so one day one of my colleague came to my office with a gift it was wonderfully
my office with a gift it was wonderfully
my office with a gift it was wonderfully wrapped in a beautiful piece of paper
wrapped in a beautiful piece of paper
wrapped in a beautiful piece of paper and inside it he was wrapped again with
and inside it he was wrapped again with
and inside it he was wrapped again with a little note saying exciting right and
a little note saying exciting right and
a little note saying exciting right and in there
in there
in there I finally found well it’s kind of shaky
I finally found well it’s kind of shaky
I finally found well it’s kind of shaky but my name in chocolate letters so I go
but my name in chocolate letters so I go
but my name in chocolate letters so I go wow I love it that’s so kind of you what
wow I love it that’s so kind of you what
wow I love it that’s so kind of you what did I do to deserve this
did I do to deserve this
did I do to deserve this well Matilda has been eight months now
well Matilda has been eight months now
well Matilda has been eight months now that you’re in the company and uh I know
that you’re in the company and uh I know
that you’re in the company and uh I know that you’re feeling like so here is
that you’re feeling like so here is
that you’re feeling like so here is a chocolate letter for every month of
a chocolate letter for every month of
a chocolate letter for every month of your intense trouble well thank you so
your intense trouble well thank you so
your intense trouble well thank you so kind didn’t really know how to take this
kind didn’t really know how to take this
kind didn’t really know how to take this anymore
anymore
anymore and the saddest part is that this isn’t
and the saddest part is that this isn’t
and the saddest part is that this isn’t just a introduction that I made
just a introduction that I made
just a introduction that I made it to be catchy this is actually a true
it to be catchy this is actually a true
it to be catchy this is actually a true story and what this chocolate bar
story and what this chocolate bar
story and what this chocolate bar already did
already did
already did despite lowering the age all suffer from
despite lowering the age all suffer from
despite lowering the age all suffer from diabetes or any other kind of sugar
diabetes or any other kind of sugar
diabetes or any other kind of sugar overload related disorder is that it
overload related disorder is that it
overload related disorder is that it made me deeply reflect on how did I even
made me deeply reflect on how did I even
made me deeply reflect on how did I even get here to this point of low self
get here to this point of low self
get here to this point of low self esteem a feeling of being inadequate
esteem a feeling of being inadequate
esteem a feeling of being inadequate giving 600 percent of myself for reasons
giving 600 percent of myself for reasons
giving 600 percent of myself for reasons I have anymore and filling fooled and
I have anymore and filling fooled and
I have anymore and filling fooled and deluded about everything that had been
deluded about everything that had been
deluded about everything that had been taught to me so far
taught to me so far
taught to me so far so let’s rebound to my childhood to
so let’s rebound to my childhood to
so let’s rebound to my childhood to understand the source of this entire
understand the source of this entire
understand the source of this entire situation my parents grew up with a much
situation my parents grew up with a much
situation my parents grew up with a much more positive and smoother life
more positive and smoother life
more positive and smoother life experience than the one of my
experience than the one of my
experience than the one of my grandparents so they raised me with a
grandparents so they raised me with a
grandparents so they raised me with a sense of optimism and infinite
sense of optimism and infinite
sense of optimism and infinite possibilities telling me that I was
possibilities telling me that I was
possibilities telling me that I was special and that I could do whatever I
special and that I could do whatever I
special and that I could do whatever I wanted to do never actually warning me
wanted to do never actually warning me
wanted to do never actually warning me that at least at some point I would need
that at least at some point I would need
that at least at some point I would need to
to
to in the effort I also grew up in a world
in the effort I also grew up in a world
in the effort I also grew up in a world of instant gratification this is what I
of instant gratification this is what I
of instant gratification this is what I do if I want to eat sushi learn Dutch
do if I want to eat sushi learn Dutch
do if I want to eat sushi learn Dutch buy socks talk to my Mexican friend
buy socks talk to my Mexican friend
buy socks talk to my Mexican friend check how much money I have left on my
check how much money I have left on my
check how much money I have left on my bank account or even if I want to date
bank account or even if I want to date
bank account or even if I want to date for tonight it’s a world of constant
for tonight it’s a world of constant
for tonight it’s a world of constant access I do not even know what this
access I do not even know what this
access I do not even know what this trans word even mean patience that
trans word even mean patience that
trans word even mean patience that sounds so old-fashioned
sounds so old-fashioned
sounds so old-fashioned and even at school I’ve been told I just
and even at school I’ve been told I just
and even at school I’ve been told I just need to work for my exams have a good
