what a great moment in time I was thinking backstage about this moment
thinking backstage about this moment
thinking backstage about this moment about all of us here to share and learn
about all of us here to share and learn
about all of us here to share and learn together and it occurred to me that if
together and it occurred to me that if
together and it occurred to me that if you think of the history of the world of
you think of the history of the world of
you think of the history of the world of all people who’ve ever lived and of all
all people who’ve ever lived and of all
all people who’ve ever lived and of all the people that are on this planet right
the people that are on this planet right
the people that are on this planet right now in other circumstances we have to be
now in other circumstances we have to be
now in other circumstances we have to be among the most fortunate people to have
among the most fortunate people to have
among the most fortunate people to have ever lived no question about it that’s
ever lived no question about it that’s
ever lived no question about it that’s not to say that we don’t have struggles
not to say that we don’t have struggles
not to say that we don’t have struggles and difficulties but we have so much
and difficulties but we have so much
and difficulties but we have so much privilege surrounding us so much
privilege surrounding us so much
privilege surrounding us so much opportunity to be our best selves and
opportunity to be our best selves and
opportunity to be our best selves and tonight I want to share with you what
tonight I want to share with you what
tonight I want to share with you what I’ve come to believe to be the single
I’ve come to believe to be the single
I’ve come to believe to be the single most important skill you can ever
most important skill you can ever
most important skill you can ever develop inclusive of every skill in your
develop inclusive of every skill in your
develop inclusive of every skill in your life I know that’s a bold statement but
life I know that’s a bold statement but
life I know that’s a bold statement but I hope you’ll open your mind as I talk
I hope you’ll open your mind as I talk
I hope you’ll open your mind as I talk tonight and think about this I’m gonna
tonight and think about this I’m gonna
tonight and think about this I’m gonna talk about self coaching I like to think
talk about self coaching I like to think
talk about self coaching I like to think of self coaching as the voice of your
of self coaching as the voice of your
of self coaching as the voice of your conscience as the way that you might
conscience as the way that you might
conscience as the way that you might operationalize emotional intelligence
operationalize emotional intelligence
operationalize emotional intelligence and give a voice to your values and your
and give a voice to your values and your
and give a voice to your values and your priorities I think it’s the most
priorities I think it’s the most
priorities I think it’s the most important skill because of how many
important skill because of how many
important skill because of how many areas in your life it affects it affects
areas in your life it affects it affects
areas in your life it affects it affects the way that you listen to people it
the way that you listen to people it
the way that you listen to people it affects the feedback that you receive
affects the feedback that you receive
affects the feedback that you receive when somebody has something to say to
when somebody has something to say to
when somebody has something to say to you it affects whether you put the
you it affects whether you put the
you it affects whether you put the grocery cart back in the corral right
grocery cart back in the corral right
grocery cart back in the corral right you know that mmm
you know that mmm
you know that mmm and that’s your best self you go and put
and that’s your best self you go and put
and that’s your best self you go and put it there and then there’s the other you
it there and then there’s the other you
it there and then there’s the other you my point is that you possess an ability
my point is that you possess an ability
my point is that you possess an ability to intentionally and purposefully guide
to intentionally and purposefully guide
to intentionally and purposefully guide yourself through challenge that you
yourself through challenge that you
yourself through challenge that you choose adversity when it happens to you
choose adversity when it happens to you
choose adversity when it happens to you fear which is ever-present in all of our
fear which is ever-present in all of our
fear which is ever-present in all of our lives in invisible and small and giant
lives in invisible and small and giant
lives in invisible and small and giant ways and temptation and that if you
ways and temptation and that if you
ways and temptation and that if you learn to operationalize your self
learn to operationalize your self
learn to operationalize your self coaching voice more frequently you will
coaching voice more frequently you will
coaching voice more frequently you will be more effective more happy more loving
be more effective more happy more loving
be more effective more happy more loving and more kind
and more kind
and more kind you’ll be collaborative in environments
you’ll be collaborative in environments
you’ll be collaborative in environments where you might have otherwise been
where you might have otherwise been
where you might have otherwise been competitive you’ll be more communicative
competitive you’ll be more communicative
competitive you’ll be more communicative and and most of all you’ll find that it
and and most of all you’ll find that it
