so there it is white noise we listen to it we love having it on our phones we
it we love having it on our phones we
it we love having it on our phones we love having the app so we don’t have to
love having the app so we don’t have to
love having the app so we don’t have to listen to anything else around us so
listen to anything else around us so
listen to anything else around us so that we can just have nice and the
that we can just have nice and the
that we can just have nice and the reason you we call it white noise is
reason you we call it white noise is
reason you we call it white noise is because all of the spectrum of sound is
because all of the spectrum of sound is
because all of the spectrum of sound is all the way up and we can’t hear
all the way up and we can’t hear
all the way up and we can’t hear anything else
anything else
anything else there’s no dynamics there’s no cords
there’s no dynamics there’s no cords
there’s no dynamics there’s no cords there’s no notes there’s no tension
there’s no notes there’s no tension
there’s no notes there’s no tension there’s no resolution
there’s no resolution
there’s no resolution there’s no dissonance that we get to
there’s no dissonance that we get to
there’s no dissonance that we get to hear in music it’s kind of like if you
hear in music it’s kind of like if you
hear in music it’s kind of like if you took white light and you put white light
took white light and you put white light
took white light and you put white light through a prism and then you start to
through a prism and then you start to
through a prism and then you start to see all of the colors that’s what white
see all of the colors that’s what white
see all of the colors that’s what white noise is when you start to listen to it
noise is when you start to listen to it
noise is when you start to listen to it and you start to hear the symphony then
and you start to hear the symphony then
and you start to hear the symphony then you can start to hear the different
you can start to hear the different
you can start to hear the different parts think of us as a symphony today
parts think of us as a symphony today
parts think of us as a symphony today you get to hear the different parts you
you get to hear the different parts you
you get to hear the different parts you get to hear the different people and
get to hear the different people and
get to hear the different people and sometimes there’s a solo that you’re
sometimes there’s a solo that you’re
sometimes there’s a solo that you’re listening to and sometimes everybody
listening to and sometimes everybody
listening to and sometimes everybody else is playing the melody but if we
else is playing the melody but if we
else is playing the melody but if we have too much white noise we don’t get
have too much white noise we don’t get
have too much white noise we don’t get to hear any of that
to hear any of that
to hear any of that but what about society what about what
but what about society what about what
but what about society what about what happens in society with white noise what
happens in society with white noise what
happens in society with white noise what if this conversation that all we’re
if this conversation that all we’re
if this conversation that all we’re doing is we’re talking at the top of our
doing is we’re talking at the top of our
doing is we’re talking at the top of our lungs and everybody’s screaming and you
lungs and everybody’s screaming and you
lungs and everybody’s screaming and you have Facebook and you have Twitter and
have Facebook and you have Twitter and
have Facebook and you have Twitter and you have Instagram and you have news
you have Instagram and you have news
you have Instagram and you have news sources you have blogs and you have
sources you have blogs and you have
sources you have blogs and you have people you have everything talking at
people you have everything talking at
people you have everything talking at this level you can’t hear what people
this level you can’t hear what people
this level you can’t hear what people are trying to say
are trying to say
are trying to say so in society we have this white noise
so in society we have this white noise
so in society we have this white noise that’s all around us that always happens
that’s all around us that always happens
that’s all around us that always happens but what can we do with the societal
but what can we do with the societal
but what can we do with the societal white noise what can we do to make sure
white noise what can we do to make sure
white noise what can we do to make sure that we hear the conversation we need to
that we hear the conversation we need to
that we hear the conversation we need to make sure that we hear the different
make sure that we hear the different
make sure that we hear the different notes and the chords and the harmonies
notes and the chords and the harmonies
notes and the chords and the harmonies that are there through the white noise
that are there through the white noise
that are there through the white noise when I another part to look at is if we
when I another part to look at is if we
when I another part to look at is if we see white light and as you cast it
see white light and as you cast it
see white light and as you cast it through the prism you start to see the
through the prism you start to see the
through the prism you start to see the different colors that are out there
different colors that are out there
different colors that are out there that’s what we need to be doing with our
that’s what we need to be doing with our
that’s what we need to be doing with our conversations that’s what we need to be
conversations that’s what we need to be
conversations that’s what we need to be doing as we go through our life together
doing as we go through our life together
doing as we go through our life together and what I would like to suggest is that
and what I would like to suggest is that
and what I would like to suggest is that we engage in these different things just
we engage in these different things just
we engage in these different things just like the notes just like the different
like the notes just like the different
like the notes just like the different aspects of music that we use this as a
