when I first transferred into Riverdale in the seventh grade I was a pretty shy
in the seventh grade I was a pretty shy
in the seventh grade I was a pretty shy and introverted kid I had a few friends
and introverted kid I had a few friends
and introverted kid I had a few friends but I didn’t really like going out to
but I didn’t really like going out to
but I didn’t really like going out to parties and I definitely didn’t like
parties and I definitely didn’t like
parties and I definitely didn’t like being in the spotlight I was more of a
being in the spotlight I was more of a
being in the spotlight I was more of a follower my parents on the other hand
follower my parents on the other hand
follower my parents on the other hand really wanted me to get active in my new
really wanted me to get active in my new
really wanted me to get active in my new community they said stuff like join
community they said stuff like join
community they said stuff like join clubs find out who the leaders are or
clubs find out who the leaders are or
clubs find out who the leaders are or put your name in for captain the soccer
put your name in for captain the soccer
put your name in for captain the soccer team like that was ever going to happen
team like that was ever going to happen
team like that was ever going to happen and I asked them why why do you want me
and I asked them why why do you want me
and I asked them why why do you want me to be a leader and they said because
to be a leader and they said because
to be a leader and they said because that’s what the world is looking for and
that’s what the world is looking for and
that’s what the world is looking for and so I thought to myself but I’m not a
so I thought to myself but I’m not a
so I thought to myself but I’m not a leader
leader
leader I’m not charismatic or funny or charming
I’m not charismatic or funny or charming
I’m not charismatic or funny or charming for me stepping out of my social comfort
for me stepping out of my social comfort
for me stepping out of my social comfort zone was saying hi to someone in the
zone was saying hi to someone in the
zone was saying hi to someone in the hallway on a good day why would anyone
hallway on a good day why would anyone
hallway on a good day why would anyone listen to me but I complied reluctantly
listen to me but I complied reluctantly
listen to me but I complied reluctantly and I tried my best to be charismatic
and I tried my best to be charismatic
and I tried my best to be charismatic and funny and charming which by the way
and funny and charming which by the way
and funny and charming which by the way is exhausting but as I grew older I came
is exhausting but as I grew older I came
is exhausting but as I grew older I came to realize that being a leader really
to realize that being a leader really
to realize that being a leader really has nothing to do with any of those
has nothing to do with any of those
has nothing to do with any of those things the best leaders are the ones who
things the best leaders are the ones who
things the best leaders are the ones who can communicate with others effectively
can communicate with others effectively
can communicate with others effectively and get everyone to strive towards a
and get everyone to strive towards a
and get everyone to strive towards a common goal you can be the most shy and
common goal you can be the most shy and
common goal you can be the most shy and antisocial person or be the most
antisocial person or be the most
antisocial person or be the most confident and outgoing person in the
confident and outgoing person in the
confident and outgoing person in the world but if you want to be a good
world but if you want to be a good
world but if you want to be a good leader you have to know how to
leader you have to know how to
leader you have to know how to communicate well so when working in a
communicate well so when working in a
communicate well so when working in a group the most important skill a leader
group the most important skill a leader
group the most important skill a leader can have is a mastery of communication
can have is a mastery of communication
can have is a mastery of communication now communication is broken up into two
now communication is broken up into two
now communication is broken up into two parts verbal and nonverbal verbal
parts verbal and nonverbal verbal
parts verbal and nonverbal verbal communication is the primary means of
communication is the primary means of
communication is the primary means of communication for us people can give
communication for us people can give
communication for us people can give rousing and motivational speeches and
rousing and motivational speeches and
rousing and motivational speeches and inspire others to do almost anything but
inspire others to do almost anything but
inspire others to do almost anything but what makes it so effective well for one
what makes it so effective well for one
what makes it so effective well for one positive reinforcement is essential in
positive reinforcement is essential in
positive reinforcement is essential in group participation our minds tend to
group participation our minds tend to
group participation our minds tend to focus on the worst parts of a situation
focus on the worst parts of a situation
focus on the worst parts of a situation we all do it we blame ourselves for tiny
we all do it we blame ourselves for tiny
we all do it we blame ourselves for tiny mistakes while we ignore our great
mistakes while we ignore our great
mistakes while we ignore our great successes and achievements
successes and achievements
successes and achievements so the burden is on a leader to mitigate
