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The Path to Equality | Caroline Codsi | TEDxMontrealWomen


there can be no peace without justice it

there can be no peace without justice it is not only true in areas of this world

is not only true in areas of this world

is not only true in areas of this world with armed conflict it is also true in

with armed conflict it is also true in

with armed conflict it is also true in our society why should we accept in

our society why should we accept in

our society why should we accept in justices ever summon justices are so

justices ever summon justices are so

justices ever summon justices are so rooted in our society we have become

rooted in our society we have become

rooted in our society we have become completely blind to them and tend to

completely blind to them and tend to

completely blind to them and tend to think that there’s nothing that we can

think that there’s nothing that we can

think that there’s nothing that we can do about them and if there were well

do about them and if there were well

do about them and if there were well that somebody else would figure it out

that somebody else would figure it out

that somebody else would figure it out for us well if everyone thinks this way

for us well if everyone thinks this way

for us well if everyone thinks this way how are we ever going to progress I

how are we ever going to progress I

how are we ever going to progress I began my quest for justice at a very

began my quest for justice at a very

began my quest for justice at a very young age when our family circumstances

young age when our family circumstances

young age when our family circumstances changed drastically because of a

changed drastically because of a

changed drastically because of a terrible thing called war it was 1975 I

terrible thing called war it was 1975 I

terrible thing called war it was 1975 I was only seven years old and too young

was only seven years old and too young

was only seven years old and too young to understand how what seemed to be only

to understand how what seemed to be only

to understand how what seemed to be only sectarian tensions turned into a

sectarian tensions turned into a

sectarian tensions turned into a full-scale civil war that lasted more

full-scale civil war that lasted more

full-scale civil war that lasted more than 15 years in Lebanon it is at that

than 15 years in Lebanon it is at that

than 15 years in Lebanon it is at that time that I first realized how a

time that I first realized how a

time that I first realized how a powerful group of individuals could have

powerful group of individuals could have

powerful group of individuals could have a say on the lives of millions of people

