[Applause] my parents met his teenagers their birth
my parents met his teenagers their birth
my parents met his teenagers their birth working really hard to emancipate from
working really hard to emancipate from
working really hard to emancipate from their families of origin they’re working
their families of origin they’re working
their families of origin they’re working really hard to emancipate from those
really hard to emancipate from those
really hard to emancipate from those families for two very different reasons
families for two very different reasons
families for two very different reasons they found each other
they found each other
they found each other probably in the backseat of a Chevy and
probably in the backseat of a Chevy and
probably in the backseat of a Chevy and it’s 16 years old they got pregnant with
it’s 16 years old they got pregnant with
it’s 16 years old they got pregnant with my brother he promptly dropped out of
my brother he promptly dropped out of
my brother he promptly dropped out of high school got married moved in
high school got married moved in
high school got married moved in together and took the kind of low-paying
together and took the kind of low-paying
together and took the kind of low-paying jobs that high school dropouts get to
jobs that high school dropouts get to
jobs that high school dropouts get to take ten months after my brother was
take ten months after my brother was
take ten months after my brother was born I was born ten months after my
born I was born ten months after my
born I was born ten months after my brother was born the joke in my family
brother was born the joke in my family
brother was born the joke in my family growing up was that after my brother
growing up was that after my brother
growing up was that after my brother came out my dad went right back in on
came out my dad went right back in on
came out my dad went right back in on the eve of my fourth birthday my parents
the eve of my fourth birthday my parents
the eve of my fourth birthday my parents separate and divorced all for my
separate and divorced all for my
separate and divorced all for my grandparents sir Ashkenazi Jews making
grandparents sir Ashkenazi Jews making
grandparents sir Ashkenazi Jews making obviously my parents Ashkenazi Jews
obviously my parents Ashkenazi Jews
obviously my parents Ashkenazi Jews making me 96.2% Ashkenazi Jew I did one
making me 96.2% Ashkenazi Jew I did one
making me 96.2% Ashkenazi Jew I did one of those DNA tests you can find on
of those DNA tests you can find on
of those DNA tests you can find on Facebook
both my parents remarried by the time I
both my parents remarried by the time I was seven my father he remarried another
was seven my father he remarried another
was seven my father he remarried another Ashkenazi Jew my mother she remarried an
Ashkenazi Jew my mother she remarried an
Ashkenazi Jew my mother she remarried an Irish Catholic man this was problematic
Irish Catholic man this was problematic
Irish Catholic man this was problematic for both of them for a couple different
for both of them for a couple different
for both of them for a couple different reasons it was a problem for my mother
reasons it was a problem for my mother
reasons it was a problem for my mother because she married a guy who wasn’t
because she married a guy who wasn’t
because she married a guy who wasn’t Jewish they gonna remember this is the
Jewish they gonna remember this is the
Jewish they gonna remember this is the 1960s the early 1960s nobody broke that
1960s the early 1960s nobody broke that
1960s the early 1960s nobody broke that chain back then you didn’t marry out of
chain back then you didn’t marry out of
chain back then you didn’t marry out of your race or out of your religion
your race or out of your religion
your race or out of your religion especially if you were a Hodgkin ozzie
especially if you were a Hodgkin ozzie
especially if you were a Hodgkin ozzie jew there aren’t that many of us it was
jew there aren’t that many of us it was
jew there aren’t that many of us it was a problem for my stepfather because he
a problem for my stepfather because he
a problem for my stepfather because he was a Catholic man and he was marrying a
was a Catholic man and he was marrying a
was a Catholic man and he was marrying a woman who was divorced they moved us to
woman who was divorced they moved us to
woman who was divorced they moved us to a very white working-class neighborhood
a very white working-class neighborhood
a very white working-class neighborhood in Northeast Philadelphia that’s where I
in Northeast Philadelphia that’s where I
in Northeast Philadelphia that’s where I got my first taste of prejudice kids in
got my first taste of prejudice kids in
got my first taste of prejudice kids in the neighborhood made fun of me for the
the neighborhood made fun of me for the
the neighborhood made fun of me for the shape and the size of my nose they
shape and the size of my nose they
shape and the size of my nose they teased me for being short they teased me
teased me for being short they teased me
teased me for being short they teased me for having big ears I remember one time
for having big ears I remember one time
for having big ears I remember one time the kids came home from Catholic school
the kids came home from Catholic school
the kids came home from Catholic school and they formed a circle around me on
and they formed a circle around me on
and they formed a circle around me on their uniforms and said let’s beat up
their uniforms and said let’s beat up
their uniforms and said let’s beat up the Jew they they called me a rich Jew
the Jew they they called me a rich Jew
the Jew they they called me a rich Jew and they called me a dirty Jew and I was
and they called me a dirty Jew and I was
and they called me a dirty Jew and I was confused by all this sometimes they
confused by all this sometimes they
confused by all this sometimes they called me a kike I didn’t know that word
called me a kike I didn’t know that word
called me a kike I didn’t know that word I thought they were calling me a kite I
I thought they were calling me a kite I
I thought they were calling me a kite I didn’t know why they’re calling me a
didn’t know why they’re calling me a
