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What Hiding My Disability Taught Me About Care and Respect | Adam Cureton | TEDxUTK


I spent most of my life hiding the fact

I spent most of my life hiding the fact that I’m disabled I’ve been legally

that I’m disabled I’ve been legally

that I’m disabled I’ve been legally blind since birth but most people had no

blind since birth but most people had no

blind since birth but most people had no idea that I could barely make out the

idea that I could barely make out the

idea that I could barely make out the top E on a standard vision chart I

top E on a standard vision chart I

top E on a standard vision chart I eventually came to regard my ruse as in

eventually came to regard my ruse as in

eventually came to regard my ruse as in many ways foolish and unwise but I also

many ways foolish and unwise but I also

many ways foolish and unwise but I also think there are important lessons to be

think there are important lessons to be

think there are important lessons to be learned about disabilities from

learned about disabilities from

learned about disabilities from examining why I and others have

examining why I and others have

examining why I and others have sometimes gone to such great lengths to

sometimes gone to such great lengths to

sometimes gone to such great lengths to hide or downplay them although my

hide or downplay them although my

hide or downplay them although my condition is not as severe as those of

condition is not as severe as those of

condition is not as severe as those of other people I’ve learned that things

other people I’ve learned that things

other people I’ve learned that things like curb cuts sign language

like curb cuts sign language

like curb cuts sign language interpreters in large print books are

interpreters in large print books are

interpreters in large print books are not enough on their own to fully correct

not enough on their own to fully correct

not enough on their own to fully correct for the disadvantages that are often

for the disadvantages that are often

for the disadvantages that are often associated with being disabled we also

associated with being disabled we also

associated with being disabled we also need to examine and reform the ways in

need to examine and reform the ways in

need to examine and reform the ways in which we relate to treat and regard

which we relate to treat and regard

which we relate to treat and regard disabled family members and friends

disabled family members and friends

disabled family members and friends colleagues and briefly encountered

colleagues and briefly encountered

colleagues and briefly encountered strangers in our everyday lives now when

strangers in our everyday lives now when

strangers in our everyday lives now when we think about disabled people we often

we think about disabled people we often

we think about disabled people we often think about those who have physical or

think about those who have physical or

think about those who have physical or mental conditions that are obvious but

mental conditions that are obvious but

mental conditions that are obvious but not all disabilities are like that

not all disabilities are like that

not all disabilities are like that some people have conditions that are not

some people have conditions that are not

some people have conditions that are not immediately perceptible or visible to

immediately perceptible or visible to

immediately perceptible or visible to casual bystanders

casual bystanders

casual bystanders such as certain forms of autism

such as certain forms of autism

such as certain forms of autism traumatic brain injury chronic fatigue

traumatic brain injury chronic fatigue

traumatic brain injury chronic fatigue or sensory impairments like mine when

or sensory impairments like mine when

or sensory impairments like mine when someone has a condition like that she

someone has a condition like that she

someone has a condition like that she may even have the option of attempting

may even have the option of attempting

may even have the option of attempting to pass as non-disabled in much the way

to pass as non-disabled in much the way

to pass as non-disabled in much the way that someone might try to pass as

that someone might try to pass as

that someone might try to pass as heterosexual in a homophobic Society

hiding my disability was actually not as

hiding my disability was actually not as difficult as you might think

difficult as you might think

difficult as you might think whitetip canes and Guide Dogs were out

