TED Tools for Life | Howard Lettinga | TEDxVenlo

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[Music] very much today 12 speakers will take

very much today 12 speakers will take

very much today 12 speakers will take this stage each is fighting an epic

this stage each is fighting an epic

this stage each is fighting an epic battle it’s the battle against fear the

battle it’s the battle against fear the

battle it’s the battle against fear the fear of standing here now this is an old

fear of standing here now this is an old

fear of standing here now this is an old instinct it’s the same one that your

instinct it’s the same one that your

instinct it’s the same one that your ancestors had when they ran into this

ancestors had when they ran into this

ancestors had when they ran into this guy the saber-toothed tiger let’s give

guy the saber-toothed tiger let’s give

guy the saber-toothed tiger let’s give this guy a name who’s got a good name

this guy a name who’s got a good name

this guy a name who’s got a good name for this saber-tooth Tiger just yell it

for this saber-tooth Tiger just yell it

for this saber-tooth Tiger just yell it out sorry what’s that mr. t miss that is

out sorry what’s that mr. t miss that is

out sorry what’s that mr. t miss that is an excellent name that’s a very creative

an excellent name that’s a very creative

an excellent name that’s a very creative name you know when something is about to

name you know when something is about to

name you know when something is about to rip the meat off your bones it’s nice to

