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Why The Fight Is Never Over | Elaine Wells | TEDxWilmingtonED


I am the mother of three beautiful

I am the mother of three beautiful strong and intelligent young black men

strong and intelligent young black men

strong and intelligent young black men since becoming a mother my number one

since becoming a mother my number one

since becoming a mother my number one priority has been taking care of them

priority has been taking care of them

priority has been taking care of them and while it’s the best job I’ve ever

and while it’s the best job I’ve ever

and while it’s the best job I’ve ever had it’s also been the hardest there

had it’s also been the hardest there

had it’s also been the hardest there always seems to be something you need to

always seems to be something you need to

always seems to be something you need to fight for when you’re the mother of

fight for when you’re the mother of

fight for when you’re the mother of black boys my longest and hardest fight

black boys my longest and hardest fight

black boys my longest and hardest fight has been about gaining access to quality

has been about gaining access to quality

has been about gaining access to quality education for my sons I adore my sons

education for my sons I adore my sons

education for my sons I adore my sons and on most days I like to think that

and on most days I like to think that

and on most days I like to think that they adore me too we fight but that’s

they adore me too we fight but that’s

they adore me too we fight but that’s only because these three seem to forget

only because these three seem to forget

only because these three seem to forget who’s the real boss in this relationship

who’s the real boss in this relationship

who’s the real boss in this relationship they’ve made me into the fighter I am

they’ve made me into the fighter I am

they’ve made me into the fighter I am today

today

today and they’re also the reason why I

and they’re also the reason why I

and they’re also the reason why I continue to fight I remember the day I

continue to fight I remember the day I

continue to fight I remember the day I went to register my oldest son for

went to register my oldest son for

went to register my oldest son for kindergarten I had all the proper

kindergarten I had all the proper

kindergarten I had all the proper paperwork and I had even gotten him a

paperwork and I had even gotten him a

paperwork and I had even gotten him a brand new Hot Wheels backpack to

brand new Hot Wheels backpack to

brand new Hot Wheels backpack to celebrate even though school didn’t

celebrate even though school didn’t

celebrate even though school didn’t start for a few months when we entered

start for a few months when we entered

start for a few months when we entered this big beautiful building that was

this big beautiful building that was

this big beautiful building that was about a half an hour drive from where we

about a half an hour drive from where we

about a half an hour drive from where we lived we got a lot of stares that made

lived we got a lot of stares that made

lived we got a lot of stares that made us feel unwelcome and a woman’s voice

us feel unwelcome and a woman’s voice

us feel unwelcome and a woman’s voice that said can I help you with something

that said can I help you with something

that said can I help you with something in a tone that made me think I was

in a tone that made me think I was

in a tone that made me think I was walking on her lawn rather than the

walking on her lawn rather than the

walking on her lawn rather than the hallway of a public school I told her we

hallway of a public school I told her we

hallway of a public school I told her we were there to register and she said here