and and most of all you’ll find that it activates your courage
activates your courage
activates your courage when I talk about self coaching I think
when I talk about self coaching I think
when I talk about self coaching I think of it as an intentional purposeful
of it as an intentional purposeful
of it as an intentional purposeful outcome driven objective for me the
outcome driven objective for me the
outcome driven objective for me the purpose of my self coaching is to be my
purpose of my self coaching is to be my
purpose of my self coaching is to be my very best self in this moment with my
very best self in this moment with my
very best self in this moment with my wife with my kids with my business
wife with my kids with my business
wife with my kids with my business partners with my friends with my clients
partners with my friends with my clients
partners with my friends with my clients and I found that that pursuit that
and I found that that pursuit that
and I found that that pursuit that objective and then attaching myself
objective and then attaching myself
objective and then attaching myself coaching purpose to that objective has
coaching purpose to that objective has
coaching purpose to that objective has been very useful to me how many of you
been very useful to me how many of you
been very useful to me how many of you can think of a time in your life and
can think of a time in your life and
can think of a time in your life and you’ve had to be a great coach to
you’ve had to be a great coach to
you’ve had to be a great coach to yourself just by show of hands everyone
yourself just by show of hands everyone
yourself just by show of hands everyone knows about this how many of you can
knows about this how many of you can
knows about this how many of you can think of an area in your life today
think of an area in your life today
think of an area in your life today where you could probably be a little bit
where you could probably be a little bit
where you could probably be a little bit better of a coach to yourself I had to
better of a coach to yourself I had to
better of a coach to yourself I had to coach my path myself pass the doughnut
coach my path myself pass the doughnut
coach my path myself pass the doughnut earlier today right so I’m gonna talk
earlier today right so I’m gonna talk
earlier today right so I’m gonna talk about it in some big ways but where it
about it in some big ways but where it
about it in some big ways but where it really shows up is in the small and
really shows up is in the small and
really shows up is in the small and intimate moments of your life and it’s
intimate moments of your life and it’s
intimate moments of your life and it’s it shows up in the way that you talk to
it shows up in the way that you talk to
it shows up in the way that you talk to yourself as well so you know now I’m in
yourself as well so you know now I’m in
yourself as well so you know now I’m in the sports industry we’re in the youth
the sports industry we’re in the youth
the sports industry we’re in the youth and amateur and community-based sports
and amateur and community-based sports
and amateur and community-based sports field we go and help improve the health
field we go and help improve the health
field we go and help improve the health and economic vitality of communities all
and economic vitality of communities all
and economic vitality of communities all over the world through sport and I was
over the world through sport and I was
over the world through sport and I was having a conversation with a with a
having a conversation with a with a
having a conversation with a with a business partner of mine about self
business partner of mine about self
business partner of mine about self coaching a few weeks ago and he shared
coaching a few weeks ago and he shared
coaching a few weeks ago and he shared this story and it went something like
this story and it went something like
this story and it went something like this player at the end of a practice
this player at the end of a practice
this player at the end of a practice goes to coach and says sorry coach
goes to coach and says sorry coach
goes to coach and says sorry coach wasn’t myself today coach looks at
wasn’t myself today coach looks at
wasn’t myself today coach looks at player and says who are you kidding you
player and says who are you kidding you
player and says who are you kidding you were exactly yourself on this day the
were exactly yourself on this day the
were exactly yourself on this day the question is what version of yourself are
question is what version of yourself are
question is what version of yourself are you going to bring tomorrow now I
you going to bring tomorrow now I
you going to bring tomorrow now I imagine that player leaving that
imagine that player leaving that
imagine that player leaving that interaction and you might think that at
interaction and you might think that at
interaction and you might think that at first he’d be defensive but I doubt it
first he’d be defensive but I doubt it
first he’d be defensive but I doubt it this guy is a winner his objective is to
this guy is a winner his objective is to
this guy is a winner his objective is to win I assure you he walked in that
win I assure you he walked in that
win I assure you he walked in that locker room and looked himself dead in
locker room and looked himself dead in
locker room and looked himself dead in the eyes in the mirror the next morning
the eyes in the mirror the next morning
the eyes in the mirror the next morning as he came to practice I assumed that as
as he came to practice I assumed that as
as he came to practice I assumed that as he got in the state of mind that’s
