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The Formula to Happiness | Sofia Khaledi | TEDxYouth@WIS


I wanted to prepare a speech because I

I wanted to prepare a speech because I have a message to give to people a

have a message to give to people a

have a message to give to people a message that could have a huge impact a

message that could have a huge impact a

message that could have a huge impact a message that could possibly change the

message that could possibly change the

message that could possibly change the world but I spent too much time on my

world but I spent too much time on my

world but I spent too much time on my phone

phone

phone staring at a screen the measure is my

staring at a screen the measure is my

staring at a screen the measure is my worth with a number of likes and

worth with a number of likes and

worth with a number of likes and comments on my latest Instagram posts

comments on my latest Instagram posts

comments on my latest Instagram posts see most teenagers today know more about

see most teenagers today know more about

see most teenagers today know more about iPhone X’s new facial recognition

iPhone X’s new facial recognition

iPhone X’s new facial recognition feature than they do about what Thomas

feature than they do about what Thomas

feature than they do about what Thomas Jefferson did to help draft the

Jefferson did to help draft the

Jefferson did to help draft the Declaration of Independence or how

Declaration of Independence or how

Declaration of Independence or how William Wilberforce fought to end the

William Wilberforce fought to end the

William Wilberforce fought to end the slave trade 72% of teenagers feel the

slave trade 72% of teenagers feel the

slave trade 72% of teenagers feel the need to immediately respond to texts

need to immediately respond to texts

need to immediately respond to texts social networking messages and other

social networking messages and other

social networking messages and other notifications according to a non-profit

notifications according to a non-profit

notifications according to a non-profit addiction research then in 2016

addiction research then in 2016

addiction research then in 2016 researchers provide an average time of 2

researchers provide an average time of 2

researchers provide an average time of 2 hours and 51 minutes that on social

hours and 51 minutes that on social

hours and 51 minutes that on social media everyday that’s about 21 hours a

media everyday that’s about 21 hours a

media everyday that’s about 21 hours a week what see these people like Thomas

week what see these people like Thomas

week what see these people like Thomas Jefferson William Wilberforce Ghandi and

Jefferson William Wilberforce Ghandi and

Jefferson William Wilberforce Ghandi and Steve Jobs or what’s ordinary people

Steve Jobs or what’s ordinary people

Steve Jobs or what’s ordinary people like you and I but if we stop observe

like you and I but if we stop observe

like you and I but if we stop observe and just for a moment reflect on what

and just for a moment reflect on what

and just for a moment reflect on what we’ve done and achieved in our life most

we’ve done and achieved in our life most

we’ve done and achieved in our life most of us haven’t reached our maximum

of us haven’t reached our maximum

of us haven’t reached our maximum potential I want to ask you a question

potential I want to ask you a question

potential I want to ask you a question and I want you to seriously think about

and I want you to seriously think about

and I want you to seriously think about it

it

it what would your day consists of if you

what would your day consists of if you

what would your day consists of if you knew you would die tomorrow I better

knew you would die tomorrow I better

knew you would die tomorrow I better won’t be posting that Instagram picture

won’t be posting that Instagram picture

won’t be posting that Instagram picture and checking your phone every five

and checking your phone every five

and checking your phone every five seconds to see how many likes you’ve got

seconds to see how many likes you’ve got

seconds to see how many likes you’ve got it won’t be studying for that for

it won’t be studying for that for

it won’t be studying for that for success either but that’s a whole other

success either but that’s a whole other

success either but that’s a whole other story

story

story we need to press pause and only press

we need to press pause and only press

we need to press pause and only press play again once we know if that true

play again once we know if that true

play again once we know if that true sense of happiness and what it

sense of happiness and what it

sense of happiness and what it personally means to us just think about

personally means to us just think about

personally means to us just think about it we’re so caught up in finishing my

