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I had so many ideas and even when I was

I had so many ideas and even when I was sitting here I still had different ideas

sitting here I still had different ideas

sitting here I still had different ideas on what to talk about I have so many

on what to talk about I have so many

on what to talk about I have so many ideas to talk about that I really found

ideas to talk about that I really found

ideas to talk about that I really found it difficult to choose which one to

it difficult to choose which one to

it difficult to choose which one to stick to but one thing I knew was that I

stick to but one thing I knew was that I

stick to but one thing I knew was that I wanted to talk about women women like me

wanted to talk about women women like me

wanted to talk about women women like me women from the northern part of the

women from the northern part of the

women from the northern part of the country and women whom I feel have been

country and women whom I feel have been

country and women whom I feel have been subjugated women who are sidelined in

subjugated women who are sidelined in

subjugated women who are sidelined in the affairs of the society and we’re a

the affairs of the society and we’re a

the affairs of the society and we’re a powerful force women are powerful women

powerful force women are powerful women

powerful force women are powerful women when you talk about women women mean

when you talk about women women mean

when you talk about women women mean life they mean life only a mother can

life they mean life only a mother can

life they mean life only a mother can bring you to the world if a man can let

bring you to the world if a man can let

bring you to the world if a man can let him bring him you to the world you only

him bring him you to the world you only

him bring him you to the world you only assist but only the woman can bring you

assist but only the woman can bring you

assist but only the woman can bring you have you ever seen a man with a

have you ever seen a man with a

have you ever seen a man with a nine-month pregnancy

nine-month pregnancy

nine-month pregnancy despite plastic surgeries and other

despite plastic surgeries and other

despite plastic surgeries and other things and innovations you have never

things and innovations you have never

things and innovations you have never had a man put into bed bed and so that

had a man put into bed bed and so that

had a man put into bed bed and so that is the main responsibility of a woman

is the main responsibility of a woman

is the main responsibility of a woman she’s a life creator or life giver and

she’s a life creator or life giver and

she’s a life creator or life giver and without the woman none of us will be

without the woman none of us will be

without the woman none of us will be here today and I actually felt that

here today and I actually felt that

here today and I actually felt that [Applause]

[Applause]

[Applause] we need to be brought out the focus

we need to be brought out the focus

we need to be brought out the focus should be on women when they say

should be on women when they say

should be on women when they say professor as a Becker a professor from

professor as a Becker a professor from

professor as a Becker a professor from the northern part of the country people

the northern part of the country people

the northern part of the country people Sasson learn from short oh do we have

Sasson learn from short oh do we have

Sasson learn from short oh do we have professors there and it looks as if it’s

professors there and it looks as if it’s

professors there and it looks as if it’s a myth that maybe we are we do not

a myth that maybe we are we do not

a myth that maybe we are we do not actually and that professor really suits

actually and that professor really suits

actually and that professor really suits we were just given the professor else it

we were just given the professor else it

we were just given the professor else it and it is only when we come to talk in

and it is only when we come to talk in

and it is only when we come to talk in the university you have to give about

the university you have to give about

the university you have to give about twenty-four papers published works to

twenty-four papers published works to

twenty-four papers published works to become a professor when I give my works

become a professor when I give my works

become a professor when I give my works when I put in my papers for promotion I

when I put in my papers for promotion I

when I put in my papers for promotion I gave in only 26 but from the time I gave

gave in only 26 but from the time I gave

gave in only 26 but from the time I gave in my papers for promotion and to now I

in my papers for promotion and to now I

in my papers for promotion and to now I have about 70 publications because I

have about 70 publications because I

have about 70 publications because I feel I can do it and if I can do it

feel I can do it and if I can do it

feel I can do it and if I can do it every woman can do it but the

every woman can do it but the

every woman can do it but the unfortunate thing is this every part of

unfortunate thing is this every part of

unfortunate thing is this every part of the world and not just in Nigeria or the

the world and not just in Nigeria or the

the world and not just in Nigeria or the northern part of the country you’ll find

