good afternoon everyone my name is Eugenia Kim and today I want to talk
Eugenia Kim and today I want to talk
Eugenia Kim and today I want to talk about some broad concepts life and
about some broad concepts life and
about some broad concepts life and identity what comes to mind when you
identity what comes to mind when you
identity what comes to mind when you hear the words life and identity some of
hear the words life and identity some of
hear the words life and identity some of you might feel overwhelmed because he
you might feel overwhelmed because he
you might feel overwhelmed because he often contemplates such concepts as a
often contemplates such concepts as a
often contemplates such concepts as a task that we a denies over our entire
task that we a denies over our entire
task that we a denies over our entire lives others might feel pressured
lives others might feel pressured
lives others might feel pressured because they obsess themselves to form
because they obsess themselves to form
because they obsess themselves to form distinctive qualities from others these
distinctive qualities from others these
distinctive qualities from others these are true to some degrees but in a sense
are true to some degrees but in a sense
are true to some degrees but in a sense rather extreme in my own words a
rather extreme in my own words a
rather extreme in my own words a person’s identity is the characteristics
person’s identity is the characteristics
person’s identity is the characteristics that forms through the many events she
that forms through the many events she
that forms through the many events she encounters and lifeless shows the full
encounters and lifeless shows the full
encounters and lifeless shows the full of unique experiences that forms that
of unique experiences that forms that
of unique experiences that forms that mold our true identity granted I would
mold our true identity granted I would
mold our true identity granted I would like to share a couple of personal
like to share a couple of personal
like to share a couple of personal experiences that play a decisive role in
experiences that play a decisive role in
experiences that play a decisive role in developing my own identity overcoming a
developing my own identity overcoming a
developing my own identity overcoming a nasty habit and finding true
nasty habit and finding true
nasty habit and finding true independence as a teenager most of even
independence as a teenager most of even
independence as a teenager most of even know how much I love nail art and that
know how much I love nail art and that
know how much I love nail art and that I’m pretty good at it but did you know
I’m pretty good at it but did you know
I’m pretty good at it but did you know that I used to bite my nails all the
that I used to bite my nails all the
that I used to bite my nails all the times actually all of my nails were
times actually all of my nails were
times actually all of my nails were extremely short because I would bite off
extremely short because I would bite off
extremely short because I would bite off the tips every time I stressed out I
the tips every time I stressed out I
the tips every time I stressed out I would do so even when our nails are too
would do so even when our nails are too
would do so even when our nails are too short bite as a result my nails became
short bite as a result my nails became
short bite as a result my nails became really fragile and often bleed so I try
really fragile and often bleed so I try
really fragile and often bleed so I try to overcome that
to overcome that
to overcome that terrible horrible habit like many times
terrible horrible habit like many times
terrible horrible habit like many times but I failed however my life changed
but I failed however my life changed
but I failed however my life changed drastically after I got interested in
drastically after I got interested in
drastically after I got interested in nail art I saw some photos of millers
nail art I saw some photos of millers
nail art I saw some photos of millers that someone posted on the internet one
that someone posted on the internet one
that someone posted on the internet one day the designs were glossy and
day the designs were glossy and
day the designs were glossy and colourful enough to catch an 11 years
colourful enough to catch an 11 years
colourful enough to catch an 11 years old girls attention so I immediately
old girls attention so I immediately
old girls attention so I immediately bought some nail polish to try out some
bought some nail polish to try out some
bought some nail polish to try out some designs but it turned out to be a
designs but it turned out to be a
designs but it turned out to be a terrible purchase since my nails are too
terrible purchase since my nails are too
terrible purchase since my nails are too short to do anything the nails and the
short to do anything the nails and the
short to do anything the nails and the pictures were long enough to serve some
pictures were long enough to serve some
pictures were long enough to serve some chip designs but my weren’t as
chip designs but my weren’t as
chip designs but my weren’t as much as I was disappointed however I
much as I was disappointed however I
much as I was disappointed however I promised myself to grow my nails just
promised myself to grow my nails just
promised myself to grow my nails just for a month and see what I can do one
for a month and see what I can do one
