my name is Brendan Brosnan and I played football Penn State for three years
football Penn State for three years
football Penn State for three years before a chronic hip injury ended my
before a chronic hip injury ended my
before a chronic hip injury ended my career yes this was me just a few months
career yes this was me just a few months
career yes this was me just a few months and 75 pounds ago kind of crazy for
and 75 pounds ago kind of crazy for
and 75 pounds ago kind of crazy for weeks leading up to my decision to stop
weeks leading up to my decision to stop
weeks leading up to my decision to stop playing I was in a pretty bad state
playing I was in a pretty bad state
playing I was in a pretty bad state physically I sacrificed my body blood
physically I sacrificed my body blood
physically I sacrificed my body blood sweat and tears to football it really
sweat and tears to football it really
sweat and tears to football it really hit me hard when it got to the point
hit me hard when it got to the point
hit me hard when it got to the point where my body was no longer capable of
where my body was no longer capable of
where my body was no longer capable of doing the things I’d wants to ask it to
doing the things I’d wants to ask it to
doing the things I’d wants to ask it to do mentally I sacrificed an enormous
do mentally I sacrificed an enormous
do mentally I sacrificed an enormous amount of time and energy to be
amount of time and energy to be
amount of time and energy to be successful on the field emotionally I
successful on the field emotionally I
successful on the field emotionally I felt the pressure of my hometown pushing
felt the pressure of my hometown pushing
felt the pressure of my hometown pushing down on me and the wide eyes of my four
down on me and the wide eyes of my four
down on me and the wide eyes of my four brothers looking up at me what started
brothers looking up at me what started
brothers looking up at me what started as an Advil or two here there quickly
as an Advil or two here there quickly
as an Advil or two here there quickly turned into 16 advil days my walks to
turned into 16 advil days my walks to
turned into 16 advil days my walks to class became difficult and sleeping on
class became difficult and sleeping on
class became difficult and sleeping on my right side was honestly out of the
my right side was honestly out of the
my right side was honestly out of the question on many days hours of rehab in
question on many days hours of rehab in
question on many days hours of rehab in the morning would only earn me the
the morning would only earn me the
the morning would only earn me the opportunity to watch my teammates
opportunity to watch my teammates
opportunity to watch my teammates practice for hours in the afternoon I
practice for hours in the afternoon I
practice for hours in the afternoon I felt useless in an environment where you
felt useless in an environment where you
felt useless in an environment where you feel bad for missing just one practice
feel bad for missing just one practice
feel bad for missing just one practice or one workout which I had missed many
or one workout which I had missed many
or one workout which I had missed many of it was easy for me to mistake my
of it was easy for me to mistake my
of it was easy for me to mistake my self-worth and football success as one
self-worth and football success as one
self-worth and football success as one in the same during this period of time I
in the same during this period of time I
in the same during this period of time I let the negativity I was feeling for my
let the negativity I was feeling for my
let the negativity I was feeling for my football injury seep into other areas of
football injury seep into other areas of
football injury seep into other areas of my life I lost interest in things I once
my life I lost interest in things I once
my life I lost interest in things I once had a passion for doing my grades and
had a passion for doing my grades and
had a passion for doing my grades and relationship suffered as well I
relationship suffered as well I
relationship suffered as well I eventually reached out for help I
eventually reached out for help I
eventually reached out for help I remember one night talking with my dad
remember one night talking with my dad
remember one night talking with my dad on the phone when teary-eyed I said dad
on the phone when teary-eyed I said dad
on the phone when teary-eyed I said dad I want this so bad I put my heart and
I want this so bad I put my heart and
I want this so bad I put my heart and soul into being a good football player
soul into being a good football player
soul into being a good football player why isn’t it paying off
why isn’t it paying off
why isn’t it paying off dead what’s wrong with me but
dead what’s wrong with me but
dead what’s wrong with me but in one moment this feeling all changed I
in one moment this feeling all changed I
in one moment this feeling all changed I was I was returning back to Penn State
was I was returning back to Penn State
was I was returning back to Penn State after my summer internship to begin my
after my summer internship to begin my
after my summer internship to begin my new role as an undergraduate assistant
new role as an undergraduate assistant
new role as an undergraduate assistant coach on the football team it happened I
coach on the football team it happened I
coach on the football team it happened I was standing in the back of the meeting
was standing in the back of the meeting
was standing in the back of the meeting room keeping to myself when one of the
room keeping to myself when one of the
room keeping to myself when one of the players look back and yelled Brosnan
players look back and yelled Brosnan
players look back and yelled Brosnan then to my surprise the entire team
then to my surprise the entire team
then to my surprise the entire team stood and started clapping and the room
stood and started clapping and the room
stood and started clapping and the room lit up with energy I could not be a
lit up with energy I could not be a
lit up with energy I could not be a belief people were that excited to see
belief people were that excited to see
belief people were that excited to see me I made my way around the room hugging
me I made my way around the room hugging
me I made my way around the room hugging my guys with a huge smile on my face
my guys with a huge smile on my face
my guys with a huge smile on my face over the next few weeks I had some real