northern part of the country you’ll find

northern part of the country you’ll find that women have been subjugated women

that women have been subjugated women

that women have been subjugated women have been sidelined or priced in one

have been sidelined or priced in one

have been sidelined or priced in one form or the other I will drive me by

form or the other I will drive me by

form or the other I will drive me by this subjugation when you prevent a girl

this subjugation when you prevent a girl

this subjugation when you prevent a girl from going to school

from going to school

from going to school you have subjugated her you have a press

you have subjugated her you have a press

you have subjugated her you have a press tab when you look at a girl and say this

tab when you look at a girl and say this

tab when you look at a girl and say this profession is not yours it belongs to a

profession is not yours it belongs to a

profession is not yours it belongs to a man or a boy you have a Presta you have

man or a boy you have a Presta you have

man or a boy you have a Presta you have sidelined and despite these rules that

sidelined and despite these rules that

sidelined and despite these rules that women proclaim the boot bring children

women proclaim the boot bring children

women proclaim the boot bring children to life they natural them

to life they natural them

to life they natural them trim them even if you are the president

trim them even if you are the president

trim them even if you are the president of the whole world it is a woman who has

of the whole world it is a woman who has

of the whole world it is a woman who has brought you to this world and it is this

brought you to this world and it is this

brought you to this world and it is this woman who has trained you to become the

woman who has trained you to become the

woman who has trained you to become the president and for why should women be

president and for why should women be

president and for why should women be sidelined but unfortunately that is the

sidelined but unfortunately that is the

sidelined but unfortunately that is the case everywhere the world oh but forget

case everywhere the world oh but forget

case everywhere the world oh but forget about Nigeria

about Nigeria

about Nigeria forget about Africa the world over and

forget about Africa the world over and

forget about Africa the world over and then my focus actually is the northern

then my focus actually is the northern

then my focus actually is the northern and Iran women because I cannot talk

and Iran women because I cannot talk

and Iran women because I cannot talk about for the women in America and

about for the women in America and

about for the women in America and Britain and others I want to talk about

Britain and others I want to talk about

Britain and others I want to talk about women here what do they feel like being

women here what do they feel like being

women here what do they feel like being subjugated don’t think that they don’t

subjugated don’t think that they don’t

subjugated don’t think that they don’t have feelings because they don’t talk

have feelings because they don’t talk

have feelings because they don’t talk they have feelings actually and then

they have feelings actually and then

they have feelings actually and then they tried as much as possible to change

they tried as much as possible to change

they tried as much as possible to change the situations but when any attempt is

the situations but when any attempt is

the situations but when any attempt is rebuffed and that people bring in

rebuffed and that people bring in

rebuffed and that people bring in religion I know religion is very

religion I know religion is very

religion I know religion is very sensitive and we have reached or got

sensitive and we have reached or got

sensitive and we have reached or got into a stage that we find it difficult

into a stage that we find it difficult

into a stage that we find it difficult to differentiate between religion and

to differentiate between religion and

to differentiate between religion and culture and believe me most things that

culture and believe me most things that

culture and believe me most things that go against the freedom of women is

go against the freedom of women is

go against the freedom of women is culture not religion religion is very

culture not religion religion is very

culture not religion religion is very very deep breath it is very flexible and

very deep breath it is very flexible and

very deep breath it is very flexible and it allows for a woman to get to the

it allows for a woman to get to the

it allows for a woman to get to the ideas to the attacks just like a man and

ideas to the attacks just like a man and

ideas to the attacks just like a man and when women tried all they could and they

