thank you so much thank you all for the
thank you so much thank you all for the patient but until you started and thank
patient but until you started and thank
patient but until you started and thank you so much it’s a pleasure being here
you so much it’s a pleasure being here
you so much it’s a pleasure being here it’s an honor many of you sitting here
it’s an honor many of you sitting here
it’s an honor many of you sitting here tonight you know my history more or less
tonight you know my history more or less
tonight you know my history more or less but for those of you who don’t I would
but for those of you who don’t I would
but for those of you who don’t I would like to share some of my personal
like to share some of my personal
like to share some of my personal journey because that’s what helped me to
journey because that’s what helped me to
journey because that’s what helped me to create thinking of you I grew up in
create thinking of you I grew up in
create thinking of you I grew up in family of artists my brother and my
family of artists my brother and my
family of artists my brother and my father are both artists my earliest
father are both artists my earliest
father are both artists my earliest childhood memory are of my father him
childhood memory are of my father him
childhood memory are of my father him sitting in the chair and working and
sitting in the chair and working and
sitting in the chair and working and reworking the canvas he would sit there
reworking the canvas he would sit there
reworking the canvas he would sit there for hours I would watch it he used a
for hours I would watch it he used a
for hours I would watch it he used a variety of household and washcloth
variety of household and washcloth
variety of household and washcloth to the most random objects in the
to the most random objects in the
to the most random objects in the kitchen as a child I only had the
kitchen as a child I only had the
kitchen as a child I only had the slightest idea a basic awareness of what
slightest idea a basic awareness of what
slightest idea a basic awareness of what I was I was witnessing my father was
I was I was witnessing my father was
I was I was witnessing my father was expressing in canvas his emotions his
expressing in canvas his emotions his
expressing in canvas his emotions his uncertainties his struggles his worries
uncertainties his struggles his worries
uncertainties his struggles his worries his political views which he was
his political views which he was
his political views which he was forbidden to speak I was witnessing the
forbidden to speak I was witnessing the
forbidden to speak I was witnessing the intimate language of art my art practice
intimate language of art my art practice
intimate language of art my art practice centers on identity history and memory I
centers on identity history and memory I
centers on identity history and memory I am very passionate about human rights in
am very passionate about human rights in
am very passionate about human rights in general and especially about women
general and especially about women
general and especially about women issues and their role in society I grew
issues and their role in society I grew
issues and their role in society I grew up in 1990s Pristina Kosova under the
up in 1990s Pristina Kosova under the
up in 1990s Pristina Kosova under the trophy’s Milosevic regime it was the
trophy’s Milosevic regime it was the
trophy’s Milosevic regime it was the time when Albanians in Kosovo were
time when Albanians in Kosovo were
time when Albanians in Kosovo were constantly being denied basic human
constantly being denied basic human
constantly being denied basic human rights it was the time when Albanians
rights it was the time when Albanians
rights it was the time when Albanians experienced discrimination in employment
experienced discrimination in employment
experienced discrimination in employment equal high housing fair trails and
equal high housing fair trails and
equal high housing fair trails and education I am an Albanian and therefore
education I am an Albanian and therefore
education I am an Albanian and therefore I was not spared I was
I was not spared I was
I was not spared I was denied an education in my own language
denied an education in my own language
denied an education in my own language thankfully we completed high school and
thankfully we completed high school and
thankfully we completed high school and university in sort of makeshift parallel
university in sort of makeshift parallel
university in sort of makeshift parallel education system we created an
education system we created an
education system we created an underground school system in the homes
underground school system in the homes
underground school system in the homes of our professors and our peers an
of our professors and our peers an
of our professors and our peers an alternative system allowing us to
alternative system allowing us to
alternative system allowing us to continue our studies in those incredible
continue our studies in those incredible
continue our studies in those incredible harsh time I began to understand the
harsh time I began to understand the
harsh time I began to understand the priceless value of art as a unique
priceless value of art as a unique
priceless value of art as a unique language created by individual yet
language created by individual yet
language created by individual yet understood by all art became for me what
understood by all art became for me what
understood by all art became for me what it was and is for my father and my
it was and is for my father and my
it was and is for my father and my brother it is the way in which I best
brother it is the way in which I best
brother it is the way in which I best express myself art is my language of
express myself art is my language of
express myself art is my language of choice my voice that travels without me
