
I’ve been working for long enough I’ve come across a lot of people a lot
I’ve come across a lot of people a lot
I’ve come across a lot of people a lot of different conversations different
of different conversations different
of different conversations different countries and there’s people that have
countries and there’s people that have
countries and there’s people that have worked for me and some do still and some
worked for me and some do still and some
worked for me and some do still and some have moved on obviously but there’s a
have moved on obviously but there’s a
have moved on obviously but there’s a theme I’m sure you’re all aware but
theme I’m sure you’re all aware but
theme I’m sure you’re all aware but there’s this theme of work like life
there’s this theme of work like life
there’s this theme of work like life balance right so we’re all struggling
balance right so we’re all struggling
balance right so we’re all struggling even the theme up here you heard it
even the theme up here you heard it
even the theme up here you heard it people are it’s going too fast we can’t
people are it’s going too fast we can’t
people are it’s going too fast we can’t keep up we’re dropping all these balls
keep up we’re dropping all these balls
keep up we’re dropping all these balls all the time we feel like we’re failing
all the time we feel like we’re failing
all the time we feel like we’re failing if I spend time at home then I’m not
if I spend time at home then I’m not
if I spend time at home then I’m not doing my work if I spend time I work
doing my work if I spend time I work
doing my work if I spend time I work feel like a bad mom
feel like a bad mom
feel like a bad mom if I spend time with my kids and I can’t
if I spend time with my kids and I can’t
if I spend time with my kids and I can’t be with my husband if I’m with my
be with my husband if I’m with my
be with my husband if I’m with my husband I can’t work out we can’t win
husband I can’t work out we can’t win
husband I can’t work out we can’t win right so people come and talk to me a
right so people come and talk to me a
right so people come and talk to me a lot we get coffee and they say what do I
lot we get coffee and they say what do I
lot we get coffee and they say what do I do I’m really stuck and I say stop
do I’m really stuck and I say stop
do I’m really stuck and I say stop searching I said what stop searching
searching I said what stop searching
searching I said what stop searching said yeah stop searching for balance
said yeah stop searching for balance
said yeah stop searching for balance they look at me so you need to explain a
they look at me so you need to explain a
they look at me so you need to explain a little bit more so that’s what I’ll
little bit more so that’s what I’ll
little bit more so that’s what I’ll share with you I’m really passionate
share with you I’m really passionate
share with you I’m really passionate about this okay I go to them and I say
about this okay I go to them and I say
about this okay I go to them and I say you cannot separate your work from your
you cannot separate your work from your
you cannot separate your work from your life so stop trying to balance it stop
life so stop trying to balance it stop
life so stop trying to balance it stop trying to break it out I said explain
trying to break it out I said explain
trying to break it out I said explain more I said okay so I’m gonna ask all of
more I said okay so I’m gonna ask all of
more I said okay so I’m gonna ask all of you walk through this with me so think
you walk through this with me so think
you walk through this with me so think about this if you get a raise or you
about this if you get a raise or you
about this if you get a raise or you lose your job does it affect your life
of course
of course okay if you surprised how many people
okay if you surprised how many people
okay if you surprised how many people are like no so so now firstly right so
are like no so so now firstly right so
are like no so so now firstly right so if you lose a loved one you get in a car
if you lose a loved one you get in a car
if you lose a loved one you get in a car accident or you have a child does it
accident or you have a child does it
accident or you have a child does it affect your work yeah all right you guys
affect your work yeah all right you guys
affect your work yeah all right you guys great so yeah it does right so that
great so yeah it does right so that
great so yeah it does right so that gives us to this next point of if you
gives us to this next point of if you
gives us to this next point of if you can’t separate work in life it’s really
can’t separate work in life it’s really
can’t separate work in life it’s really hard to balance them but we try to so
hard to balance them but we try to so
hard to balance them but we try to so let me show you okay got these for you
let me show you okay got these for you
let me show you okay got these for you so here’s our life and this is all the
so here’s our life and this is all the
so here’s our life and this is all the things that we have to do as we’re all
things that we have to do as we’re all