whitetip canes and Guide Dogs were out

whitetip canes and Guide Dogs were out of course and I often had to make up

of course and I often had to make up

of course and I often had to make up excuses to avoid situations that

excuses to avoid situations that

excuses to avoid situations that required normal vision no I don’t think

required normal vision no I don’t think

required normal vision no I don’t think I’ll be joining the fly-fishing trip

I’ll be joining the fly-fishing trip

I’ll be joining the fly-fishing trip water screw coal for me I think that in

water screw coal for me I think that in

water screw coal for me I think that in most areas of life people tend to rely

most areas of life people tend to rely

most areas of life people tend to rely on stereotypes and folk wisdom in the

on stereotypes and folk wisdom in the

on stereotypes and folk wisdom in the ways that they regard and treat disabled

ways that they regard and treat disabled

ways that they regard and treat disabled people so I had to not only imitate the

people so I had to not only imitate the

people so I had to not only imitate the appearance mannerisms and behavior of

appearance mannerisms and behavior of

appearance mannerisms and behavior of normally sighted people but I had to

normally sighted people but I had to

normally sighted people but I had to seem to do so with normal ease and grace

seem to do so with normal ease and grace

seem to do so with normal ease and grace I learned to fake eye contact to

I learned to fake eye contact to

I learned to fake eye contact to identify people by the way they walk yes

identify people by the way they walk yes

identify people by the way they walk yes you do all have a distinctive swagger

you do all have a distinctive swagger

you do all have a distinctive swagger and to pretend to read printed text now

and to pretend to read printed text now

and to pretend to read printed text now I actually got pretty good at this I

I actually got pretty good at this I

I actually got pretty good at this I would hold a piece of paper at a normal

would hold a piece of paper at a normal

would hold a piece of paper at a normal distance adopt a ponderous facial

distance adopt a ponderous facial

distance adopt a ponderous facial expression like move my eyes back and

expression like move my eyes back and

expression like move my eyes back and forth for what seemed an appropriate

forth for what seemed an appropriate

forth for what seemed an appropriate period of time before finally offering a

period of time before finally offering a

period of time before finally offering a generic response oh that’s very

generic response oh that’s very

generic response oh that’s very interesting what do you think I became

interesting what do you think I became

interesting what do you think I became very good at listening to people

very good at listening to people

very good at listening to people remembering what they say and using that

remembering what they say and using that

remembering what they say and using that information to figure out what I was

information to figure out what I was

information to figure out what I was supposed to be looking at say on a

supposed to be looking at say on a

supposed to be looking at say on a restaurant menu yes I guess I also have

restaurant menu yes I guess I also have

restaurant menu yes I guess I also have the fermented shark that’s just what I’m

the fermented shark that’s just what I’m

the fermented shark that’s just what I’m in the mood for when teachers would put

in the mood for when teachers would put

in the mood for when teachers would put up math problems on the chalkboard that

up math problems on the chalkboard that

up math problems on the chalkboard that I couldn’t see I would sometimes pretend

I couldn’t see I would sometimes pretend

I couldn’t see I would sometimes pretend like I was asleep or say I didn’t know

like I was asleep or say I didn’t know

like I was asleep or say I didn’t know how to do them or simply sarcastically

how to do them or simply sarcastically

how to do them or simply sarcastically answer something like purple or the

answer something like purple or the

answer something like purple or the Civil War in my mind it was better to be

Civil War in my mind it was better to be

Civil War in my mind it was better to be regarded as aloof dim-witted or rude

regarded as aloof dim-witted or rude

regarded as aloof dim-witted or rude then for my secret to be discovered as I

then for my secret to be discovered as I

then for my secret to be discovered as I look back on why I hid my disability for