were there to register and she said here

were there to register and she said here at this school which was at code Hunt

at this school which was at code Hunt

at this school which was at code Hunt when I responded she said with the look

when I responded she said with the look

when I responded she said with the look of relief oh he can’t register here he’s

of relief oh he can’t register here he’s

of relief oh he can’t register here he’s not in the catchment area it was only

not in the catchment area it was only

not in the catchment area it was only then that she came from the office with

then that she came from the office with

then that she came from the office with a map that highlighted the streets on

a map that highlighted the streets on

a map that highlighted the streets on which one needed to live in order to

which one needed to live in order to

which one needed to live in order to attend their school I left that school

attend their school I left that school

attend their school I left that school angry and confused as to why a rule like

angry and confused as to why a rule like

angry and confused as to why a rule like that would even exist in my mind I knew

that would even exist in my mind I knew

that would even exist in my mind I knew the reason was because that space was

the reason was because that space was

the reason was because that space was reserved for kids who didn’t look

reserved for kids who didn’t look

reserved for kids who didn’t look anything like mine the district schools

anything like mine the district schools

anything like mine the district schools in my neighborhood were not an option

in my neighborhood were not an option

in my neighborhood were not an option from

from

from at least that’s what I told myself the

at least that’s what I told myself the

at least that’s what I told myself the buildings were falling apart the books

buildings were falling apart the books

buildings were falling apart the books were old and the classrooms were always

were old and the classrooms were always

were old and the classrooms were always overcrowded

overcrowded

overcrowded I couldn’t imagine why any parent would

I couldn’t imagine why any parent would

I couldn’t imagine why any parent would want to send their kids to that school

want to send their kids to that school

want to send their kids to that school but sadly enough they did and it was

but sadly enough they did and it was

but sadly enough they did and it was because they didn’t think that they had

because they didn’t think that they had

because they didn’t think that they had an option not to after just two years at

an option not to after just two years at

an option not to after just two years at our first charter the school was facing

our first charter the school was facing

our first charter the school was facing allegations of mismanagement and it was

allegations of mismanagement and it was

allegations of mismanagement and it was a real possibility that it wouldn’t be

a real possibility that it wouldn’t be

a real possibility that it wouldn’t be open the next year

open the next year

open the next year unfortunately that led us back to the

unfortunately that led us back to the

unfortunately that led us back to the district school my reality dictates that

district school my reality dictates that

district school my reality dictates that we remain where we were with my kids

we remain where we were with my kids

we remain where we were with my kids stuck in an underperforming school until

stuck in an underperforming school until

stuck in an underperforming school until another opportunity made itself

another opportunity made itself

another opportunity made itself available but this is why I thought it

available but this is why I thought it

available but this is why I thought it was important to continue fighting the

was important to continue fighting the

was important to continue fighting the reality was it wasn’t that the

reality was it wasn’t that the

reality was it wasn’t that the opportunities weren’t there it was just

opportunities weren’t there it was just

opportunities weren’t there it was just that no one was sharing them with us I

that no one was sharing them with us I

that no one was sharing them with us I remember reading an article about a

remember reading an article about a

remember reading an article about a senator who was being sued by one state

senator who was being sued by one state

senator who was being sued by one state for the free cyber education his kids

for the free cyber education his kids

for the free cyber education his kids were receiving while living in another

were receiving while living in another

were receiving while living in another state and I made it my business to find

state and I made it my business to find

state and I made it my business to find out more about that type of school free

out more about that type of school free

out more about that type of school free education from home we were signing up

education from home we were signing up

education from home we were signing up we did my son was home he was safe and

we did my son was home he was safe and

we did my son was home he was safe and he was happy for a short time making the

he was happy for a short time making the

he was happy for a short time making the commitment to fight it’s hard but it’s

commitment to fight it’s hard but it’s

commitment to fight it’s hard but it’s necessary it gets us to this after years

necessary it gets us to this after years

necessary it gets us to this after years of searching for a quality school for my

