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We Are Normal | Naomi Kingston | TEDxKingstonUponThamesSalon


I knew girl when I was about 15 a

I knew girl when I was about 15 a well-rounded person a good friend should

well-rounded person a good friend should

well-rounded person a good friend should have grown circle of friends she tried

have grown circle of friends she tried

have grown circle of friends she tried she achieved highly in her academic life

she achieved highly in her academic life

she achieved highly in her academic life she played the piano the clarinet she

she played the piano the clarinet she

she played the piano the clarinet she was ranked in the top 10 nationally the

was ranked in the top 10 nationally the

was ranked in the top 10 nationally the cross-country running and she was she

cross-country running and she was she

cross-country running and she was she was expected to get all eighth in her

was expected to get all eighth in her

was expected to get all eighth in her GCSEs and that’s why I never once

GCSEs and that’s why I never once

GCSEs and that’s why I never once thought that she would purposely take 40

thought that she would purposely take 40

thought that she would purposely take 40 per session on tablets we’re continually

per session on tablets we’re continually

per session on tablets we’re continually exposed to the tragedy in space

exposed to the tragedy in space

exposed to the tragedy in space worldwide by many children a lack of

worldwide by many children a lack of

worldwide by many children a lack of water food shelter and TV shows lasting

water food shelter and TV shows lasting

water food shelter and TV shows lasting throughout the night play with our

throughout the night play with our

throughout the night play with our emotions in order to make us pay for a

emotions in order to make us pay for a

emotions in order to make us pay for a girl in Cambodia to go to school for a

girl in Cambodia to go to school for a

girl in Cambodia to go to school for a turn or a charging Ethan eager to get

turn or a charging Ethan eager to get

turn or a charging Ethan eager to get the latest vaccine but how do we decide

the latest vaccine but how do we decide

the latest vaccine but how do we decide who we give our money to is it to the

who we give our money to is it to the

who we give our money to is it to the cause that will save miss lives the

cause that will save miss lives the

cause that will save miss lives the charity that will give those suffering

charity that will give those suffering

charity that will give those suffering more a future but what if I told you

more a future but what if I told you

more a future but what if I told you that the third biggest killer in

that the third biggest killer in

that the third biggest killer in children aged 10 to 19 globally was

children aged 10 to 19 globally was

children aged 10 to 19 globally was suicide third only to hiv/aids and Ray

suicide third only to hiv/aids and Ray

suicide third only to hiv/aids and Ray traffic instance if you could stop

traffic instance if you could stop

traffic instance if you could stop someone committing suicide if you could

someone committing suicide if you could

someone committing suicide if you could prevent suicide even being a viable

prevent suicide even being a viable

prevent suicide even being a viable option

option

option fewer innocent children would die fewer

fewer innocent children would die fewer

fewer innocent children would die fewer families would be mourning and more

families would be mourning and more

families would be mourning and more people would be engine about their right

people would be engine about their right

people would be engine about their right to future I could have helped my friend

to future I could have helped my friend

to future I could have helped my friend but for that to have happened she would

but for that to have happened she would

but for that to have happened she would have had to take the first step but

have had to take the first step but

have had to take the first step but society denied her that it was stigma

society denied her that it was stigma

society denied her that it was stigma despite that the government and

despite that the government and

despite that the government and celebrities trying to constantly make

celebrities trying to constantly make

celebrities trying to constantly make our society an easier case to talkin the

our society an easier case to talkin the

our society an easier case to talkin the stigma floats through the air like a

stigma floats through the air like a

stigma floats through the air like a poison clogging the Airways of those who

poison clogging the Airways of those who

poison clogging the Airways of those who need to speak – she was high functioning

need to speak – she was high functioning

need to speak – she was high functioning on the outside she was a normal and

on the outside she was a normal and

on the outside she was a normal and strong she would work tirelessly into

strong she would work tirelessly into

strong she would work tirelessly into the night to achieve goals that would

the night to achieve goals that would

the night to achieve goals that would never

never

never reached but inside deep within the

reached but inside deep within the

reached but inside deep within the workings of her body she was wasting

workings of her body she was wasting

workings of her body she was wasting away

away

away she was categorically no one could go

she was categorically no one could go

she was categorically no one could go after her there was nothing physical to

after her there was nothing physical to

after her there was nothing physical to see that she that would put her in

see that she that would put her in

see that she that would put her in danger yet although her voice still

danger yet although her voice still

danger yet although her voice still worked the stigmas doctor wasn’t even

worked the stigmas doctor wasn’t even

worked the stigmas doctor wasn’t even the help he needed

the help he needed

the help he needed mental health it’s a difficult topic to

mental health it’s a difficult topic to

mental health it’s a difficult topic to bridge people don’t believe in the

bridge people don’t believe in the

bridge people don’t believe in the ever-increasing diagnosis that try to

ever-increasing diagnosis that try to

ever-increasing diagnosis that try to explain why someone wants to stay in bed

explain why someone wants to stay in bed

explain why someone wants to stay in bed longer orful fails to keep to complete a