look back on why I hid my disability for

look back on why I hid my disability for so long I’m I’ve come to regret my

so long I’m I’ve come to regret my

so long I’m I’ve come to regret my evident immaturity and lack of self

evident immaturity and lack of self

evident immaturity and lack of self acceptance

acceptance

acceptance and failure to take full advantage of

and failure to take full advantage of

and failure to take full advantage of the many political and legal advances

the many political and legal advances

the many political and legal advances that have been made for disabled people

that have been made for disabled people

that have been made for disabled people laws and public policies on their own

laws and public policies on their own

laws and public policies on their own however are not enough to fully correct

however are not enough to fully correct

however are not enough to fully correct for the kinds of informal attitudes and

for the kinds of informal attitudes and

for the kinds of informal attitudes and types of treatment that I was so

types of treatment that I was so

types of treatment that I was so desperately trying to avoid there are

desperately trying to avoid there are

desperately trying to avoid there are the obvious instances of bullying

the obvious instances of bullying

the obvious instances of bullying mockery and condescension that disabled

mockery and condescension that disabled

mockery and condescension that disabled people often encounter but I’ve also

people often encounter but I’ve also

people often encounter but I’ve also noticed that when people are aware of my

noticed that when people are aware of my

noticed that when people are aware of my condition they tend to be somewhat more

condition they tend to be somewhat more

condition they tend to be somewhat more awkward around me and preoccupied with

awkward around me and preoccupied with

awkward around me and preoccupied with my disability so Adam what can you see

my disability so Adam what can you see

my disability so Adam what can you see or how do those glasses work I’ve come

or how do those glasses work I’ve come

or how do those glasses work I’ve come to think that the appreciation that I

to think that the appreciation that I

to think that the appreciation that I receive from other people tends to be

receive from other people tends to be

receive from other people tends to be more for the ways and for the

more for the ways and for the

more for the ways and for the accommodations that I’ve gotten on

accommodations that I’ve gotten on

accommodations that I’ve gotten on certain things rather than for my

certain things rather than for my

certain things rather than for my successes themselves while the

successes themselves while the

successes themselves while the admiration that I do receive is often

admiration that I do receive is often

admiration that I do receive is often more for overcoming my disability rather

more for overcoming my disability rather

more for overcoming my disability rather than for my successes themselves I think

than for my successes themselves I think

than for my successes themselves I think people tend to rely on folk wisdom

people tend to rely on folk wisdom

people tend to rely on folk wisdom stereotypes and their own guesses about

stereotypes and their own guesses about

stereotypes and their own guesses about how they would respond if they had a

how they would respond if they had a

how they would respond if they had a disability they tend to assume for

disability they tend to assume for

disability they tend to assume for example that because I have a visual

example that because I have a visual

example that because I have a visual disability I must have a cognitive

disability I must have a cognitive

disability I must have a cognitive disability or that I fail to develop

disability or that I fail to develop

disability or that I fail to develop certain talents and skills as a result

certain talents and skills as a result

certain talents and skills as a result they seem to be somewhat less likely to

they seem to be somewhat less likely to

they seem to be somewhat less likely to assign important responsibilities to me

assign important responsibilities to me

assign important responsibilities to me to trust or rely on me to accomplish

to trust or rely on me to accomplish

to trust or rely on me to accomplish various goals or to include me in group

various goals or to include me in group

various goals or to include me in group projects and activities having strong

projects and activities having strong

projects and activities having strong relationships and being accepted

relationships and being accepted

relationships and being accepted included and appreciated are all good

included and appreciated are all good

included and appreciated are all good things that we have reasons to want in

things that we have reasons to want in

things that we have reasons to want in our lives without them were much worse

our lives without them were much worse

our lives without them were much worse off and we risk falling into despondency

off and we risk falling into despondency

off and we risk falling into despondency and losing a sense of our own worth

now I’m somewhat embarrassed to admit

now I’m somewhat embarrassed to admit this next part but one kind of attitude

this next part but one kind of attitude

this next part but one kind of attitude that I regularly encounter is when other

that I regularly encounter is when other

that I regularly encounter is when other people have and show extra care and

people have and show extra care and

people have and show extra care and concern for me because I’m disabled how

concern for me because I’m disabled how

concern for me because I’m disabled how can I justifiably feel disparaged

can I justifiably feel disparaged

can I justifiably feel disparaged offended or put down by those who are

offended or put down by those who are

offended or put down by those who are especially sensitive to my condition who

especially sensitive to my condition who

especially sensitive to my condition who sympathize with the challenges I face or