didn’t know why they’re calling me a kite I didn’t feel like a kite the rich
kite I didn’t feel like a kite the rich
kite I didn’t feel like a kite the rich Jew thing was really confusing that you
Jew thing was really confusing that you
Jew thing was really confusing that you know these rich Jews I don’t know where
know these rich Jews I don’t know where
know these rich Jews I don’t know where they are they’re not in my family all my
they are they’re not in my family all my
they are they’re not in my family all my parents are high school dropouts I keep
parents are high school dropouts I keep
parents are high school dropouts I keep looking for these rich Jews I hope they
looking for these rich Jews I hope they
looking for these rich Jews I hope they show up sometime I want them to send me
show up sometime I want them to send me
show up sometime I want them to send me their money I’ll do good things with
their money I’ll do good things with
their money I’ll do good things with their money but there were no rich Jews
their money but there were no rich Jews
their money but there were no rich Jews in my family and the dirty Jew thing was
in my family and the dirty Jew thing was
in my family and the dirty Jew thing was also confusing to me I mean after I was
also confusing to me I mean after I was
also confusing to me I mean after I was a 7 year old boy growing up in a city I
a 7 year old boy growing up in a city I
a 7 year old boy growing up in a city I was probably pretty dirty but my am my
was probably pretty dirty but my am my
was probably pretty dirty but my am my family was not and my house was not in
family was not and my house was not in
family was not and my house was not in my house you didn’t you didn’t have
my house you didn’t you didn’t have
my house you didn’t you didn’t have trash and trash cans in my house because
trash and trash cans in my house because
trash and trash cans in my house because if somebody came over to your house and
if somebody came over to your house and
if somebody came over to your house and he’s all trash in the trash can they
he’s all trash in the trash can they
he’s all trash in the trash can they might think you were dirty so my house
might think you were dirty so my house
might think you were dirty so my house never had trash in the trash cans in my
never had trash in the trash cans in my
never had trash in the trash cans in my house if you were watching a TV show and
house if you were watching a TV show and
house if you were watching a TV show and you had a drink and you got up to leave
you had a drink and you got up to leave
you had a drink and you got up to leave for any reason anyone in your family
for any reason anyone in your family
for any reason anyone in your family anyone in the family might have picked
anyone in the family might have picked
anyone in the family might have picked up that glass and taking it wash it and
up that glass and taking it wash it and
up that glass and taking it wash it and put it away my house was not dirty we
put it away my house was not dirty we
put it away my house was not dirty we were not dirty Jews
were not dirty Jews
were not dirty Jews my stepfather and mother then moved us
my stepfather and mother then moved us
my stepfather and mother then moved us to a even more segregated neighborhood
to a even more segregated neighborhood
to a even more segregated neighborhood outside of Philadelphia called Levittown
outside of Philadelphia called Levittown
outside of Philadelphia called Levittown Pennsylvania in Levittown was
Pennsylvania in Levittown was
Pennsylvania in Levittown was deliberately segregated in Levittown
deliberately segregated in Levittown
deliberately segregated in Levittown they loved it was a bigot and he made a
they loved it was a bigot and he made a
they loved it was a bigot and he made a neighborhood that was just for the black
neighborhood that was just for the black
neighborhood that was just for the black folks and was called Bloomsdale and
folks and was called Bloomsdale and
folks and was called Bloomsdale and that’s where the black folks lived and
that’s where the black folks lived and
that’s where the black folks lived and the black folks didn’t go where the
the black folks didn’t go where the
the black folks didn’t go where the white folks lived and the white folks
white folks lived and the white folks
white folks lived and the white folks didn’t go where the black folks live
didn’t go where the black folks live
didn’t go where the black folks live that’s just how it was busing was a big
that’s just how it was busing was a big
that’s just how it was busing was a big thing when I was a kid and so it was the
thing when I was a kid and so it was the
thing when I was a kid and so it was the early 1970s who people started getting
early 1970s who people started getting
early 1970s who people started getting bused to achieve racial integration and
bused to achieve racial integration and
bused to achieve racial integration and so I was bused past one school it was
so I was bused past one school it was
so I was bused past one school it was five minutes from my house to another
five minutes from my house to another
five minutes from my house to another school that was a half hour from my
school that was a half hour from my
school that was a half hour from my house to achieve racial integration my
house to achieve racial integration my
house to achieve racial integration my black friends often remind me that the
black friends often remind me that the
black friends often remind me that the only time we ever started talking about
only time we ever started talking about
only time we ever started talking about busing is when white people started to
busing is when white people started to
busing is when white people started to get bussed I think this is true with a
get bussed I think this is true with a
get bussed I think this is true with a lot of things in this country we don’t
lot of things in this country we don’t
lot of things in this country we don’t start talking about this stuff until it
start talking about this stuff until it
start talking about this stuff until it happens to white people when I was a
happens to white people when I was a
happens to white people when I was a senior in high school I had an
senior in high school I had an