things that we have to do as we’re all aware cuz it’s fast we can multitask and
aware cuz it’s fast we can multitask and
aware cuz it’s fast we can multitask and we can’t keep up how do we juggle all of
we can’t keep up how do we juggle all of
we can’t keep up how do we juggle all of this right so like I said because we’re
this right so like I said because we’re
this right so like I said because we’re upset because we’re behind a lot of us
upset because we’re behind a lot of us
upset because we’re behind a lot of us aren’t happy people who come talk to me
aren’t happy people who come talk to me
aren’t happy people who come talk to me they’re really stuck they’re not happy
they’re really stuck they’re not happy
they’re really stuck they’re not happy stressed out life’s falling apart
stressed out life’s falling apart
stressed out life’s falling apart so what do we do when we start peering
so what do we do when we start peering
so what do we do when we start peering in here and we say I got to find the
in here and we say I got to find the
in here and we say I got to find the reason there’s a reason I’m unhappy well
reason there’s a reason I’m unhappy well
reason there’s a reason I’m unhappy well it’s the kids I need to spend less time
it’s the kids I need to spend less time
it’s the kids I need to spend less time with my kids that didn’t work
with my kids that didn’t work
with my kids that didn’t work marriage I need to invest less in my
marriage I need to invest less in my
marriage I need to invest less in my spouse no I got it yeah okay my faith if
spouse no I got it yeah okay my faith if
spouse no I got it yeah okay my faith if I sin more no that isn’t it
I sin more no that isn’t it
I sin more no that isn’t it okay how about work work hey that works
okay how about work work hey that works
okay how about work work hey that works it fits it takes time takes energy
it fits it takes time takes energy
it fits it takes time takes energy it just takes right all the time I got
it just takes right all the time I got
it just takes right all the time I got it I got it
it I got it
it I got it the reason I’m I’m happy the reason I’m
the reason I’m I’m happy the reason I’m
the reason I’m I’m happy the reason I’m behind it’s work there’s a lot of people
behind it’s work there’s a lot of people
behind it’s work there’s a lot of people that normally be like yep I agree but
that normally be like yep I agree but
that normally be like yep I agree but look what we’ve done okay I’ve got my
look what we’ve done okay I’ve got my
look what we’ve done okay I’ve got my life I’ve got work and I’ve separated it
life I’ve got work and I’ve separated it
life I’ve got work and I’ve separated it this is me I’m no longer associated with
this is me I’m no longer associated with
this is me I’m no longer associated with this I don’t live to work I work to live
this I don’t live to work I work to live
this I don’t live to work I work to live these mantras that we’re trying to
these mantras that we’re trying to
these mantras that we’re trying to convince ourselves that it’s okay to
convince ourselves that it’s okay to
convince ourselves that it’s okay to kind of disconnect ourselves from this
kind of disconnect ourselves from this
kind of disconnect ourselves from this well this is what we do we’re seeking
well this is what we do we’re seeking
well this is what we do we’re seeking balance remember these don’t balance
balance remember these don’t balance
balance remember these don’t balance right there’s a problem so we may have
right there’s a problem so we may have
right there’s a problem so we may have to what in our minds inflate so their
to what in our minds inflate so their
to what in our minds inflate so their balls are the same size well we’ve just
balls are the same size well we’ve just
balls are the same size well we’ve just actually made work way larger uglier but
actually made work way larger uglier but
actually made work way larger uglier but think about this – these are the good
think about this – these are the good
think about this – these are the good things right
things right
things right marriage family fun faith that’s me
marriage family fun faith that’s me
marriage family fun faith that’s me these are the good things for balancing
these are the good things for balancing
these are the good things for balancing and these are the bad things so now we
and these are the bad things so now we
and these are the bad things so now we have life good work bad life big work
have life good work bad life big work
have life good work bad life big work big big and bad so what do we do if I
big big and bad so what do we do if I
big big and bad so what do we do if I didn’t have to work so much if I could
didn’t have to work so much if I could
didn’t have to work so much if I could get better at time management if I could
get better at time management if I could
get better at time management if I could get better at prioritizing right then it
get better at prioritizing right then it
get better at prioritizing right then it wouldn’t be so bad even better yet if I
wouldn’t be so bad even better yet if I
