so in China a couple years ago this is old woman that start running 20
old woman that start running 20
old woman that start running 20 kilometers every day and not just that
kilometers every day and not just that
kilometers every day and not just that she even did heart exercises like curl
she even did heart exercises like curl
she even did heart exercises like curl ups push ups
ups push ups
ups push ups she also adopted a calorie restricting
she also adopted a calorie restricting
she also adopted a calorie restricting diet eating only fresh fruit and
diet eating only fresh fruit and
diet eating only fresh fruit and vegetables to lose weight isn’t it
vegetables to lose weight isn’t it
vegetables to lose weight isn’t it strange what inspired her to do so was
strange what inspired her to do so was
strange what inspired her to do so was she trying to look good again was she
she trying to look good again was she
she trying to look good again was she trying to reclaim her youth was she
trying to reclaim her youth was she
trying to reclaim her youth was she preparing for a special event or someone
preparing for a special event or someone
preparing for a special event or someone special
well mrs. Wang was told by her doctor
well mrs. Wang was told by her doctor that her son ding Wei was at the end
that her son ding Wei was at the end
that her son ding Wei was at the end stage of urania is a fatal kidney
stage of urania is a fatal kidney
stage of urania is a fatal kidney disease and that a transplant was needed
disease and that a transplant was needed
disease and that a transplant was needed now for the operation to be successful
now for the operation to be successful
now for the operation to be successful the donor needs to be somewhat similar
the donor needs to be somewhat similar
the donor needs to be somewhat similar weight as the patient knowing that her
weight as the patient knowing that her
weight as the patient knowing that her son’s time was running out this is why
son’s time was running out this is why
son’s time was running out this is why I’ll put on running shoes I started
I’ll put on running shoes I started
I’ll put on running shoes I started running 20 kilometers every day for half
running 20 kilometers every day for half
running 20 kilometers every day for half a year
a year
a year and she was able to lose 44 pounds and
and she was able to lose 44 pounds and
and she was able to lose 44 pounds and made the donation save her son’s life in
made the donation save her son’s life in
made the donation save her son’s life in an interview mrs. waak said she never
an interview mrs. waak said she never
an interview mrs. waak said she never feared death never feared disease never
feared death never feared disease never
feared death never feared disease never thought of losing her weight seriously
thought of losing her weight seriously
thought of losing her weight seriously and no man in this world could make her
and no man in this world could make her
and no man in this world could make her give in except for her son there was
give in except for her son there was
give in except for her son there was nothing more frightful than losing my
nothing more frightful than losing my
nothing more frightful than losing my beloved son this is true altruism and is
beloved son this is true altruism and is
beloved son this is true altruism and is what I call unconditional love
what I call unconditional love
what I call unconditional love what is unconditional love
what is unconditional love
what is unconditional love well many research have shown that an
well many research have shown that an
well many research have shown that an infant
infant
infant lacking unconditional love runs the risk
lacking unconditional love runs the risk
lacking unconditional love runs the risk of developing
psychological and cognitive dysfunctions
psychological and cognitive dysfunctions or even dyes us humans we need
or even dyes us humans we need
or even dyes us humans we need unconditional love for our own physical
unconditional love for our own physical
unconditional love for our own physical and emotional health as well as
and emotional health as well as
and emotional health as well as spiritual well-being now unconditional
spiritual well-being now unconditional
spiritual well-being now unconditional love literally translates into the kind
love literally translates into the kind
love literally translates into the kind of love that demands no conditions right
of love that demands no conditions right
of love that demands no conditions right it is basically loving a person without
it is basically loving a person without
it is basically loving a person without questioning whether you feel any other
questioning whether you feel any other
questioning whether you feel any other way towards that person it sounds easy
way towards that person it sounds easy
way towards that person it sounds easy right yeah what if I tell you it is far
right yeah what if I tell you it is far
right yeah what if I tell you it is far easier and more natural to love
easier and more natural to love
easier and more natural to love conditionally and to bring disaster into
conditionally and to bring disaster into
conditionally and to bring disaster into relationships any kinds of relationships
relationships any kinds of relationships
relationships any kinds of relationships for example a man and a woman fall in