senior in high school I had an opportunity to take black history or
opportunity to take black history or
opportunity to take black history or American history it was interesting to
American history it was interesting to
American history it was interesting to me that they gave us an option of these
me that they gave us an option of these
me that they gave us an option of these two things as if they were different
two things as if they were different
two things as if they were different three of my white friends and I we took
three of my white friends and I we took
three of my white friends and I we took black history and I again felt like
black history and I again felt like
black history and I again felt like other in that classroom as one of the
other in that classroom as one of the
other in that classroom as one of the few white kids in a class of all black
few white kids in a class of all black
few white kids in a class of all black people but I felt welcome there I felt
people but I felt welcome there I felt
people but I felt welcome there I felt at home I felt accepted I felt nurtured
at home I felt accepted I felt nurtured
at home I felt accepted I felt nurtured I felt loved you see I grew up in a
I felt loved you see I grew up in a
I felt loved you see I grew up in a house where language was big words were
house where language was big words were
house where language was big words were big I grew up in a house where curse
big I grew up in a house where curse
big I grew up in a house where curse words weren’t the regular curse words
words weren’t the regular curse words
words weren’t the regular curse words George Carlin used to say that there are
George Carlin used to say that there are
George Carlin used to say that there are seven words you shouldn’t say on
seven words you shouldn’t say on
seven words you shouldn’t say on television
television
television curse words in my house weren’t words
curse words in my house weren’t words
curse words in my house weren’t words like the f-word I grew up in a house
like the f-word I grew up in a house
like the f-word I grew up in a house where the F word was used all the time I
where the F word was used all the time I
where the F word was used all the time I thought the F word had to be used in
thought the F word had to be used in
thought the F word had to be used in every sentence I didn’t know I mean I I
every sentence I didn’t know I mean I I
every sentence I didn’t know I mean I I loved looking out and seeing college
loved looking out and seeing college
loved looking out and seeing college students because y’all have you say the
students because y’all have you say the
students because y’all have you say the F word walking across campuses in all
F word walking across campuses in all
F word walking across campuses in all your songs I feel like I’m at home when
your songs I feel like I’m at home when
your songs I feel like I’m at home when I’m with you you know in my house curse
I’m with you you know in my house curse
I’m with you you know in my house curse words were words like the N word
words were words like the N word
words were words like the N word couldn’t say the N word in my house you
couldn’t say the N word in my house you
couldn’t say the N word in my house you couldn’t say the B word of the C word
couldn’t say the B word of the C word
couldn’t say the B word of the C word for women there were curse words for
for women there were curse words for
for women there were curse words for every group the Italians had curse words
every group the Italians had curse words
every group the Italians had curse words we couldn’t say those words you couldn’t
we couldn’t say those words you couldn’t
we couldn’t say those words you couldn’t say the words that we say for gays
say the words that we say for gays
say the words that we say for gays lesbians and bisexuals that you still
lesbians and bisexuals that you still
lesbians and bisexuals that you still here use you couldn’t say those words in
here use you couldn’t say those words in
here use you couldn’t say those words in my
my
my house you’d be in trouble there are
house you’d be in trouble there are
house you’d be in trouble there are curse words for people with disabilities
curse words for people with disabilities
curse words for people with disabilities that still get used regularly we use the
that still get used regularly we use the
that still get used regularly we use the R word like it’s nothing
R word like it’s nothing
R word like it’s nothing we still call people with disabilities
we still call people with disabilities
we still call people with disabilities invalids listen to the word we’re
invalids listen to the word we’re
invalids listen to the word we’re calling people invalid these words were
calling people invalid these words were
calling people invalid these words were powerful in my house and I grew up
powerful in my house and I grew up
powerful in my house and I grew up learning that these are not words you
learning that these are not words you
learning that these are not words you use those other ones be careful where
use those other ones be careful where
use those other ones be careful where you use them but you can use them here I
you use them but you can use them here I
you use them but you can use them here I also learned that a bigot is a bigot as
also learned that a bigot is a bigot as
also learned that a bigot is a bigot as a bigot and so that if you hear somebody
a bigot and so that if you hear somebody
a bigot and so that if you hear somebody saying the n-word when there’s no black
saying the n-word when there’s no black
saying the n-word when there’s no black folks around or the B word of the C word
folks around or the B word of the C word
folks around or the B word of the C word when there’s no women around you can bet
when there’s no women around you can bet
when there’s no women around you can bet damn sure mark that they’re saying dirty
damn sure mark that they’re saying dirty
damn sure mark that they’re saying dirty Jew when you’re not around you can bet
Jew when you’re not around you can bet
Jew when you’re not around you can bet damn sure they’re calling kike when
damn sure they’re calling kike when
damn sure they’re calling kike when you’re not around because a bigot is a
you’re not around because a bigot is a
