[Music] in the last year so self-love has become
in the last year so self-love has become
in the last year so self-love has become a trending topic in buzzword among
a trending topic in buzzword among
a trending topic in buzzword among social media in articles online it seems
social media in articles online it seems
social media in articles online it seems like everyone from spa companies to
like everyone from spa companies to
like everyone from spa companies to major magazine publishers have jumped
major magazine publishers have jumped
major magazine publishers have jumped onto the self-care and self ownership
onto the self-care and self ownership
onto the self-care and self ownership wagon however when we tell women to love
wagon however when we tell women to love
wagon however when we tell women to love themselves there is a strange Apocrypha
themselves there is a strange Apocrypha
themselves there is a strange Apocrypha happening in the same moment as young
happening in the same moment as young
happening in the same moment as young girls we enter the world resilient and
girls we enter the world resilient and
girls we enter the world resilient and excited but soon told our worth is
excited but soon told our worth is
excited but soon told our worth is contingent on our appearance not only
contingent on our appearance not only
contingent on our appearance not only that the ideal being light-skinned
that the ideal being light-skinned
that the ideal being light-skinned straight hair a tiny frame somehow
straight hair a tiny frame somehow
straight hair a tiny frame somehow accompanied by a huge butt and
accompanied by a huge butt and
accompanied by a huge butt and gravity-defying breasts
so if historically we’ve been trained
so if historically we’ve been trained that our value is based solely on being
that our value is based solely on being
that our value is based solely on being beautiful meanwhile the standard of
beautiful meanwhile the standard of
beautiful meanwhile the standard of beauty has become a pixelized image no
beauty has become a pixelized image no
beauty has become a pixelized image no one actually looks like how are we ever
one actually looks like how are we ever
one actually looks like how are we ever supposed to accept ourselves fully what
supposed to accept ourselves fully what
supposed to accept ourselves fully what I’m proposing is the idea that self-love
I’m proposing is the idea that self-love
I’m proposing is the idea that self-love is not a juice detox or a new hot yoga
is not a juice detox or a new hot yoga
is not a juice detox or a new hot yoga fad but actually becomes a process of
fad but actually becomes a process of
fad but actually becomes a process of unlearning everything we’ve been taught
using the top 10 magazines in the US I
using the top 10 magazines in the US I created an erasure poem of the world’s
created an erasure poem of the world’s
created an erasure poem of the world’s most popular articles fed to us through
most popular articles fed to us through
most popular articles fed to us through media for those unfamiliar with
media for those unfamiliar with
media for those unfamiliar with different forms of poetry in a race your
different forms of poetry in a race your
different forms of poetry in a race your poem is a way of taking an original
poem is a way of taking an original
poem is a way of taking an original piece of work and erasing words or lines
piece of work and erasing words or lines
piece of work and erasing words or lines from the text to create a piece with a
from the text to create a piece with a
from the text to create a piece with a new meaning a compilation of quotes from
new meaning a compilation of quotes from
new meaning a compilation of quotes from the top women’s magazines over the last
the top women’s magazines over the last
the top women’s magazines over the last 10 years
10 years
10 years I promise these are all real with
I promise these are all real with
I promise these are all real with parties to go to
parties to go to
parties to go to hot guys to me an amazing job slain you
hot guys to me an amazing job slain you
hot guys to me an amazing job slain you just can’t afford to be down on yourself
just can’t afford to be down on yourself
just can’t afford to be down on yourself we’re read studies have shown it’s would
we’re read studies have shown it’s would
we’re read studies have shown it’s would instantly draw as men who you studies
instantly draw as men who you studies
instantly draw as men who you studies from researchers showed the men didn’t
from researchers showed the men didn’t
from researchers showed the men didn’t want to date a woman who was smarter
want to date a woman who was smarter
want to date a woman who was smarter than they were drawings I police focus
than they were drawings I police focus
than they were drawings I police focus to seductive spots on your body the
to seductive spots on your body the
