the word rape comes from the Latin word Raptors which means very and one man
Raptors which means very and one man
Raptors which means very and one man damages the property of another man even
damages the property of another man even
damages the property of another man even though the criminal justice system in
though the criminal justice system in
though the criminal justice system in many countries all over the world right
many countries all over the world right
many countries all over the world right now regard rape as a heinous crime but
now regard rape as a heinous crime but
now regard rape as a heinous crime but as far as attitude to rapes are
as far as attitude to rapes are
as far as attitude to rapes are concerned not much has changed down the
concerned not much has changed down the
concerned not much has changed down the ages
ages
ages I discovered it in a very poignant way
I discovered it in a very poignant way
I discovered it in a very poignant way 18 years ago I had gone to a police
18 years ago I had gone to a police
18 years ago I had gone to a police station and I was waiting for some work
station and I was waiting for some work
station and I was waiting for some work to happen and next to me was sitting a
to happen and next to me was sitting a
to happen and next to me was sitting a family a family of four a father and
family a family of four a father and
family a family of four a father and three children they looked very
three children they looked very
three children they looked very traumatized did not make eye contact
traumatized did not make eye contact
traumatized did not make eye contact with anyone didn’t look up and I tried
with anyone didn’t look up and I tried
with anyone didn’t look up and I tried to make eye contact with them they would
to make eye contact with them they would
to make eye contact with them they would avoid it the inspector who was dealing
avoid it the inspector who was dealing
avoid it the inspector who was dealing with their case came after some time he
with their case came after some time he
with their case came after some time he looked at me and said dr. mitzvah I’ll
looked at me and said dr. mitzvah I’ll
looked at me and said dr. mitzvah I’ll just be with you in a minute but first I
just be with you in a minute but first I
just be with you in a minute but first I will have to talk to them they looked at
will have to talk to them they looked at
will have to talk to them they looked at them and said please hurry up I don’t
them and said please hurry up I don’t
them and said please hurry up I don’t have all day you tell me what you have
have all day you tell me what you have
have all day you tell me what you have to say otherwise
to say otherwise
to say otherwise he left sentence unfinished the family
he left sentence unfinished the family
he left sentence unfinished the family started crying and then he turned to me
started crying and then he turned to me
started crying and then he turned to me and said okay they’ll be fine
and said okay they’ll be fine
and said okay they’ll be fine I was affected at that time I was
I was affected at that time I was
I was affected at that time I was working in Tihar prisons I was working
working in Tihar prisons I was working
working in Tihar prisons I was working in a Center for mentally disturbed
in a Center for mentally disturbed
in a Center for mentally disturbed people I had by enlarge seen a lot of
people I had by enlarge seen a lot of
people I had by enlarge seen a lot of disturbed behavior not much had affected
disturbed behavior not much had affected
disturbed behavior not much had affected me but this incident somewhere affected
me but this incident somewhere affected
me but this incident somewhere affected me very deeply I talked to the inspector
me very deeply I talked to the inspector
me very deeply I talked to the inspector I said these people seemed very
I said these people seemed very
I said these people seemed very traumatized they can’t give a statement
traumatized they can’t give a statement
traumatized they can’t give a statement right now so do you think that I could
right now so do you think that I could
right now so do you think that I could talk to them so that they calm down
talk to them so that they calm down
talk to them so that they calm down because only then they can give a
because only then they can give a
because only then they can give a statement so he looked at me and said
statement so he looked at me and said
statement so he looked at me and said okay fine you go ahead that makes it you
okay fine you go ahead that makes it you
okay fine you go ahead that makes it you know my work a little easier so I took
know my work a little easier so I took
know my work a little easier so I took the purse you know I took the family’s
the purse you know I took the family’s
the purse you know I took the family’s permission I asked them if they would
permission I asked them if they would
permission I asked them if they would like to speak to me they were too glad
like to speak to me they were too glad
like to speak to me they were too glad to do so I started speaking to them and
to do so I started speaking to them and
to do so I started speaking to them and within one hour I had got enough
within one hour I had got enough
within one hour I had got enough information from them and I went back to
information from them and I went back to
information from them and I went back to the police officer I said they have
the police officer I said they have
the police officer I said they have given a kind of a statement
given a kind of a statement
given a kind of a statement you can see he looked at it and said
you can see he looked at it and said
you can see he looked at it and said they should have done that earlier they
they should have done that earlier they
they should have done that earlier they wasted my time and your time everybody’s
wasted my time and your time everybody’s
wasted my time and your time everybody’s time anyway a few days later I learned
time anyway a few days later I learned