you’re not around because a bigot is a bigot is a bigot and so I grew up about
bigot is a bigot and so I grew up about
bigot is a bigot and so I grew up about prejudice in a very different way than
prejudice in a very different way than
prejudice in a very different way than most people when I got to college I I
most people when I got to college I I
most people when I got to college I I wanted to study this thing about
wanted to study this thing about
wanted to study this thing about prejudice because it confused the hell
prejudice because it confused the hell
prejudice because it confused the hell out of me it really did it confuse me I
out of me it really did it confuse me I
out of me it really did it confuse me I didn’t understand it I passed for weight
didn’t understand it I passed for weight
didn’t understand it I passed for weight so I would hear prejudice all the time
so I would hear prejudice all the time
so I would hear prejudice all the time so I read this book it was written in
so I read this book it was written in
so I read this book it was written in 1954 by a guy named Gordon Allport when
1954 by a guy named Gordon Allport when
1954 by a guy named Gordon Allport when I first got to college and he talks
I first got to college and he talks
I first got to college and he talks about a couple different things in this
about a couple different things in this
about a couple different things in this book but but three that I’ll highlight
book but but three that I’ll highlight
book but but three that I’ll highlight here he talks about the idea that
here he talks about the idea that
here he talks about the idea that prejudice is normal it’s natural it’s
prejudice is normal it’s natural it’s
prejudice is normal it’s natural it’s it’s to be accepted we’re gonna have
it’s to be accepted we’re gonna have
it’s to be accepted we’re gonna have prejudice we’re gonna have stereotypes
prejudice we’re gonna have stereotypes
prejudice we’re gonna have stereotypes because we can’t meet every one of any
because we can’t meet every one of any
because we can’t meet every one of any certain group so you’re gonna have
certain group so you’re gonna have
certain group so you’re gonna have stereotypes and Prejudice based on
stereotypes and Prejudice based on
stereotypes and Prejudice based on certain things hell if I’m the first Jew
certain things hell if I’m the first Jew
certain things hell if I’m the first Jew you ever saw you might think this is
you ever saw you might think this is
you ever saw you might think this is what Jews are like and you know what
what Jews are like and you know what
what Jews are like and you know what we’re kind of like this this is how we
we’re kind of like this this is how we
we’re kind of like this this is how we look he says that many stereotypes are
look he says that many stereotypes are
look he says that many stereotypes are based in kernels of truth they don’t
based in kernels of truth they don’t
based in kernels of truth they don’t come from nowhere they come from
come from nowhere they come from
come from nowhere they come from somewhere and he says not only is
somewhere and he says not only is
somewhere and he says not only is prejudice between groups but prejudice
prejudice between groups but prejudice
prejudice between groups but prejudice is also within certain groups groups
is also within certain groups groups
is also within certain groups groups also have prejudice within them not just
also have prejudice within them not just
also have prejudice within them not just between them now I know about this
between them now I know about this
between them now I know about this because as a Jew when people would ask
because as a Jew when people would ask
because as a Jew when people would ask me if I was Jewish I would apologize and
me if I was Jewish I would apologize and
me if I was Jewish I would apologize and I would say well yes almost as as if I
I would say well yes almost as as if I
I would say well yes almost as as if I felt bad about it which I did I say yes
felt bad about it which I did I say yes
felt bad about it which I did I say yes I am but but my stepfather is Catholic
I am but but my stepfather is Catholic
I am but but my stepfather is Catholic and it wasn’t so much later in my life
and it wasn’t so much later in my life
and it wasn’t so much later in my life that I realized that being Catholic was
that I realized that being Catholic was
that I realized that being Catholic was just as bad as being Jewish I didn’t
just as bad as being Jewish I didn’t
just as bad as being Jewish I didn’t know as a little kid I wouldn’t let you
know as a little kid I wouldn’t let you
know as a little kid I wouldn’t let you look at me from the side when I was in
look at me from the side when I was in
look at me from the side when I was in school I would want to sit in a way that
school I would want to sit in a way that
school I would want to sit in a way that you would never see me from my profile I
you would never see me from my profile I
you would never see me from my profile I wasn’t
wasn’t
wasn’t ashamed and scared that you would see
ashamed and scared that you would see
ashamed and scared that you would see how Jewish I was when I got to graduate
how Jewish I was when I got to graduate
how Jewish I was when I got to graduate school I studied this guy named Carl
school I studied this guy named Carl
school I studied this guy named Carl Rogers and Carl Roger says that the
Rogers and Carl Roger says that the
Rogers and Carl Roger says that the distance between who you are and who you
distance between who you are and who you
distance between who you are and who you dream yourself to be the greater the gap
dream yourself to be the greater the gap
dream yourself to be the greater the gap those two things are the more
those two things are the more
those two things are the more psychologically impaired you probably
psychologically impaired you probably
psychologically impaired you probably are so I started to apply this to
are so I started to apply this to
are so I started to apply this to prejudice and I thought well I can’t
prejudice and I thought well I can’t
prejudice and I thought well I can’t apply this to me because I’m not
apply this to me because I’m not
apply this to me because I’m not prejudiced I grew up in a house where