when women tried all they could and they

when women tried all they could and they couldn’t they decided to use one very

couldn’t they decided to use one very

couldn’t they decided to use one very powerful tool and that powerful tool is

powerful tool and that powerful tool is

powerful tool and that powerful tool is the pen which is mightier than the sword

the pen which is mightier than the sword

the pen which is mightier than the sword when you take the sword you kill people

when you take the sword you kill people

when you take the sword you kill people will catch you while you take the pen

will catch you while you take the pen

will catch you while you take the pen take a fake name and write before you

take a fake name and write before you

take a fake name and write before you know it everyone the world over have

know it everyone the world over have

know it everyone the world over have said has read it and it is my dear than

said has read it and it is my dear than

said has read it and it is my dear than the sword and that is when they

the sword and that is when they

the sword and that is when they attempted to use a new creature

attempted to use a new creature

attempted to use a new creature to emancipate themselves and to liberate

to emancipate themselves and to liberate

to emancipate themselves and to liberate themselves from oppression of the

themselves from oppression of the

themselves from oppression of the patriarchal society they find themselves

patriarchal society they find themselves

patriarchal society they find themselves and luckily they did that and they

and luckily they did that and they

and luckily they did that and they succeeded because the reading culture

succeeded because the reading culture

succeeded because the reading culture had deteriorated and they had applause

had deteriorated and they had applause

had deteriorated and they had applause to that and they took literature because

to that and they took literature because

to that and they took literature because it’s a reflective tool of the society it

it’s a reflective tool of the society it

it’s a reflective tool of the society it tells you the emotions of the people and