aspects of music that we use this as a
aspects of music that we use this as a gear because as you engage something it
gear because as you engage something it
gear because as you engage something it starts to move amazing things start to
starts to move amazing things start to
starts to move amazing things start to happen processes get made things start
happen processes get made things start
happen processes get made things start to change
to change
to change so what are we doing to engage in
so what are we doing to engage in
so what are we doing to engage in difficult and hard conversations excuse
difficult and hard conversations excuse
difficult and hard conversations excuse me what are we doing to make sure that
me what are we doing to make sure that
me what are we doing to make sure that we are the ones that are engaging in
we are the ones that are engaging in
we are the ones that are engaging in these things the first thing that I’d
these things the first thing that I’d
these things the first thing that I’d like us to do and I’d like this to be a
like us to do and I’d like this to be a
like us to do and I’d like this to be a crowd participation if you can sit up in
crowd participation if you can sit up in
crowd participation if you can sit up in your chair and put your hands on your
your chair and put your hands on your
your chair and put your hands on your lap palms up because I think we need to
lap palms up because I think we need to
lap palms up because I think we need to enter into these conversations with our
enter into these conversations with our
enter into these conversations with our palms up and you might be asking what
palms up and you might be asking what
palms up and you might be asking what why part of it is this brings comfort
why part of it is this brings comfort
why part of it is this brings comfort because even as you sit there there’s a
because even as you sit there there’s a
because even as you sit there there’s a sense of peace there’s a sense of that
sense of peace there’s a sense of that
sense of peace there’s a sense of that I’m not and sometimes it’s scary I’m not
I’m not and sometimes it’s scary I’m not
I’m not and sometimes it’s scary I’m not really in control because my palms are
really in control because my palms are
really in control because my palms are up
up
up it’s amazing thing that happens you
it’s amazing thing that happens you
it’s amazing thing that happens you can’t argue well with your palms up you
can’t argue well with your palms up you
can’t argue well with your palms up you can’t do it it’s hard but if we go into
can’t do it it’s hard but if we go into
can’t do it it’s hard but if we go into this it’s just signs showing humility
this it’s just signs showing humility
this it’s just signs showing humility it’s a sign showing you know what I’m
it’s a sign showing you know what I’m
it’s a sign showing you know what I’m gonna let you into this conversation if
gonna let you into this conversation if
gonna let you into this conversation if you let me into part of your
you let me into part of your
you let me into part of your conversation
conversation
conversation another part is if you take your palms
another part is if you take your palms
another part is if you take your palms bring them to about right here and do
bring them to about right here and do
bring them to about right here and do this you don’t know everything and we
this you don’t know everything and we
this you don’t know everything and we don’t know everything but we enter into
don’t know everything but we enter into
don’t know everything but we enter into these conversations as we go into the
these conversations as we go into the
these conversations as we go into the conversations sometimes that’s the best
conversations sometimes that’s the best
conversations sometimes that’s the best way to go into them the second thing
way to go into them the second thing
way to go into them the second thing that we need to do is we need to
that we need to do is we need to
that we need to do is we need to navigate thoughtfully as we go through
navigate thoughtfully as we go through
navigate thoughtfully as we go through these different conversations with
these different conversations with
these different conversations with people there are things that happen in
people there are things that happen in
people there are things that happen in our lives that are difficult we have
our lives that are difficult we have
our lives that are difficult we have different people that have gone through
different people that have gone through
different people that have gone through different things and we need to know and
different things and we need to know and
different things and we need to know and to realize the things that I say may
to realize the things that I say may
to realize the things that I say may trigger something in someone else that
trigger something in someone else that
trigger something in someone else that isn’t pleasant I need to think of you
isn’t pleasant I need to think of you
isn’t pleasant I need to think of you above myself I need to make sure you are
above myself I need to make sure you are
above myself I need to make sure you are getting taken care of
getting taken care of
getting taken care of we need to navigate through this in a
we need to navigate through this in a
we need to navigate through this in a way that’s gonna help someone again
way that’s gonna help someone again
way that’s gonna help someone again looking at these gears to get something
looking at these gears to get something
looking at these gears to get something moving to look at the symphony to make
moving to look at the symphony to make
moving to look at the symphony to make sure that each person I’m listening for
sure that each person I’m listening for
sure that each person I’m listening for the right note in making sure I’m not
the right note in making sure I’m not
the right note in making sure I’m not playing too loudly we navigate
playing too loudly we navigate
playing too loudly we navigate thoughtfully the third one is a little
thoughtfully the third one is a little
thoughtfully the third one is a little harsh and I understand that sometimes we
harsh and I understand that sometimes we
harsh and I understand that sometimes we don’t like to hear this but you need to
