most people say they want to find their soul mate that special partner but how
soul mate that special partner but how
soul mate that special partner but how many can define exactly what that is if
many can define exactly what that is if
many can define exactly what that is if you’re already hitched do you think the
you’re already hitched do you think the
you’re already hitched do you think the outcome would have been different if you
outcome would have been different if you
outcome would have been different if you had pre-specified success I confess I
had pre-specified success I confess I
had pre-specified success I confess I didn’t have a clue what I was looking
didn’t have a clue what I was looking
didn’t have a clue what I was looking for
for
for it was almost 25 years ago and I had
it was almost 25 years ago and I had
it was almost 25 years ago and I had just been dumped by my then fiancee I’m
just been dumped by my then fiancee I’m
just been dumped by my then fiancee I’m oak to round four month and I complained
oak to round four month and I complained
oak to round four month and I complained to anyone who would listen until one day
to anyone who would listen until one day
to anyone who would listen until one day my hairdresser said Sarah I’m getting
my hairdresser said Sarah I’m getting
my hairdresser said Sarah I’m getting really tired of hearing about this if
really tired of hearing about this if
really tired of hearing about this if you don’t do something to get back on
you don’t do something to get back on
you don’t do something to get back on the dating scene I am NOT gonna cut your
the dating scene I am NOT gonna cut your
the dating scene I am NOT gonna cut your hair again that was the worst news I
hair again that was the worst news I
hair again that was the worst news I could imagine I would have to get a new
could imagine I would have to get a new
could imagine I would have to get a new hairdresser I would do anything to avoid
hairdresser I would do anything to avoid
hairdresser I would do anything to avoid that so I placed a free personal ad in
that so I placed a free personal ad in
that so I placed a free personal ad in the local newspaper anyone remembered
the local newspaper anyone remembered
the local newspaper anyone remembered newspapers that’s how it was done prior
newspapers that’s how it was done prior
newspapers that’s how it was done prior to online dating sites now you can’t say
to online dating sites now you can’t say
to online dating sites now you can’t say much in a free three line at so I got
much in a free three line at so I got
much in a free three line at so I got few responses but my measly little ad
few responses but my measly little ad
few responses but my measly little ad ran right next to one that was 21 lines
ran right next to one that was 21 lines
ran right next to one that was 21 lines long and I found it quite intriguing it
long and I found it quite intriguing it
long and I found it quite intriguing it took me all weekend to get up enough
took me all weekend to get up enough
took me all weekend to get up enough nerve to call and when I did I got a
nerve to call and when I did I got a
nerve to call and when I did I got a recording in a woman’s voice that said
recording in a woman’s voice that said
recording in a woman’s voice that said the gentleman who placed this ad would
the gentleman who placed this ad would
the gentleman who placed this ad would much prefer that she send a written
much prefer that she send a written
much prefer that she send a written response with how you satisfy the
response with how you satisfy the
response with how you satisfy the criteria
what you want an application is this a
what you want an application is this a job I’m applying for I was pissed
job I’m applying for I was pissed
job I’m applying for I was pissed so I clipped that paper and I balled it
so I clipped that paper and I balled it
so I clipped that paper and I balled it up and I stuffed it in my purse and I
up and I stuffed it in my purse and I
up and I stuffed it in my purse and I forgot about it until the next day
forgot about it until the next day
forgot about it until the next day when I was on a flight to San Juan
when I was on a flight to San Juan
when I was on a flight to San Juan Puerto Rico what I will be working for
Puerto Rico what I will be working for
Puerto Rico what I will be working for the next week now in those days we did
the next week now in those days we did
the next week now in those days we did not travel with laptops or smart devices
not travel with laptops or smart devices
not travel with laptops or smart devices so I had very little to occupy me except
so I had very little to occupy me except
so I had very little to occupy me except an airline magazine
an airline magazine
an airline magazine do you remember magazines so it didn’t
do you remember magazines so it didn’t
do you remember magazines so it didn’t take long before I pulled that piece of
take long before I pulled that piece of
take long before I pulled that piece of paper out and spread it out in front of
paper out and spread it out in front of
paper out and spread it out in front of much on the tray in front of me and
much on the tray in front of me and
much on the tray in front of me and began to think you see I have many years
began to think you see I have many years
began to think you see I have many years experience in talent management which is
