[Applause] Travis you will be a great camp
Travis you will be a great camp
Travis you will be a great camp counselor on a warm summer afternoon in
counselor on a warm summer afternoon in
counselor on a warm summer afternoon in 1984 my camp counselor said to me eight
1984 my camp counselor said to me eight
1984 my camp counselor said to me eight words that would changed my life he said
words that would changed my life he said
words that would changed my life he said to me Travis
to me Travis
to me Travis you will be a great camp counselor up
you will be a great camp counselor up
you will be a great camp counselor up until that point I didn’t feel like I
until that point I didn’t feel like I
until that point I didn’t feel like I belong in lots of places I was a nerdy
belong in lots of places I was a nerdy
belong in lots of places I was a nerdy kid growing up in a village where they
kid growing up in a village where they
kid growing up in a village where they celebrated baseball players and hockey
celebrated baseball players and hockey
celebrated baseball players and hockey jocks and my family still talks about
jocks and my family still talks about
jocks and my family still talks about how I would walk to the school bus
how I would walk to the school bus
how I would walk to the school bus reading one book and walk home from the
reading one book and walk home from the
reading one book and walk home from the school bus reading another book yet
school bus reading another book yet
school bus reading another book yet somehow my camp counselor saw something
somehow my camp counselor saw something
somehow my camp counselor saw something different in me I know that I had it
different in me I know that I had it
different in me I know that I had it lucky because I had a very supportive
lucky because I had a very supportive
lucky because I had a very supportive family but like many kids I was bullied
family but like many kids I was bullied
family but like many kids I was bullied on that school bus and I was bullied at
on that school bus and I was bullied at
on that school bus and I was bullied at school yet
school yet
school yet Ian McLean my camp counselor Ian MacLean
Ian McLean my camp counselor Ian MacLean
Ian McLean my camp counselor Ian MacLean my camp counselor saw something
my camp counselor saw something
my camp counselor saw something different in me he invested five seconds
different in me he invested five seconds
different in me he invested five seconds in me that changed my life so on that
in me that changed my life so on that
in me that changed my life so on that afternoon we got out of lunch at camp
afternoon we got out of lunch at camp
afternoon we got out of lunch at camp went back to our cabin and he asked to
went back to our cabin and he asked to
went back to our cabin and he asked to speak to me outside to the tribes can I
speak to me outside to the tribes can I
speak to me outside to the tribes can I speak to you outside
speak to you outside
speak to you outside we went in stood by the picnic table
we went in stood by the picnic table
we went in stood by the picnic table asked me to sit down I thought I was in
asked me to sit down I thought I was in
asked me to sit down I thought I was in big trouble
big trouble
big trouble something had gone on that I couldn’t
something had gone on that I couldn’t
something had gone on that I couldn’t quite figure out but that I was in big
quite figure out but that I was in big
quite figure out but that I was in big trouble yet i sat down and if that
trouble yet i sat down and if that
trouble yet i sat down and if that preamble he just said to me Travis you
preamble he just said to me Travis you
preamble he just said to me Travis you will be a great camp counselor because
will be a great camp counselor because
will be a great camp counselor because of that moment that set me on a path to
of that moment that set me on a path to
of that moment that set me on a path to this moment and this stage five seconds
this moment and this stage five seconds
this moment and this stage five seconds of his life put me here today now
of his life put me here today now
of his life put me here today now because of what he did I found my higher
because of what he did I found my higher
because of what he did I found my higher purpose in life I believe that my
purpose in life I believe that my
purpose in life I believe that my purpose is very closely tied with a
purpose is very closely tied with a
purpose is very closely tied with a higher purpose of summer camp and that
higher purpose of summer camp and that
higher purpose of summer camp and that is to provide a place a community
is to provide a place a community
is to provide a place a community where kids can be recognized and
where kids can be recognized and
where kids can be recognized and acknowledged for their individual
acknowledged for their individual
acknowledged for their individual talents and we can help adults find them
talents and we can help adults find them
talents and we can help adults find them all at the time to create that moment
all at the time to create that moment
all at the time to create that moment with those kids it’s so I’ve here today
with those kids it’s so I’ve here today
with those kids it’s so I’ve here today to ask you to help me make that the
to ask you to help me make that the
to ask you to help me make that the higher purpose of every single community
higher purpose of every single community
higher purpose of every single community that we find the time to recognize and
that we find the time to recognize and
that we find the time to recognize and acknowledge kids for the things that
acknowledge kids for the things that
acknowledge kids for the things that make them special now kids are often
make them special now kids are often
make them special now kids are often lumped into groups we put them into
lumped into groups we put them into
lumped into groups we put them into groups so they might be one of mrs.
