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The Business of Giving | Kim van der Sanden | TEDxEustis


have you guys ever had the opportunity

have you guys ever had the opportunity to see someone you love have a dream

to see someone you love have a dream

to see someone you love have a dream come true

recently we took our youngest daughter

recently we took our youngest daughter to New York to see a play she’s been

to New York to see a play she’s been

to New York to see a play she’s been obsessed with for the past couple of

obsessed with for the past couple of

obsessed with for the past couple of years you may have heard of it

years you may have heard of it

years you may have heard of it a little show called Hamilton I bought

a little show called Hamilton I bought

a little show called Hamilton I bought the tickets many months in advance and

the tickets many months in advance and

the tickets many months in advance and every time I thought about what it would

every time I thought about what it would

every time I thought about what it would feel like when we surprised her

feel like when we surprised her

feel like when we surprised her happiness just filled my whole being on

happiness just filled my whole being on

happiness just filled my whole being on the day of the show I was seated next to

the day of the show I was seated next to

the day of the show I was seated next to her and the cosy theater seat we were

her and the cosy theater seat we were

her and the cosy theater seat we were taking in the stage and I looked at her

taking in the stage and I looked at her

taking in the stage and I looked at her face she exuded pure joy

face she exuded pure joy

face she exuded pure joy she was vibrating with anticipation and

she was vibrating with anticipation and

she was vibrating with anticipation and in that moment everything it took to

in that moment everything it took to

in that moment everything it took to make this dream come true for her

make this dream come true for her

make this dream come true for her was so worth it

was so worth it

was so worth it I’ve been both the giver and the

I’ve been both the giver and the

I’ve been both the giver and the receiver of a dream come true and here’s

receiver of a dream come true and here’s

receiver of a dream come true and here’s what I find most exciting it doesn’t

what I find most exciting it doesn’t

what I find most exciting it doesn’t matter if you’re on the giving end or

matter if you’re on the giving end or

matter if you’re on the giving end or the receiving end I’ll take that a step

the receiving end I’ll take that a step

the receiving end I’ll take that a step further and say there’s only the

further and say there’s only the

further and say there’s only the receiving end because whether you’re the

receiving end because whether you’re the

receiving end because whether you’re the giver or the getter you’re receiving

giver or the getter you’re receiving

giver or the getter you’re receiving you’re receiving either the dream or the

you’re receiving either the dream or the

you’re receiving either the dream or the experience of making the dream come true