for example a man and a woman fall in
for example a man and a woman fall in love with each other they get engaged
because the man sees in the woman as
because the man sees in the woman as someone that can provide him with
someone that can provide him with
someone that can provide him with physical and emotional needs now the
physical and emotional needs now the
physical and emotional needs now the woman season the man as someone that can
woman season the man as someone that can
woman season the man as someone that can provide her with protection financial
provide her with protection financial
provide her with protection financial stability or some secret sauce but you
stability or some secret sauce but you
stability or some secret sauce but you see each person is looking after his or
see each person is looking after his or
see each person is looking after his or her own needs conditional love begins
her own needs conditional love begins
her own needs conditional love begins when we see the other person our partner
when we see the other person our partner
when we see the other person our partner as a source for our own gratifications
as a source for our own gratifications
as a source for our own gratifications and this is completely natural to us
and this is completely natural to us
and this is completely natural to us whether we admit it or not because we
whether we admit it or not because we
whether we admit it or not because we were born that way ever since we were
were born that way ever since we were
were born that way ever since we were young we received warmth protection and
young we received warmth protection and
young we received warmth protection and tender loving kindness from our parents
tender loving kindness from our parents
tender loving kindness from our parents or our caretakers now we carry that same
or our caretakers now we carry that same
or our caretakers now we carry that same mentality of sugar spice and everything
mentality of sugar spice and everything
mentality of sugar spice and everything nice far into our adulthood we’ve also
nice far into our adulthood we’ve also
nice far into our adulthood we’ve also been taught by life to be sensible
been taught by life to be sensible
been taught by life to be sensible defensive and
defensive and
defensive and vigilant y’all always scanning for
vigilant y’all always scanning for
vigilant y’all always scanning for dangerous threats security and keeping
dangerous threats security and keeping
dangerous threats security and keeping things in control now unfortunately
things in control now unfortunately
things in control now unfortunately thanks to all that we’re still children
thanks to all that we’re still children
thanks to all that we’re still children when it comes love we tend to demand too
when it comes love we tend to demand too
when it comes love we tend to demand too much from up from our partner without us
much from up from our partner without us
much from up from our partner without us actually giving we tend to be selfish to
actually giving we tend to be selfish to
actually giving we tend to be selfish to a partner we see our partner with
a partner we see our partner with
a partner we see our partner with disenchantment and let down because he
disenchantment and let down because he
disenchantment and let down because he or she just doesn’t seem to understand
or she just doesn’t seem to understand
or she just doesn’t seem to understand our emotions and our feelings properly
our emotions and our feelings properly
our emotions and our feelings properly we become hurt when our needs are not
we become hurt when our needs are not
we become hurt when our needs are not met
met
met we’re upset just because our partner
we’re upset just because our partner
we’re upset just because our partner just doesn’t seem to fit that that that
just doesn’t seem to fit that that that
just doesn’t seem to fit that that that picture that picture of the lover that
picture that picture of the lover that
picture that picture of the lover that we’ve been imagining so then it becomes
we’ve been imagining so then it becomes
we’ve been imagining so then it becomes our natural instinct to just be unkind
our natural instinct to just be unkind
our natural instinct to just be unkind to our partner it’s much easier for us
to our partner it’s much easier for us
to our partner it’s much easier for us to just curl up into this ball of
to just curl up into this ball of
to just curl up into this ball of insecurity and neediness we then we then
insecurity and neediness we then we then
insecurity and neediness we then we then overthink we fight we bite we argue and
overthink we fight we bite we argue and
overthink we fight we bite we argue and then we act without even asking why did
then we act without even asking why did
then we act without even asking why did we begin this entire relationship why
we begin this entire relationship why
we begin this entire relationship why well the truth is we’re all hurt not
well the truth is we’re all hurt not
well the truth is we’re all hurt not because our partner because we simply
because our partner because we simply
because our partner because we simply have to grow up now before I go deeper
have to grow up now before I go deeper
have to grow up now before I go deeper into unconditional love let’s rethink
