I have a daughter you already warned that she’s very cute obviously she is
that she’s very cute obviously she is
that she’s very cute obviously she is she is three and a half and she is
she is three and a half and she is
she is three and a half and she is strong and smart and capable I may be
strong and smart and capable I may be
strong and smart and capable I may be biased but I think that she is made of
biased but I think that she is made of
biased but I think that she is made of all the good things in this world when I
all the good things in this world when I
all the good things in this world when I found out that I would be a mother to a
found out that I would be a mother to a
found out that I would be a mother to a daughter I read an excessive number of
daughter I read an excessive number of
daughter I read an excessive number of books and articles about how to raise a
books and articles about how to raise a
books and articles about how to raise a strong successful woman in our society
strong successful woman in our society
strong successful woman in our society and they all had a similar theme to
and they all had a similar theme to
and they all had a similar theme to raise a strong successful woman in our
raise a strong successful woman in our
raise a strong successful woman in our society you as a parent are tasked with
society you as a parent are tasked with
society you as a parent are tasked with building her confidence and showing her
building her confidence and showing her
building her confidence and showing her that she can do and accomplish just as
that she can do and accomplish just as
that she can do and accomplish just as much as her male counterparts the ways
much as her male counterparts the ways
much as her male counterparts the ways to do this are slightly less clear but
to do this are slightly less clear but
to do this are slightly less clear but they include things like positive
they include things like positive
they include things like positive affirmations early and often an exposure
affirmations early and often an exposure
affirmations early and often an exposure to a variety of women leaders and
to a variety of women leaders and
to a variety of women leaders and allowing your daughter to fail while
allowing your daughter to fail while
allowing your daughter to fail while simultaneously reminding her that she’s
simultaneously reminding her that she’s
simultaneously reminding her that she’s capable of succeeding this is no easy
capable of succeeding this is no easy
capable of succeeding this is no easy task but so far so good
task but so far so good
task but so far so good my daughter is told every day that she
my daughter is told every day that she
my daughter is told every day that she is strong and smart and capable and she
is strong and smart and capable and she
is strong and smart and capable and she is sure to remind us if we forget we
is sure to remind us if we forget we
is sure to remind us if we forget we read books about women leaders and we
read books about women leaders and we
read books about women leaders and we talk about all of the things that she
talk about all of the things that she
talk about all of the things that she can be when she grows up but she is only
can be when she grows up but she is only
can be when she grows up but she is only three and one day on the playground or
three and one day on the playground or
three and one day on the playground or in the classroom or at work someone will
in the classroom or at work someone will
in the classroom or at work someone will tell her that she can’t and I will not
tell her that she can’t and I will not
tell her that she can’t and I will not be there to remind her of her worth I
be there to remind her of her worth I
be there to remind her of her worth I can only hope that she is able to remind
can only hope that she is able to remind
can only hope that she is able to remind herself being a mother to a daughter has
herself being a mother to a daughter has
herself being a mother to a daughter has resulted in a lot of self-reflection
resulted in a lot of self-reflection
resulted in a lot of self-reflection both personally and professionally
both personally and professionally
both personally and professionally one of the things I think about in my
one of the things I think about in my
one of the things I think about in my work with diversity in the workplace are
work with diversity in the workplace are
work with diversity in the workplace are those books and articles I read
those books and articles I read
those books and articles I read in preparation for my daughter’s arrival
in preparation for my daughter’s arrival
in preparation for my daughter’s arrival themes of confidence and knowing your
themes of confidence and knowing your
themes of confidence and knowing your worth and in those moments I can’t help
worth and in those moments I can’t help
worth and in those moments I can’t help but wonder when was the last time I told
but wonder when was the last time I told
but wonder when was the last time I told myself that I was strong and smart and
myself that I was strong and smart and
myself that I was strong and smart and capable and when was the last time I
capable and when was the last time I
capable and when was the last time I told other women I work with of the same
today women earn 80 cents for every
today women earn 80 cents for every dollar a man makes and comprise slightly
dollar a man makes and comprise slightly
dollar a man makes and comprise slightly less than 5% of CEO positions in Fortune
less than 5% of CEO positions in Fortune
less than 5% of CEO positions in Fortune 500 companies are you surprised probably
500 companies are you surprised probably
500 companies are you surprised probably not this information is not new we’ve
not this information is not new we’ve
not this information is not new we’ve been exposing the wage gap on t-shirts
been exposing the wage gap on t-shirts
been exposing the wage gap on t-shirts creating hashtags and supporting