it we’re so caught up in finishing my

it we’re so caught up in finishing my homework and finishing that TV show and

homework and finishing that TV show and

homework and finishing that TV show and being done with our GCSEs that we tend

being done with our GCSEs that we tend

being done with our GCSEs that we tend to forget living in that present moment

to forget living in that present moment

to forget living in that present moment because happiness is real all seeking

because happiness is real all seeking

because happiness is real all seeking right

right

right happiness is offensive joy contentment

happiness is offensive joy contentment

happiness is offensive joy contentment or well-being but is that all there is

or well-being but is that all there is

or well-being but is that all there is to it throughout my life I learned when

to it throughout my life I learned when

to it throughout my life I learned when I look at a glass of water to the truth

I look at a glass of water to the truth

I look at a glass of water to the truth of the glass see the half both side be

of the glass see the half both side be

of the glass see the half both side be aware of it take it in have gratitude

aware of it take it in have gratitude

aware of it take it in have gratitude for it and of course be happy about it

for it and of course be happy about it

for it and of course be happy about it but see that half-empty side and

but see that half-empty side and

but see that half-empty side and question myself question whether I can

question myself question whether I can

question myself question whether I can do anything to change it how can I throw

do anything to change it how can I throw

do anything to change it how can I throw up that half-empty side and if I can’t

up that half-empty side and if I can’t

up that half-empty side and if I can’t what can I do to accept it yes humans

what can I do to accept it yes humans

what can I do to accept it yes humans think life owes us something and I’m

think life owes us something and I’m

think life owes us something and I’m being a hypocrite saying this because at

being a hypocrite saying this because at

being a hypocrite saying this because at the age of 11 I found out that my

the age of 11 I found out that my

the age of 11 I found out that my grandma was diagnosed with pancreatic

grandma was diagnosed with pancreatic

grandma was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer I thought I don’t know what

cancer I thought I don’t know what

cancer I thought I don’t know what pancreatic cancer meant but I had a

pancreatic cancer meant but I had a

pancreatic cancer meant but I had a feeling in my gut that it’d all be okay

feeling in my gut that it’d all be okay

feeling in my gut that it’d all be okay and for a while it was the doctors were

and for a while it was the doctors were

and for a while it was the doctors were saying the tremor was going well and she

saying the tremor was going well and she

saying the tremor was going well and she thought she was feeling better but six

thought she was feeling better but six

thought she was feeling better but six months later I woke up one day and she

months later I woke up one day and she

months later I woke up one day and she was just gone for the next year so I

was just gone for the next year so I

was just gone for the next year so I didn’t go to school without listening to

didn’t go to school without listening to

didn’t go to school without listening to that song they reminded me of her

that song they reminded me of her

that song they reminded me of her because I don’t want to believe that she

because I don’t want to believe that she

because I don’t want to believe that she was gone and every morning I would just

was gone and every morning I would just

was gone and every morning I would just cry two years passed and the pain was

cry two years passed and the pain was

cry two years passed and the pain was still there but the thought of her came

still there but the thought of her came

still there but the thought of her came less often it was seven months after

less often it was seven months after

less often it was seven months after that when the uncle that basically

that when the uncle that basically

that when the uncle that basically brought me up because my dad wasn’t in

brought me up because my dad wasn’t in

brought me up because my dad wasn’t in the country most the time when I was

the country most the time when I was

the country most the time when I was younger I’d been hit by a drunk driver

younger I’d been hit by a drunk driver

younger I’d been hit by a drunk driver and he was gone

and he was gone

and he was gone she always expected life to be good when

she always expected life to be good when

she always expected life to be good when I lost him I screamed and I yelled and I

