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The Punchline | Tasneem Essader | TEDxNCSSM


[Music]

[Music] [Applause]

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[Applause] hey boy says it’s he walks up to me I

hey boy says it’s he walks up to me I

hey boy says it’s he walks up to me I have a joke for you

have a joke for you

have a joke for you without waiting for a response he

without waiting for a response he

without waiting for a response he continues warn’t there Walmart’s in

continues warn’t there Walmart’s in

continues warn’t there Walmart’s in Baghdad um I begin feeling uneasy by now

Baghdad um I begin feeling uneasy by now

Baghdad um I begin feeling uneasy by now a small crowd was standing around us

a small crowd was standing around us

a small crowd was standing around us watching an anticipation for the

watching an anticipation for the

watching an anticipation for the punchline that would deliver the first

punchline that would deliver the first

punchline that would deliver the first blow to my Muslim identity because

blow to my Muslim identity because

blow to my Muslim identity because there’s a target on every corner with

there’s a target on every corner with

there’s a target on every corner with that he walks away laughing I feel the

that he walks away laughing I feel the

that he walks away laughing I feel the blood draining from my cheeks and my

blood draining from my cheeks and my

blood draining from my cheeks and my heartbeat quickening everyone stares at

heartbeat quickening everyone stares at

heartbeat quickening everyone stares at me curiously watching for my response in

me curiously watching for my response in

me curiously watching for my response in a moment of discomfort and unfamiliarity

