I want to shine so bright and yet be so far these were the words of the 14 year
far these were the words of the 14 year
far these were the words of the 14 year old me lying down at my friend’s place
old me lying down at my friend’s place
old me lying down at my friend’s place after a really long day not caring about
after a really long day not caring about
after a really long day not caring about what I’m saying I think I was 9 when I
what I’m saying I think I was 9 when I
what I’m saying I think I was 9 when I noticed the beauty of it my family and
noticed the beauty of it my family and
noticed the beauty of it my family and my dad’s friends family we’re spending
my dad’s friends family we’re spending
my dad’s friends family we’re spending our session break and Leila doc I think
our session break and Leila doc I think
our session break and Leila doc I think it was the second or the third night
it was the second or the third night
it was the second or the third night when we were walking back from dinner
when we were walking back from dinner
when we were walking back from dinner and my dad told me to look up so I did
and my dad told me to look up so I did
and my dad told me to look up so I did and what I saw has been the most
and what I saw has been the most
and what I saw has been the most beautiful sight I have ever seen I could
beautiful sight I have ever seen I could
beautiful sight I have ever seen I could see our galaxy the Milky Way by a show
see our galaxy the Milky Way by a show
see our galaxy the Milky Way by a show of hands can you tell me how many of you
of hands can you tell me how many of you
of hands can you tell me how many of you have seen a starry night sky and no I’m
have seen a starry night sky and no I’m
have seen a starry night sky and no I’m not talking about the painting a sky so
not talking about the painting a sky so
not talking about the painting a sky so full of stars you don’t need the
full of stars you don’t need the
full of stars you don’t need the moonlight I know stars are huge masses
moonlight I know stars are huge masses
moonlight I know stars are huge masses of gas but do they even slightly
of gas but do they even slightly
of gas but do they even slightly resemble that no they don’t and I know
resemble that no they don’t and I know
resemble that no they don’t and I know that’s because of the millions of light
that’s because of the millions of light
that’s because of the millions of light is of distance but let’s forget that for
is of distance but let’s forget that for
is of distance but let’s forget that for the next few minutes from the age of 9
the next few minutes from the age of 9
the next few minutes from the age of 9 to 14 I didn’t care much about stars I
to 14 I didn’t care much about stars I
to 14 I didn’t care much about stars I often found myself looking at them and
often found myself looking at them and
often found myself looking at them and found them beautiful for that night at
found them beautiful for that night at
found them beautiful for that night at that sleepover I realized that we humans
that sleepover I realized that we humans
that sleepover I realized that we humans we were all like stars when a person
we were all like stars when a person
we were all like stars when a person looks up in the sky but they see a tiny
looks up in the sky but they see a tiny
looks up in the sky but they see a tiny lights illuminating it when a person
lights illuminating it when a person
lights illuminating it when a person looks at a crowd but he is able to see
looks at a crowd but he is able to see
looks at a crowd but he is able to see our tiny bobbing hurts
our tiny bobbing hurts
our tiny bobbing hurts over the next few minutes I’ll try to
over the next few minutes I’ll try to
over the next few minutes I’ll try to make you see some similarities between
make you see some similarities between
make you see some similarities between people and stars that I see how are
people and stars that I see how are
people and stars that I see how are stars born stars are born in molecular
stars born stars are born in molecular
stars born stars are born in molecular clouds but the density and size of
clouds but the density and size of
clouds but the density and size of particles is so high they keep
particles is so high they keep
particles is so high they keep collapsing into each other giving birth
collapsing into each other giving birth
collapsing into each other giving birth to hydrogen atoms those atoms in turn
to hydrogen atoms those atoms in turn
to hydrogen atoms those atoms in turn combine and give birth to these gigantic
combine and give birth to these gigantic
combine and give birth to these gigantic masses isn’t that how we humans are born
masses isn’t that how we humans are born
masses isn’t that how we humans are born why does a star shine a star shines when
why does a star shine a star shines when
why does a star shine a star shines when atoms of helium and hydrogen
atoms of helium and hydrogen
