[Applause] hello it is one of life’s major
hello it is one of life’s major
hello it is one of life’s major inevitable truths that at some point in
inevitable truths that at some point in
inevitable truths that at some point in fact many points in life we all come
fact many points in life we all come
fact many points in life we all come face-to-face with moments when we are
face-to-face with moments when we are
face-to-face with moments when we are completely alone with our own thoughts
completely alone with our own thoughts
completely alone with our own thoughts our own worries our own doubts and fears
our own worries our own doubts and fears
our own worries our own doubts and fears we wouldn’t be human if we didn’t Harbor
we wouldn’t be human if we didn’t Harbor
we wouldn’t be human if we didn’t Harbor such feelings
such feelings
such feelings my name is Vivi I’m 18 and I’ve
my name is Vivi I’m 18 and I’ve
my name is Vivi I’m 18 and I’ve struggled with my own doubts and worries
struggled with my own doubts and worries
struggled with my own doubts and worries for as long as I can remember
for as long as I can remember
for as long as I can remember in fact I’ve worried until 2:00 a.m.
in fact I’ve worried until 2:00 a.m.
in fact I’ve worried until 2:00 a.m. about things that never happened and
about things that never happened and
about things that never happened and sadly I’m not the only person I know to
sadly I’m not the only person I know to
sadly I’m not the only person I know to feel this way to struggle this way in
feel this way to struggle this way in
feel this way to struggle this way in fact the majority of the people I know
fact the majority of the people I know
fact the majority of the people I know do I think our condition is exacerbated
do I think our condition is exacerbated
do I think our condition is exacerbated by two modern inventions the first one
by two modern inventions the first one
by two modern inventions the first one being social media and the second the
being social media and the second the
being social media and the second the mobile phone you see these modern-day
mobile phone you see these modern-day
mobile phone you see these modern-day necessities ensure that we are never
necessities ensure that we are never
necessities ensure that we are never completely alone never completely free
completely alone never completely free
completely alone never completely free from constant information and constant
from constant information and constant
from constant information and constant updates anytime we experience anything
updates anytime we experience anything
updates anytime we experience anything even remotely unpleasant we know exactly
even remotely unpleasant we know exactly
even remotely unpleasant we know exactly where to get a quick and impersonal fix
where to get a quick and impersonal fix
where to get a quick and impersonal fix so what if instead of constantly
so what if instead of constantly
so what if instead of constantly reaching out for the affirmation we seek
reaching out for the affirmation we seek
reaching out for the affirmation we seek we could reach in
today I want to talk to you about a
today I want to talk to you about a concept called self soothing it’s a
concept called self soothing it’s a
concept called self soothing it’s a concept we teach small children so that
concept we teach small children so that
concept we teach small children so that they can sleep on their own at night and
they can sleep on their own at night and
they can sleep on their own at night and yet a concept we lose the older we get
yet a concept we lose the older we get
yet a concept we lose the older we get when we truly need it it was in
when we truly need it it was in
when we truly need it it was in preparation for this very talk that I
preparation for this very talk that I
preparation for this very talk that I came face-to-face with a serious needs a
came face-to-face with a serious needs a
came face-to-face with a serious needs a self soothe I was pacing back and forth
self soothe I was pacing back and forth
self soothe I was pacing back and forth in my room I was thinking about
in my room I was thinking about
in my room I was thinking about something intelligent enough or
something intelligent enough or
something intelligent enough or interesting enough to talk about but
interesting enough to talk about but
interesting enough to talk about but everything seemed inadequate you see
everything seemed inadequate you see
everything seemed inadequate you see talking this way to a room full of
talking this way to a room full of
talking this way to a room full of people like this it was a dream of mine
people like this it was a dream of mine
people like this it was a dream of mine but something that seemed so beyond my
but something that seemed so beyond my
but something that seemed so beyond my grasp it was late it was too late to
grasp it was late it was too late to
grasp it was late it was too late to call friends or family to see what I
call friends or family to see what I
call friends or family to see what I should talk about what they thought and
should talk about what they thought and
should talk about what they thought and so I had to handle it on my own I
started off by asking myself basic
started off by asking myself basic questions the first and most important
questions the first and most important
questions the first and most important one being what is the worst thing that
one being what is the worst thing that
one being what is the worst thing that can happen you see if you can face the
can happen you see if you can face the
can happen you see if you can face the worst-case scenario and have some sort
worst-case scenario and have some sort
worst-case scenario and have some sort of grasp on how to handle it you’re
of grasp on how to handle it you’re
of grasp on how to handle it you’re already feeling less fearful and more
already feeling less fearful and more
already feeling less fearful and more empowered so I continue to ask myself
empowered so I continue to ask myself
empowered so I continue to ask myself questions could I learn from this
questions could I learn from this
questions could I learn from this experience would this be my last shot
experience would this be my last shot
experience would this be my last shot at anything like this and I decided it
at anything like this and I decided it
at anything like this and I decided it might be but trying and failing is not
might be but trying and failing is not
might be but trying and failing is not the worst thing that can happen and as