prejudiced I grew up in a house where
prejudiced I grew up in a house where you couldn’t say the n-word I grew up in
you couldn’t say the n-word I grew up in
you couldn’t say the n-word I grew up in Houston didn’t have prejudice I learned
Houston didn’t have prejudice I learned
Houston didn’t have prejudice I learned from my mother that a bigot is a bigot
from my mother that a bigot is a bigot
from my mother that a bigot is a bigot is a bigot and then I realized oh no
is a bigot and then I realized oh no
is a bigot and then I realized oh no mark until you can look at your own
mark until you can look at your own
mark until you can look at your own prejudice and you can look at the fact
prejudice and you can look at the fact
prejudice and you can look at the fact that you have pressures and you can
that you have pressures and you can
that you have pressures and you can start to examine that like an alcoholic
start to examine that like an alcoholic
start to examine that like an alcoholic or an addict has a problem with
or an addict has a problem with
or an addict has a problem with addiction before they can do anything
addiction before they can do anything
addiction before they can do anything about it I have to realize that I am
about it I have to realize that I am
about it I have to realize that I am prejudiced and so I’m gonna stand here
prejudiced and so I’m gonna stand here
prejudiced and so I’m gonna stand here I’m gonna say something you might sound
I’m gonna say something you might sound
I’m gonna say something you might sound a little crazy I am a racist sexist
a little crazy I am a racist sexist
a little crazy I am a racist sexist ageist classist homophobic heterosexist
ageist classist homophobic heterosexist
ageist classist homophobic heterosexist able biased and lookest person and with
able biased and lookest person and with
able biased and lookest person and with all due respect so are you so are you
all due respect so are you so are you
all due respect so are you so are you and until you can admit it until we can
and until you can admit it until we can
and until you can admit it until we can admit as a society we will not move
admit as a society we will not move
admit as a society we will not move anywhere because in our culture what we
anywhere because in our culture what we
anywhere because in our culture what we do is we keep trying to convince each
do is we keep trying to convince each
do is we keep trying to convince each other how cool we are we say stupid
other how cool we are we say stupid
other how cool we are we say stupid things like I don’t see color or all one
things like I don’t see color or all one
things like I don’t see color or all one race or that all lives matter it’s crazy
race or that all lives matter it’s crazy
race or that all lives matter it’s crazy talk I can’t stand here pretend I don’t
talk I can’t stand here pretend I don’t
talk I can’t stand here pretend I don’t see your age I can’t pretend I don’t see
see your age I can’t pretend I don’t see
see your age I can’t pretend I don’t see that your skin is black in – white I
that your skin is black in – white I
that your skin is black in – white I can’t pretend that I can’t pretend that
can’t pretend that I can’t pretend that
can’t pretend that I can’t pretend that I’ll notice some of your eyes are shaped
I’ll notice some of your eyes are shaped
I’ll notice some of your eyes are shaped differently than mine I can’t pretend
differently than mine I can’t pretend
differently than mine I can’t pretend that I’ll see your hair sometimes purple
that I’ll see your hair sometimes purple
that I’ll see your hair sometimes purple I can’t pretend that I don’t see these
I can’t pretend that I don’t see these
I can’t pretend that I don’t see these things and I can’t pretend that it
things and I can’t pretend that it
things and I can’t pretend that it doesn’t impact our relationship because
doesn’t impact our relationship because
doesn’t impact our relationship because it does and until we can come to grips
it does and until we can come to grips
it does and until we can come to grips with recognizing that the way we see
with recognizing that the way we see
with recognizing that the way we see each other just based on very limited
each other just based on very limited
each other just based on very limited information impacts who we are and how
information impacts who we are and how
information impacts who we are and how we like to relate to each other we will
we like to relate to each other we will
we like to relate to each other we will do nothing about this problems we’ve got
do nothing about this problems we’ve got
do nothing about this problems we’ve got to stop pretending that we don’t have
to stop pretending that we don’t have
to stop pretending that we don’t have prejudice it’s absurd so I started do
prejudice it’s absurd so I started do
prejudice it’s absurd so I started do some research to find out who’s done
some research to find out who’s done
some research to find out who’s done work on this prejudice thing and I was
work on this prejudice thing and I was
work on this prejudice thing and I was surprised as heck to find out that the
surprised as heck to find out that the
surprised as heck to find out that the group that did some of the earliest
group that did some of the earliest
group that did some of the earliest research on prejudice was the US
research on prejudice was the US
research on prejudice was the US military because then they in before
military because then they in before
military because then they in before World War two the US military has
World War two the US military has
World War two the US military has separate barracks they had enlisted men
separate barracks they had enlisted men
separate barracks they had enlisted men showers that were for white folks and
showers that were for white folks and
showers that were for white folks and enlisted men showers there for colored
enlisted men showers there for colored
enlisted men showers there for colored folks and they had barracks that were
folks and they had barracks that were
folks and they had barracks that were separate and showers that were separate
separate and showers that were separate
separate and showers that were separate and so what they did is they they did