experience of making the dream come true

experience of making the dream come true I used to question why I deserved to

I used to question why I deserved to

I used to question why I deserved to live the life of my dreams I’m no more

live the life of my dreams I’m no more

live the life of my dreams I’m no more worthy than anyone else

worthy than anyone else

worthy than anyone else I had a good life but I always

I had a good life but I always

I had a good life but I always envisioned myself living a greater life

envisioned myself living a greater life

envisioned myself living a greater life a life filled with adventure and

a life filled with adventure and

a life filled with adventure and abundance and freedom I was Restless

abundance and freedom I was Restless

abundance and freedom I was Restless I felt like I was put here for more and

I felt like I was put here for more and

I felt like I was put here for more and I also felt guilty for wanting those

I also felt guilty for wanting those

I also felt guilty for wanting those things especially when I knew there were

things especially when I knew there were

things especially when I knew there were so many others who likely wished for

so many others who likely wished for

so many others who likely wished for what I already had and then I had a

what I already had and then I had a

what I already had and then I had a shift in that thinking I was having a

shift in that thinking I was having a

shift in that thinking I was having a conversation with my brother one day

conversation with my brother one day

conversation with my brother one day many years ago we were talking about

many years ago we were talking about

many years ago we were talking about homelessness and poverty and how

homelessness and poverty and how

homelessness and poverty and how pervasive it was becoming in our Central

pervasive it was becoming in our Central

pervasive it was becoming in our Central Florida area

Florida area

Florida area I was bemoaning how badly I felt when I

I was bemoaning how badly I felt when I

I was bemoaning how badly I felt when I saw them how I wish there was something

saw them how I wish there was something

saw them how I wish there was something more I could do and in that conversation

more I could do and in that conversation

more I could do and in that conversation my brother said something he made an

my brother said something he made an

my brother said something he made an offhanded comment but it drove straight

offhanded comment but it drove straight

offhanded comment but it drove straight into the soul of me and has forever

into the soul of me and has forever

into the soul of me and has forever changed my perspective he said the best

changed my perspective he said the best

changed my perspective he said the best thing you can do for the poor is not to

thing you can do for the poor is not to

thing you can do for the poor is not to become one of them I let that sink in

become one of them I let that sink in

become one of them I let that sink in and I found that over the next several

and I found that over the next several

and I found that over the next several days I could think about little else

it’s simmered and it’s steeped until it

it’s simmered and it’s steeped until it it’s seeped into every pore and then I

it’s seeped into every pore and then I

it’s seeped into every pore and then I got it

got it

got it of course I deserved abundance because

of course I deserved abundance because

of course I deserved abundance because then I could share it I could be of much

then I could share it I could be of much

then I could share it I could be of much greater service if I had more to give

greater service if I had more to give

greater service if I had more to give this was life-changing for me and from

this was life-changing for me and from

this was life-changing for me and from that moment forward I gave myself full

that moment forward I gave myself full

that moment forward I gave myself full permission to create the greatest life I

permission to create the greatest life I

permission to create the greatest life I and I believe that giving has played a

and I believe that giving has played a

and I believe that giving has played a pivotal role in creating the life I’m

pivotal role in creating the life I’m

pivotal role in creating the life I’m blessed to call mine in 2006 I started a

blessed to call mine in 2006 I started a

blessed to call mine in 2006 I started a paper crafting company from my home

paper crafting company from my home

paper crafting company from my home called my favorite things I started it

called my favorite things I started it

called my favorite things I started it just from a love of the hobby with no

just from a love of the hobby with no

just from a love of the hobby with no thought that it would produce revenue or

thought that it would produce revenue or

thought that it would produce revenue or be a business opportunity but almost

be a business opportunity but almost

be a business opportunity but almost immediately it gained fans and started

immediately it gained fans and started

immediately it gained fans and started to grow and then of course my husband

to grow and then of course my husband

to grow and then of course my husband and oldest daughter became involuntary

and oldest daughter became involuntary

and oldest daughter became involuntary employees initially anyway each time the

employees initially anyway each time the

employees initially anyway each time the company grew we looked for ways that it

company grew we looked for ways that it

company grew we looked for ways that it could enrich the lives it touched from

could enrich the lives it touched from

could enrich the lives it touched from producing our products in the u.s.

producing our products in the u.s.

producing our products in the u.s. giving legendary customer service giving

giving legendary customer service giving

giving legendary customer service giving back to our community every opportunity

back to our community every opportunity

back to our community every opportunity we had or treating our staff like family

we had or treating our staff like family

we had or treating our staff like family giving was the avenue through which our

giving was the avenue through which our

giving was the avenue through which our success was channeled what do I mean

success was channeled what do I mean

success was channeled what do I mean when I say treating our staff like

when I say treating our staff like

when I say treating our staff like family well to me it begins with

family well to me it begins with

family well to me it begins with offering a living wage a beginning from

offering a living wage a beginning from

offering a living wage a beginning from which a life can be supported we offer

which a life can be supported we offer

which a life can be supported we offer full medical vision and dental insurance

full medical vision and dental insurance

full medical vision and dental insurance company paid for the full family now

company paid for the full family now

company paid for the full family now from day one we offer profit sharing

from day one we offer profit sharing

from day one we offer profit sharing every Thursday we close our retail

every Thursday we close our retail

every Thursday we close our retail boutique down and take our staff to

boutique down and take our staff to

boutique down and take our staff to lunch from short-term interest free

lunch from short-term interest free

lunch from short-term interest free loans to planning fun events we look for

loans to planning fun events we look for

loans to planning fun events we look for every way imaginable to make their lives

