how many of you guys have been in love before by show of hands
before by show of hands
before by show of hands alright alright that’s wonderful
alright alright that’s wonderful
alright alright that’s wonderful wonderful alright so here I am I had met
wonderful alright so here I am I had met
wonderful alright so here I am I had met this incredible an amazing man he would
this incredible an amazing man he would
this incredible an amazing man he would do absolutely anything for me but he
do absolutely anything for me but he
do absolutely anything for me but he made a few fatal mistakes
made a few fatal mistakes
made a few fatal mistakes and because of that and because of that
and because of that and because of that
and because of that and because of that I found myself needing to walk away from
I found myself needing to walk away from
I found myself needing to walk away from him now that was probably the best thing
him now that was probably the best thing
him now that was probably the best thing that I could have ever done not from the
that I could have ever done not from the
that I could have ever done not from the perspective of me not being with him but
perspective of me not being with him but
perspective of me not being with him but because that breakup caused me so much
because that breakup caused me so much
because that breakup caused me so much heartache that I was sitting in my room
heartache that I was sitting in my room
heartache that I was sitting in my room on my bed and I was in tears I was in a
on my bed and I was in tears I was in a
on my bed and I was in tears I was in a state of depression I literally shut
state of depression I literally shut
state of depression I literally shut down for three days because even though
down for three days because even though
down for three days because even though I was the one who needed to walk away it
I was the one who needed to walk away it
I was the one who needed to walk away it still left me with this sense of
still left me with this sense of
still left me with this sense of brokenness and because I felt like a
brokenness and because I felt like a
brokenness and because I felt like a part of me still needed to be healed I
part of me still needed to be healed I
part of me still needed to be healed I lamented for three days and when I
lamented for three days and when I
lamented for three days and when I emerged from that room I was relieved
emerged from that room I was relieved
emerged from that room I was relieved but I could not emerge before I heard
but I could not emerge before I heard
but I could not emerge before I heard the voice of God
the voice of God
the voice of God and he took and he literally took a
and he took and he literally took a
and he took and he literally took a full-size mirror and put it in front of
full-size mirror and put it in front of
full-size mirror and put it in front of me has anybody ever stood in the mirror
me has anybody ever stood in the mirror
me has anybody ever stood in the mirror and a full sized mirror neck
and a full sized mirror neck
and a full sized mirror neck it’s not cute you see all of the dimples
it’s not cute you see all of the dimples
it’s not cute you see all of the dimples you see every little fat pocket you see
you see every little fat pocket you see
you see every little fat pocket you see everything that you really don’t want to
everything that you really don’t want to
everything that you really don’t want to see so my experience is what I call my
see so my experience is what I call my
see so my experience is what I call my awakening it was when God showed me to
awakening it was when God showed me to
awakening it was when God showed me to myself when he showed me my attitudes
myself when he showed me my attitudes
myself when he showed me my attitudes and every egregious thing that I had
and every egregious thing that I had
and every egregious thing that I had ever done and I said oh that’s enough
ever done and I said oh that’s enough
ever done and I said oh that’s enough right there to keep you in a state of
right there to keep you in a state of
right there to keep you in a state of perpetual depression but guess what it
perpetual depression but guess what it
perpetual depression but guess what it gave me a sense of peace and while it
gave me a sense of peace and while it
gave me a sense of peace and while it didn’t make me feel good at first I had
didn’t make me feel good at first I had
didn’t make me feel good at first I had this deep sense that I was being going
this deep sense that I was being going
this deep sense that I was being going to break through to the next level in my
to break through to the next level in my
to break through to the next level in my life because I had seen what I couldn’t
life because I had seen what I couldn’t
life because I had seen what I couldn’t see before I could not see myself and so
see before I could not see myself and so
see before I could not see myself and so what this what this did this breakup
what this what this did this breakup
what this what this did this breakup literally changed my life because it
literally changed my life because it
literally changed my life because it made me go deep down into myself and so
made me go deep down into myself and so
made me go deep down into myself and so love in and of itself it’s so vitally
love in and of itself it’s so vitally
love in and of itself it’s so vitally important for all of us because it is
important for all of us because it is
important for all of us because it is only when we love deeply that there is a
only when we love deeply that there is a
only when we love deeply that there is a shift or a change in our behavior love
shift or a change in our behavior love
shift or a change in our behavior love will cause you to do things differently
will cause you to do things differently
will cause you to do things differently when you lose but on the other side of
when you lose but on the other side of
when you lose but on the other side of that love all so one of the things well
that love all so one of the things well
that love all so one of the things well there’s a few of the things that I had
