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The Virtue of Loneliness | Talia Hoffman | TEDxRiverdaleCountrySchool


imagine being completely alone on an

imagine being completely alone on an island for 48 hours and all you have is

island for 48 hours and all you have is

island for 48 hours and all you have is an orange a bag of granola some water in

an orange a bag of granola some water in

an orange a bag of granola some water in a sleeping bag that’s it

a sleeping bag that’s it

a sleeping bag that’s it that means no phone no supervision and

that means no phone no supervision and

that means no phone no supervision and no shelter to many of you this probably

no shelter to many of you this probably

no shelter to many of you this probably sounds absolutely crazy and probably a

sounds absolutely crazy and probably a

sounds absolutely crazy and probably a little bit terrifying but it was one of

little bit terrifying but it was one of

little bit terrifying but it was one of the best experiences I’ve had and I

the best experiences I’ve had and I

the best experiences I’ve had and I wasn’t doing this because I lost the bet

wasn’t doing this because I lost the bet

wasn’t doing this because I lost the bet or I thought I could be a Navy SEAL for

or I thought I could be a Navy SEAL for

or I thought I could be a Navy SEAL for the day

the day

the day I was doing it as a requirement for my

I was doing it as a requirement for my

I was doing it as a requirement for my semester abroad in the Bahamas now why

semester abroad in the Bahamas now why

semester abroad in the Bahamas now why would any teacher make you spend two

would any teacher make you spend two

would any teacher make you spend two days completely alone on an island like

days completely alone on an island like

days completely alone on an island like many of you I love being with my friends

many of you I love being with my friends

many of you I love being with my friends and I think it’s super convenient to

and I think it’s super convenient to

and I think it’s super convenient to have my phone at all times to text my

have my phone at all times to text my

have my phone at all times to text my parents for advice or Google anything

parents for advice or Google anything

parents for advice or Google anything imaginable but I didn’t have this and so

imaginable but I didn’t have this and so

imaginable but I didn’t have this and so I was pretty surprised when my teachers

I was pretty surprised when my teachers

I was pretty surprised when my teachers told me it was gonna be an amazing two

told me it was gonna be an amazing two

told me it was gonna be an amazing two days but at the end I realized I had

days but at the end I realized I had

days but at the end I realized I had never been so productive before let me

never been so productive before let me

never been so productive before let me tell you a little bit about my

tell you a little bit about my

tell you a little bit about my experience first of all I had no prep

experience first of all I had no prep

experience first of all I had no prep whatsoever I didn’t know where I would

whatsoever I didn’t know where I would

whatsoever I didn’t know where I would be or what resources I would have so

be or what resources I would have so

be or what resources I would have so when I was dropped off I was completely

when I was dropped off I was completely

when I was dropped off I was completely on my own my first task was build a

on my own my first task was build a

on my own my first task was build a shelter the problem was I had never

shelter the problem was I had never

shelter the problem was I had never built a shelter before so I did what I

built a shelter before so I did what I

built a shelter before so I did what I could

could

could I found sticks I found buckets and I

I found sticks I found buckets and I

I found sticks I found buckets and I found sand and I built what I called a

found sand and I built what I called a

found sand and I built what I called a Cabana now it might not have looked like

Cabana now it might not have looked like

Cabana now it might not have looked like any Cabana any of you have ever stayed

any Cabana any of you have ever stayed

any Cabana any of you have ever stayed in but it was something to me because I

in but it was something to me because I

in but it was something to me because I had made it all by myself and then of

had made it all by myself and then of

had made it all by myself and then of course in the middle of the first night

course in the middle of the first night

course in the middle of the first night the wind picked up and the entire Cabana

the wind picked up and the entire Cabana

the wind picked up and the entire Cabana knocked down onto me so there I was

knocked down onto me so there I was

knocked down onto me so there I was middle of the first night completely

middle of the first night completely

middle of the first night completely alone and I had to brainstorm a new idea

alone and I had to brainstorm a new idea

alone and I had to brainstorm a new idea so let me stop here for a second I’m

so let me stop here for a second I’m

so let me stop here for a second I’m sure most of you are probably thinking

sure most of you are probably thinking

sure most of you are probably thinking this sounds like a terrific experience

this sounds like a terrific experience

this sounds like a terrific experience right I know when I tell my friends this

right I know when I tell my friends this

right I know when I tell my friends this story they say why would you ever do

story they say why would you ever do

story they say why would you ever do that and that’s because being alone

that and that’s because being alone

that and that’s because being alone whether on an island or in your everyday

whether on an island or in your everyday

whether on an island or in your everyday life can be an uncomfortable feeling and