groups so they might be one of mrs.
groups so they might be one of mrs. shields third grade class or there might
shields third grade class or there might
shields third grade class or there might be a nerd or a jock or there might be
be a nerd or a jock or there might be
be a nerd or a jock or there might be the pretty one in the family they might
the pretty one in the family they might
the pretty one in the family they might be the kid with a funny accent or the
be the kid with a funny accent or the
be the kid with a funny accent or the queer kid or the kid who lives there
queer kid or the kid who lives there
queer kid or the kid who lives there grandma because they don’t have a mom
grandma because they don’t have a mom
grandma because they don’t have a mom and dad but if we take a moment and
and dad but if we take a moment and
and dad but if we take a moment and acknowledge and appreciate them we give
acknowledge and appreciate them we give
acknowledge and appreciate them we give them a place where they belong now I
them a place where they belong now I
them a place where they belong now I believe that this has happened for most
believe that this has happened for most
believe that this has happened for most people in this room so what I’d like you
people in this room so what I’d like you
people in this room so what I’d like you to do is take a second and think about
to do is take a second and think about
to do is take a second and think about your person the person who stopped there
your person the person who stopped there
your person the person who stopped there most likely not your parent the person
most likely not your parent the person
most likely not your parent the person who stopped and said something to
who stopped and said something to
who stopped and said something to encourage you when you’re a young the
encourage you when you’re a young the
encourage you when you’re a young the person who noticed the thing that you’re
person who noticed the thing that you’re
person who noticed the thing that you’re passionate about picture that person in
passionate about picture that person in
passionate about picture that person in your mind your person and my person did
your mind your person and my person did
your mind your person and my person did something that I call the power of one
something that I call the power of one
something that I call the power of one oh there’s some really interesting
oh there’s some really interesting
oh there’s some really interesting research coming out of the Centers of
research coming out of the Centers of
research coming out of the Centers of the developing child at Harvard
the developing child at Harvard
the developing child at Harvard University from Flinders University in
University from Flinders University in
University from Flinders University in Australia and from a 12,000 child study
Australia and from a 12,000 child study
Australia and from a 12,000 child study done in the country of Ireland that’s
done in the country of Ireland that’s
done in the country of Ireland that’s those studies all show that if we invest
those studies all show that if we invest
those studies all show that if we invest just a small moment of our time I’ll
just a small moment of our time I’ll
just a small moment of our time I’ll develop a relationship with just one
develop a relationship with just one
develop a relationship with just one child that child’s life can be changed
child that child’s life can be changed
child that child’s life can be changed in Ireland they’ve taken that research
in Ireland they’ve taken that research
in Ireland they’ve taken that research and they’ve created a program called one
and they’ve created a program called one
and they’ve created a program called one good adult because the research clearly
good adult because the research clearly
good adult because the research clearly shows if we have if you’re a child at
shows if we have if you’re a child at
shows if we have if you’re a child at risk risk of drugs dropping out of
risk risk of drugs dropping out of
risk risk of drugs dropping out of school bad relationships making poor
school bad relationships making poor
school bad relationships making poor choices all you need is one good adult
choices all you need is one good adult
choices all you need is one good adult in your life to change that
in your life to change that
in your life to change that so this research shows that if a child
so this research shows that if a child
so this research shows that if a child has someone who invests in them takes
has someone who invests in them takes
has someone who invests in them takes just a moment as I said for me
just a moment as I said for me
just a moment as I said for me it happened at a great moment and it was
it happened at a great moment and it was
it happened at a great moment and it was five seconds invest in that child what
five seconds invest in that child what
five seconds invest in that child what happens is that they have much higher
happens is that they have much higher
happens is that they have much higher self-esteem this is a child who can
self-esteem this is a child who can
self-esteem this is a child who can stand up for his or her self this is a
stand up for his or her self this is a
stand up for his or her self this is a child who wins she tests great at a
child who wins she tests great at a
child who wins she tests great at a dance recital will actually accept the
dance recital will actually accept the
dance recital will actually accept the praise that she’s given these kids also
praise that she’s given these kids also
praise that she’s given these kids also have much better they make better
have much better they make better
have much better they make better choices in the world they’re much more
choices in the world they’re much more
choices in the world they’re much more confident so this is a kid who will