to seductive spots on your body the aware
aware
aware of his eyes on your skin will make you
of his eyes on your skin will make you
of his eyes on your skin will make you feel doubly desirable get confident for
feel doubly desirable get confident for
feel doubly desirable get confident for that job interview the job interview is
that job interview the job interview is
that job interview the job interview is all about the performance of you up for
all about the performance of you up for
all about the performance of you up for a primer that diffuses and blurs that
a primer that diffuses and blurs that
a primer that diffuses and blurs that helps hide pores and fine lines don’t
helps hide pores and fine lines don’t
helps hide pores and fine lines don’t feel the need to smother your whole face
feel the need to smother your whole face
feel the need to smother your whole face and the stuff though
and the stuff though
and the stuff though simply apply to problem areas perfect
simply apply to problem areas perfect
simply apply to problem areas perfect your complexion camouflage any pimples
your complexion camouflage any pimples
your complexion camouflage any pimples by applying a yellow base cover up
by applying a yellow base cover up
by applying a yellow base cover up exfoliate from head to toe
exfoliate from head to toe
exfoliate from head to toe if you don’t exfoliate your skin dead
if you don’t exfoliate your skin dead
if you don’t exfoliate your skin dead skin cells are gonna clog up clog your
skin cells are gonna clog up clog your
skin cells are gonna clog up clog your pores then you’re gonna spend hours in
pores then you’re gonna spend hours in
pores then you’re gonna spend hours in front of the mirror picking out your
front of the mirror picking out your
front of the mirror picking out your face back wherever you break out so save
face back wherever you break out so save
face back wherever you break out so save yourself the time exfoliate at least
yourself the time exfoliate at least
yourself the time exfoliate at least three times a week but remember to
three times a week but remember to
three times a week but remember to repeat daily for best effects with
repeat daily for best effects with
repeat daily for best effects with parties to go to
parties to go to
parties to go to hot guys to meet an amazing jobs tool
hot guys to meet an amazing jobs tool
hot guys to meet an amazing jobs tool and you just can’t afford to be yourself
we’re what men wants his focus on your
we’re what men wants his focus on your body will make you desirable perfect
body will make you desirable perfect
body will make you desirable perfect your complexion camouflage from head to
your complexion camouflage from head to
your complexion camouflage from head to toe
the job is all about the performance of
the job is all about the performance of you defuse and blur hide your whole face
you defuse and blur hide your whole face
you defuse and blur hide your whole face simply problem areas spend hours in
simply problem areas spend hours in
simply problem areas spend hours in front of the mirror picking at your face
front of the mirror picking at your face
front of the mirror picking at your face back at least three times a week but
back at least three times a week but
back at least three times a week but remember to repeat daily for best
remember to repeat daily for best
remember to repeat daily for best effects the new demand for self-love
effects the new demand for self-love
effects the new demand for self-love comes at no surprise because the birth
comes at no surprise because the birth
comes at no surprise because the birth of any movement stems from its necessity
of any movement stems from its necessity
of any movement stems from its necessity to the culture at the time but the
to the culture at the time but the
to the culture at the time but the principle is not a radical concept right
principle is not a radical concept right
principle is not a radical concept right you’re telling me I have permission to
you’re telling me I have permission to
you’re telling me I have permission to love myself I should have been known
love myself I should have been known
love myself I should have been known that you’re telling me a child of the
that you’re telling me a child of the
that you’re telling me a child of the universe in God and Millau to call
universe in God and Millau to call
universe in God and Millau to call myself beautiful we should be waking up
myself beautiful we should be waking up
myself beautiful we should be waking up every morning looking in the mirror and
every morning looking in the mirror and
every morning looking in the mirror and going damn for no reason right
so it’s important to acknowledge the
so it’s important to acknowledge the birth of the self-love movement is
birth of the self-love movement is
birth of the self-love movement is entirely due to the enormous deficit of
entirely due to the enormous deficit of