he got in the state of mind that’s
he got in the state of mind that’s required for this level of play
required for this level of play
required for this level of play he looked himself in the mirror again
he looked himself in the mirror again
he looked himself in the mirror again and said you go do this you bring it
and said you go do this you bring it
and said you go do this you bring it today better than yesterday or any other
today better than yesterday or any other
today better than yesterday or any other phrase that would have helped him to
phrase that would have helped him to
phrase that would have helped him to change his state of mind you can apply
change his state of mind you can apply
change his state of mind you can apply self coaching in so many different ways
self coaching in so many different ways
self coaching in so many different ways to create energy to create calm and you
to create energy to create calm and you
to create energy to create calm and you know you do this but the interesting
know you do this but the interesting
know you do this but the interesting thing about this all of you raised your
thing about this all of you raised your
thing about this all of you raised your hand how many of you have spent 10
hand how many of you have spent 10
hand how many of you have spent 10 minutes improving upon or working on
minutes improving upon or working on
minutes improving upon or working on this skill most of us haven’t and that’s
this skill most of us haven’t and that’s
this skill most of us haven’t and that’s what I want to awaken you to tonight an
what I want to awaken you to tonight an
what I want to awaken you to tonight an awareness that you possess already an
awareness that you possess already an
awareness that you possess already an ability to coach yourself that this
ability to coach yourself that this
ability to coach yourself that this skill is vitally important to every area
skill is vitally important to every area
skill is vitally important to every area of your life but that and if you will
of your life but that and if you will
of your life but that and if you will operationalize it if you’ll be
operationalize it if you’ll be
operationalize it if you’ll be intentional about it you can do
intentional about it you can do
intentional about it you can do extraordinary things I know a lot about
extraordinary things I know a lot about
extraordinary things I know a lot about self coaching and I often say I learned
self coaching and I often say I learned
self coaching and I often say I learned the most valuable lessons of my life
the most valuable lessons of my life
the most valuable lessons of my life before I was 16 because at 15 just two
before I was 16 because at 15 just two
before I was 16 because at 15 just two days shy of my birthday my father died
days shy of my birthday my father died
days shy of my birthday my father died and that event liberated me from the
and that event liberated me from the
and that event liberated me from the abuse that I suffered at his hands for
abuse that I suffered at his hands for
abuse that I suffered at his hands for so many years from the time I was about
so many years from the time I was about
so many years from the time I was about six years old when he would lose control
six years old when he would lose control
six years old when he would lose control he would drag me into a room where I
he would drag me into a room where I
he would drag me into a room where I experienced long and torturous events
experienced long and torturous events
experienced long and torturous events that no child should ever experience
that no child should ever experience
that no child should ever experience mind you this is at the hands of the man
mind you this is at the hands of the man
mind you this is at the hands of the man who had he been so lucky would have
who had he been so lucky would have
who had he been so lucky would have loved and protected me in the worst of
loved and protected me in the worst of
loved and protected me in the worst of one of those events I was nine years old
one of those events I was nine years old
one of those events I was nine years old and I recall laying there he was
and I recall laying there he was
and I recall laying there he was shirtless he had a belt wrapped around
shirtless he had a belt wrapped around
shirtless he had a belt wrapped around his hand so that he could hit and punch
his hand so that he could hit and punch
his hand so that he could hit and punch and a cigarette in the other and I
and a cigarette in the other and I
and a cigarette in the other and I remember being just tormented he would
remember being just tormented he would
remember being just tormented he would pause and wait and smoke I assure you I
pause and wait and smoke I assure you I
pause and wait and smoke I assure you I whimpered I begged for mercy
whimpered I begged for mercy
whimpered I begged for mercy I cried I dreamed about being out of
I cried I dreamed about being out of
I cried I dreamed about being out of that room and at one point I just
that room and at one point I just
that room and at one point I just started to say I won’t be like him I
started to say I won’t be like him I
started to say I won’t be like him I will never be like you I knew it was
will never be like you I knew it was
will never be like you I knew it was evil I will be good
evil I will be good
evil I will be good I will be kind I will be strong I’m
I will be kind I will be strong I’m
I will be kind I will be strong I’m gonna live an extraordinary life and as
gonna live an extraordinary life and as
gonna live an extraordinary life and as he pummeled me I thought I will be good
he pummeled me I thought I will be good
