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do you know how
builds the psyche of the human being
and at the beginning the child does not exist
or rather he is not conscious
to exist
the psyche will go through several
steps to build your envelope
so from 0 to 3 months is the merger
the undifferentiation the child does not have
awareness of existing as such
is the world as much as the world is him
a bit like his extension he’s the
sea as much as the mother and him and that’s
thanks to a mothering framework
benevolent protecting him from
disillusions too early he’s going
start to differentiate and that’s
about the third month that the child is going
manifest his first contact with
outdoors
the smile then in the second stage
and until the twelfth month through the
more naturally and more often than not to
the presence of a father as a third
separator between mother and child
the child will measure a gap between his
needs and the satisfaction of its
needs
he will then experience the frustration
the lack
he will become aware of his
dependence on the other is what we
calls the anxiety of the 8th month
it’s the second organizers
psychic after the smile
the evidence of this step for
the child and accept that the other than
the setting that his parents are
essential to its survival
and so they have power over him
in this step the frame
the parents have for role not for
function as said winnicott to be
good enough ie neither too much
close or too far from satisfaction
of the needs of the child then it’s towards
the 15th –
what will happen the third and
Last chic daughter of the organizer
name the ability to say no
the ability to resist each other in
affirming itself first through the
salt retention then by extension to
other refusals the child who therefore
measured his dependence on the other goes
also start measuring that he has a
power of satisfaction and
frustration on the other then between 3 and
7 years is the face of the complex
oedipus and without going beyond
allow the integration of what we
call an authentic one about me it’s
Integration of the forbade
limitations
then from 7 to 12 years old it is the
latency phase
it’s a structuring phase
silent a phase 2 of digestion
slow
we can say where the impulses and the
internal conflicts are are put in
suspense and psychic energy is
dedicated more to cultural development
social to the development of thought
logic and all that to get to the
puberty in real teen
finish line of construction
psychoaffective of the subject are in this
phase that some know
maybe in any case we are all
past we resist the frames on
asserts the identity of the psyche
the identity of the human being
built different and resembling
the other so in several stages
the infant has become a subject he
differentiated from the other he has
learned to he learned to bear the
limitations
frustration he built himself his
own identity
he is able to enter the world
and to have his own perception of the world
and that’s why
in addition to its internal resources
the individual needed to meet with
frames meaning departure meaning
sufficiently benevolent wearing love
limit bearers is therefore a carrier of
meaning
ok so let’s remember that and let’s do a
parallel the adult needs to
needs it needs to
satisfy for for to maintain his
mental health to maintain his
psychic balance
we can refer to the theory
western maslow that some
recognize and can evoke
needs of physiological needs
protection security needs
the need for love and belonging
needs of self-realization of steam
of self and despite the claim of
the modern man to want himself
self-sufficient we need
frames around us to answer
to his needs
and yes as the child the adult needs
of security
the adult needs to feel a
sufficiently stable environment
sufficiently reliable enough
predictable protecting him from
disillusionment too violent
and yes like the adult the child like
next day has the opposite as the child
the adult needs to feel that he is doing
part of a whole it’s part of a
together in one set where he has a
place where he is accepted and yes like
the child in the phase of the number
of adults needs to feel that he has a
power of decision – making power
about his existence and about his
environment
so yes I need the framework that
surround me but I need to
resist and this is maybe the
challenge the challenge of being human that
to find that right posture between
accept everything and resist all if
I accept my environment
my part of others if I do not resist
never play
does not exist or then completely
molded within the boundaries of the other
completely melted into the expectations of
the other
to resist is an act of existence
of survival empowerment but if I
resist all I isolate myself I
believe everything powerful
I do not question myself I
refuse all the constraints of my
environment
yes maybe that’s one of our
challenges resist to exist unique
but while staying in the frame
in order to get it up so I got
often asks where we are in
our modern world where we jostle
all the limits of our frames
did we sincerely believe before us
believed that by broadening the framework of
possible did we believe that by depriving