time anyway a few days later I learned that the suspect was arrested based on
that the suspect was arrested based on
that the suspect was arrested based on that but this incident disturbed me very
that but this incident disturbed me very
that but this incident disturbed me very deeply I asked myself is this what
deeply I asked myself is this what
deeply I asked myself is this what families go through in the worst hour of
families go through in the worst hour of
families go through in the worst hour of their life when they go to a police
their life when they go to a police
their life when they go to a police station where was compassion where was
station where was compassion where was
station where was compassion where was the support that victims need in our
the support that victims need in our
the support that victims need in our country I went to the police
country I went to the police
country I went to the police commissioner of Delhi at that time and I
commissioner of Delhi at that time and I
commissioner of Delhi at that time and I spoke to him I said can we start a
spoke to him I said can we start a
spoke to him I said can we start a service by which we can reach out to
service by which we can reach out to
service by which we can reach out to victims of crime he looked at me a
victims of crime he looked at me a
victims of crime he looked at me a little strangely he said sure you want
little strangely he said sure you want
little strangely he said sure you want to go ahead doctor go ahead I give you
to go ahead doctor go ahead I give you
to go ahead doctor go ahead I give you two police stations in South of Delhi
two police stations in South of Delhi
two police stations in South of Delhi and I can I still recall them Vasant
and I can I still recall them Vasant
and I can I still recall them Vasant Kunj and presently Harpal station we
Kunj and presently Harpal station we
Kunj and presently Harpal station we visited them every day for the first six
visited them every day for the first six
visited them every day for the first six months police did not refer us any case
months police did not refer us any case
months police did not refer us any case they just did not believe in it
they just did not believe in it
they just did not believe in it frankly they said you know you are
frankly they said you know you are
frankly they said you know you are interfering in our work we will not in
interfering in our work we will not in
interfering in our work we will not in any way you know be enhanced by it
any way you know be enhanced by it
any way you know be enhanced by it another six months passed and we thought
another six months passed and we thought
another six months passed and we thought that our program had fizzled out but it
that our program had fizzled out but it
that our program had fizzled out but it didn’t on in the eleventh month there
didn’t on in the eleventh month there
didn’t on in the eleventh month there was this girl who was referred to us she
was this girl who was referred to us she
was this girl who was referred to us she was 13 years old mentally challenged
was 13 years old mentally challenged
was 13 years old mentally challenged spoke very little and she was assaulted
spoke very little and she was assaulted
spoke very little and she was assaulted when she was going for defecation in the
when she was going for defecation in the
when she was going for defecation in the morning and this I must say this a large
morning and this I must say this a large
morning and this I must say this a large number of women in our country are
number of women in our country are
number of women in our country are assaulted when they go for defecation
assaulted when they go for defecation
assaulted when they go for defecation right and sexual assault is something
right and sexual assault is something
right and sexual assault is something that takes place when women are going
that takes place when women are going
that takes place when women are going for defecation it takes place in toilets
for defecation it takes place in toilets
for defecation it takes place in toilets it takes place in holy places like
it takes place in holy places like
it takes place in holy places like churches mosques temples everywhere
churches mosques temples everywhere
churches mosques temples everywhere there is no place which I have not seen
there is no place which I have not seen
there is no place which I have not seen where sexual assaults do not take place
where sexual assaults do not take place
where sexual assaults do not take place anyway we went to this girl and we found
anyway we went to this girl and we found
anyway we went to this girl and we found that she lived with her mother the very
that she lived with her mother the very
that she lived with her mother the very poor
poor
poor she had just one room to live in she
she had just one room to live in she
she had just one room to live in she didn’t talk much she would just look and
didn’t talk much she would just look and
didn’t talk much she would just look and look blankly at us my colleague said
look blankly at us my colleague said
look blankly at us my colleague said what do I do
what do I do
what do I do I said hold her hand right that’s the
I said hold her hand right that’s the
I said hold her hand right that’s the best that we could do on the third day I
best that we could do on the third day I
best that we could do on the third day I can see the bang upstairs
can see the bang upstairs
can see the bang upstairs yeah on the third day she we were
yeah on the third day she we were
yeah on the third day she we were talking that she hasn’t given any
talking that she hasn’t given any
talking that she hasn’t given any information to the perpetrator he would
information to the perpetrator he would
information to the perpetrator he would get away and she was keenly listening
get away and she was keenly listening
get away and she was keenly listening and then something happened she pointed
and then something happened she pointed
and then something happened she pointed her finger at my ankle and said Dawa