of searching for a quality school for my

of searching for a quality school for my son my oldest son finally got accepted

son my oldest son finally got accepted

son my oldest son finally got accepted into a truly great charter school

into a truly great charter school

into a truly great charter school there’s not enough time in this TED talk

there’s not enough time in this TED talk

there’s not enough time in this TED talk to tell you the difference the school

to tell you the difference the school

to tell you the difference the school made in my in my son’s life and in the

made in my in my son’s life and in the

made in my in my son’s life and in the lives of the hundreds of black boys that

lives of the hundreds of black boys that

lives of the hundreds of black boys that got to attend after

but the fight wasn’t over I wanted for

but the fight wasn’t over I wanted for all kids what I finally had from my son

all kids what I finally had from my son

all kids what I finally had from my son a choice and a chance parents and urban

a choice and a chance parents and urban

a choice and a chance parents and urban communities are often left to pick up

communities are often left to pick up

communities are often left to pick up the pieces where education and equity

the pieces where education and equity

the pieces where education and equity have failed them even when we have no

have failed them even when we have no

have failed them even when we have no idea how to go about it for me that

idea how to go about it for me that

idea how to go about it for me that meant spending three to four hours a day

meant spending three to four hours a day

meant spending three to four hours a day every day afterward researching schools

every day afterward researching schools

every day afterward researching schools gathering documentation completing

gathering documentation completing

gathering documentation completing applications and requesting records it

applications and requesting records it

applications and requesting records it was a hard thing to do but I felt like I

was a hard thing to do but I felt like I

was a hard thing to do but I felt like I didn’t have a choice I couldn’t accept

didn’t have a choice I couldn’t accept

didn’t have a choice I couldn’t accept where my kids were supposed to go

where my kids were supposed to go

where my kids were supposed to go because I kept fighting my kids had the

because I kept fighting my kids had the

because I kept fighting my kids had the opportunity to attend almost every type

opportunity to attend almost every type

opportunity to attend almost every type of school there was public charter cyber

of school there was public charter cyber

of school there was public charter cyber and for one amazing year one of my son’s

and for one amazing year one of my son’s

and for one amazing year one of my son’s got to attend a private kindergarten and

got to attend a private kindergarten and

got to attend a private kindergarten and that was only because of an

that was only because of an

that was only because of an administrative mistake parents and urban

administrative mistake parents and urban

administrative mistake parents and urban communities have always had to work four

communities have always had to work four

communities have always had to work four times as hard and are rarely given

times as hard and are rarely given

times as hard and are rarely given credit for all that we do in this

credit for all that we do in this

credit for all that we do in this painful process stop blaming parents for

painful process stop blaming parents for

painful process stop blaming parents for failure of school systems that have been

failure of school systems that have been

failure of school systems that have been failing our kids for decades these

failing our kids for decades these

failing our kids for decades these schools did not

schools did not

schools did not [Music]

these schools did not just become

these schools did not just become underfunded with the advent of charter

underfunded with the advent of charter

underfunded with the advent of charter schools where was all this concern about

schools where was all this concern about

schools where was all this concern about the school systems when they had all of

the school systems when they had all of

the school systems when they had all of the kids and all of the money we as

the kids and all of the money we as

the kids and all of the money we as parents need to recognize that our

parents need to recognize that our

parents need to recognize that our voices are more powerful than we realize

voices are more powerful than we realize

voices are more powerful than we realize parent led organizations have been my

parent led organizations have been my

parent led organizations have been my greatest ally in this fight join us as

greatest ally in this fight join us as

greatest ally in this fight join us as we rally on the steps of school

we rally on the steps of school

we rally on the steps of school districts and on the floor of the State

districts and on the floor of the State

districts and on the floor of the State Capitol

Capitol

Capitol to convince people who do not have kids

to convince people who do not have kids

to convince people who do not have kids in any of these failing schools that if

in any of these failing schools that if

in any of these failing schools that if it’s not good enough for their kids it’s

it’s not good enough for their kids it’s

it’s not good enough for their kids it’s certainly not good enough for ours I

certainly not good enough for ours I

certainly not good enough for ours I encourage you to take matters into your

encourage you to take matters into your

encourage you to take matters into your own hands and continue to fight we’re

own hands and continue to fight we’re

own hands and continue to fight we’re gaining momentum in this fight and we’re

gaining momentum in this fight and we’re

gaining momentum in this fight and we’re gaining allies like a lot of the

gaining allies like a lot of the

gaining allies like a lot of the speaker’s here today I ask that you be

speaker’s here today I ask that you be

speaker’s here today I ask that you be strong and stay persistent and most

strong and stay persistent and most

strong and stay persistent and most importantly support one another not

importantly support one another not

importantly support one another not everyone is the fighter but we’re all in

everyone is the fighter but we’re all in

everyone is the fighter but we’re all in this fight and until there’s no reason

this fight and until there’s no reason

this fight and until there’s no reason to fight for a single child the fight is

to fight for a single child the fight is

to fight for a single child the fight is never over

never over

never over [Applause]

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