creating hashtags and supporting
creating hashtags and supporting nonprofits all to ensure that this issue
nonprofits all to ensure that this issue
nonprofits all to ensure that this issue remains at the forefront of the gender
remains at the forefront of the gender
remains at the forefront of the gender equality debate the causes of these
equality debate the causes of these
equality debate the causes of these discrepancies are multifaceted
discrepancies are multifaceted
discrepancies are multifaceted they include things like unconscious
they include things like unconscious
they include things like unconscious behaviors company culture access to
behaviors company culture access to
behaviors company culture access to resources and corporate policies in
resources and corporate policies in
resources and corporate policies in response businesses are making changes
response businesses are making changes
response businesses are making changes diversity trainings are becoming more
diversity trainings are becoming more
diversity trainings are becoming more common and policies are being reviewed
common and policies are being reviewed
common and policies are being reviewed organizations across the country are
organizations across the country are
organizations across the country are starting to recognize that a diverse
starting to recognize that a diverse
starting to recognize that a diverse executive board results in unique and
executive board results in unique and
executive board results in unique and creative thoughts and ideas but we’re
creative thoughts and ideas but we’re
creative thoughts and ideas but we’re missing something something that these
missing something something that these
missing something something that these programs cannot address unconscious bias
programs cannot address unconscious bias
programs cannot address unconscious bias is a social stereotype or preconceived
is a social stereotype or preconceived
is a social stereotype or preconceived notion about a particular group of
notion about a particular group of
notion about a particular group of people and we all have them messages
people and we all have them messages
people and we all have them messages that we receive throughout our lives
that we receive throughout our lives
that we receive throughout our lives through a variety of mediums result in
through a variety of mediums result in
through a variety of mediums result in these messages that are often so deeply
these messages that are often so deeply
these messages that are often so deeply rooted in our unconscious that they
rooted in our unconscious that they
rooted in our unconscious that they inadvertently affect our actions and
inadvertently affect our actions and
inadvertently affect our actions and decisions one illustration of these
decisions one illustration of these
decisions one illustration of these messages that children receive through
messages that children receive through
messages that children receive through some books and movies have a plot that
some books and movies have a plot that
some books and movies have a plot that pretty much always go like this you have
pretty much always go like this you have
pretty much always go like this you have a woman depicted as a
a woman depicted as a
a woman depicted as a who finds herself in some terrible
who finds herself in some terrible
who finds herself in some terrible predicament she’s locked in some tower
predicament she’s locked in some tower
predicament she’s locked in some tower somewhere or she’s ingested some sort of
somewhere or she’s ingested some sort of
somewhere or she’s ingested some sort of poison and because of her inability she
poison and because of her inability she
poison and because of her inability she cannot remove herself from that
cannot remove herself from that
cannot remove herself from that situation but lucky for her a man comes
situation but lucky for her a man comes
situation but lucky for her a man comes along normally depicted as a prince who
along normally depicted as a prince who
along normally depicted as a prince who saves her from this terrible situation
saves her from this terrible situation
saves her from this terrible situation one that she would have remained in
one that she would have remained in
one that she would have remained in indefinitely if it weren’t for him they
indefinitely if it weren’t for him they
indefinitely if it weren’t for him they go on to live happily ever after
go on to live happily ever after
go on to live happily ever after although happily ever after is rarely
although happily ever after is rarely
although happily ever after is rarely well defined the message that children
well defined the message that children
well defined the message that children may receive through these types of books
may receive through these types of books
may receive through these types of books and movies are that women are incapable
and movies are that women are incapable
and movies are that women are incapable while men are capable for example when
while men are capable for example when
while men are capable for example when children as young as six years old are
children as young as six years old are
children as young as six years old are shown a picture of a man and a woman and
shown a picture of a man and a woman and
shown a picture of a man and a woman and are asked which picture they think
are asked which picture they think
are asked which picture they think represents the person that would be
represents the person that would be
represents the person that would be smarter a majority of the children
smarter a majority of the children
smarter a majority of the children choose the male photo when children just
choose the male photo when children just
choose the male photo when children just one year younger at five years of age
one year younger at five years of age
one year younger at five years of age are shown the same photo and asked the
are shown the same photo and asked the