sympathize with the challenges I face or

sympathize with the challenges I face or who do nice things for me on account of

who do nice things for me on account of

who do nice things for me on account of my disability is it really possible to

my disability is it really possible to

my disability is it really possible to care about and help someone too much

care about and help someone too much

care about and help someone too much well think of your own reactions you

well think of your own reactions you

well think of your own reactions you might have if for example your

might have if for example your

might have if for example your father-in-law tries to give you career

father-in-law tries to give you career

father-in-law tries to give you career advice if you’re wealthy aunt sins over

advice if you’re wealthy aunt sins over

advice if you’re wealthy aunt sins over hand-me-down clothes or if a dinner

hand-me-down clothes or if a dinner

hand-me-down clothes or if a dinner guest takes over the grill or the

guest takes over the grill or the

guest takes over the grill or the margarita stand because as she sees it

margarita stand because as she sees it

margarita stand because as she sees it you’re just not doing it well enough

you’re just not doing it well enough

you’re just not doing it well enough people with disabilities often find

people with disabilities often find

people with disabilities often find ourselves in situations of this kind

ourselves in situations of this kind

ourselves in situations of this kind when teachers would sometimes find out

when teachers would sometimes find out

when teachers would sometimes find out about my condition they would take it

about my condition they would take it

about my condition they would take it upon themselves to give me large print

upon themselves to give me large print

upon themselves to give me large print exams on huge pieces of paper in full

exams on huge pieces of paper in full

exams on huge pieces of paper in full view of the whole class I’ve had people

view of the whole class I’ve had people

view of the whole class I’ve had people come up to me and sincerely say I’m so

come up to me and sincerely say I’m so

come up to me and sincerely say I’m so sorry this has happened to you or good

sorry this has happened to you or good

sorry this has happened to you or good for you for being out and about friends

for you for being out and about friends

for you for being out and about friends have offered me advice about

have offered me advice about

have offered me advice about experimental treatments and colleagues

experimental treatments and colleagues

experimental treatments and colleagues have sometimes forced an entire table of

have sometimes forced an entire table of

have sometimes forced an entire table of people to switch chairs so that I could

people to switch chairs so that I could

people to switch chairs so that I could see better I know these people were

see better I know these people were

see better I know these people were sincerely concerned about me and my

sincerely concerned about me and my

sincerely concerned about me and my welfare

welfare

welfare they weren’t condescending to me or

they weren’t condescending to me or

they weren’t condescending to me or trying to embarrass me and they often

trying to embarrass me and they often

trying to embarrass me and they often really did help me but I would sometimes

really did help me but I would sometimes

really did help me but I would sometimes bristle at their evident kindness while

bristle at their evident kindness while

bristle at their evident kindness while they were surprised and hurt by the cold

they were surprised and hurt by the cold

they were surprised and hurt by the cold reception they received I admit that my

reception they received I admit that my

reception they received I admit that my reactions were sometimes exaggerated

reactions were sometimes exaggerated

reactions were sometimes exaggerated but I’ve come to think that they are

but I’ve come to think that they are

but I’ve come to think that they are justified to some extent by thinking

justified to some extent by thinking

justified to some extent by thinking about the ideas of care and respect one

about the ideas of care and respect one

about the ideas of care and respect one of the great moral challenges of life is

of the great moral challenges of life is

of the great moral challenges of life is to balance these conflicting moral

to balance these conflicting moral

to balance these conflicting moral values when they compete with each other

values when they compete with each other

values when they compete with each other so consider it some other examples for

so consider it some other examples for

so consider it some other examples for my own life I can sometimes read printed

my own life I can sometimes read printed

my own life I can sometimes read printed text if I hold it close enough to my

text if I hold it close enough to my

text if I hold it close enough to my face but other people will on occasion

face but other people will on occasion

face but other people will on occasion take this as an indication that I want

take this as an indication that I want