over the next few weeks I had some real
over the next few weeks I had some real eye-opening conversations with different
eye-opening conversations with different
eye-opening conversations with different guys on the team the kind of
guys on the team the kind of
guys on the team the kind of conversation that’s rare to hear in a
conversation that’s rare to hear in a
conversation that’s rare to hear in a football building where all you really
football building where all you really
football building where all you really hear is insults and inside jokes the
hear is insults and inside jokes the
hear is insults and inside jokes the gist of many of these conversations were
gist of many of these conversations were
gist of many of these conversations were that guys were expressing appreciation
that guys were expressing appreciation
that guys were expressing appreciation for how I conducted myself during my
for how I conducted myself during my
for how I conducted myself during my career at Penn State they were showing
career at Penn State they were showing
career at Penn State they were showing respect for the positive attitude I
respect for the positive attitude I
respect for the positive attitude I maintained even during the hardest
maintained even during the hardest
maintained even during the hardest workouts and longest practices they
workouts and longest practices they
workouts and longest practices they shared stories with me of how I
shared stories with me of how I
shared stories with me of how I positively impacted them and without
positively impacted them and without
positively impacted them and without them knowing they were making a huge
them knowing they were making a huge
them knowing they were making a huge impact on me in the months that followed
impact on me in the months that followed
impact on me in the months that followed this moment I improved in the classroom
this moment I improved in the classroom
this moment I improved in the classroom met some amazing people and even found a
met some amazing people and even found a
met some amazing people and even found a little extra energy to start a clothing
little extra energy to start a clothing
little extra energy to start a clothing business on the side but most
business on the side but most
business on the side but most importantly I was consistently in a
importantly I was consistently in a
importantly I was consistently in a happy state it’s crazy now to think that
happy state it’s crazy now to think that
happy state it’s crazy now to think that some of the best things in my life came
some of the best things in my life came
some of the best things in my life came after just one perspective shifting
after just one perspective shifting
after just one perspective shifting moment I never made it as a starter on
moment I never made it as a starter on
moment I never made it as a starter on my team I never made it to my dream job
my team I never made it to my dream job
my team I never made it to my dream job in the NFL but something about that
in the NFL but something about that
in the NFL but something about that moment told me that maybe that just
moment told me that maybe that just
moment told me that maybe that just maybe I made it as a person after months
maybe I made it as a person after months
maybe I made it as a person after months of searching for what it was that
of searching for what it was that
of searching for what it was that actually earned me that moment I had a
actually earned me that moment I had a
actually earned me that moment I had a revelation as it turns out it was one
revelation as it turns out it was one
revelation as it turns out it was one simple thing I’ve been doing that I
simple thing I’ve been doing that I
simple thing I’ve been doing that I actually learned from other people who
actually learned from other people who
actually learned from other people who had impacted my life this revelation can
had impacted my life this revelation can
had impacted my life this revelation can make you a better person it’s a secret
make you a better person it’s a secret
make you a better person it’s a secret that in hindsight I had been using
that in hindsight I had been using
that in hindsight I had been using during the majority of my college career
during the majority of my college career
during the majority of my college career a secret that gave me the opportunity to
a secret that gave me the opportunity to
a secret that gave me the opportunity to earn the respect of my team even before
earn the respect of my team even before
earn the respect of my team even before I realized just how important it was
I realized just how important it was
I realized just how important it was here’s the secret
here’s the secret
here’s the secret don’t spend energy on things you
don’t spend energy on things you
don’t spend energy on things you cannot control and spend a lot of energy
cannot control and spend a lot of energy
cannot control and spend a lot of energy on the things you can control and I know
on the things you can control and I know
on the things you can control and I know how simple it sounds but I believe it’s
how simple it sounds but I believe it’s
how simple it sounds but I believe it’s so simple that it’s often overlooked and
so simple that it’s often overlooked and
so simple that it’s often overlooked and today I want to show you that through
today I want to show you that through
today I want to show you that through practice you can learn to not care about
practice you can learn to not care about
practice you can learn to not care about things you shouldn’t care about like
things you shouldn’t care about like
things you shouldn’t care about like things you can’t control
things you can’t control
things you can’t control and you can learn to only spend your
and you can learn to only spend your
and you can learn to only spend your energy on the things you truly care
energy on the things you truly care
energy on the things you truly care about and have the ability to control so
about and have the ability to control so
about and have the ability to control so what are the things you shouldn’t care
what are the things you shouldn’t care
what are the things you shouldn’t care about and what are the things you should
about and what are the things you should
about and what are the things you should care about and how will this help you
care about and how will this help you
care about and how will this help you become a respected person in your own