her finger at my ankle and said Dawa
her finger at my ankle and said Dawa that’s all we asked her mother has she
that’s all we asked her mother has she
that’s all we asked her mother has she ever used this word mother said no she
ever used this word mother said no she
ever used this word mother said no she hasn’t ever used this word does anyone
hasn’t ever used this word does anyone
hasn’t ever used this word does anyone by that name lived somewhere around
by that name lived somewhere around
by that name lived somewhere around mother said no I have never that he
mother said no I have never that he
mother said no I have never that he thought it is something that just a
thought it is something that just a
thought it is something that just a fancy or something of imagination she
fancy or something of imagination she
fancy or something of imagination she again pointed out her wha you know look
again pointed out her wha you know look
again pointed out her wha you know look when we were discussing about the case
when we were discussing about the case
when we were discussing about the case you know about the perpetrator getting
you know about the perpetrator getting
you know about the perpetrator getting away right I talked to my friend he was
away right I talked to my friend he was
away right I talked to my friend he was a ENT specialist I said there was this
a ENT specialist I said there was this
a ENT specialist I said there was this girl who’s like this she feels very
girl who’s like this she feels very
girl who’s like this she feels very little talks very little how do we do it
little talks very little how do we do it
little talks very little how do we do it he says can I come and see her he came
he says can I come and see her he came
he says can I come and see her he came with us he saw her and then he said she
with us he saw her and then he said she
with us he saw her and then he said she he has very few frequencies and this
he has very few frequencies and this
he has very few frequencies and this word stands for something else I can
word stands for something else I can
word stands for something else I can find out and then he talked to her and
find out and then he talked to her and
find out and then he talked to her and said the word somewhere means probably
said the word somewhere means probably
said the word somewhere means probably Jay and Leigh so you can say jalwa right
Jay and Leigh so you can say jalwa right
Jay and Leigh so you can say jalwa right now this wasn’t of much use either we
now this wasn’t of much use either we
now this wasn’t of much use either we asked people no help then somebody gave
asked people no help then somebody gave
asked people no help then somebody gave us a clue they said at the far end of
us a clue they said at the far end of
us a clue they said at the far end of the slum there is a boy who lives by the
the slum there is a boy who lives by the
the slum there is a boy who lives by the name of kallu he’s also known as Java
name of kallu he’s also known as Java
name of kallu he’s also known as Java because his ankle is burnt over here
because his ankle is burnt over here
because his ankle is burnt over here that’s what he is known as we got him
that’s what he is known as we got him
that’s what he is known as we got him when the girl saw him she pointed her
when the girl saw him she pointed her
when the girl saw him she pointed her finger like this and started shivering
finger like this and started shivering
finger like this and started shivering right the boy confessed to his crime I’m
right the boy confessed to his crime I’m
right the boy confessed to his crime I’m calling him a boy he was 19 years old
calling him a boy he was 19 years old
calling him a boy he was 19 years old and he told us that because this girl
and he told us that because this girl
and he told us that because this girl does not speak she he thought that he
does not speak she he thought that he
does not speak she he thought that he would get away right but
would get away right but
would get away right but he didn’t our next problem was how do we
he didn’t our next problem was how do we
he didn’t our next problem was how do we prove it in the court the defense lawyer
prove it in the court the defense lawyer
prove it in the court the defense lawyer when he solved this laughed at it he
when he solved this laughed at it he
when he solved this laughed at it he said this case won’t last she can’t even
said this case won’t last she can’t even
said this case won’t last she can’t even talk and just as Santosh Singh man one
talk and just as Santosh Singh man one
talk and just as Santosh Singh man one of India’s most well known judges was
of India’s most well known judges was
of India’s most well known judges was hearing the case we really went ahead
hearing the case we really went ahead
hearing the case we really went ahead and prepared her sorry I’m getting a
and prepared her sorry I’m getting a
and prepared her sorry I’m getting a little emotional because I’m getting
little emotional because I’m getting
little emotional because I’m getting into it we prepared her we said in the
into it we prepared her we said in the
into it we prepared her we said in the same way you told us this in the same
same way you told us this in the same
same way you told us this in the same way you have to say it in the court
way you have to say it in the court
way you have to say it in the court right she briefly nodded her head on the
right she briefly nodded her head on the
right she briefly nodded her head on the appointed day she went the judge took
appointed day she went the judge took
appointed day she went the judge took her listen to her and I think she
her listen to her and I think she
her listen to her and I think she guessed our uncertainty our doubts I
guessed our uncertainty our doubts I
guessed our uncertainty our doubts I think we were more scared than she was
think we were more scared than she was
think we were more scared than she was and she when she had to pronounce the
and she when she had to pronounce the