choice my voice that travels without me
choice my voice that travels without me having to utter a word art has no
having to utter a word art has no
having to utter a word art has no barrier it is universal it is a way of
barrier it is universal it is a way of
barrier it is universal it is a way of expressing the unsaid or unsaleable a
expressing the unsaid or unsaleable a
expressing the unsaid or unsaleable a few years ago I came across a very rare
few years ago I came across a very rare
few years ago I came across a very rare TV documentary an interview about the
TV documentary an interview about the
TV documentary an interview about the survivors of sexual violence I watched
survivors of sexual violence I watched
survivors of sexual violence I watched as the woman hiding behind the curtain
as the woman hiding behind the curtain
as the woman hiding behind the curtain in a home in a hope of remaining
in a home in a hope of remaining
in a home in a hope of remaining anonymous recounted her story of sexual
anonymous recounted her story of sexual
anonymous recounted her story of sexual violence in the post-war period the
violence in the post-war period the
violence in the post-war period the streets of fistina were full of the
streets of fistina were full of the
streets of fistina were full of the stories of people’s struggles the
stories of people’s struggles the
stories of people’s struggles the stories of heroism of the freedom
stories of heroism of the freedom
stories of heroism of the freedom fighters the stories of massacres
fighters the stories of massacres
fighters the stories of massacres horrifying stories which were told and
horrifying stories which were told and
horrifying stories which were told and retold yet in all the years since the
retold yet in all the years since the
retold yet in all the years since the war ended I had never once heard a woman
war ended I had never once heard a woman
war ended I had never once heard a woman share her story of being sexually
share her story of being sexually
share her story of being sexually violated
violated
violated I watched the documentary and I watched
I watched the documentary and I watched
I watched the documentary and I watched the woman hidden behind the curtain told
the woman hidden behind the curtain told
the woman hidden behind the curtain told her story of sexual brutality and then I
her story of sexual brutality and then I
her story of sexual brutality and then I lay I listened as this woman went on to
lay I listened as this woman went on to
lay I listened as this woman went on to talk about how it just did not end there
talk about how it just did not end there
talk about how it just did not end there she was not only sexually violated
she was not only sexually violated
she was not only sexually violated but she was then stigmatized by the
but she was then stigmatized by the
but she was then stigmatized by the society that she lived and loved she was
society that she lived and loved she was
society that she lived and loved she was viewed as the woman without an honor she
viewed as the woman without an honor she
viewed as the woman without an honor she had to live with a feeling of shaming
had to live with a feeling of shaming
had to live with a feeling of shaming her family I couldn’t believe that on
her family I couldn’t believe that on
her family I couldn’t believe that on top of the reality of her horrific
top of the reality of her horrific
top of the reality of her horrific experience she was forced to carry the
experience she was forced to carry the
experience she was forced to carry the guilt she was carrying a lifelong burden
guilt she was carrying a lifelong burden
guilt she was carrying a lifelong burden without ever having committed a crime I
without ever having committed a crime I
without ever having committed a crime I knew she was not alone there were many
knew she was not alone there were many
knew she was not alone there were many and many that remained silent and in the
and many that remained silent and in the
and many that remained silent and in the dark there were many women who were
dark there were many women who were
dark there were many women who were encouraged by their families not to
encouraged by their families not to
encouraged by their families not to speak about the sexual violence they
speak about the sexual violence they
speak about the sexual violence they experienced in the war during the war in
experienced in the war during the war in
experienced in the war during the war in Kosovo sexual violence was not a rare
Kosovo sexual violence was not a rare
Kosovo sexual violence was not a rare and isolated act it was deliberately
and isolated act it was deliberately
and isolated act it was deliberately used by the enemy forces as an
used by the enemy forces as an
used by the enemy forces as an instrument to terrorize civilian
instrument to terrorize civilian
instrument to terrorize civilian population and to push people to flee
population and to push people to flee
population and to push people to flee their homes I felt deep sadness for
their homes I felt deep sadness for
their homes I felt deep sadness for these woman’s they had experienced
these woman’s they had experienced
these woman’s they had experienced horrific terrible violence and then
horrific terrible violence and then
horrific terrible violence and then being rejected by the societies so as I
being rejected by the societies so as I
being rejected by the societies so as I was watching the documentary I was
was watching the documentary I was
was watching the documentary I was wondering why are these women being
wondering why are these women being
wondering why are these women being treated this way why were they being
treated this way why were they being
treated this way why were they being silenced and stigmatized and where were