take this as an indication that I want or need them to read it out loud for me

or need them to read it out loud for me

or need them to read it out loud for me now sometimes the right of course I

now sometimes the right of course I

now sometimes the right of course I really am struggling to read the fine

really am struggling to read the fine

really am struggling to read the fine print but I also and sometimes somewhat

print but I also and sometimes somewhat

print but I also and sometimes somewhat offended by their presumptuousness and

offended by their presumptuousness and

offended by their presumptuousness and pretending to know what I can see and

pretending to know what I can see and

pretending to know what I can see and what I want when I ask for and receive

what I want when I ask for and receive

what I want when I ask for and receive reasonable accommodations that are

reasonable accommodations that are

reasonable accommodations that are morally and legally required officials

morally and legally required officials

morally and legally required officials will sometimes act as if they’re doing

will sometimes act as if they’re doing

will sometimes act as if they’re doing me a huge favor this can make me feel

me a huge favor this can make me feel

me a huge favor this can make me feel somewhat put down by their evident

somewhat put down by their evident

somewhat put down by their evident misunderstanding of my rights providing

misunderstanding of my rights providing

misunderstanding of my rights providing reasonable accommodations to disabled

reasonable accommodations to disabled

reasonable accommodations to disabled people is not mere charity or generosity

people is not mere charity or generosity

people is not mere charity or generosity it’s their moral and legal duty I used

it’s their moral and legal duty I used

it’s their moral and legal duty I used to rock climb

to rock climb

to rock climb I know scary thought but I guess it was

I know scary thought but I guess it was

I know scary thought but I guess it was good having my face plastered to the

good having my face plastered to the

good having my face plastered to the side of a mountain I noticed though that

side of a mountain I noticed though that

side of a mountain I noticed though that when other climbers found out about my

when other climbers found out about my

when other climbers found out about my condition they would sometimes take an

condition they would sometimes take an

condition they would sometimes take an extra interest in my knots and rig but

extra interest in my knots and rig but

extra interest in my knots and rig but simply smile and nod when I would try to

simply smile and nod when I would try to

simply smile and nod when I would try to give them tips and strategies these

give them tips and strategies these

give them tips and strategies these attitudes feed into a general perception

attitudes feed into a general perception

attitudes feed into a general perception of disabled people as weak in need of

of disabled people as weak in need of

of disabled people as weak in need of protection and less capable than others

protection and less capable than others

protection and less capable than others although I do admit that they sometimes

although I do admit that they sometimes

although I do admit that they sometimes save me from a few mishaps so

save me from a few mishaps so

save me from a few mishaps so there you go and finally when I’m at

there you go and finally when I’m at

there you go and finally when I’m at conferences fellow participants will

conferences fellow participants will

conferences fellow participants will sometimes take it upon themselves to

sometimes take it upon themselves to

sometimes take it upon themselves to direct me to the next room or tell me

direct me to the next room or tell me

direct me to the next room or tell me what’s on the lunch buffet the flipside

what’s on the lunch buffet the flipside

what’s on the lunch buffet the flipside of their generosity however is that

of their generosity however is that

of their generosity however is that there are now things that I have to do I

there are now things that I have to do I

there are now things that I have to do I have to smile I have to say thank you I

have to smile I have to say thank you I

have to smile I have to say thank you I have to even be nicer to them than I

have to even be nicer to them than I

have to even be nicer to them than I otherwise would be now don’t get me

otherwise would be now don’t get me

otherwise would be now don’t get me wrong I’m often quite pleased to show my

wrong I’m often quite pleased to show my

wrong I’m often quite pleased to show my gratitude for their evident kindness but

gratitude for their evident kindness but

gratitude for their evident kindness but sometimes these necessary pleasantries

sometimes these necessary pleasantries

sometimes these necessary pleasantries can become onerous and make me feel

can become onerous and make me feel

can become onerous and make me feel somewhat subservient and put down when I

somewhat subservient and put down when I

somewhat subservient and put down when I would rather have just managed on my own