tells you the emotions of the people and

tells you the emotions of the people and everything and they decided to use that

everything and they decided to use that

everything and they decided to use that as I wanna do as a woman as a tool to

as I wanna do as a woman as a tool to

as I wanna do as a woman as a tool to fight to change the segregated rules

fight to change the segregated rules

fight to change the segregated rules they have been winter unfortunately I

they have been winter unfortunately I

they have been winter unfortunately I have to draw us back a little bit when

have to draw us back a little bit when

have to draw us back a little bit when women started writing men had already

women started writing men had already

women started writing men had already started writing before women and you’ll

started writing before women and you’ll

started writing before women and you’ll find that the men portray women as very

find that the men portray women as very

find that the men portray women as very simplistic human beings the lackluster

simplistic human beings the lackluster

simplistic human beings the lackluster human being who is only satisfied to be

human being who is only satisfied to be

human being who is only satisfied to be a daughter a mother a sister or a wife

a daughter a mother a sister or a wife

a daughter a mother a sister or a wife who is contented if she gives birth and

who is contented if she gives birth and

who is contented if she gives birth and she becomes her kill me if she doesn’t

she becomes her kill me if she doesn’t

she becomes her kill me if she doesn’t give birth who becomes disillusioned

give birth who becomes disillusioned

give birth who becomes disillusioned when she gives back to only girls

when she gives back to only girls

when she gives back to only girls because it is believed that the girl

because it is believed that the girl

because it is believed that the girl will fly out and build another man’s

will fly out and build another man’s

will fly out and build another man’s room and then kill her own foo and

room and then kill her own foo and

room and then kill her own foo and that’s why we have a house approval

that’s why we have a house approval

that’s why we have a house approval which says amateur Kachiguda

which says amateur Kachiguda

which says amateur Kachiguda the female daughter who kills her own

the female daughter who kills her own

the female daughter who kills her own father’s house because no matter the

father’s house because no matter the

father’s house because no matter the number of female children you have they

number of female children you have they

number of female children you have they tend to leave your home and go to build

tend to leave your home and go to build

tend to leave your home and go to build on a demand so but this woman went that

on a demand so but this woman went that

on a demand so but this woman went that that even though men have started

that even though men have started

that even though men have started writing and they portray women as

writing and they portray women as

writing and they portray women as simplistic base why can’t they do the

simplistic base why can’t they do the

simplistic base why can’t they do the reverse and they decided to take this

reverse and they decided to take this

reverse and they decided to take this pen and they started writing

pen and they started writing

pen and they started writing because the men cannot tell you

because the men cannot tell you

because the men cannot tell you everything no man here can tell me what

everything no man here can tell me what

everything no man here can tell me what it feels like to take a nine-month-old

it feels like to take a nine-month-old

it feels like to take a nine-month-old pregnancy no man here can tell me the

pregnancy no man here can tell me the

pregnancy no man here can tell me the pains of childbirth no man can tell me

pains of childbirth no man can tell me

pains of childbirth no man can tell me the pains I will go through if I am in a

the pains I will go through if I am in a

the pains I will go through if I am in a polygamous family no man can tell me

polygamous family no man can tell me

polygamous family no man can tell me the pains I’ll go to it my mother-in-law

the pains I’ll go to it my mother-in-law

the pains I’ll go to it my mother-in-law or father-in-law doesn’t like me only a

or father-in-law doesn’t like me only a

or father-in-law doesn’t like me only a woman can tell her own story and they

woman can tell her own story and they

woman can tell her own story and they started so we started from the women

started so we started from the women

started so we started from the women being depicted and portrayed as beneath

being depicted and portrayed as beneath

being depicted and portrayed as beneath their menfolk and then when they started

their menfolk and then when they started

their menfolk and then when they started writing they proved to the men that they

writing they proved to the men that they

writing they proved to the men that they could go beyond and what do I mean by

could go beyond and what do I mean by

could go beyond and what do I mean by they could go beyond we have this

they could go beyond we have this

they could go beyond we have this literature books and that’s why I asked

literature books and that’s why I asked

literature books and that’s why I asked them to take a picture or to take some

them to take a picture or to take some

them to take a picture or to take some images of these books we have more than

images of these books we have more than

images of these books we have more than six thousand titles written in the house

six thousand titles written in the house

six thousand titles written in the house in language six thousand titles not six

in language six thousand titles not six

in language six thousand titles not six hundred and ninety percent of these

hundred and ninety percent of these

hundred and ninety percent of these writers are women ninety percent are

writers are women ninety percent are

writers are women ninety percent are real and they tell stories they give us

real and they tell stories they give us

real and they tell stories they give us information which the men don’t want the

information which the men don’t want the

information which the men don’t want the world to know about yes we have societal

world to know about yes we have societal

world to know about yes we have societal issues around here we have cases of rape

issues around here we have cases of rape

issues around here we have cases of rape cases of child abuse cases of forced

cases of child abuse cases of forced

cases of child abuse cases of forced marriages who tells the story only the

marriages who tells the story only the

marriages who tells the story only the woman involved

woman involved

woman involved and that is why they are telling us

and that is why they are telling us

and that is why they are telling us their stories most of these stories are

their stories most of these stories are

their stories most of these stories are true life stories and you need to read

true life stories and you need to read

true life stories and you need to read them to understand what a woman feels

them to understand what a woman feels

them to understand what a woman feels where she is this advantaged one of the

where she is this advantaged one of the

where she is this advantaged one of the titles haka is a translated and North is

titles haka is a translated and North is

titles haka is a translated and North is enough tells the story of a young girl

enough tells the story of a young girl

enough tells the story of a young girl who was raped by her own uncle at the

who was raped by her own uncle at the

who was raped by her own uncle at the age of seven she would not talk she

age of seven she would not talk she

age of seven she would not talk she couldn’t tell anyone because customarily

couldn’t tell anyone because customarily

couldn’t tell anyone because customarily been the first daughter her mother was

been the first daughter her mother was

been the first daughter her mother was shy of her and she could only confide in

shy of her and she could only confide in

shy of her and she could only confide in a fellow seven year old friend and there