and she when she had to pronounce the judgments sometimes later she said in my
judgments sometimes later she said in my
judgments sometimes later she said in my whole life I have never been more
whole life I have never been more
whole life I have never been more convinced about the testimony of any
convinced about the testimony of any
convinced about the testimony of any victim and the guilt of any suspect i
victim and the guilt of any suspect i
victim and the guilt of any suspect i sentence him right that was our first
sentence him right that was our first
sentence him right that was our first case and after that we started getting
case and after that we started getting
case and after that we started getting more cases because it got more known
more cases because it got more known
more cases because it got more known right what I want to say here is that
right what I want to say here is that
right what I want to say here is that what is trauma trauma is something which
what is trauma trauma is something which
what is trauma trauma is something which is an overwhelming event that affects us
is an overwhelming event that affects us
is an overwhelming event that affects us our thoughts our feelings our behavior
our thoughts our feelings our behavior
our thoughts our feelings our behavior right for example right now the loud
right for example right now the loud
right for example right now the loud thunder you heard if it was a little
thunder you heard if it was a little
thunder you heard if it was a little more louder some of us would have run
more louder some of us would have run
more louder some of us would have run away if there was earthquake here all of
away if there was earthquake here all of
away if there was earthquake here all of us would run away right so it’s an
us would run away right so it’s an
us would run away right so it’s an overwhelming event that affects our
overwhelming event that affects our
overwhelming event that affects our perceptions our memory and fragments it
perceptions our memory and fragments it
perceptions our memory and fragments it as I look back I see that we have dealt
as I look back I see that we have dealt
as I look back I see that we have dealt with more than 8,000 people so far on
with more than 8,000 people so far on
with more than 8,000 people so far on their trauma of all kinds sexual assault
their trauma of all kinds sexual assault
their trauma of all kinds sexual assault homicide terrorism I just pick up a few
homicide terrorism I just pick up a few
homicide terrorism I just pick up a few cases because this was on sexual
cases because this was on sexual
cases because this was on sexual violence one of the first women that we
violence one of the first women that we
violence one of the first women that we dealt with it was very strange a woman
dealt with it was very strange a woman
dealt with it was very strange a woman professor from Dell university was going
professor from Dell university was going
professor from Dell university was going back to her home when she noticed a girl
back to her home when she noticed a girl
back to her home when she noticed a girl standing on the balcony quiet not
standing on the balcony quiet not
standing on the balcony quiet not looking anywhere her eyes fixed she was
looking anywhere her eyes fixed she was
looking anywhere her eyes fixed she was around 14 years of age she wrote to the
around 14 years of age she wrote to the
around 14 years of age she wrote to the police saying that I find something odd
police saying that I find something odd
police saying that I find something odd over here now that’s the responsibility
over here now that’s the responsibility
over here now that’s the responsibility of a citizen you see something odd
of a citizen you see something odd
of a citizen you see something odd please inform that is
please inform that is
please inform that is perpetrators cannot function the police
perpetrators cannot function the police
perpetrators cannot function the police talk to her the DCP of that device
talk to her the DCP of that device
talk to her the DCP of that device srivasa was a very sensitive officer he
srivasa was a very sensitive officer he
srivasa was a very sensitive officer he called us he said Rajat we have spoken
called us he said Rajat we have spoken
called us he said Rajat we have spoken to her we have not found anything but
to her we have not found anything but
to her we have not found anything but will you talk to her we and I and my you
will you talk to her we and I and my you
will you talk to her we and I and my you know colleague a woman we went there it
know colleague a woman we went there it
know colleague a woman we went there it was at the Lacroix police station we
was at the Lacroix police station we
was at the Lacroix police station we talked to her we found nothing and we
talked to her we found nothing and we
talked to her we found nothing and we are almost coming to the close of the
are almost coming to the close of the
are almost coming to the close of the session it was a January evening and I
session it was a January evening and I
session it was a January evening and I noticed that she was very cold and in
noticed that she was very cold and in
noticed that she was very cold and in our office car they were always woolens
our office car they were always woolens
our office car they were always woolens that were kept because we often came
that were kept because we often came
that were kept because we often came across people who needed villains so I
across people who needed villains so I
across people who needed villains so I told my colleague that will you take her
told my colleague that will you take her
told my colleague that will you take her and give her some socks and something I
and give her some socks and something I
and give her some socks and something I mean maybe Shane is too tired when he
mean maybe Shane is too tired when he
mean maybe Shane is too tired when he came back my colleagues face was changed
came back my colleagues face was changed
came back my colleagues face was changed he said this girl is 13 years old but