silenced and stigmatized and where were
silenced and stigmatized and where were the institution that were supposed to
the institution that were supposed to
the institution that were supposed to protect them and support them
protect them and support them
protect them and support them after watching the document documentary
after watching the document documentary
after watching the document documentary I knew that I needed to do something
I knew that I needed to do something
I knew that I needed to do something about it and I knew I had a feeling that
about it and I knew I had a feeling that
about it and I knew I had a feeling that I had to push this woman to break the
I had to push this woman to break the
I had to push this woman to break the silence I wanted to fight the stigma and
silence I wanted to fight the stigma and
silence I wanted to fight the stigma and I wanted to know that I am thinking of
I wanted to know that I am thinking of
I wanted to know that I am thinking of you we are all thinking of them and they
you we are all thinking of them and they
you we are all thinking of them and they are not alone I wanted to do something
are not alone I wanted to do something
are not alone I wanted to do something that would involve the whole of the
that would involve the whole of the
that would involve the whole of the whole society the institution the
whole society the institution the
whole society the institution the government
government
government I wanted the woman to feel the
I wanted the woman to feel the
I wanted the woman to feel the Solidarity of nation coming together to
Solidarity of nation coming together to
Solidarity of nation coming together to help and to give something that left a
help and to give something that left a
help and to give something that left a mark on my childhood as I said before my
mark on my childhood as I said before my
mark on my childhood as I said before my art practice centers on identity memory
art practice centers on identity memory
art practice centers on identity memory and his
and his
and his sorry something that left a mark on my
sorry something that left a mark on my
sorry something that left a mark on my child is that with my parents I
child is that with my parents I
child is that with my parents I participated in a massive events of
participated in a massive events of
participated in a massive events of reconciliation of the blood feuds during
reconciliation of the blood feuds during
reconciliation of the blood feuds during the early 1990s that was the first time
the early 1990s that was the first time
the early 1990s that was the first time that I witnessed the sense of solidarity
that I witnessed the sense of solidarity
that I witnessed the sense of solidarity when the whole nation came together when
when the whole nation came together when
when the whole nation came together when people from all walks of life
people from all walks of life
people from all walks of life rich poor rural urban men and woman
rich poor rural urban men and woman
rich poor rural urban men and woman forgave the old disputes and then moved
forgave the old disputes and then moved
forgave the old disputes and then moved forward I would never forget that moment
forward I would never forget that moment
forward I would never forget that moment I wanted this woman to feel exactly the
I wanted this woman to feel exactly the
I wanted this woman to feel exactly the same solidarity the giving the
same solidarity the giving the
same solidarity the giving the understanding of pain the recognition of
understanding of pain the recognition of
understanding of pain the recognition of it and then moving forward thinking of
it and then moving forward thinking of
it and then moving forward thinking of you is dedicated to the Kosovo survivors
you is dedicated to the Kosovo survivors
you is dedicated to the Kosovo survivors of sexual violence during the war but
of sexual violence during the war but
of sexual violence during the war but the same time it is dedicated to the
the same time it is dedicated to the
the same time it is dedicated to the horse to the old sexuals to the all
horse to the old sexuals to the all
horse to the old sexuals to the all sexual violence all over the world it
sexual violence all over the world it
sexual violence all over the world it has its roots in Kosova but at the same
has its roots in Kosova but at the same
has its roots in Kosova but at the same time it has a universal language of its
time it has a universal language of its
time it has a universal language of its own and it can be understood and felt by
own and it can be understood and felt by
own and it can be understood and felt by everyone sexual violence continues to be
everyone sexual violence continues to be
everyone sexual violence continues to be used as instrument of war and its
used as instrument of war and its
used as instrument of war and its victims remain unrecognized and silenced
victims remain unrecognized and silenced
victims remain unrecognized and silenced globally so in creating the art
globally so in creating the art
globally so in creating the art installation thinking of you I wanted to
installation thinking of you I wanted to
installation thinking of you I wanted to make a direct call to break the silence
make a direct call to break the silence
make a direct call to break the silence to fight the stigma a call to act and
to fight the stigma a call to act and
to fight the stigma a call to act and show solidarity I called on men and
show solidarity I called on men and
show solidarity I called on men and women to donate a skirt or a dress to
women to donate a skirt or a dress to
women to donate a skirt or a dress to recognize the survivors I wanted to
recognize the survivors I wanted to
recognize the survivors I wanted to create a piece that there’s it showed
create a piece that there’s it showed