are shown the same photo and asked the same question a majority of the children
same question a majority of the children
same question a majority of the children choose the photo that represents their
choose the photo that represents their
choose the photo that represents their own gender boys choose the picture of
own gender boys choose the picture of
own gender boys choose the picture of the man and girls choose the picture of
the man and girls choose the picture of
the man and girls choose the picture of the woman so what this tells us is that
the woman so what this tells us is that
the woman so what this tells us is that in one year’s time between the ages of
in one year’s time between the ages of
in one year’s time between the ages of five and six little girls are deciding
five and six little girls are deciding
five and six little girls are deciding through these messages they’re receiving
through these messages they’re receiving
through these messages they’re receiving through a variety of mediums that men
through a variety of mediums that men
through a variety of mediums that men are smarter than women
are smarter than women
are smarter than women this is unconscious bias unconscious
this is unconscious bias unconscious
this is unconscious bias unconscious bias trainings are a response to these
bias trainings are a response to these
bias trainings are a response to these biases while they vary they typically
biases while they vary they typically
biases while they vary they typically walk participants through some basic
walk participants through some basic
walk participants through some basic steps first acknowledge the biases exist
recognize your own biases think about
recognize your own biases think about how these biases affect your actions and
how these biases affect your actions and
how these biases affect your actions and decisions and come up with a plan on how
decisions and come up with a plan on how
decisions and come up with a plan on how you’ll question these biases in the
you’ll question these biases in the
you’ll question these biases in the future when we talk about unconscious
future when we talk about unconscious
future when we talk about unconscious bias we typically focus outward
bias we typically focus outward
bias we typically focus outward on how we view others phrases like those
on how we view others phrases like those
on how we view others phrases like those people have diversity leaders like
people have diversity leaders like
people have diversity leaders like myself screaming biases but what about
myself screaming biases but what about
myself screaming biases but what about the n-word internal bias women today
the n-word internal bias women today
the n-word internal bias women today rate themselves lower on self
rate themselves lower on self
rate themselves lower on self performance evaluations than men of
performance evaluations than men of
performance evaluations than men of equal performance conflict avoidant
equal performance conflict avoidant
equal performance conflict avoidant managers those that would prefer to not
managers those that would prefer to not
managers those that would prefer to not have difficult conversations with their
have difficult conversations with their
have difficult conversations with their employees affirm these overly critical
employees affirm these overly critical
employees affirm these overly critical or overly confident assessments simply
or overly confident assessments simply
or overly confident assessments simply by giving employees the same performance
by giving employees the same performance
by giving employees the same performance rating they gave themselves resulting in
rating they gave themselves resulting in
rating they gave themselves resulting in a lower mirror increase for women a
a lower mirror increase for women a
a lower mirror increase for women a widening of the wage gap women apply to
widening of the wage gap women apply to
widening of the wage gap women apply to positions only when they meet a hundred
positions only when they meet a hundred
positions only when they meet a hundred percent of the qualifications while men
percent of the qualifications while men
percent of the qualifications while men apply to the same roles when they meet
apply to the same roles when they meet
apply to the same roles when they meet as little as sixty percent of the
as little as sixty percent of the
as little as sixty percent of the qualifications directly impacting a
qualifications directly impacting a
qualifications directly impacting a woman’s ability to advance in her career
woman’s ability to advance in her career
woman’s ability to advance in her career and when women do change roles they
and when women do change roles they
and when women do change roles they negotiate their salaries significantly
negotiate their salaries significantly
negotiate their salaries significantly less in fact men initiate negotiations
less in fact men initiate negotiations
less in fact men initiate negotiations four times more than women and when
four times more than women and when
four times more than women and when women do negotiate they ask for 30% less
women do negotiate they ask for 30% less
women do negotiate they ask for 30% less on average than men this lack of initial
on average than men this lack of initial
on average than men this lack of initial negotiation is said to account for a
negotiation is said to account for a
negotiation is said to account for a $50,000 wage difference by the age of 60
$50,000 wage difference by the age of 60
$50,000 wage difference by the age of 60 now I don’t know why every woman doesn’t
now I don’t know why every woman doesn’t
now I don’t know why every woman doesn’t negotiate in the same way that men do
negotiate in the same way that men do
negotiate in the same way that men do but I do know why I haven’t a fear a
but I do know why I haven’t a fear a
but I do know why I haven’t a fear a fear of being perceived as too
fear of being perceived as too