into unconditional love let’s rethink
into unconditional love let’s rethink about love what is love even google
about love what is love even google
about love what is love even google knows knows what love is love is an
knows knows what love is love is an
knows knows what love is love is an intense affection for another human
intense affection for another human
intense affection for another human being love is also a nature’s secret
being love is also a nature’s secret
being love is also a nature’s secret method of tricking us humans into
method of tricking us humans into
method of tricking us humans into reproducing
love is the act of giving and caring for
love is the act of giving and caring for the other person knowing that his or her
the other person knowing that his or her
the other person knowing that his or her well-being and Happiness is off your
well-being and Happiness is off your
well-being and Happiness is off your priority love is the ability to hand
priority love is the ability to hand
priority love is the ability to hand over to someone a gun a fully loaded gun
over to someone a gun a fully loaded gun
over to someone a gun a fully loaded gun aimed straight at your heart and
aimed straight at your heart and
aimed straight at your heart and trusting them to not pull the trigger
unconditional love has all these
unconditional love has all these characteristics but without conditions
characteristics but without conditions
characteristics but without conditions now parental love think about my point
now parental love think about my point
now parental love think about my point earlier is a good example of
earlier is a good example of
earlier is a good example of unconditional love when we were little
unconditional love when we were little
unconditional love when we were little our parents looked after us in every way
our parents looked after us in every way
our parents looked after us in every way they made us feel safe they nurtured us
they made us feel safe they nurtured us
they made us feel safe they nurtured us and even indulged us and you know what
and even indulged us and you know what
and even indulged us and you know what the good thing was we didn’t have to
the good thing was we didn’t have to
the good thing was we didn’t have to reciprocate we they didn’t need us to
reciprocate we they didn’t need us to
reciprocate we they didn’t need us to ask about their day they didn’t need us
ask about their day they didn’t need us
ask about their day they didn’t need us to look after them they didn’t need us
to look after them they didn’t need us
to look after them they didn’t need us to know all of their problems and how to
to know all of their problems and how to
to know all of their problems and how to solve them our responsibility was
solve them our responsibility was
solve them our responsibility was painfully simple we just have to exist
painfully simple we just have to exist
painfully simple we just have to exist and then every little things we did from
and then every little things we did from
and then every little things we did from crawling on the ground or grabbing a
crawling on the ground or grabbing a
crawling on the ground or grabbing a teddy bear in without tiny little hands
teddy bear in without tiny little hands
teddy bear in without tiny little hands just fill our parents heart with
just fill our parents heart with
just fill our parents heart with happiness they did us quite the honor of
happiness they did us quite the honor of
happiness they did us quite the honor of not showing us what kind of pain labor
not showing us what kind of pain labor
not showing us what kind of pain labor and burden that looking after us had
and burden that looking after us had
and burden that looking after us had imposed on them they maintained a calm
imposed on them they maintained a calm
imposed on them they maintained a calm and cheerful facade while keeping that
and cheerful facade while keeping that
and cheerful facade while keeping that that argument up in the bedroom a secret
that argument up in the bedroom a secret
that argument up in the bedroom a secret to all of us we were loved and we didn’t
to all of us we were loved and we didn’t
to all of us we were loved and we didn’t have to love it was in love it wasn’t a
have to love it was in love it wasn’t a
have to love it was in love it wasn’t a long time ago that I realized what kind
long time ago that I realized what kind
long time ago that I realized what kind of troubles my single mother had to go
of troubles my single mother had to go
of troubles my single mother had to go through she struggled with debts so
through she struggled with debts so
through she struggled with debts so struggling now struggle with immense
struggling now struggle with immense
struggling now struggle with immense stress from work struggling with her own
stress from work struggling with her own
stress from work struggling with her own physical illnesses and then the pain of
physical illnesses and then the pain of
physical illnesses and then the pain of loneliness to which she still carefully
loneliness to which she still carefully
loneliness to which she still carefully concealed today yet she sacrificed
concealed today yet she sacrificed
concealed today yet she sacrificed everything for my well-being
everything for my well-being
everything for my well-being so I can be here today and so I can have