a say on the lives of millions of people

a say on the lives of millions of people how they were going to live where they

how they were going to live where they

how they were going to live where they were going to live were they even going

were going to live were they even going

were going to live were they even going to live I will not get into the details

to live I will not get into the details

to live I will not get into the details of one of the most complex conflicts of

of one of the most complex conflicts of

of one of the most complex conflicts of modern history it is also one of the

modern history it is also one of the

modern history it is also one of the most covered by the media worldwide but

most covered by the media worldwide but

most covered by the media worldwide but let’s just say that like in any conflict

let’s just say that like in any conflict

let’s just say that like in any conflict it is the civilian population who

it is the civilian population who

it is the civilian population who suffered the most and had the least to

suffered the most and had the least to

suffered the most and had the least to say a handful of decision-makers had

say a handful of decision-makers had

say a handful of decision-makers had full control and brought the country to

full control and brought the country to

full control and brought the country to its knees we used to hear about

its knees we used to hear about

its knees we used to hear about airstrikes dead wounded invasions

airstrikes dead wounded invasions

airstrikes dead wounded invasions withdrawals change of Allegiance

withdrawals change of Allegiance

withdrawals change of Allegiance betrayals end of a ceasefire these were

betrayals end of a ceasefire these were

betrayals end of a ceasefire these were the words that we heard the most during

the words that we heard the most during

the words that we heard the most during our childhood not amusement parks

our childhood not amusement parks

our childhood not amusement parks picnics or birthday parties the war

picnics or birthday parties the war

picnics or birthday parties the war lasted more than 15 years and ended at

lasted more than 15 years and ended at

lasted more than 15 years and ended at the end of 1990 resulting in massive

the end of 1990 resulting in massive

the end of 1990 resulting in massive loss of human life and infrastructure

loss of human life and infrastructure

loss of human life and infrastructure while devastating the country’s economy

while devastating the country’s economy

while devastating the country’s economy it is estimated that a hundred and fifty

it is estimated that a hundred and fifty

it is estimated that a hundred and fifty thousand people were killed and another

thousand people were killed and another

thousand people were killed and another 200 thousand wounded nearly a million

200 thousand wounded nearly a million

200 thousand wounded nearly a million civilians were displaced by the war and

civilians were displaced by the war and

civilians were displaced by the war and some never returned to this day

some never returned to this day

some never returned to this day Lebanon’s political system continues to

Lebanon’s political system continues to

Lebanon’s political system continues to be divided along sectarian lines during

be divided along sectarian lines during

be divided along sectarian lines during that time the little girl who already

that time the little girl who already

that time the little girl who already had a very strong understanding of the

had a very strong understanding of the

had a very strong understanding of the difference between wrong and right

difference between wrong and right

difference between wrong and right who was forming her own set of beliefs

who was forming her own set of beliefs

who was forming her own set of beliefs and values was beginning to build up

and values was beginning to build up

and values was beginning to build up anger against these adults who were

anger against these adults who were

anger against these adults who were behaving in such disappointing and

behaving in such disappointing and

behaving in such disappointing and erratic ways as I was growing up I

erratic ways as I was growing up I

erratic ways as I was growing up I started observing some injustice around

started observing some injustice around

started observing some injustice around me and some still follow me to this day

me and some still follow me to this day

me and some still follow me to this day the first thing that hit me at the time

the first thing that hit me at the time

the first thing that hit me at the time was the violence and discrimination

was the violence and discrimination

was the violence and discrimination against the hired help

against the hired help

against the hired help in Lebanon most not to say all families

in Lebanon most not to say all families

in Lebanon most not to say all families from middle to upper-class have one or

from middle to upper-class have one or

from middle to upper-class have one or more maids usually from either the

more maids usually from either the

more maids usually from either the Philippines or Sri Lanka women would

Philippines or Sri Lanka women would

Philippines or Sri Lanka women would spend years in Lebanon working every

spend years in Lebanon working every

spend years in Lebanon working every hour of every day they would send most

hour of every day they would send most

hour of every day they would send most of their wages to care for an aging

of their wages to care for an aging