rip the meat off your bones it’s nice to

rip the meat off your bones it’s nice to know its name for future reference

know its name for future reference

know its name for future reference so what are my options when I stand out

so what are my options when I stand out

so what are my options when I stand out here well they’re the same ones that

here well they’re the same ones that

here well they’re the same ones that your ancestors had when they ran in to

your ancestors had when they ran in to

your ancestors had when they ran in to mr. t I can freeze which is going to

mr. t I can freeze which is going to

mr. t I can freeze which is going to make this a very spooky TED talk or I

make this a very spooky TED talk or I

make this a very spooky TED talk or I can take a flight flight I can run away

can take a flight flight I can run away

can take a flight flight I can run away or I can fight I can fight but that’s

or I can fight I can fight but that’s

or I can fight I can fight but that’s going to take a lot of courage but if

going to take a lot of courage but if

going to take a lot of courage but if you have something important to share

you have something important to share

you have something important to share with the world and that’s what you have

with the world and that’s what you have

with the world and that’s what you have to do in fact you have to go from stage

to do in fact you have to go from stage

to do in fact you have to go from stage fright to stage fight I’ve worked in

fright to stage fight I’ve worked in

fright to stage fight I’ve worked in communications for many years I’ve

communications for many years I’ve

communications for many years I’ve written hundreds of presentations and

written hundreds of presentations and

written hundreds of presentations and speeches for hundreds of speakers and I

speeches for hundreds of speakers and I

speeches for hundreds of speakers and I can share a few observations about this

can share a few observations about this

can share a few observations about this stage fight I’d like to share three with

stage fight I’d like to share three with

stage fight I’d like to share three with you to start with whoops

you to start with whoops

you to start with whoops to start with when people get on stage

to start with when people get on stage

to start with when people get on stage I’m gonna just go back one when people

I’m gonna just go back one when people

I’m gonna just go back one when people get on stage they tend to stand wrong

get on stage they tend to stand wrong

get on stage they tend to stand wrong they lock up their knees and that

they lock up their knees and that

they lock up their knees and that freezes everything up you don’t want to

freezes everything up you don’t want to

freezes everything up you don’t want to lock up your knees you want to bend the

lock up your knees you want to bend the

lock up your knees you want to bend the knees

knees

knees you want to be ready for the ready for

you want to be ready for the ready for

you want to be ready for the ready for the fight second with the adrenaline

the fight second with the adrenaline

the fight second with the adrenaline kicking in the breathing gets affected

kicking in the breathing gets affected

kicking in the breathing gets affected people breathe high in the lungs they

people breathe high in the lungs they

people breathe high in the lungs they start breathing fast and that breathing

start breathing fast and that breathing

start breathing fast and that breathing too shallow you don’t want to do that

too shallow you don’t want to do that

too shallow you don’t want to do that you want to breathe deep in your stomach

you want to breathe deep in your stomach

you want to breathe deep in your stomach deep in your stomach like a martial

deep in your stomach like a martial

deep in your stomach like a martial artist ready for the fight you want to

artist ready for the fight you want to

artist ready for the fight you want to breathe right for the fight and third

breathe right for the fight and third

breathe right for the fight and third with the knees locking up with breathing

with the knees locking up with breathing

with the knees locking up with breathing going ballistic that people tend to to

going ballistic that people tend to to

going ballistic that people tend to to tighten up the shoulders tense the

tighten up the shoulders tense the

tighten up the shoulders tense the shoulders that’s no way to give a TED

shoulders that’s no way to give a TED

shoulders that’s no way to give a TED talk because you want to relax the

talk because you want to relax the

talk because you want to relax the shoulders so I’ve come up with a tool

shoulders so I’ve come up with a tool

shoulders so I’ve come up with a tool for this and I want to share that tool

for this and I want to share that tool

for this and I want to share that tool with you and it’s called unfreeze the

with you and it’s called unfreeze the

with you and it’s called unfreeze the knees do you like it sketchy huh okay

knees do you like it sketchy huh okay

knees do you like it sketchy huh okay here’s how it works when I walk out on

here’s how it works when I walk out on

here’s how it works when I walk out on stage and I feel everything going

stage and I feel everything going

stage and I feel everything going ballistic I just say unfreeze the knees

ballistic I just say unfreeze the knees

ballistic I just say unfreeze the knees I feel much better but this works on

I feel much better but this works on

I feel much better but this works on stage but it also works off stage for

stage but it also works off stage for

stage but it also works off stage for instance I’m from the states I go back

instance I’m from the states I go back

instance I’m from the states I go back to the states quite often I go to family

to the states quite often I go to family

to the states quite often I go to family gatherings my Uncle Tom is there you

gatherings my Uncle Tom is there you

gatherings my Uncle Tom is there you know and he sees where he’s there and

know and he sees where he’s there and

know and he sees where he’s there and he’s telling everybody how we’re gonna

he’s telling everybody how we’re gonna