a fellow seven year old friend and there

a fellow seven year old friend and there was nothing they could do and the

was nothing they could do and the

was nothing they could do and the implication or the repercussion did not

implication or the repercussion did not

implication or the repercussion did not come up until when she was married of to

come up until when she was married of to

come up until when she was married of to a 65 year old man at the age of 10 and

a 65 year old man at the age of 10 and

a 65 year old man at the age of 10 and on their wedding night he forcefully

on their wedding night he forcefully

on their wedding night he forcefully went to her and he realized she was not

went to her and he realized she was not

went to her and he realized she was not a virgin and he took they came and beat

a virgin and he took they came and beat

a virgin and he took they came and beat the hell out of her and chew her out of

the hell out of her and chew her out of

the hell out of her and chew her out of his room everyone came the neighbors

his room everyone came the neighbors

his room everyone came the neighbors came and they wanted to know what

came and they wanted to know what

came and they wanted to know what actually happened and he called her

actually happened and he called her

actually happened and he called her harlot a lot a prostitute and this

harlot a lot a prostitute and this

harlot a lot a prostitute and this mother who had nothing to do with her

mother who had nothing to do with her

mother who had nothing to do with her was rebuked for bringing up a spoiled

was rebuked for bringing up a spoiled

was rebuked for bringing up a spoiled daughter and nobody bothered to find out

daughter and nobody bothered to find out

daughter and nobody bothered to find out who did that and when things got

who did that and when things got

who did that and when things got confided to her grandmother that it was

confided to her grandmother that it was

confided to her grandmother that it was our uncle she was the uncle was cleared

our uncle she was the uncle was cleared

our uncle she was the uncle was cleared by the father

by the father

by the father how can my brother do this to you and

how can my brother do this to you and

how can my brother do this to you and this girl had to live with this for 12

this girl had to live with this for 12

this girl had to live with this for 12 years in an unloved marriage with this

years in an unloved marriage with this

years in an unloved marriage with this 65 year old man before she left for her

65 year old man before she left for her

65 year old man before she left for her home when he died and it was only 20

home when he died and it was only 20

home when he died and it was only 20 years after when her uncle raped on a

years after when her uncle raped on a

years after when her uncle raped on a decibel year-old girl and that time he

decibel year-old girl and that time he

decibel year-old girl and that time he was about 70 and that was when they

was about 70 and that was when they

was about 70 and that was when they realized that he had done this tell me

realized that he had done this tell me

realized that he had done this tell me who best could tell this story but the

who best could tell this story but the

who best could tell this story but the one who has gone through this

one who has gone through this

one who has gone through this this a woman goes to the pains of

this a woman goes to the pains of

this a woman goes to the pains of sharing a single love with 4 other

sharing a single love with 4 other

sharing a single love with 4 other people we call it polygon here because

people we call it polygon here because

people we call it polygon here because the man he has so selfish they don’t

the man he has so selfish they don’t

the man he has so selfish they don’t want you to know the tenants of polygamy

want you to know the tenants of polygamy

want you to know the tenants of polygamy and they’ll never allow the man to new

and they’ll never allow the man to new

and they’ll never allow the man to new heights who can tell you better the

heights who can tell you better the

heights who can tell you better the pains of being uneducated by extension

pains of being uneducated by extension

pains of being uneducated by extension if you are uneducated you would not be

if you are uneducated you would not be

if you are uneducated you would not be empowered

only an uneducated person can tell you

only an uneducated person can tell you the pain she has gone through and this

the pain she has gone through and this

the pain she has gone through and this is what this women have been doing in

is what this women have been doing in

is what this women have been doing in their works and you have so many titles

their works and you have so many titles

their works and you have so many titles Everett errors and one change this women

Everett errors and one change this women

Everett errors and one change this women have made to this writers is to create

have made to this writers is to create

have made to this writers is to create characters who have identity characters

characters who have identity characters

characters who have identity characters who can make it in life despite the

who can make it in life despite the

who can make it in life despite the subjugation they go through and they

subjugation they go through and they

subjugation they go through and they crave the they produce a portrait

crave the they produce a portrait

crave the they produce a portrait credible characters like engineers

credible characters like engineers

credible characters like engineers education ministers call it fancy call

education ministers call it fancy call