the worst thing that can happen and as
the worst thing that can happen and as this internal conversation went on I
this internal conversation went on I
this internal conversation went on I started to feel this inner glow the glow
started to feel this inner glow the glow
started to feel this inner glow the glow you feel when you’re passionate about
you feel when you’re passionate about
you feel when you’re passionate about something and you want to talk about it
something and you want to talk about it
something and you want to talk about it and you know exactly how you’re going to
and you know exactly how you’re going to
and you know exactly how you’re going to do it that moment
do it that moment
do it that moment when you strike the exact right chord
when you strike the exact right chord
when you strike the exact right chord you’re calm you’re confident and you’re
you’re calm you’re confident and you’re
you’re calm you’re confident and you’re ready that’s how I felt and I had done
ready that’s how I felt and I had done
ready that’s how I felt and I had done it all on my own
it all on my own
it all on my own you see being able to handle your own
you see being able to handle your own
you see being able to handle your own worries your own fears your own doubts
worries your own fears your own doubts
worries your own fears your own doubts it comes from being able to ask yourself
it comes from being able to ask yourself
it comes from being able to ask yourself those questions to have that
those questions to have that
those questions to have that conversation with yourself to be
conversation with yourself to be
conversation with yourself to be faithful to yourself to be your own
faithful to yourself to be your own
faithful to yourself to be your own friend to be your own confidant and as
friend to be your own confidant and as
friend to be your own confidant and as sure as cheesy as it sounds to be your
sure as cheesy as it sounds to be your
sure as cheesy as it sounds to be your own cheerleader to be there for yourself
own cheerleader to be there for yourself
own cheerleader to be there for yourself it’s the gift you give yourself and as
it’s the gift you give yourself and as
it’s the gift you give yourself and as odd as it may sound it’s the gift you
odd as it may sound it’s the gift you
odd as it may sound it’s the gift you give others humans are accustomed to
give others humans are accustomed to
give others humans are accustomed to leveling hurt people hurt other people
leveling hurt people hurt other people
leveling hurt people hurt other people and when I’m feeling down and I see
and when I’m feeling down and I see
and when I’m feeling down and I see other people succeed it doesn’t feel
other people succeed it doesn’t feel
other people succeed it doesn’t feel good
good
good but when I’m successful when I’ve
but when I’m successful when I’ve
but when I’m successful when I’ve achieved something and when I’m feeling
achieved something and when I’m feeling
achieved something and when I’m feeling good I want other people to feel good
good I want other people to feel good
good I want other people to feel good with me I want to bring them up on that
with me I want to bring them up on that
with me I want to bring them up on that level with me self-soothing is a concept
level with me self-soothing is a concept
level with me self-soothing is a concept that everyone can and should use to
that everyone can and should use to
that everyone can and should use to their advantage it’s a personal pursuit
their advantage it’s a personal pursuit
their advantage it’s a personal pursuit but one step towards a society where
but one step towards a society where
but one step towards a society where people are confident enough in their own
people are confident enough in their own
people are confident enough in their own abilities to want to bring other people
abilities to want to bring other people
abilities to want to bring other people up there with them for other people to
up there with them for other people to
up there with them for other people to want to make other people feel good with
want to make other people feel good with
want to make other people feel good with them nobody tells you that in those
them nobody tells you that in those
them nobody tells you that in those important moments in life when you’re
important moments in life when you’re
important moments in life when you’re sitting down for your final exam when
sitting down for your final exam when
sitting down for your final exam when you’re sitting down for a job interview
you’re sitting down for a job interview
you’re sitting down for a job interview when you’re going to a its head X Oslo
when you’re going to a its head X Oslo
when you’re going to a its head X Oslo Youth audition nobody tells you that
Youth audition nobody tells you that
Youth audition nobody tells you that you’re not gonna have their mother or
you’re not gonna have their mother or
you’re not gonna have their mother or your best friend or a psychologist there
your best friend or a psychologist there
your best friend or a psychologist there to take you through each and every step
to take you through each and every step
to take you through each and every step on my way to the audition I turned
on my way to the audition I turned
on my way to the audition I turned around five or six different
around five or six different
around five or six different times I was terrified walking up those
times I was terrified walking up those
times I was terrified walking up those stairs it was terrifying but I had that
stairs it was terrifying but I had that
stairs it was terrifying but I had that conversation with myself and I turned
conversation with myself and I turned
conversation with myself and I turned around and I went back in there and I
around and I went back in there and I
around and I went back in there and I did it this feels so good at the end of
did it this feels so good at the end of
did it this feels so good at the end of the day self-soothing is the reason that
the day self-soothing is the reason that
the day self-soothing is the reason that I can stand here in front of you and it
I can stand here in front of you and it
I can stand here in front of you and it feels so good I want each and every one
feels so good I want each and every one
feels so good I want each and every one of you to feel this way thank you
of you to feel this way thank you
of you to feel this way thank you [Applause]
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