he said this girl is 13 years old but
he said this girl is 13 years old but her body language is very different I
her body language is very different I
her body language is very different I cannot place it but there is something
cannot place it but there is something
cannot place it but there is something very odd about it I said what is odd she
very odd about it I said what is odd she
very odd about it I said what is odd she said you know it’s almost like she’s
said you know it’s almost like she’s
said you know it’s almost like she’s walking like a dancer so I said maybe we
walking like a dancer so I said maybe we
walking like a dancer so I said maybe we can ask her you ask her she was doing
can ask her you ask her she was doing
can ask her you ask her she was doing the session are you a dancer she asked
the session are you a dancer she asked
the session are you a dancer she asked yes okay you dance when there is nobody
yes okay you dance when there is nobody
yes okay you dance when there is nobody at home she says no I dance in front of
at home she says no I dance in front of
at home she says no I dance in front of people what do you mean you dance in
people what do you mean you dance in
people what do you mean you dance in front of people she says people come to
front of people she says people come to
front of people she says people come to my home my uncle and aunt with whom I
my home my uncle and aunt with whom I
my home my uncle and aunt with whom I live they bring people I dance in front
live they bring people I dance in front
live they bring people I dance in front of them they throw coins at me why
of them they throw coins at me why
of them they throw coins at me why didn’t you tell the police so far better
didn’t you tell the police so far better
didn’t you tell the police so far better because nobody asked me right it is
because nobody asked me right it is
because nobody asked me right it is simple it’s a simple point of observing
simple it’s a simple point of observing
simple it’s a simple point of observing something and asking meanwhile her uncle
something and asking meanwhile her uncle
something and asking meanwhile her uncle and aunt who were sitting outside the
and aunt who were sitting outside the
and aunt who were sitting outside the police station ran away right she went
police station ran away right she went
police station ran away right she went ahead testified in the courts about her
ahead testified in the courts about her
ahead testified in the courts about her own uncle our aunt who were running a
own uncle our aunt who were running a
own uncle our aunt who were running a trafficking business with her and with
trafficking business with her and with
trafficking business with her and with other girls
other girls
other girls this girl taught us a very important
this girl taught us a very important
this girl taught us a very important lesson that the trauma of a woman after
lesson that the trauma of a woman after
lesson that the trauma of a woman after sexual assault lies in her body the
sexual assault lies in her body the
sexual assault lies in her body the crime scene is the woman’s body it is
crime scene is the woman’s body it is
crime scene is the woman’s body it is not outside and I gave a talk to the
not outside and I gave a talk to the
not outside and I gave a talk to the deliver his officers at that time I said
deliver his officers at that time I said
deliver his officers at that time I said when you investigate rape cases please
when you investigate rape cases please
when you investigate rape cases please go ahead and talk to the woman see the
go ahead and talk to the woman see the
go ahead and talk to the woman see the woman how her body has been a
woman how her body has been a
woman how her body has been a they were not doing that even if they
they were not doing that even if they
they were not doing that even if they were injury marks they would routinely
were injury marks they would routinely
were injury marks they would routinely ignore it right it’s as it’s as basic as
ignore it right it’s as it’s as basic as
ignore it right it’s as it’s as basic as that there was another case I remember
that there was another case I remember
that there was another case I remember which taught us a very important lesson
which taught us a very important lesson
which taught us a very important lesson and that is that the need for justice is
and that is that the need for justice is
and that is that the need for justice is innate in human beings even after years
innate in human beings even after years
innate in human beings even after years have passed people don’t forget we had a
have passed people don’t forget we had a
have passed people don’t forget we had a girl who was around 17 years of age a
girl who was around 17 years of age a
girl who was around 17 years of age a case of 3:54 was lodged for those who
case of 3:54 was lodged for those who
case of 3:54 was lodged for those who don’t know 354 is violence against a
don’t know 354 is violence against a
don’t know 354 is violence against a woman’s body and outraging her modesty
woman’s body and outraging her modesty
woman’s body and outraging her modesty when we were talking to her she talked
when we were talking to her she talked
when we were talking to her she talked about how her how her father used to
about how her how her father used to
about how her how her father used to abuse her many years ago and yes it was
abuse her many years ago and yes it was
abuse her many years ago and yes it was sexual abuse
sexual abuse
sexual abuse why didn’t you tell it my father won’t
why didn’t you tell it my father won’t
why didn’t you tell it my father won’t let me come out why are you telling it
let me come out why are you telling it
let me come out why are you telling it now she said because I feel that he will
now she said because I feel that he will
now she said because I feel that he will go after my sister my sister is growing
go after my sister my sister is growing
go after my sister my sister is growing up and therefore he’s doing that we said