become a respected person in your own
become a respected person in your own life first you should not care about the
life first you should not care about the
life first you should not care about the things that you don’t have an ability to
things that you don’t have an ability to
things that you don’t have an ability to control for example you don’t have the
control for example you don’t have the
control for example you don’t have the ability to control bad weather negative
ability to control bad weather negative
ability to control bad weather negative people lost time or Donald Trump’s
people lost time or Donald Trump’s
people lost time or Donald Trump’s tweets yet why do we see so many people
tweets yet why do we see so many people
tweets yet why do we see so many people complain about the rain on the way to
complain about the rain on the way to
complain about the rain on the way to work get caught up in the negativity of
work get caught up in the negativity of
work get caught up in the negativity of another person regret things not done in
another person regret things not done in
another person regret things not done in the past or become angry at some tweet
the past or become angry at some tweet
the past or become angry at some tweet we do not have the ability to control a
we do not have the ability to control a
we do not have the ability to control a single one of these things yet we all
single one of these things yet we all
single one of these things yet we all know people in our lives
know people in our lives
know people in our lives that spend an enormous amount of energy
that spend an enormous amount of energy
that spend an enormous amount of energy on them instead what if we practiced
on them instead what if we practiced
on them instead what if we practiced carrying good weather with us everywhere
carrying good weather with us everywhere
carrying good weather with us everywhere we went what if he didn’t let other
we went what if he didn’t let other
we went what if he didn’t let other people’s negative thoughts and actions
people’s negative thoughts and actions
people’s negative thoughts and actions influence our lives what if we vowed to
influence our lives what if we vowed to
influence our lives what if we vowed to live our lives in the present so he
live our lives in the present so he
live our lives in the present so he wouldn’t have to spend time lamenting on
wouldn’t have to spend time lamenting on
wouldn’t have to spend time lamenting on the past over things that could have
the past over things that could have
the past over things that could have been no matter how bad the weather how
been no matter how bad the weather how
been no matter how bad the weather how hard negativity knocks to get in how
hard negativity knocks to get in how
hard negativity knocks to get in how many times missed opportunities in the
many times missed opportunities in the
many times missed opportunities in the past resurfaced and an attempt to bring
past resurfaced and an attempt to bring
past resurfaced and an attempt to bring you down you have the ultimate control
you down you have the ultimate control
you down you have the ultimate control to decide how you will respond a man
to decide how you will respond a man
to decide how you will respond a man named Victor Frankl taught me the amount
named Victor Frankl taught me the amount
named Victor Frankl taught me the amount of power we have in choosing our
of power we have in choosing our
of power we have in choosing our response to any set of circumstances
response to any set of circumstances
response to any set of circumstances while you can’t control what happens to
while you can’t control what happens to
while you can’t control what happens to you you can control how you respond to
you you can control how you respond to
you you can control how you respond to what happens
what happens
what happens Victor endured literal hell on earth as
Victor endured literal hell on earth as
Victor endured literal hell on earth as a Jew inside multiple World War two
a Jew inside multiple World War two
a Jew inside multiple World War two concentration camps where he was starved
concentration camps where he was starved
concentration camps where he was starved beaten and tortured they could break
beaten and tortured they could break
beaten and tortured they could break Victor’s spirit but what they quickly
Victor’s spirit but what they quickly
Victor’s spirit but what they quickly learned
learned
learned is that they could not break Victor’s
is that they could not break Victor’s
is that they could not break Victor’s body the reason that they could not
body the reason that they could not
body the reason that they could not break Victor is because he recognized
break Victor is because he recognized
break Victor is because he recognized the importance and only empowering the
the importance and only empowering the
the importance and only empowering the thoughts that he could control looking
thoughts that he could control looking
thoughts that he could control looking back on the experience he says
back on the experience he says
back on the experience he says everything can be taken from a man but
everything can be taken from a man but
everything can be taken from a man but the last of the human freedoms to choose
the last of the human freedoms to choose
the last of the human freedoms to choose ones attitude in any set of
ones attitude in any set of
ones attitude in any set of circumstances to choose one’s own way if
circumstances to choose one’s own way if
circumstances to choose one’s own way if this is what a man living through years
this is what a man living through years
this is what a man living through years of unfathomable conditions took away as
of unfathomable conditions took away as
of unfathomable conditions took away as the most profound learning moment during
the most profound learning moment during
the most profound learning moment during that time that it has to be important if
that time that it has to be important if
that time that it has to be important if someone living through circumstances as
someone living through circumstances as
someone living through circumstances as dark is anybody living on the planet
dark is anybody living on the planet
dark is anybody living on the planet could choose to respond to any situation
could choose to respond to any situation
could choose to respond to any situation in a positive way you can do the same in
in a positive way you can do the same in