I lost him I screamed and I yelled and I

I lost him I screamed and I yelled and I threw everything in my sight and I held

threw everything in my sight and I held

threw everything in my sight and I held my face close to the pillow so my mom

my face close to the pillow so my mom

my face close to the pillow so my mom can hear me cry but a few weeks passed

can hear me cry but a few weeks passed

can hear me cry but a few weeks passed and the thought of something couldn’t

and the thought of something couldn’t

and the thought of something couldn’t leave me alone and it was that no matter

leave me alone and it was that no matter

leave me alone and it was that no matter how much I made myself suffer there is

how much I made myself suffer there is

how much I made myself suffer there is nothing and I mean nothing I could have

nothing and I mean nothing I could have

nothing and I mean nothing I could have possibly done to bring him back so why

possibly done to bring him back so why

possibly done to bring him back so why was I doing it what I’m trying to tell

was I doing it what I’m trying to tell

was I doing it what I’m trying to tell you is happiness isn’t about how life

you is happiness isn’t about how life

you is happiness isn’t about how life treats you because everyone questions

treats you because everyone questions

treats you because everyone questions their life at one point and the only way

their life at one point and the only way

their life at one point and the only way to get over that is to accept it as

to get over that is to accept it as

to get over that is to accept it as tough as it has become happiness isn’t

tough as it has become happiness isn’t

tough as it has become happiness isn’t about how much water was in that glass

about how much water was in that glass

about how much water was in that glass it’s not about how life treats

it’s not about how life treats

it’s not about how life treats it’s about what you think of how I

it’s about what you think of how I

it’s about what you think of how I should treat you

should treat you

should treat you our thoughts they’re very powerful what

our thoughts they’re very powerful what

our thoughts they’re very powerful what you say to yourself has the power to

you say to yourself has the power to

you say to yourself has the power to control you and I hear people all the

control you and I hear people all the

control you and I hear people all the time saying oh we shouldn’t have step

time saying oh we shouldn’t have step

time saying oh we shouldn’t have step out to her or should’ve spoken to him in

out to her or should’ve spoken to him in

out to her or should’ve spoken to him in that way that was rude

that way that was rude

that way that was rude but have you heard what you say to

but have you heard what you say to

but have you heard what you say to yourself these emotions that we have

yourself these emotions that we have

yourself these emotions that we have their true gift

their true gift

their true gift they are your frequency feedback

they are your frequency feedback

they are your frequency feedback mechanism and here Matt on this because

mechanism and here Matt on this because

mechanism and here Matt on this because it’s really simple you have two sets of

it’s really simple you have two sets of

it’s really simple you have two sets of feelings each and every one of you good

feelings each and every one of you good

feelings each and every one of you good feelings and bad feelings your thoughts

feelings and bad feelings your thoughts

feelings and bad feelings your thoughts determine your frequency and your

determine your frequency and your

determine your frequency and your feelings immediately tell you what

feelings immediately tell you what

feelings immediately tell you what frequency you’re on your thoughts are

frequency you’re on your thoughts are

frequency you’re on your thoughts are the primary cause of everything so when

the primary cause of everything so when

the primary cause of everything so when you’re feeling good it’s communication

you’re feeling good it’s communication

you’re feeling good it’s communication back from the universe saying you’re

back from the universe saying you’re

back from the universe saying you’re thinking good thoughts see when you’re

thinking good thoughts see when you’re

thinking good thoughts see when you’re at an unhappy stage in life you can’t

at an unhappy stage in life you can’t

at an unhappy stage in life you can’t change how you feel but you can alter

change how you feel but you can alter

change how you feel but you can alter what you think so why don’t we use that

what you think so why don’t we use that

what you think so why don’t we use that to our advantage

to our advantage

to our advantage why don’t we manipulate these laws of

why don’t we manipulate these laws of

why don’t we manipulate these laws of the universe think of your mind as a

the universe think of your mind as a

the universe think of your mind as a radio if you don’t like the song that’s

radio if you don’t like the song that’s

radio if you don’t like the song that’s playing all you have to do is change it

playing all you have to do is change it

playing all you have to do is change it change your frequency and your emotions

change your frequency and your emotions

change your frequency and your emotions will act accordingly but when you