would rather have just managed on my own

would rather have just managed on my own loss of respect from others even from

loss of respect from others even from

loss of respect from others even from those who are trying to help us can

those who are trying to help us can

those who are trying to help us can undermine our dignity as persons it can

undermine our dignity as persons it can

undermine our dignity as persons it can also diminish our sense of self-worth

also diminish our sense of self-worth

also diminish our sense of self-worth and perhaps even lead to more serious

and perhaps even lead to more serious

and perhaps even lead to more serious forms of exclusion and discrimination so

forms of exclusion and discrimination so

forms of exclusion and discrimination so what can we do in our own lives to show

what can we do in our own lives to show

what can we do in our own lives to show proper care and respect to disabled

proper care and respect to disabled

proper care and respect to disabled people well the first step is simply to

people well the first step is simply to

people well the first step is simply to recognize when these conflicts exist we

recognize when these conflicts exist we

recognize when these conflicts exist we may find ourselves with an admirable

may find ourselves with an admirable

may find ourselves with an admirable desire to help someone with a disability

desire to help someone with a disability

desire to help someone with a disability but we should also consider how to show

but we should also consider how to show

but we should also consider how to show her proper respect

her proper respect

her proper respect if you encounter a disabled person who’s

if you encounter a disabled person who’s

if you encounter a disabled person who’s choking by all means give her the

choking by all means give her the

choking by all means give her the Heimlich maneuver but if you notice a

Heimlich maneuver but if you notice a

Heimlich maneuver but if you notice a wheelchair user appeared to struggle

wheelchair user appeared to struggle

wheelchair user appeared to struggle with ADD or take a beat and think about

with ADD or take a beat and think about

with ADD or take a beat and think about whether you are making unwarranted

whether you are making unwarranted

whether you are making unwarranted assumptions about her whether she has a

assumptions about her whether she has a

assumptions about her whether she has a right to your assistance what messages

right to your assistance what messages

right to your assistance what messages you might be sending with your actions

you might be sending with your actions

you might be sending with your actions and what sort of responses she might

and what sort of responses she might

and what sort of responses she might have to give in return consider these

have to give in return consider these

have to give in return consider these questions may affect whether or not you

questions may affect whether or not you

questions may affect whether or not you help her or at least they may affect the

help her or at least they may affect the

help her or at least they may affect the manner in which you do so we should also

manner in which you do so we should also

manner in which you do so we should also look for in Majan ative ways to show

look for in Majan ative ways to show

look for in Majan ative ways to show care and respect to de se

care and respect to de se

care and respect to de se people sometimes the best option is to

people sometimes the best option is to

people sometimes the best option is to hide or downplay your assistance without

hide or downplay your assistance without

hide or downplay your assistance without dwelling on it they’re making a big deal