in a positive way you can do the same in your life begin to live with this in
your life begin to live with this in
your life begin to live with this in mind ask yourself can I control this
mind ask yourself can I control this
mind ask yourself can I control this stimulus or situation if you answer yes
stimulus or situation if you answer yes
stimulus or situation if you answer yes and you can control it then allow
and you can control it then allow
and you can control it then allow yourself to spend mental energy on it
yourself to spend mental energy on it
yourself to spend mental energy on it but if you find that after asking is
but if you find that after asking is
but if you find that after asking is this stimulus or situation something I
this stimulus or situation something I
this stimulus or situation something I can control and you answer no then do
can control and you answer no then do
can control and you answer no then do not allow yourself to spend mental
not allow yourself to spend mental
not allow yourself to spend mental energy on it
energy on it
energy on it it’s that simple the most successful
it’s that simple the most successful
it’s that simple the most successful athletes coaches and entrepreneurs that
athletes coaches and entrepreneurs that
athletes coaches and entrepreneurs that I’ve been around are the ones that truly
I’ve been around are the ones that truly
I’ve been around are the ones that truly believe in the power of the secret as
believe in the power of the secret as
believe in the power of the secret as well they are rarely the most talented
well they are rarely the most talented
well they are rarely the most talented or intelligent people on the team but
or intelligent people on the team but
or intelligent people on the team but they do a tremendous job controlling the
they do a tremendous job controlling the
they do a tremendous job controlling the controllables you might not be the
controllables you might not be the
controllables you might not be the fastest but you can decide to be the
fastest but you can decide to be the
fastest but you can decide to be the hardest worker because that’s in your
hardest worker because that’s in your
hardest worker because that’s in your control you might not be as naturally
control you might not be as naturally
control you might not be as naturally strong as the person you’re playing
strong as the person you’re playing
strong as the person you’re playing against but you can make sacrifices to
against but you can make sacrifices to
against but you can make sacrifices to stretch longer eat better and sleep more
stretch longer eat better and sleep more
stretch longer eat better and sleep more to become better because you have the
to become better because you have the
to become better because you have the power to make those decisions you might
power to make those decisions you might
power to make those decisions you might not be the most intelligent person on
not be the most intelligent person on
not be the most intelligent person on the team but you can take steps to
the team but you can take steps to
the team but you can take steps to become smarter
become smarter
become smarter you can listen rather than speak so you
you can listen rather than speak so you
you can listen rather than speak so you can add to your own knowledge don’t
can add to your own knowledge don’t
can add to your own knowledge don’t spend your mental energy worrying about
spend your mental energy worrying about
spend your mental energy worrying about your job security when your company is
your job security when your company is
your job security when your company is going through a merger learn how to
going through a merger learn how to
going through a merger learn how to effectively adapt to the new company so
effectively adapt to the new company so
effectively adapt to the new company so you can become a valuable contributor it
you can become a valuable contributor it
you can become a valuable contributor it is so easy to discount somebody success
is so easy to discount somebody success
is so easy to discount somebody success and say oh they just got lucky
and say oh they just got lucky
and say oh they just got lucky that’s rarely the case you show me a
that’s rarely the case you show me a
that’s rarely the case you show me a successful well-respected person and
successful well-respected person and
successful well-respected person and I’ll show you someone that has to a
I’ll show you someone that has to a
I’ll show you someone that has to a large degree been successful because
large degree been successful because
large degree been successful because they spend their energy on the
they spend their energy on the
they spend their energy on the controllables one method that has really
controllables one method that has really
controllables one method that has really helped me implement this secret into my
helped me implement this secret into my
helped me implement this secret into my life was developing a strong
life was developing a strong
life was developing a strong relationship with the voice inside of my
relationship with the voice inside of my
relationship with the voice inside of my head let me explain I want you all to
head let me explain I want you all to
head let me explain I want you all to take a second to lock onto the voice in
take a second to lock onto the voice in
take a second to lock onto the voice in your head can you hear that inside your
your head can you hear that inside your
your head can you hear that inside your head what is it saying is it speaking
head what is it saying is it speaking
head what is it saying is it speaking positively or negatively this voice is a
positively or negatively this voice is a
positively or negatively this voice is a gift that makes us all uniquely human
gift that makes us all uniquely human
gift that makes us all uniquely human and it’s one of the key things that sets
and it’s one of the key things that sets
and it’s one of the key things that sets us apart from animals in fact scientific
us apart from animals in fact scientific
us apart from animals in fact scientific research tells us that humans by far
research tells us that humans by far
research tells us that humans by far have the deepest capability for
have the deepest capability for
have the deepest capability for self-reflection the voice that you’ve
self-reflection the voice that you’ve
self-reflection the voice that you’ve just located is the voice that wakes you
just located is the voice that wakes you