will act accordingly but when you

will act accordingly but when you suspend your unhappy thoughts that’s

suspend your unhappy thoughts that’s

suspend your unhappy thoughts that’s different

different

different at that stage you’re having fun at that

at that stage you’re having fun at that

at that stage you’re having fun at that moment you think you’re happy and it’s

moment you think you’re happy and it’s

moment you think you’re happy and it’s not because you are it’s because you’ve

not because you are it’s because you’ve

not because you are it’s because you’ve shut that radio off and that’s the

shut that radio off and that’s the

shut that radio off and that’s the problem you’ve gone your phone you go to

problem you’ve gone your phone you go to

problem you’ve gone your phone you go to a party or you simply replace your

a party or you simply replace your

a party or you simply replace your unhappy thoughts like yeah I’m not doing

unhappy thoughts like yeah I’m not doing

unhappy thoughts like yeah I’m not doing too well at school

too well at school

too well at school I’ve got season pretty much all my

I’ve got season pretty much all my

I’ve got season pretty much all my subjects I don’t have a good

subjects I don’t have a good

subjects I don’t have a good relationship with my parents but

relationship with my parents but

relationship with my parents but whatever I’m playing GTA no but as long

whatever I’m playing GTA no but as long

whatever I’m playing GTA no but as long as you don’t truly accept the truth it

as you don’t truly accept the truth it

as you don’t truly accept the truth it will come chasing you your thoughts will

will come chasing you your thoughts will

will come chasing you your thoughts will return determine your frequency and hold

return determine your frequency and hold

return determine your frequency and hold your radio in their hands so let’s stop

your radio in their hands so let’s stop

your radio in their hands so let’s stop living in this alternate reality this

living in this alternate reality this

living in this alternate reality this different dimension that we’ve created

different dimension that we’ve created

different dimension that we’ve created for ourselves this dimension that we run

for ourselves this dimension that we run

for ourselves this dimension that we run to every time we need a sense of escape

to every time we need a sense of escape

to every time we need a sense of escape let’s start being observant taking in

let’s start being observant taking in

let’s start being observant taking in arts around us and

arts around us and

arts around us and living Steve Jobs once said for the past

living Steve Jobs once said for the past

living Steve Jobs once said for the past 33 years I’ve looked myself in the

33 years I’ve looked myself in the

33 years I’ve looked myself in the mirror and asked if today was the last

mirror and asked if today was the last

mirror and asked if today was the last day of my life would I be doing what I’m

day of my life would I be doing what I’m

day of my life would I be doing what I’m about to do today and if my answer was

about to do today and if my answer was

about to do today and if my answer was no for too many days in a row I knew I

no for too many days in a row I knew I

no for too many days in a row I knew I had to change something and I know you

had to change something and I know you

had to change something and I know you might say tomorrow isn’t the last day of

might say tomorrow isn’t the last day of

might say tomorrow isn’t the last day of my life and you know what you’re

my life and you know what you’re

my life and you know what you’re probably right but one day it will be

probably right but one day it will be

probably right but one day it will be and you’ll ever know so tomorrow morning

and you’ll ever know so tomorrow morning

and you’ll ever know so tomorrow morning wake up

wake up

wake up I let the first thing that you do not be

I let the first thing that you do not be

I let the first thing that you do not be going back to sleep to escape reality

going back to sleep to escape reality

going back to sleep to escape reality but it not be sitting on your bed and

but it not be sitting on your bed and

but it not be sitting on your bed and staring at the wall for 20 minutes

staring at the wall for 20 minutes

staring at the wall for 20 minutes thinking about how much you don’t want

thinking about how much you don’t want

thinking about how much you don’t want to go to school because your thoughts

to go to school because your thoughts

to go to school because your thoughts determine your frequency let it all be

determine your frequency let it all be

determine your frequency let it all be going on your phone and staring at that

going on your phone and staring at that

going on your phone and staring at that screen for 10 minutes to suspend your

screen for 10 minutes to suspend your

screen for 10 minutes to suspend your unhappy thoughts but go up to that

unhappy thoughts but go up to that

unhappy thoughts but go up to that mirror ask yourself the question and

mirror ask yourself the question and

mirror ask yourself the question and then live your day as if it were your

then live your day as if it were your

then live your day as if it were your loss thank you

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