create a piece that there’s it showed there is no shame and no stigma I wanted
there is no shame and no stigma I wanted
there is no shame and no stigma I wanted to break the silence I wanted to bring
to break the silence I wanted to bring
to break the silence I wanted to bring this issue into the man’s world to a
this issue into the man’s world to a
this issue into the man’s world to a public split place I decided to take
public split place I decided to take
public split place I decided to take this hidden private issue that no one
this hidden private issue that no one
this hidden private issue that no one wanted to talk about and bring and place
wanted to talk about and bring and place
wanted to talk about and bring and place it in the main area in football stadium
it in the main area in football stadium
it in the main area in football stadium in Pristina
in Pristina
in Pristina I decided to create a piece where
I decided to create a piece where
I decided to create a piece where thousands of skirts and dresses were
thousands of skirts and dresses were
thousands of skirts and dresses were hung on the washing lines across the
hung on the washing lines across the
hung on the washing lines across the stadium and no longer would that be a
stadium and no longer would that be a
stadium and no longer would that be a voice behind the curtain across Kosova
voice behind the curtain across Kosova
voice behind the curtain across Kosova men and women young and old came forward
men and women young and old came forward
men and women young and old came forward to donate a skirt to join this activist
to donate a skirt to join this activist
to donate a skirt to join this activist art installation and by making everyone
art installation and by making everyone
art installation and by making everyone part of it part of this installation by
part of it part of this installation by
part of it part of this installation by the very act of going in each sitting
the very act of going in each sitting
the very act of going in each sitting and talking to the survivors and talking
and talking to the survivors and talking
and talking to the survivors and talking and collecting the skirts and talking
and collecting the skirts and talking
and collecting the skirts and talking the piece took on of its life on its own
the piece took on of its life on its own
the piece took on of its life on its own journey it became a journey of listening
journey it became a journey of listening
journey it became a journey of listening to the stories from all over cassava it
to the stories from all over cassava it
to the stories from all over cassava it became a place where woman shared their
became a place where woman shared their
became a place where woman shared their stories and their concerns it was very
stories and their concerns it was very
stories and their concerns it was very very emotional deep learning experience
very emotional deep learning experience
very emotional deep learning experience for me and for all who helped and
for me and for all who helped and
for me and for all who helped and participated the art installation
participated the art installation
participated the art installation brought us together to remember the pain
brought us together to remember the pain
brought us together to remember the pain and to honor the survivors we had come
and to honor the survivors we had come
and to honor the survivors we had come together to assure them that they did
together to assure them that they did
together to assure them that they did nothing wrong to tell them that we are
nothing wrong to tell them that we are
nothing wrong to tell them that we are thinking of you and together we will
thinking of you and together we will
thinking of you and together we will break the silence and stigma for many of
break the silence and stigma for many of
break the silence and stigma for many of the survivors participating giving the
the survivors participating giving the
the survivors participating giving the skirts and hanging them themselves it
skirts and hanging them themselves it
skirts and hanging them themselves it was a calming act of letting go and
was a calming act of letting go and
was a calming act of letting go and moving forward one survivor I spoke on
moving forward one survivor I spoke on
moving forward one survivor I spoke on the day of the installation sent me a
the day of the installation sent me a
the day of the installation sent me a text and it read we cried tears of joy
text and it read we cried tears of joy
text and it read we cried tears of joy that someone understands our concern and
that someone understands our concern and
that someone understands our concern and that people have come in such a massive
that people have come in such a massive
that people have come in such a massive numbers to support us there were many
numbers to support us there were many
numbers to support us there were many texts and phone calls another woman who
texts and phone calls another woman who
texts and phone calls another woman who donated a red dress told me that she had
donated a red dress told me that she had
donated a red dress told me that she had saved this dress and she couldn’t let it
saved this dress and she couldn’t let it
saved this dress and she couldn’t let it go
go
go until this day and has encouraged it was
until this day and has encouraged it was
until this day and has encouraged it was an immense
an immense
an immense immense honor to help these woman in the
immense honor to help these woman in the
immense honor to help these woman in the act of letting go and moving on the
act of letting go and moving on the
act of letting go and moving on the woman I met during the journey of
woman I met during the journey of
woman I met during the journey of thinking of you were all strong woman
thinking of you were all strong woman