longer orful fails to keep to complete a

longer orful fails to keep to complete a task in the set time people see it as an

task in the set time people see it as an

task in the set time people see it as an excuse the easy way out but think about

excuse the easy way out but think about

excuse the easy way out but think about us the children our brains act as

us the children our brains act as

us the children our brains act as sponges to the words we use the apparent

sponges to the words we use the apparent

sponges to the words we use the apparent facts you say we hear people saying

facts you say we hear people saying

facts you say we hear people saying things such as gay retard or mental to

things such as gay retard or mental to

things such as gay retard or mental to you to use in a derogatory term the

you to use in a derogatory term the

you to use in a derogatory term the people they don’t like but what about

people they don’t like but what about

people they don’t like but what about people who are homosexual have learning

people who are homosexual have learning

people who are homosexual have learning difficulties or are mentally ill how do

difficulties or are mentally ill how do

difficulties or are mentally ill how do they feel knowing that um they once used

they feel knowing that um they once used

they feel knowing that um they once used or still do use to identify themselves

or still do use to identify themselves

or still do use to identify themselves it’s being used as an insult

it’s being used as an insult

it’s being used as an insult and the stigma is right to schools

and the stigma is right to schools

and the stigma is right to schools teenagers have been conditioned to think

teenagers have been conditioned to think

teenagers have been conditioned to think that the sudden deterioration in their

that the sudden deterioration in their

that the sudden deterioration in their health is nothing to be afraid of it’s

health is nothing to be afraid of it’s

health is nothing to be afraid of it’s normal and it’s certainly not something

normal and it’s certainly not something

normal and it’s certainly not something to get involved in it’s true that for

to get involved in it’s true that for

to get involved in it’s true that for the majority of mental illnesses there

the majority of mental illnesses there

the majority of mental illnesses there are no physical symptoms and which makes

are no physical symptoms and which makes

are no physical symptoms and which makes any people Marquez difficult many

any people Marquez difficult many

any people Marquez difficult many mistakes are made on the road to

mistakes are made on the road to

mistakes are made on the road to diagnosis so it’s difficult to know who

diagnosis so it’s difficult to know who

diagnosis so it’s difficult to know who is truly suffering the number of young

is truly suffering the number of young

is truly suffering the number of young people stay lean and hospitals per month

people stay lean and hospitals per month

people stay lean and hospitals per month has increased by 200 in the last few

has increased by 200 in the last few

has increased by 200 in the last few years but at the same time the rates of

years but at the same time the rates of

years but at the same time the rates of teenage smoking and alcohol abuse have

teenage smoking and alcohol abuse have

teenage smoking and alcohol abuse have dramatically decreased and teenage

dramatically decreased and teenage

dramatically decreased and teenage pregnancies have nearly hard in the last

pregnancies have nearly hard in the last

pregnancies have nearly hard in the last 50 years this is thanks to their

50 years this is thanks to their

50 years this is thanks to their education system that tells teenagers

education system that tells teenagers

education system that tells teenagers about all the negative consequences that

about all the negative consequences that

about all the negative consequences that come as a result but weekly lesson one

come as a result but weekly lesson one

come as a result but weekly lesson one talk to Frank often glossed over the

talk to Frank often glossed over the

talk to Frank often glossed over the ever-important increasing issue of

ever-important increasing issue of

ever-important increasing issue of mental health so why is that only

mental health so why is that only

mental health so why is that only recently either the government have put

recently either the government have put

recently either the government have put mental health on the national curriculum

mental health on the national curriculum

mental health on the national curriculum in fact the education system

in fact the education system

in fact the education system come to power house but churning out

come to power house but churning out

come to power house but churning out mentally unstable children neither

mentally unstable children neither

mentally unstable children neither parents nor students nor staff can

parents nor students nor staff can

parents nor students nor staff can prevent or control the ever increasing

prevent or control the ever increasing

prevent or control the ever increasing pressure put on schools by the

pressure put on schools by the

pressure put on schools by the government to achieve progressively

government to achieve progressively

government to achieve progressively higher and unattainable results students

higher and unattainable results students

higher and unattainable results students were expected to exercise revise and

were expected to exercise revise and

were expected to exercise revise and keep up at least one extracurricular

keep up at least one extracurricular

keep up at least one extracurricular activity to a high standard whilst

activity to a high standard whilst

activity to a high standard whilst keeping sane it becomes a vicious cycle

keeping sane it becomes a vicious cycle

keeping sane it becomes a vicious cycle that if you work hard on schoolwork

that if you work hard on schoolwork

that if you work hard on schoolwork something else we need to decrease a

something else we need to decrease a

something else we need to decrease a teenager’s morale will always be hit as

teenager’s morale will always be hit as

teenager’s morale will always be hit as they realize that they are not

they realize that they are not

they realize that they are not succeeding in the eyes of those who

succeeding in the eyes of those who

succeeding in the eyes of those who decide the winners from the failures

decide the winners from the failures

decide the winners from the failures even when at home teenagers don’t get a

even when at home teenagers don’t get a

even when at home teenagers don’t get a break teachers and parents failed to

break teachers and parents failed to

break teachers and parents failed to simply price through no fault of their

simply price through no fault of their

simply price through no fault of their own of the progression of social media

own of the progression of social media

own of the progression of social media has reached a level of no turning back

has reached a level of no turning back

has reached a level of no turning back constantly phrased images to things to

constantly phrased images to things to

constantly phrased images to things to stories and dates on why children didn’t

stories and dates on why children didn’t

stories and dates on why children didn’t know or didn’t have to care about do you

know or didn’t have to care about do you

know or didn’t have to care about do you need a drives have been shaped by the

need a drives have been shaped by the

need a drives have been shaped by the constant need to impress day in and day

constant need to impress day in and day

constant need to impress day in and day out to be something that they aren’t and

out to be something that they aren’t and

out to be something that they aren’t and something that they’ll never eat in fact