entirely due to the enormous deficit of self value in our world currently the
self value in our world currently the
self value in our world currently the excitement over the idea of something as
excitement over the idea of something as
excitement over the idea of something as natural something as mundane as
natural something as mundane as
natural something as mundane as self-acceptance and self permission is a
self-acceptance and self permission is a
self-acceptance and self permission is a direct reflection of the state of our
direct reflection of the state of our
direct reflection of the state of our society it’s funny that I’m standing on
society it’s funny that I’m standing on
society it’s funny that I’m standing on a TEDx stage right now talking about
a TEDx stage right now talking about
a TEDx stage right now talking about self-love because not too long ago I
self-love because not too long ago I
self-love because not too long ago I genuinely believed I didn’t deserve to
genuinely believed I didn’t deserve to
genuinely believed I didn’t deserve to be seen to be heard to be loved I had an
be seen to be heard to be loved I had an
be seen to be heard to be loved I had an eating disorder and as my body shrink so
eating disorder and as my body shrink so
eating disorder and as my body shrink so did my self-worth so did my sense of
did my self-worth so did my sense of
did my self-worth so did my sense of self I looked in the mirror every single
self I looked in the mirror every single
self I looked in the mirror every single day and called myself disgusting my
day and called myself disgusting my
day and called myself disgusting my mentality shifted when I realized
mentality shifted when I realized
mentality shifted when I realized Angelica
Angelica
Angelica if anyone called your friends or your
if anyone called your friends or your
if anyone called your friends or your family the things you are calling
family the things you are calling
family the things you are calling yourself you would be chasing them down
yourself you would be chasing them down
yourself you would be chasing them down the street and eventually I was lucky
the street and eventually I was lucky
the street and eventually I was lucky enough to refine my voice through spoken
enough to refine my voice through spoken
enough to refine my voice through spoken word poetry according to the Dove global
word poetry according to the Dove global
word poetry according to the Dove global Beauty report only 24 percent of women
Beauty report only 24 percent of women
Beauty report only 24 percent of women in the u.s. report having high body
in the u.s. report having high body
in the u.s. report having high body self-esteem 9 out of 10 of those women
self-esteem 9 out of 10 of those women
self-esteem 9 out of 10 of those women refrained from eating or risk their
refrained from eating or risk their
refrained from eating or risk their health when they don’t feel good about
health when they don’t feel good about
health when they don’t feel good about themselves seven in 10 young girls
themselves seven in 10 young girls
themselves seven in 10 young girls already believe they’re not enough or do
already believe they’re not enough or do
already believe they’re not enough or do not measure up in some way whether it’s
not measure up in some way whether it’s
not measure up in some way whether it’s in terms of their looks their
in terms of their looks their
in terms of their looks their performance in school or their social
performance in school or their social
performance in school or their social status so if we come into this world
status so if we come into this world
status so if we come into this world thriving with confidence ready to take
thriving with confidence ready to take
thriving with confidence ready to take on anything what changes from then to
on anything what changes from then to
on anything what changes from then to now it’s all going on here anything
now it’s all going on here anything
now it’s all going on here anything we’re told enough times where what men
we’re told enough times where what men
we’re told enough times where what men want you can’t be yourself perfect your
want you can’t be yourself perfect your
want you can’t be yourself perfect your complexion we begin to tell ourselves
complexion we begin to tell ourselves
complexion we begin to tell ourselves whatever we tell ourselves we give a
whatever we tell ourselves we give a
whatever we tell ourselves we give a dangerous amount of power to if you’re
dangerous amount of power to if you’re
dangerous amount of power to if you’re suffering from self-doubt insecurity
suffering from self-doubt insecurity
suffering from self-doubt insecurity uncertainty there is nothing wrong with
uncertainty there is nothing wrong with
uncertainty there is nothing wrong with you and because of this
you and because of this
you and because of this everything you accept about yourself is
everything you accept about yourself is