so I can be here today and so I can have
so I can be here today and so I can have a better future my mother loves me
a better future my mother loves me
a better future my mother loves me unconditionally this is not a job this
unconditionally this is not a job this
unconditionally this is not a job this is not an obligation it’s a choice so
is not an obligation it’s a choice so
is not an obligation it’s a choice so now that we kind of get the idea of
now that we kind of get the idea of
now that we kind of get the idea of unconditional love how can we apply that
unconditional love how can we apply that
unconditional love how can we apply that to our partner our spouse well number
to our partner our spouse well number
to our partner our spouse well number one you have to be willing to put the
one you have to be willing to put the
one you have to be willing to put the health of the relationship above
health of the relationship above
health of the relationship above everything else you should also you must
everything else you should also you must
everything else you should also you must leave an abusive relationship regardless
now when it comes to love Alexander the
now when it comes to love Alexander the Great once asked Socrates hey what’s the
Great once asked Socrates hey what’s the
Great once asked Socrates hey what’s the difference between like and love
Socrates answer was hey if you like the
Socrates answer was hey if you like the flower you just pluck it if you love a
flower you just pluck it if you love a
flower you just pluck it if you love a flower you water it every day the same
flower you water it every day the same
flower you water it every day the same thing goes for unconditional love you
thing goes for unconditional love you
thing goes for unconditional love you never withhold love just to get what you
never withhold love just to get what you
never withhold love just to get what you want or what you need you will want the
want or what you need you will want the
want or what you need you will want the best for the person you will respect the
best for the person you will respect the
best for the person you will respect the person for who he or she really is you
person for who he or she really is you
person for who he or she really is you will teach as well as learn from the
will teach as well as learn from the
will teach as well as learn from the person you will give the person without
person you will give the person without
person you will give the person without expecting anything in return and you
expecting anything in return and you
expecting anything in return and you will trust a person enough to let him or
will trust a person enough to let him or
will trust a person enough to let him or her just venture into the outside world
her just venture into the outside world
her just venture into the outside world and believing that they’ll come back to
and believing that they’ll come back to
and believing that they’ll come back to you they’ll come back to you now please
you they’ll come back to you now please
you they’ll come back to you now please remember that you will not always be
remember that you will not always be
remember that you will not always be happy all the time
happy all the time
happy all the time or having your expectations met because
or having your expectations met because
or having your expectations met because nobody is perfect the sooner you realize
nobody is perfect the sooner you realize
nobody is perfect the sooner you realize is the better when you first start
is the better when you first start
is the better when you first start showing unconditional love okay you
showing unconditional love okay you
showing unconditional love okay you probably expect your partner to
probably expect your partner to
probably expect your partner to be somewhat grateful or at least happy
be somewhat grateful or at least happy
be somewhat grateful or at least happy to receive it right that’s not always
to receive it right that’s not always
to receive it right that’s not always the case see some people have been
the case see some people have been
the case see some people have been treated with hostility they’ve been used
treated with hostility they’ve been used
treated with hostility they’ve been used to being treated with hostility or just
to being treated with hostility or just
to being treated with hostility or just never experienced this kind of love
never experienced this kind of love
never experienced this kind of love before therefore they don’t know how to
before therefore they don’t know how to
before therefore they don’t know how to respond to it that’s okay
respond to it that’s okay
respond to it that’s okay you also don’t want to try to change the
you also don’t want to try to change the
you also don’t want to try to change the person don’t change the person but
person don’t change the person but
person don’t change the person but instead learn to just respect and love
instead learn to just respect and love
instead learn to just respect and love embrace those differences learn to
embrace those differences learn to
embrace those differences learn to compromise not because you’re a weak but
compromise not because you’re a weak but
compromise not because you’re a weak but because you’re strong enough to just
because you’re strong enough to just