so the burden is on a leader to mitigate
so the burden is on a leader to mitigate that kind of thinking being able to let
that kind of thinking being able to let
that kind of thinking being able to let someone know that the mistakes belong to
someone know that the mistakes belong to
someone know that the mistakes belong to a collective body and not just an
a collective body and not just an
a collective body and not just an individual person can really help bring
individual person can really help bring
individual person can really help bring the group closer together another key
the group closer together another key
the group closer together another key factor in keeping a group focused is
factor in keeping a group focused is
factor in keeping a group focused is reflection reflection is a necessary
reflection reflection is a necessary
reflection reflection is a necessary skill in leadership because it reminds
skill in leadership because it reminds
skill in leadership because it reminds everyone why they’re doing what they’re
everyone why they’re doing what they’re
everyone why they’re doing what they’re doing not just how to go about doing it
doing not just how to go about doing it
doing not just how to go about doing it being able to remind everyone of what
being able to remind everyone of what
being able to remind everyone of what the goal is can really help motivate the
the goal is can really help motivate the
the goal is can really help motivate the group when times get tough but more
group when times get tough but more
group when times get tough but more surprisingly being a good communicator
surprisingly being a good communicator
surprisingly being a good communicator is less about what you can say and more
is less about what you can say and more
is less about what you can say and more about what you can do people who lead by
about what you can do people who lead by
about what you can do people who lead by example for instance are also
example for instance are also
example for instance are also communicating what they want you to do
communicating what they want you to do
communicating what they want you to do it’s just not as obvious this leads to
it’s just not as obvious this leads to
it’s just not as obvious this leads to the second part of communication which
the second part of communication which
the second part of communication which is non verbal nonverbal communication
is non verbal nonverbal communication
is non verbal nonverbal communication comprises 93% of all communication that
comprises 93% of all communication that
comprises 93% of all communication that we have 93% that breaks in to 55% for by
we have 93% that breaks in to 55% for by
we have 93% that breaks in to 55% for by language 38% for tone of voice leaving
language 38% for tone of voice leaving
language 38% for tone of voice leaving only 7% for spoken words this means that
only 7% for spoken words this means that
only 7% for spoken words this means that everything I’ve been saying in the past
everything I’ve been saying in the past
everything I’ve been saying in the past five minutes is 7% of all of
five minutes is 7% of all of
five minutes is 7% of all of communication I’ve had with you
communication I’ve had with you
communication I’ve had with you everything I’ve been doing on the other
everything I’ve been doing on the other
everything I’ve been doing on the other hand how I’ve been in flexing my voice
hand how I’ve been in flexing my voice
hand how I’ve been in flexing my voice hive and moving my body that’s
hive and moving my body that’s
hive and moving my body that’s ninety-three percent of all
ninety-three percent of all
ninety-three percent of all communication I’ve had now if there’s
communication I’ve had now if there’s
communication I’ve had now if there’s one thing I hope you take away from my
one thing I hope you take away from my
one thing I hope you take away from my talk
talk
talk it’s that leaders are not only the ones
it’s that leaders are not only the ones
it’s that leaders are not only the ones with labels if you think that you can’t
with labels if you think that you can’t
with labels if you think that you can’t be a leader because you don’t have that
be a leader because you don’t have that
be a leader because you don’t have that charisma or charm or humor don’t for all
charisma or charm or humor don’t for all
charisma or charm or humor don’t for all anyone else knows other leaders are just
anyone else knows other leaders are just
anyone else knows other leaders are just faking it they too are the shine
faking it they too are the shine
faking it they too are the shine introverted kids who transfer schools in
introverted kids who transfer schools in
introverted kids who transfer schools in the seventh grade but because they are
the seventh grade but because they are
the seventh grade but because they are good at communicating with others they
good at communicating with others they
good at communicating with others they become leaders being someone who can
become leaders being someone who can
become leaders being someone who can connect well with others will make
connect well with others will make
connect well with others will make people want to follow you because the
people want to follow you because the
people want to follow you because the world isn’t really looking for good
world isn’t really looking for good
world isn’t really looking for good leaders it’s looking for good
leaders it’s looking for good
leaders it’s looking for good communicators thank you
communicators thank you
communicators thank you [Applause]
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