he pummeled me I thought I will be good I will be kind I will be strong I’m
I will be kind I will be strong I’m
I will be kind I will be strong I’m gonna live an extraordinary life it was
gonna live an extraordinary life it was
gonna live an extraordinary life it was the only way for me to have power over
the only way for me to have power over
the only way for me to have power over him to be right and righteous and good
him to be right and righteous and good
him to be right and righteous and good to triumph over him not in that moment
to triumph over him not in that moment
to triumph over him not in that moment because that wasn’t possible but with
because that wasn’t possible but with
because that wasn’t possible but with the rest of my life
the rest of my life
the rest of my life I got reprieve from that abuse the night
I got reprieve from that abuse the night
I got reprieve from that abuse the night he died he went into a hospital on
he died he went into a hospital on
he died he went into a hospital on Thursday with pancreatic problems and by
Thursday with pancreatic problems and by
Thursday with pancreatic problems and by Saturday he was gone and I will never
Saturday he was gone and I will never
Saturday he was gone and I will never forget that night I walked out of the
forget that night I walked out of the
forget that night I walked out of the hospital I came down the 7th floor and
hospital I came down the 7th floor and
hospital I came down the 7th floor and we were in Maryland I went out to the
we were in Maryland I went out to the
we were in Maryland I went out to the car and that starry night the most
car and that starry night the most
car and that starry night the most triumphant night of my life and I
triumphant night of my life and I
triumphant night of my life and I thought you did it you made it you made
thought you did it you made it you made
thought you did it you made it you made it now go live an extraordinary life I
it now go live an extraordinary life I
it now go live an extraordinary life I did not know what that meant at the time
did not know what that meant at the time
did not know what that meant at the time I didn’t understand what it meant but I
I didn’t understand what it meant but I
I didn’t understand what it meant but I knew it was my definition of success to
knew it was my definition of success to
knew it was my definition of success to live something extraordinary to be good
live something extraordinary to be good
live something extraordinary to be good to be kind and to be strong were with me
to be kind and to be strong were with me
to be kind and to be strong were with me those promises and myself coaching was
those promises and myself coaching was
those promises and myself coaching was centered around that time went on when I
centered around that time went on when I
centered around that time went on when I went to school I studied psychology at
went to school I studied psychology at
went to school I studied psychology at the University of Maryland and I had
the University of Maryland and I had
the University of Maryland and I had this theory that I could outweigh in the
this theory that I could outweigh in the
this theory that I could outweigh in the seesaw of my life the bad memories by
seesaw of my life the bad memories by
seesaw of my life the bad memories by over producing good memories I had
over producing good memories I had
over producing good memories I had always been an outdoors person and a
always been an outdoors person and a
always been an outdoors person and a climber and so on and so forth and I
climber and so on and so forth and I
climber and so on and so forth and I went I took an outward-bound course that
went I took an outward-bound course that
went I took an outward-bound course that proved to be extraordinarily
proved to be extraordinarily
proved to be extraordinarily transformational for me living in an
transformational for me living in an
transformational for me living in an environment achieving things every day
environment achieving things every day
environment achieving things every day being outward bound outward bound means
being outward bound outward bound means
being outward bound outward bound means to be prepared for the unknown when a
to be prepared for the unknown when a
to be prepared for the unknown when a ship leaves harbor and it was a the
ship leaves harbor and it was a the
ship leaves harbor and it was a the outward bound as a school was equipping
outward bound as a school was equipping
outward bound as a school was equipping me to be outward bound but I learned all
me to be outward bound but I learned all
me to be outward bound but I learned all of these skills there climbing and
of these skills there climbing and
of these skills there climbing and mountaineering and running rivers and
mountaineering and running rivers and
mountaineering and running rivers and all kinds of things that meant I could
all kinds of things that meant I could
all kinds of things that meant I could say yes to every adventure that came my
say yes to every adventure that came my
say yes to every adventure that came my way
way
way and we did exactly that we climbed all
and we did exactly that we climbed all
and we did exactly that we climbed all over the world
over the world
over the world we summited mountains where it was 40
we summited mountains where it was 40
we summited mountains where it was 40 degrees below zero and a 30 mile an hour
degrees below zero and a 30 mile an hour
degrees below zero and a 30 mile an hour wind storm at midnight me and my
wind storm at midnight me and my
wind storm at midnight me and my climbing partner Jim we did all kinds of
climbing partner Jim we did all kinds of