need to work for my exams have a good
need to work for my exams have a good grades that will get me to a good job
grades that will get me to a good job
grades that will get me to a good job and a great career easy this also I can
and a great career easy this also I can
and a great career easy this also I can do so my tragus ambition with being a
do so my tragus ambition with being a
do so my tragus ambition with being a little bit mistaken about my own
little bit mistaken about my own
little bit mistaken about my own self-worth leaves me with completely
self-worth leaves me with completely
self-worth leaves me with completely unrealistic wishes about my future
unrealistic wishes about my future
unrealistic wishes about my future career I am not dreaming about a secure
career I am not dreaming about a secure
career I am not dreaming about a secure career like our parents did I’m dreaming
career like our parents did I’m dreaming
career like our parents did I’m dreaming about international mobility free coffee
about international mobility free coffee
about international mobility free coffee and hot chocolate bean bags fruit
and hot chocolate bean bags fruit
and hot chocolate bean bags fruit baskets the possibility to gain my own
baskets the possibility to gain my own
baskets the possibility to gain my own hours
hours
hours I want to learn new skills of the time
I want to learn new skills of the time
I want to learn new skills of the time be given responsibilities feel
be given responsibilities feel
be given responsibilities feel autonomous no micromanagement all this
autonomous no micromanagement all this
autonomous no micromanagement all this and I actually realized that this is
and I actually realized that this is
and I actually realized that this is might be not completely possible but I
might be not completely possible but I
might be not completely possible but I don’t know this yet anyways so I study
don’t know this yet anyways so I study
don’t know this yet anyways so I study and I get ready for the workplace with
and I get ready for the workplace with
and I get ready for the workplace with high expectations high self-esteem and
high expectations high self-esteem and
high expectations high self-esteem and the very deep certainty that everything
the very deep certainty that everything
the very deep certainty that everything would be given to me in a second has it
would be given to me in a second has it
would be given to me in a second has it always been and then I face reality I
always been and then I face reality I
always been and then I face reality I step in a corporate world that I wasn’t
step in a corporate world that I wasn’t
step in a corporate world that I wasn’t prepared for in an environment that
prepared for in an environment that
prepared for in an environment that cares more
cares more
cares more about numbers then about the long life
about numbers then about the long life
about numbers then about the long life fulfillment of its people I realized
fulfillment of its people I realized
fulfillment of its people I realized that I’m not special anymore that I’m
that I’m not special anymore that I’m
that I’m not special anymore that I’m just one among others and that actually
just one among others and that actually
just one among others and that actually a great career takes time patience
a great career takes time patience
a great career takes time patience effort and long years of sweat and tears
effort and long years of sweat and tears
effort and long years of sweat and tears to build great how do I get there I
to build great how do I get there I
to build great how do I get there I finally feel with my low self-esteem
finally feel with my low self-esteem
finally feel with my low self-esteem without feeling of being inadequate and
without feeling of being inadequate and
without feeling of being inadequate and I realize that I studied all these years
I realize that I studied all these years
I realize that I studied all these years to bring to the workplace a toolbox that
to bring to the workplace a toolbox that
to bring to the workplace a toolbox that is actually full of the wrong tools
is actually full of the wrong tools
is actually full of the wrong tools because our school system has been
because our school system has been
because our school system has been designed during the industrial
designed during the industrial
designed during the industrial revolution so it does a wonderful job
revolution so it does a wonderful job
revolution so it does a wonderful job creating people for the jobs of the 20th
creating people for the jobs of the 20th
creating people for the jobs of the 20th century there’s just one big problem we
century there’s just one big problem we
century there’s just one big problem we do not need those kind of people anymore
do not need those kind of people anymore
do not need those kind of people anymore also my generation let’s say our
also my generation let’s say our
also my generation let’s say our generation doesn’t learn the way our
generation doesn’t learn the way our
generation doesn’t learn the way our parents did we use technological tools
parents did we use technological tools
parents did we use technological tools as an extension of our brain we find
as an extension of our brain we find
as an extension of our brain we find empowerment discovering things on our
empowerment discovering things on our
empowerment discovering things on our own what we want from a teacher is
own what we want from a teacher is
own what we want from a teacher is actually just to know what do you want
actually just to know what do you want
actually just to know what do you want us to know and when do you want us to