he’s telling everybody how we’re gonna make America great again and I’m think

make America great again and I’m think

make America great again and I’m think I’ll not that again unfreeze the knees

I’ll not that again unfreeze the knees

I’ll not that again unfreeze the knees and I can then I can even deal with

and I can then I can even deal with

and I can then I can even deal with Uncle Tom it’s that powerful so you know

Uncle Tom it’s that powerful so you know

Uncle Tom it’s that powerful so you know I want to share this with you and this

I want to share this with you and this

I want to share this with you and this is a fantastic opportunity we have like

is a fantastic opportunity we have like

is a fantastic opportunity we have like 700 people here and I want the best way

700 people here and I want the best way

700 people here and I want the best way to learn something we heard that from

to learn something we heard that from

to learn something we heard that from rude earlier today from root is to

rude earlier today from root is to

rude earlier today from root is to experience it so I’d like to ask you all

experience it so I’d like to ask you all

experience it so I’d like to ask you all to stand up would you do that

to stand up would you do that

to stand up would you do that and you’re gonna I want you to

and you’re gonna I want you to

and you’re gonna I want you to experience the power of this because

experience the power of this because

experience the power of this because what you’re going to experience is how

what you’re going to experience is how

what you’re going to experience is how to start with how easy it is unfreeze

to start with how easy it is unfreeze

to start with how easy it is unfreeze the knees do it yeah you feel it you

the knees do it yeah you feel it you

the knees do it yeah you feel it you feel that and and to really feel that

feel that and and to really feel that

feel that and and to really feel that you got to get a little bounce going

you got to get a little bounce going

you got to get a little bounce going okay cuz bouncing is fine right yeah and

okay cuz bouncing is fine right yeah and

okay cuz bouncing is fine right yeah and you can bounce to your rights bounced

you can bounce to your rights bounced

you can bounce to your rights bounced you’re right a little bit bounce to the

you’re right a little bit bounce to the

you’re right a little bit bounce to the right to the right and bounce to the

right to the right and bounce to the

right to the right and bounce to the left to the sir careful not what’s

left to the sir careful not what’s

left to the sir careful not what’s safety first okay thank you okay

safety first okay thank you okay

safety first okay thank you okay but just bounce a little bit now hold

but just bounce a little bit now hold

but just bounce a little bit now hold that position okay hold that position

that position okay hold that position

that position okay hold that position you’re standing right you’re breathing

you’re standing right you’re breathing

you’re standing right you’re breathing right your shoulders are relaxed that’s

right your shoulders are relaxed that’s

right your shoulders are relaxed that’s the unfreeze the knees position we’re

the unfreeze the knees position we’re

the unfreeze the knees position we’re going to simulate two situations first

going to simulate two situations first

going to simulate two situations first situation on stage you are standing be

situation on stage you are standing be

situation on stage you are standing be imagine this you are standing behind

imagine this you are standing behind

imagine this you are standing behind that curtain imagine it I was just there

that curtain imagine it I was just there

that curtain imagine it I was just there it’s scary it’s very scary but so think

it’s scary it’s very scary but so think

it’s scary it’s very scary but so think about that you’re back there it’s lonely

about that you’re back there it’s lonely

about that you’re back there it’s lonely it’s scary but all of a sudden you hear

it’s scary but all of a sudden you hear

it’s scary but all of a sudden you hear high so Martina announce your name

high so Martina announce your name

high so Martina announce your name you walk out imagine that you’re walking

you walk out imagine that you’re walking

you walk out imagine that you’re walking out you come out here you stand here you

out you come out here you stand here you

out you come out here you stand here you look at five six seven hundred mr. T’s

look at five six seven hundred mr. T’s

look at five six seven hundred mr. T’s can you feel it yeah so do it when these

can you feel it yeah so do it when these

can you feel it yeah so do it when these freeze up the knees freeze up through

freeze up the knees freeze up through

freeze up the knees freeze up through the breathing freeze up the shoulders

the breathing freeze up the shoulders

the breathing freeze up the shoulders would just say unfreeze the knees feel

would just say unfreeze the knees feel

would just say unfreeze the knees feel it it’s good and I promise you take it

it it’s good and I promise you take it

it it’s good and I promise you take it with you but now we’re gonna do it

with you but now we’re gonna do it

with you but now we’re gonna do it offstage and I need to set this up

offstage and I need to set this up

offstage and I need to set this up offstage because here it is I love the

offstage because here it is I love the

offstage because here it is I love the touch I I really loved the Dutch I think

touch I I really loved the Dutch I think

touch I I really loved the Dutch I think you guys are great but there’s something

you guys are great but there’s something

you guys are great but there’s something you’re really bad at you are really bad

you’re really bad at you are really bad

you’re really bad at you are really bad at standing in line it you are it’s it

at standing in line it you are it’s it

at standing in line it you are it’s it doesn’t work for you it’s something

doesn’t work for you it’s something

doesn’t work for you it’s something really it’s very stressful for you so so

really it’s very stressful for you so so

really it’s very stressful for you so so we’re going to simulate standing in line