up and therefore he’s doing that we said
up and therefore he’s doing that we said well we need to inform this the police
well we need to inform this the police
well we need to inform this the police dissuaded us it’s the old case it
dissuaded us it’s the old case it
dissuaded us it’s the old case it happened seven years back there is no
happened seven years back there is no
happened seven years back there is no evidence I asked the girl I said do you
evidence I asked the girl I said do you
evidence I asked the girl I said do you want to still go ahead she nodded her
want to still go ahead she nodded her
want to still go ahead she nodded her head yes we took the risk everybody
head yes we took the risk everybody
head yes we took the risk everybody laughed at us they said well it’s not
laughed at us they said well it’s not
laughed at us they said well it’s not going to work out but the fact is that
going to work out but the fact is that
going to work out but the fact is that there is power in the testimony of the
there is power in the testimony of the
there is power in the testimony of the victim she stood her ground even though
victim she stood her ground even though
victim she stood her ground even though one of the best lawyers was appointed by
one of the best lawyers was appointed by
one of the best lawyers was appointed by her father to defend she went ahead and
her father to defend she went ahead and
her father to defend she went ahead and spoke it in the court and she got her
spoke it in the court and she got her
spoke it in the court and she got her father arrested because she did not want
father arrested because she did not want
father arrested because she did not want her sister to suffer the same fate that
her sister to suffer the same fate that
her sister to suffer the same fate that she had gone right the need for justice
she had gone right the need for justice
she had gone right the need for justice that’s innate the third case which I
that’s innate the third case which I
that’s innate the third case which I recall from our first year was about a
recall from our first year was about a
recall from our first year was about a visa officer and I’m going to talk about
visa officer and I’m going to talk about
visa officer and I’m going to talk about how memory fragments us we were sitting
how memory fragments us we were sitting
how memory fragments us we were sitting with her and she was trying to make the
with her and she was trying to make the
with her and she was trying to make the face of the person who had assaulted her
face of the person who had assaulted her
face of the person who had assaulted her after some unsuccessful attempt she said
after some unsuccessful attempt she said
after some unsuccessful attempt she said doctor I’m very good at recognizing
doctor I’m very good at recognizing
doctor I’m very good at recognizing faces I give visas to people
faces I give visas to people
faces I give visas to people if I refuse a visa to a person I
if I refuse a visa to a person I
if I refuse a visa to a person I remember it so even after two years if
remember it so even after two years if
remember it so even after two years if that person applies again with a
that person applies again with a
that person applies again with a mustache with a changed face with
mustache with a changed face with
mustache with a changed face with everything else I know I can spot him
everything else I know I can spot him
everything else I know I can spot him but why I’m feeling depressed right now
but why I’m feeling depressed right now
but why I’m feeling depressed right now is I cannot recall anything about the
is I cannot recall anything about the
is I cannot recall anything about the faces of the man who assaulted me just a
faces of the man who assaulted me just a
faces of the man who assaulted me just a few hours ago that is what trauma does
few hours ago that is what trauma does
few hours ago that is what trauma does to our memory you get fragmented I was
to our memory you get fragmented I was
to our memory you get fragmented I was speaking to a girl again trying to get
speaking to a girl again trying to get
speaking to a girl again trying to get details of the perpetrator and she said
details of the perpetrator and she said
details of the perpetrator and she said I’m very good in recalling people but
I’m very good in recalling people but
I’m very good in recalling people but right now I can’t recall anything
right now I can’t recall anything
right now I can’t recall anything because I can only recall the handle of
because I can only recall the handle of
because I can only recall the handle of the knife that he put over here and she
the knife that he put over here and she
the knife that he put over here and she pointed like this just the handle I
pointed like this just the handle I
pointed like this just the handle I cannot recall anything about him that is
cannot recall anything about him that is
cannot recall anything about him that is what trauma does to us that is what
what trauma does to us that is what
what trauma does to us that is what trauma does to people okay this is a
trauma does to people okay this is a
trauma does to people okay this is a drawing made by a survivor
drawing made by a survivor
drawing made by a survivor it shows how her life the foundation is
it shows how her life the foundation is
it shows how her life the foundation is gone that’s it’s broken in our study we
gone that’s it’s broken in our study we
gone that’s it’s broken in our study we found we did a study that these are some
found we did a study that these are some
found we did a study that these are some of the symptoms that victims of sexual
of the symptoms that victims of sexual
of the symptoms that victims of sexual assault have after they go through a
assault have after they go through a
assault have after they go through a trauma they go through of trauma as you
trauma they go through of trauma as you
trauma they go through of trauma as you can see flashbacks body image
can see flashbacks body image