confident so this is a kid who will
confident so this is a kid who will raise their hand and say I don’t
raise their hand and say I don’t
raise their hand and say I don’t understand what’s going on I don’t
understand what’s going on I don’t
understand what’s going on I don’t understand you’re trying that thing that
understand you’re trying that thing that
understand you’re trying that thing that you’re trying to teach me there’ll be
you’re trying to teach me there’ll be
you’re trying to teach me there’ll be the person who then can stand in front
the person who then can stand in front
the person who then can stand in front of a bully who’s picking on a friend
of a bully who’s picking on a friend
of a bully who’s picking on a friend they also have much better mental
they also have much better mental
they also have much better mental toughness so these are kids who can try
toughness so these are kids who can try
toughness so these are kids who can try something learn from it try again fail
something learn from it try again fail
something learn from it try again fail learn try fail until they eventually
learn try fail until they eventually
learn try fail until they eventually succeed and that mental toughness can
succeed and that mental toughness can
succeed and that mental toughness can carry through for the rest of their life
carry through for the rest of their life
carry through for the rest of their life they also know that they belong and that
they also know that they belong and that
they also know that they belong and that sense of belonging as I said was
sense of belonging as I said was
sense of belonging as I said was something incredibly important to me as
something incredibly important to me as
something incredibly important to me as a child because I didn’t have it in my
a child because I didn’t have it in my
a child because I didn’t have it in my home community I found it at summer camp
home community I found it at summer camp
home community I found it at summer camp so we can’t develop these relationships
so we can’t develop these relationships
so we can’t develop these relationships and develop the things that happen with
and develop the things that happen with
and develop the things that happen with these kids and help them fit in give
these kids and help them fit in give
these kids and help them fit in give them a place so I was lucky enough when
them a place so I was lucky enough when
them a place so I was lucky enough when I was fifteen years old to have another
I was fifteen years old to have another
I was fifteen years old to have another critical moment something that happened
critical moment something that happened
critical moment something that happened to me exactly when I needed it my
to me exactly when I needed it my
to me exactly when I needed it my mother’s friends Marion Crawford was our
mother’s friends Marion Crawford was our
mother’s friends Marion Crawford was our hairdresser growing up and like many of
hairdresser growing up and like many of
hairdresser growing up and like many of my mother’s friends we had a great
my mother’s friends we had a great
my mother’s friends we had a great relationship it was cordial it was
relationship it was cordial it was
relationship it was cordial it was polite except one afternoon a Friday
polite except one afternoon a Friday
polite except one afternoon a Friday afternoon I know it was a Friday because
afternoon I know it was a Friday because
afternoon I know it was a Friday because it was my very first high school dance I
it was my very first high school dance I
it was my very first high school dance I sat down in Marion’s chair she put the
sat down in Marion’s chair she put the
sat down in Marion’s chair she put the drape around me she pulled up the
drape around me she pulled up the
drape around me she pulled up the scissors she looked at me in the mirror
scissors she looked at me in the mirror
scissors she looked at me in the mirror and she said Travis let’s try something
and she said Travis let’s try something
and she said Travis let’s try something really different
really different
really different Marion saw me as someone different than
Marion saw me as someone different than
Marion saw me as someone different than I saw myself
I saw myself
I saw myself she changed the way I saw myself it
she changed the way I saw myself it
she changed the way I saw myself it matters little that Marion and I spent
matters little that Marion and I spent
matters little that Marion and I spent the next five years doing every crazy
the next five years doing every crazy
the next five years doing every crazy color cut whatever we could come up with
color cut whatever we could come up with
color cut whatever we could come up with to do different it matters most that she
to do different it matters most that she
to do different it matters most that she saw me as a kid who could be creative
saw me as a kid who could be creative
saw me as a kid who could be creative and would love to express that she saw
and would love to express that she saw
and would love to express that she saw me as someone who would love to express
me as someone who would love to express
me as someone who would love to express the kind of music they liked by would
the kind of music they liked by would
the kind of music they liked by would the way they were their hair Marion saw
the way they were their hair Marion saw
the way they were their hair Marion saw me and told me in that moment that she
me and told me in that moment that she
me and told me in that moment that she saw me as a very creative kid who could
saw me as a very creative kid who could
saw me as a very creative kid who could and would love to express themselves now
and would love to express themselves now
and would love to express themselves now when I was older I was a volunteer
when I was older I was a volunteer
when I was older I was a volunteer firefighter for seven years as part of