every way imaginable to make their lives

every way imaginable to make their lives easier so they are free to come to work

easier so they are free to come to work

easier so they are free to come to work unburdened I recently asked our staff

unburdened I recently asked our staff

unburdened I recently asked our staff what it meant to work for a company like

what it meant to work for a company like

what it meant to work for a company like ours and here are some of the answers I

ours and here are some of the answers I

ours and here are some of the answers I received my favorite things takes care

received my favorite things takes care

received my favorite things takes care of me and my family so the least I

of me and my family so the least I

of me and my family so the least I can do is return the favor it means

can do is return the favor it means

can do is return the favor it means working for a company that encourages

working for a company that encourages

working for a company that encourages and inspires its employees to be better

and inspires its employees to be better

and inspires its employees to be better workers and people I love showing up for

workers and people I love showing up for

workers and people I love showing up for work every day so I ask you am I the

work every day so I ask you am I the

work every day so I ask you am I the giver or am i the getter I’m getting an

giver or am i the getter I’m getting an

giver or am i the getter I’m getting an incredible quality of work I’m getting

incredible quality of work I’m getting

incredible quality of work I’m getting people who are invested and who care

people who are invested and who care

people who are invested and who care about the company and want it to succeed

about the company and want it to succeed

about the company and want it to succeed I’m getting people that are bonded

I’m getting people that are bonded

I’m getting people that are bonded together who band to do willing to do

together who band to do willing to do

together who band to do willing to do whatever it takes to get the job done I

whatever it takes to get the job done I

whatever it takes to get the job done I did some research and to how much the

did some research and to how much the

did some research and to how much the average company grows each year the data

average company grows each year the data

average company grows each year the data I found listed average growth at four to

I found listed average growth at four to

I found listed average growth at four to five percent annually exceptional growth

five percent annually exceptional growth

five percent annually exceptional growth was listed at 7 to 8 percent annually

was listed at 7 to 8 percent annually

was listed at 7 to 8 percent annually since our inception we’ve had an average

since our inception we’ve had an average

since our inception we’ve had an average annual growth rate of 58% and even after

annual growth rate of 58% and even after

annual growth rate of 58% and even after a decade in business the past two years

a decade in business the past two years

a decade in business the past two years we’ve still averaged over 30% growth

we’ve still averaged over 30% growth

we’ve still averaged over 30% growth each year now I’ve used the principle of

each year now I’ve used the principle of

each year now I’ve used the principle of giving to grow our company but what if

giving to grow our company but what if

giving to grow our company but what if you don’t have a company or a business

you don’t have a company or a business

you don’t have a company or a business you’re looking to develop how does this

you’re looking to develop how does this

you’re looking to develop how does this work in everyday life in the creation of

work in everyday life in the creation of

work in everyday life in the creation of loving relationships abundant finances

loving relationships abundant finances

loving relationships abundant finances more life in each moment years ago I was

more life in each moment years ago I was

more life in each moment years ago I was listening to speaker Neale Donald Walsch

listening to speaker Neale Donald Walsch

listening to speaker Neale Donald Walsch he said something along the lines of

he said something along the lines of

he said something along the lines of whatever you’d like to create more of in

whatever you’d like to create more of in

whatever you’d like to create more of in your life give that very thing away to

your life give that very thing away to

your life give that very thing away to someone else Wow I was dumbfounded

by becoming the benefactor you become

by becoming the benefactor you become the beneficiary I’d like to share with

the beneficiary I’d like to share with

the beneficiary I’d like to share with you my motto my mantra and what I

you my motto my mantra and what I

you my motto my mantra and what I believe is the magic behind the

believe is the magic behind the

believe is the magic behind the miraculous manifestations I’ve had and I

miraculous manifestations I’ve had and I

miraculous manifestations I’ve had and I hope if you decide to take one note

hope if you decide to take one note

hope if you decide to take one note during this talk choose to remember one

during this talk choose to remember one

during this talk choose to remember one detail that you’ll let it be this

detail that you’ll let it be this

detail that you’ll let it be this you cannot outgive the universe I know

you cannot outgive the universe I know

you cannot outgive the universe I know this seems counterintuitive overly

this seems counterintuitive overly

this seems counterintuitive overly simplistic maybe even too easy but let’s

simplistic maybe even too easy but let’s

simplistic maybe even too easy but let’s take a further look at what happens when