can see flashbacks body image disturbances dehumanization this was a
disturbances dehumanization this was a
disturbances dehumanization this was a letter written to us by the police
letter written to us by the police
letter written to us by the police commissioner it said because you created
commissioner it said because you created
commissioner it said because you created a right environment there for the victim
the perpetrator could be affected we did
the perpetrator could be affected we did a study to find out about how people get
a study to find out about how people get
a study to find out about how people get affected and what we found is very
affected and what we found is very
affected and what we found is very poignant and interesting and that is
poignant and interesting and that is
poignant and interesting and that is that women get affected despite race
that women get affected despite race
that women get affected despite race background class the daughter of a
background class the daughter of a
background class the daughter of a liberal living under a bridge suffers
liberal living under a bridge suffers
liberal living under a bridge suffers the same amount of trauma as someone
the same amount of trauma as someone
the same amount of trauma as someone living in a palace there is no
living in a palace there is no
living in a palace there is no difference and this is a myth that
difference and this is a myth that
difference and this is a myth that percolates down to judges officers
percolates down to judges officers
percolates down to judges officers everywhere oh she’s a married woman so
everywhere oh she’s a married woman so
everywhere oh she’s a married woman so therefore she would have less trauma
therefore she would have less trauma
therefore she would have less trauma than an unmarried woman why because rape
than an unmarried woman why because rape
than an unmarried woman why because rape is associated the trauma of it with loss
is associated the trauma of it with loss
is associated the trauma of it with loss of virginity no it is associated with
of virginity no it is associated with
of virginity no it is associated with loss of will when you are overpowered at
loss of will when you are overpowered at
loss of will when you are overpowered at that moment what you go through is the
that moment what you go through is the
that moment what you go through is the most traumatic
most traumatic
most traumatic we found that across different weather
we found that across different weather
we found that across different weather urban and rural women there were no
urban and rural women there were no
urban and rural women there were no difference they all scored high
difference they all scored high
difference they all scored high individual and gang rape
individual and gang rape
individual and gang rape we found that the trauma by women faced
we found that the trauma by women faced
we found that the trauma by women faced is almost the same different age groups
is almost the same different age groups
is almost the same different age groups whether the woman is 16 or 60 there is
whether the woman is 16 or 60 there is
whether the woman is 16 or 60 there is not much difference
not much difference
not much difference they both score high it has got nothing
they both score high it has got nothing
they both score high it has got nothing to do with you are married or what’s
to do with you are married or what’s
to do with you are married or what’s your age
your age
your age trauma remains frozen across time so
trauma remains frozen across time so
trauma remains frozen across time so whether it’s the immediate aftermath or
whether it’s the immediate aftermath or
whether it’s the immediate aftermath or after several years there’s no change
after several years there’s no change
after several years there’s no change one area we found different and that was
one area we found different and that was
one area we found different and that was Dalit versus non the Latino group Dalit
Dalit versus non the Latino group Dalit
Dalit versus non the Latino group Dalit women scored far more trauma and that is
women scored far more trauma and that is
women scored far more trauma and that is what puzzled us why when we went to see
what puzzled us why when we went to see
what puzzled us why when we went to see we found that when the lip women are
we found that when the lip women are
we found that when the lip women are assaulted women from their community get
assaulted women from their community get
assaulted women from their community get together and tell them about the trauma
together and tell them about the trauma
together and tell them about the trauma that their entire community have gone
that their entire community have gone
that their entire community have gone through over the centuries the fatalism
through over the centuries the fatalism
through over the centuries the fatalism gets collected the trauma of a single
gets collected the trauma of a single
gets collected the trauma of a single Dalit is a trauma of the whole the lit
Dalit is a trauma of the whole the lit
Dalit is a trauma of the whole the lit community that’s something that we find
community that’s something that we find
community that’s something that we find very poignantly and that is something
very poignantly and that is something
very poignantly and that is something she passes on to the next generation the
she passes on to the next generation the
she passes on to the next generation the trauma of the lit women is trans
trauma of the lit women is trans
trauma of the lit women is trans generational goes across from generation
generational goes across from generation
generational goes across from generation to generation and yes there is one
to generation and yes there is one
to generation and yes there is one difference we found with the lit women
difference we found with the lit women
difference we found with the lit women who were assaulted and that’s it we all
who were assaulted and that’s it we all
who were assaulted and that’s it we all know that there is untouchability in our