atoms of helium and hydrogen combined together fuse together to
combined together fuse together to
combined together fuse together to fulfill what is needed this keeps on
fulfill what is needed this keeps on
fulfill what is needed this keeps on going inside their core and nobody has
going inside their core and nobody has
going inside their core and nobody has any idea
any idea
any idea does that not resemble us all our
does that not resemble us all our
does that not resemble us all our feelings our emotions getting bottled
feelings our emotions getting bottled
feelings our emotions getting bottled and mixed they create this mess inside
and mixed they create this mess inside
and mixed they create this mess inside us the pain the hot happiness the joy
us the pain the hot happiness the joy
us the pain the hot happiness the joy all of it inside us making us shine a
all of it inside us making us shine a
all of it inside us making us shine a star is the friend once told me at the
star is the friend once told me at the
star is the friend once told me at the perfect depiction of lost love and inner
perfect depiction of lost love and inner
perfect depiction of lost love and inner pain how does the star die inner pain
pain how does the star die inner pain
pain how does the star die inner pain star star dying on the inside you see
star star dying on the inside you see
star star dying on the inside you see stars which are medium or small in size
stars which are medium or small in size
stars which are medium or small in size start shedding their outer nerve similar
start shedding their outer nerve similar
start shedding their outer nerve similar to a snake
to a snake
to a snake they keep shedding back there turned red
they keep shedding back there turned red
they keep shedding back there turned red and finally a white dwarf star is born
and finally a white dwarf star is born
and finally a white dwarf star is born but the stars which are massive explode
but the stars which are massive explode
but the stars which are massive explode into a supernova shifting the universe
into a supernova shifting the universe
into a supernova shifting the universe with brand new stars and sometimes a
with brand new stars and sometimes a
with brand new stars and sometimes a black hole in both these methods
black hole in both these methods
black hole in both these methods something dies and out of that something
something dies and out of that something
something dies and out of that something new something beautiful is born we don’t
new something beautiful is born we don’t
new something beautiful is born we don’t know what a black hole is we have no
know what a black hole is we have no
know what a black hole is we have no idea what’s inside us all we know is
idea what’s inside us all we know is
idea what’s inside us all we know is that they’re born when any celestial
that they’re born when any celestial
that they’re born when any celestial object is not able to withstand its own
object is not able to withstand its own
object is not able to withstand its own gravity and it compresses into itself
gravity and it compresses into itself
gravity and it compresses into itself the only celestial object capable of
the only celestial object capable of
the only celestial object capable of having that amount of gravity is a star
having that amount of gravity is a star
having that amount of gravity is a star but that drastic change
but that drastic change
but that drastic change they keep shining so bright when we stop
they keep shining so bright when we stop
they keep shining so bright when we stop noticing them and the next thing we know
noticing them and the next thing we know
noticing them and the next thing we know they’re gone
they’re gone
they’re gone they’ve turned into masses of darkness
they’ve turned into masses of darkness
they’ve turned into masses of darkness we humans we’re not becoming like black
we humans we’re not becoming like black
we humans we’re not becoming like black holes we keep our emotions or feelings
holes we keep our emotions or feelings
holes we keep our emotions or feelings bottled with in us
these black holes they’re causing us to
these black holes they’re causing us to try to fit in we keep changing ourselves
try to fit in we keep changing ourselves
try to fit in we keep changing ourselves to fulfill what is needed or sometimes
to fulfill what is needed or sometimes
to fulfill what is needed or sometimes just wanted by the people around us but
just wanted by the people around us but
just wanted by the people around us but what we don’t realize is that in that
what we don’t realize is that in that
what we don’t realize is that in that process we are losing ourselves we are
process we are losing ourselves we are
process we are losing ourselves we are losing what makes us us while
losing what makes us us while
losing what makes us us while researching for this talk I came across
researching for this talk I came across