wouldn’t be so bad even better yet if I didn’t have to work at all remember
didn’t have to work at all remember
didn’t have to work at all remember we’re seeking balance
we’re seeking balance
we’re seeking balance right where’d the other side go well
right where’d the other side go well
right where’d the other side go well it’s over there you got rid of it don’t
it’s over there you got rid of it don’t
it’s over there you got rid of it don’t work anymore we’re still unbalanced I’m
work anymore we’re still unbalanced I’m
work anymore we’re still unbalanced I’m still unhappy I still can’t keep up so
still unhappy I still can’t keep up so
still unhappy I still can’t keep up so what do I do I pick out something out of
what do I do I pick out something out of
what do I do I pick out something out of the good stuff left marriage
the good stuff left marriage
the good stuff left marriage all right spouse it’s your fault let the
all right spouse it’s your fault let the
all right spouse it’s your fault let the socks on the floor toilet see too much
socks on the floor toilet see too much
socks on the floor toilet see too much football I mean whatever it is and then
football I mean whatever it is and then
football I mean whatever it is and then guess what we do we’re out of balance we
guess what we do we’re out of balance we
guess what we do we’re out of balance we inflate it it’s your fault I’m not happy
inflate it it’s your fault I’m not happy
inflate it it’s your fault I’m not happy because of you so we get rid of it and
because of you so we get rid of it and
because of you so we get rid of it and we keep going we keep going we keep
we keep going we keep going we keep
we keep going we keep going we keep going pretty soon right there’s nothing
going pretty soon right there’s nothing
going pretty soon right there’s nothing left for empty we’re alone what do we do
left for empty we’re alone what do we do
left for empty we’re alone what do we do now doesn’t work great Mike Thanks you
now doesn’t work great Mike Thanks you
now doesn’t work great Mike Thanks you just ruined my night there’s no answer
just ruined my night there’s no answer
just ruined my night there’s no answer that’s really depressing well I’ve got a
that’s really depressing well I’ve got a
that’s really depressing well I’ve got a solution for you this is what I tell
solution for you this is what I tell
solution for you this is what I tell everybody if instead we shift our
everybody if instead we shift our
everybody if instead we shift our paradigm change your focus right what if
paradigm change your focus right what if
paradigm change your focus right what if you accepted that everything which all
you accepted that everything which all
you accepted that everything which all of you did thank you that everything is
of you did thank you that everything is
of you did thank you that everything is interconnected it’s in one ball one
interconnected it’s in one ball one
interconnected it’s in one ball one spear this is me all of it including
spear this is me all of it including
spear this is me all of it including work
work
work I can’t reach in this one I can’t get in
I can’t reach in this one I can’t get in
I can’t reach in this one I can’t get in there can’t take anything out I have to
there can’t take anything out I have to
there can’t take anything out I have to accept that it’s all interconnected okay
accept that it’s all interconnected okay
accept that it’s all interconnected okay great I’m with you well think about this
great I’m with you well think about this
great I’m with you well think about this then where does this give us it gives us
then where does this give us it gives us
then where does this give us it gives us one piece that’s grounded no longer am i
one piece that’s grounded no longer am i
one piece that’s grounded no longer am i striving to balance and looking for a
striving to balance and looking for a
striving to balance and looking for a reason I just accept it and I say okay
reason I just accept it and I say okay
reason I just accept it and I say okay I’m one holistic self what do I do about
I’m one holistic self what do I do about
I’m one holistic self what do I do about that well it matters because when you
that well it matters because when you
that well it matters because when you shift your view to a holistic sense you
shift your view to a holistic sense you
shift your view to a holistic sense you get four transformative results one you
get four transformative results one you
get four transformative results one you get grace instead of being hypercritical
get grace instead of being hypercritical
get grace instead of being hypercritical of every ball and noticing specifically
of every ball and noticing specifically
of every ball and noticing specifically all your shortcomings my belt buckle is
all your shortcomings my belt buckle is
all your shortcomings my belt buckle is one
one
one too far late again forgot sent an email
too far late again forgot sent an email
too far late again forgot sent an email instead of focusing on all these things
instead of focusing on all these things