of their wages to care for an aging child a family member in need back home

child a family member in need back home

child a family member in need back home unbelievable sense of sacrifice had

unbelievable sense of sacrifice had

unbelievable sense of sacrifice had about the same magnitude as the selfish

about the same magnitude as the selfish

about the same magnitude as the selfish sense of entitlement that the families

sense of entitlement that the families

sense of entitlement that the families that were working for demonstrated every

that were working for demonstrated every

that were working for demonstrated every family member even the youngest child

family member even the youngest child

family member even the youngest child behaved as if that woman was their

behaved as if that woman was their

behaved as if that woman was their property not a property that you would

property not a property that you would

property not a property that you would cherish her protect no a property that

cherish her protect no a property that

cherish her protect no a property that you would you n abuse some of these

you would you n abuse some of these

you would you n abuse some of these women were raped beaten had their

women were raped beaten had their

women were raped beaten had their passports confiscated and some ended up

passports confiscated and some ended up

passports confiscated and some ended up enrolled in modern-day slavery

enrolled in modern-day slavery

enrolled in modern-day slavery how could these bosses think that any

how could these bosses think that any

how could these bosses think that any human deserved to have their rights

human deserved to have their rights

human deserved to have their rights taken away the right to a decent life to

taken away the right to a decent life to

taken away the right to a decent life to dignity to building a future to getting

dignity to building a future to getting

dignity to building a future to getting a day off once in a while to traveling

a day off once in a while to traveling

a day off once in a while to traveling back home to see those very people they

back home to see those very people they

back home to see those very people they were making all those sacrifices for

were making all those sacrifices for

were making all those sacrifices for instead they were only left serving one

instead they were only left serving one

instead they were only left serving one family

family

family at the cost of their freedom and

at the cost of their freedom and

at the cost of their freedom and physical and mental health as I was

physical and mental health as I was

physical and mental health as I was maturing I continued observing around me

maturing I continued observing around me

maturing I continued observing around me other as misses and what I noticed was

other as misses and what I noticed was

other as misses and what I noticed was that those who were the most

that those who were the most

that those who were the most discriminated against in the society

discriminated against in the society

discriminated against in the society were women a Lebanese woman cannot give

were women a Lebanese woman cannot give

were women a Lebanese woman cannot give the Lebanese citizenship to her foreign

the Lebanese citizenship to her foreign

the Lebanese citizenship to her foreign husband or children but a Lebanese man

husband or children but a Lebanese man

husband or children but a Lebanese man can of course what we arrested and put

can of course what we arrested and put

can of course what we arrested and put in prison for a period ranging between

in prison for a period ranging between

in prison for a period ranging between two months and two years if commits

two months and two years if commits

two months and two years if commits adultery only wants her male partner in

adultery only wants her male partner in

adultery only wants her male partner in the same act is not arrested unless he

the same act is not arrested unless he

the same act is not arrested unless he performs the act in his marital home

performs the act in his marital home

performs the act in his marital home with a woman who is his permanent

with a woman who is his permanent

with a woman who is his permanent mistress and has had written

mistress and has had written

mistress and has had written correspondence with that woman and the

correspondence with that woman and the

correspondence with that woman and the correspondence is found of course now if

correspondence is found of course now if

correspondence is found of course now if all those points are miraculously met

all those points are miraculously met

all those points are miraculously met his imprisonment period will still be

his imprisonment period will still be

his imprisonment period will still be only half of the woman’s these are only

only half of the woman’s these are only

only half of the woman’s these are only some examples while I was pondering what

some examples while I was pondering what

some examples while I was pondering what seemed to be in my opinion nothing but

seemed to be in my opinion nothing but

seemed to be in my opinion nothing but sheer madness I started having a distant

sheer madness I started having a distant

sheer madness I started having a distant dream that in the Western civilization

dream that in the Western civilization

dream that in the Western civilization all motions of unfair treatment of women

all motions of unfair treatment of women

all motions of unfair treatment of women in equality or injustice would be