don’t like to hear this but you need to
don’t like to hear this but you need to get over yourself I need to get over
get over yourself I need to get over
get over yourself I need to get over myself I don’t know everything
myself I don’t know everything
myself I don’t know everything I don’t have all the answers but when we
I don’t have all the answers but when we
I don’t have all the answers but when we start talking to different people we can
start talking to different people we can
start talking to different people we can start listening to different people
start listening to different people
start listening to different people listen from the different things that
listen from the different things that
listen from the different things that they’ve had the different experiences
they’ve had the different experiences
they’ve had the different experiences that they’ve done and we can start to
that they’ve done and we can start to
that they’ve done and we can start to learn a little bit about each other I do
learn a little bit about each other I do
learn a little bit about each other I do have one suggestion as you go through
have one suggestion as you go through
have one suggestion as you go through getting over yourself hold back I’m
getting over yourself hold back I’m
getting over yourself hold back I’m telling everyone just how awesome you
telling everyone just how awesome you
telling everyone just how awesome you are they’ll learn they’ll hear it
are they’ll learn they’ll hear it
are they’ll learn they’ll hear it they’ll see it but don’t tell them right
they’ll see it but don’t tell them right
they’ll see it but don’t tell them right up front let them learn and learn how
up front let them learn and learn how
up front let them learn and learn how awesome the other person is that you’re
awesome the other person is that you’re
awesome the other person is that you’re having this conversation with but we do
having this conversation with but we do
having this conversation with but we do need to just get over ourselves and
need to just get over ourselves and
need to just get over ourselves and listen
listen
listen the a factor in engage is this part of
the a factor in engage is this part of
the a factor in engage is this part of actively listening are we truly involved
actively listening are we truly involved
actively listening are we truly involved in the conversation at hand are we
in the conversation at hand are we
in the conversation at hand are we making sure that we’re having the right
making sure that we’re having the right
making sure that we’re having the right eye contact do we smile every once in a
eye contact do we smile every once in a
eye contact do we smile every once in a while
while
while here’s a hard one for a lot of people do
here’s a hard one for a lot of people do
here’s a hard one for a lot of people do you take the earbuds out of your ears
you take the earbuds out of your ears
you take the earbuds out of your ears put them in your pocket and actually
put them in your pocket and actually
put them in your pocket and actually have a conversation with the person
have a conversation with the person
have a conversation with the person across from you do you take the cell
across from you do you take the cell
across from you do you take the cell phone and put it in your pocket turn it
phone and put it in your pocket turn it
phone and put it in your pocket turn it on silent and don’t touch it for 20
on silent and don’t touch it for 20
on silent and don’t touch it for 20 minutes so that you’re gonna actually
minutes so that you’re gonna actually
minutes so that you’re gonna actually have the conversation with some money
have the conversation with some money
have the conversation with some money someone and really truly listen learn
someone and really truly listen learn
someone and really truly listen learn experience what they’re going through
experience what they’re going through
experience what they’re going through and know that if you have that
and know that if you have that
and know that if you have that conversation something better is going
conversation something better is going
conversation something better is going to come out from it you may not solve
to come out from it you may not solve
to come out from it you may not solve the world’s problems but something
the world’s problems but something
the world’s problems but something better is gonna come out from that
better is gonna come out from that
better is gonna come out from that though the second G is go further it
though the second G is go further it
though the second G is go further it can’t stop in an auditorium like this it
can’t stop in an auditorium like this it
can’t stop in an auditorium like this it can’t even stop with one more
can’t even stop with one more
can’t even stop with one more conversation it must keep moving when
conversation it must keep moving when
conversation it must keep moving when you put the gears together the machine
you put the gears together the machine
you put the gears together the machine the thing that’s supposed to go must
the thing that’s supposed to go must
the thing that’s supposed to go must keep going
keep going
keep going the symphony as they play you don’t want
the symphony as they play you don’t want
the symphony as they play you don’t want to just listen to it and be like oh that
to just listen to it and be like oh that
to just listen to it and be like oh that was good and just leave it there you
was good and just leave it there you
was good and just leave it there you want to talk about it you want to
want to talk about it you want to
want to talk about it you want to experience it you want to see it you buy
experience it you want to see it you buy
experience it you want to see it you buy the CD you buy the things you want to
the CD you buy the things you want to
the CD you buy the things you want to experience time and time and time again
experience time and time and time again
experience time and time and time again that’s the same thing with these hard
that’s the same thing with these hard
that’s the same thing with these hard and difficult conversations have them
and difficult conversations have them