just located is the voice that wakes you up first thing in the morning is either
up first thing in the morning is either
up first thing in the morning is either excited for a new opportunity that the
excited for a new opportunity that the
excited for a new opportunity that the day will bring or so the voice has just
day will bring or so the voice has just
day will bring or so the voice has just bored and trying to make it to the
bored and trying to make it to the
bored and trying to make it to the weekend
weekend
weekend it’s the voice that has the ability to
it’s the voice that has the ability to
it’s the voice that has the ability to command your body and brain and to take
command your body and brain and to take
command your body and brain and to take you to new levels and to do it as
you to new levels and to do it as
you to new levels and to do it as necessary in order for you to achieve
necessary in order for you to achieve
necessary in order for you to achieve your goals when you respect this voice
your goals when you respect this voice
your goals when you respect this voice your voice respects you back and when
your voice respects you back and when
your voice respects you back and when you think about it why would you not
you think about it why would you not
you think about it why would you not want to develop a good relationship with
want to develop a good relationship with
want to develop a good relationship with this voice you will spend more time with
this voice you will spend more time with
this voice you will spend more time with this voice than any other person by a
this voice than any other person by a
this voice than any other person by a long shot
long shot
long shot according to the National Science
according to the National Science
according to the National Science Foundation our voice produces as many as
Foundation our voice produces as many as
Foundation our voice produces as many as 50,000 thoughts per day 50,000 can you
50,000 thoughts per day 50,000 can you
50,000 thoughts per day 50,000 can you think of anyone in your life that gives
think of anyone in your life that gives
think of anyone in your life that gives you that much advice in even a year
you that much advice in even a year
you that much advice in even a year probably not are these thoughts as
probably not are these thoughts as
probably not are these thoughts as positive as you want them to be if
positive as you want them to be if
positive as you want them to be if they’re not train your voice to speak
they’re not train your voice to speak
they’re not train your voice to speak more positively and ask it not to get
more positively and ask it not to get
more positively and ask it not to get worked up over situations that it has no
worked up over situations that it has no
worked up over situations that it has no business getting worked up over learn to
business getting worked up over learn to
business getting worked up over learn to only authorize your voice to speak
only authorize your voice to speak
only authorize your voice to speak and controllable situations what you’ll
and controllable situations what you’ll
and controllable situations what you’ll begin to see happening as you develop
begin to see happening as you develop
begin to see happening as you develop this relationship with your voice as
this relationship with your voice as
this relationship with your voice as you’ll have more control over your
you’ll have more control over your
you’ll have more control over your emotions as well allow your voice to
emotions as well allow your voice to
emotions as well allow your voice to acknowledge that the emotion you’re
acknowledge that the emotion you’re
acknowledge that the emotion you’re feeling is real and that that emotion is
feeling is real and that that emotion is
feeling is real and that that emotion is happening but that it does not dictate
happening but that it does not dictate
happening but that it does not dictate your reality give your voice the
your reality give your voice the
your reality give your voice the jurisdiction not your emotions to decide
jurisdiction not your emotions to decide
jurisdiction not your emotions to decide how you’re going to act on a given day
how you’re going to act on a given day
how you’re going to act on a given day there will be times when you are sad
there will be times when you are sad
there will be times when you are sad tired and frustrated but ask your voice
tired and frustrated but ask your voice
tired and frustrated but ask your voice to not allow these feelings to exert any
to not allow these feelings to exert any
to not allow these feelings to exert any control over your life if I were
control over your life if I were
control over your life if I were exhausted at 5:00 a.m. during a workout
exhausted at 5:00 a.m. during a workout
exhausted at 5:00 a.m. during a workout or frustrated at midnight with a
or frustrated at midnight with a
or frustrated at midnight with a conversation with one of my suppliers in
conversation with one of my suppliers in
conversation with one of my suppliers in China for my business I’d ask my voice
China for my business I’d ask my voice
China for my business I’d ask my voice to not let how tired or frustrated I was
to not let how tired or frustrated I was
to not let how tired or frustrated I was affect how hard I was going to work or
affect how hard I was going to work or
affect how hard I was going to work or the positive attitude I was going to
the positive attitude I was going to
the positive attitude I was going to maintain I didn’t want to let the bright
maintain I didn’t want to let the bright
maintain I didn’t want to let the bright opportunities in my life slip out of
opportunities in my life slip out of
opportunities in my life slip out of sight because emotions were in the way
sight because emotions were in the way
sight because emotions were in the way clouding my vision when you realize that
clouding my vision when you realize that
clouding my vision when you realize that there’s a voice in your head you can
there’s a voice in your head you can
there’s a voice in your head you can literally control you’re halfway there
literally control you’re halfway there
literally control you’re halfway there already treat your voice like it’s a top
already treat your voice like it’s a top
already treat your voice like it’s a top performing employee and train it to be
performing employee and train it to be
performing employee and train it to be successful because your voice dictates