experience in talent management which is
experience in talent management which is the hiring the training and development
the hiring the training and development
the hiring the training and development and the performance evaluation of
and the performance evaluation of
and the performance evaluation of employees and it hit me in that moment
employees and it hit me in that moment
employees and it hit me in that moment that the process of looking for and
that the process of looking for and
that the process of looking for and screening for a significant other really
screening for a significant other really
screening for a significant other really is like the process of applying for a
is like the process of applying for a
is like the process of applying for a job in a job interview you are almost
job in a job interview you are almost
job in a job interview you are almost always asked a question such as why do
always asked a question such as why do
always asked a question such as why do you want this job the employer wants to
you want this job the employer wants to
you want this job the employer wants to know if your interests align with theirs
know if your interests align with theirs
know if your interests align with theirs so that you’ll be happy happy employees
so that you’ll be happy happy employees
so that you’ll be happy happy employees are more productive and they’re less
are more productive and they’re less
are more productive and they’re less likely to leave prematurely the company
likely to leave prematurely the company
likely to leave prematurely the company wants to know that you have the
wants to know that you have the
wants to know that you have the knowledge skills and strengths to be
knowledge skills and strengths to be
knowledge skills and strengths to be successful and they want to know that
successful and they want to know that
successful and they want to know that you’re going to fit into their culture I
you’re going to fit into their culture I
you’re going to fit into their culture I realized it’s the same with a
realized it’s the same with a
realized it’s the same with a significant relationship do you have
significant relationship do you have
significant relationship do you have sufficient interests that you will enjoy
sufficient interests that you will enjoy
sufficient interests that you will enjoy being with that person will you get to
being with that person will you get to
being with that person will you get to use your strengths and do you have the
use your strengths and do you have the
use your strengths and do you have the relationship skills to be successful and
relationship skills to be successful and
relationship skills to be successful and finally will the culture of the
finally will the culture of the
finally will the culture of the relationship meet your needs I got so
relationship meet your needs I got so
relationship meet your needs I got so excited with this line of thinking I
excited with this line of thinking I
excited with this line of thinking I could have danced in the airplane aisle
could have danced in the airplane aisle
could have danced in the airplane aisle but the fasten seat belt sign was on
but the fasten seat belt sign was on
but the fasten seat belt sign was on so instead I focused on the fun I could
so instead I focused on the fun I could
so instead I focused on the fun I could have with this advertisement in front of
have with this advertisement in front of
have with this advertisement in front of me but I was still pissed you see he had
me but I was still pissed you see he had
me but I was still pissed you see he had the upper hand just like a real hiring
the upper hand just like a real hiring
the upper hand just like a real hiring manager and I didn’t like that so I
manager and I didn’t like that so I
manager and I didn’t like that so I decided I was going to apply in the most
decided I was going to apply in the most
decided I was going to apply in the most sarcastic way possible and see if I
sarcastic way possible and see if I
sarcastic way possible and see if I couldn’t turn the tables a little bit so
couldn’t turn the tables a little bit so
couldn’t turn the tables a little bit so I could play hiring manager too so I
I could play hiring manager too so I
I could play hiring manager too so I took everyone at the descriptors in that
took everyone at the descriptors in that
took everyone at the descriptors in that 21 line ad and I listed it down one side
21 line ad and I listed it down one side
21 line ad and I listed it down one side of a piece of paper and on the right
of a piece of paper and on the right
of a piece of paper and on the right hand side I wrote the most caustic
hand side I wrote the most caustic
hand side I wrote the most caustic response I could think of for one that
response I could think of for one that
response I could think of for one that also sold me it was like a manual
also sold me it was like a manual
also sold me it was like a manual version of an Excel spreadsheet and I
version of an Excel spreadsheet and I
version of an Excel spreadsheet and I called it screen test screen stood for
called it screen test screen stood for
called it screen test screen stood for scrutiny creating reaction evoking
scrutiny creating reaction evoking
scrutiny creating reaction evoking emotional nausea for example the ad
emotional nausea for example the ad