researching for this talk I came across this poem depression is such a cruel
this poem depression is such a cruel
this poem depression is such a cruel punishment there are no x-ray scans no
punishment there are no x-ray scans no
punishment there are no x-ray scans no blood tests no fevers no dashes carrying
blood tests no fevers no dashes carrying
blood tests no fevers no dashes carrying people into concern no form of any pain
people into concern no form of any pain
people into concern no form of any pain it’s just a process of destruction from
it’s just a process of destruction from
it’s just a process of destruction from the inside as insidious as any cancer
the inside as insidious as any cancer
the inside as insidious as any cancer and like cancer it is a solitary
and like cancer it is a solitary
and like cancer it is a solitary experience a room in hell with just your
experience a room in hell with just your
experience a room in hell with just your name written on it why is it that we are
name written on it why is it that we are
name written on it why is it that we are so afraid to talk about problems like
so afraid to talk about problems like
so afraid to talk about problems like depression or self-harm or just sadness
depression or self-harm or just sadness
depression or self-harm or just sadness it’s not like they don’t exist we feel
it’s not like they don’t exist we feel
it’s not like they don’t exist we feel that if we give that person time if we
that if we give that person time if we
that if we give that person time if we let things be it will be okay but this
let things be it will be okay but this
let things be it will be okay but this solution is never letting things being
solution is never letting things being
solution is never letting things being the tragedy is that something always
the tragedy is that something always
the tragedy is that something always changes why then are we so afraid to
changes why then are we so afraid to
changes why then are we so afraid to reach out because we feel that there are
reach out because we feel that there are
reach out because we feel that there are these certain traits certain title
these certain traits certain title
these certain traits certain title sticks there if a person possesses
sticks there if a person possesses
sticks there if a person possesses they’re good and these certain traits
they’re good and these certain traits
they’re good and these certain traits and if they don’t possess those they’re
and if they don’t possess those they’re
and if they don’t possess those they’re bad we need to open our minds we need to
bad we need to open our minds we need to
bad we need to open our minds we need to stop with these predefined notions about
stop with these predefined notions about
stop with these predefined notions about everything about how girls should behave
everything about how girls should behave
everything about how girls should behave or about how guys should about how
or about how guys should about how
or about how guys should about how science is not better than humanities
science is not better than humanities
science is not better than humanities they’re both equal about how sad does
they’re both equal about how sad does
they’re both equal about how sad does not mean depressed about how mocks are
not mean depressed about how mocks are
not mean depressed about how mocks are not the end of the world about how weeds
not the end of the world about how weeds
not the end of the world about how weeds a young
a young
a young can have problems and can have stress
can have problems and can have stress
can have problems and can have stress and can need help we don’t realize but
and can need help we don’t realize but
and can need help we don’t realize but these predefined notions are making us
these predefined notions are making us
these predefined notions are making us form labels in a mind how many of you
form labels in a mind how many of you
form labels in a mind how many of you have seen someone doing something or
have seen someone doing something or
have seen someone doing something or noticed a certain characteristic about
noticed a certain characteristic about
noticed a certain characteristic about them and given them a label in your mind
then how many of you went on to tell
then how many of you went on to tell your friend about that label and a
your friend about that label and a
your friend about that label and a that’s the same thing they told their
that’s the same thing they told their
that’s the same thing they told their friend which time we don’t even realize
friend which time we don’t even realize
friend which time we don’t even realize but it is that and only that label which
but it is that and only that label which
but it is that and only that label which defines the person do we see what an
defines the person do we see what an
defines the person do we see what an impact our opinion our ideas have people
impact our opinion our ideas have people