successful because your voice dictates
successful because your voice dictates your life your thoughts become your
your life your thoughts become your
your life your thoughts become your words your words become your actions
words your words become your actions
words your words become your actions your actions become your habits and your
your actions become your habits and your
your actions become your habits and your habits become your character and
habits become your character and
habits become your character and eventually your character becomes your
eventually your character becomes your
eventually your character becomes your destiny we are all humans that have this
destiny we are all humans that have this
destiny we are all humans that have this incredible gift of self-awareness it’s
incredible gift of self-awareness it’s
incredible gift of self-awareness it’s up to us to use it my mom taught me how
up to us to use it my mom taught me how
up to us to use it my mom taught me how we should treat our voices when I was in
we should treat our voices when I was in
we should treat our voices when I was in high school my mom bailed severe cancer
it’s tough to describe the emotions you
it’s tough to describe the emotions you feel as you wonder whether or not your
feel as you wonder whether or not your
feel as you wonder whether or not your mother will make it it was so easy to
mother will make it it was so easy to
mother will make it it was so easy to allow my voice to become frustrated and
allow my voice to become frustrated and
allow my voice to become frustrated and angry at a situation that was out of our
angry at a situation that was out of our
angry at a situation that was out of our control my beautiful mother was
control my beautiful mother was
control my beautiful mother was suffering and there was nothing in my
suffering and there was nothing in my
suffering and there was nothing in my power that I could do to help her heal
power that I could do to help her heal
power that I could do to help her heal all I could do is be there for her
all I could do is be there for her
all I could do is be there for her her time of need but my mom taught me
her time of need but my mom taught me
her time of need but my mom taught me that it wasn’t acceptable to be
that it wasn’t acceptable to be
that it wasn’t acceptable to be frustrated and angry at a situation that
frustrated and angry at a situation that
frustrated and angry at a situation that was out of our control she commanded her
was out of our control she commanded her
was out of our control she commanded her body to get her out of bed in the
body to get her out of bed in the
body to get her out of bed in the mornings when her weak muscles and
mornings when her weak muscles and
mornings when her weak muscles and joints literally begged her to stay in
joints literally begged her to stay in
joints literally begged her to stay in after aggressive rounds of chemo my
after aggressive rounds of chemo my
after aggressive rounds of chemo my crazy mom would come home and get on her
crazy mom would come home and get on her
crazy mom would come home and get on her treadmill to help her body sweat and
treadmill to help her body sweat and
treadmill to help her body sweat and heal she spent all her energy helping
heal she spent all her energy helping
heal she spent all her energy helping her body heal and didn’t waste even one
her body heal and didn’t waste even one
her body heal and didn’t waste even one percent of it on things she could not
percent of it on things she could not
percent of it on things she could not control she showed me that her voice was
control she showed me that her voice was
control she showed me that her voice was more powerful than her emotions she
more powerful than her emotions she
more powerful than her emotions she taught me that even the greatest
taught me that even the greatest
taught me that even the greatest adversity in life can be viewed as an
adversity in life can be viewed as an
adversity in life can be viewed as an opportunity for growth when we are well
opportunity for growth when we are well
opportunity for growth when we are well connected with your voice and have the
connected with your voice and have the
connected with your voice and have the right outlook on the situation she also
right outlook on the situation she also
right outlook on the situation she also taught my little brother Marty how to
taught my little brother Marty how to
taught my little brother Marty how to give a sweet haircut what an impact she
give a sweet haircut what an impact she
give a sweet haircut what an impact she had on our team at home
had on our team at home
had on our team at home I believe developing this relationship
I believe developing this relationship
I believe developing this relationship with your voice is so important and when
with your voice is so important and when
with your voice is so important and when you do so you’ll have more control
you do so you’ll have more control
you do so you’ll have more control decide how you choose to spend your
decide how you choose to spend your
decide how you choose to spend your mental energy for the next minute or so
mental energy for the next minute or so
mental energy for the next minute or so I want you to picture your mental energy
I want you to picture your mental energy
I want you to picture your mental energy like a battery like we all have on the
like a battery like we all have on the
like a battery like we all have on the phones in our pockets now picture a
phones in our pockets now picture a
phones in our pockets now picture a device that you could hold to the side
device that you could hold to the side
device that you could hold to the side of your head that would tell you the
of your head that would tell you the
of your head that would tell you the mental percentage battery life you were
mental percentage battery life you were
mental percentage battery life you were on it’s like the phones in our pockets
on it’s like the phones in our pockets
on it’s like the phones in our pockets but it doesn’t get drained by sending
but it doesn’t get drained by sending
but it doesn’t get drained by sending texts or selfies it gets drained by how
texts or selfies it gets drained by how
texts or selfies it gets drained by how we interact with everything around us on
we interact with everything around us on
we interact with everything around us on a daily basis but more effectively your
a daily basis but more effectively your
