escape there was so much pressure and
escape there was so much pressure and this morning the same thing happened but
this morning the same thing happened but
this morning the same thing happened but I saw something different
I saw something different
I saw something different and I couldn’t look at it anymore
and I couldn’t look at it anymore
and I couldn’t look at it anymore and I just I know I remember it I turned
and I just I know I remember it I turned
and I just I know I remember it I turned around but it was too late it was too
around but it was too late it was too
around but it was too late it was too late because the picture of her so
late because the picture of her so
late because the picture of her so frozen in the corner had already hit my
frozen in the corner had already hit my
frozen in the corner had already hit my body it just hit my body and my head
body it just hit my body and my head
body it just hit my body and my head became dizzy my legs became heavy and
became dizzy my legs became heavy and
became dizzy my legs became heavy and there was this unknown pain which flow
there was this unknown pain which flow
there was this unknown pain which flow to my to my body and it must have been
to my to my body and it must have been
to my to my body and it must have been there for a very very long time and it
there for a very very long time and it
there for a very very long time and it was so strange because in that moment I
was so strange because in that moment I
was so strange because in that moment I heard a deep right beside me and I felt
heard a deep right beside me and I felt
heard a deep right beside me and I felt three whiskers nose hairs tickling
three whiskers nose hairs tickling
three whiskers nose hairs tickling against the back of my hand for the
against the back of my hand for the
against the back of my hand for the first time Caelian stood right beside me
first time Caelian stood right beside me
first time Caelian stood right beside me right behind me for the first time she
right behind me for the first time she
right behind me for the first time she allowed me to be part of her hood and
allowed me to be part of her hood and
allowed me to be part of her hood and more important maybe I had become part
more important maybe I had become part
more important maybe I had become part of my of my own hood of my own in a hood
miron I want you to ask you to take
miron I want you to ask you to take Kelly in with you just my daughter thank
Kelly in with you just my daughter thank
Kelly in with you just my daughter thank you very much
after that moment with Caelian my own
after that moment with Caelian my own learning moment I became a horse’s head
learning moment I became a horse’s head
learning moment I became a horse’s head coach and ten years later I’m standing
coach and ten years later I’m standing
coach and ten years later I’m standing in a riding school in a Manish it was a
in a riding school in a Manish it was a
in a riding school in a Manish it was a seminar it was a seminar about personal
seminar it was a seminar about personal
seminar it was a seminar about personal issues and there was this all the woman
issues and there was this all the woman
issues and there was this all the woman who comes to me I think she was 65 years
who comes to me I think she was 65 years
who comes to me I think she was 65 years old she looks at me and she says I have
old she looks at me and she says I have
old she looks at me and she says I have a rather difficult heavy issue and you
a rather difficult heavy issue and you
a rather difficult heavy issue and you know I don’t want to talk about it but
know I don’t want to talk about it but
know I don’t want to talk about it but maybe I can look at it can you help me I
maybe I can look at it can you help me I
maybe I can look at it can you help me I said yes but I didn’t know how and we
said yes but I didn’t know how and we
said yes but I didn’t know how and we started the seminar I know I remember
started the seminar I know I remember
started the seminar I know I remember and there was first was a guy who went
and there was first was a guy who went
and there was first was a guy who went into the paddock but the horse couldn’t
into the paddock but the horse couldn’t
into the paddock but the horse couldn’t connect to the guy because it was
connect to the guy because it was
connect to the guy because it was already connected to that woman and the
already connected to that woman and the
already connected to that woman and the horse stood still in front of that woman
horse stood still in front of that woman
horse stood still in front of that woman on one meter distance in total silence
on one meter distance in total silence
on one meter distance in total silence with only the rope in between them and
with only the rope in between them and
with only the rope in between them and it was such a silence it had such a
it was such a silence it had such a
it was such a silence it had such a waited everyone in the group
waited everyone in the group
waited everyone in the group instinctively moved backwards to make
instinctively moved backwards to make
instinctively moved backwards to make space for the process which happened and
space for the process which happened and
space for the process which happened and what I saw was this deep interaction
what I saw was this deep interaction
what I saw was this deep interaction this woman sitting with her hands on her
this woman sitting with her hands on her
this woman sitting with her hands on her lap receiving whatever it was in full
lap receiving whatever it was in full
lap receiving whatever it was in full contact with the horse in totally
contact with the horse in totally
contact with the horse in totally silence and a sentence hit me it
silence and a sentence hit me it
silence and a sentence hit me it top it was not my sentence it came from
top it was not my sentence it came from