dwelling on it they’re making a big deal

dwelling on it they’re making a big deal about it

about it

about it perhaps it’s enough to simply stand

perhaps it’s enough to simply stand

perhaps it’s enough to simply stand ready to help to let the disabled person

ready to help to let the disabled person

ready to help to let the disabled person take the lead and not to expect much

take the lead and not to expect much

take the lead and not to expect much gratitude in return and on some

gratitude in return and on some

gratitude in return and on some occasions it may be perfectly acceptable

occasions it may be perfectly acceptable

occasions it may be perfectly acceptable to just go on about your business a key

to just go on about your business a key

to just go on about your business a key lesson in all of this is not to assume

lesson in all of this is not to assume

lesson in all of this is not to assume that simply because someone is disabled

that simply because someone is disabled

that simply because someone is disabled that she wants or needs your help now in

that she wants or needs your help now in

that she wants or needs your help now in light of these complexities I think

light of these complexities I think

light of these complexities I think there are reasons for greater tolerance

there are reasons for greater tolerance

there are reasons for greater tolerance and understanding on both sides disabled

and understanding on both sides disabled

and understanding on both sides disabled people have reasons to recognize and

people have reasons to recognize and

people have reasons to recognize and appreciate the good intentions of others

appreciate the good intentions of others

appreciate the good intentions of others who are trying to help us while perhaps

who are trying to help us while perhaps

who are trying to help us while perhaps also explaining how they could have done

also explaining how they could have done

also explaining how they could have done better and when we are rebuffed in our

better and when we are rebuffed in our

better and when we are rebuffed in our efforts to help a disabled person we

efforts to help a disabled person we

efforts to help a disabled person we should perhaps be more understanding of

should perhaps be more understanding of

should perhaps be more understanding of her reasons for doing so I’m not

her reasons for doing so I’m not

her reasons for doing so I’m not recommending callousness or indifference

recommending callousness or indifference

recommending callousness or indifference to disabled people nor suggesting that

to disabled people nor suggesting that

to disabled people nor suggesting that we should always or even usually refrain

we should always or even usually refrain

we should always or even usually refrain from helping them the lesson instead is

from helping them the lesson instead is

from helping them the lesson instead is that the care and concern we should have

that the care and concern we should have

that the care and concern we should have for all people including those with

for all people including those with

for all people including those with disabilities should be guided and

disabilities should be guided and

disabilities should be guided and constrained by the respect we have for

constrained by the respect we have for

constrained by the respect we have for them as persons

my parents had very different ideas

my parents had very different ideas about how to raise a disabled child my

about how to raise a disabled child my

about how to raise a disabled child my mother wanted me to have every

mother wanted me to have every

mother wanted me to have every accommodation Under the Sun while my

accommodation Under the Sun while my

accommodation Under the Sun while my father signed me up to play rec

father signed me up to play rec

father signed me up to play rec basketball I’ve come to think that my

basketball I’ve come to think that my

basketball I’ve come to think that my parents were both right in their

parents were both right in their

parents were both right in their approach to raising me for my father’s

approach to raising me for my father’s

approach to raising me for my father’s part disabled people have to live in the

part disabled people have to live in the

part disabled people have to live in the world as imperfect as it is and to

world as imperfect as it is and to

world as imperfect as it is and to develop the skills and talents to

develop the skills and talents to

develop the skills and talents to survive and thrive in it but my mother

survive and thrive in it but my mother

survive and thrive in it but my mother was right as well it’s not enough for

was right as well it’s not enough for

was right as well it’s not enough for disabled people to simply get by in an

disabled people to simply get by in an

disabled people to simply get by in an imperfect world we also have reasons to

imperfect world we also have reasons to

imperfect world we also have reasons to change it by standing up for our rights

change it by standing up for our rights

change it by standing up for our rights demanding respect changing social

demanding respect changing social

demanding respect changing social attitudes and showing others what we can

attitudes and showing others what we can

attitudes and showing others what we can do that’s why I ultimately came out as a

do that’s why I ultimately came out as a

do that’s why I ultimately came out as a disabled person I’m immensely grateful

disabled person I’m immensely grateful

disabled person I’m immensely grateful for the help that I’ve received along

for the help that I’ve received along

for the help that I’ve received along the way but strangely enough I’ve

the way but strangely enough I’ve

the way but strangely enough I’ve sometimes felt most genuinely accepted

sometimes felt most genuinely accepted

sometimes felt most genuinely accepted when those who know about my condition

when those who know about my condition

when those who know about my condition have simply let me bump into things miss

have simply let me bump into things miss

have simply let me bump into things miss my bus stop or as my daughter recently

my bus stop or as my daughter recently

my bus stop or as my daughter recently did send me down a playground slide into

did send me down a playground slide into

did send me down a playground slide into a large puddle of water I couldn’t see

a large puddle of water I couldn’t see

a large puddle of water I couldn’t see now that is moral progress thank you

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