firefighter for seven years as part of
firefighter for seven years as part of that I learned of being part of the
that I learned of being part of the
that I learned of being part of the firefighter culture I learned about
firefighter culture I learned about
firefighter culture I learned about challenged coins so I believe that
challenged coins so I believe that
challenged coins so I believe that there’s power of one moment is power one
there’s power of one moment is power one
there’s power of one moment is power one moments that we share with kids are
moments that we share with kids are
moments that we share with kids are incredibly important really it’s the
incredibly important really it’s the
incredibly important really it’s the essence of my talk but I think it can
essence of my talk but I think it can
essence of my talk but I think it can also help adults as well a challenge
also help adults as well a challenge
also help adults as well a challenge coins are one of these things that
coins are one of these things that
coins are one of these things that really clued me into how that was
really clued me into how that was
really clued me into how that was possible so a challenge coin is a token
possible so a challenge coin is a token
possible so a challenge coin is a token custom-made that shows you’re part of a
custom-made that shows you’re part of a
custom-made that shows you’re part of a group so it’s almost often a coin that
group so it’s almost often a coin that
group so it’s almost often a coin that you can carry around with you they’re
you can carry around with you they’re
you can carry around with you they’re made for military regiments for
made for military regiments for
made for military regiments for emergency services personnel now there
emergency services personnel now there
emergency services personnel now there are some clubs and other school
are some clubs and other school
are some clubs and other school organizations that are doing challenge
organizations that are doing challenge
organizations that are doing challenge coins as well charge quites have an
coins as well charge quites have an
coins as well charge quites have an amazing culture around them it’s a true
amazing culture around them it’s a true
amazing culture around them it’s a true symbol of belonging and their custom
symbol of belonging and their custom
symbol of belonging and their custom just to your unit your group your club
just to your unit your group your club
just to your unit your group your club shows that you belong but the power of
shows that you belong but the power of
shows that you belong but the power of one that happens with challenge coins is
one that happens with challenge coins is
one that happens with challenge coins is when they are passed off to someone
when they are passed off to someone
when they are passed off to someone who’s not part of your group they’re
who’s not part of your group they’re
who’s not part of your group they’re given on to someone I love it because
given on to someone I love it because
given on to someone I love it because they’re given in a secret handshake you
they’re given in a secret handshake you
they’re given in a secret handshake you tuck your coin into your hand and then
tuck your coin into your hand and then
tuck your coin into your hand and then shake that person’s hand to hand it off
shake that person’s hand to hand it off
shake that person’s hand to hand it off to them so that person is sort of
to them so that person is sort of
to them so that person is sort of surprised by that one what is this and
surprised by that one what is this and
surprised by that one what is this and they take a look at it that allows
they take a look at it that allows
they take a look at it that allows someone who may be of higher rank who
someone who may be of higher rank who
someone who may be of higher rank who may be of greater social stature in
may be of greater social stature in
may be of greater social stature in those organizations that are not
those organizations that are not
those organizations that are not touchy-feely and in fact we’re
touchy-feely and in fact we’re
touchy-feely and in fact we’re individuality is often discouraged it
individuality is often discouraged it
individuality is often discouraged it allows that person to say I recognize
allows that person to say I recognize
allows that person to say I recognize you I think you your contribution is
you I think you your contribution is
you I think you your contribution is important
important
important what you’ve done I believe in that’s
what you’ve done I believe in that’s
what you’ve done I believe in that’s that the power of one of challenge coins
that the power of one of challenge coins
that the power of one of challenge coins now I received my coin when I was giving
now I received my coin when I was giving
now I received my coin when I was giving a speech at a conference talking about
a speech at a conference talking about
a speech at a conference talking about how to get more kids to camp and at the
how to get more kids to camp and at the
how to get more kids to camp and at the end of that speech someone came up and
end of that speech someone came up and
end of that speech someone came up and shook my hand and I was surprised to see
shook my hand and I was surprised to see
shook my hand and I was surprised to see that coin that he handed me here was a
that coin that he handed me here was a
that coin that he handed me here was a retired firefighter who was on the board
retired firefighter who was on the board
retired firefighter who was on the board of a camp and that camp was created to
of a camp and that camp was created to
of a camp and that camp was created to help kids who had had severe burns and
help kids who had had severe burns and
help kids who had had severe burns and he came up to thank me for what I had