because you’re strong enough to just make a change for the better to just
make a change for the better to just
make a change for the better to just love the person to build a strong
love the person to build a strong
love the person to build a strong relationship and to make it work have an
relationship and to make it work have an
relationship and to make it work have an open communication with your partner but
open communication with your partner but
open communication with your partner but also learn to calmly express any hurts
also learn to calmly express any hurts
also learn to calmly express any hurts and concerns just because you care about
and concerns just because you care about
and concerns just because you care about your partner’s feelings and your kind
your partner’s feelings and your kind
your partner’s feelings and your kind forgive and forget
forgive and forget
forgive and forget any mistakes and flaws but learn from
any mistakes and flaws but learn from
any mistakes and flaws but learn from them let go of any small and trifle
them let go of any small and trifle
them let go of any small and trifle things that may bother annoy you and
things that may bother annoy you and
things that may bother annoy you and instead focus on the good qualities that
instead focus on the good qualities that
instead focus on the good qualities that your partner has and always appreciate
your partner has and always appreciate
your partner has and always appreciate love okay love is never to be taken for
love okay love is never to be taken for
love okay love is never to be taken for granted
granted
granted we take love for granted without knowing
we take love for granted without knowing
we take love for granted without knowing it you know the next morning you wake up
it you know the next morning you wake up
it you know the next morning you wake up and you still have your partner there
and you still have your partner there
and you still have your partner there you guys are still alive still in love
you guys are still alive still in love
you guys are still alive still in love should be happy and grateful for it you
should be happy and grateful for it you
should be happy and grateful for it you should feel lucky about it
should feel lucky about it
should feel lucky about it so how do we appreciate love small acts
so how do we appreciate love small acts
so how do we appreciate love small acts of kindness or just loving words like
of kindness or just loving words like
of kindness or just loving words like thank you how can I make your day better
thank you how can I make your day better
thank you how can I make your day better honey and then this is important be
honey and then this is important be
honey and then this is important be vulnerable because transparency
vulnerable because transparency
vulnerable because transparency authenticity and humility helps build a
authenticity and humility helps build a
authenticity and humility helps build a meaningful connection between the two of
meaningful connection between the two of
meaningful connection between the two of you
we don’t rise until
we don’t rise until we fall in love take that fall surrender
we fall in love take that fall surrender
we fall in love take that fall surrender give yourself up oh but that’s quite mad
give yourself up oh but that’s quite mad
give yourself up oh but that’s quite mad shut up your partner never loved you at
shut up your partner never loved you at
shut up your partner never loved you at first now he or she might have a really
first now he or she might have a really
first now he or she might have a really strong affections for you strong
strong affections for you strong
strong affections for you strong feelings for you your partner loves you
feelings for you your partner loves you
feelings for you your partner loves you because every day before you roll out of
because every day before you roll out of
because every day before you roll out of bed or check your phone check your email
bed or check your phone check your email
bed or check your phone check your email you always turn on him or her and just
you always turn on him or her and just
you always turn on him or her and just say good morning sweetheart did you
say good morning sweetheart did you
say good morning sweetheart did you sleep well your partner loves you
sleep well your partner loves you
sleep well your partner loves you because every time you walk down that
because every time you walk down that
because every time you walk down that coffee shop down the road you always
coffee shop down the road you always
coffee shop down the road you always grab her a medium latte not because she
grab her a medium latte not because she
grab her a medium latte not because she asked for it because you care the
asked for it because you care the
asked for it because you care the partner loves you because every time he
partner loves you because every time he
partner loves you because every time he or she is having a bad day you just you
or she is having a bad day you just you
or she is having a bad day you just you just offered to sit there just sit there
just offered to sit there just sit there
just offered to sit there just sit there and and listen and just because you know
and and listen and just because you know
and and listen and just because you know that sadness and pain is part of life
that sadness and pain is part of life