climbing partner Jim we did all kinds of things we climbed in Vietnam in Thailand
things we climbed in Vietnam in Thailand
things we climbed in Vietnam in Thailand all over Asia the American West
all over Asia the American West
all over Asia the American West we summited the highest active volcano
we summited the highest active volcano
we summited the highest active volcano in the world in Ecuador and through
in the world in Ecuador and through
in the world in Ecuador and through those experiences I was able to fill my
those experiences I was able to fill my
those experiences I was able to fill my life with evidence that I was strong
life with evidence that I was strong
life with evidence that I was strong that I was capable and that
that I was capable and that
that I was capable and that self-confidence that I got from that had
self-confidence that I got from that had
self-confidence that I got from that had propelled me into all kinds of things
propelled me into all kinds of things
propelled me into all kinds of things his death and the freedom from that from
his death and the freedom from that from
his death and the freedom from that from him was such a liberation to me and I
him was such a liberation to me and I
him was such a liberation to me and I had been and one thing I know is I was
had been and one thing I know is I was
had been and one thing I know is I was always a good coach to myself but on
always a good coach to myself but on
always a good coach to myself but on Devil’s Tower on this one particular day
Devil’s Tower on this one particular day
Devil’s Tower on this one particular day I discovered something about myself
I discovered something about myself
I discovered something about myself coaching abilities that I didn’t know I
coaching abilities that I didn’t know I
coaching abilities that I didn’t know I discovered that it could produce joy so
discovered that it could produce joy so
discovered that it could produce joy so we went out to Devil’s Tower Devil’s
we went out to Devil’s Tower Devil’s
we went out to Devil’s Tower Devil’s Tower is an 867 foot remnant of an
Tower is an 867 foot remnant of an
Tower is an 867 foot remnant of an ancient volcano and it’s got these
ancient volcano and it’s got these
ancient volcano and it’s got these columns that you climb up that’s me on
columns that you climb up that’s me on
columns that you climb up that’s me on the one of the lower pitches we climbed
the one of the lower pitches we climbed
the one of the lower pitches we climbed a route called the dorrance route it was
a route called the dorrance route it was
a route called the dorrance route it was Jim and I alone we got up early this
Jim and I alone we got up early this
Jim and I alone we got up early this climb was well within our skill set it
climb was well within our skill set it
climb was well within our skill set it was well within our comfort zone but
was well within our comfort zone but
was well within our comfort zone but still when you’re 400 feet off the deck
still when you’re 400 feet off the deck
still when you’re 400 feet off the deck and you’re placing gear it’s a very
and you’re placing gear it’s a very
and you’re placing gear it’s a very serious environment the consequences for
serious environment the consequences for
serious environment the consequences for an injury in that environment where a
an injury in that environment where a
an injury in that environment where a fall are significant so it’s a serious
fall are significant so it’s a serious
fall are significant so it’s a serious endeavor but I recall being about here
endeavor but I recall being about here
endeavor but I recall being about here about 400 feet off the deck looking
about 400 feet off the deck looking
about 400 feet off the deck looking around and thinking enjoy this Wow which
around and thinking enjoy this Wow which
around and thinking enjoy this Wow which is by the way exactly what I said to
is by the way exactly what I said to
is by the way exactly what I said to myself as I walked on this stage tonight
myself as I walked on this stage tonight
myself as I walked on this stage tonight and and then the climb itself I was
and and then the climb itself I was
and and then the climb itself I was climbing and there was warm air now
climbing and there was warm air now
climbing and there was warm air now rising up in this column and it was like
rising up in this column and it was like
rising up in this column and it was like I was flying
placing year so effortlessly putting
placing year so effortlessly putting safety protection in continuing up that
safety protection in continuing up that
safety protection in continuing up that climb and I thought to myself you got
climb and I thought to myself you got
climb and I thought to myself you got this you got this and then I started to
this you got this and then I started to
this you got this and then I started to say it out loud you got this you got
say it out loud you got this you got
say it out loud you got this you got this
this
this enjoy this it was one of the most
enjoy this it was one of the most
enjoy this it was one of the most pleasurable adventures of my life not
pleasurable adventures of my life not
pleasurable adventures of my life not the highest not the most difficult not
the highest not the most difficult not
the highest not the most difficult not the most arduous and it didn’t prove
the most arduous and it didn’t prove
the most arduous and it didn’t prove very much to me other than that I could
very much to me other than that I could
very much to me other than that I could fall in love with a moment by shifting
fall in love with a moment by shifting
fall in love with a moment by shifting my attitude and focusing on that