we’re going to simulate standing in line

we’re going to simulate standing in line okay and to do that of course I want

okay and to do that of course I want

okay and to do that of course I want everybody to turn to their left okay

everybody to turn to their left okay

everybody to turn to their left okay turn to your left you get to get the

turn to your left you get to get the

turn to your left you get to get the feeling huh so yeah imagine this you’re

feeling huh so yeah imagine this you’re

feeling huh so yeah imagine this you’re at the growth the grocery store you got

at the growth the grocery store you got

at the growth the grocery store you got your Kino or your yogurt or whatever it

your Kino or your yogurt or whatever it

your Kino or your yogurt or whatever it is you know and you’re feeling good you

is you know and you’re feeling good you

is you know and you’re feeling good you come around the corner and oMG it’s the

come around the corner and oMG it’s the

come around the corner and oMG it’s the biggest line you’ve ever seen do you

biggest line you’ve ever seen do you

biggest line you’ve ever seen do you feel that feel the test tighten up the

feel that feel the test tighten up the

feel that feel the test tighten up the knees tighten up the breathing does it

knees tighten up the breathing does it

knees tighten up the breathing does it and now say it out loud unfreeze the

and now say it out loud unfreeze the

and now say it out loud unfreeze the knees yeah now you feel that feel the

knees yeah now you feel that feel the

knees yeah now you feel that feel the power do it next time for doing

power do it next time for doing

power do it next time for doing something slightly silly but potentially

something slightly silly but potentially

something slightly silly but potentially valuable give yourself a round of

valuable give yourself a round of

valuable give yourself a round of applause please

applause please

applause please yeah

have a seat by the way have a seat um

have a seat by the way have a seat um geez can’t stand like that forever yeah

geez can’t stand like that forever yeah

geez can’t stand like that forever yeah these are what I call Ted tools for life

these are what I call Ted tools for life

these are what I call Ted tools for life Ted tools for life you had it on stage

Ted tools for life you had it on stage

Ted tools for life you had it on stage and off tools for success now I that

and off tools for success now I that

and off tools for success now I that took a while but I have three more I

took a while but I have three more I

took a while but I have three more I want to share it’ll go much faster three

want to share it’ll go much faster three

want to share it’ll go much faster three more I want to share and then I want to

more I want to share and then I want to

more I want to share and then I want to end with a big idea okay so here is the

end with a big idea okay so here is the

end with a big idea okay so here is the is that clear

is that clear

is that clear three more big idea okay tool number one

three more big idea okay tool number one

three more big idea okay tool number one manage audience expectations you know

manage audience expectations you know

manage audience expectations you know where we’re going right now right we got

where we’re going right now right we got

where we’re going right now right we got this tool to to go Howard’s off next

this tool to to go Howard’s off next

this tool to to go Howard’s off next speaker thank goodness right so that’s

speaker thank goodness right so that’s

speaker thank goodness right so that’s great but man here’s the power about

great but man here’s the power about

great but man here’s the power about managing expectations and and you should

managing expectations and and you should

managing expectations and and you should man it when you’re in meetings when

man it when you’re in meetings when

man it when you’re in meetings when you’re in meetings with colleagues or

you’re in meetings with colleagues or

you’re in meetings with colleagues or customers or client classmates manage

customers or client classmates manage

customers or client classmates manage expectations when you’re talking about

expectations when you’re talking about

expectations when you’re talking about your projects because what’s the power

your projects because what’s the power

your projects because what’s the power of that it means you’re taking the lead

of that it means you’re taking the lead

of that it means you’re taking the lead you’re looking very carefully yet you’re

you’re looking very carefully yet you’re

you’re looking very carefully yet you’re focusing on how do I manage this how do

focusing on how do I manage this how do

focusing on how do I manage this how do I take the next steps how do I share my

I take the next steps how do I share my

I take the next steps how do I share my ideas sell my ideas how do i generate

ideas sell my ideas how do i generate

ideas sell my ideas how do i generate enthusiasm for what I’m trying to

enthusiasm for what I’m trying to

enthusiasm for what I’m trying to generate enthusiasm for and build

generate enthusiasm for and build

generate enthusiasm for and build something good together manage

something good together manage

something good together manage expectations audiences love it and you

expectations audiences love it and you

expectations audiences love it and you will get better results now the second

will get better results now the second

will get better results now the second top the second tool just take a little

top the second tool just take a little

top the second tool just take a little drink here the second tool before I do

drink here the second tool before I do

drink here the second tool before I do it I need to say this

I think you guys are great I do you know

I think you guys are great I do you know you could be anywhere today but but you

you could be anywhere today but but you

you could be anywhere today but but you want to be here because you know

want to be here because you know