something that they’ll never eat in fact

something that they’ll never eat in fact recently social media has become a

recently social media has become a

recently social media has become a playground for the mentally ill people

playground for the mentally ill people

playground for the mentally ill people now only have two Instagram accounts a

now only have two Instagram accounts a

now only have two Instagram accounts a recovery and the main on a recovery you

recovery and the main on a recovery you

recovery and the main on a recovery you can find someone pouring out their

can find someone pouring out their

can find someone pouring out their emotions it could be anything from an

emotions it could be anything from an

emotions it could be anything from an anorexic saying that their BMI is

anorexic saying that their BMI is

anorexic saying that their BMI is single-digit someone read from the

single-digit someone read from the

single-digit someone read from the picture of them by their truck the train

picture of them by their truck the train

picture of them by their truck the train tracks saying I want to kill myself

tracks saying I want to kill myself

tracks saying I want to kill myself these posts and comments put a lot of

these posts and comments put a lot of

these posts and comments put a lot of pressure on the people who follow them

pressure on the people who follow them

pressure on the people who follow them as well as even triggering other people

as well as even triggering other people

as well as even triggering other people but the darker side is that it’s turning

but the darker side is that it’s turning

but the darker side is that it’s turning into a competition who can be admitted

into a competition who can be admitted

into a competition who can be admitted to hospital the most times who can be

to hospital the most times who can be

to hospital the most times who can be the lowest weight maybe this can be

the lowest weight maybe this can be

the lowest weight maybe this can be linked to research into the time spent

linked to research into the time spent

linked to research into the time spent on social media and the lack of self

on social media and the lack of self

on social media and the lack of self esteem and teenagers needs

esteem and teenagers needs

esteem and teenagers needs and as all of these things

and as all of these things

and as all of these things amalgamates into something that can’t

amalgamates into something that can’t

amalgamates into something that can’t just be changed overnight

just be changed overnight

just be changed overnight we find ourselves turning to the great

we find ourselves turning to the great

we find ourselves turning to the great invention of the gamma Jets but just

invention of the gamma Jets but just

invention of the gamma Jets but just like my friend

like my friend

like my friend the NHS seems to be fading screwed a

the NHS seems to be fading screwed a

the NHS seems to be fading screwed a crew tonight by their ever higher

crew tonight by their ever higher

crew tonight by their ever higher pressure that we put on them we expect

pressure that we put on them we expect

pressure that we put on them we expect the impossible forever from everyone

the impossible forever from everyone

the impossible forever from everyone my friend was given a hope of receiving

my friend was given a hope of receiving

my friend was given a hope of receiving therapy she was told to hang on while

therapy she was told to hang on while

therapy she was told to hang on while she was referred to the corresponding

she was referred to the corresponding

she was referred to the corresponding mental health team but weightiness can

mental health team but weightiness can

mental health team but weightiness can be anything from two weeks to over six

be anything from two weeks to over six

be anything from two weeks to over six weeks mental health may now be part of

weeks mental health may now be part of

weeks mental health may now be part of the curriculum the support needs to

the curriculum the support needs to

the curriculum the support needs to continue outside of schools people need

continue outside of schools people need

continue outside of schools people need to be ever aware of the dangers that

to be ever aware of the dangers that

to be ever aware of the dangers that social media presents it’s not only us

social media presents it’s not only us