my attitude and focusing on that
my attitude and focusing on that objective you all have this same power
objective you all have this same power
objective you all have this same power within you to activate this voice that
within you to activate this voice that
within you to activate this voice that you already use in a more intentional
you already use in a more intentional
you already use in a more intentional way the difference between teach of
way the difference between teach of
way the difference between teach of between playing with this skill as a
between playing with this skill as a
between playing with this skill as a skill and doing what you might do right
skill and doing what you might do right
skill and doing what you might do right now is that what you do right now is
now is that what you do right now is
now is that what you do right now is automatic and I’m asking you to pause
automatic and I’m asking you to pause
automatic and I’m asking you to pause and listen to how you coach yourself
and listen to how you coach yourself
and listen to how you coach yourself listen to what you’re saying to yourself
listen to what you’re saying to yourself
listen to what you’re saying to yourself and if you will do that and you’ll
and if you will do that and you’ll
and if you will do that and you’ll commit yourself to something greater
commit yourself to something greater
commit yourself to something greater than just that moment to the pursuit of
than just that moment to the pursuit of
than just that moment to the pursuit of you at your very best your self coaching
you at your very best your self coaching
you at your very best your self coaching voice can do amazing things not just for
voice can do amazing things not just for
voice can do amazing things not just for you but for so many other people it’s
you but for so many other people it’s
you but for so many other people it’s important to define the win
important to define the win
important to define the win be good be kind be strong an
be good be kind be strong an
be good be kind be strong an extraordinary life enjoy this and
extraordinary life enjoy this and
extraordinary life enjoy this and following that then you can coach
following that then you can coach
following that then you can coach yourself to those things those
yourself to those things those
yourself to those things those objectives for the purpose of tonight I
objectives for the purpose of tonight I
objectives for the purpose of tonight I want you to think about your win as you
want you to think about your win as you
want you to think about your win as you at your very best in itself the pursuit
at your very best in itself the pursuit
at your very best in itself the pursuit of you at your very best so that you can
of you at your very best so that you can
of you at your very best so that you can attach yourself coaching voice to that
attach yourself coaching voice to that
attach yourself coaching voice to that objective in your most intimate
objective in your most intimate
objective in your most intimate conversations in the way that you listen
conversations in the way that you listen
conversations in the way that you listen to one another in the way that you show
to one another in the way that you show
to one another in the way that you show up at home and choose to be present I
up at home and choose to be present I
up at home and choose to be present I say to myself before I get home because
say to myself before I get home because
say to myself before I get home because we’re busy and we have a lot going on I
we’re busy and we have a lot going on I
we’re busy and we have a lot going on I Drive into the driveway I checked my
Drive into the driveway I checked my
Drive into the driveway I checked my email I turn off the phone and when I
email I turn off the phone and when I
email I turn off the phone and when I walk in I say to myself
walk in I say to myself
walk in I say to myself be here now be here now and as the night
be here now be here now and as the night
be here now be here now and as the night goes on and my mind wants to go to a
goes on and my mind wants to go to a
goes on and my mind wants to go to a spreadsheet or some other thing be here
spreadsheet or some other thing be here
spreadsheet or some other thing be here now deaf this is it this is the moment
now deaf this is it this is the moment
now deaf this is it this is the moment when I talk about you at your very best
when I talk about you at your very best
when I talk about you at your very best I have this theory I have this theory
I have this theory I have this theory
I have this theory I have this theory that most of us operate it somewhere
that most of us operate it somewhere
that most of us operate it somewhere between maybe 60 maybe 70% of our best
between maybe 60 maybe 70% of our best
between maybe 60 maybe 70% of our best self so I don’t have any scientific
self so I don’t have any scientific
self so I don’t have any scientific proof of this but let’s just assume we
proof of this but let’s just assume we
proof of this but let’s just assume we hover somewhere in here and that we peek
hover somewhere in here and that we peek
hover somewhere in here and that we peek up to our best selves most of us in
up to our best selves most of us in
up to our best selves most of us in certain situations
certain situations
certain situations in situations that give us great
in situations that give us great
in situations that give us great feedback right easy for me to be my best
feedback right easy for me to be my best
feedback right easy for me to be my best self if I’ve got an audience of
self if I’ve got an audience of