us to know and when do you want us to
us to know and when do you want us to know it
know it
know it we will share explore and investigate
we will share explore and investigate
we will share explore and investigate far more terrified than any teacher
far more terrified than any teacher
far more terrified than any teacher would require us to do so just kick us
would require us to do so just kick us
would require us to do so just kick us out of the classroom with a problem to
out of the classroom with a problem to
out of the classroom with a problem to solve and we will come back saying we
solve and we will come back saying we
solve and we will come back saying we tried and we appeal II failed and just
tried and we appeal II failed and just
tried and we appeal II failed and just help us understand why we’re not coming
help us understand why we’re not coming
help us understand why we’re not coming to university anymore to get a degree we
to university anymore to get a degree we
to university anymore to get a degree we want to add value to it we do not want
want to add value to it we do not want
want to add value to it we do not want to walk out of the classroom knowing
to walk out of the classroom knowing
to walk out of the classroom knowing facts from someone who doesn’t know
facts from someone who doesn’t know
facts from someone who doesn’t know better than Google so
better than Google so
better than Google so I think now we need school systems that
I think now we need school systems that
I think now we need school systems that value problem-solving and autonomy as
value problem-solving and autonomy as
value problem-solving and autonomy as much as it values the ability to absorb
much as it values the ability to absorb
much as it values the ability to absorb and regurgitate information fortunately
and regurgitate information fortunately
and regurgitate information fortunately I do not want you to walk out of this
I do not want you to walk out of this
I do not want you to walk out of this place feeling that you’re going to fail
place feeling that you’re going to fail
place feeling that you’re going to fail your career no matter what you do
your career no matter what you do
your career no matter what you do because every school system has an
because every school system has an
because every school system has an evolved fast enough let’s kind of be
evolved fast enough let’s kind of be
evolved fast enough let’s kind of be alright but I rather want you to leave
alright but I rather want you to leave
alright but I rather want you to leave with some insights on how you generation
with some insights on how you generation
with some insights on how you generation of self learner can teach yourself some
of self learner can teach yourself some
of self learner can teach yourself some of the skills that you only learn the
of the skills that you only learn the
of the skills that you only learn the very existence of when you too badly
very existence of when you too badly
very existence of when you too badly need them so I made a list of five that
need them so I made a list of five that
need them so I made a list of five that for me are quite important and that you
for me are quite important and that you
for me are quite important and that you should really think of the first one is
should really think of the first one is
should really think of the first one is self-awareness someone who’s self-aware
self-awareness someone who’s self-aware
self-awareness someone who’s self-aware is very able to understand his own
is very able to understand his own
is very able to understand his own strengths and weaknesses his personal
strengths and weaknesses his personal
strengths and weaknesses his personal feelings and emotions his limitations
feelings and emotions his limitations
feelings and emotions his limitations someone who’s self-aware is also better
someone who’s self-aware is also better
someone who’s self-aware is also better able to handle and to learn from
able to handle and to learn from
able to handle and to learn from constructive criticism someone who’s
constructive criticism someone who’s
constructive criticism someone who’s self-aware is also variable to take very
self-aware is also variable to take very
self-aware is also variable to take very important decision because he can base
important decision because he can base
important decision because he can base his understanding of the situation on
his understanding of the situation on
his understanding of the situation on his gut such big life-changing choices
his gut such big life-changing choices
his gut such big life-changing choices such as which job to pursue or which
such as which job to pursue or which
such as which job to pursue or which partner you want to build a life with so
partner you want to build a life with so
partner you want to build a life with so how can you teach yourself this you have
how can you teach yourself this you have
how can you teach yourself this you have to train yourself on figuring out how
to train yourself on figuring out how
to train yourself on figuring out how you feel throughout the day what I did
you feel throughout the day what I did
you feel throughout the day what I did is that I put a little alarm clock at
is that I put a little alarm clock at
is that I put a little alarm clock at four different times during the day and
four different times during the day and
four different times during the day and when it rings I pause and I try to
when it rings I pause and I try to
when it rings I pause and I try to understand how I feel at that very fist
understand how I feel at that very fist
understand how I feel at that very fist specific moment and sometimes I put the