he came up to thank me for what I had
he came up to thank me for what I had done helping them get more kids into
done helping them get more kids into
done helping them get more kids into their camp and helping them to create
their camp and helping them to create
their camp and helping them to create more programs where they could grow and
more programs where they could grow and
more programs where they could grow and develop those kids in the programs so I
develop those kids in the programs so I
develop those kids in the programs so I I was encouraged to have the moment
I was encouraged to have the moment
I was encouraged to have the moment where I was given my coin as well so the
where I was given my coin as well so the
where I was given my coin as well so the power of one is something that as I say
power of one is something that as I say
power of one is something that as I say I think we can all do and I think we
I think we can all do and I think we
I think we can all do and I think we should focus on in order to make it
should focus on in order to make it
should focus on in order to make it easier for you I’ve broken it down and
easier for you I’ve broken it down and
easier for you I’ve broken it down and made it into an acronym so I want you to
made it into an acronym so I want you to
made it into an acronym so I want you to think about one thinking about open
think about one thinking about open
think about one thinking about open means and explore so you want to be open
means and explore so you want to be open
means and explore so you want to be open to these things
to these things
to these things want to be open to the moments when you
want to be open to the moments when you
want to be open to the moments when you can have conversations with kids when
can have conversations with kids when
can have conversations with kids when you can enjoy a moment with them so for
you can enjoy a moment with them so for
you can enjoy a moment with them so for me at summer camp that happened in
me at summer camp that happened in
me at summer camp that happened in transitions from working from one active
transitions from working from one active
transitions from working from one active walking from one activity to the other
walking from one activity to the other
walking from one activity to the other it happened in moments where we were
it happened in moments where we were
it happened in moments where we were waiting in line for the dining hall but
waiting in line for the dining hall but
waiting in line for the dining hall but in the rest of the world I see that
in the rest of the world I see that
in the rest of the world I see that happening at camp I see that happening
happening at camp I see that happening
happening at camp I see that happening in places in your lives like when you’re
in places in your lives like when you’re
in places in your lives like when you’re riding in a minivan to a practice or
riding in a minivan to a practice or
riding in a minivan to a practice or when you finally have dinner with just
when you finally have dinner with just
when you finally have dinner with just one child at the table well that kid
one child at the table well that kid
one child at the table well that kid finishes a practice and they need to sit
finishes a practice and they need to sit
finishes a practice and they need to sit down or they close up a book and that
down or they close up a book and that
down or they close up a book and that happens there’s just a little moment
happens there’s just a little moment
happens there’s just a little moment there so I’d like you to notice those
there so I’d like you to notice those
there so I’d like you to notice those things so the next part of that is to
things so the next part of that is to
things so the next part of that is to think about how you can look after their
think about how you can look after their
think about how you can look after their needs look at just acknowledge that they
needs look at just acknowledge that they
needs look at just acknowledge that they need something what is it you need how
need something what is it you need how
need something what is it you need how can I help you etcetera that helps helps
can I help you etcetera that helps helps
can I help you etcetera that helps helps each child in that moment the next part
each child in that moment the next part
each child in that moment the next part of that is to engage with them so that
of that is to engage with them so that
of that is to engage with them so that involves starting a conversation it
involves starting a conversation it
involves starting a conversation it might be having question
might be having question
might be having question that you can ask them giving them
that you can ask them giving them
that you can ask them giving them something that can start a conversation
something that can start a conversation
something that can start a conversation how can you ask them open questions
how can you ask them open questions
how can you ask them open questions everybody knows when you say how is your
everybody knows when you say how is your
everybody knows when you say how is your day at school
day at school
day at school the answer is it’s fine you want to ask
the answer is it’s fine you want to ask
the answer is it’s fine you want to ask questions that do more get more than
questions that do more get more than
questions that do more get more than just it’s fine
just it’s fine
just it’s fine think about how we can engage more so
think about how we can engage more so
think about how we can engage more so ask how questions or why questions why
ask how questions or why questions why
ask how questions or why questions why did you do that thing today
did you do that thing today
did you do that thing today why did your friend talk to you that way
why did your friend talk to you that way