want to be here because you know something good is happening here you

something good is happening here you

something good is happening here you know people are doing good things about

know people are doing good things about

know people are doing good things about dealing with the the the situations of

dealing with the the the situations of

dealing with the the the situations of refugees looking at how to make

refugees looking at how to make

refugees looking at how to make drinkable rivers how to get more women

drinkable rivers how to get more women

drinkable rivers how to get more women in science you choose to be here because

in science you choose to be here because

in science you choose to be here because you know good things are happening I

you know good things are happening I

you know good things are happening I mean you’re obviously smart creative

mean you’re obviously smart creative

mean you’re obviously smart creative forward-thinking I think you guys are

forward-thinking I think you guys are

forward-thinking I think you guys are cool so I just want to say that Ted tool

cool so I just want to say that Ted tool

cool so I just want to say that Ted tool number two always complement the

number two always complement the

number two always complement the audience always complimentary right and

audience always complimentary right and

audience always complimentary right and how did it feel when I said that how’d

how did it feel when I said that how’d

how did it feel when I said that how’d it feel felt good right yeah and I mean

it feel felt good right yeah and I mean

it feel felt good right yeah and I mean it felt good because I meant it but it

it felt good because I meant it but it

it felt good because I meant it but it felt but it’s true and compliments

felt but it’s true and compliments

felt but it’s true and compliments connect when you give people a

connect when you give people a

connect when you give people a compliment and commit to a compliment

compliment and commit to a compliment

compliment and commit to a compliment you connect with them and people are

you connect with them and people are

you connect with them and people are connecting build things better together

connecting build things better together

connecting build things better together and you know even more powerful I think

and you know even more powerful I think

and you know even more powerful I think is when you commit to a compliment you

is when you commit to a compliment you

is when you commit to a compliment you have an assignment for yourself you’ve

have an assignment for yourself you’ve

have an assignment for yourself you’ve given yourself the assignment to look

given yourself the assignment to look

given yourself the assignment to look for the positive in things so powerful

for the positive in things so powerful

for the positive in things so powerful you know we are so good at looking

you know we are so good at looking

you know we are so good at looking what’s wrong and wanting to fix that and

what’s wrong and wanting to fix that and

what’s wrong and wanting to fix that and focusing on that but when you commit to

focusing on that but when you commit to

focusing on that but when you commit to a compliment you’re focusing on what’s

a compliment you’re focusing on what’s

a compliment you’re focusing on what’s good and how to build on that energy so

good and how to build on that energy so

good and how to build on that energy so in that meeting with the colleague the

in that meeting with the colleague the

in that meeting with the colleague the classmate when you’re getting feedback

classmate when you’re getting feedback

classmate when you’re getting feedback back and maybe you don’t even maybe it’s

back and maybe you don’t even maybe it’s

back and maybe you don’t even maybe it’s not the nicest feedback but commit to

not the nicest feedback but commit to

not the nicest feedback but commit to that compliment what’s good in that and

that compliment what’s good in that and

that compliment what’s good in that and and compliment that colleague for giving

and compliment that colleague for giving

and compliment that colleague for giving you that and then focus on how you can

you that and then focus on how you can

you that and then focus on how you can get value out of that and build things

get value out of that and build things

get value out of that and build things together so number two number three now

together so number two number three now

together so number two number three now by the way it complements really work

by the way it complements really work

by the way it complements really work they I use them all the time they work

they I use them all the time they work

they I use them all the time they work my colleagues know that and they’re all

my colleagues know that and they’re all

my colleagues know that and they’re all they’re all looking kind of funny right

they’re all looking kind of funny right

they’re all looking kind of funny right now it means I don’t blame them tool

now it means I don’t blame them tool

now it means I don’t blame them tool number three it’s easy you do it all the

number three it’s easy you do it all the

number three it’s easy you do it all the time smile okay just just bringing the

time smile okay just just bringing the

time smile okay just just bringing the word up I see people smiling yeah it’s

word up I see people smiling yeah it’s

word up I see people smiling yeah it’s great when you smile you actually

great when you smile you actually

great when you smile you actually activate chemicals in your brain that

activate chemicals in your brain that

activate chemicals in your brain that relax you and that’s important for

relax you and that’s important for

relax you and that’s important for connecting with people when you smile

connecting with people when you smile

connecting with people when you smile you are

you are

you are Seve as being more relaxed more reliable

Seve as being more relaxed more reliable

Seve as being more relaxed more reliable more attractive studies prove this smile