in equality or injustice would be

in equality or injustice would be banished I was convinced when I arrived

banished I was convinced when I arrived

banished I was convinced when I arrived in a beautiful and peaceful land called

in a beautiful and peaceful land called

in a beautiful and peaceful land called Canada that the young feminists that

Canada that the young feminists that

Canada that the young feminists that were stemming in me would finally be

were stemming in me would finally be

were stemming in me would finally be relieved and have her no more battles to

relieved and have her no more battles to

relieved and have her no more battles to fight

fight

fight I quickly realized that my view is way

I quickly realized that my view is way

I quickly realized that my view is way too idealistic and what was closer to

too idealistic and what was closer to

too idealistic and what was closer to the truth was eight out of ten victims

the truth was eight out of ten victims

the truth was eight out of ten victims of violent crimes are women worldwide

of violent crimes are women worldwide

of violent crimes are women worldwide more than one out of three women have

more than one out of three women have

more than one out of three women have experienced physical or sexual violence

experienced physical or sexual violence

experienced physical or sexual violence in their lifetime

in their lifetime

in their lifetime those who are supposed to love protect

those who are supposed to love protect

those who are supposed to love protect and cherish these women their intimate

and cherish these women their intimate

and cherish these women their intimate partners commit 38 percent of their

partners commit 38 percent of their

partners commit 38 percent of their murders the United Nations declared that

murders the United Nations declared that

murders the United Nations declared that violence against women and girls is a

violence against women and girls is a

violence against women and girls is a problem of pandemic proportions

problem of pandemic proportions

problem of pandemic proportions I felt once again so helpless but I

I felt once again so helpless but I

I felt once again so helpless but I decided to take the negative energy the

decided to take the negative energy the

decided to take the negative energy the negative feelings and the anger that was

negative feelings and the anger that was

negative feelings and the anger that was bottled up in me during all those years

bottled up in me during all those years

bottled up in me during all those years of war and channeled my energy in a

of war and channeled my energy in a

of war and channeled my energy in a positive fashion to help make a

positive fashion to help make a

positive fashion to help make a difference in the lives of women who had

difference in the lives of women who had

difference in the lives of women who had nothing left but a glimpse of hope for

nothing left but a glimpse of hope for

nothing left but a glimpse of hope for the past 15 years and until this day I

the past 15 years and until this day I

the past 15 years and until this day I have been heavily involved on boards and

have been heavily involved on boards and

have been heavily involved on boards and committees of three different women’s

committees of three different women’s

committees of three different women’s shelters who catered to the needs of

shelters who catered to the needs of

shelters who catered to the needs of women ranging from those battling

women ranging from those battling

women ranging from those battling addictions and homelessness to those who

addictions and homelessness to those who

addictions and homelessness to those who need our support for job hunting skills

need our support for job hunting skills

need our support for job hunting skills and housing many of these women are

and housing many of these women are

and housing many of these women are running away from domestic violence

running away from domestic violence

running away from domestic violence trying to put their life back on track

trying to put their life back on track

trying to put their life back on track rebuilding themselves both physically

rebuilding themselves both physically

rebuilding themselves both physically and emotionally our support allows these

and emotionally our support allows these

and emotionally our support allows these women to come out of their isolation

women to come out of their isolation

women to come out of their isolation regain their children’s custody and find

regain their children’s custody and find

regain their children’s custody and find stability and balance in their lives

stability and balance in their lives

stability and balance in their lives what I have discovered in the process is

what I have discovered in the process is

what I have discovered in the process is that many of these women have actually

that many of these women have actually

that many of these women have actually completed high school some even went to

completed high school some even went to

completed high school some even went to university and all the way to the

university and all the way to the

university and all the way to the master’s level regardless of

master’s level regardless of

master’s level regardless of socioeconomic status nobody is immune in

socioeconomic status nobody is immune in

socioeconomic status nobody is immune in parallel to all this my own insertion in

parallel to all this my own insertion in

parallel to all this my own insertion in the Quebec Society was going wonderfully