specific moment and sometimes I put the
specific moment and sometimes I put the finger on doubts on frustrations on
finger on doubts on frustrations on
finger on doubts on frustrations on disappointments that I hadn’t even
disappointments that I hadn’t even
disappointments that I hadn’t even noticed so I can start figuring out
noticed so I can start figuring out
noticed so I can start figuring out where does this come from and I can
where does this come from and I can
where does this come from and I can start acting on it good thing
start acting on it good thing
start acting on it good thing second skill how to fail at school we
second skill how to fail at school we
second skill how to fail at school we have been trained for success failure
have been trained for success failure
have been trained for success failure it’s bad it’s wrong it’s a shame you’re
it’s bad it’s wrong it’s a shame you’re
it’s bad it’s wrong it’s a shame you’re an idiot you won’t pass but we’re never
an idiot you won’t pass but we’re never
an idiot you won’t pass but we’re never being taught that actually failure is an
being taught that actually failure is an
being taught that actually failure is an opportunity for learning and for growth
opportunity for learning and for growth
opportunity for learning and for growth so how can you teach yourself this well
so how can you teach yourself this well
so how can you teach yourself this well the best way is to actually force
the best way is to actually force
the best way is to actually force yourself to picture the bigger picture
yourself to picture the bigger picture
yourself to picture the bigger picture the bigger objective so that every
the bigger objective so that every
the bigger objective so that every failure that comes on the way makes you
failure that comes on the way makes you
failure that comes on the way makes you actually stronger for when you reach it
actually stronger for when you reach it
actually stronger for when you reach it and every time you fail ask yourself
and every time you fail ask yourself
and every time you fail ask yourself these questions what can I learn from
these questions what can I learn from
these questions what can I learn from this what’s the lesson here
this what’s the lesson here
this what’s the lesson here and remember that the people who’ve
and remember that the people who’ve
and remember that the people who’ve reached the most success are the one who
reached the most success are the one who
reached the most success are the one who knows how to fail rephrase and bounce
knows how to fail rephrase and bounce
knows how to fail rephrase and bounce back ready for the next challenge third
back ready for the next challenge third
back ready for the next challenge third skill is how to network we have been
skill is how to network we have been
skill is how to network we have been told that networking is the ability to
told that networking is the ability to
told that networking is the ability to form connections with people in order to
form connections with people in order to
form connections with people in order to use them in the future
use them in the future
use them in the future well great that’s not at all networking
well great that’s not at all networking
well great that’s not at all networking is also about making connections with
is also about making connections with
is also about making connections with people that can challenge you and that
people that can challenge you and that
people that can challenge you and that can inspire you and that can also push
can inspire you and that can also push
can inspire you and that can also push you to the next level
you to the next level
you to the next level and it’s a mutually beneficial
and it’s a mutually beneficial
and it’s a mutually beneficial relationship so whenever possible you
relationship so whenever possible you
relationship so whenever possible you should give first because you’ll realize
should give first because you’ll realize
should give first because you’ll realize that you will get back far more than
that you will get back far more than
that you will get back far more than what you would have expected from the
what you would have expected from the
what you would have expected from the beginning how can you teach yourself as
beginning how can you teach yourself as
beginning how can you teach yourself as well you can go to events that are
well you can go to events that are
well you can go to events that are related or not to your personal interest
related or not to your personal interest
related or not to your personal interest or your professional field and meet
or your professional field and meet
or your professional field and meet people people that are passionate that
people people that are passionate that
people people that are passionate that are inspiring and don’t be afraid to ask
are inspiring and don’t be afraid to ask
are inspiring and don’t be afraid to ask for ideas for inputs for questions
for ideas for inputs for questions
for ideas for inputs for questions they’ll be happy to help and remember
they’ll be happy to help and remember
they’ll be happy to help and remember that being a connector is as important
that being a connector is as important
that being a connector is as important as forging connections for yourself
as forging connections for yourself
as forging connections for yourself fourth
fourth
fourth time management we only know from school
time management we only know from school
time management we only know from school that it starts at eight it finishes at
that it starts at eight it finishes at
that it starts at eight it finishes at five every fifty-five minutes there is a