instead of focusing on all these things you’re actually looking at the
you’re actually looking at the
you’re actually looking at the comprehensive sphere so it dilutes the
comprehensive sphere so it dilutes the
comprehensive sphere so it dilutes the magnitude of each of those things right
magnitude of each of those things right
magnitude of each of those things right you only have to worry about hey it’s my
you only have to worry about hey it’s my
you only have to worry about hey it’s my ball doing okay or is it kind of falling
ball doing okay or is it kind of falling
ball doing okay or is it kind of falling backwards too you get awareness the fact
backwards too you get awareness the fact
backwards too you get awareness the fact that now we are aware that we cannot
that now we are aware that we cannot
that now we are aware that we cannot separate our work from our life or any
separate our work from our life or any
separate our work from our life or any of the other balls that means we can see
of the other balls that means we can see
of the other balls that means we can see every day the choices that we’re gonna
every day the choices that we’re gonna
every day the choices that we’re gonna run into and how our choice will affect
run into and how our choice will affect
run into and how our choice will affect the overall sphere okay three that gives
the overall sphere okay three that gives
the overall sphere okay three that gives us momentum if we know that we can take
us momentum if we know that we can take
us momentum if we know that we can take steps and they can go forward or
steps and they can go forward or
steps and they can go forward or backward based on the decisions we make
backward based on the decisions we make
backward based on the decisions we make every day it opens up the concept that a
every day it opens up the concept that a
every day it opens up the concept that a step will move to another step will move
step will move to another step will move
step will move to another step will move to another step so for instance if you
to another step so for instance if you
to another step so for instance if you had the decision right now do I send the
had the decision right now do I send the
had the decision right now do I send the email or put it off till tomorrow do I
email or put it off till tomorrow do I
email or put it off till tomorrow do I eat cookies or fruit put the dish on the
eat cookies or fruit put the dish on the
eat cookies or fruit put the dish on the counter or rinse it and put it right in
counter or rinse it and put it right in
counter or rinse it and put it right in the dishwasher these are everyday things
the dishwasher these are everyday things
the dishwasher these are everyday things I know they are for me so if I look at
I know they are for me so if I look at
I know they are for me so if I look at that one answer will help me one answer
that one answer will help me one answer
that one answer will help me one answer one I know for me what that would be you
one I know for me what that would be you
one I know for me what that would be you know for you it that would be for you if
know for you it that would be for you if
know for you it that would be for you if you take the forward step and you say I
you take the forward step and you say I
you take the forward step and you say I know what I should do so I do that that
know what I should do so I do that that
know what I should do so I do that that winds up creating movement forward again
winds up creating movement forward again
winds up creating movement forward again balance we were stationary we’re not
balance we were stationary we’re not
balance we were stationary we’re not moving here we’re moving forward if you
moving here we’re moving forward if you
moving here we’re moving forward if you take that next step and tell you what it
take that next step and tell you what it
take that next step and tell you what it gets easier to take a step when you take
gets easier to take a step when you take
gets easier to take a step when you take a step and you take another step if you
a step and you take another step if you
a step and you take another step if you start running it’s easier to stay
start running it’s easier to stay
start running it’s easier to stay running after you take the first step
running after you take the first step
running after you take the first step it’s pretty simple but it creates
it’s pretty simple but it creates
it’s pretty simple but it creates momentum as this ball starts to roll and
momentum as this ball starts to roll and
momentum as this ball starts to roll and roll and guess what since everything is
roll and guess what since everything is
roll and guess what since everything is interconnected all the balls start
interconnected all the balls start
interconnected all the balls start rolling with including work the heavy
rolling with including work the heavy
rolling with including work the heavy ugly thing is actually improving as
ugly thing is actually improving as
ugly thing is actually improving as we’re rolling forward so all of that
we’re rolling forward so all of that