self if I’ve got an audience of employees and we’re getting ready to do
employees and we’re getting ready to do
employees and we’re getting ready to do something great and we’ve just done a
something great and we’ve just done a
something great and we’ve just done a grand opening of a facility or some such
grand opening of a facility or some such
grand opening of a facility or some such thing but can I be at my best self when
thing but can I be at my best self when
thing but can I be at my best self when I’m tired on a Wednesday night and the
I’m tired on a Wednesday night and the
I’m tired on a Wednesday night and the house is full of chaos as all of our
house is full of chaos as all of our
house is full of chaos as all of our homes are on a Wednesday night when
homes are on a Wednesday night when
homes are on a Wednesday night when you’ve got kids to get ready for school
you’ve got kids to get ready for school
you’ve got kids to get ready for school can I be there so in the pursuit of your
can I be there so in the pursuit of your
can I be there so in the pursuit of your best self if most of us operate at that
best self if most of us operate at that
best self if most of us operate at that 60 to 70 percent and we believe that we
60 to 70 percent and we believe that we
60 to 70 percent and we believe that we should peak and then Valley I want to
should peak and then Valley I want to
should peak and then Valley I want to challenge that first of all if you’re at
challenge that first of all if you’re at
challenge that first of all if you’re at 60 to 70% on a regular basis that means
60 to 70% on a regular basis that means
60 to 70% on a regular basis that means when you’re tired when you’re hungry
when you’re tired when you’re hungry
when you’re tired when you’re hungry when you are stressed you’re down here
when you are stressed you’re down here
when you are stressed you’re down here at 40 or 50 percent or whatever number
at 40 or 50 percent or whatever number
at 40 or 50 percent or whatever number might be and if the stress is really on
might be and if the stress is really on
might be and if the stress is really on you might sink to something lower than
you might sink to something lower than
you might sink to something lower than that I’m saying to you you don’t have to
that I’m saying to you you don’t have to
that I’m saying to you you don’t have to peak in Valley like that if you would
peak in Valley like that if you would
peak in Valley like that if you would commit yourself on a regular basis to
commit yourself on a regular basis to
commit yourself on a regular basis to focusing on being your best self and you
focusing on being your best self and you
focusing on being your best self and you operationalize this voice of your
operationalize this voice of your
operationalize this voice of your conscience if you will put to work the
conscience if you will put to work the
conscience if you will put to work the voice of your values and allow yourself
voice of your values and allow yourself
voice of your values and allow yourself to become a great coach to yourself
to become a great coach to yourself
to become a great coach to yourself amazing things can happen Helen Keller
amazing things can happen Helen Keller
amazing things can happen Helen Keller said life is a daring adventure or
said life is a daring adventure or
said life is a daring adventure or nothing at all I’m certain she was right
nothing at all I’m certain she was right
nothing at all I’m certain she was right I want to invite you to think about your
I want to invite you to think about your
I want to invite you to think about your responsibilities your relationships your
responsibilities your relationships your
responsibilities your relationships your opportunities as a daring adventurer and
opportunities as a daring adventurer and
opportunities as a daring adventurer and if you’ll do that and you’ll commit
if you’ll do that and you’ll commit
if you’ll do that and you’ll commit yourself to the pursuit of your very
yourself to the pursuit of your very
yourself to the pursuit of your very best self and you’ll start listening to
best self and you’ll start listening to
best self and you’ll start listening to what your automatic language is and
what your automatic language is and
what your automatic language is and replace it with the language of the
replace it with the language of the
replace it with the language of the coach you’ve ever known great things can
coach you’ve ever known great things can
coach you’ve ever known great things can happen if you’re a spouse who’s not
happen if you’re a spouse who’s not
happen if you’re a spouse who’s not partnering well coach yourself if you’re
partnering well coach yourself if you’re
partnering well coach yourself if you’re a leader who’s not really leading coach
a leader who’s not really leading coach
a leader who’s not really leading coach yourself if you are stuck and need to
yourself if you are stuck and need to
yourself if you are stuck and need to make a change coach yourself choose to
make a change coach yourself choose to
make a change coach yourself choose to do this more proactively and if you’re a
do this more proactively and if you’re a
do this more proactively and if you’re a parent or a spouse who’s doing harm to
parent or a spouse who’s doing harm to
parent or a spouse who’s doing harm to somebody your God coach yourself the
somebody your God coach yourself the
somebody your God coach yourself the best in you is waiting for the coach in
best in you is waiting for the coach in
best in you is waiting for the coach in you to speak up thank you
you to speak up thank you
you to speak up thank you [Applause]
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