take a further look at what happens when

take a further look at what happens when we give the act of giving allows us to

we give the act of giving allows us to

we give the act of giving allows us to real realize we are able to give we

real realize we are able to give we

real realize we are able to give we already have more than we need we’re

already have more than we need we’re

already have more than we need we’re already abundant in the area from which

already abundant in the area from which

already abundant in the area from which we are giving we can’t give money we

we are giving we can’t give money we

we are giving we can’t give money we don’t possess time we don’t have or

don’t possess time we don’t have or

don’t possess time we don’t have or skills not at our immediate disposal and

skills not at our immediate disposal and

skills not at our immediate disposal and in those moments the moments you fully

in those moments the moments you fully

in those moments the moments you fully realize how much you have to give the

realize how much you have to give the

realize how much you have to give the universe responds by giving you more

universe responds by giving you more

universe responds by giving you more I’ve had so many demonstrations of this

I’ve had so many demonstrations of this

I’ve had so many demonstrations of this it often seems as if the whole universe

it often seems as if the whole universe

it often seems as if the whole universe is working behind the scenes and

is working behind the scenes and

is working behind the scenes and conspiring for my benefit to make dreams

conspiring for my benefit to make dreams

conspiring for my benefit to make dreams I didn’t even know I had come true I’ll

I didn’t even know I had come true I’ll

I didn’t even know I had come true I’ll share a quick story with you we

share a quick story with you we

share a quick story with you we purchased the building our company now

purchased the building our company now

purchased the building our company now calls its home in December of 2014 and

calls its home in December of 2014 and

calls its home in December of 2014 and during the process of buying the

during the process of buying the

during the process of buying the building we had a trio of amazing

building we had a trio of amazing

building we had a trio of amazing occurrences the building wasn’t for sale

the seller offered us the building for

the seller offered us the building for less than it was worth and we walked

less than it was worth and we walked

less than it was worth and we walked into it with equity and he loaned us

into it with equity and he loaned us

into it with equity and he loaned us half of the downpayment which has been

half of the downpayment which has been

half of the downpayment which has been repaid just so we could have it that is

repaid just so we could have it that is

repaid just so we could have it that is an unbelievable story right a seeming

an unbelievable story right a seeming

an unbelievable story right a seeming miracle one I will always be grateful

miracle one I will always be grateful

miracle one I will always be grateful for I couldn’t have imagined how our

for I couldn’t have imagined how our

for I couldn’t have imagined how our building would transpire or even that

building would transpire or even that

building would transpire or even that we’d have a building my mind could not

we’d have a building my mind could not

we’d have a building my mind could not have expanded enough to wrap itself

have expanded enough to wrap itself

have expanded enough to wrap itself around that possibility

around that possibility

around that possibility and thank goodness I didn’t let my mind

and thank goodness I didn’t let my mind

and thank goodness I didn’t let my mind get in the way I know things like this

get in the way I know things like this

get in the way I know things like this don’t happen to everyone but they can

don’t happen to everyone but they can

don’t happen to everyone but they can and how breathtaking would this world be

and how breathtaking would this world be

and how breathtaking would this world be if we were all walking around and

if we were all walking around and

if we were all walking around and manifesting miracles there is a catch

manifesting miracles there is a catch

manifesting miracles there is a catch though it’s small and subtle but it’s

though it’s small and subtle but it’s

though it’s small and subtle but it’s significant you can never give because

significant you can never give because

significant you can never give because you want to receive you can’t hand out a

you want to receive you can’t hand out a

you want to receive you can’t hand out a $5 bill and stand with your wallet open

$5 bill and stand with your wallet open

$5 bill and stand with your wallet open expecting a 20 to fall in it doesn’t

expecting a 20 to fall in it doesn’t

expecting a 20 to fall in it doesn’t work that way it can’t work that way

work that way it can’t work that way

work that way it can’t work that way because then you’re not allowing the

because then you’re not allowing the

because then you’re not allowing the universe to work its magic for the

universe to work its magic for the

universe to work its magic for the principle of giving to manifest our

principle of giving to manifest our

principle of giving to manifest our dreams our giving has got to be offered

dreams our giving has got to be offered

dreams our giving has got to be offered without strings without attachment

without strings without attachment

without strings without attachment without expectation our giving has got

without expectation our giving has got

without expectation our giving has got to be offered

to be offered

to be offered so joyously that it rises to the top and

so joyously that it rises to the top and

so joyously that it rises to the top and bubbles over within us creating a

bubbles over within us creating a

bubbles over within us creating a feeling of utter freedom and bliss and

feeling of utter freedom and bliss and

feeling of utter freedom and bliss and expectation puts the lid right over the

expectation puts the lid right over the

expectation puts the lid right over the cauldron of magic the you

cauldron of magic the you

cauldron of magic the you verse is cooking up to manifest our

verse is cooking up to manifest our

verse is cooking up to manifest our dreams and our lives life can create

dreams and our lives life can create

dreams and our lives life can create outcomes we cannot believe imaginable

outcomes we cannot believe imaginable

outcomes we cannot believe imaginable for ourselves the universe can

for ourselves the universe can

for ourselves the universe can orchestrate choirs of circumstances to

orchestrate choirs of circumstances to

orchestrate choirs of circumstances to carry out our dreams what do you want

carry out our dreams what do you want

carry out our dreams what do you want more of give that give that freely

more of give that give that freely

more of give that give that freely unabashedly the whole universe is

unabashedly the whole universe is

unabashedly the whole universe is counting on you thank you

counting on you thank you

counting on you thank you [Applause]

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