fear of being perceived as too aggressive and unapproachable abrasive
aggressive and unapproachable abrasive
aggressive and unapproachable abrasive and brash there is it other women in
and brash there is it other women in
and brash there is it other women in this room a relate to words that are
this room a relate to words that are
this room a relate to words that are typically only used to describe women
typically only used to describe women
typically only used to describe women fears that carry over into our working
fears that carry over into our working
fears that carry over into our working life resulting in women speaking less in
life resulting in women speaking less in
life resulting in women speaking less in meetings than men and claiming our ideas
meetings than men and claiming our ideas
meetings than men and claiming our ideas as our own less often when women move
as our own less often when women move
as our own less often when women move into management positions their female
into management positions their female
into management positions their female employees are harder on them almost half
employees are harder on them almost half
employees are harder on them almost half of women would just prefer a male
of women would just prefer a male
of women would just prefer a male boss with only a quarter preferring a
boss with only a quarter preferring a
boss with only a quarter preferring a female boss while a majority of men
female boss while a majority of men
female boss while a majority of men don’t care either way
don’t care either way
don’t care either way women rate their female bosses lower
women rate their female bosses lower
women rate their female bosses lower than their male bosses regardless of
than their male bosses regardless of
than their male bosses regardless of similarities in management style and
similarities in management style and
similarities in management style and women are just as tough on their female
women are just as tough on their female
women are just as tough on their female employees giving more negative critical
employees giving more negative critical
employees giving more negative critical feedback about their personalities than
feedback about their personalities than
feedback about their personalities than the men that report to them these
the men that report to them these
the men that report to them these messages that we’ve received throughout
messages that we’ve received throughout
messages that we’ve received throughout our lives through a variety of mediums
our lives through a variety of mediums
our lives through a variety of mediums have resulted in a deeply rooted
have resulted in a deeply rooted
have resulted in a deeply rooted unconscious bias about ourselves we
unconscious bias about ourselves we
unconscious bias about ourselves we project these biases on other women
project these biases on other women
project these biases on other women around us so what now let’s go back to
around us so what now let’s go back to
around us so what now let’s go back to the beginning acknowledge that these
the beginning acknowledge that these
the beginning acknowledge that these biases do exist recognize your own
biases do exist recognize your own
biases do exist recognize your own biases think about how these biases have
biases think about how these biases have
biases think about how these biases have affected your actions and decisions how
affected your actions and decisions how
affected your actions and decisions how did you respond to your most recent
did you respond to your most recent
did you respond to your most recent performance evaluation did you apply to
performance evaluation did you apply to
performance evaluation did you apply to that promotion and come up with a plan
that promotion and come up with a plan
that promotion and come up with a plan on how you’ll question these biases in
on how you’ll question these biases in
on how you’ll question these biases in the future what will you do differently
the future what will you do differently
the future what will you do differently at home and at work we wear t-shirts and
at home and at work we wear t-shirts and
at home and at work we wear t-shirts and hash tag and support nonprofits but we
hash tag and support nonprofits but we
hash tag and support nonprofits but we continue to stunt our own growth simply
continue to stunt our own growth simply
continue to stunt our own growth simply by forgetting what we knew at 3 years
by forgetting what we knew at 3 years
by forgetting what we knew at 3 years old that we are strong and smart and
old that we are strong and smart and
old that we are strong and smart and capable what would happen if we reminded
capable what would happen if we reminded
capable what would happen if we reminded ourselves every day and told others when
ourselves every day and told others when
ourselves every day and told others when they forgot to the business and
they forgot to the business and
they forgot to the business and diversity leaders the work within our
diversity leaders the work within our
diversity leaders the work within our organizations is important it is
organizations is important it is
organizations is important it is necessary and it must continue while we
necessary and it must continue while we
necessary and it must continue while we have taken steps in the right direction
have taken steps in the right direction
have taken steps in the right direction we still have much ground to cover to
we still have much ground to cover to
we still have much ground to cover to the advocates fighting for equal pay for
the advocates fighting for equal pay for
the advocates fighting for equal pay for equal work I commend you and I challenge
equal work I commend you and I challenge
equal work I commend you and I challenge you let’s not forget
you let’s not forget
you let’s not forget about ourselves thank you
about ourselves thank you
about ourselves thank you [Applause]
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