everything you accept about yourself is a revolution yes I don’t care if it’s
a revolution yes I don’t care if it’s
a revolution yes I don’t care if it’s hair on your toe knuckles if it’s a bad
hair on your toe knuckles if it’s a bad
hair on your toe knuckles if it’s a bad tattoo or years of abuse
tattoo or years of abuse
tattoo or years of abuse everything you accept about yourself is
everything you accept about yourself is
everything you accept about yourself is a revolution I had some beautiful women
a revolution I had some beautiful women
a revolution I had some beautiful women in my community write down some things
in my community write down some things
in my community write down some things they love about themselves and guys
they love about themselves and guys
they love about themselves and guys these are some of my favorite pictures
these are some of my favorite pictures
these are some of my favorite pictures that I own embracing who you are in this
that I own embracing who you are in this
that I own embracing who you are in this world every day is an act of resistance
world every day is an act of resistance
world every day is an act of resistance every time you say I love my
every time you say I love my
every time you say I love my unapologetic Ness I love my wild
unapologetic Ness I love my wild
unapologetic Ness I love my wild opinions I love how I see beauty and
opinions I love how I see beauty and
opinions I love how I see beauty and everything
everything
everything I love how extra I am you are rewriting
I love how extra I am you are rewriting
I love how extra I am you are rewriting your own narrative in that moment and
your own narrative in that moment and
your own narrative in that moment and because I don’t have a picture of myself
because I don’t have a picture of myself
because I don’t have a picture of myself here I will be accountable to my own
here I will be accountable to my own
here I will be accountable to my own self-love and say i angelica maria love
self-love and say i angelica maria love
self-love and say i angelica maria love my voice in the places it has carried me
my voice in the places it has carried me
my voice in the places it has carried me like right here for example now changing
like right here for example now changing
like right here for example now changing the way of the world can feel like an
the way of the world can feel like an
the way of the world can feel like an unthinkable task right but we can
unthinkable task right but we can
unthinkable task right but we can unthink the ways in which the world has
unthink the ways in which the world has
unthink the ways in which the world has taught us to see ourselves and in that
taught us to see ourselves and in that
taught us to see ourselves and in that is a monstrous change I’m not a
is a monstrous change I’m not a
is a monstrous change I’m not a psychologist by any means okay I’m not a
psychologist by any means okay I’m not a
psychologist by any means okay I’m not a doctor or a therapist but I am a
doctor or a therapist but I am a
doctor or a therapist but I am a storyteller and if you’ve ever felt not
storyteller and if you’ve ever felt not
storyteller and if you’ve ever felt not enough or for many of us too much I
enough or for many of us too much I
enough or for many of us too much I challenge you to begin to write yours a
challenge you to begin to write yours a
challenge you to begin to write yours a little differently start right now I
little differently start right now I
little differently start right now I deserve to be here I was before the
deserve to be here I was before the
deserve to be here I was before the world told me what I am and I will be no
world told me what I am and I will be no
world told me what I am and I will be no matter what it tells me tomorrow we are
matter what it tells me tomorrow we are
matter what it tells me tomorrow we are so full of chapters some tragic others
so full of chapters some tragic others
so full of chapters some tragic others glorious and thankfully the ending of
glorious and thankfully the ending of
glorious and thankfully the ending of one always signifying the beginning of
one always signifying the beginning of
one always signifying the beginning of the next so my question to you is why
the next so my question to you is why
the next so my question to you is why not make our
not make our
not make our selves authors of this one in only life
selves authors of this one in only life
selves authors of this one in only life why not make ourselves a story that one
why not make ourselves a story that one
why not make ourselves a story that one day we will want to read over and over
day we will want to read over and over
day we will want to read over and over again thank you
again thank you
again thank you [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] [Music]
[Laughter]
[Laughter] Oh
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