the limits human being he was going
to be happier today
everything works in the quickest the
stronger the more powerful the more the
more and more and yet the subject
modern depresses why that he does it
not always understand
we do not always understand that
see the full mouth even before
to have had time to be hungry us
make lose sense of our existence
we made ourselves insatiable to
force to push the limits of
possible is today the human being
I have the impression that the human being
confines his desires with his needs and
think he has to fulfill his desires
no matter the cost
but it’s true that it lends
confusion because how how
the human being how could we
accept to frustrate some of our
desires while we are the
direct witnesses that the impossible is
possible
we are the direct witnesses
that today we can send
men in space
accessing the infinitely big
today we can run the 100 m in
less than ten seconds acceding l
infinitely fast
today we isolate dna sequences
accessing the infinitely small and
today we can talk we can see
someone on a screen who lives in
20000 km first time buyers alain
accessible and today the human being
modern must accept the limits must
agree to do with his frustration
whereas, as we saw in the
stages of psycho construction
emotional of the child
frustration is not something
that we instinctively learn the
incarcerated men with whom I
am brought to work as a
psychologist are perpetrators of violence
heights of passage to the act
violent as they say and for me these are
examples a type of psyche that
have not encountered a frame
enough meaning enough
benevolent limiting bearer of meaning
is also the prison setting
when it occurs only on
a punishing side is only for me
umpteenth repetition of a loop of the
encounter with a failed executive not
enough meaning ok but I think
that he is he is not necessary
to go to jail to find
the impact of a failing executive on us
individuals for example we will take a
French individual he could say
objectively I’m part of
the universe
I am part of the planet earth I
be part of humanity I do
part of morality I’m part of the
France I am part of the state
French I am part of justice
French I’m part of
the company I work for
I am part of my circle of friends
I am part of my family I do
part of the female sex or
of men
yes they could say that but I
believe that today he could also
to say I’m part of the universe but
today we have become
so powerful that we defined
that there might not be any edge
to this universe finally it’s
completely abstract for me I do not
it’s not how to put it
of meaning yes I’m part of the
planet earth but today
exhausted and parma mistreatment she is
telling me that soon
she will not be able to feed me anymore yes I
be part of humanity
but is it safe to
to be part of humanity when we
notes that the human being can
delete himself yes I’m part
of morality but today I have a
little impression that we do not always have
all the same morality yes I’m part
of France but today we speak
of Europe of bigger whole and
today again this another a
little too abstract I do not know too
on it and I do not know what is my
square
yes I am part of the French state
or French justice but
today with the plethora of
jurisprudence I do not know what are
the limits of law
yes I’m part of the company for
which I work but today
I do not feel understood by my
managers
I’m suspicious of my colleagues and I
strives to do a good job
not to be rejected from the group yes I
be part of my circle of friends it’s
true but today when we get
meet
I have the impression that we miss each other too much
taken by the other circles in the
other concerns and we’re just
want to pour out our evil being in
some yes I’m part of my
family is today what is it
family with all forms
particular she takes I do not know
all too well what is the meaning of
roles of everyone yes I’m part of
the female or the female
male but today I can not
more to define what is specific
to the man is specific to the woman
we human beings need to
frames need frames meaning
you have understood it enough
benevolent enough limiting
bearer of meaning so that we get ourselves there
build and that we exist in
as such and in order to do it
evolve
today we are jostling a lot of
benchmarks which brings to this anguish
latent loss of benchmarks but
let’s not forget one last thing that’s
that life
and made of infinite change it’s
inherent is essential but we
are the creators of these changes
we are the creators of the framework in
which we evolve in the framework in
which we will evolve tomorrow
become responsible actors is
concerned with the changes we
let’s get started by becoming
responsible and concerned parents
our children by bringing them love
limits of meaning let’s express ourselves from
authentic way to each other
we look like the name no matter
so tonight I have gratitude
I have the gratitude to you
to us because through tedx
together and each in the place he
take
we create a sense a favorable meaning
to the evolution of our individualities
and a sense favorable to the evolution of
the set formed by each of
we
thank you
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