there’s a few of the things that I had
there’s a few of the things that I had to do in order for me to change one of
to do in order for me to change one of
to do in order for me to change one of the first things I had to do was to
the first things I had to do was to
the first things I had to do was to surrender I had to surrender all that I
surrender I had to surrender all that I
surrender I had to surrender all that I thought I knew about love and
thought I knew about love and
thought I knew about love and relationships
relationships
relationships I had to put it down because it was no
I had to put it down because it was no
I had to put it down because it was no longer serving me my mindset was twisted
longer serving me my mindset was twisted
longer serving me my mindset was twisted to say the least I had learned what love
to say the least I had learned what love
to say the least I had learned what love was from watching my family my friends
was from watching my family my friends
was from watching my family my friends broken marriages broken relationships I
broken marriages broken relationships I
broken marriages broken relationships I had watched others as well as myself
had watched others as well as myself
had watched others as well as myself wrote temper tantrums in order to get
wrote temper tantrums in order to get
wrote temper tantrums in order to get their way I had watched myself and
their way I had watched myself and
their way I had watched myself and others try to control what other people
others try to control what other people
others try to control what other people were going to do and what they were
were going to do and what they were
were going to do and what they were going to say and how they were going to
going to say and how they were going to
going to say and how they were going to be for crying out loud but when I
be for crying out loud but when I
be for crying out loud but when I surrendered all that I thought I knew
surrendered all that I thought I knew
surrendered all that I thought I knew when I allowed myself to give it all
when I allowed myself to give it all
when I allowed myself to give it all away was when I first began to get free
away was when I first began to get free
away was when I first began to get free that’s when everything started to flow
that’s when everything started to flow
that’s when everything started to flow in my life when I realized that I needed
in my life when I realized that I needed
in my life when I realized that I needed to forgive myself for every mistake that
to forgive myself for every mistake that
to forgive myself for every mistake that I had made when I realized that I needed
I had made when I realized that I needed
I had made when I realized that I needed to forgive everybody in my life who had
to forgive everybody in my life who had
to forgive everybody in my life who had ever heard me they helped to create this
ever heard me they helped to create this
ever heard me they helped to create this person that I am but I went along
person that I am but I went along
person that I am but I went along willingly so I did have to go back and –
willingly so I did have to go back and –
willingly so I did have to go back and – some even apologized I said I’m so sorry
some even apologized I said I’m so sorry
some even apologized I said I’m so sorry that I wasn’t better to you but now that
that I wasn’t better to you but now that
that I wasn’t better to you but now that I know better please accept my apology
I know better please accept my apology
I know better please accept my apology now I know a lot of you probably
now I know a lot of you probably
now I know a lot of you probably wouldn’t go that far but you understand
wouldn’t go that far but you understand
wouldn’t go that far but you understand I am alone in relationships coach so I
I am alone in relationships coach so I
I am alone in relationships coach so I needed to get myself together before I
needed to get myself together before I
needed to get myself together before I can really operate fully and completely
can really operate fully and completely
can really operate fully and completely because this is what I have determined
because this is what I have determined
because this is what I have determined perfect love is the ability to put down
perfect love is the ability to put down
perfect love is the ability to put down your will for the sake of others to not
your will for the sake of others to not
your will for the sake of others to not try to control or manipulate to try to
try to control or manipulate to try to
try to control or manipulate to try to operate in total servitude and surrender
operate in total servitude and surrender
operate in total servitude and surrender never feeling the need to be bigger than
never feeling the need to be bigger than
never feeling the need to be bigger than what you try to prove just let people be
what you try to prove just let people be
what you try to prove just let people be and love them where they are I needed to
and love them where they are I needed to
and love them where they are I needed to understand
understand
understand that love is a state of being it’s not
that love is a state of being it’s not
that love is a state of being it’s not something that you feel as much as it is
something that you feel as much as it is
something that you feel as much as it is something that you do and all of this
something that you do and all of this
something that you do and all of this time I have been feeling my way through
time I have been feeling my way through
time I have been feeling my way through all of my relationships so I’m gonna go
all of my relationships so I’m gonna go
all of my relationships so I’m gonna go back to my little list one of which was
back to my little list one of which was
back to my little list one of which was surrender that’s the first thing I need
surrender that’s the first thing I need
surrender that’s the first thing I need to do and so I did that I started
to do and so I did that I started
to do and so I did that I started letting everything go it’s not that
letting everything go it’s not that