emotional nausea for example the ad asked if I were classy so I wrote classy
asked if I were classy so I wrote classy
asked if I were classy so I wrote classy on the left and on the right I wrote I
on the left and on the right I wrote I
on the left and on the right I wrote I know the difference between Libby glass
know the difference between Libby glass
know the difference between Libby glass and Waterford crystal but I’ve been
and Waterford crystal but I’ve been
and Waterford crystal but I’ve been known to sip champagne from a Dixie cup
known to sip champagne from a Dixie cup
known to sip champagne from a Dixie cup and just like in a real job application
and just like in a real job application
and just like in a real job application process
process
process I wrote a nice little cover note that
I wrote a nice little cover note that
I wrote a nice little cover note that said I am happy to submit this
said I am happy to submit this
said I am happy to submit this application and should you agree with me
application and should you agree with me
application and should you agree with me that I meet all the criteria I’d be
that I meet all the criteria I’d be
that I meet all the criteria I’d be happy to talk further when we landed in
happy to talk further when we landed in
happy to talk further when we landed in San Juan I mailed this gem of an
San Juan I mailed this gem of an
San Juan I mailed this gem of an application back to the mainland US but
application back to the mainland US but
application back to the mainland US but because I was still a little bit pissed
because I was still a little bit pissed
because I was still a little bit pissed I did not include a phone number or a
I did not include a phone number or a
I did not include a phone number or a return address I did include an email
return address I did include an email
return address I did include an email address but remember 25 years ago a few
address but remember 25 years ago a few
address but remember 25 years ago a few people had emails and the last line of
people had emails and the last line of
people had emails and the last line of that cover note was a bit of a challenge
that cover note was a bit of a challenge
that cover note was a bit of a challenge if you’re as great as you seem to be I’m
if you’re as great as you seem to be I’m
if you’re as great as you seem to be I’m sure you’ll find me and once again I
sure you’ll find me and once again I
sure you’ll find me and once again I forgot about it until several weeks
forgot about it until several weeks
forgot about it until several weeks later late one night back on the
later late one night back on the
later late one night back on the mainland the phone rings and what do you
mainland the phone rings and what do you
mainland the phone rings and what do you know it’s the mystery hiring manager how
know it’s the mystery hiring manager how
know it’s the mystery hiring manager how had he found me with just Sara sales at
had he found me with just Sara sales at
had he found me with just Sara sales at aol.com as a clue I wanted to appear
aol.com as a clue I wanted to appear
aol.com as a clue I wanted to appear cool so I didn’t even ask but we talked
cool so I didn’t even ask but we talked
cool so I didn’t even ask but we talked for hours about our mutual interests
for hours about our mutual interests
for hours about our mutual interests this was mostly what filled the 21 lines
this was mostly what filled the 21 lines
this was mostly what filled the 21 lines of his at do you like dogs
of his at do you like dogs
of his at do you like dogs NPR travel the match on his long list of
NPR travel the match on his long list of
NPR travel the match on his long list of interest was astounding and I had such a
interest was astounding and I had such a
interest was astounding and I had such a good time I wanted to spend more time
good time I wanted to spend more time
good time I wanted to spend more time with them so we set a date now as I’m
with them so we set a date now as I’m
with them so we set a date now as I’m getting ready for this date I’m really
getting ready for this date I’m really
getting ready for this date I’m really thinking about the parallels with the
thinking about the parallels with the
thinking about the parallels with the job hiring process and I’m focusing on
job hiring process and I’m focusing on
job hiring process and I’m focusing on what kinds of questions should I be
what kinds of questions should I be
what kinds of questions should I be asking Nast so I focused on the second
asking Nast so I focused on the second
asking Nast so I focused on the second question that is almost always asked in
question that is almost always asked in
question that is almost always asked in a job interview why do you think you
a job interview why do you think you
a job interview why do you think you will be successful this question seeks
will be successful this question seeks
will be successful this question seeks to assess whether you have the knowledge
to assess whether you have the knowledge
to assess whether you have the knowledge skills and strengths to be successful on
skills and strengths to be successful on
skills and strengths to be successful on the job and so I wondered what are the
the job and so I wondered what are the
the job and so I wondered what are the parallels when screening for a mate and
parallels when screening for a mate and
parallels when screening for a mate and I went back to that personal ad to see