and so what they did is they they did
and so what they did is they they did sensitivity training to try and reduce
sensitivity training to try and reduce
sensitivity training to try and reduce prey
prey
prey so they put these people in a room and
so they put these people in a room and
so they put these people in a room and they did this sensitivity training
they did this sensitivity training
they did this sensitivity training something like what I’m talking to you
something like what I’m talking to you
something like what I’m talking to you about right now sort of and what they
about right now sort of and what they
about right now sort of and what they found out is that prejudice did not go
found out is that prejudice did not go
found out is that prejudice did not go down it didn’t go down all the
down it didn’t go down all the
down it didn’t go down all the sensitivity training in the world didn’t
sensitivity training in the world didn’t
sensitivity training in the world didn’t decrease prejudice so finally they said
decrease prejudice so finally they said
decrease prejudice so finally they said the hell with this you know what let’s
the hell with this you know what let’s
the hell with this you know what let’s just move these dudes in with each other
just move these dudes in with each other
just move these dudes in with each other let’s just move them all in together
let’s just move them all in together
let’s just move them all in together guess what happened to prejudice it went
guess what happened to prejudice it went
guess what happened to prejudice it went down it went down dramatically and then
down it went down dramatically and then
down it went down dramatically and then researchers have to say what the heck
researchers have to say what the heck
researchers have to say what the heck happened here how did prejudice go down
happened here how did prejudice go down
happened here how did prejudice go down what did we do and so they found that
what did we do and so they found that
what did we do and so they found that when they met for specific conditions
when they met for specific conditions
when they met for specific conditions when people share intimate beliefs in an
when people share intimate beliefs in an
when people share intimate beliefs in an atmosphere of cooperation and they are
atmosphere of cooperation and they are
atmosphere of cooperation and they are equal status sanctioned by some
equal status sanctioned by some
equal status sanctioned by some Authority when we do those things
Authority when we do those things
Authority when we do those things prejudice almost always goes down it
prejudice almost always goes down it
prejudice almost always goes down it almost always goes down so how do we
almost always goes down so how do we
almost always goes down so how do we keep prejudice in our head how does it
keep prejudice in our head how does it
keep prejudice in our head how does it stay in our head what happens to us so
stay in our head what happens to us so
stay in our head what happens to us so I’m driving on a very nice day from Los
I’m driving on a very nice day from Los
I’m driving on a very nice day from Los Angeles to San Diego with my two
Angeles to San Diego with my two
Angeles to San Diego with my two favorite bigots my my biological father
favorite bigots my my biological father
favorite bigots my my biological father and my stepmother you know the other
and my stepmother you know the other
and my stepmother you know the other kind of bigots that are bigoted in a way
kind of bigots that are bigoted in a way
kind of bigots that are bigoted in a way that they don’t um
that they don’t um
that they don’t um they don’t they pretend they’re not
they don’t they pretend they’re not
they don’t they pretend they’re not bigoted but they are they use all those
bigoted but they are they use all those
bigoted but they are they use all those words when no one’s around but they tell
words when no one’s around but they tell
words when no one’s around but they tell you how cool they are when they are
you how cool they are when they are
you how cool they are when they are around and so on this day we’re driving
around and so on this day we’re driving
around and so on this day we’re driving from Los Angeles San Diego and as we’re
from Los Angeles San Diego and as we’re
from Los Angeles San Diego and as we’re driving down there and there’s a car
driving down there and there’s a car
driving down there and there’s a car driving erratically sure enough my
driving erratically sure enough my
driving erratically sure enough my stepmother leans over to my father when
stepmother leans over to my father when
stepmother leans over to my father when she sees this car driving erratically
she sees this car driving erratically
she sees this car driving erratically and she says I knew it and I mean
and she says I knew it and I mean
and she says I knew it and I mean forward I say what is it that you knew
forward I say what is it that you knew
forward I say what is it that you knew and she said never mind I’m probably not
and she said never mind I’m probably not
and she said never mind I’m probably not supposed to say this to you and I said
supposed to say this to you and I said
supposed to say this to you and I said my guess is you’re probably not supposed
my guess is you’re probably not supposed
my guess is you’re probably not supposed to say this to anyone
to say this to anyone
to say this to anyone but tell me anyhow so she told me she
but tell me anyhow so she told me she
but tell me anyhow so she told me she said okay I’ll tell you I knew would be
said okay I’ll tell you I knew would be
said okay I’ll tell you I knew would be an oriental driver now my first thought
an oriental driver now my first thought
an oriental driver now my first thought was oriental refers to food and rugs not
was oriental refers to food and rugs not
was oriental refers to food and rugs not people but I don’t correct her just yet
people but I don’t correct her just yet
people but I don’t correct her just yet I am capable of that
I am capable of that
I am capable of that she says you wouldn’t know you live in
she says you wouldn’t know you live in
she says you wouldn’t know you live in Colorado there are no Orientals in