social media presents it’s not only us the teenagers that don’t need to know

the teenagers that don’t need to know

the teenagers that don’t need to know about how dangerous mental health is

about how dangerous mental health is

about how dangerous mental health is social or parents our teachers religious

social or parents our teachers religious

social or parents our teachers religious leaders anyone who cares to save a life

leaders anyone who cares to save a life

leaders anyone who cares to save a life yet for the seed of knowledge to truly

yet for the seed of knowledge to truly

yet for the seed of knowledge to truly flourish you need to realize that mental

flourish you need to realize that mental

flourish you need to realize that mental health is a real illness it’s not a life

health is a real illness it’s not a life

health is a real illness it’s not a life choice mental health is treatable and

choice mental health is treatable and

choice mental health is treatable and treatment is effective mental ill-health

treatment is effective mental ill-health

treatment is effective mental ill-health can happen to anyone and everyone should

can happen to anyone and everyone should

can happen to anyone and everyone should have the right to receive treatment so

have the right to receive treatment so

have the right to receive treatment so if we could receive a better foundation

if we could receive a better foundation

if we could receive a better foundation of knowledge and schools and online

of knowledge and schools and online

of knowledge and schools and online there’d be less stigma less Tigger would

there’d be less stigma less Tigger would

there’d be less stigma less Tigger would mean that fewer people who need to hide

mean that fewer people who need to hide

mean that fewer people who need to hide away therefore they would go and seek

away therefore they would go and seek

away therefore they would go and seek help at an earlier stage and lessen the

help at an earlier stage and lessen the

help at an earlier stage and lessen the strain on the NHS so what happened to my

strain on the NHS so what happened to my

strain on the NHS so what happened to my friend was she’s here now

friend was she’s here now

friend was she’s here now it wasn’t the consequence of her

it wasn’t the consequence of her

it wasn’t the consequence of her overdose wasn’t death it was half a year

overdose wasn’t death it was half a year

overdose wasn’t death it was half a year spent in hospital a half-year kept away

spent in hospital a half-year kept away

spent in hospital a half-year kept away from the outside world against her will

from the outside world against her will

from the outside world against her will but I don’t think she’s ungrateful

but I don’t think she’s ungrateful

but I don’t think she’s ungrateful I think she’s thankful that she’s been

I think she’s thankful that she’s been

I think she’s thankful that she’s been had

had

had I’m there her voice has been returned to

I’m there her voice has been returned to

I’m there her voice has been returned to her and here she is today telling people

her and here she is today telling people

her and here she is today telling people that teenage mental illnesses are real

that teenage mental illnesses are real

that teenage mental illnesses are real that teenage mental health is not a

that teenage mental health is not a

that teenage mental health is not a question of the severity of the

question of the severity of the

question of the severity of the individual person rather the severity of

individual person rather the severity of

individual person rather the severity of the numbers of individuals struggling

teenage mentorhub shouldn’t be seen as

teenage mentorhub shouldn’t be seen as something that only teenagers can and

something that only teenagers can and

something that only teenagers can and should deal with it’s something that

should deal with it’s something that

should deal with it’s something that everyone needs to help with so that we

everyone needs to help with so that we

everyone needs to help with so that we can be seen as the normal people we are

can be seen as the normal people we are

can be seen as the normal people we are live out the normal lives we are

live out the normal lives we are

live out the normal lives we are entitled to and be just like everyone

entitled to and be just like everyone

entitled to and be just like everyone else

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