the Quebec Society was going wonderfully

the Quebec Society was going wonderfully well I very quickly climbed the ladder

well I very quickly climbed the ladder

well I very quickly climbed the ladder in the corporate world and discovered

in the corporate world and discovered

in the corporate world and discovered that even women who seem to be powerful

that even women who seem to be powerful

that even women who seem to be powerful and have it all we’re also discriminated

and have it all we’re also discriminated

and have it all we’re also discriminated against although they can post 52% of

against although they can post 52% of

against although they can post 52% of the population only 5% of women are CEOs

the population only 5% of women are CEOs

the population only 5% of women are CEOs and only 15.9% sit on boards

and only 15.9% sit on boards

and only 15.9% sit on boards these statistics are alarming and it is

these statistics are alarming and it is

these statistics are alarming and it is everyone’s responsibility both men and

everyone’s responsibility both men and

everyone’s responsibility both men and women to make a change not only because

women to make a change not only because

women to make a change not only because it is the ethical thing to do but

it is the ethical thing to do but

it is the ethical thing to do but because companies with a greater number

because companies with a greater number

because companies with a greater number of women at the executive level around

of women at the executive level around

of women at the executive level around the board’s tend to perform better

the board’s tend to perform better

the board’s tend to perform better financially there’s actually nothing

financially there’s actually nothing

financially there’s actually nothing more powerful than men and women who put

more powerful than men and women who put

more powerful than men and women who put their brains and visions together to

their brains and visions together to

their brains and visions together to achieve results no matter the age origin

achieve results no matter the age origin

achieve results no matter the age origin occupation or education all women are

occupation or education all women are

occupation or education all women are impacted by the gender wage gap and earn

impacted by the gender wage gap and earn

impacted by the gender wage gap and earn an average seventy two cents for every

an average seventy two cents for every

an average seventy two cents for every dollar earned by men in the u.s. the top

dollar earned by men in the u.s. the top

dollar earned by men in the u.s. the top two highest-paid male CEOs make more

two highest-paid male CEOs make more

two highest-paid male CEOs make more than the top 10 highest paid female CEOs

than the top 10 highest paid female CEOs

than the top 10 highest paid female CEOs put together a few people realize the

put together a few people realize the

put together a few people realize the magnitude of the gender wage gap and

magnitude of the gender wage gap and

magnitude of the gender wage gap and many think that at least at the start

many think that at least at the start

many think that at least at the start line everyone is equal

line everyone is equal

line everyone is equal well even that is false male dishwashers

well even that is false male dishwashers

well even that is false male dishwashers make an average 20% more than female

make an average 20% more than female

make an average 20% more than female dishwashers now can someone explain that

dishwashers now can someone explain that

dishwashers now can someone explain that to me

yet I regularly get told that it should

yet I regularly get told that it should stop talking about the gender equality

stop talking about the gender equality

stop talking about the gender equality issue that it’s a waste of time because

issue that it’s a waste of time because

issue that it’s a waste of time because we’ve already reached equality then men

we’ve already reached equality then men

we’ve already reached equality then men and women have the same chances in life

and women have the same chances in life

and women have the same chances in life and that I’m completely outdated these

and that I’m completely outdated these

and that I’m completely outdated these people tell me I should get with the

people tell me I should get with the

people tell me I should get with the program and look around me women are

program and look around me women are

program and look around me women are strong powerful and have made it when I

strong powerful and have made it when I

strong powerful and have made it when I explained the situation to them they’re

explained the situation to them they’re

explained the situation to them they’re surprised as striking as they realized

surprised as striking as they realized

surprised as striking as they realized they had only scratched the surface and

they had only scratched the surface and

they had only scratched the surface and that reality is actually a lot crueler

that reality is actually a lot crueler

that reality is actually a lot crueler towards women than they thought they

towards women than they thought they

towards women than they thought they they quickly become a strong supporter

they quickly become a strong supporter

they quickly become a strong supporter of the cause the current pool of

of the cause the current pool of

of the cause the current pool of talented women in the business force

talented women in the business force

talented women in the business force with business skills experience and

with business skills experience and

with business skills experience and education far exceeds their

education far exceeds their

education far exceeds their representation at the highest levels in

representation at the highest levels in

representation at the highest levels in an attempt to bridge that gap I have

an attempt to bridge that gap I have

an attempt to bridge that gap I have founded in 2010 a not-for-profit to

founded in 2010 a not-for-profit to

founded in 2010 a not-for-profit to encourage women to develop their

encourage women to develop their

encourage women to develop their leadership advance their career and

leadership advance their career and

leadership advance their career and access board seats our team is composed

access board seats our team is composed

access board seats our team is composed of both men and women who strive to

of both men and women who strive to

of both men and women who strive to encourage women to be more empowered

encourage women to be more empowered

encourage women to be more empowered visible and self-confident we sensitize

visible and self-confident we sensitize

visible and self-confident we sensitize corporations to the importance of parity

corporations to the importance of parity

corporations to the importance of parity and the positive impact of parody on

and the positive impact of parody on

and the positive impact of parody on their financial performance under

their financial performance under

their financial performance under branding and on their culture we also

branding and on their culture we also

branding and on their culture we also support them on policies that they need

support them on policies that they need

support them on policies that they need to put in place in order to reach that

to put in place in order to reach that

to put in place in order to reach that parity we encourage male leaders to

parity we encourage male leaders to

parity we encourage male leaders to sponsor these women and accelerate their

sponsor these women and accelerate their

sponsor these women and accelerate their career advancement we collectively

career advancement we collectively

career advancement we collectively reached a level of blatant injustice

reached a level of blatant injustice

reached a level of blatant injustice towards women it’s about time that we

towards women it’s about time that we

towards women it’s about time that we collectively put an end to this absurd

collectively put an end to this absurd

collectively put an end to this absurd situation so that we can be proud of the

situation so that we can be proud of the

situation so that we can be proud of the legacy to our future generations I know

legacy to our future generations I know

legacy to our future generations I know I want to make the little girl who was

I want to make the little girl who was

I want to make the little girl who was angry and disappointed in a bomb shelter

angry and disappointed in a bomb shelter

angry and disappointed in a bomb shelter in Beirut proud of the women that I have

in Beirut proud of the women that I have

in Beirut proud of the women that I have become standing for what she believes in

become standing for what she believes in

become standing for what she believes in and empowering other women to do the

and empowering other women to do the

and empowering other women to do the same together our voices will be

same together our voices will be

same together our voices will be awesome no Watson I told you gbmac

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