a daily basis but more effectively your voice handles the stimulus you
voice handles the stimulus you
voice handles the stimulus you constantly face the higher the charge
constantly face the higher the charge
constantly face the higher the charge the higher the charge the more energy
the higher the charge the more energy
the higher the charge the more energy you have available to spend on the
you have available to spend on the
you have available to spend on the things you want to do on your goals and
things you want to do on your goals and
things you want to do on your goals and on the things that make you a better
on the things that make you a better
on the things that make you a better person
person
person your battery gets drained when you
your battery gets drained when you
your battery gets drained when you ineffectively interact with the stimulus
ineffectively interact with the stimulus
ineffectively interact with the stimulus you’re presented with on a daily basis
you’re presented with on a daily basis
you’re presented with on a daily basis the lower the battery the quieter your
the lower the battery the quieter your
the lower the battery the quieter your voice becomes as it tries to monitor
voice becomes as it tries to monitor
voice becomes as it tries to monitor your life with low battery it barely has
your life with low battery it barely has
your life with low battery it barely has the power to pull you out of bed in the
the power to pull you out of bed in the
the power to pull you out of bed in the morning let alone help you achieve your
morning let alone help you achieve your
morning let alone help you achieve your goals so how do we ensure that our
goals so how do we ensure that our
goals so how do we ensure that our voices are loud and powerful
voices are loud and powerful
voices are loud and powerful the voice that says get your butt out of
the voice that says get your butt out of
the voice that says get your butt out of bed and go conquer the day we do this by
bed and go conquer the day we do this by
bed and go conquer the day we do this by actively monitoring our daily routines
actively monitoring our daily routines
actively monitoring our daily routines by having the awareness that if it’s
by having the awareness that if it’s
by having the awareness that if it’s draining our mental battery and if it’s
draining our mental battery and if it’s
draining our mental battery and if it’s out of our control that it should not in
out of our control that it should not in
out of our control that it should not in fact be draining our battery at all what
fact be draining our battery at all what
fact be draining our battery at all what if after holding this device to your
if after holding this device to your
if after holding this device to your head you realized you spent 10% of your
head you realized you spent 10% of your
head you realized you spent 10% of your days mental energy agonizing over some
days mental energy agonizing over some
days mental energy agonizing over some tweet you might spend that energy
tweet you might spend that energy
tweet you might spend that energy getting to know your partner better what
getting to know your partner better what
getting to know your partner better what if you realized you spent 20% of your
if you realized you spent 20% of your
if you realized you spent 20% of your days mental energy stressing about the
days mental energy stressing about the
days mental energy stressing about the weather you have to travel through on
weather you have to travel through on
weather you have to travel through on your way to work or school you might
your way to work or school you might
your way to work or school you might spend that energy thinking about how
spend that energy thinking about how
spend that energy thinking about how you’re going to crush a presentation you
you’re going to crush a presentation you
you’re going to crush a presentation you have to give in the afternoon what if
have to give in the afternoon what if
have to give in the afternoon what if you realized after holding this device
you realized after holding this device
you realized after holding this device to your head you spend 50% of your days
to your head you spend 50% of your days
to your head you spend 50% of your days mental energy worrying about what
mental energy worrying about what
mental energy worrying about what someone someone who you don’t even like
someone someone who you don’t even like
someone someone who you don’t even like is saying or thinking about you spend
is saying or thinking about you spend
is saying or thinking about you spend that energy on the people you do like
that energy on the people you do like
that energy on the people you do like investigating those relationships turn
investigating those relationships turn
investigating those relationships turn away from people that spend their mental
away from people that spend their mental
away from people that spend their mental energy bringing other people down
energy bringing other people down
energy bringing other people down because they are clearly in an unhealthy
because they are clearly in an unhealthy
because they are clearly in an unhealthy place if that’s how they’re choosing to
place if that’s how they’re choosing to
place if that’s how they’re choosing to spend their valuable energy use point o
spend their valuable energy use point o
spend their valuable energy use point o 1% recognizing that fact then move on
1% recognizing that fact then move on
1% recognizing that fact then move on and I know it’s not the same for
and I know it’s not the same for
and I know it’s not the same for everybody there are varying degrees of
everybody there are varying degrees of
everybody there are varying degrees of stress and everyone’s life that affects
stress and everyone’s life that affects
stress and everyone’s life that affects their battery differently but the reason
their battery differently but the reason
their battery differently but the reason it’s so important to consciously
it’s so important to consciously
it’s so important to consciously visualize your mental state is so at the
visualize your mental state is so at the
visualize your mental state is so at the least you can recognize when it’s off
least you can recognize when it’s off
least you can recognize when it’s off balance so how do we tie this all today
balance so how do we tie this all today
balance so how do we tie this all today together when you consider the demands