I went back to that personal ad to see
I went back to that personal ad to see if I could find any descriptors that
if I could find any descriptors that
if I could find any descriptors that would help me out with that and the only
would help me out with that and the only
would help me out with that and the only one I could find was that classy
one I could find was that classy
one I could find was that classy adjective and I’d already botched
adjective and I’d already botched
adjective and I’d already botched one aspect of this line of questioning
one aspect of this line of questioning
one aspect of this line of questioning are the behaviors that you’ve learned as
are the behaviors that you’ve learned as
are the behaviors that you’ve learned as a way to be successful I call these
a way to be successful I call these
a way to be successful I call these strengths and all of the things being
strengths and all of the things being
strengths and all of the things being equal this is how you would prefer to
equal this is how you would prefer to
equal this is how you would prefer to behave an example of a strength is your
behave an example of a strength is your
behave an example of a strength is your particular style of organizing it plays
particular style of organizing it plays
particular style of organizing it plays out in a relationship as your preference
out in a relationship as your preference
out in a relationship as your preference for how you order a room and what you do
for how you order a room and what you do
for how you order a room and what you do with clutter in the house you can see
with clutter in the house you can see
with clutter in the house you can see how radically different strengths might
how radically different strengths might
how radically different strengths might create some conflict in a relationship
create some conflict in a relationship
create some conflict in a relationship but the most important aspect of this
but the most important aspect of this
but the most important aspect of this line of questioning has to do with
line of questioning has to do with
line of questioning has to do with relationship skills have you learned how
relationship skills have you learned how
relationship skills have you learned how to deal with differences do you know how
to deal with differences do you know how
to deal with differences do you know how to fight fair a behavioral interviewer
to fight fair a behavioral interviewer
to fight fair a behavioral interviewer will ask a very specific question to get
will ask a very specific question to get
will ask a very specific question to get at this and the question goes like this
at this and the question goes like this
at this and the question goes like this when you had a problem in your last job
when you had a problem in your last job
when you had a problem in your last job with fill in the blank what did you do
with fill in the blank what did you do
with fill in the blank what did you do the corollary in a relationship is this
the corollary in a relationship is this
the corollary in a relationship is this when you had a disagreement with your
when you had a disagreement with your
when you had a disagreement with your last girlfriend what did you personally
last girlfriend what did you personally
last girlfriend what did you personally do and what was the outcome ask this of
do and what was the outcome ask this of
do and what was the outcome ask this of your potential mate and see if he or she
your potential mate and see if he or she
your potential mate and see if he or she has worked on the relationship skills to
has worked on the relationship skills to
has worked on the relationship skills to be successful now I wish I’d had the
be successful now I wish I’d had the
be successful now I wish I’d had the guts to ask that specific question I
guts to ask that specific question I
guts to ask that specific question I didn’t but I was later to learn that we
didn’t but I was later to learn that we
didn’t but I was later to learn that we both had some work to do in the
both had some work to do in the
both had some work to do in the relationship skills Department the third
relationship skills Department the third
relationship skills Department the third question that is almost always asked in
question that is almost always asked in
question that is almost always asked in a job interview is why do you think you
a job interview is why do you think you
a job interview is why do you think you will fit in to our organization the
will fit in to our organization the
will fit in to our organization the employer wants to know if your natural
employer wants to know if your natural
employer wants to know if your natural behavioral tendencies aka your strengths
behavioral tendencies aka your strengths
behavioral tendencies aka your strengths are going to be consistent with their
are going to be consistent with their
are going to be consistent with their organizational culture so you do not
organizational culture so you do not
organizational culture so you do not create stress for others but it also
create stress for others but it also
create stress for others but it also seeks to see if the culture is going to
seeks to see if the culture is going to
seeks to see if the culture is going to call its you stress in a relationship
call its you stress in a relationship