why did your friend talk to you that way how did you make that thing that you
how did you make that thing that you
how did you make that thing that you loved the ways that we can get into
loved the ways that we can get into
loved the ways that we can get into deeper conversations now open needs
deeper conversations now open needs
deeper conversations now open needs engage or open notice and engage those
engage or open notice and engage those
engage or open notice and engage those are important things to remember that’s
are important things to remember that’s
are important things to remember that’s why I call it the power of one so we’re
why I call it the power of one so we’re
why I call it the power of one so we’re have that in our mind but sometimes
have that in our mind but sometimes
have that in our mind but sometimes people ask me what I actually do I get a
people ask me what I actually do I get a
people ask me what I actually do I get a child’s attention I’m open to this
child’s attention I’m open to this
child’s attention I’m open to this moment but what are the conversations
moment but what are the conversations
moment but what are the conversations look like the conversations look like an
look like the conversations look like an
look like the conversations look like an exchange between you and them it is the
exchange between you and them it is the
exchange between you and them it is the open questions
open questions
open questions it’s the noticing the things that they
it’s the noticing the things that they
it’s the noticing the things that they are important to them you know what it’s
are important to them you know what it’s
are important to them you know what it’s saying I saw that you’ve been reading
saying I saw that you’ve been reading
saying I saw that you’ve been reading this book on this topic what makes you
this book on this topic what makes you
this book on this topic what makes you interested in that some of my favorite
interested in that some of my favorite
interested in that some of my favorite moments from when I was a child with my
moments from when I was a child with my
moments from when I was a child with my dad happened when the two of us would
dad happened when the two of us would
dad happened when the two of us would ride in our John Deere tractor listening
ride in our John Deere tractor listening
ride in our John Deere tractor listening to 8-track tapes of boney m and Kenny
to 8-track tapes of boney m and Kenny
to 8-track tapes of boney m and Kenny Rogers while tilling the fields and I
Rogers while tilling the fields and I
Rogers while tilling the fields and I would love to go with my dad we’d spend
would love to go with my dad we’d spend
would love to go with my dad we’d spend hours in the fields and just have
hours in the fields and just have
hours in the fields and just have conversations those conversations were
conversations those conversations were
conversations those conversations were centered around my life how isn’t doing
centered around my life how isn’t doing
centered around my life how isn’t doing it what I enjoyed school things like
it what I enjoyed school things like
it what I enjoyed school things like that what meet those conversations
that what meet those conversations
that what meet those conversations different than a lot of other
different than a lot of other
different than a lot of other conversations with adults is that those
conversations with adults is that those
conversations with adults is that those were the times that my dad opened up to
were the times that my dad opened up to
were the times that my dad opened up to me that my dad would share things with
me that my dad would share things with
me that my dad would share things with me and that didn’t happen very often I
me and that didn’t happen very often I
me and that didn’t happen very often I treasure those moments because of that
treasure those moments because of that
treasure those moments because of that so he would talk about where we were
so he would talk about where we were
so he would talk about where we were going with our farm business what we
going with our farm business what we
going with our farm business what we what we needed to do what livestock we
what we needed to do what livestock we
what we needed to do what livestock we were gonna purchase and as a kid it was
were gonna purchase and as a kid it was
were gonna purchase and as a kid it was the first time I felt like I was
the first time I felt like I was
the first time I felt like I was involved in our family business and I’ve
involved in our family business and I’ve
involved in our family business and I’ve treasured those moments because of that
treasured those moments because of that
treasured those moments because of that time so I hope that in doing this you
time so I hope that in doing this you
time so I hope that in doing this you see that it’s important that we take the
see that it’s important that we take the
see that it’s important that we take the time to have conversations that we
time to have conversations that we
time to have conversations that we notice kids that we
notice kids that we
notice kids that we open to them and that we have moments
open to them and that we have moments
open to them and that we have moments with them where we can make them feel
with them where we can make them feel
with them where we can make them feel great because as I said this impact can
great because as I said this impact can
great because as I said this impact can last forever in moments where they
last forever in moments where they
last forever in moments where they really need it you don’t know if eight
really need it you don’t know if eight
really need it you don’t know if eight words Travis you will be a great camp
words Travis you will be a great camp
words Travis you will be a great camp counselor five seconds of that person’s
counselor five seconds of that person’s