a moment of discomfort and unfamiliarity

a moment of discomfort and unfamiliarity I did what was expected when someone

I did what was expected when someone

I did what was expected when someone tells a joke I let our nervous laugh

tells a joke I let our nervous laugh

tells a joke I let our nervous laugh escape my lips before running off to my

escape my lips before running off to my

escape my lips before running off to my next class my transition from a private

next class my transition from a private

next class my transition from a private Islamic school that I had attended since

Islamic school that I had attended since

Islamic school that I had attended since I was five to a public charter high

I was five to a public charter high

I was five to a public charter high school was as smooth as sandpaper moving

school was as smooth as sandpaper moving

school was as smooth as sandpaper moving from an environment where everyone was

from an environment where everyone was

from an environment where everyone was like me to an environment in which

like me to an environment in which

like me to an environment in which virtually no one was like me was an

virtually no one was like me was an

virtually no one was like me was an adjustment that I was unprepared to make

adjustment that I was unprepared to make

adjustment that I was unprepared to make I felt like it wasn’t my place to say

I felt like it wasn’t my place to say

I felt like it wasn’t my place to say anything that I was overreacting to a

anything that I was overreacting to a

anything that I was overreacting to a joke chill it was just a joke I’d

joke chill it was just a joke I’d

joke chill it was just a joke I’d reassure myself but no matter how much I

reassure myself but no matter how much I

reassure myself but no matter how much I tried to justify it something didn’t

tried to justify it something didn’t

tried to justify it something didn’t feel right my experience is

feel right my experience is

feel right my experience is unfortunately not a unique one during

unfortunately not a unique one during

unfortunately not a unique one during 2015 there were approximately 174

2015 there were approximately 174

2015 there were approximately 174 reported incidents of anti-muslim

reported incidents of anti-muslim

reported incidents of anti-muslim violence and vandalism this doesn’t

violence and vandalism this doesn’t

violence and vandalism this doesn’t include cases that went unreported in

include cases that went unreported in

include cases that went unreported in other forms of Islamophobia such as

other forms of Islamophobia such as

other forms of Islamophobia such as microaggressions hostility in situations

microaggressions hostility in situations

microaggressions hostility in situations like mine where you are reduced to the

like mine where you are reduced to the

like mine where you are reduced to the punchline of a joke in order to better

punchline of a joke in order to better

punchline of a joke in order to better understand what it means to be a Muslim

understand what it means to be a Muslim

understand what it means to be a Muslim living in an Islamophobic America we

living in an Islamophobic America we

living in an Islamophobic America we will be discussing Islamophobia in a

will be discussing Islamophobia in a

will be discussing Islamophobia in a language everyone understands laughter

language everyone understands laughter

language everyone understands laughter there are three main components to a

there are three main components to a

there are three main components to a good joke the meaning and delivery the

good joke the meaning and delivery the

good joke the meaning and delivery the punchline and how others react to it

punchline and how others react to it

punchline and how others react to it let’s begin with meaning and delivery

let’s begin with meaning and delivery

let’s begin with meaning and delivery what is Islamophobia anyway since

what is Islamophobia anyway since

what is Islamophobia anyway since everyone seems to like making jokes

everyone seems to like making jokes

everyone seems to like making jokes about it well

about it well

about it well as defined by the Oxford Dictionary

as defined by the Oxford Dictionary

as defined by the Oxford Dictionary Islamophobia is the dislike of or

Islamophobia is the dislike of or

Islamophobia is the dislike of or prejudice against Islam or Muslims

prejudice against Islam or Muslims

prejudice against Islam or Muslims especially as a political force like

especially as a political force like

especially as a political force like many jokes it comes in different forms

many jokes it comes in different forms

many jokes it comes in different forms Islamic phobia can be manifested in

Islamic phobia can be manifested in

Islamic phobia can be manifested in physical actions such as murdering

physical actions such as murdering

physical actions such as murdering harassing or physically injuring an

harassing or physically injuring an

harassing or physically injuring an individual based on the fact that they

individual based on the fact that they

individual based on the fact that they are Muslim there are also the

are Muslim there are also the

are Muslim there are also the psychological and emotional aspects of

psychological and emotional aspects of

psychological and emotional aspects of Islamophobia where Muslims are subject

Islamophobia where Muslims are subject

Islamophobia where Muslims are subject to verbal assault suspicious stares and

to verbal assault suspicious stares and

to verbal assault suspicious stares and are just in general treated differently

are just in general treated differently

are just in general treated differently than non-muslim would be treated whoa

than non-muslim would be treated whoa