call its you stress in a relationship for example how much financial security
for example how much financial security
for example how much financial security do you need to stay out of stress how
do you need to stay out of stress how
do you need to stay out of stress how much debt can you tolerate without
much debt can you tolerate without
much debt can you tolerate without having panic attacks it differs for each
having panic attacks it differs for each
having panic attacks it differs for each person and it often takes some
person and it often takes some
person and it often takes some introspection to figure that out now
introspection to figure that out now
introspection to figure that out now what often causes conflict in a
what often causes conflict in a
what often causes conflict in a relationship is when
relationship is when
relationship is when one person strengths are the direct
one person strengths are the direct
one person strengths are the direct opposite the other person’s needs my
opposite the other person’s needs my
opposite the other person’s needs my husband likes to make quick decisions
husband likes to make quick decisions
husband likes to make quick decisions that’s a strength for him but I need
that’s a strength for him but I need
that’s a strength for him but I need time to think things through pushing me
time to think things through pushing me
time to think things through pushing me for a quick decision is a recipe for a
for a quick decision is a recipe for a
for a quick decision is a recipe for a big fight now the problem is that
big fight now the problem is that
big fight now the problem is that personal ads online dating profiles and
personal ads online dating profiles and
personal ads online dating profiles and job postings for that matter do a very
job postings for that matter do a very
job postings for that matter do a very poor job of surfacing strengths and
poor job of surfacing strengths and
poor job of surfacing strengths and needs there was nothing in that personal
needs there was nothing in that personal
needs there was nothing in that personal ad about organizational preferences
ad about organizational preferences
ad about organizational preferences decision-making styles how he needed to
decision-making styles how he needed to
decision-making styles how he needed to be talked to particularly when he was
be talked to particularly when he was
be talked to particularly when he was low even if he needed to unwind with
low even if he needed to unwind with
low even if he needed to unwind with others or by himself something that’s
others or by himself something that’s
others or by himself something that’s pretty important to know if you’re
pretty important to know if you’re
pretty important to know if you’re thinking about having kids
thinking about having kids
thinking about having kids now my husband and I knew our strengths
now my husband and I knew our strengths
now my husband and I knew our strengths as new our interests but we didn’t learn
as new our interests but we didn’t learn
as new our interests but we didn’t learn our strengths and needs until we were in
our strengths and needs until we were in
our strengths and needs until we were in premarital counseling
premarital counseling
premarital counseling we were actually given a business
we were actually given a business
we were actually given a business assessment the counselor who interpreted
assessment the counselor who interpreted
assessment the counselor who interpreted this assessment for us said I’m not
this assessment for us said I’m not
this assessment for us said I’m not going to tell you not to get married
going to tell you not to get married
going to tell you not to get married but I can tell you what you’re gonna
but I can tell you what you’re gonna
but I can tell you what you’re gonna fight about for the rest of your married
fight about for the rest of your married
fight about for the rest of your married life and she was right
life and she was right
life and she was right but with knowledge of our interests our
but with knowledge of our interests our
but with knowledge of our interests our strengths and our needs we were able to
strengths and our needs we were able to
strengths and our needs we were able to craft the rules that we needed from the
craft the rules that we needed from the
craft the rules that we needed from the very beginning to fight fair
very beginning to fight fair
very beginning to fight fair for example we do have differing styles
for example we do have differing styles
for example we do have differing styles when it comes to organization and we
when it comes to organization and we
when it comes to organization and we solved this by designating rooms in the
solved this by designating rooms in the
solved this by designating rooms in the house that are his and rooms that are
house that are his and rooms that are
house that are his and rooms that are mine I can’t say anything about the
mine I can’t say anything about the
mine I can’t say anything about the clutter in the family room but if he
clutter in the family room but if he
clutter in the family room but if he leaves something lying on a counter in
leaves something lying on a counter in
leaves something lying on a counter in the kitchen I can throw it out without
the kitchen I can throw it out without
the kitchen I can throw it out without discussion we’ve learned how to talk to
discussion we’ve learned how to talk to