we’re rolling forward so all of that gives us the fourth thing
gives us the fourth thing
gives us the fourth thing which is empowerment if we’re free to
which is empowerment if we’re free to
which is empowerment if we’re free to not be perfect we are where we can make
not be perfect we are where we can make
not be perfect we are where we can make choices that will lead us to positive
choices that will lead us to positive
choices that will lead us to positive momentum we are empowered to take so
momentum we are empowered to take so
momentum we are empowered to take so much more control of our lives to live
much more control of our lives to live
much more control of our lives to live more purposefully life on purpose it’s
more purposefully life on purpose it’s
more purposefully life on purpose it’s so much better than life by accident or
so much better than life by accident or
so much better than life by accident or our life can catch up right so this is
our life can catch up right so this is
our life can catch up right so this is the thing okay Mike I’m with you
the thing okay Mike I’m with you
the thing okay Mike I’m with you kind of that sounds like a lot though I
kind of that sounds like a lot though I
kind of that sounds like a lot though I know I have to accept I have all these
know I have to accept I have all these
know I have to accept I have all these balls but this is the super cool thing
balls but this is the super cool thing
balls but this is the super cool thing it’s the crazy simple thing it doesn’t
it’s the crazy simple thing it doesn’t
it’s the crazy simple thing it doesn’t matter what step you take what matters
matter what step you take what matters
matter what step you take what matters is that you take a step sounds simple it
is that you take a step sounds simple it
is that you take a step sounds simple it is it is that simple pick one thing in
is it is that simple pick one thing in
is it is that simple pick one thing in your life one move it forward send that
your life one move it forward send that
your life one move it forward send that email choose fruit or in my case put the
email choose fruit or in my case put the
email choose fruit or in my case put the dish in the dishwasher right that will
dish in the dishwasher right that will
dish in the dishwasher right that will create positive momentum for me and you
create positive momentum for me and you
create positive momentum for me and you and what you’re gonna find when you get
and what you’re gonna find when you get
and what you’re gonna find when you get momentum is that you no longer are
momentum is that you no longer are
momentum is that you no longer are focusing on your balance because you’re
focusing on your balance because you’re
focusing on your balance because you’re moving forward and that allows you to
moving forward and that allows you to
moving forward and that allows you to focus on your progress so that’s all you
focus on your progress so that’s all you
focus on your progress so that’s all you have to do take one step I tell people
have to do take one step I tell people
have to do take one step I tell people that and they kind of look at me at
that and they kind of look at me at
that and they kind of look at me at first they’re going through I don’t know
first they’re going through I don’t know
first they’re going through I don’t know and at the end they’re like oh I say
and at the end they’re like oh I say
and at the end they’re like oh I say yeah I know right so just just go do it
yeah I know right so just just go do it
yeah I know right so just just go do it go do it and I get e-mails back and
go do it and I get e-mails back and
go do it and I get e-mails back and they’re like I was really stuck I was
they’re like I was really stuck I was
they’re like I was really stuck I was stuck and you know what I got up and I
stuck and you know what I got up and I
stuck and you know what I got up and I did the jog I didn’t want to and it was
did the jog I didn’t want to and it was
did the jog I didn’t want to and it was hard and I said what happened
hard and I said what happened
hard and I said what happened I wanted to go home and clean my junk
I wanted to go home and clean my junk
I wanted to go home and clean my junk drawer I said great and it all keeps
drawer I said great and it all keeps
drawer I said great and it all keeps working so it doesn’t matter what area
working so it doesn’t matter what area
working so it doesn’t matter what area they’re all connected just pick one for
they’re all connected just pick one for
they’re all connected just pick one for me and the time I have with you that’s
me and the time I have with you that’s
me and the time I have with you that’s what I wanted to share and for me I
what I wanted to share and for me I
what I wanted to share and for me I really felt that this was an idea worth
really felt that this was an idea worth
really felt that this was an idea worth sharing you’re worth spreading thank you
sharing you’re worth spreading thank you
sharing you’re worth spreading thank you you
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