than non-muslim would be treated whoa whoa whoa whoa wait wait America is a

whoa whoa whoa wait wait America is a

whoa whoa whoa wait wait America is a progressive country

progressive country

progressive country everyone is welcome here yeah that’s

everyone is welcome here yeah that’s

everyone is welcome here yeah that’s what I thought too it’s hard to ignore

what I thought too it’s hard to ignore

what I thought too it’s hard to ignore the rise of Islamophobia when president

the rise of Islamophobia when president

the rise of Islamophobia when president elect Donald Trump’s popularity rose

elect Donald Trump’s popularity rose

elect Donald Trump’s popularity rose almost three percentage points after he

almost three percentage points after he

almost three percentage points after he endorsed a database to track Muslims in

endorsed a database to track Muslims in

endorsed a database to track Muslims in the US according to an NBC News poll

the US according to an NBC News poll

the US according to an NBC News poll half of Americans supported banning

half of Americans supported banning

half of Americans supported banning Muslims from entering the United States

Muslims from entering the United States

Muslims from entering the United States FBI reports show that anti-muslim hate

FBI reports show that anti-muslim hate

FBI reports show that anti-muslim hate crimes are five times more common today

crimes are five times more common today

crimes are five times more common today than they were before 9/11 these facts

than they were before 9/11 these facts

than they were before 9/11 these facts don’t sound progressive to me they don’t

don’t sound progressive to me they don’t

don’t sound progressive to me they don’t surprise me either Aslam is the second

surprise me either Aslam is the second

surprise me either Aslam is the second most practiced religion in the world

most practiced religion in the world

most practiced religion in the world with 1.8 billion followers yet many

with 1.8 billion followers yet many

with 1.8 billion followers yet many people don’t know what the religion is

people don’t know what the religion is

people don’t know what the religion is all about most of what people here come

all about most of what people here come

all about most of what people here come with from what they see on the news

with from what they see on the news

with from what they see on the news giving the public a terribly inaccurate

giving the public a terribly inaccurate

giving the public a terribly inaccurate view of what most of what Islam really

view of what most of what Islam really

view of what most of what Islam really is and allowing for subtle forms of

is and allowing for subtle forms of

is and allowing for subtle forms of Islamophobia to become normalized even

Islamophobia to become normalized even

Islamophobia to become normalized even to some Muslims which brings us to my

to some Muslims which brings us to my

to some Muslims which brings us to my next point

next point

next point the punchline now that we’ve done a

the punchline now that we’ve done a

the punchline now that we’ve done a little deeper into the meaning of the

little deeper into the meaning of the

little deeper into the meaning of the joke let’s talk about the punchline US

joke let’s talk about the punchline US

joke let’s talk about the punchline US Muslims

Muslims

Muslims we’re what makes the joke the Pew

we’re what makes the joke the Pew

we’re what makes the joke the Pew Research Center asked people to rate

Research Center asked people to rate

Research Center asked people to rate groups of people based on how they feel

groups of people based on how they feel

groups of people based on how they feel using a thermometer on a scale from zero

using a thermometer on a scale from zero

using a thermometer on a scale from zero to 100 with higher warmer temperatures

to 100 with higher warmer temperatures

to 100 with higher warmer temperatures being more positive and lower colder

being more positive and lower colder

being more positive and lower colder temperatures being more negative the

temperatures being more negative the

temperatures being more negative the group with the lowest rating with an

group with the lowest rating with an

group with the lowest rating with an average temperature of 40 degrees was

average temperature of 40 degrees was

average temperature of 40 degrees was Muslims

Muslims

Muslims when this is how the public feels about

when this is how the public feels about

when this is how the public feels about us it isn’t hard for these facts to

us it isn’t hard for these facts to

us it isn’t hard for these facts to haunt us whenever we leave our homes for

haunt us whenever we leave our homes for

haunt us whenever we leave our homes for them to follow us while we’re shopping

them to follow us while we’re shopping

them to follow us while we’re shopping while at school we’ll at work while the

while at school we’ll at work while the

while at school we’ll at work while the public I personally I’ve become immune

public I personally I’ve become immune

public I personally I’ve become immune to the stairs I receive wherever I go

to the stairs I receive wherever I go

to the stairs I receive wherever I go partly because I don’t pay much

partly because I don’t pay much

partly because I don’t pay much attention to my surroundings which can

attention to my surroundings which can

attention to my surroundings which can be a bad thing and partly because I’ve

be a bad thing and partly because I’ve

be a bad thing and partly because I’ve just gotten used to it however whenever

just gotten used to it however whenever

just gotten used to it however whenever I am conscious of those around me I feel

I am conscious of those around me I feel

I am conscious of those around me I feel people’s eyes burning holes into my body