discussion we’ve learned how to talk to each other particularly when we’re down
each other particularly when we’re down
each other particularly when we’re down he needs validation and support first I
he needs validation and support first I
he needs validation and support first I need Frank feedback and we’ve learned
need Frank feedback and we’ve learned
need Frank feedback and we’ve learned that in conflict situations we need to
that in conflict situations we need to
that in conflict situations we need to make sure that each person’s needs are
make sure that each person’s needs are
make sure that each person’s needs are addressed for example I need and get at
addressed for example I need and get at
addressed for example I need and get at least 48 hours before making any
least 48 hours before making any
least 48 hours before making any financial commitment now I don’t think
financial commitment now I don’t think
financial commitment now I don’t think my husband and I are the only couple who
my husband and I are the only couple who
my husband and I are the only couple who didn’t know our strengths and needs and
didn’t know our strengths and needs and
didn’t know our strengths and needs and I don’t think we are the only ones who
I don’t think we are the only ones who
I don’t think we are the only ones who didn’t know what to do with this
didn’t know what to do with this
didn’t know what to do with this information to craft our own rules for
information to craft our own rules for
information to craft our own rules for fighting fair so let’s take another
fighting fair so let’s take another
fighting fair so let’s take another lesson from the business world because
lesson from the business world because
lesson from the business world because companies have known for years that
companies have known for years that
companies have known for years that employees need tools to learn teamwork
employees need tools to learn teamwork
employees need tools to learn teamwork skills so why don’t we provide tools to
skills so why don’t we provide tools to
skills so why don’t we provide tools to couples to explore their personalities
couples to explore their personalities
couples to explore their personalities and that’s my idea worth sharing and
and that’s my idea worth sharing and
and that’s my idea worth sharing and because I have developed one such tool I
because I have developed one such tool I
because I have developed one such tool I can show you what it might look like and
can show you what it might look like and
can show you what it might look like and how it can be used this app helps
how it can be used this app helps
how it can be used this app helps couples collectively explore their
couples collectively explore their
couples collectively explore their interests where they’re similar and they
interests where they’re similar and they
interests where they’re similar and they can take maximum advantage of it but
can take maximum advantage of it but
can take maximum advantage of it but equally important where they differ and
equally important where they differ and
equally important where they differ and what they need to be aware of and then
what they need to be aware of and then
what they need to be aware of and then we look at strengths and particularly
we look at strengths and particularly
we look at strengths and particularly where they differ because strengths can
where they differ because strengths can
where they differ because strengths can be a collision point and finally we look
be a collision point and finally we look
be a collision point and finally we look at needs this is the area that’s often
at needs this is the area that’s often
at needs this is the area that’s often hidden from our partners as well as from
hidden from our partners as well as from
hidden from our partners as well as from ourselves but with knowledge of these
ourselves but with knowledge of these
ourselves but with knowledge of these needs we know what an
needs we know what an
needs we know what an has come to expect in a relationship and
has come to expect in a relationship and
has come to expect in a relationship and to help each couple figure out what
to help each couple figure out what
to help each couple figure out what their rules are for fighting fair and
their rules are for fighting fair and
their rules are for fighting fair and for getting along and taking advantage
for getting along and taking advantage
for getting along and taking advantage of all of the differences I have some
of all of the differences I have some
of all of the differences I have some specific suggestions for example I
specific suggestions for example I
specific suggestions for example I suggest what someone likely needs from
suggest what someone likely needs from
suggest what someone likely needs from you in the relationship how you can take
you in the relationship how you can take
you in the relationship how you can take maximum advantage of the similarities
maximum advantage of the similarities
maximum advantage of the similarities and differences and things that you
and differences and things that you
and differences and things that you definitely want to avoid the biggest
definitely want to avoid the biggest
definitely want to avoid the biggest mistakes that you can make this
mistakes that you can make this
mistakes that you can make this particular tool was actually built off
particular tool was actually built off