for a month and see what I can do one thing thus I carried the nail polish
thing thus I carried the nail polish
thing thus I carried the nail polish bottle everywhere and kept me near me so
bottle everywhere and kept me near me so
bottle everywhere and kept me near me so I could constantly remind myself I’m not
I could constantly remind myself I’m not
I could constantly remind myself I’m not super bright on my nails after a month
super bright on my nails after a month
super bright on my nails after a month my nails finally grew long enough to
my nails finally grew long enough to
my nails finally grew long enough to serve some cute designs and the final
serve some cute designs and the final
serve some cute designs and the final piece came up pretty well I was very
piece came up pretty well I was very
piece came up pretty well I was very proud of myself that I endured many days
proud of myself that I endured many days
proud of myself that I endured many days to overcome my bad habit I have never
to overcome my bad habit I have never
to overcome my bad habit I have never been in my nails ever since a successful
been in my nails ever since a successful
been in my nails ever since a successful moment therefore by filling a sense of
moment therefore by filling a sense of
moment therefore by filling a sense of accomplishment I learned how to overcome
accomplishment I learned how to overcome
accomplishment I learned how to overcome the overcome my personal weaknesses and
the overcome my personal weaknesses and
the overcome my personal weaknesses and that is now a part of who I am also
that is now a part of who I am also
that is now a part of who I am also understanding the meaning of true
understanding the meaning of true
understanding the meaning of true independence helped me to form my
independence helped me to form my
independence helped me to form my identity when I was younger I was never
identity when I was younger I was never
identity when I was younger I was never alone in my house since I have two
alone in my house since I have two
alone in my house since I have two sisters one older and one younger my
sisters one older and one younger my
sisters one older and one younger my sisters and I shared the same room slept
sisters and I shared the same room slept
sisters and I shared the same room slept in the same bed ate at the same table
in the same bed ate at the same table
in the same bed ate at the same table and studied together in the same place
and studied together in the same place
and studied together in the same place having two siblings around me all the
having two siblings around me all the
having two siblings around me all the time made me to rely on them without my
time made me to rely on them without my
time made me to rely on them without my knowing and in turn my identity was
knowing and in turn my identity was
knowing and in turn my identity was being molded in an environment where it
being molded in an environment where it
being molded in an environment where it was impossible for me to be independent
basically I didn’t have any space
basically I didn’t have any space literally and figuratively I was
literally and figuratively I was
literally and figuratively I was deprived of opportunities to solve my
deprived of opportunities to solve my
deprived of opportunities to solve my own problems because my sisters was
own problems because my sisters was
own problems because my sisters was constantly there monitoring me giving me
constantly there monitoring me giving me
constantly there monitoring me giving me an unwanted tan all the while judging my
an unwanted tan all the while judging my
an unwanted tan all the while judging my performance I just started to observe
performance I just started to observe
performance I just started to observe myself in the eyes of others and
myself in the eyes of others and
myself in the eyes of others and evaluate myself upon their subjective
evaluate myself upon their subjective
evaluate myself upon their subjective point of views
point of views
point of views I started feeling annoyed by my sisters
I started feeling annoyed by my sisters
I started feeling annoyed by my sisters and perhaps vice versa
and perhaps vice versa
and perhaps vice versa I knew I had to make a move so I
I knew I had to make a move so I
I knew I had to make a move so I suggested we separate our rooms for
suggested we separate our rooms for
suggested we separate our rooms for personal space and privacy
personal space and privacy
personal space and privacy I enjoyed life in my mind in my own room
I enjoyed life in my mind in my own room
I enjoyed life in my mind in my own room just for a few weeks during
just for a few weeks during
just for a few weeks during time I was way over my head thinking
time I was way over my head thinking
time I was way over my head thinking daya fulfill all the effectors of being
daya fulfill all the effectors of being
daya fulfill all the effectors of being on independent teenager yes I did have
on independent teenager yes I did have
on independent teenager yes I did have my own space and I did deal with my own
my own space and I did deal with my own
my own space and I did deal with my own problems
problems
problems but I was met with a much bigger problem
but I was met with a much bigger problem
but I was met with a much bigger problem when I started to deliberately isolate
when I started to deliberately isolate
when I started to deliberately isolate myself from my sisters I will walk