education ministers call it fancy call it fanciful inanimate and other days but

it fanciful inanimate and other days but

it fanciful inanimate and other days but at least they know that they can’t do

at least they know that they can’t do

at least they know that they can’t do something and they know the woman can

something and they know the woman can

something and they know the woman can also do it and by doing that I believe

also do it and by doing that I believe

also do it and by doing that I believe that they have raised themselves above

that they have raised themselves above

that they have raised themselves above what society expects them to be and they

what society expects them to be and they

what society expects them to be and they have decided to bring the challenges

have decided to bring the challenges

have decided to bring the challenges women face in a patriarchal society to

women face in a patriarchal society to

women face in a patriarchal society to fall they have tried to tackle these

fall they have tried to tackle these

fall they have tried to tackle these problems by preferring solutions and

identifying these solutions in such a

identifying these solutions in such a way that their characters do not go off

way that their characters do not go off

way that their characters do not go off tag ahead what do I mean by one of

tag ahead what do I mean by one of

tag ahead what do I mean by one of target by not going against the tenants

target by not going against the tenants

target by not going against the tenants of religion

of religion

of religion and tradition by sticking to it but in a

and tradition by sticking to it but in a

and tradition by sticking to it but in a way that is a comparison you find that

way that is a comparison you find that

way that is a comparison you find that this is accepted but I believe that I

this is accepted but I believe that I

this is accepted but I believe that I should be the subjugated one not the

should be the subjugated one not the

should be the subjugated one not the subjugated one sorry but I should be at

subjugated one sorry but I should be at

subjugated one sorry but I should be at par with you and I always tell people in

par with you and I always tell people in

par with you and I always tell people in my talks that God is very wise and very

my talks that God is very wise and very

my talks that God is very wise and very wonderful where did God create woman

wonderful where did God create woman

wonderful where did God create woman from from the ribs of man if God had

from from the ribs of man if God had

from from the ribs of man if God had wanted he would have created woman from

wanted he would have created woman from

wanted he would have created woman from the front but he did not want her to be

the front but he did not want her to be

the front but he did not want her to be ahead of man if he had wanted you could

ahead of man if he had wanted you could

ahead of man if he had wanted you could have created her from a platform up his

have created her from a platform up his

have created her from a platform up his behind but he did not want the woman to

behind but he did not want the woman to

behind but he did not want the woman to be behind the man if he had wanted he

be behind the man if he had wanted he

be behind the man if he had wanted he would have created her from a part from

would have created her from a part from

would have created her from a part from the head of man he did want human to be

the head of man he did want human to be

the head of man he did want human to be on top of man and trample him could have

on top of man and trample him could have

on top of man and trample him could have created her from the feet but God did no

created her from the feet but God did no

created her from the feet but God did no one like because he did want man to

one like because he did want man to

one like because he did want man to trample upon woman he created her from

trample upon woman he created her from

trample upon woman he created her from the side because God wanted her to be by

the side because God wanted her to be by

the side because God wanted her to be by his side

his side

his side [Applause]

[Applause]

[Applause] and in addition he took a very special

and in addition he took a very special

and in addition he took a very special part of that side the left-hand side

part of that side the left-hand side

part of that side the left-hand side close to the Hat everyone knows that the

close to the Hat everyone knows that the

close to the Hat everyone knows that the Hat is on the left-hand side no to the

Hat is on the left-hand side no to the

Hat is on the left-hand side no to the Hat and from the ribs which is bent if

Hat and from the ribs which is bent if

Hat and from the ribs which is bent if you attempt to straighten her up she

you attempt to straighten her up she

you attempt to straighten her up she breaks when a break moment breaks you

breaks when a break moment breaks you

breaks when a break moment breaks you add don’t fall and that is why we

add don’t fall and that is why we

add don’t fall and that is why we members be had and that is why we must

members be had and that is why we must

members be had and that is why we must read this books and when we read them we

read this books and when we read them we

read this books and when we read them we help out in translation so that the

help out in translation so that the

help out in translation so that the whole world will hear about them

whole world will hear about them

whole world will hear about them thank you very much

thank you very much

thank you very much [Applause]

[Applause]

[Applause] [Music]

you

you [Music]

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