people’s eyes burning holes into my body

people’s eyes burning holes into my body some curious others like they want to

some curious others like they want to

some curious others like they want to burn holes into my body whenever I am

burn holes into my body whenever I am

burn holes into my body whenever I am conscious of those around me I become

conscious of those around me I become

conscious of those around me I become uncomfortable I feel unwelcomed and I

uncomfortable I feel unwelcomed and I

uncomfortable I feel unwelcomed and I get defensive sadly we Muslims are so

get defensive sadly we Muslims are so

get defensive sadly we Muslims are so used to being the punchline that we kind

used to being the punchline that we kind

used to being the punchline that we kind of just assumed the role of the

of just assumed the role of the

of just assumed the role of the oppressed a few years ago I went to a

oppressed a few years ago I went to a

oppressed a few years ago I went to a fundraising event and they had a

fundraising event and they had a

fundraising event and they had a comedian a Muslim comedian by the name

comedian a Muslim comedian by the name

comedian a Muslim comedian by the name of site Dora and he told us a story

of site Dora and he told us a story

of site Dora and he told us a story about a time he was at a gas station he

about a time he was at a gas station he

about a time he was at a gas station he was pulling his car up with gas and

was pulling his car up with gas and

was pulling his car up with gas and there was a guy across from him who was

there was a guy across from him who was

there was a guy across from him who was looking between sides Boston strong

looking between sides Boston strong

looking between sides Boston strong t-shirt and studs faced with this look

t-shirt and studs faced with this look

t-shirt and studs faced with this look going uh-huh

going uh-huh

going uh-huh keep in mind this was after the Boston

keep in mind this was after the Boston

keep in mind this was after the Boston Marathon bombings

what’s after what’s I thought was once

what’s after what’s I thought was once side was taking in this situation he

side was taking in this situation he

side was taking in this situation he drew down to the hose and was like what

drew down to the hose and was like what

drew down to the hose and was like what you have a problem with my shirt I can’t

you have a problem with my shirt I can’t

you have a problem with my shirt I can’t wear this because I must be some

wear this because I must be some

wear this because I must be some terrorist ha is that what you’re

terrorist ha is that what you’re

terrorist ha is that what you’re thinking man I was born in Detroit I’m

thinking man I was born in Detroit I’m

thinking man I was born in Detroit I’m as American as you are and you know gets

as American as you are and you know gets

as American as you are and you know gets mad and goes off on the Strand after

mad and goes off on the Strand after

mad and goes off on the Strand after that the guy just chuckles and says now

that the guy just chuckles and says now

that the guy just chuckles and says now yeah just don’t look like the type of

yeah just don’t look like the type of

yeah just don’t look like the type of guy who runs marathons so the punch line

guy who runs marathons so the punch line

guy who runs marathons so the punch line if you have a really good punch line

if you have a really good punch line

if you have a really good punch line then that’s what makes a joke funny if

then that’s what makes a joke funny if

then that’s what makes a joke funny if you have a good punch line people are

you have a good punch line people are

you have a good punch line people are bound to laugh sometimes the laughter

bound to laugh sometimes the laughter

bound to laugh sometimes the laughter doesn’t mean we’re laughing at the joke

doesn’t mean we’re laughing at the joke

doesn’t mean we’re laughing at the joke sometimes laughter is our way of coping

sometimes laughter is our way of coping

sometimes laughter is our way of coping with traumatic events the laugh we laugh

with traumatic events the laugh we laugh

with traumatic events the laugh we laugh the is this for real laughs its but

the is this for real laughs its but

the is this for real laughs its but you’ve got to be kidding me right now

you’ve got to be kidding me right now

you’ve got to be kidding me right now laughs it’s like when I laughed at the

laughs it’s like when I laughed at the

laughs it’s like when I laughed at the joke the boy told me I didn’t laugh

joke the boy told me I didn’t laugh

joke the boy told me I didn’t laugh because I thought the joke was funny I

because I thought the joke was funny I

because I thought the joke was funny I laugh because I didn’t know how else to

laugh because I didn’t know how else to

laugh because I didn’t know how else to react I laughed the comedian story not

react I laughed the comedian story not

react I laughed the comedian story not because it was funny

because it was funny

because it was funny sometimes we make jokes about things we

sometimes we make jokes about things we

sometimes we make jokes about things we struggle with for example we all make

struggle with for example we all make

struggle with for example we all make jokes about school the workload the

jokes about school the workload the

jokes about school the workload the stress not because we think it’s funny

stress not because we think it’s funny

stress not because we think it’s funny but it’s our way of dealing with it we

but it’s our way of dealing with it we

but it’s our way of dealing with it we Muslims are so conditioned to feel

Muslims are so conditioned to feel

Muslims are so conditioned to feel judged to feel unsafe whenever we leave

judged to feel unsafe whenever we leave

judged to feel unsafe whenever we leave our homes to not be surprised when were

our homes to not be surprised when were

our homes to not be surprised when were the ones randomly picked to be randomly

the ones randomly picked to be randomly

the ones randomly picked to be randomly searched this isn’t funny it’s

searched this isn’t funny it’s

searched this isn’t funny it’s concerning I realized that sometimes a

concerning I realized that sometimes a

concerning I realized that sometimes a joke isn’t supposed to make you laugh