particular tool was actually built off of the same business assessment that we
of the same business assessment that we
of the same business assessment that we were given as a part of our premarital
were given as a part of our premarital
were given as a part of our premarital counseling it’s been used by millions of
counseling it’s been used by millions of
counseling it’s been used by millions of people for over 60 years
people for over 60 years
people for over 60 years but with any tool like this a couple can
but with any tool like this a couple can
but with any tool like this a couple can have a thoughtful dialogue around their
have a thoughtful dialogue around their
have a thoughtful dialogue around their collective personalities and then make a
collective personalities and then make a
collective personalities and then make a thoughtful decision about whether a long
thoughtful decision about whether a long
thoughtful decision about whether a long term commitment makes sense ok so
term commitment makes sense ok so
term commitment makes sense ok so nobody’s really going to be that
nobody’s really going to be that
nobody’s really going to be that rational but with this knowledge they
rational but with this knowledge they
rational but with this knowledge they can craft the rules for fighting fair
can craft the rules for fighting fair
can craft the rules for fighting fair from the very beginning now by now you
from the very beginning now by now you
from the very beginning now by now you probably figured out that I did marry
probably figured out that I did marry
probably figured out that I did marry the gentleman who places that but I bet
the gentleman who places that but I bet
the gentleman who places that but I bet you’re still wondering how did he find
you’re still wondering how did he find
you’re still wondering how did he find me with just sera sales at aol.com as a
me with just sera sales at aol.com as a
me with just sera sales at aol.com as a clue and I don’t know there was some
clue and I don’t know there was some
clue and I don’t know there was some mumbo jumbo about I’ve been close to law
mumbo jumbo about I’ve been close to law
mumbo jumbo about I’ve been close to law enforcement and I got some help
enforcement and I got some help
enforcement and I got some help do you think maybe he’s a spy or a
do you think maybe he’s a spy or a
do you think maybe he’s a spy or a private eye and he’s been spoofing me
private eye and he’s been spoofing me
private eye and he’s been spoofing me all these years it just goes to prove
all these years it just goes to prove
all these years it just goes to prove that no process is perfect and no tool
that no process is perfect and no tool
that no process is perfect and no tool will uncover everything and this is also
will uncover everything and this is also
will uncover everything and this is also true with job background checks but with
true with job background checks but with
true with job background checks but with knowledge of your interest strengths and
knowledge of your interest strengths and
knowledge of your interest strengths and needs and having crafted the rules for
needs and having crafted the rules for
needs and having crafted the rules for fighting fair that you will be able to
fighting fair that you will be able to
fighting fair that you will be able to deal with anything that you learn in the
deal with anything that you learn in the
deal with anything that you learn in the process now I started off by asking you
process now I started off by asking you
process now I started off by asking you the question do you know what your soul
the question do you know what your soul
the question do you know what your soul mate is for me it is someone I enjoy
mate is for me it is someone I enjoy
mate is for me it is someone I enjoy being with someone who meets my
being with someone who meets my
being with someone who meets my relationship needs and someone who
relationship needs and someone who
relationship needs and someone who supports me in my life journey in a way
supports me in my life journey in a way
supports me in my life journey in a way that only I can appreciate and you know
that only I can appreciate and you know
that only I can appreciate and you know what that’s more about me than about the
what that’s more about me than about the
what that’s more about me than about the other person and in order to define that
other person and in order to define that
other person and in order to define that to communicate it and to assess if I’m
to communicate it and to assess if I’m
to communicate it and to assess if I’m getting it I need to know my interests
getting it I need to know my interests
getting it I need to know my interests my strengths and my needs do you know
my strengths and my needs do you know
my strengths and my needs do you know yours
yours
yours remember the stakes are a lot higher
remember the stakes are a lot higher
remember the stakes are a lot higher than just getting your hair cut this may
than just getting your hair cut this may
than just getting your hair cut this may be the most important job of your life
be the most important job of your life
be the most important job of your life and you’re not just applying for it you
and you’re not just applying for it you
and you’re not just applying for it you are also the hiring manager thank you
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