myself from my sisters I will walk
myself from my sisters I will walk straight into my room after school shut
straight into my room after school shut
straight into my room after school shut the door behind me and Schramm I trapped
the door behind me and Schramm I trapped
the door behind me and Schramm I trapped myself in the small cave for the sake of
myself in the small cave for the sake of
myself in the small cave for the sake of privacy and independence I fail to
privacy and independence I fail to
privacy and independence I fail to notice even the most trivial events on
notice even the most trivial events on
notice even the most trivial events on my sister’s life and there are much
my sister’s life and there are much
my sister’s life and there are much alike with my own existence
alike with my own existence
alike with my own existence I felt the growing distance among us and
I felt the growing distance among us and
I felt the growing distance among us and I knew something was terribly wrong with
I knew something was terribly wrong with
I knew something was terribly wrong with my independent expression such lifestyle
my independent expression such lifestyle
my independent expression such lifestyle was a far from true independence it was
was a far from true independence it was
was a far from true independence it was merely isolation segregation and
merely isolation segregation and
merely isolation segregation and loneliness today I continue to use my
loneliness today I continue to use my
loneliness today I continue to use my own room because I still believe that
own room because I still believe that
own room because I still believe that personal space and privacy are the
personal space and privacy are the
personal space and privacy are the necessary elements for a personal growth
necessary elements for a personal growth
necessary elements for a personal growth nevertheless I don’t completely isolate
nevertheless I don’t completely isolate
nevertheless I don’t completely isolate myself in my in my room anymore
myself in my in my room anymore
myself in my in my room anymore I realized that true independence is not
I realized that true independence is not
I realized that true independence is not simply just shutting myself off from the
simply just shutting myself off from the
simply just shutting myself off from the world around me sure independence is the
world around me sure independence is the
world around me sure independence is the ability to make my make my own decisions
ability to make my make my own decisions
ability to make my make my own decisions while living in an interactive
while living in an interactive
while living in an interactive environment the significance of such
environment the significance of such
environment the significance of such reciprocation is clear Amaris aside
reciprocation is clear Amaris aside
reciprocation is clear Amaris aside rational advice objective judgment and
rational advice objective judgment and
rational advice objective judgment and subjective criticism made by others but
subjective criticism made by others but
subjective criticism made by others but never let them interfere with my own
never let them interfere with my own
never let them interfere with my own decisions this realisation helped me to
decisions this realisation helped me to
decisions this realisation helped me to form more mature identity and prepare
form more mature identity and prepare
form more mature identity and prepare myself to be a better independent
myself to be a better independent
myself to be a better independent individual this personal stories are
individual this personal stories are
individual this personal stories are often considered Chavel and most people
often considered Chavel and most people
often considered Chavel and most people may may experience these kind of events
may may experience these kind of events
may may experience these kind of events in once in their lives however I believe
in once in their lives however I believe
in once in their lives however I believe that true identity naturally forms
that true identity naturally forms
that true identity naturally forms through these little experiences also
through these little experiences also
through these little experiences also even people who experienced the same
even people who experienced the same
even people who experienced the same events cannot form the identical
events cannot form the identical
events cannot form the identical characteristics because once identity is
characteristics because once identity is
characteristics because once identity is affected by the interpretation of each
affected by the interpretation of each
affected by the interpretation of each individual’s identity is the quality
individual’s identity is the quality
individual’s identity is the quality that no one can control or interfere
that no one can control or interfere
that no one can control or interfere with we are all unique individuals
with we are all unique individuals
with we are all unique individuals thus we shouldn’t stress over who we are
thus we shouldn’t stress over who we are
thus we shouldn’t stress over who we are what we are and how we are enjoy your
what we are and how we are enjoy your
what we are and how we are enjoy your life’s journey everyone thank you
life’s journey everyone thank you
life’s journey everyone thank you [Applause]
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