joke isn’t supposed to make you laugh

joke isn’t supposed to make you laugh it’s supposed to make you think it’s

it’s supposed to make you think it’s

it’s supposed to make you think it’s supposed to make you read between the

supposed to make you read between the

supposed to make you read between the lines and question everything as you

lines and question everything as you

lines and question everything as you know it okay okay what’s the point of

know it okay okay what’s the point of

know it okay okay what’s the point of half of telling a joke if you don’t have

half of telling a joke if you don’t have

half of telling a joke if you don’t have an audience to tell it to which brings

an audience to tell it to which brings

an audience to tell it to which brings us to our final component of a good joke

us to our final component of a good joke

us to our final component of a good joke the how others react to it now that we

the how others react to it now that we

the how others react to it now that we know this problem exists in the

know this problem exists in the

know this problem exists in the different forms it comes in and who the

different forms it comes in and who the

different forms it comes in and who the victims are what can we do about it

victims are what can we do about it

victims are what can we do about it firstly don’t tell Islamophobic jokes

firstly don’t tell Islamophobic jokes

firstly don’t tell Islamophobic jokes trust me they’re not funny second don’t

trust me they’re not funny second don’t

trust me they’re not funny second don’t encourage llama phobic behavior if you

encourage llama phobic behavior if you

encourage llama phobic behavior if you see someone saying or doing something

see someone saying or doing something

see someone saying or doing something Islamophobic stop them don’t laugh at it

Islamophobic stop them don’t laugh at it

Islamophobic stop them don’t laugh at it don’t high-five them don’t stand around

don’t high-five them don’t stand around

don’t high-five them don’t stand around it’s okay if you don’t feel comfortable

it’s okay if you don’t feel comfortable

it’s okay if you don’t feel comfortable calling them out in front of everyone

calling them out in front of everyone

calling them out in front of everyone talk to them privately send them a text

talk to them privately send them a text

talk to them privately send them a text do something finally always take the

do something finally always take the

do something finally always take the phrase don’t judge a book by its cover

phrase don’t judge a book by its cover

phrase don’t judge a book by its cover to heart and not only when it applies to

to heart and not only when it applies to

to heart and not only when it applies to you don’t be so quick to judge an entire

you don’t be so quick to judge an entire

you don’t be so quick to judge an entire group of people based on the actions of

group of people based on the actions of

group of people based on the actions of a few

a few

a few no one ever holds all Christians

no one ever holds all Christians

no one ever holds all Christians accountable for the actions of the KKK

accountable for the actions of the KKK

accountable for the actions of the KKK no one ever holds all white people

no one ever holds all white people

no one ever holds all white people accountable for the actions of Dylan

accountable for the actions of Dylan

accountable for the actions of Dylan roof who walked into a church and killed

roof who walked into a church and killed

roof who walked into a church and killed nine innocent black people or Adam Lanza

nine innocent black people or Adam Lanza

nine innocent black people or Adam Lanza who walked into Sandy Hook elementary

who walked into Sandy Hook elementary

who walked into Sandy Hook elementary school and shot a classroom full of

school and shot a classroom full of

school and shot a classroom full of first graders we didn’t call them

first graders we didn’t call them

first graders we didn’t call them terrorists we didn’t ask them to leave

terrorists we didn’t ask them to leave

terrorists we didn’t ask them to leave the country we didn’t say this was a

the country we didn’t say this was a

the country we didn’t say this was a crime against all Americans we treated

crime against all Americans we treated

crime against all Americans we treated them as individuals and we said they

them as individuals and we said they

them as individuals and we said they acted alone and represented no one but

acted alone and represented no one but

acted alone and represented no one but themselves why is it so hard for us to

themselves why is it so hard for us to

themselves why is it so hard for us to extend this kind of thinking to someone

extend this kind of thinking to someone

extend this kind of thinking to someone who practices a different faith or has a

who practices a different faith or has a

who practices a different faith or has a different skin color I guess you could

different skin color I guess you could

different skin color I guess you could say it’s kind of funny that I have to be

say it’s kind of funny that I have to be

say it’s kind of funny that I have to be up here telling people how to act like

up here telling people how to act like

up here telling people how to act like decent human beings you know the same

decent human beings you know the same

decent human beings you know the same kind of funny someone means when they

kind of funny someone means when they

kind of funny someone means when they say oh I just think it’s funny that yeah

say oh I just think it’s funny that yeah

say oh I just think it’s funny that yeah normally isn’t if there’s one piece of

normally isn’t if there’s one piece of

normally isn’t if there’s one piece of advice you take from this speech let it

advice you take from this speech let it

advice you take from this speech let it be this no it isn’t just a joke people

be this no it isn’t just a joke people

be this no it isn’t just a joke people can make jokes about anything they want

can make jokes about anything they want

can make jokes about anything they want but you should never be the punchline

but you should never be the punchline

but you should never be the punchline thank you

thank you

thank you [Applause]

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