Colorado there are no Orientals in
Colorado there are no Orientals in Colorado you wouldn’t know so I say
Colorado you wouldn’t know so I say
Colorado you wouldn’t know so I say let’s do a survey we got two hours to
let’s do a survey we got two hours to
let’s do a survey we got two hours to sit in the car I’d rather do this and
sit in the car I’d rather do this and
sit in the car I’d rather do this and talk to you let’s do a survey from Los
talk to you let’s do a survey from Los
talk to you let’s do a survey from Los Angeles to San Diego on this given day
Angeles to San Diego on this given day
Angeles to San Diego on this given day let’s see how many Asian folks or
let’s see how many Asian folks or
let’s see how many Asian folks or Pacific Islanders are bad drivers and we
Pacific Islanders are bad drivers and we
Pacific Islanders are bad drivers and we find out on this given day Asian and
find out on this given day Asian and
find out on this given day Asian and Pacific Islanders do not have a monopoly
Pacific Islanders do not have a monopoly
Pacific Islanders do not have a monopoly on driving poorly we know who the worst
on driving poorly we know who the worst
on driving poorly we know who the worst drivers are in this country we know
drivers are in this country we know
drivers are in this country we know where they are they’re 16 to 17 year old
where they are they’re 16 to 17 year old
where they are they’re 16 to 17 year old boys so how does my stepmother hold in
boys so how does my stepmother hold in
boys so how does my stepmother hold in her head that Asian and Pacific
her head that Asian and Pacific
her head that Asian and Pacific Islanders are the worst driver she holds
Islanders are the worst driver she holds
Islanders are the worst driver she holds in her head the same way I hold it in my
in her head the same way I hold it in my
in her head the same way I hold it in my head the same way you hold in your head
head the same way you hold in your head
head the same way you hold in your head she has a file a file in her head that
she has a file a file in her head that
she has a file a file in her head that says bad Asian driver so when she sees a
says bad Asian driver so when she sees a
says bad Asian driver so when she sees a bad driver that’s not Asian no file when
bad driver that’s not Asian no file when
bad driver that’s not Asian no file when she sees a bad driver that is Asian boom
she sees a bad driver that is Asian boom
she sees a bad driver that is Asian boom she files it so what’s in your file
she files it so what’s in your file
she files it so what’s in your file what’s in your file I have a file I will
what’s in your file I have a file I will
what’s in your file I have a file I will file for black folks I have a file for
file for black folks I have a file for
file for black folks I have a file for brown folks I have a file for
brown folks I have a file for
brown folks I have a file for Republicans I have a file for people
Republicans I have a file for people
Republicans I have a file for people from Nebraska okay I have now I have a
from Nebraska okay I have now I have a
from Nebraska okay I have now I have a file and so do you and you need to look
file and so do you and you need to look
file and so do you and you need to look at your file so I started to examine
at your file so I started to examine
at your file so I started to examine like has anybody in current events done
like has anybody in current events done
like has anybody in current events done anything that’s reduced prejudice or
anything that’s reduced prejudice or
anything that’s reduced prejudice or showing the presence to be reduced by
showing the presence to be reduced by
showing the presence to be reduced by meeting those four conditions and sure
meeting those four conditions and sure
meeting those four conditions and sure enough I get online and I find this guy
enough I get online and I find this guy
enough I get online and I find this guy named Darryl Davis and Darryl Davis has
named Darryl Davis and Darryl Davis has
named Darryl Davis and Darryl Davis has a african-american musician who plays in
a african-american musician who plays in
a african-american musician who plays in a white band and he ends up playing at
a white band and he ends up playing at
a white band and he ends up playing at Ku Klux Klan rallies he stands around
Ku Klux Klan rallies he stands around
Ku Klux Klan rallies he stands around and he talks to people and they share
and he talks to people and they share
and he talks to people and they share intimate beliefs and that mystery of
intimate beliefs and that mystery of
intimate beliefs and that mystery of cooperation and they’re of equal status
cooperation and they’re of equal status
cooperation and they’re of equal status and Prejudice Goes Down and Darrell
and Prejudice Goes Down and Darrell
and Prejudice Goes Down and Darrell Davis gave me permission to use this
Davis gave me permission to use this
Davis gave me permission to use this photographs and you can read about them
photographs and you can read about them
photographs and you can read about them online if you like Darrell Davis will go
online if you like Darrell Davis will go
online if you like Darrell Davis will go to these places and talk to these folks
to these places and talk to these folks
to these places and talk to these folks and Wilson Shave wrote a book called
and Wilson Shave wrote a book called
and Wilson Shave wrote a book called women’s reality and in her book she says
women’s reality and in her book she says
women’s reality and in her book she says that prejudice is like air pollution
that prejudice is like air pollution
that prejudice is like air pollution when you’re in the air that stinks
when you’re in the air that stinks
when you’re in the air that stinks really really bad for a really long time
really really bad for a really long time
really really bad for a really long time you stopped smelling this think of the
you stopped smelling this think of the
you stopped smelling this think of the air it’s just
air it’s just
air it’s just we the air smells and so the air as a
we the air smells and so the air as a
we the air smells and so the air as a white male heterosexual temporarily
white male heterosexual temporarily