five every fifty-five minutes there is a
five every fifty-five minutes there is a bill that says that you need to move
bill that says that you need to move
bill that says that you need to move from run room to the other going from
from run room to the other going from
from run room to the other going from the Battle of Napoleon to the
the Battle of Napoleon to the
the Battle of Napoleon to the mitochondria is the power of the sale
mitochondria is the power of the sale
mitochondria is the power of the sale but what about the 65 other percent of
but what about the 65 other percent of
but what about the 65 other percent of your time we don’t know how to manage
your time we don’t know how to manage
your time we don’t know how to manage this and trust me if you end up writing
this and trust me if you end up writing
this and trust me if you end up writing your final paper during these three days
your final paper during these three days
your final paper during these three days of intense blockers you have set before
of intense blockers you have set before
of intense blockers you have set before the deadline it’s because you had a
the deadline it’s because you had a
the deadline it’s because you had a little issue managing the 15 previous
little issue managing the 15 previous
little issue managing the 15 previous weeks how can you teach yourself this
weeks how can you teach yourself this
weeks how can you teach yourself this well every Sunday you can sit down for
well every Sunday you can sit down for
well every Sunday you can sit down for half an hour and set yourself goals for
half an hour and set yourself goals for
half an hour and set yourself goals for the weeks to come
the weeks to come
the weeks to come this week I want to have done twice to
this week I want to have done twice to
this week I want to have done twice to the gym repaired my bicycle called my
the gym repaired my bicycle called my
the gym repaired my bicycle called my grandmother but a gift for my cousin’s
grandmother but a gift for my cousin’s
grandmother but a gift for my cousin’s birthday okay and scheduled them so that
birthday okay and scheduled them so that
birthday okay and scheduled them so that you have to do them as much as you have
you have to do them as much as you have
you have to do them as much as you have to go to your mathematic class and you
to go to your mathematic class and you
to go to your mathematic class and you don’t end up next Sunday with the
don’t end up next Sunday with the
don’t end up next Sunday with the equivalent of 15 hours required to do
equivalent of 15 hours required to do
equivalent of 15 hours required to do your activity and two remaining options
your activity and two remaining options
your activity and two remaining options skipping or postponing and then the
skipping or postponing and then the
skipping or postponing and then the fifth skill and the one I know the most
fifth skill and the one I know the most
fifth skill and the one I know the most about how to avoid a burnout we are told
about how to avoid a burnout we are told
about how to avoid a burnout we are told that we need to work ourselves to the
that we need to work ourselves to the
that we need to work ourselves to the bone don’t fall into this job being able
bone don’t fall into this job being able
bone don’t fall into this job being able to take a step back and to rest is as
to take a step back and to rest is as
to take a step back and to rest is as important than to know when you have to
important than to know when you have to
important than to know when you have to push yourself and to work hard how do
push yourself and to work hard how do
push yourself and to work hard how do you teach yourself is well the best way
you teach yourself is well the best way
you teach yourself is well the best way to relieve some pressure is actually to
to relieve some pressure is actually to
to relieve some pressure is actually to take ten minutes of meditation a day
take ten minutes of meditation a day
take ten minutes of meditation a day because it’s the best way to cut
because it’s the best way to cut
because it’s the best way to cut yourself the information of a load that
yourself the information of a load that
yourself the information of a load that we get also sometimes switch your phone
we get also sometimes switch your phone
we get also sometimes switch your phone off or just leaving behind
off or just leaving behind
off or just leaving behind world one hand I promise so to end what
world one hand I promise so to end what
world one hand I promise so to end what I want you to take away from this is
I want you to take away from this is
I want you to take away from this is that our world is full of opportunity
that our world is full of opportunity
that our world is full of opportunity for ambitious people we will be always
for ambitious people we will be always
for ambitious people we will be always facing situations that we’ve never been
facing situations that we’ve never been
facing situations that we’ve never been confronted to the real skill is now to
confronted to the real skill is now to
confronted to the real skill is now to adapt because the one who can adapt can
adapt because the one who can adapt can
adapt because the one who can adapt can evolve along with the changes so the way
evolve along with the changes so the way
evolve along with the changes so the way might be and clear but just dive in
might be and clear but just dive in
might be and clear but just dive in somewhere and teach yourself on the way
somewhere and teach yourself on the way
somewhere and teach yourself on the way thank you
thank you
thank you [Applause]
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