know that there is untouchability in our
know that there is untouchability in our country it extends in every area it does
country it extends in every area it does
country it extends in every area it does not extend to rape it doesn’t upper
not extend to rape it doesn’t upper
not extend to rape it doesn’t upper caste people who assault the lit women
caste people who assault the lit women
caste people who assault the lit women have no reservations about raping the
have no reservations about raping the
have no reservations about raping the earth women I had a man who had
earth women I had a man who had
earth women I had a man who had assaulted a woman and he wanted water
assaulted a woman and he wanted water
assaulted a woman and he wanted water and when the water came he said he’s
and when the water came he said he’s
and when the water came he said he’s from a lower caste can you have a higher
from a lower caste can you have a higher
from a lower caste can you have a higher caste man give water to me and I said
caste man give water to me and I said
caste man give water to me and I said you assaulted a Dalit woman how come he
you assaulted a Dalit woman how come he
you assaulted a Dalit woman how come he smiled and he said well you know he
smiled and he said well you know he
smiled and he said well you know he didn’t say anything he turned his face
didn’t say anything he turned his face
didn’t say anything he turned his face away right okay this is a ballot Hamlet
away right okay this is a ballot Hamlet
away right okay this is a ballot Hamlet and this is in famous sexual assault
and this is in famous sexual assault
and this is in famous sexual assault took place can you see that the grass is
took place can you see that the grass is
took place can you see that the grass is cut and there is grass on the side it
cut and there is grass on the side it
cut and there is grass on the side it was cut because when we visited the
was cut because when we visited the
was cut because when we visited the place because the lift women are
place because the lift women are
place because the lift women are assaulted over here on the way and it
assaulted over here on the way and it
assaulted over here on the way and it was done bite the tacos of that area who
was done bite the tacos of that area who
was done bite the tacos of that area who wanted to prevent a Nassau
wanted to prevent a Nassau
wanted to prevent a Nassau so when they got to know that we are
so when they got to know that we are
so when they got to know that we are coming they cut down the grass okay this
coming they cut down the grass okay this
coming they cut down the grass okay this was a picture given by a victim of a
was a picture given by a victim of a
was a picture given by a victim of a gang rape the left-hand side was when
gang rape the left-hand side was when
gang rape the left-hand side was when she was lying in the hospital bed that’s
she was lying in the hospital bed that’s
she was lying in the hospital bed that’s a picture you can see right and the
a picture you can see right and the
a picture you can see right and the right hand side is where she drew after
right hand side is where she drew after
right hand side is where she drew after a year when I asked her that if for
a year when I asked her that if for
a year when I asked her that if for example we hadn’t met you how would it
example we hadn’t met you how would it
example we hadn’t met you how would it have been how would the right-hand side
have been how would the right-hand side
have been how would the right-hand side have been but it happened like this she
have been but it happened like this she
have been but it happened like this she said no I said how would have been she
said no I said how would have been she
said no I said how would have been she cut off and said there would have been
cut off and said there would have been
cut off and said there would have been no picture you understand what that
no picture you understand what that
no picture you understand what that means this is another picture the last
means this is another picture the last
means this is another picture the last picture that I want to show that you can
picture that I want to show that you can
picture that I want to show that you can see how this girl has drawn her back and
see how this girl has drawn her back and
see how this girl has drawn her back and how she feels the Sun coming out that’s
how she feels the Sun coming out that’s
how she feels the Sun coming out that’s hope and joy after suffering an assault
hope and joy after suffering an assault
hope and joy after suffering an assault women suffered trauma and woman’s become
women suffered trauma and woman’s become
women suffered trauma and woman’s become silent after trauma and that silence is
silent after trauma and that silence is
silent after trauma and that silence is not their responsibility that is the
not their responsibility that is the
not their responsibility that is the responsibility of the society the
responsibility of the society the
responsibility of the society the society until illness it creates safe
society until illness it creates safe
society until illness it creates safe institutions criminal justice
institutions criminal justice
institutions criminal justice institutions that can address an her
institutions that can address an her
institutions that can address an her trauma the women will not come forward
trauma the women will not come forward
trauma the women will not come forward to speak and it is important that we as
to speak and it is important that we as
to speak and it is important that we as a rule of law society must create those
a rule of law society must create those
a rule of law society must create those institutions so women in our country and
institutions so women in our country and
institutions so women in our country and other countries do speak up that’s what
other countries do speak up that’s what
other countries do speak up that’s what I want to say thank you
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