counselor five seconds of that person’s life
life
life I can’t counselor Ian led down a path
I can’t counselor Ian led down a path
I can’t counselor Ian led down a path that has taken me 35 years so what I’d
that has taken me 35 years so what I’d
that has taken me 35 years so what I’d like to do is to give you one last thing
like to do is to give you one last thing
like to do is to give you one last thing to think about sometimes it’s the
to think about sometimes it’s the
to think about sometimes it’s the conversation things that we stumble over
conversation things that we stumble over
conversation things that we stumble over it’s like how do we get to the next
it’s like how do we get to the next
it’s like how do we get to the next level of conversation we’re so caught up
level of conversation we’re so caught up
level of conversation we’re so caught up in I’m having I’m having a power of one
in I’m having I’m having a power of one
in I’m having I’m having a power of one moment with this person I’ve stopped
moment with this person I’ve stopped
moment with this person I’ve stopped I’ve noticed that got down to their
I’ve noticed that got down to their
I’ve noticed that got down to their level and now what do I do what I like
level and now what do I do what I like
level and now what do I do what I like you to think about my camp counselor Ian
you to think about my camp counselor Ian
you to think about my camp counselor Ian I call this the Ian formula for great
I call this the Ian formula for great
I call this the Ian formula for great conversations with kids in teens so I’d
conversations with kids in teens so I’d
conversations with kids in teens so I’d like you to think about Ian as an
like you to think about Ian as an
like you to think about Ian as an acronym interesting and next what do you
acronym interesting and next what do you
acronym interesting and next what do you find interesting what do you love to
find interesting what do you love to
find interesting what do you love to learn about what gets you excited we
learn about what gets you excited we
learn about what gets you excited we know kids in our lives who are
know kids in our lives who are
know kids in our lives who are interested in excited about things
interested in excited about things
interested in excited about things because we’ve seen them sing they’re
because we’ve seen them sing they’re
because we’ve seen them sing they’re just so excited we know kids we can pick
just so excited we know kids we can pick
just so excited we know kids we can pick up on when kids love something because
up on when kids love something because
up on when kids love something because that is the moment where they get their
that is the moment where they get their
that is the moment where they get their Dancy pants on and they talk and run in
Dancy pants on and they talk and run in
Dancy pants on and they talk and run in sentences and their great big paragraphs
sentences and their great big paragraphs
sentences and their great big paragraphs that never seem to end because they’re
that never seem to end because they’re
that never seem to end because they’re so excited about things pick up on those
so excited about things pick up on those
so excited about things pick up on those what are you interested in what’s that
what are you interested in what’s that
what are you interested in what’s that thing what’s got you so excited those
thing what’s got you so excited those
thing what’s got you so excited those conversations you can help continue by
conversations you can help continue by
conversations you can help continue by simply saying and and and keep that
simply saying and and and keep that
simply saying and and and keep that conversation going and what else and I
conversation going and what else and I
conversation going and what else and I let those conversations go to the their
let those conversations go to the their
let those conversations go to the their normal end and then the last stage of
normal end and then the last stage of
normal end and then the last stage of the youn formula is the part that I
the youn formula is the part that I
the youn formula is the part that I think truly solidifies in that child’s
think truly solidifies in that child’s
think truly solidifies in that child’s heart that you care about them what’s
heart that you care about them what’s
heart that you care about them what’s next what’s next for you what happens
next what’s next for you what happens
next what’s next for you what happens when you leave this place what’s the
when you leave this place what’s the
when you leave this place what’s the next project you want to do on this
next project you want to do on this
next project you want to do on this topic where are what book you’re looking
topic where are what book you’re looking
topic where are what book you’re looking forward to reading to next as an adult
forward to reading to next as an adult
forward to reading to next as an adult what you’re showing to a kid is I care
what you’re showing to a kid is I care
what you’re showing to a kid is I care about this little moment that we’re
about this little moment that we’re
about this little moment that we’re having right
having right
having right now but by saying what’s next we say to
now but by saying what’s next we say to
now but by saying what’s next we say to that child I care about your future I
that child I care about your future I
that child I care about your future I care about more than this little
care about more than this little
care about more than this little exchange right now I care about what
exchange right now I care about what
exchange right now I care about what happens to tomorrow the next day then
happens to tomorrow the next day then
happens to tomorrow the next day then next week the next summer
next week the next summer
next week the next summer so remember interesting and next this