impact our opinion our ideas have people years ago I think six years ago I read
years ago I think six years ago I read
years ago I think six years ago I read this quote and Facebook and I don’t
this quote and Facebook and I don’t
this quote and Facebook and I don’t think I’ve connected with anything more
think I’ve connected with anything more
think I’ve connected with anything more people call me observant but that’s not
people call me observant but that’s not
people call me observant but that’s not true
true
true I’m not more observant than any other
I’m not more observant than any other
I’m not more observant than any other person we humans we bleed emotion even
person we humans we bleed emotion even
person we humans we bleed emotion even in the way we drink our coffee nobody
in the way we drink our coffee nobody
in the way we drink our coffee nobody seems to notice though they’re all too
seems to notice though they’re all too
seems to notice though they’re all too busy drinking their own damn coffee I
busy drinking their own damn coffee I
busy drinking their own damn coffee I have a friend who goes to coffee stores
have a friend who goes to coffee stores
have a friend who goes to coffee stores just to sit and observe people you see
just to sit and observe people you see
just to sit and observe people you see they’re so easy to read the way they
they’re so easy to read the way they
they’re so easy to read the way they talk the way they would walk the way
talk the way they would walk the way
talk the way they would walk the way they blink when a person is not okay
they blink when a person is not okay
they blink when a person is not okay that whole aura changes their eyes
that whole aura changes their eyes
that whole aura changes their eyes they’re not able to focus on one thing
they’re not able to focus on one thing
they’re not able to focus on one thing when they walk they don’t seem to have a
when they walk they don’t seem to have a
when they walk they don’t seem to have a destination these little hints would be
destination these little hints would be
destination these little hints would be noticed if we only care enough to look
noticed if we only care enough to look
noticed if we only care enough to look god Sagan said the nitrogen in our DNA
god Sagan said the nitrogen in our DNA
god Sagan said the nitrogen in our DNA the iron in our blood the calcium in our
the iron in our blood the calcium in our
the iron in our blood the calcium in our teeth and the carbon in our apple pies
teeth and the carbon in our apple pies
teeth and the carbon in our apple pies were made in the interiors of a
were made in the interiors of a
were made in the interiors of a collapsing star we are all made of star
collapsing star we are all made of star
collapsing star we are all made of star stuff the nine-year-old me found those
stuff the nine-year-old me found those
stuff the nine-year-old me found those stars beautiful the 14 year old me fell
stars beautiful the 14 year old me fell
stars beautiful the 14 year old me fell in love with them the almost 17 year old
in love with them the almost 17 year old
in love with them the almost 17 year old me stands before you and I’m telling you
me stands before you and I’m telling you
me stands before you and I’m telling you it’s a tragedy that I wasted so long
it’s a tragedy that I wasted so long
it’s a tragedy that I wasted so long it’s a tragedy that I had to
it’s a tragedy that I had to
it’s a tragedy that I had to with stars to notice that we humans
with stars to notice that we humans
with stars to notice that we humans we’re all so beautiful I wish that you
we’re all so beautiful I wish that you
we’re all so beautiful I wish that you take this dog is the lesson a lesson
take this dog is the lesson a lesson
take this dog is the lesson a lesson that looking at the mask isn’t enough a
that looking at the mask isn’t enough a
that looking at the mask isn’t enough a lesson that there’s always something
lesson that there’s always something
lesson that there’s always something more that can be done if there’s a
more that can be done if there’s a
more that can be done if there’s a takeaway I hope it is that you start
takeaway I hope it is that you start
takeaway I hope it is that you start observing people start noticing the way
observing people start noticing the way
observing people start noticing the way they walk the way they talk
they walk the way they talk
they walk the way they talk people are easiest to read when they’re
people are easiest to read when they’re
people are easiest to read when they’re hurting but if one only cares enough to
hurting but if one only cares enough to
hurting but if one only cares enough to look I wish all of you stopped before
look I wish all of you stopped before
look I wish all of you stopped before taking your sip of coffee thank you
taking your sip of coffee thank you
taking your sip of coffee thank you [Applause]
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