life can be an uncomfortable feeling and

life can be an uncomfortable feeling and in the digital age it’s become easier

in the digital age it’s become easier

in the digital age it’s become easier than ever to avoid being alone how many

than ever to avoid being alone how many

than ever to avoid being alone how many of you will take out your phone while

of you will take out your phone while

of you will take out your phone while you’re sitting at a restaurant or

you’re sitting at a restaurant or

you’re sitting at a restaurant or standing

standing

standing I know I do in fact a psychology study

I know I do in fact a psychology study

I know I do in fact a psychology study showed that when people who were alone

showed that when people who were alone

showed that when people who were alone in a room with nothing but an electric

in a room with nothing but an electric

in a room with nothing but an electric shock machine they chose to self

shock machine they chose to self

shock machine they chose to self administer shock for a distraction I

administer shock for a distraction I

administer shock for a distraction I imagine people will intentionally hurt

imagine people will intentionally hurt

imagine people will intentionally hurt themselves just so they aren’t sitting

themselves just so they aren’t sitting

themselves just so they aren’t sitting there alone and just thinking it sounds

there alone and just thinking it sounds

there alone and just thinking it sounds pretty crazy to me but it’s because

pretty crazy to me but it’s because

pretty crazy to me but it’s because being alone can be such an undesirable

being alone can be such an undesirable

being alone can be such an undesirable feeling so back to the island

feeling so back to the island

feeling so back to the island middle of the night entire shelter has

middle of the night entire shelter has

middle of the night entire shelter has collapsed the cool thing is I made the

collapsed the cool thing is I made the

collapsed the cool thing is I made the shelter myself and so I can fix it

shelter myself and so I can fix it

shelter myself and so I can fix it myself

myself

myself when I built it there was nobody there

when I built it there was nobody there

when I built it there was nobody there watching me or making any comments about

watching me or making any comments about

watching me or making any comments about any potential flaws so when it fell down

any potential flaws so when it fell down

any potential flaws so when it fell down I had nothing to be embarrassed about

I had nothing to be embarrassed about

I had nothing to be embarrassed about there was nobody judging me so I got

there was nobody judging me so I got

there was nobody judging me so I got right back up and I built a new shelter

right back up and I built a new shelter

right back up and I built a new shelter now this was pretty eye-opening to me

now this was pretty eye-opening to me

now this was pretty eye-opening to me because I have to admit in groups I can

because I have to admit in groups I can

because I have to admit in groups I can be a little bit self-conscious but

be a little bit self-conscious but

be a little bit self-conscious but because I was alone I didn’t have to

because I was alone I didn’t have to

because I was alone I didn’t have to worry about what anyone else was

worry about what anyone else was

worry about what anyone else was thinking and even though I had no idea

thinking and even though I had no idea

thinking and even though I had no idea how to build a shelter for some reason I

how to build a shelter for some reason I

how to build a shelter for some reason I kind of did felt feel confident so I got

kind of did felt feel confident so I got

kind of did felt feel confident so I got back up and I made my new shelter

back up and I made my new shelter

back up and I made my new shelter psychologists have proven this over and

psychologists have proven this over and

psychologists have proven this over and over again that self-esteem is boosted

over again that self-esteem is boosted

over again that self-esteem is boosted when you’re pursuing something that

when you’re pursuing something that

when you’re pursuing something that you’re really interested in with passion

you’re really interested in with passion

you’re really interested in with passion and creativity and you’re a lot more

and creativity and you’re a lot more

and creativity and you’re a lot more likely to pursue something you’re

likely to pursue something you’re

likely to pursue something you’re interested in when you’re completely

interested in when you’re completely

interested in when you’re completely alone you’re not worried about what your

alone you’re not worried about what your

alone you’re not worried about what your friends or your family are thinking so

friends or your family are thinking so

friends or your family are thinking so if you guys still aren’t convinced you

if you guys still aren’t convinced you

if you guys still aren’t convinced you should spend more time alone let me give

should spend more time alone let me give

should spend more time alone let me give you some cold facts first of all there

you some cold facts first of all there

you some cold facts first of all there have been numerous studies done showing

have been numerous studies done showing

have been numerous studies done showing being alone enhances your productivity

being alone enhances your productivity

being alone enhances your productivity but there are also so many successful

but there are also so many successful

but there are also so many successful people that have pointed to being alone

people that have pointed to being alone

people that have pointed to being alone as why they’re so successful for example

as why they’re so successful for example

as why they’re so successful for example Steve Wozniak co-founder of Apple has

Steve Wozniak co-founder of Apple has

Steve Wozniak co-founder of Apple has said that all artists do their best work

said that all artists do their best work

said that all artists do their best work in isolation Bob Dylan is one is one of

in isolation Bob Dylan is one is one of

in isolation Bob Dylan is one is one of the best examples of this he wrote one

the best examples of this he wrote one

the best examples of this he wrote one of his most famous songs completely

of his most famous songs completely

of his most famous songs completely isolated in the cabin so the next time

isolated in the cabin so the next time

isolated in the cabin so the next time you’re alone instead of scrambling to do

you’re alone instead of scrambling to do

you’re alone instead of scrambling to do something take some time to be alone

something take some time to be alone

something take some time to be alone because you might find you’re the most

because you might find you’re the most

because you might find you’re the most productive and create

productive and create

productive and create version of yourself

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