and difficult conversations have them daily have them with people you know
daily have them with people you know
daily have them with people you know well have them with people you just met
well have them with people you just met
well have them with people you just met but go further into the conversation and
but go further into the conversation and
but go further into the conversation and make sure that they understand that you
make sure that they understand that you
make sure that they understand that you care and it matters and the last part of
care and it matters and the last part of
care and it matters and the last part of this I’d like us all to put our hands on
this I’d like us all to put our hands on
this I’d like us all to put our hands on our lap again because we exit with palms
our lap again because we exit with palms
our lap again because we exit with palms up because even though we might have had
up because even though we might have had
up because even though we might have had a meaningful and difficult and hard
a meaningful and difficult and hard
a meaningful and difficult and hard conversation we need to know that we may
conversation we need to know that we may
conversation we need to know that we may not even agree when we get done
not even agree when we get done
not even agree when we get done but we can still like each other we can
but we can still like each other we can
but we can still like each other we can still be friends and not agree on
still be friends and not agree on
still be friends and not agree on everything but if we engage in the
everything but if we engage in the
everything but if we engage in the culture we engage in the conversation
culture we engage in the conversation
culture we engage in the conversation and we make sure that we have the sign
and we make sure that we have the sign
and we make sure that we have the sign of humility that I don’t know everything
of humility that I don’t know everything
of humility that I don’t know everything but I do know that I want to listen and
but I do know that I want to listen and
but I do know that I want to listen and get to know you it’s not easy sometimes
get to know you it’s not easy sometimes
get to know you it’s not easy sometimes it’s not even fun but it’s what’s
it’s not even fun but it’s what’s
it’s not even fun but it’s what’s necessary for society to keep moving and
necessary for society to keep moving and
necessary for society to keep moving and keep moving forward so that we have
keep moving forward so that we have
keep moving forward so that we have these ideas and we have these things
these ideas and we have these things
these ideas and we have these things that we are talking about and listening
that we are talking about and listening
that we are talking about and listening to and trying to figure out and that’s
to and trying to figure out and that’s
to and trying to figure out and that’s how things get done maybe just maybe
how things get done maybe just maybe
how things get done maybe just maybe after some of these conversations you
after some of these conversations you
after some of these conversations you have a different aspect and the
have a different aspect and the
have a different aspect and the different look on someone around you
different look on someone around you
different look on someone around you maybe even deeper you look at someone
maybe even deeper you look at someone
maybe even deeper you look at someone who doesn’t act like you or think like
who doesn’t act like you or think like
who doesn’t act like you or think like you or talk like you you might actually
you or talk like you you might actually
you or talk like you you might actually be friends and maybe after each and
be friends and maybe after each and
be friends and maybe after each and every conversation that you have that
every conversation that you have that
every conversation that you have that you make a little bit of a difference in
you make a little bit of a difference in
you make a little bit of a difference in the world around you you see the reason
the world around you you see the reason
the world around you you see the reason we like to go to symphonies is because
we like to go to symphonies is because
we like to go to symphonies is because it feels good it draws emotion we love
it feels good it draws emotion we love
it feels good it draws emotion we love to hear the different chords and harmony
to hear the different chords and harmony
to hear the different chords and harmony we love to see that there is dissonance
we love to see that there is dissonance
we love to see that there is dissonance in there and it makes sense and it’s
in there and it makes sense and it’s
in there and it makes sense and it’s nice and sometimes we feel the tension
nice and sometimes we feel the tension
nice and sometimes we feel the tension of that musical piece and we get all
of that musical piece and we get all
of that musical piece and we get all worked up for it and then finally
worked up for it and then finally
worked up for it and then finally there’s a resolution to it what if
there’s a resolution to it what if
there’s a resolution to it what if that’s you what if that’s supposed to be
that’s you what if that’s supposed to be
that’s you what if that’s supposed to be what you do what if it’s that one
what you do what if it’s that one
what you do what if it’s that one meaningful conversation that may be very
meaningful conversation that may be very
meaningful conversation that may be very uncomfortable to have but it makes a
uncomfortable to have but it makes a
uncomfortable to have but it makes a difference in somebody’s life that
difference in somebody’s life that
difference in somebody’s life that completely changes their outcome maybe
completely changes their outcome maybe
completely changes their outcome maybe just maybe you can be the diff
just maybe you can be the diff
just maybe you can be the diff and somebody’s life that challenges them
and somebody’s life that challenges them
and somebody’s life that challenges them to go further than they ever thought
to go further than they ever thought
to go further than they ever thought they could thank you
they could thank you
they could thank you [Applause]
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