letting everything go it’s not that serious I love you more than I care
serious I love you more than I care
serious I love you more than I care about any infraction I want to keep you
about any infraction I want to keep you
about any infraction I want to keep you in my life and I love you because you
in my life and I love you because you
in my life and I love you because you are you and you add value to me then
are you and you add value to me then
are you and you add value to me then I’ve had to accept myself with all of my
I’ve had to accept myself with all of my
I’ve had to accept myself with all of my flaws and everything that I had ever
flaws and everything that I had ever
flaws and everything that I had ever done
I had to forgive myself for what I
I had to forgive myself for what I allowed to happen in my life and I had
allowed to happen in my life and I had
allowed to happen in my life and I had to get clarity about who and what I
to get clarity about who and what I
to get clarity about who and what I wanted for my life that’s what brought
wanted for my life that’s what brought
wanted for my life that’s what brought me to this place of love because once I
me to this place of love because once I
me to this place of love because once I was able to define what love was and
was able to define what love was and
was able to define what love was and what love is for me
what love is for me
what love is for me I was able to give love more freely than
I was able to give love more freely than
I was able to give love more freely than I had ever given it before I’m gonna
I had ever given it before I’m gonna
I had ever given it before I’m gonna tell you a little story I was sitting in
tell you a little story I was sitting in
tell you a little story I was sitting in church one Sunday many years ago that my
church one Sunday many years ago that my
church one Sunday many years ago that my pastor was preaching about Moses and the
pastor was preaching about Moses and the
pastor was preaching about Moses and the Pharaoh everybody knows that story and I
Pharaoh everybody knows that story and I
Pharaoh everybody knows that story and I know that everybody in this room
know that everybody in this room
know that everybody in this room understood that Moses stood there and
understood that Moses stood there and
understood that Moses stood there and said let my people go so I’m sitting in
said let my people go so I’m sitting in
said let my people go so I’m sitting in church as most people do and I
church as most people do and I
church as most people do and I automatically equate myself to Moses as
automatically equate myself to Moses as
automatically equate myself to Moses as within the character because I need it
within the character because I need it
within the character because I need it to be free right so I actually went home
to be free right so I actually went home
to be free right so I actually went home I bought the tape I bought the tape it
I bought the tape I bought the tape it
I bought the tape I bought the tape it was that long ago with the tape whether
was that long ago with the tape whether
was that long ago with the tape whether the CD right okay
the CD right okay
the CD right okay so I’ve got to take home you know
so I’ve got to take home you know
so I’ve got to take home you know usually when I’m doing my Friday or
usually when I’m doing my Friday or
usually when I’m doing my Friday or Saturday evening I’m cleaning the good
Saturday evening I’m cleaning the good
Saturday evening I’m cleaning the good word and it was good and good maybe like
word and it was good and good maybe like
word and it was good and good maybe like a year or so and all of a sudden I
a year or so and all of a sudden I
a year or so and all of a sudden I stopped seeing myself as the Moses in
stopped seeing myself as the Moses in
stopped seeing myself as the Moses in the story I started to see myself as a
the story I started to see myself as a
the story I started to see myself as a pharaoh you guys know what that’s like
pharaoh you guys know what that’s like
pharaoh you guys know what that’s like my goodness I said to myself my goodness
my goodness I said to myself my goodness
my goodness I said to myself my goodness has my heart
has my heart
has my heart thoughts people become so hardened that
thoughts people become so hardened that
thoughts people become so hardened that I put myself in a position that I’ve
I put myself in a position that I’ve
I put myself in a position that I’ve erected so many fences that I don’t know
erected so many fences that I don’t know
erected so many fences that I don’t know how to love that took me to this place
how to love that took me to this place
how to love that took me to this place so when I gain clarity about Who I am
so when I gain clarity about Who I am
so when I gain clarity about Who I am about who I want to be I had to choose
about who I want to be I had to choose
about who I want to be I had to choose love
love
love I give love everywhere I go and it rises
I give love everywhere I go and it rises
I give love everywhere I go and it rises to greet me I greet people with a
to greet me I greet people with a
to greet me I greet people with a beautiful warm smile I say hello when I
beautiful warm smile I say hello when I
beautiful warm smile I say hello when I see them I look them in the eye because
see them I look them in the eye because
see them I look them in the eye because I understand that we are all connected
I understand that we are all connected
I understand that we are all connected and the truth of the matter is at the
and the truth of the matter is at the
and the truth of the matter is at the end of the day no matter what happens no
end of the day no matter what happens no
end of the day no matter what happens no matter what no matter how much vile
matter what no matter how much vile
matter what no matter how much vile hatred is out here in this world love
hatred is out here in this world love
hatred is out here in this world love always wins it always
always wins it always
always wins it always [Applause]
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