that sadness and pain is part of life and it is important that you help your
and it is important that you help your
and it is important that you help your partner feel it through see
partner feel it through see
partner feel it through see unconditional love requires kindness
unconditional love requires kindness
unconditional love requires kindness generosity and patience what are
generosity and patience what are
generosity and patience what are ourselves shouldn’t our well-being being
ourselves shouldn’t our well-being being
ourselves shouldn’t our well-being being as equally important – yes
as equally important – yes
as equally important – yes when you’re on an airplane right and
when you’re on an airplane right and
when you’re on an airplane right and then the air pressure plummets the
then the air pressure plummets the
then the air pressure plummets the oxygen mask drop what do you do you have
oxygen mask drop what do you do you have
oxygen mask drop what do you do you have to put the mask on yourself before you
to put the mask on yourself before you
to put the mask on yourself before you help others the same thing goes with
help others the same thing goes with
help others the same thing goes with unconditional love you have to love
unconditional love you have to love
unconditional love you have to love yourself unconditionally first before
yourself unconditionally first before
yourself unconditionally first before you give that love to another person now
you give that love to another person now
you give that love to another person now what do I mean by that I mean that we
what do I mean by that I mean that we
what do I mean by that I mean that we should take the necessary step to grow
should take the necessary step to grow
should take the necessary step to grow we should take care of our own physical
we should take care of our own physical
we should take care of our own physical and emotional health we should make an
and emotional health we should make an
and emotional health we should make an effort to improve our self-awareness and
effort to improve our self-awareness and
effort to improve our self-awareness and self-esteem
self-esteem
self-esteem we should also learn to forgive others
we should also learn to forgive others
we should also learn to forgive others and ourselves we should be kind
and ourselves we should be kind
and ourselves we should be kind ourselves but also half a certain degree
ourselves but also half a certain degree
ourselves but also half a certain degree of kindness to just everyone not because
of kindness to just everyone not because
of kindness to just everyone not because they are necessarily kind to us but
they are necessarily kind to us but
they are necessarily kind to us but because we are if you if we want
because we are if you if we want
because we are if you if we want something so badly out there in life
something so badly out there in life
something so badly out there in life then encourage yourself to just go get
then encourage yourself to just go get
then encourage yourself to just go get it but have responsibility and don’t pay
it but have responsibility and don’t pay
it but have responsibility and don’t pay too much attention about what any other
too much attention about what any other
too much attention about what any other people say about us because in the end
people say about us because in the end
people say about us because in the end it is actually just our own opinions on
it is actually just our own opinions on
it is actually just our own opinions on us that either make or break our destiny
you should love anyone believing that
you should love anyone believing that him or her will fill in the gap or will
him or her will fill in the gap or will
him or her will fill in the gap or will make you complete right uncle true
make you complete right uncle true
make you complete right uncle true unconditional love starts from you to
unconditional love starts from you to
unconditional love starts from you to you self love has to be a given
now before we walk out of this room
now before we walk out of this room tonight I want us to understand that
tonight I want us to understand that
tonight I want us to understand that true love or unconditional love it’s not
true love or unconditional love it’s not
true love or unconditional love it’s not about what you get it’s about what you
about what you get it’s about what you
about what you get it’s about what you can give
before I closed my speech I’d like to
before I closed my speech I’d like to acknowledge my girlfriend Jim she’s
acknowledge my girlfriend Jim she’s
acknowledge my girlfriend Jim she’s actually not here and now she’s 9,000
actually not here and now she’s 9,000
actually not here and now she’s 9,000 miles away she’s been an inspiration for
miles away she’s been an inspiration for
miles away she’s been an inspiration for me to write this beautiful speech as
me to write this beautiful speech as
me to write this beautiful speech as well as become a better person that I am
well as become a better person that I am
well as become a better person that I am today
today
today be willing to love unconditionally thank
be willing to love unconditionally thank
be willing to love unconditionally thank you for your time
you for your time
you for your time [Applause]
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