together when you consider the demands
together when you consider the demands of today’s world you have longer days
of today’s world you have longer days
of today’s world you have longer days less vacation time later retirement
less vacation time later retirement
less vacation time later retirement constantly plugged into your
constantly plugged into your
constantly plugged into your never-ending emails text messages and
never-ending emails text messages and
never-ending emails text messages and important social media notifications
important social media notifications
important social media notifications that barrage your lives you live in a
that barrage your lives you live in a
that barrage your lives you live in a highly demanding and unpredictable world
highly demanding and unpredictable world
highly demanding and unpredictable world and implementing the secret ensures that
and implementing the secret ensures that
and implementing the secret ensures that your life is not derailed by things that
your life is not derailed by things that
your life is not derailed by things that are happening to you that are out of
are happening to you that are out of
are happening to you that are out of your control Viktor Frankl used this
your control Viktor Frankl used this
your control Viktor Frankl used this secret in his life keeping his thoughts
secret in his life keeping his thoughts
secret in his life keeping his thoughts positive in a concentration camp we’re
positive in a concentration camp we’re
positive in a concentration camp we’re doing so was next to impossible and he
doing so was next to impossible and he
doing so was next to impossible and he credits his life with his ability to do
credits his life with his ability to do
credits his life with his ability to do so the most successful athletes coaches
so the most successful athletes coaches
so the most successful athletes coaches and entrepreneurs used this secret in
and entrepreneurs used this secret in
and entrepreneurs used this secret in their life to focus on the controllables
their life to focus on the controllables
their life to focus on the controllables which gives them the focus to maximize
which gives them the focus to maximize
which gives them the focus to maximize their potential my mom applied this
their potential my mom applied this
their potential my mom applied this secret into her life which is why I
secret into her life which is why I
secret into her life which is why I believe she’s still alive today she
believe she’s still alive today she
believe she’s still alive today she spent all her energy on the things she
spent all her energy on the things she
spent all her energy on the things she could control and maintaining a positive
could control and maintaining a positive
could control and maintaining a positive attitude which allowed her to view her
attitude which allowed her to view her
attitude which allowed her to view her adverse condition as an opportunity she
adverse condition as an opportunity she
adverse condition as an opportunity she got to overcome rather than a burden she
got to overcome rather than a burden she
got to overcome rather than a burden she had to bear remember the first step in
had to bear remember the first step in
had to bear remember the first step in implementing this secret is to develop
implementing this secret is to develop
implementing this secret is to develop that relationship with your inner voice
that relationship with your inner voice
that relationship with your inner voice when you listen to your voice and become
when you listen to your voice and become
when you listen to your voice and become more self aware of all of its 50,000
more self aware of all of its 50,000
more self aware of all of its 50,000 thoughts you will be in control and your
thoughts you will be in control and your
thoughts you will be in control and your life won’t just be happening to you it
life won’t just be happening to you it
life won’t just be happening to you it will be happening for you then you can
will be happening for you then you can
will be happening for you then you can use your inner voice to only spend
use your inner voice to only spend
use your inner voice to only spend energy on things you can control and
energy on things you can control and
energy on things you can control and direct your mental battery only towards
direct your mental battery only towards
direct your mental battery only towards those things use this secret to ensure
those things use this secret to ensure
those things use this secret to ensure that your life is focused on the right
that your life is focused on the right
that your life is focused on the right things the things you have the ability
things the things you have the ability
things the things you have the ability to influence you can be a difference
to influence you can be a difference
to influence you can be a difference maker by doing this one little thing a
maker by doing this one little thing a
maker by doing this one little thing a difference maker not only in your own
difference maker not only in your own
difference maker not only in your own life but take it from me you will impact
life but take it from me you will impact
life but take it from me you will impact the lives of your teammates as well
the lives of your teammates as well
the lives of your teammates as well whoever whomever your teammates happen
whoever whomever your teammates happen
whoever whomever your teammates happen to be use this secret even for just one
to be use this secret even for just one
to be use this secret even for just one day and see what happens I promise you
day and see what happens I promise you
day and see what happens I promise you it will make a positive impact and the
it will make a positive impact and the
it will make a positive impact and the best part is is that it all starts with
best part is is that it all starts with
best part is is that it all starts with one as Gandhi taught if you want to
one as Gandhi taught if you want to
one as Gandhi taught if you want to change the world start with yourself and
change the world start with yourself and
change the world start with yourself and I could not agree with them more change
I could not agree with them more change
I could not agree with them more change yourself change your team change your
yourself change your team change your
yourself change your team change your world
world
world thank you
thank you
thank you [Applause]
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