white male heterosexual temporarily able-bodied man is almost always – over
able-bodied man is almost always – over
able-bodied man is almost always – over my black friends tell me that a place
my black friends tell me that a place
my black friends tell me that a place feels racist when my women friends say
feels racist when my women friends say
feels racist when my women friends say it doesn’t feel safe to walk through the
it doesn’t feel safe to walk through the
it doesn’t feel safe to walk through the parking garage or their workplace feels
parking garage or their workplace feels
parking garage or their workplace feels like there’s a creeper working there I
like there’s a creeper working there I
like there’s a creeper working there I go like this I don’t smell that because
go like this I don’t smell that because
go like this I don’t smell that because it’s not my air and so my job is to
it’s not my air and so my job is to
it’s not my air and so my job is to smell the air when it stinks especially
smell the air when it stinks especially
smell the air when it stinks especially when it doesn’t stink for me white
when it doesn’t stink for me white
when it doesn’t stink for me white people I’m talking to you white male
people I’m talking to you white male
people I’m talking to you white male heterosexual temporarily able-bodied
heterosexual temporarily able-bodied
heterosexual temporarily able-bodied folks I’m talking to you smell dear when
folks I’m talking to you smell dear when
folks I’m talking to you smell dear when it stinks especially when it doesn’t
it stinks especially when it doesn’t
it stinks especially when it doesn’t sink for you so let’s bring this to a
sink for you so let’s bring this to a
sink for you so let’s bring this to a close here okay I’ve been to the some of
close here okay I’ve been to the some of
close here okay I’ve been to the some of the richest places on the planet and the
the richest places on the planet and the
the richest places on the planet and the poorest places on the planet we all want
poorest places on the planet we all want
poorest places on the planet we all want the same stuff we want a safe place to
the same stuff we want a safe place to
the same stuff we want a safe place to sleep at night we want water to drink
sleep at night we want water to drink
sleep at night we want water to drink that’s good for us we want clean air to
that’s good for us we want clean air to
that’s good for us we want clean air to breathe we want our other kids of the
breathe we want our other kids of the
breathe we want our other kids of the world to have a chance of the life we
world to have a chance of the life we
world to have a chance of the life we might want health care we might want an
might want health care we might want an
might want health care we might want an education and what we want to do is we
education and what we want to do is we
education and what we want to do is we want to connect so in the 60s when I had
want to connect so in the 60s when I had
want to connect so in the 60s when I had a Volkswagen Beetle we would ride by
a Volkswagen Beetle we would ride by
a Volkswagen Beetle we would ride by other Volkswagen Beetles and we would do
other Volkswagen Beetles and we would do
other Volkswagen Beetles and we would do this ask your parents young folks and it
this ask your parents young folks and it
this ask your parents young folks and it felt good I had a Harley Davidson for 25
felt good I had a Harley Davidson for 25
felt good I had a Harley Davidson for 25 years and I don’t know if I like driving
years and I don’t know if I like driving
years and I don’t know if I like driving the Harley as much as I like getting the
the Harley as much as I like getting the
the Harley as much as I like getting the wave from other Harley riders I go to
wave from other Harley riders I go to
wave from other Harley riders I go to football games and I’m a football fan
football games and I’m a football fan
football games and I’m a football fan and I see people raise their hands and
and I see people raise their hands and
and I see people raise their hands and everything all crap I don’t want to do
everything all crap I don’t want to do
everything all crap I don’t want to do the frequent wave and everybody starts
the frequent wave and everybody starts
the frequent wave and everybody starts doing the wave and then I start doing
doing the wave and then I start doing
doing the wave and then I start doing the wave and I look across the stadium I
the wave and I look across the stadium I
the wave and I look across the stadium I see that even the team I’m fighting
see that even the team I’m fighting
see that even the team I’m fighting against is doing the wave you see we
against is doing the wave you see we
against is doing the wave you see we want to connect the desire to connect is
want to connect the desire to connect is
want to connect the desire to connect is great something’s in the way of that so
great something’s in the way of that so
great something’s in the way of that so maybe if we smell the air when it stinks
maybe if we smell the air when it stinks
maybe if we smell the air when it stinks when it doesn’t speak stink for us maybe
when it doesn’t speak stink for us maybe
when it doesn’t speak stink for us maybe if we can come to grips with looking at
if we can come to grips with looking at
if we can come to grips with looking at what’s in our file maybe if we can start
what’s in our file maybe if we can start
what’s in our file maybe if we can start to look at the words we use and how
to look at the words we use and how
to look at the words we use and how powerful they are
maybe then maybe then the divide that
maybe then maybe then the divide that you see in the United States in the
you see in the United States in the
you see in the United States in the world right now maybe then we’ll
world right now maybe then we’ll
world right now maybe then we’ll actually find out that we can all come
actually find out that we can all come
actually find out that we can all come together and and fix this stuff that’s
together and and fix this stuff that’s
together and and fix this stuff that’s going on right now Thanks
going on right now Thanks
going on right now Thanks [Applause]
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