top it was not my sentence it came from out of the field and because I promised
out of the field and because I promised
out of the field and because I promised her not to speak I said it in my head
her not to speak I said it in my head
her not to speak I said it in my head and the sentence was dear child when
and the sentence was dear child when
and the sentence was dear child when it’s my time I will follow you and she
it’s my time I will follow you and she
it’s my time I will follow you and she looked at me I was just it not was the
looked at me I was just it not was the
looked at me I was just it not was the end of the session and after the seminar
end of the session and after the seminar
end of the session and after the seminar she comes to me again
she comes to me again
she comes to me again she says Ruth thank you and your horse
she says Ruth thank you and your horse
she says Ruth thank you and your horse for offering me the possibility to look
for offering me the possibility to look
for offering me the possibility to look at my firstborn child who died
at my firstborn child who died
at my firstborn child who died immediately for the first time she was
immediately for the first time she was
immediately for the first time she was 65 years old and she continued
65 years old and she continued
65 years old and she continued it’s a strange I feel more connected
it’s a strange I feel more connected
it’s a strange I feel more connected with him than ever and it’s so strange I
with him than ever and it’s so strange I
with him than ever and it’s so strange I feel more alive than ever and moreover
feel more alive than ever and moreover
feel more alive than ever and moreover in some kind of silly way I feel open
in some kind of silly way I feel open
in some kind of silly way I feel open for everything to come and I was
for everything to come and I was
for everything to come and I was flabbergasted and I looked at her I
flabbergasted and I looked at her I
flabbergasted and I looked at her I looked at her face there was no emotion
looked at her face there was no emotion
looked at her face there was no emotion no drama no tears nothing what I saw
no drama no tears nothing what I saw
no drama no tears nothing what I saw what I noticed what she entered another
what I noticed what she entered another
what I noticed what she entered another state and I call it a wee state a wee
state and I call it a wee state a wee
state and I call it a wee state a wee state
it was the first time in her life she
it was the first time in her life she looked at this very dramatic event for a
looked at this very dramatic event for a
looked at this very dramatic event for a moderates it’s dramatic when you lose
moderates it’s dramatic when you lose
moderates it’s dramatic when you lose your child and now she had looked at it
your child and now she had looked at it
your child and now she had looked at it until then she could not look at it she
until then she could not look at it she
until then she could not look at it she had excluded it from her life she had
had excluded it from her life she had
had excluded it from her life she had excluded it from her past
excluded it from her past
excluded it from her past and now it was included she was no
and now it was included she was no
and now it was included she was no longer separated from her past but had
longer separated from her past but had
longer separated from her past but had become a part of it and feyza feyza the
become a part of it and feyza feyza the
become a part of it and feyza feyza the past had become a part of her life like
past had become a part of her life like
past had become a part of her life like a like a source like a resource and the
a like a source like a resource and the
a like a source like a resource and the strength to say about such an event
Dennis what the horses do this is what
Dennis what the horses do this is what horses do and to be honest I don’t
horses do and to be honest I don’t
horses do and to be honest I don’t understand how it works there yes there
understand how it works there yes there
understand how it works there yes there is scientific research search for
is scientific research search for
is scientific research search for written on Google that I don’t
written on Google that I don’t
written on Google that I don’t understand but I see it happen what I
understand but I see it happen what I
understand but I see it happen what I see happen is that they offer us a we
see happen is that they offer us a we
see happen is that they offer us a we state and in that we state we’re in some
state and in that we state we’re in some
state and in that we state we’re in some kind of way are very gently open for
kind of way are very gently open for
kind of way are very gently open for everything reality gives us and has
everything reality gives us and has
everything reality gives us and has given us our blessings our traumas full
given us our blessings our traumas full
given us our blessings our traumas full potential everything in a strange way
potential everything in a strange way
potential everything in a strange way everything it’s it’s it’s everything
everything it’s it’s it’s everything
everything it’s it’s it’s everything which made us who we are and probably
which made us who we are and probably
which made us who we are and probably what we what we will what we will be but
what we what we will what we will be but
what we what we will what we will be but it’s a resource that is what I was doing
it’s a resource that is what I was doing
it’s a resource that is what I was doing thank you very much this was what I
thank you very much this was what I
thank you very much this was what I wanted to share with you with without
wanted to share with you with without
wanted to share with you with without galleon
galleon
galleon [Applause]
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