more attractive studies prove this smile

more attractive studies prove this smile is so easy and so powerful and smiles

is so easy and so powerful and smiles

is so easy and so powerful and smiles are contagious when you smile people

are contagious when you smile people

are contagious when you smile people around you smile so we’re going to do

around you smile so we’re going to do

around you smile so we’re going to do something actually quite we’re gonna do

something actually quite we’re gonna do

something actually quite we’re gonna do something unique here so amazing we are

something unique here so amazing we are

something unique here so amazing we are going to have the biggest collective

going to have the biggest collective

going to have the biggest collective smile in Venlo today and it’s going to

smile in Venlo today and it’s going to

smile in Venlo today and it’s going to happen here at TEDx Venlo it’s it’s

happen here at TEDx Venlo it’s it’s

happen here at TEDx Venlo it’s it’s gonna be great you know so um and

gonna be great you know so um and

gonna be great you know so um and actually we’re it’s gonna be so good

actually we’re it’s gonna be so good

actually we’re it’s gonna be so good that we are going to get Patrick the

that we are going to get Patrick the

that we are going to get Patrick the photographer he’s gonna capture this

photographer he’s gonna capture this

photographer he’s gonna capture this where’s Patrick give Patrick round of

where’s Patrick give Patrick round of

where’s Patrick give Patrick round of applause yeah one of one of the best

applause yeah one of one of the best

applause yeah one of one of the best photographers at TEDx Venlo okay so he

photographers at TEDx Venlo okay so he

photographers at TEDx Venlo okay so he is say so okay when I say smile it’s

is say so okay when I say smile it’s

is say so okay when I say smile it’s gonna feel a little bit like a picnic

gonna feel a little bit like a picnic

gonna feel a little bit like a picnic and picture but when I say smile you

and picture but when I say smile you

and picture but when I say smile you smile biggest collective of smiling

smile biggest collective of smiling

smile biggest collective of smiling ready smile smile

ready smile smile

ready smile smile yeah it’s good I feel relaxed okay yeah

yeah it’s good I feel relaxed okay yeah

yeah it’s good I feel relaxed okay yeah you got it yeah let’s let’s make a

you got it yeah let’s let’s make a

you got it yeah let’s let’s make a selfie out of it pet can we make a

selfie out of it pet can we make a

selfie out of it pet can we make a selfie out of that okay smile

selfie out of that okay smile

selfie out of that okay smile yeah now you know one more little extras

yeah now you know one more little extras

yeah now you know one more little extras Thank You Patrick

Thank You Patrick

Thank You Patrick all right just to make it a little more

all right just to make it a little more

all right just to make it a little more intense make it a little more intense

intense make it a little more intense

intense make it a little more intense look at someone left or right doesn’t

look at someone left or right doesn’t

look at someone left or right doesn’t matter do both maybe look him right in

matter do both maybe look him right in

matter do both maybe look him right in the eye and smile smile it’s nice huh

the eye and smile smile it’s nice huh

the eye and smile smile it’s nice huh yeah see how attractive they are CEO

yeah see how attractive they are CEO

yeah see how attractive they are CEO good sir don’t let sir do not look at

good sir don’t let sir do not look at

good sir don’t let sir do not look at her like that that is a little spooky

her like that that is a little spooky

her like that that is a little spooky okay but it’s a little creepy actually

okay but it’s a little creepy actually

okay but it’s a little creepy actually but there it is smile some that’s the

but there it is smile some that’s the

but there it is smile some that’s the three although I see I see a few of you

three although I see I see a few of you

three although I see I see a few of you I see a few of you you’re thinking I see

I see a few of you you’re thinking I see

I see a few of you you’re thinking I see it you’re thinking yeah there’s nothing

it you’re thinking yeah there’s nothing

it you’re thinking yeah there’s nothing worse than a fake smile and I see it

worse than a fake smile and I see it

worse than a fake smile and I see it yours but you’re you’re right you’re

yours but you’re you’re right you’re

yours but you’re you’re right you’re such a smart audience it’s amazing so um

such a smart audience it’s amazing so um

such a smart audience it’s amazing so um and that brings me to this the big idea

and that brings me to this the big idea

and that brings me to this the big idea this is a Lisa

this is a Lisa

this is a Lisa hey Lisa I was a speaker at TEDx Venlo

hey Lisa I was a speaker at TEDx Venlo

hey Lisa I was a speaker at TEDx Venlo last year she was a Syrian refugee

last year she was a Syrian refugee