thinking of you were all strong woman survivors who had suffered a lot and who
survivors who had suffered a lot and who
survivors who had suffered a lot and who deserved the recognition and the support
deserved the recognition and the support
deserved the recognition and the support of the community institution and
of the community institution and
of the community institution and government I can only hope that the art
government I can only hope that the art
government I can only hope that the art instillation thinking of you has
instillation thinking of you has
instillation thinking of you has encouraged our society to begin to break
encouraged our society to begin to break
encouraged our society to begin to break the silence for all the silence
the silence for all the silence
the silence for all the silence surrounding this issue there were many
surrounding this issue there were many
surrounding this issue there were many women activists and who kept fighting
women activists and who kept fighting
women activists and who kept fighting even when no one wanted to listen and I
even when no one wanted to listen and I
even when no one wanted to listen and I think all the volunteers everyone who
think all the volunteers everyone who
think all the volunteers everyone who contributed because they were an
contributed because they were an
contributed because they were an inspirational and enormous help on this
inspirational and enormous help on this
inspirational and enormous help on this journey thinking of you is a story of
journey thinking of you is a story of
journey thinking of you is a story of survivors strength and solidarity as a
survivors strength and solidarity as a
survivors strength and solidarity as a mother telling a story is part of my
mother telling a story is part of my
mother telling a story is part of my daily life so I want to end up telling
daily life so I want to end up telling
daily life so I want to end up telling you a story about the starfish story I
you a story about the starfish story I
you a story about the starfish story I don’t know how many of you know the
don’t know how many of you know the
don’t know how many of you know the starfish story of making the difference
starfish story of making the difference
starfish story of making the difference an old man was walking on the beach one
an old man was walking on the beach one
an old man was walking on the beach one morning after a big storm and the storm
morning after a big storm and the storm
morning after a big storm and the storm had washed up thousands and thousands of
had washed up thousands and thousands of
had washed up thousands and thousands of starfish into the shore he sees a little
starfish into the shore he sees a little
starfish into the shore he sees a little girl in the distance and tossing
girl in the distance and tossing
girl in the distance and tossing starfish is back into the ocean and
starfish is back into the ocean and
starfish is back into the ocean and people watch amused the girls picks one
people watch amused the girls picks one
people watch amused the girls picks one up and tosses into the ocean and then
up and tosses into the ocean and then
up and tosses into the ocean and then another and then another the old man
another and then another the old man
another and then another the old man says little girl what are you doing you
says little girl what are you doing you
says little girl what are you doing you can’t save them all it’s impossible to
can’t save them all it’s impossible to
can’t save them all it’s impossible to make a difference
make a difference
make a difference there are thousands and thousands of
there are thousands and thousands of
there are thousands and thousands of star fishes in the shore so there is no
star fishes in the shore so there is no
star fishes in the shore so there is no way you can put them all back into the
way you can put them all back into the
way you can put them all back into the water returning another one back to the
water returning another one back to the
water returning another one back to the water she says with a smile it made a
water she says with a smile it made a
water she says with a smile it made a difference to that one and to this one
difference to that one and to this one
difference to that one and to this one and to the other one so then all the
and to the other one so then all the
and to the other one so then all the people came together they joined them
people came together they joined them
people came together they joined them and they starting
and they starting
and they starting in the starfishes into the ocean we can
in the starfishes into the ocean we can
in the starfishes into the ocean we can all make a difference and help create a
all make a difference and help create a
all make a difference and help create a positive change especially when we
positive change especially when we
positive change especially when we tackling and addressing massive social
tackling and addressing massive social
tackling and addressing massive social problems especially on this case of
problems especially on this case of
problems especially on this case of sexual violence
sexual violence
sexual violence I hope thinking of you give survived the
I hope thinking of you give survived the
I hope thinking of you give survived the strength and the support to move forward
strength and the support to move forward
strength and the support to move forward and to speak up and I hope it will
and to speak up and I hope it will
and to speak up and I hope it will encourage all of us to speak up because
encourage all of us to speak up because
encourage all of us to speak up because for together we really can make a real
for together we really can make a real
for together we really can make a real difference thank you
difference thank you
difference thank you [Applause]
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