so remember interesting and next this
so remember interesting and next this gentleman’s name is Scott Sinclair and
gentleman’s name is Scott Sinclair and
gentleman’s name is Scott Sinclair and he was the camp director when I finally
he was the camp director when I finally
he was the camp director when I finally did become a counselor at Camp kintel so
did become a counselor at Camp kintel so
did become a counselor at Camp kintel so II McClain was my first counselor my
II McClain was my first counselor my
II McClain was my first counselor my counselor that gave me the speech but
counselor that gave me the speech but
counselor that gave me the speech but Scott said something to me at camp as
Scott said something to me at camp as
Scott said something to me at camp as well in the same way that Ian did this
well in the same way that Ian did this
well in the same way that Ian did this was a moment where I really needed
was a moment where I really needed
was a moment where I really needed something from an adult that I looked up
something from an adult that I looked up
something from an adult that I looked up to he didn’t know that but he was
to he didn’t know that but he was
to he didn’t know that but he was willing to give it anyway and it’s had
willing to give it anyway and it’s had
willing to give it anyway and it’s had an impact on me
an impact on me
an impact on me so during a performance evaluation Scott
so during a performance evaluation Scott
so during a performance evaluation Scott said to me Travis people like us really
said to me Travis people like us really
said to me Travis people like us really need to do things that surprise others
need to do things that surprise others
need to do things that surprise others that blow away other people’s
that blow away other people’s
that blow away other people’s expectations so maybe we don’t actually
expectations so maybe we don’t actually
expectations so maybe we don’t actually go on to secondary school
go on to secondary school
go on to secondary school maybe we travel instead maybe we work
maybe we travel instead maybe we work
maybe we travel instead maybe we work flipping burgers
flipping burgers
flipping burgers maybe we work in a factory but we need
maybe we work in a factory but we need
maybe we work in a factory but we need to do stuff people like us need to do
to do stuff people like us need to do
to do stuff people like us need to do projects like this because it helps us
projects like this because it helps us
projects like this because it helps us be more empathetic leaders
be more empathetic leaders
be more empathetic leaders it helps have more empathy for the
it helps have more empathy for the
it helps have more empathy for the people that we work for so great advice
people that we work for so great advice
people that we work for so great advice from Scott I’ve obviously never
from Scott I’ve obviously never
from Scott I’ve obviously never forgotten it but the magic of that
forgotten it but the magic of that
forgotten it but the magic of that conversation to me was when he said
conversation to me was when he said
conversation to me was when he said Travis people like us this man that I
Travis people like us this man that I
Travis people like us this man that I looked up to this man that I respected
looked up to this man that I respected
looked up to this man that I respected this man who had my dream job said
this man who had my dream job said
this man who had my dream job said people like us he was signaling to me I
people like us he was signaling to me I
people like us he was signaling to me I was like him and because Scott Sinclair
was like him and because Scott Sinclair
was like him and because Scott Sinclair said people like us I have worked around
said people like us I have worked around
said people like us I have worked around the world teaching leadership to adults
the world teaching leadership to adults
the world teaching leadership to adults and kids around the world because he
and kids around the world because he
and kids around the world because he said that I am calm and collected in
said that I am calm and collected in
said that I am calm and collected in emergencies because he changed the way I
emergencies because he changed the way I
emergencies because he changed the way I saw myself because he said that I was
saw myself because he said that I was
saw myself because he said that I was able to get up and lead silly songs in
able to get up and lead silly songs in
able to get up and lead silly songs in front of a couple of hundred people with
front of a couple of hundred people with
front of a couple of hundred people with no problem whatsoever
no problem whatsoever
no problem whatsoever because Scott said that because he said
because Scott said that because he said
because Scott said that because he said people like us I’ve been able to go
people like us I’ve been able to go
people like us I’ve been able to go around the world training people to
around the world training people to
around the world training people to build communities where we notice and
build communities where we notice and
build communities where we notice and appreciate each child because in said
appreciate each child because in said
appreciate each child because in said that because Marian said that and
that because Marian said that and
that because Marian said that and because Scott said that I also was able
because Scott said that I also was able
because Scott said that I also was able to find somebody in fact more than one
to find somebody in fact more than one
to find somebody in fact more than one and say to them you know you will be a
and say to them you know you will be a
and say to them you know you will be a great camp counselor and that’s the
great camp counselor and that’s the
great camp counselor and that’s the power of one
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