last year she was a Syrian refugee she came on stage to tell about her

she came on stage to tell about her

she came on stage to tell about her journey to Venlo

journey to Venlo

journey to Venlo here you see her she looks poised

here you see her she looks poised

here you see her she looks poised confident she’s fantastic but like many

confident she’s fantastic but like many

confident she’s fantastic but like many speakers like many speakers a Lisa was

speakers like many speakers a Lisa was

speakers like many speakers a Lisa was terrified she was terrified of being on

terrified she was terrified of being on

terrified she was terrified of being on this stage but she did not let that fear

this stage but she did not let that fear

this stage but she did not let that fear stop her because she was on a mission

stop her because she was on a mission

stop her because she was on a mission she was on a mission to do something

she was on a mission to do something

she was on a mission to do something good to tell a story she felt had to be

good to tell a story she felt had to be

good to tell a story she felt had to be told a mission to do something good and

told a mission to do something good and

told a mission to do something good and to me that is the big idea I’d like to

to me that is the big idea I’d like to

to me that is the big idea I’d like to end with focus on the good that’s the

end with focus on the good that’s the

end with focus on the good that’s the most powerful tool on stage and off than

most powerful tool on stage and off than

most powerful tool on stage and off than you can have now here’s my personal

you can have now here’s my personal

you can have now here’s my personal philosophy be strong do good you know I

philosophy be strong do good you know I

philosophy be strong do good you know I I can tell you it’s pretty scary behind

I can tell you it’s pretty scary behind

I can tell you it’s pretty scary behind that that stage back there behind that

that that stage back there behind that

that that stage back there behind that curtain but I’m pretty sure that by

curtain but I’m pretty sure that by

curtain but I’m pretty sure that by doing this I’ll be a better coach for

doing this I’ll be a better coach for

doing this I’ll be a better coach for the Ted speakers down the road and those

the Ted speakers down the road and those

the Ted speakers down the road and those speakers as you know are focused on

speakers as you know are focused on

speakers as you know are focused on doing something good and that gives you

doing something good and that gives you

doing something good and that gives you strength I’ve I’ve worked with hundreds

strength I’ve I’ve worked with hundreds

strength I’ve I’ve worked with hundreds of speakers many of them say how do I

of speakers many of them say how do I

of speakers many of them say how do I manage the fright a stage fright and the

manage the fright a stage fright and the

manage the fright a stage fright and the answer is do not focus on the fright

answer is do not focus on the fright

answer is do not focus on the fright focus on the fight the fight to do

focus on the fight the fight to do

focus on the fight the fight to do something good that’s where you will

something good that’s where you will

something good that’s where you will find strength fear will always feel real

find strength fear will always feel real

find strength fear will always feel real but when you focus on the good you get

but when you focus on the good you get

but when you focus on the good you get the courage to get unreal and when you

the courage to get unreal and when you

the courage to get unreal and when you focus on the good your smile will be

focus on the good your smile will be

focus on the good your smile will be authentic your compliment will be

authentic your compliment will be

authentic your compliment will be genuine it will I promise

genuine it will I promise

genuine it will I promise so those are the Ted tools for life that

so those are the Ted tools for life that

so those are the Ted tools for life that I wanted to share the next time you run

I wanted to share the next time you run

I wanted to share the next time you run into all those mr. T’s out there whether

into all those mr. T’s out there whether

into all those mr. T’s out there whether it’s a one or a thousand doesn’t matter

it’s a one or a thousand doesn’t matter

it’s a one or a thousand doesn’t matter unfreeze the knees manage expectations

unfreeze the knees manage expectations

unfreeze the knees manage expectations smile you know how to do it we did it

smile you know how to do it we did it

smile you know how to do it we did it right smile I want to thank you for

right smile I want to thank you for

right smile I want to thank you for being a smart creative fantastic amazing

being a smart creative fantastic amazing

being a smart creative fantastic amazing TEDx van Lowe audience be strong and

TEDx van Lowe audience be strong and

TEDx van Lowe audience be strong and you’re good

you’re good

you’re good [Applause]